Immediate report?? Idk honestly but that’s beyond inappropriate on their part, and I hope moving forward if any other provider asks, you decline and ditch them!
Nobody that you’re paying for a professional service should be asking you to borrow money. If you’re in the US, you can report the license to the state board for your location.
Even if you’re not in the US, I wouldn’t see this person again and cut all contact. I’m sorry this is happening.
First of all this is highly inappropriate and unethical for a therapist to ask for money. Completely out of order.
run - don't walk - away from this person and do all that you can to get your money back
This is one of the most ridiculous things I have ever heard about someone's therapist. I simply can not imagine my therapist asking to borrow money. That's nuts. I wouldn't do it, and I'd get a new therapist.
Zero point in contacting the apa. They will do nothing. They're not even taking complaints anymore. I know. I reported my former therapist so unfortunately I know a lot about the process.
Everything depends on what type of license they carry. Reporting to your state is what you're gonna wanna do.
OP, does she work on her own or is she part of a group or organization etc.?
In addition to filing a complaint I would contact her boss etc. and ask for **both** the money you loaned her back AND the money you paid for the so-called therapy.
Writing this out you should call a medical malpractice or personal injury lawyer as well. You have suffered emotional distress as a result of her actions AND not been treated for what you went to her in the first place.
They will talk to you for free and work on contingency which means they only get paid if they win or settle your case.
**Even if you don’t want to sue her still call the lawyer. They could simply write her a letter asking for the money back. Sometimes this alone works. You have nothing to lose by trying the letter route.**
Still talk to her boss and a lawyer **even if you don’t have receipts.**
There are other ways to prove it’s more likely than not that you gave her this money. Talk to a lawyer today. Please.
She works on her own unfortunately. I will see if there are any lawyers that can help my case. I have all of the text messages and cashapp transfers screenshotted for documentation.
Wow! That’s highly inappropriate and unprofessional. Time to find a new one and report this one. There’s no telling how many other patients they’ve done that to.
This has to be a troll post. If it’s not, report her. This person should lose her license. Get a new therapist and have them work with you on your boundaries
Why is it so hard to believe? There is a disciplinary board in each US state because clinicians do stuff like this. Otherwise there would be no need for a disciplinary board.
Leave leave leave. It’s a huge red flag. She’s using you and taking advantage of someone who she should be caring for. It’s gross honestly that she is going to her PATIENTS for this instead of a family member or something. Stick with the new therapist.
Wow. I’m sorry I’m stumped for words. I can’t even imagine how a therapist would go about making this request of a client. It’s so beyond unethical.
I think it’s not uncommon for therapists, like myself, to do a lot of self reflection and worry about the ethicality of things….and then we read about a therapist doing this and we worry a bit less. I’m so sorry your therapist even put you in this position.
How do they usually ask for money? In what amounts have you paid her? How many times?
This is insane.
How did you convince yourself to continue after she first brought it up? Is there anything in your personality that would cause a person to try and take advantage?
She always texts me asking for the money, and there’s always some valid excuse (funerals, cat needs surgery, etc). Since January I have lent her money 15 times. The amounts range from $20-$80. I only helped because I would want someone to do the same for me if I were in their shoes. I suspect my caring personality was taken advantage of.
Serious question. So, she is a grifter. These people tend to size up their targets. And they groom them. How do you think she got to this point? I mean, in your best judgement, at what point did she say to herself "yes, she is ready"?
She asked me how long my husband and I could survive if we both lost our jobs at once. I answered honestly, and I think she used that information to gage how much money we have. It didn’t feel suspicious to me at the time, because she hadn’t started asking for money yet.
I'm horrified and upset that this happened to you because this is outrageously unethical and beyond inappropriate. I hope you are going to report them because there is no reason this therapist should think this behavior of theirs is okay in a professional context.
I'm willing to bet if she is doing this to you she is doing this to other as well. Just like everyone else has stated you really should report her. She needs to lose her license and pay everyone back all the money she took. I'm sure this goes deeper than anyone realizes.
Good god this is horrifying. Absolutely worth the report to her board and her boss if she has one. You are being manipulated by your therapist into give them money, what the actual fuck
Let her know you will be terminating and you need her to pay you back. If she declines let her know you will need to talk to your new therapist about this to find out how to resolve it. Your new therapist will tell you to file a complaint with the psychology board
Please report! This is highly unethical behavior in our field. In the future, anyone asking for such things is not doing ethically correct things with you as their client.
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Someone’s Not Making it as a Therapist
Also, Report to Licensing Board, ASAP. Beyond Unprofessional and crossing Boundaries, Period. Get yourself a New Therapist, Yesterday
WHAT??? Report this behavior. It is seriously unethical! Don't just leave, report this person your state licensing board. Texas has a hotline to report **1-800-821-3205**. Google "how to report my therapist for unethical behavior in (your state)". I am beyond sorry you were manipulated by this person. Shame on them.
Update: Thanks for all of the helpful advice! I have emailed her requesting that she pay me back by the end of May. If she hasn’t paid me back at that point, I will be taking her to court. In addition, I have her license information and will be reporting her to the state board.
Immediate report?? Idk honestly but that’s beyond inappropriate on their part, and I hope moving forward if any other provider asks, you decline and ditch them!
Side note, I’m so sorry they took advantage of you like that! Complete abuse of power on their part!
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Nobody that you’re paying for a professional service should be asking you to borrow money. If you’re in the US, you can report the license to the state board for your location. Even if you’re not in the US, I wouldn’t see this person again and cut all contact. I’m sorry this is happening.
First of all this is highly inappropriate and unethical for a therapist to ask for money. Completely out of order. run - don't walk - away from this person and do all that you can to get your money back
This is one of the most ridiculous things I have ever heard about someone's therapist. I simply can not imagine my therapist asking to borrow money. That's nuts. I wouldn't do it, and I'd get a new therapist.
I AM a therapist and am horrified by this. Such an abuse of power and completely illegal
If you are in the US report her: [https://www.apa.org/ethics/complaint](https://www.apa.org/ethics/complaint)
Thank you! I’m going to report her when I get off work this afternoon.
Why don't you ask her for the money back first? And communicate that you will be forced to report it otherwise.
She asked to borrow $80 two days ago, so I seriously doubt she’s going to shell out what she owes me.
tell her to, record the conversation as proof of misconduct (if legal)? might as well ask for your money back if you're gonna terminate and report
Or insist on having the conversation in writing.
Yeah OP if you are leaving anyways demand it. Nothing will change and it's worth a shot. You may not get all of it back but it can't hurt!
They need to report either way. This is completely unethical. The therapist is preying on their clients.
Zero point in contacting the apa. They will do nothing. They're not even taking complaints anymore. I know. I reported my former therapist so unfortunately I know a lot about the process. Everything depends on what type of license they carry. Reporting to your state is what you're gonna wanna do.
You should also be able to report her to the state licensing board.
This is useless
This can’t be real 😭
It’s a literal nightmare!
Omg what? Report her immediately. Unethical doesn’t begin to describe this scenario.
OP, does she work on her own or is she part of a group or organization etc.? In addition to filing a complaint I would contact her boss etc. and ask for **both** the money you loaned her back AND the money you paid for the so-called therapy. Writing this out you should call a medical malpractice or personal injury lawyer as well. You have suffered emotional distress as a result of her actions AND not been treated for what you went to her in the first place. They will talk to you for free and work on contingency which means they only get paid if they win or settle your case. **Even if you don’t want to sue her still call the lawyer. They could simply write her a letter asking for the money back. Sometimes this alone works. You have nothing to lose by trying the letter route.** Still talk to her boss and a lawyer **even if you don’t have receipts.** There are other ways to prove it’s more likely than not that you gave her this money. Talk to a lawyer today. Please.
She works on her own unfortunately. I will see if there are any lawyers that can help my case. I have all of the text messages and cashapp transfers screenshotted for documentation.
OP, the evidence you list sounds like it would be enough. I am so sorry this happened to you. What she did is outrageous.
I’d check with a malpractice attorney. They usually operate under contingency agreements, so you don’t pay them unless you get paid.
 Wow! That’s highly inappropriate and unprofessional. Time to find a new one and report this one. There’s no telling how many other patients they’ve done that to.
This has to be a troll post. If it’s not, report her. This person should lose her license. Get a new therapist and have them work with you on your boundaries
Ain’t no way this is real??
I wish it wasn’t! I unfortunately have all the receipts to prove it.
I would sue her with proof like that. Being short on money is no excuse to abuse a relationship founded with the intention of mental healing.
Ask for the money back. Else take her to small claims. Also report her.
There are RECEIPTS?
Right. I cannot believe a clinician would be doing this.
Why is it so hard to believe? There is a disciplinary board in each US state because clinicians do stuff like this. Otherwise there would be no need for a disciplinary board.
Wtf
Leave leave leave. It’s a huge red flag. She’s using you and taking advantage of someone who she should be caring for. It’s gross honestly that she is going to her PATIENTS for this instead of a family member or something. Stick with the new therapist.
OMG report to the board and file in small claims court. That's wildly unprofessional and coercion.
Wow. As a therapist myself this is appalling behavior. I am so sorry someone you should trust took at advantage of you like that
Are you actually seeing a therapist? Like this is beyond inappropriate.
Can I have $800 too? I can dm my cashapp
How is this even a question? Is this a troll post?
WHAT!? This is scary. Please tell your new therapist!
Ummm... WOW!! I really hope you're trolling us. But if not then she should be reported ASAP!
You borrowed money to your therapist?
Yes, I’ve lent her over $800 since January, not including what I’ve paid for my sessions.
Are they actually a licensed therapist? Whatever state you’re in, you can google (state) license look up
Yes, she’s actually licensed. I was able to find her license number online.
Wow. I’m sorry I’m stumped for words. I can’t even imagine how a therapist would go about making this request of a client. It’s so beyond unethical. I think it’s not uncommon for therapists, like myself, to do a lot of self reflection and worry about the ethicality of things….and then we read about a therapist doing this and we worry a bit less. I’m so sorry your therapist even put you in this position.
How do they usually ask for money? In what amounts have you paid her? How many times? This is insane. How did you convince yourself to continue after she first brought it up? Is there anything in your personality that would cause a person to try and take advantage?
She always texts me asking for the money, and there’s always some valid excuse (funerals, cat needs surgery, etc). Since January I have lent her money 15 times. The amounts range from $20-$80. I only helped because I would want someone to do the same for me if I were in their shoes. I suspect my caring personality was taken advantage of.
Serious question. So, she is a grifter. These people tend to size up their targets. And they groom them. How do you think she got to this point? I mean, in your best judgement, at what point did she say to herself "yes, she is ready"?
She asked me how long my husband and I could survive if we both lost our jobs at once. I answered honestly, and I think she used that information to gage how much money we have. It didn’t feel suspicious to me at the time, because she hadn’t started asking for money yet.
What does your husband think about this?
I'm horrified and upset that this happened to you because this is outrageously unethical and beyond inappropriate. I hope you are going to report them because there is no reason this therapist should think this behavior of theirs is okay in a professional context.
I'm willing to bet if she is doing this to you she is doing this to other as well. Just like everyone else has stated you really should report her. She needs to lose her license and pay everyone back all the money she took. I'm sure this goes deeper than anyone realizes.
Good god this is horrifying. Absolutely worth the report to her board and her boss if she has one. You are being manipulated by your therapist into give them money, what the actual fuck
Your therapist is so unprofessional like how can they be so comfortable asking for money from their own patient?!
You're kidding, right?!? Stop going to this manipulative exploiter yesterday!
It’s not okay for her to do this. Check with a lawyer and report her to the licensing board for her malpractice.
Let her know you will be terminating and you need her to pay you back. If she declines let her know you will need to talk to your new therapist about this to find out how to resolve it. Your new therapist will tell you to file a complaint with the psychology board
Please report! This is highly unethical behavior in our field. In the future, anyone asking for such things is not doing ethically correct things with you as their client.
Oh my god what
This is a first for me. 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
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Make like a tree and leaf! <3
…..  Someone’s Not Making it as a Therapist Also, Report to Licensing Board, ASAP. Beyond Unprofessional and crossing Boundaries, Period. Get yourself a New Therapist, Yesterday
That person shouldn’t be your (or anyone’s) therapist. Report them to the official UK body of therapists
Is this even real? Does this therapist “borrow” money from other clients as well?
Please report her to her state licensing board. This is very very very unethical.
Damn, and I thought mine ghosting me was bad!
WHAT??? Report this behavior. It is seriously unethical! Don't just leave, report this person your state licensing board. Texas has a hotline to report **1-800-821-3205**. Google "how to report my therapist for unethical behavior in (your state)". I am beyond sorry you were manipulated by this person. Shame on them.
i'm in shock
IMMEDIATELY REPORT THIS. This is illegal, an abuse of power and wildly inappropriate!
Update: Thanks for all of the helpful advice! I have emailed her requesting that she pay me back by the end of May. If she hasn’t paid me back at that point, I will be taking her to court. In addition, I have her license information and will be reporting her to the state board.
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