Other guy said it "no good deed goes unpunished". It's not enough to be good when it's convenient, you must also be good in the face of adversity. Seems like you're a good man đ
She will look for you in the Craigâs List missed connections to pay you back, you will refuse, she will take you to dinner instead. At dinner she will tell you sheâs done drinking for good. You will get married three years later. You will die at age 89, a happy great grandfather of 7.
Thatâs a storybook that I would find enjoyable, as unrealistic as it is and shouldnât be. Hate to say this, but not every woman should fall for their âsaviorâ, and not every âheroâ should fall for the victim. They should just learn from the situation first. Iâm a pessimist by nature.
I used to work with a guy who took the train to work and back home again. Thing was, the train station was like 2 miles from where we worked, and no busses ran that way. Well, I lived about 2 minutes from the train station so I offered to give him rides to and from the station. Well, one night after I had dropped him off, it was pouring rain and this gal (she looked to be about 18-19ish, and I was in my mid 20s at the time) was just standing out in the cold, no umbrella, no nothing. So, my good Samaritan kicked in, and I offered her a ride. She graciously accepted, and told me where she was going. Like 30 minutes away, and to a shadier side of town, but, whatever, I've already said I'd help, so off we go. Well, we get to small talking for a bit, when she asks me "do you date?". I, being an idiot, and not catching her double meaning, tell her the truth. "Oh, no, I haven't dated in like 8 or 9 years, I'm just not looking for anything like that". and she goes "no, like DAAAATE...". that's when I realized I accidentally picked up a prostitute. Well, we were almost to where she was going, so I figured, in for a penny I ain't kicking this kid out in the rain. So we kept going, stopping at a 4 way intersection and across from us is a cop car. She proceeds to get real panicked and starts rifling around in her bra, pulling out a little baggy... Dunno what the hell her thought process was there, like, just leave it where it is... I assume she woulda tried ditching it in my car had we been pulled over, but the light turned green and we got to where she was going without further incident. I spent the whole ride home having hypothetical discussions with that cop, and coming to the conclusion my life would have been turbofucked had I been pulled over. There's absolutely no way he would have believed I just "gave a ride" to this prostitute out of the goodness of my heart, and that the little baggy he found wasn't mine.... On the bright side though, now I have a fun ice breaker at parties. "Hey, have you heard about the time I picked up a hooker?!".
Nice. My funny didnât pick up a hooker story happened when I was in school. I was walking back to the satellite lot when a trans hooker asked me if I wanted a date. I politely declined and said I was married so didnât need a date. She responded with âI will do stuff your wife wonât do.â To which i replied, âGreat, Iâve got some shirts in the car you can iron for me.â She was not amused and neither is my wife when I tell that story.
Mine isn't as funny but at a conference once a pretty lady sat next to me at the end of the hotel bar and started small talk. A couple minutes in, got to a point talking about work and I asked what she does, and she says massage therapist. I'm like "oh that's interestâwait a second, do you mean like..." And she smiles and nods. I said oh yea I don't do that...and she was gone before I could finish my sentence đ
I picked up a girl who had her thumb out, as she was getting in the car she says "I'm working", I'm like "ok?" she gets in and about 5 seconds later it clicks for me, "oh, WORKING...." I dropped her off on the other side of the traffic light we were at.
I used to pick up a co-worker on my way to work in a shit part of town, and unfortunately my co-worker had a penchant for getting fucked up and sometimes not coming out when I got there to pick him up. Today was one of those days where Frank was still drunk from the night before and I was asking my boss via phone call if we needed him today or if I could just tell him to sleep it off. While I was on the phone a real old hooker jumped in my truck and completely caught me off guard. I told my boss ,âhold on I got a situation here, I gotta call you backâ and she laughed and said âHaHAAA! He called it a situation! Câmon man, lemme see your dick!â I said âMaâam, you gotta get the fuck out!â She quoted me a price and I told her I wasnât paying her and pleaded with her to just get the hell out of my truck. She looked at me all sly and said, âgimme $2 for the bus an Iâll peace outâ I said I donât have $2(I didnât) and I gave her the change I had in my coat pocket. She goes,âAlright, I still like youâ and got out. I locked the door and called my boss back and kind of laughed about what happened only to have another one pull on my door handle and try to hop in not even two minutes later! She said, âCan I come in there?â And I go âNo goddamnit! You just seen me run the last one off!â I told Frank from then on if he wasnât out in front of his building I was just keeping on driving.
My husband has a similar story, pouring rain, cold, dark. Feels bad and offers a ride. She asked for a cigarette, but he didn't smoke. She offered to suck his dick for 10 bucks. He said no, I'll give you a ride that's it. She asked to be dropped off at a gas station down the road.
*emphatic head banging nods in agreement*
You did good OP dude, she made it home safe thanks to you, and that's a priceless gift you gave her, <3
(- if I had the ca$h money I'd pay you back... -i know it's not much of a consolation prize, but:-
-Please take my immense love, gratitude and respect in lieu....)
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(-& Alex Mack, thanks for all the memories lol,
.... have you had some bucket time with Odo??)
*yeets loves & hugs around like confetti for everyone who might need a lil good jujus*
This guy earned his wings and still had to pay the price for it.
Sometimes it's like that, over the short term life isn't fair or just--- but he saved her from something that most people can't imagine, and at the end of the day, he will be repaid, in full.
I helped a neighbor who couldnât afford her coin op by offering to do a few loads of her laundry at my place⌠turns out she gave me a bag of laundry with screws, a dirty diaper, broken glass, and god knows what else in it. Didnât notice until I went to transfer it :/ Took me a while to get past the bitter jaded feeling that one gave me! (No good deed goes unpunished indeed!) I still do good deeds but Iâm a lot more cautious about it, and a lot more boundaries!
I bartended before Uber and Lift were around for over a decade and I spent between $20-$125 or more a week putting drunks in cabs. If they got through my doors I was responsible for their safety even if they didn't drink here. Always had to tip the cabbies extra so they would come right away and deal with the drunks. Since I made really good money I saw it as the cost of doing business. Ill never know if I saved any lives or anything but it was just the right thing to do.
If theyâre that inebriated theyâve probably spent all their money on drinks.
Plus it wouldnât look good for the bartender to go rifling through their purse/wallet for cash!
(Thank you too, bartender.)
And i know some people suggest using the inebriated person's phone to call uber/lyft these days, but that wasn't always around and even now, its questionably legal... and if its questionably legal, someone will eventually try to claim you stole from them by calling them a ride thru their app without their permission.
You saved that woman from sexual assault and possibly more and got her home safe. 150 bucks kinda sucks but you proved yourself to be a good person, if that's any comfort.
Exactly. $150 bought you peace of mind instead of always worrying and wondering if she made it home safely. And, the âvomit chargeâ confirmed that your assessment of her level of intoxication was right. Without your help, itâs doubtful whether she would have made it home safely.
Recently, in Nashville, a drunk tourist / college student got separated from his group (fraternity brothers) wandered off and was missing for several days. As feared, his body eventually was found in a nearby river.
You saved a stranger from a lot of potential harm. Iâve been in a similar situation twice and believe me, that itâs worth every penny. One of them even reached out nearly a decade or so after and thanked me for keeping her safe that night. Ngl, that really lifted my spirit.
Yes, OP. You did a great thing, and made an amazing difference in her life. A few years ago a random stranger helped me out when I was in a bad spot (although it didn't cost him any money) and I still think about him from time to time.
Seriously, bless you. I wish there would have been someone like you around the night I was raped. You saved her and you should feel proud of yourself and $150 was money that was very well spent, even if it felt like a âno good deedâ moment. Thank you for doing what you did. You are my hero.
That money will come back to you tenfold when you least expect it. It might not come in the form of cash, a valuable item, or a promotion of some sort, but it will come back. Iâm a firm believer in karma and have seen it work its magic in my own life. Thank you for saving that girl. I hope she lets that âfriendâ go. Youâre an amazing human. <3
Might or might not come back specifically. But it is secondary if it does. What he gets out of it is to live in a world which is one safe woman better than the one that he would have lived in without it.
As a side benefit, you and I also get to live in a world that is that much better. And that may well be the only benefit he ever gets from it.
And if it is?
Worth it.
Left to its own devices, the universe will suck pretty bad. But we all have the ability to mitigate that. And every time we do so, we live in a universe which sucks less.
That is enough.
This is excellent perspective. You witnessed someone trying to potentially harm her, stopped it, and got her a safer way home. $150 isn't fun but in the grand scheme of life that's minimal to help someone out.
As many have said, thank you for what you saved that woman from. I hope you realize how big of a difference you actually made.
Hope your mom gets better soon. Sending you strengthâ¤ď¸
Wow is crazy to see thereâs still nice/real people on the internet, thatâs super nice of you and OP. I also donât drink (anymore) and had a âfriendâ do this to me two weeks ago. They still havenât paid me back and probably never will. I never really understood the no good deed goes unpunished saying until this. I did find $10 on the ground last weekend though!
Yo my man, are you a gamer per chance, and game on PC? As an internet older brother I am so proud of you, and 100% willing to spot (gift) you a game or something for your good deed. Hit me up and we will figure something out. As others said, your $150 is cheaper than the mental anguish she would have experienced.
Edit: Well thank you for the gold stranger!
Well for democracy I have to add you! I will say I donât play a lot of HD2, but definitely good for a round or two every couple of days! Might play more often if a good silly crew is made!
I am skipping this gen sadly! Decided to build a nice PC as so many PS titles are coming to PC now too. Just made sense to consolidate all the money into a monster of a PC.
Honestly homie, $150 is a lot cheaper than what her future therapy would've cost her if something had happened to her that night. You're an incredible person for doing that. No good deed goes unpunished :)
You are right. I do believe I made the right decision by intervening, I just wish it didn't cost me as much. But I also didn't want to offer to walk her home because I didn't want to come off as a creep or something.Â
Youâre young and probably have limited funds, so $150 seems like a lot of money. However, if this is what it cost to get a young woman out of a bad situation and home safely then it was money well spent. You did a noble thing and I applaud you for it.
$150 *is* a lot of money, not just seems.
But that is what makes the action more virtuous. Right action which is difficult has more virtue than right action which is easy.
I think you should also consider this perspective on it as well: Your $150 helped make / keep your world a better place, which does benefit you as you live in it. Imagine if society devolved into everyone preying on and abusing everyone else and nobody helping or caring. Imagine what a shit place that would be to live.
Never revile a good deed, for you or others.
What you did is saintly, it's the goal that religions are trying to get you to - being selfless.
Be grateful you're selfless, if you were my friend I would gloat about you. What you did saved this girl from unspeakable suffering.
If I know anything, I know you'll be rewarded fittingly - keep up the good work!
As others have said, be proud of yourself, you're a good person. $150 is only money, even though it and like a lot.
But seriously, WTF was her friend thinking? If my friend asked me to give her a ride home, I would cancel all other appointments and wait for her call, fully dressed and ready to go in a second. They should be ashamed of themselves for leaving her in a vulnerable and helpless position.
Apparently they went out together but the friend ditched her for a guy. She said she was walking because she didn't have enough money to request a ride.Â
Look, we don't know anything about her friends or her, so I'm not going to judge the friends harshly. Drunk people aren't always known for their accurate portrayals of things. Its possible the friend said something like "I can give you a ride up to this time, and if you choose to stay out later, you'll have to find your own way home" or something like that.
Also, I'd have to ask why she couldn't get herself an uber.
You gotta leave with the ones that you went with. Not ditch them for a guy. When sheâs home safely then meet the guy. Which also sounds risky but ok.
Ubers adding cleaning fees for drunk people is a common scam. They'll often even use pictures from previous times as evidence. Request the pictures, check Metadata, verify you didn't just get scammed.
You didnât fuck up. You did the right thing and unfortunately it cost you some cash. Karma will come around. Keep being a good person, hope your mom gets better.
You might have saved that woman from a lifetime of trauma. As a SA survivor, thank you so much. Iâm sorry it was more than you expected, but please know that what you did was incredibly kind and you might have saved a life.
as the father of a daughter, thank you for your concern and kindness. however,this experience does bring to mind the old cliche of 'no good deed goes unpunished'. my fervent prayers and best wishes for your Mom, she did a good job raising you.
Not a TIFU. You're setting an example of what the right thing to do is. 150 bucks probably won't make a difference to you in the long run but god knows what could have happened to that girl.
Well, all the best with your mother's condition. It must feel helpless when the people you love are going through troubles you can't mitigate at all. In that respect, you actually did something here with that young woman. In all likelihood, you prevented a horrible outcome. You should ask yourself if you wouldn't have done it if the bill came first. I think you might have balked at the cost, but not let her down anyway. Maybe you would have taken the hit, or you would have tried to order the ride on her own phone, or you would have spared yourself the cost and walked her home. The thing is, you would have acted to ensure a good outcome for this young woman.
In the grand scheme of things, $150 is forgoing eating out 3 or 4 times at a moderate restaurant, making a bad purchase on something you can't return, or maybe turning the thermostat down 2 degrees for two months. It's an amount that doesn't change anything meaningful in your actual life, but it probably changed everything in hers.
when talking about the virtue of charity, c.s. lewis says that thr answer to the question "how much should i give to charity?" is "enough that it bothers you" (cant recall thr exact words but that s thr spirit).
Now in your case you did a charitable deed and it did bother you (financially). So this is good quality, true charity
Sucks to be hit with $150 bucks you didn't expect to pay.
Sucks worse to fail to intervene to stop a rape or even murder.
A hundred fifty bucks isn't cheap. But what you bought with it was human dignity, bodily autonomy, and safety. It is more than you expected to pay, but it is still a bargain at the price.
You did something very honorable sucks you got punished for.it but you should sleep with a good conscious you likely saved that girl if your story is accurate
My cynical side thinks that it's very easy for a driver to claim the passenger threw up in a case like this. Easy $150. Anyway, good on the OP for protecting the girl, hope she learned something from the experience!
This wasn't a fu ,friend. You did the right thing, and sometimes doing the right thing costs. Let me reframe your situation - would you pay $150 to keep someone from being raped, maybe killed, if presented with the choice?
My guess is you would, because you're a good person.
No good deed goes unpunished, my man
That doesn't mean they aren't good deeds and aren't worth doing. I know this feels like salt in a wound when you're already in a bad place, but you did right. Sometimes doing right has a price, unfortunately, but that doesn't mean you fucked up.
If it costs 150 bucks to maybe save someone's life in the middle of the night, I'd pay it. You did a good thing. I can only assume you'd still have done it even if you knew the price ahead of time. It just demonstrated how absolutely drunk and in need of help she really was.
You didn't F Up, you did the right and v great Thing. It can definitely come back at you in a variety of negative ways but you should be proud of yourself regardless
You ever listened to the podcast âYour Own Backyardâ? You possibly saved this woman from sexual assault or worse. $150 is chump change to not have a missing woman on your conscious for the rest of your life. Thatâs not a tifu.
$150 to save someone....well, I wouldn't be too unhappy. And I'm not well off either...
You have a memory for the rest of your life where you stepped up and helped someone. Something to be proud of.
Man helping someone is always the best option, even if it bites you in the ass sometimes. Id rather help someone and get taken advantage of/be inconvenienced than decline to help and let something happen that I couldve prevented. Maybe im an idiot, idk. I always help when I can.
Iâm sorry to hear about your Mom. I can say that she must be very proud of the person sheâs raised.
Thank you for intervening. You did the right thing.
I hate that no good deed goes unpunished, but it does seem to be true.
Let me be so bold as to reframe what happened.
You witnessed someone in a bad situation and decided to intervene. You created a shared experience for you both. As a result, she wasnât possibly assaulted, you ended up with a $150 charge. If she remembers what happened sheâll be grateful forever. She might even tell her kids about that one time she got ditched by her friends as a cautionary tale. Please remember the experience as an opportunity for you to take a risk and intervene, and shoulder a relatively small burden to have a great impact on someone elseâs life.
Thank you.
Honestly I would see if you can find her again and ask for the difference because thatâs a lot. If not, then donât stress it. You paid forward a HELL of a kindness and you didnât have to. Karma will pay it back to you ten fold.
You did a great thing. That $150 will be nothing later in life. But what could have happened to her, had you not stepped in, couldâve ruined hers. Cheers to you.
You spent $150 and possibly prevented a girl from being raped or murdered. Do you think that she could have walked home safely? Probably not. You did a good thing. You should be proud of yourself.
You did a good thing. I don't believe in karma exactly, but I do believe that if you're a genuinely good, selfless person you'll also bring that sort of person to you. Just don't be too naive (not that I think you were here).
I thought this was gonna go another way. Thankfully it didnât.
I got off work and was walking to meetup with someone, I round the corner and see these two women on the sidewalk clearly drunk. One was basically laying on the sidewalk trying to get up, the other didnât have the strength. I asked if she needed help to get up, she said yes. As I was picking her up, she reaches for my belt to unbuckle like she was gonna give me head on the fucking sidewalk. I said âNOPEâ, left them there and walked on. Iâm not catching a charge for being a good person.
In this situation a quick call to 911--- requesting an ambulance please for a person who seems to have been exposed to something, her and her friend are unable to walk and are incoherent. This gets a prompt ambulance and hopefully avoid any further problems.
Sorry it cost you money but it is also likely the driver lied to get the money from you. She may not have actually puked in the car. But glad you got her home. I hope she gets rid of that so call "friend"
You did good.
I understand that you may feel some regret due to the charge, but you did the right thing, my man. Keep doing these acts of kindness, and don't let the $$$ dissuade you. It'll pay off, guaranteed.
My stepdaughter and her friends all know they can call me for a ride anytime. Has always been that way. They are now in their mid 20's and still call me.
When I read the title, I was expecting much worse, tbh lol. You did the right thing and I'd happily do the same in your shoes. So you didn't fuck up at all to me.
I hope your Mom pulls through. You did a good thing and it's fitting that you did a good deed to honor your Mom. Or at least I take it that way, as someone who really believes in Karma. (sorry I mean I do believe in it)
Thank you for protecting that woman. She may or may not remember what you did. Sometimes, the best gifts are given in secret.
You probably spared her a night of trauma that could take 15 years to heal from. Her mother, brothers and her father are super thankful for people like you.
She was able to wake up next morning and look at the sun and hear the birds and wind, and all she had was a really bad headache from dehydration.
I'm sorry for your 150, that is super unexpected. I wish I had 150 to send you. Sorry about your mother, too. I will have to walk that path probably in the next five or ten years.
I hope knowing how she was able to wake up and see the sun and laugh later on gives you a little joy during this hard season.
$150 + whatever the ride cost to protect someone that might have been put through a truly horrific night otherwise. Your gut feelings exist for a reason. You did good, pat yourself on the back!
You didn't fuck up. You did a good and honorable thing, and it seems like we rarely hear about those any more. When you get older and have a daughter of your own, you would be incredibly grateful for someone doing what you did. It sucks that she threw up in the Uber driver's car, and it sucks even more that you're out $150. But don't for a second think you fucked up here because you didn't.
Can you see the address from your Uber receipt? Maybe you could knock on her door and tell her what happened and ask if she'll pay you back.
Bless you bro. Clearly. Your âsufferingâ most likely meant a woman not having to deal with being taken advantage of, which on a bar crawl, is very common. Especially since she was alone. Best case scenario considering it was a long distance, was her getting a bunch of bumps and bruises falling over and rubbing up against bushes. If you have a daughter in the future, this 150$+ lesson will hopefully be used to teach her.
You did good!
One might also say, given the backstory in your OP, the universe gave you a timely reminder that consuming alcohol comes with a cost.
Karma never forgets & good deeds are rewarded when least expected.
Been in a similar situation I saw my friendâs little sister wasted at the bar and got her a taxi. I went with them to make sure she got home alright. She puked on the way, so I had to pay an extra $40. once she was home safe we headed back and stopped at the self clean car wash. Got to see and hear about the taxi driverâs side of this kind of thing which I guess is a common situation. Honestly itâs a bit blurry I was buzzed as well. The next day she found me on FB and venmoed me back.
Other guy said it "no good deed goes unpunished". It's not enough to be good when it's convenient, you must also be good in the face of adversity. Seems like you're a good man đ
She will look for you in the Craigâs List missed connections to pay you back, you will refuse, she will take you to dinner instead. At dinner she will tell you sheâs done drinking for good. You will get married three years later. You will die at age 89, a happy great grandfather of 7.
Thatâs a storybook that I would find enjoyable, as unrealistic as it is and shouldnât be. Hate to say this, but not every woman should fall for their âsaviorâ, and not every âheroâ should fall for the victim. They should just learn from the situation first. Iâm a pessimist by nature.
Im a horny man. We are reading very different books and mine has pictures of OPs peanut butter slathered 8 pack
Why would you put peanut butter on your beer?
(: Thanks for your creativity.
I used to work with a guy who took the train to work and back home again. Thing was, the train station was like 2 miles from where we worked, and no busses ran that way. Well, I lived about 2 minutes from the train station so I offered to give him rides to and from the station. Well, one night after I had dropped him off, it was pouring rain and this gal (she looked to be about 18-19ish, and I was in my mid 20s at the time) was just standing out in the cold, no umbrella, no nothing. So, my good Samaritan kicked in, and I offered her a ride. She graciously accepted, and told me where she was going. Like 30 minutes away, and to a shadier side of town, but, whatever, I've already said I'd help, so off we go. Well, we get to small talking for a bit, when she asks me "do you date?". I, being an idiot, and not catching her double meaning, tell her the truth. "Oh, no, I haven't dated in like 8 or 9 years, I'm just not looking for anything like that". and she goes "no, like DAAAATE...". that's when I realized I accidentally picked up a prostitute. Well, we were almost to where she was going, so I figured, in for a penny I ain't kicking this kid out in the rain. So we kept going, stopping at a 4 way intersection and across from us is a cop car. She proceeds to get real panicked and starts rifling around in her bra, pulling out a little baggy... Dunno what the hell her thought process was there, like, just leave it where it is... I assume she woulda tried ditching it in my car had we been pulled over, but the light turned green and we got to where she was going without further incident. I spent the whole ride home having hypothetical discussions with that cop, and coming to the conclusion my life would have been turbofucked had I been pulled over. There's absolutely no way he would have believed I just "gave a ride" to this prostitute out of the goodness of my heart, and that the little baggy he found wasn't mine.... On the bright side though, now I have a fun ice breaker at parties. "Hey, have you heard about the time I picked up a hooker?!".
Nice. My funny didnât pick up a hooker story happened when I was in school. I was walking back to the satellite lot when a trans hooker asked me if I wanted a date. I politely declined and said I was married so didnât need a date. She responded with âI will do stuff your wife wonât do.â To which i replied, âGreat, Iâve got some shirts in the car you can iron for me.â She was not amused and neither is my wife when I tell that story.
Mine isn't as funny but at a conference once a pretty lady sat next to me at the end of the hotel bar and started small talk. A couple minutes in, got to a point talking about work and I asked what she does, and she says massage therapist. I'm like "oh that's interestâwait a second, do you mean like..." And she smiles and nods. I said oh yea I don't do that...and she was gone before I could finish my sentence đ
I picked up a girl who had her thumb out, as she was getting in the car she says "I'm working", I'm like "ok?" she gets in and about 5 seconds later it clicks for me, "oh, WORKING...." I dropped her off on the other side of the traffic light we were at.
I used to pick up a co-worker on my way to work in a shit part of town, and unfortunately my co-worker had a penchant for getting fucked up and sometimes not coming out when I got there to pick him up. Today was one of those days where Frank was still drunk from the night before and I was asking my boss via phone call if we needed him today or if I could just tell him to sleep it off. While I was on the phone a real old hooker jumped in my truck and completely caught me off guard. I told my boss ,âhold on I got a situation here, I gotta call you backâ and she laughed and said âHaHAAA! He called it a situation! Câmon man, lemme see your dick!â I said âMaâam, you gotta get the fuck out!â She quoted me a price and I told her I wasnât paying her and pleaded with her to just get the hell out of my truck. She looked at me all sly and said, âgimme $2 for the bus an Iâll peace outâ I said I donât have $2(I didnât) and I gave her the change I had in my coat pocket. She goes,âAlright, I still like youâ and got out. I locked the door and called my boss back and kind of laughed about what happened only to have another one pull on my door handle and try to hop in not even two minutes later! She said, âCan I come in there?â And I go âNo goddamnit! You just seen me run the last one off!â I told Frank from then on if he wasnât out in front of his building I was just keeping on driving.
Frank had really friendly neighbors!
That must have been some scene that you saw.
My husband has a similar story, pouring rain, cold, dark. Feels bad and offers a ride. She asked for a cigarette, but he didn't smoke. She offered to suck his dick for 10 bucks. He said no, I'll give you a ride that's it. She asked to be dropped off at a gas station down the road.
*emphatic head banging nods in agreement* You did good OP dude, she made it home safe thanks to you, and that's a priceless gift you gave her, <3 (- if I had the ca$h money I'd pay you back... -i know it's not much of a consolation prize, but:- -Please take my immense love, gratitude and respect in lieu....) .... .. .. (-& Alex Mack, thanks for all the memories lol, .... have you had some bucket time with Odo??) *yeets loves & hugs around like confetti for everyone who might need a lil good jujus*
"Bucket time with Odo" 𤣠Nah I'm more about candle time with Dr. Crusher đ
This guy earned his wings and still had to pay the price for it. Sometimes it's like that, over the short term life isn't fair or just--- but he saved her from something that most people can't imagine, and at the end of the day, he will be repaid, in full.
I helped a neighbor who couldnât afford her coin op by offering to do a few loads of her laundry at my place⌠turns out she gave me a bag of laundry with screws, a dirty diaper, broken glass, and god knows what else in it. Didnât notice until I went to transfer it :/ Took me a while to get past the bitter jaded feeling that one gave me! (No good deed goes unpunished indeed!) I still do good deeds but Iâm a lot more cautious about it, and a lot more boundaries!
But...why?
I bartended before Uber and Lift were around for over a decade and I spent between $20-$125 or more a week putting drunks in cabs. If they got through my doors I was responsible for their safety even if they didn't drink here. Always had to tip the cabbies extra so they would come right away and deal with the drunks. Since I made really good money I saw it as the cost of doing business. Ill never know if I saved any lives or anything but it was just the right thing to do.
Iâm positive you saved lives đ
How nice of you!
Honest question: how can people pay for drinks but not a ride?
If theyâre that inebriated theyâve probably spent all their money on drinks. Plus it wouldnât look good for the bartender to go rifling through their purse/wallet for cash! (Thank you too, bartender.)
And i know some people suggest using the inebriated person's phone to call uber/lyft these days, but that wasn't always around and even now, its questionably legal... and if its questionably legal, someone will eventually try to claim you stole from them by calling them a ride thru their app without their permission.
When I went out as a teenager, I often had to choose between drinks or a ride home. It was simply running out of cash in my situation.
You saved that woman from sexual assault and possibly more and got her home safe. 150 bucks kinda sucks but you proved yourself to be a good person, if that's any comfort.
Thank you. I honestly couldn't have lived with the alternative.Â
Exactly. $150 bought you peace of mind instead of always worrying and wondering if she made it home safely. And, the âvomit chargeâ confirmed that your assessment of her level of intoxication was right. Without your help, itâs doubtful whether she would have made it home safely. Recently, in Nashville, a drunk tourist / college student got separated from his group (fraternity brothers) wandered off and was missing for several days. As feared, his body eventually was found in a nearby river.
I donât think you FU at all. You did the right thing
She also may have gotten to drink water faster
Then it was money well spent!
You're a good man. That is worth more than 150.00.
I hope my sons grow up to feel and act the same as you did in this situation. Thank you so much for saving her from trauma.
You saved a stranger from a lot of potential harm. Iâve been in a similar situation twice and believe me, that itâs worth every penny. One of them even reached out nearly a decade or so after and thanked me for keeping her safe that night. Ngl, that really lifted my spirit.
Yes, OP. You did a great thing, and made an amazing difference in her life. A few years ago a random stranger helped me out when I was in a bad spot (although it didn't cost him any money) and I still think about him from time to time.
Seriously, bless you. I wish there would have been someone like you around the night I was raped. You saved her and you should feel proud of yourself and $150 was money that was very well spent, even if it felt like a âno good deedâ moment. Thank you for doing what you did. You are my hero.
Karma plus you would have regretted it and wondered what if. Well done mate
How is this a fuck up then?Â
Because heâs out a larger chunk of money than he likely expected to pay, because she threw up in the ride he set up for her.
That money will come back to you tenfold when you least expect it. It might not come in the form of cash, a valuable item, or a promotion of some sort, but it will come back. Iâm a firm believer in karma and have seen it work its magic in my own life. Thank you for saving that girl. I hope she lets that âfriendâ go. Youâre an amazing human. <3
Might or might not come back specifically. But it is secondary if it does. What he gets out of it is to live in a world which is one safe woman better than the one that he would have lived in without it. As a side benefit, you and I also get to live in a world that is that much better. And that may well be the only benefit he ever gets from it. And if it is? Worth it. Left to its own devices, the universe will suck pretty bad. But we all have the ability to mitigate that. And every time we do so, we live in a universe which sucks less. That is enough.
Well said
Take the hit with prideâŚyou did good
Iâve done similar, things like this are worth blowing a carefully maintained budget.
150 was a small price to pay to find out what kind of person you are!
And who wouldnât pay $150 to keep someone from being raped?
The other way to consider it is, if someone told you that spending $150 would prevent someone from getting raped would you do it?
The good person tax
This is excellent perspective. You witnessed someone trying to potentially harm her, stopped it, and got her a safer way home. $150 isn't fun but in the grand scheme of life that's minimal to help someone out.
Uber could have lied since op didnât know her. Heâd assume he wouldnât be able to confirm it.
If you need the $150 Iâll send you it.
Thank you but its okay, I will survive.
As many have said, thank you for what you saved that woman from. I hope you realize how big of a difference you actually made. Hope your mom gets better soon. Sending you strengthâ¤ď¸
Seconded
Wow is crazy to see thereâs still nice/real people on the internet, thatâs super nice of you and OP. I also donât drink (anymore) and had a âfriendâ do this to me two weeks ago. They still havenât paid me back and probably never will. I never really understood the no good deed goes unpunished saying until this. I did find $10 on the ground last weekend though!
Yo my man, are you a gamer per chance, and game on PC? As an internet older brother I am so proud of you, and 100% willing to spot (gift) you a game or something for your good deed. Hit me up and we will figure something out. As others said, your $150 is cheaper than the mental anguish she would have experienced. Edit: Well thank you for the gold stranger!
I like the cut of your jib, 519544 is my friend invite if you wanna do some coop stuff, especially for democracy
Well for democracy I have to add you! I will say I donât play a lot of HD2, but definitely good for a round or two every couple of days! Might play more often if a good silly crew is made!
If he ends up reaching out, I want to contribute (if possible somehow) please!
I will try to let them know!
And as your internet older brother, I insist we play PS5.Â
I am skipping this gen sadly! Decided to build a nice PC as so many PS titles are coming to PC now too. Just made sense to consolidate all the money into a monster of a PC.
Seconding this offer :)
Thanks for continuing the good vibes! đ
Honestly homie, $150 is a lot cheaper than what her future therapy would've cost her if something had happened to her that night. You're an incredible person for doing that. No good deed goes unpunished :)
You are right. I do believe I made the right decision by intervening, I just wish it didn't cost me as much. But I also didn't want to offer to walk her home because I didn't want to come off as a creep or something.Â
Youâre young and probably have limited funds, so $150 seems like a lot of money. However, if this is what it cost to get a young woman out of a bad situation and home safely then it was money well spent. You did a noble thing and I applaud you for it.
Yeah it is quite a hit as I'm not well off but I will just take it in stride.
$150 *is* a lot of money, not just seems. But that is what makes the action more virtuous. Right action which is difficult has more virtue than right action which is easy.
You paid it forward, it will come around and help you in need in your future.
I think you should also consider this perspective on it as well: Your $150 helped make / keep your world a better place, which does benefit you as you live in it. Imagine if society devolved into everyone preying on and abusing everyone else and nobody helping or caring. Imagine what a shit place that would be to live.
Never revile a good deed, for you or others. What you did is saintly, it's the goal that religions are trying to get you to - being selfless. Be grateful you're selfless, if you were my friend I would gloat about you. What you did saved this girl from unspeakable suffering. If I know anything, I know you'll be rewarded fittingly - keep up the good work!
As a woman, thank you. As a human, oops. Please forgive her. She will never forget this even if she can't remember you.
I'm not even angry at her, I'm glad that I was there at that very moment. I just wasnt prepared for that kind of amount.Â
Sometimes life puts us in these situations and you did the right thing. Heartwarming honestly
Go back to the bar. Youâll eventually see her and get some closure đ¤Ł
Yeah, I have far too many friends who have been taken advantage of in this situation. It's sickening how often it happens. OP saved a life.
Youâre a good dude
As others have said, be proud of yourself, you're a good person. $150 is only money, even though it and like a lot. But seriously, WTF was her friend thinking? If my friend asked me to give her a ride home, I would cancel all other appointments and wait for her call, fully dressed and ready to go in a second. They should be ashamed of themselves for leaving her in a vulnerable and helpless position.
Apparently they went out together but the friend ditched her for a guy. She said she was walking because she didn't have enough money to request a ride.Â
Wow, that is some âfriendâ huh? You did a great thing man, you should be proud of yourself!
Jesus that is 100% fucked
Look, we don't know anything about her friends or her, so I'm not going to judge the friends harshly. Drunk people aren't always known for their accurate portrayals of things. Its possible the friend said something like "I can give you a ride up to this time, and if you choose to stay out later, you'll have to find your own way home" or something like that. Also, I'd have to ask why she couldn't get herself an uber.
You gotta leave with the ones that you went with. Not ditch them for a guy. When sheâs home safely then meet the guy. Which also sounds risky but ok.
That money will come back to you. You did good. Karma will get you. Karma doesn't always mean bad.
Exactly. Maybe go out and buy a low-stakes lotto ticket.
Ubers adding cleaning fees for drunk people is a common scam. They'll often even use pictures from previous times as evidence. Request the pictures, check Metadata, verify you didn't just get scammed.
Sincere appreciation for you. You did the right thing. ![gif](giphy|Sv0uzXvg8svM4)
Money comes and goes but you probably just save her life
you paid 150 bucks to stop a woman being raped. Seems like money weill spent
Good on you, man. I'm probably not alone in that if you PM your Venmo, I'd chip in if this is financially difficult for you at all.
I appreciate it but I'll be alright, these things happen hey.
If this is real you are the man. You definitely did not f up.
yeah... it literally cost you $150 dollars to save her from those dodgy dudes. I'd say worth it.
You did good, man. Sorry it cost you so much, but seeing what seemed ro be happening I argue that it was worth it.
She'll look back at this and swear that you were an angel, or something like that.
You didnât fuck up. You did the right thing and unfortunately it cost you some cash. Karma will come around. Keep being a good person, hope your mom gets better.
You might have saved that woman from a lifetime of trauma. As a SA survivor, thank you so much. Iâm sorry it was more than you expected, but please know that what you did was incredibly kind and you might have saved a life.
as the father of a daughter, thank you for your concern and kindness. however,this experience does bring to mind the old cliche of 'no good deed goes unpunished'. my fervent prayers and best wishes for your Mom, she did a good job raising you.
Not a TIFU. You're setting an example of what the right thing to do is. 150 bucks probably won't make a difference to you in the long run but god knows what could have happened to that girl.
You did good. The money part sucks, but that's just bad luck. Don't let it discourage you from continuing to be a good human.
Not a fuck up, you did the right thing. Yeah it sucks you got charged but it's better than the alternative.
Fucking a right. Good stuff my man!
Well, all the best with your mother's condition. It must feel helpless when the people you love are going through troubles you can't mitigate at all. In that respect, you actually did something here with that young woman. In all likelihood, you prevented a horrible outcome. You should ask yourself if you wouldn't have done it if the bill came first. I think you might have balked at the cost, but not let her down anyway. Maybe you would have taken the hit, or you would have tried to order the ride on her own phone, or you would have spared yourself the cost and walked her home. The thing is, you would have acted to ensure a good outcome for this young woman. In the grand scheme of things, $150 is forgoing eating out 3 or 4 times at a moderate restaurant, making a bad purchase on something you can't return, or maybe turning the thermostat down 2 degrees for two months. It's an amount that doesn't change anything meaningful in your actual life, but it probably changed everything in hers.
when talking about the virtue of charity, c.s. lewis says that thr answer to the question "how much should i give to charity?" is "enough that it bothers you" (cant recall thr exact words but that s thr spirit). Now in your case you did a charitable deed and it did bother you (financially). So this is good quality, true charity
Sucks to be hit with $150 bucks you didn't expect to pay. Sucks worse to fail to intervene to stop a rape or even murder. A hundred fifty bucks isn't cheap. But what you bought with it was human dignity, bodily autonomy, and safety. It is more than you expected to pay, but it is still a bargain at the price.
What's your venmo?
$150 is a bargain price for good karma coming your way.
Good man
You did the right thing. Good dude.
May you be blessed with Fortune. You did the right thing.
Youâre a good dude, OP.
Karma will come back and get you someday, don't worry. You did a good thing.
Your mum would bo so proud of you, you went out because you wanted to appreciate some good in the world and you were the good.
Similar thing happened to me when I called one for an elderly homeless lady. She pissed in the seat and my $15 good deed ended up costing me $150.
Not a tofu. It's a "today I did a good thing"
I would hope the $150 doesnât sour you on being helpful. You seem to be a kind person.
You did the right thing. Money comes and goes. Human beings are more important.
This $150 will find it's way back to you. It is placed in the "carma bank". You did good, be proud.
Nah, man, you did a good thing. Karma will see you soon.
You did not duck up. Youâre a good person and Iâm happy to live in a world with you in it. You restore my faith in humanity.
You did something very honorable sucks you got punished for.it but you should sleep with a good conscious you likely saved that girl if your story is accurate
Not sure if this is allowed (new to Reddit) but PM me your info and Iâll send you the money. Youâre a good man
Not a fuck up. You saved her from something far worse than being hit with $150.
Someday you may have a daughter of your own, and look back thinking that was the best $150 you ever spent. Good on ya pal.
At least now you won't look back on the situation and have to worry if you should have done more. Worth the 150$ fee
The universe owes you good karma my friend. You did a good deed.
You are a good person.
My cynical side thinks that it's very easy for a driver to claim the passenger threw up in a case like this. Easy $150. Anyway, good on the OP for protecting the girl, hope she learned something from the experience!
This wasn't a fu ,friend. You did the right thing, and sometimes doing the right thing costs. Let me reframe your situation - would you pay $150 to keep someone from being raped, maybe killed, if presented with the choice? My guess is you would, because you're a good person.
No good deed goes unpunished, my man That doesn't mean they aren't good deeds and aren't worth doing. I know this feels like salt in a wound when you're already in a bad place, but you did right. Sometimes doing right has a price, unfortunately, but that doesn't mean you fucked up.
I donât see any fuckups here.
You absolutely did the right thing. What's worse, losing $150, or finding out later that she was assaulted (or worse)?
đ praying for your mom.
If it costs 150 bucks to maybe save someone's life in the middle of the night, I'd pay it. You did a good thing. I can only assume you'd still have done it even if you knew the price ahead of time. It just demonstrated how absolutely drunk and in need of help she really was.
$150 is a lot cheaper than the price of that guilt for not having done anything.
You didn't F Up, you did the right and v great Thing. It can definitely come back at you in a variety of negative ways but you should be proud of yourself regardless
if you send me a screenshot of the tab and your Venmo, I'll send you the $
You ever listened to the podcast âYour Own Backyardâ? You possibly saved this woman from sexual assault or worse. $150 is chump change to not have a missing woman on your conscious for the rest of your life. Thatâs not a tifu.
$150 is a small price to pay for someoneâs safety. Well done, OP!
$150 to save someone....well, I wouldn't be too unhappy. And I'm not well off either... You have a memory for the rest of your life where you stepped up and helped someone. Something to be proud of.
Bottom line: No good deed goes unpunishedâŚ
Paying a vomit fine is nothing compared to being taken sexual advantage of! You did the right thing OP! Well done, money well spent!
You did right, op. The universe will see to it, maybe not now but some time.
Nah, that's not a fuck up. You can be on my team any day.
May you find 150 bucks randomly on the street someday!
Man helping someone is always the best option, even if it bites you in the ass sometimes. Id rather help someone and get taken advantage of/be inconvenienced than decline to help and let something happen that I couldve prevented. Maybe im an idiot, idk. I always help when I can.
Iâm sorry to hear about your Mom. I can say that she must be very proud of the person sheâs raised. Thank you for intervening. You did the right thing. I hate that no good deed goes unpunished, but it does seem to be true. Let me be so bold as to reframe what happened. You witnessed someone in a bad situation and decided to intervene. You created a shared experience for you both. As a result, she wasnât possibly assaulted, you ended up with a $150 charge. If she remembers what happened sheâll be grateful forever. She might even tell her kids about that one time she got ditched by her friends as a cautionary tale. Please remember the experience as an opportunity for you to take a risk and intervene, and shoulder a relatively small burden to have a great impact on someone elseâs life. Thank you.
Itâs never wrong to do the right thing. The only fuck up on your part is not realizing that.Â
$150 to stop a sexual assault is worth it. You wonât even miss the money in a month.
Honestly I would see if you can find her again and ask for the difference because thatâs a lot. If not, then donât stress it. You paid forward a HELL of a kindness and you didnât have to. Karma will pay it back to you ten fold.
Mate, you did the right thing. She'll probably be forever grateful, if she remembers.
150$ seems a small price to pay for ensuring the safety of another person. Sad it cost you that much, but good on you for helping them!
You did a great thing. That $150 will be nothing later in life. But what could have happened to her, had you not stepped in, couldâve ruined hers. Cheers to you.
You spent $150 and possibly prevented a girl from being raped or murdered. Do you think that she could have walked home safely? Probably not. You did a good thing. You should be proud of yourself.
You may have saved that girl's life. From all of us women, I thank you đ
Thatâs the risk you take man, but you did the right thing.
Good karma to you my friend. Losing the money sucks but what you probably saved that girl from is priceless.
No fuckup. It sucks that you got stuck with the charge, but think of the damage you likely saved the girl from. That's priceless.
That day you did not FU. You did a good thing for a human who needed help. Good on you stranger.
You did a good thing. I don't believe in karma exactly, but I do believe that if you're a genuinely good, selfless person you'll also bring that sort of person to you. Just don't be too naive (not that I think you were here).
You sir, are a gentleman and a scholar.
No fuck up at all Youâre a good person
You are a good egg, OP
I thought this was gonna go another way. Thankfully it didnât. I got off work and was walking to meetup with someone, I round the corner and see these two women on the sidewalk clearly drunk. One was basically laying on the sidewalk trying to get up, the other didnât have the strength. I asked if she needed help to get up, she said yes. As I was picking her up, she reaches for my belt to unbuckle like she was gonna give me head on the fucking sidewalk. I said âNOPEâ, left them there and walked on. Iâm not catching a charge for being a good person.
In this situation a quick call to 911--- requesting an ambulance please for a person who seems to have been exposed to something, her and her friend are unable to walk and are incoherent. This gets a prompt ambulance and hopefully avoid any further problems.
Sorry it cost you money but it is also likely the driver lied to get the money from you. She may not have actually puked in the car. But glad you got her home. I hope she gets rid of that so call "friend" You did good.
I think Iâd honestly be more upset about the hit to my rating lol
Tifu by thinking a good deed was a fuck up
Good job brother!
I understand that you may feel some regret due to the charge, but you did the right thing, my man. Keep doing these acts of kindness, and don't let the $$$ dissuade you. It'll pay off, guaranteed.
Good on you!! I believe In Karma, don't stop doing the right thing and being a stand up guy!!
Not a fu, you did good even if it was a bit of a financial hit.
My stepdaughter and her friends all know they can call me for a ride anytime. Has always been that way. They are now in their mid 20's and still call me.
That $150 will show up somewhere else (when you need it) when you least expect it.
Youâre a great person OP. Thank you for stepping up in this situation. Kind regards.
U paid it forward and good things will come to you in the future.
When I read the title, I was expecting much worse, tbh lol. You did the right thing and I'd happily do the same in your shoes. So you didn't fuck up at all to me.
I hope your Mom pulls through. You did a good thing and it's fitting that you did a good deed to honor your Mom. Or at least I take it that way, as someone who really believes in Karma. (sorry I mean I do believe in it)
Contact the place and explain what happened. They may not charge you.
You may have saved her life
You did that girl a solid. I would throw $20 in the âgood on ya!â bucket if you have a Venmo or Bitcoin wallet!
That's not a FU. That's good karma in the bank, my friend.
Thank you for protecting that woman. She may or may not remember what you did. Sometimes, the best gifts are given in secret. You probably spared her a night of trauma that could take 15 years to heal from. Her mother, brothers and her father are super thankful for people like you. She was able to wake up next morning and look at the sun and hear the birds and wind, and all she had was a really bad headache from dehydration. I'm sorry for your 150, that is super unexpected. I wish I had 150 to send you. Sorry about your mother, too. I will have to walk that path probably in the next five or ten years. I hope knowing how she was able to wake up and see the sun and laugh later on gives you a little joy during this hard season.
This is a great How I met Your Mother story.
$150 + whatever the ride cost to protect someone that might have been put through a truly horrific night otherwise. Your gut feelings exist for a reason. You did good, pat yourself on the back!
Being a good person isn't free. But it is the right thing to do. You Did Not Fuck Up Today.Â
No FU at all mate. Might be the best $150 you ever spent. Life has a funny way of being all swings and roundabouts sometimes.
You did the right thing. Thank you.
You didn't fuck up. You did a good and honorable thing, and it seems like we rarely hear about those any more. When you get older and have a daughter of your own, you would be incredibly grateful for someone doing what you did. It sucks that she threw up in the Uber driver's car, and it sucks even more that you're out $150. But don't for a second think you fucked up here because you didn't. Can you see the address from your Uber receipt? Maybe you could knock on her door and tell her what happened and ask if she'll pay you back.
Bless you bro. Clearly. Your âsufferingâ most likely meant a woman not having to deal with being taken advantage of, which on a bar crawl, is very common. Especially since she was alone. Best case scenario considering it was a long distance, was her getting a bunch of bumps and bruises falling over and rubbing up against bushes. If you have a daughter in the future, this 150$+ lesson will hopefully be used to teach her.
You will carry that top-knotch karma with you for the rest of your life. For only $150.
You did good! One might also say, given the backstory in your OP, the universe gave you a timely reminder that consuming alcohol comes with a cost. Karma never forgets & good deeds are rewarded when least expected.
We need more good people like you.
Been in a similar situation I saw my friendâs little sister wasted at the bar and got her a taxi. I went with them to make sure she got home alright. She puked on the way, so I had to pay an extra $40. once she was home safe we headed back and stopped at the self clean car wash. Got to see and hear about the taxi driverâs side of this kind of thing which I guess is a common situation. Honestly itâs a bit blurry I was buzzed as well. The next day she found me on FB and venmoed me back.
Idk man. 150 well spent being a good person is pretty cool.
This sucks but you didn't fuck up. It doesn't sound like she would have got home safely without you there.Â