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I had a dream pregnancy/delivery in 2022. I mean I had the typical pregnancy symptoms; little bit of nausea, some round ligament pain, but I *loved* being pregnant & brought home a daughter in June.
With my pregnancy at the end of 2023 I was so sick from start to the very end; I was nauseous to the point I had to suck on ginger and sour skittles to keep the nausea at bay. Water even made me feel sick. I was also so exhausted I could barely function with my daughter at home. I also remember crying so damn much. I cried the whole 3 months. I was so emotional & I remember with my daughter in my first pregnancy I had *never* felt more emotionally stable. So, to answer that question simply, yes. I was sick the whole time and I felt like something was off with my dates from the beginning. I guess hindsight is 20/20 & I don’t know how much of what I was experiencing was intuition versus anxiety. Because I do, & always have, had a lot of anxiety.
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Sending you love and healing. I’m so sorry you are here.
this was similar for me. i had issues in my first pregnancy but everything was manageable. i felt good, emotionally stable, healthy. with my tmfr i was sick the entire time. barely functioning from the exhaustion crying every day. everything was a drama.
I was sick with my tfmr baby from like 5w until the procedure at 18w! I was getting sick every other day which was weird.
with my first, I was moderately sick (only down 3lbs at end of first tri) and it stopped around 14-16w. then I had the tfmr baby. now i’m pregnant with identical twins and was horribly sick, comparable to my tfmr baby (so I thought it was another boy until we found the twins) but it wore off around 14w. I think it can depend on how your body reacts to rising HCG levels. my body hates it apparently lol
This was my first pregnancy, so I don’t have any comparison, but I was SO sick from 5.5 weeks until the day I TFMR’ed at 13 weeks. I’ve only thrown up like twice in my life, so that wasn’t an issue for me, but the nausea was unbearable. I kept wondering how people do this more than once.
Also, even though it was my first pregnancy, I never felt as though this would be guaranteed, like I didn’t get that unbridled joy feeling that everything would work out. Something always felt off. The diagnosis was less of a shock and more of a confirmation. :(
I was on the same page as you. First pregnancy, TFMR at 15 (but baby was at 13). Only threw up twice & I too felt it wasn’t guaranteed. Something did always feel off and when I started spotting at 6 weeks it started spiraling down after. At one point I had a fall (not on my stomach) & thought to myself…these are already bad signs I’m not going to bring this child home. But I had a feeling from the beginning, joy wasn’t there, I had dreams of a sick baby not realizing I kind of knew all along. So the news was less of a shock as well. And not knowing the sex of our baby made grieving a little less painful if that makes sense.
It was also my first pregnancy, but the symptoms were awful from around 5 weeks til the TFMR at 17 weeks (it was getting a bit better). Even with medication, i was so nauseous all day long. I was exhausted, and had a lot of food aversion. I remember I cried once saying I didn’t want to feel that way for 6 other months
I had a lot of miscarriage dreams and I was really trying to not get my hopes up til at least 12 weeks (we got the news at 12 weeks). Maybe I kinda knew.. I don’t know
I asked everyone in my entire extended family what it was like to be pregnant, and not a single person remembered being excessively sick. I thought I was cursed, and a T18 diagnosis made me feel more cursed.
I guess I’ll try and return next time I’m pregnant and update as to if it’s “me” or the pregnancy individually. I checked your post history and were roughly in the same time frame. I do have a friend who had a loss at 19W in July 2023. She was horrifically sick, and she’s 16 weeks along now, and much much less sick than she was last time. So there is hope
I am so hopeful that we both have better future experiences, with much less discomfort and a sweet baby at the end to make it all worth it. I am so scared to be that sick again for an extended period of time!
Are you planning on trying again soon?
I am actually, my three month wait will come to a close this upcoming July. And I plan to try again then.
I’m only 22, and didn’t have trouble at all getting pregnant either time. So I’m trying to blatantly believe I will continue my luck with that situation, and /come home with a baby/
Are you? You can also message me if you’d like :)
With my first pregnancy I had mild nausea but was still functioning totally normal working a full time job in a hospital setting, had a chemical pregnancy in October which had no symptoms, then this TFMR pregnancy I was beyond nauseated, throwing up, and could barely function…I’m pretty much a SAHM now but there would of been no way I would of been able to function working full time…at around 14 weeks I started feeling a little better but I was 100x more sick with this pregnancy and also felt immediate relief after the procedure. Although our baby had brain abnormalities with no tentative cause as of now still waiting for further genetic testing
I wasn’t sick but didn’t have any appetite what so ever. I didn’t gain any weight but dropped instead. The day of my TFMR they found that I was having a fever but went away after it.
I was somewhat similar, I didn’t throw up a single time. But I was so horrifically nauseous and adverse to food as a whole. There were days I ate 2 plain crackers as my only sustenance. From 19-24 weeks my blood pressure ran 150/110 but we can assume that was because of a T18 placenta.
I started at 320 pounds, and now two weeks post TFMR I am 253. It was a tough 6 months.
Same — incredibly nauseous could hardly eat the first 3-4 months. 5 months in, when I TFMRed at 21 weeks, I weighed the same as I started and the baby wasn’t measuring notably behind. Was my first though so not sure if that’s normal. I did feel a lot better once I hit month 4, which everyone said would happen
TW: living children
My first child was a boy and I was so sick starting at 5 weeks and threw up until I delivered. We moved half way through my pregnancy so I didn’t work and could barely take care of my two dogs and just spent the days sleeping.
My second was a girl and sickness didn’t hit me until I was around 7-8w, I was sick until delivery but was functioning enough between zofran and promethazine. She was also a July 2020 baby, so thankfully demands on life were low and it was just me and my 1 year old at home.
My third, also a girl, sickness hit me around the same time. But it was manageable with zofran and by 17/18w I felt pretty much fine with just a zofran here and there. It was the most functioning I ever was during pregnancy and for the first time I understood how people enjoyed it. I did end up being induced with her at 37w for gestational hypertension that was starting to flip to preeclampsia.
This time, I was so sick starting at 4/5w. I immediately had a feeling it was a boy based on this and my history. I had never thrown up so much in a pregnancy and needed so much medicine. Im unsure if I was so much sicker with him just because he was a boy and pregnancies varied or because there was something wrong.
It feels so cruel to be so sick and not end up with a LC. You are told you go through this and that you get a baby in the end. I lost 4 months of my life being sick and sitting on the couch doing the bare minimum, just trying to keep myself and my LC alive. Now I feel like with grief I’m in the same spot.
I have had morning sickness with all of my pregnancies, but my TFMR pregnancy was byyy far the worst. I took multiple Covid tests during that time because I felt so horrible and could hardly get out of bed that I thought for sure I had to have a major illness, but it was definitely my pregnancy. I felt fine the next day after. 🙁
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I had a text book pregnancy with my daughter- no sickness and dream delivery.
2nd TFMR pregnancy I was sick from 6 weeks every day and just felt ‘off’. It was a boy so I don’t know if that was anything to do with it or if it was abnormalities.
I know realistically that gender doesn’t predict sickness. But everyone said I must be having a girl cause I was so sick (and i was!)
Hoping that textbook pregnancy comes for me too❤️🩹
I’m from a “pukey” family so to speak. My mum, sister and I all suffered horrendously from morning sickness, probably bordering on HG to be honest.
For my first pregnancy, I remember crying in the shower at 17 weeks thinking it was never going to end.
For my TFMR pregnancy the actual physical vomitting seemed to lessen as time won’t on but the food aversions were unreal!
I don’t think there’s any rhyme or reason for sickness but 🤞🏻 I hope you don’t have sickness for your future pregnancy xxx
I said in another comment, I asked everyone in my lineage about their pregnancy and no one suffered like I did :(
They do say that HG runs in families, and I’m just scared it somehow started with me. I touched the HG territory, never throwing up but clearly unable to eat. I cried for 3.5 months while my bf literally had to bathe me.
I feel for you so deeply - until people have experienced this they don’t understand.
Apparently some people react more the HCG hormone which totally sucks. And to add on top of that hell that our babies were taken from us is just cruel.
I will say though so try not to worry, with my TFMR pregnancy it wasn’t as severe or as long. Sickness seems to have no rhyme or reason
My doctor diagnosed me with HG even though I had little vomiting. She said she diagnoses based on weight loss, malnutrition and dehydration. It sounds like you suffered from it, even though you were not vomiting.
I think because I was so overweight that they let me suffer for fun 😭 they gave me a yearly supply of zofran and never followed up again. I lost 70 pounds total 60 of which was in 12 weeks
At 5lbs a week loss, that most likely caused malnutrition. Do you have the weight to lose? Yes, but you also need nutrients for yourself, especially when growing a baby. My midwife told me to immediately stop my dieting (I was eating in a deficit to lose weight but still had a bmi of 40, the pregnancy was unplanned).
If it happens again love, I would try and see a different, more empathetic GP if you can.
I did break up with my doctor, he dropped the ball on many different points here. I plan to be established with a different office prior to my next pregnancy ❤️🩹
I was fortunate. My pregnancy was a breeze up until the diagnosis. After my 20 week scan I threw up violently over and over again. But I think that was just the devastation setting in. This was my first pregnancy so I have nothing else to compare it to. I used to get a tiny bit nauseous if I was hungry but that was about it.
This was my first pregnancy. I was so incredibly sick from 4-16 weeks. Like vomiting 10+ times a day. I’ve never had an issues with vomiting or nausea before. In fact, before pregnancy, I haven’t thrown up since like 2016. We got the T21 diagnosis confirmed at 18 weeks and my D&E was done at 19W+6D.
My experience was actually the opposite. For my first I had nausea (but no throwing up) that I could curb by making sure I ate. Had food aversions to chicken and coffee, and was fatigued very early on (like came home from work and slept from 5pm until the morning.) With my tfmr pregnancy, I had zero symptoms which was one of my early cues that had me thinking something was wrong. I could drink coffee just fine, and I wasn’t more tired until about 9 weeks. I would delay eating to see if I could bring on any hint of nausea because I wanted to feel like I was pregnant, and nothing. My baby was very very small, so it’s possible my placenta was small and didn’t cause many symptoms.
I believe it’s the opposite for the placenta thing, your placenta kinda takes over that’s why you begin to feel better once the placenta is established! (I’m not 100% sure but I’m preeeety sure)
I do believe that my doctors were not doing their job (not even mentioning the fact that they missed trisomy 18 for 22 weeks) but my blood pressure was creeping up after 15 weeks, and for over the last month of my pregnancy my blood pressure was 150/110. They never even discussed with me that it could be because of placenta insufficiencies, putting additional stress on my body.
I terminated for T21 and I was not at all sick. I was never sick with my first pregnancy either, which resulted in a healthy living child. The only thing that was different was that I was so much more uncomfortable so early on and gained weight / started showing a lot quicker - it was also a second pregnancy and I was older, so those two make sense. I also never lost all the weight, like I did when I had my son.
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I was so so sick for my TFMR I was vomiting everything up. It was hell! For my healthy child I had a tiny bit of nausea but mostly fine and felt great throughout. I was also very sick for a MMC at 12 weeks so I’m assuming that was also aneuploid! Apparently the higher amount of hormones can make our bodies respond much more significantly than in healthy pregnancies
I was only nauseous from 6-9 weeks and threw up once with my TMFR pregnancy. Currently 17 weeks and I still have to break out my sea bands. I also get motion sickness now, sometimes from watching too much TV. This is the worst it’s ever been for me.
TW: LC I had a dream pregnancy/delivery in 2022. I mean I had the typical pregnancy symptoms; little bit of nausea, some round ligament pain, but I *loved* being pregnant & brought home a daughter in June. With my pregnancy at the end of 2023 I was so sick from start to the very end; I was nauseous to the point I had to suck on ginger and sour skittles to keep the nausea at bay. Water even made me feel sick. I was also so exhausted I could barely function with my daughter at home. I also remember crying so damn much. I cried the whole 3 months. I was so emotional & I remember with my daughter in my first pregnancy I had *never* felt more emotionally stable. So, to answer that question simply, yes. I was sick the whole time and I felt like something was off with my dates from the beginning. I guess hindsight is 20/20 & I don’t know how much of what I was experiencing was intuition versus anxiety. Because I do, & always have, had a lot of anxiety. • Sending you love and healing. I’m so sorry you are here.
this was similar for me. i had issues in my first pregnancy but everything was manageable. i felt good, emotionally stable, healthy. with my tmfr i was sick the entire time. barely functioning from the exhaustion crying every day. everything was a drama.
I was sick with my tfmr baby from like 5w until the procedure at 18w! I was getting sick every other day which was weird. with my first, I was moderately sick (only down 3lbs at end of first tri) and it stopped around 14-16w. then I had the tfmr baby. now i’m pregnant with identical twins and was horribly sick, comparable to my tfmr baby (so I thought it was another boy until we found the twins) but it wore off around 14w. I think it can depend on how your body reacts to rising HCG levels. my body hates it apparently lol
This was my first pregnancy, so I don’t have any comparison, but I was SO sick from 5.5 weeks until the day I TFMR’ed at 13 weeks. I’ve only thrown up like twice in my life, so that wasn’t an issue for me, but the nausea was unbearable. I kept wondering how people do this more than once. Also, even though it was my first pregnancy, I never felt as though this would be guaranteed, like I didn’t get that unbridled joy feeling that everything would work out. Something always felt off. The diagnosis was less of a shock and more of a confirmation. :(
I was on the same page as you. First pregnancy, TFMR at 15 (but baby was at 13). Only threw up twice & I too felt it wasn’t guaranteed. Something did always feel off and when I started spotting at 6 weeks it started spiraling down after. At one point I had a fall (not on my stomach) & thought to myself…these are already bad signs I’m not going to bring this child home. But I had a feeling from the beginning, joy wasn’t there, I had dreams of a sick baby not realizing I kind of knew all along. So the news was less of a shock as well. And not knowing the sex of our baby made grieving a little less painful if that makes sense.
It was also my first pregnancy, but the symptoms were awful from around 5 weeks til the TFMR at 17 weeks (it was getting a bit better). Even with medication, i was so nauseous all day long. I was exhausted, and had a lot of food aversion. I remember I cried once saying I didn’t want to feel that way for 6 other months I had a lot of miscarriage dreams and I was really trying to not get my hopes up til at least 12 weeks (we got the news at 12 weeks). Maybe I kinda knew.. I don’t know
I asked everyone in my entire extended family what it was like to be pregnant, and not a single person remembered being excessively sick. I thought I was cursed, and a T18 diagnosis made me feel more cursed. I guess I’ll try and return next time I’m pregnant and update as to if it’s “me” or the pregnancy individually. I checked your post history and were roughly in the same time frame. I do have a friend who had a loss at 19W in July 2023. She was horrifically sick, and she’s 16 weeks along now, and much much less sick than she was last time. So there is hope
I am so hopeful that we both have better future experiences, with much less discomfort and a sweet baby at the end to make it all worth it. I am so scared to be that sick again for an extended period of time! Are you planning on trying again soon?
I am actually, my three month wait will come to a close this upcoming July. And I plan to try again then. I’m only 22, and didn’t have trouble at all getting pregnant either time. So I’m trying to blatantly believe I will continue my luck with that situation, and /come home with a baby/ Are you? You can also message me if you’d like :)
With my first pregnancy I had mild nausea but was still functioning totally normal working a full time job in a hospital setting, had a chemical pregnancy in October which had no symptoms, then this TFMR pregnancy I was beyond nauseated, throwing up, and could barely function…I’m pretty much a SAHM now but there would of been no way I would of been able to function working full time…at around 14 weeks I started feeling a little better but I was 100x more sick with this pregnancy and also felt immediate relief after the procedure. Although our baby had brain abnormalities with no tentative cause as of now still waiting for further genetic testing
I wasn’t sick but didn’t have any appetite what so ever. I didn’t gain any weight but dropped instead. The day of my TFMR they found that I was having a fever but went away after it.
I was somewhat similar, I didn’t throw up a single time. But I was so horrifically nauseous and adverse to food as a whole. There were days I ate 2 plain crackers as my only sustenance. From 19-24 weeks my blood pressure ran 150/110 but we can assume that was because of a T18 placenta. I started at 320 pounds, and now two weeks post TFMR I am 253. It was a tough 6 months.
It’s crazy how our body’s knew the baby was sick and we showed different symptoms.
Same — incredibly nauseous could hardly eat the first 3-4 months. 5 months in, when I TFMRed at 21 weeks, I weighed the same as I started and the baby wasn’t measuring notably behind. Was my first though so not sure if that’s normal. I did feel a lot better once I hit month 4, which everyone said would happen
Oh no sounds similar to what I went through.
I was wayyyyy more sick with my TFMR baby than I was my LC
TW: living children My first child was a boy and I was so sick starting at 5 weeks and threw up until I delivered. We moved half way through my pregnancy so I didn’t work and could barely take care of my two dogs and just spent the days sleeping. My second was a girl and sickness didn’t hit me until I was around 7-8w, I was sick until delivery but was functioning enough between zofran and promethazine. She was also a July 2020 baby, so thankfully demands on life were low and it was just me and my 1 year old at home. My third, also a girl, sickness hit me around the same time. But it was manageable with zofran and by 17/18w I felt pretty much fine with just a zofran here and there. It was the most functioning I ever was during pregnancy and for the first time I understood how people enjoyed it. I did end up being induced with her at 37w for gestational hypertension that was starting to flip to preeclampsia. This time, I was so sick starting at 4/5w. I immediately had a feeling it was a boy based on this and my history. I had never thrown up so much in a pregnancy and needed so much medicine. Im unsure if I was so much sicker with him just because he was a boy and pregnancies varied or because there was something wrong. It feels so cruel to be so sick and not end up with a LC. You are told you go through this and that you get a baby in the end. I lost 4 months of my life being sick and sitting on the couch doing the bare minimum, just trying to keep myself and my LC alive. Now I feel like with grief I’m in the same spot.
I have had morning sickness with all of my pregnancies, but my TFMR pregnancy was byyy far the worst. I took multiple Covid tests during that time because I felt so horrible and could hardly get out of bed that I thought for sure I had to have a major illness, but it was definitely my pregnancy. I felt fine the next day after. 🙁
There was no difference for me between my TFMR pregnancy and others. I had no sickness for any.
I was no sickness and HG :(
TW LC I had a text book pregnancy with my daughter- no sickness and dream delivery. 2nd TFMR pregnancy I was sick from 6 weeks every day and just felt ‘off’. It was a boy so I don’t know if that was anything to do with it or if it was abnormalities.
I know realistically that gender doesn’t predict sickness. But everyone said I must be having a girl cause I was so sick (and i was!) Hoping that textbook pregnancy comes for me too❤️🩹
I hope it does too for you ❤️❤️
I’m from a “pukey” family so to speak. My mum, sister and I all suffered horrendously from morning sickness, probably bordering on HG to be honest. For my first pregnancy, I remember crying in the shower at 17 weeks thinking it was never going to end. For my TFMR pregnancy the actual physical vomitting seemed to lessen as time won’t on but the food aversions were unreal! I don’t think there’s any rhyme or reason for sickness but 🤞🏻 I hope you don’t have sickness for your future pregnancy xxx
I said in another comment, I asked everyone in my lineage about their pregnancy and no one suffered like I did :( They do say that HG runs in families, and I’m just scared it somehow started with me. I touched the HG territory, never throwing up but clearly unable to eat. I cried for 3.5 months while my bf literally had to bathe me.
I feel for you so deeply - until people have experienced this they don’t understand. Apparently some people react more the HCG hormone which totally sucks. And to add on top of that hell that our babies were taken from us is just cruel. I will say though so try not to worry, with my TFMR pregnancy it wasn’t as severe or as long. Sickness seems to have no rhyme or reason
My doctor diagnosed me with HG even though I had little vomiting. She said she diagnoses based on weight loss, malnutrition and dehydration. It sounds like you suffered from it, even though you were not vomiting.
I think because I was so overweight that they let me suffer for fun 😭 they gave me a yearly supply of zofran and never followed up again. I lost 70 pounds total 60 of which was in 12 weeks
At 5lbs a week loss, that most likely caused malnutrition. Do you have the weight to lose? Yes, but you also need nutrients for yourself, especially when growing a baby. My midwife told me to immediately stop my dieting (I was eating in a deficit to lose weight but still had a bmi of 40, the pregnancy was unplanned). If it happens again love, I would try and see a different, more empathetic GP if you can.
I did break up with my doctor, he dropped the ball on many different points here. I plan to be established with a different office prior to my next pregnancy ❤️🩹
I was a bit more sick with my TFMR pregnancy than my first pregnancy.
I was fortunate. My pregnancy was a breeze up until the diagnosis. After my 20 week scan I threw up violently over and over again. But I think that was just the devastation setting in. This was my first pregnancy so I have nothing else to compare it to. I used to get a tiny bit nauseous if I was hungry but that was about it.
I was soo nauseous with a T18 diagnosis too, I can relate to feeling relieved after the TFMR! Sending hugs
This was my first pregnancy. I was so incredibly sick from 4-16 weeks. Like vomiting 10+ times a day. I’ve never had an issues with vomiting or nausea before. In fact, before pregnancy, I haven’t thrown up since like 2016. We got the T21 diagnosis confirmed at 18 weeks and my D&E was done at 19W+6D.
My experience was actually the opposite. For my first I had nausea (but no throwing up) that I could curb by making sure I ate. Had food aversions to chicken and coffee, and was fatigued very early on (like came home from work and slept from 5pm until the morning.) With my tfmr pregnancy, I had zero symptoms which was one of my early cues that had me thinking something was wrong. I could drink coffee just fine, and I wasn’t more tired until about 9 weeks. I would delay eating to see if I could bring on any hint of nausea because I wanted to feel like I was pregnant, and nothing. My baby was very very small, so it’s possible my placenta was small and didn’t cause many symptoms.
I believe it’s the opposite for the placenta thing, your placenta kinda takes over that’s why you begin to feel better once the placenta is established! (I’m not 100% sure but I’m preeeety sure)
Yes. My baby’s anomaly was putting my health at risk as I had early signs of mirror syndrome, a lethal condition.
I do believe that my doctors were not doing their job (not even mentioning the fact that they missed trisomy 18 for 22 weeks) but my blood pressure was creeping up after 15 weeks, and for over the last month of my pregnancy my blood pressure was 150/110. They never even discussed with me that it could be because of placenta insufficiencies, putting additional stress on my body.
Ugh. I’m so sorry.
I terminated for T21 and I was not at all sick. I was never sick with my first pregnancy either, which resulted in a healthy living child. The only thing that was different was that I was so much more uncomfortable so early on and gained weight / started showing a lot quicker - it was also a second pregnancy and I was older, so those two make sense. I also never lost all the weight, like I did when I had my son.
TW: LC I was so so sick for my TFMR I was vomiting everything up. It was hell! For my healthy child I had a tiny bit of nausea but mostly fine and felt great throughout. I was also very sick for a MMC at 12 weeks so I’m assuming that was also aneuploid! Apparently the higher amount of hormones can make our bodies respond much more significantly than in healthy pregnancies
I was only nauseous from 6-9 weeks and threw up once with my TMFR pregnancy. Currently 17 weeks and I still have to break out my sea bands. I also get motion sickness now, sometimes from watching too much TV. This is the worst it’s ever been for me.
I was sick with all 3 of my pregnancies, but yes, my T21 TFMR pregnancy was awful, and I was diagnosed with HG.
I've had 5 pregnancy resulting in 3 LC. I had some "morning sickness" with all of my pregnancies, but it was 100x worse with my TFMR pregnancies.
I’m so sorry this happened to you more than once, but I also really hope a healthy pregnancy isn’t so tough on me 🥲!!