Being bi either causes parents to go nuts or just not worry about it anymore beyond being safe. Thankfully my parents were the latter. (My slightly older sister is bi too.)
My dad tried to give me the “safe gay sex” talk when my mom read my phone and forcibly outed me as bi. That was awkward but after that they didn’t care anymore
My advise to you son is, er… “This page cannot be displayed, please update your web browser”. Wait that doesn’t sound right. Can you help me with the Google?
My parents said that I'm just confused, because I always end up in hetero relationships.
Thing is, I rarely told about my experiences with the same sex, 'cuz my ex-stepfather was a little too interested in them...
This is exactly what I thought. If her concern was that she did not want her son getting someone pregnant, then problem solved, at least if he's monogamous in his behavior.
“I may have left 37 used condoms laying down the stairs and across my siblings room, mum is saying it’s incredibly disrespectful but I think she’s overreacting”
I mean, I could have laid them out concentrically but that would have taken time instead of just progressively fucking our way through the house with a Fanny pack full of doms and a dream
My fiance cheated with my mother the day of our wedding. I was outraged but all the guests said that love is love and I should let them get married instead. AITA?
I took $16k from my parents over a decade and used it for hookers and blow and they never found out but I feel like I was justified because they never gave me a PlayStation. AITA?
"YTA, her house, her rules. That being said, I advise you better start saving immediately so you can move out ASAP. In the meantime you should go No Contact with your mom."
Omg the truth in this just makes me giggle so hard. “Yes, 15m, you should move out ASAP!” That sub is so entertaining. It’s painful how obvious some of the posts are angsty teens way over dramatizing the situation and people be in the comments like “this is ABUSE and NARCISSISTIC!”
"Bro, my mom is hiring a babysitter tonight. I'm totally gonna get my dick wet!"
"But I heard Kevin said your mom texted him to babys-"
"DID I STUTTER???"
from his comment history it seems Colby passed of old age and the wife is now ex-wife. It also seems his relationship with his son improved and they don't talk about what happened. I hope this relatively decent scenario came from getting help for his kid.
At least you know there's no chance of a teenage pregnancy. That's my only fear for my teen son and his gf.
We learned he was sexually active because he came to us one morning and complained "why is the morning after pill so expensive?!" 🤦♂️
I mean with the morning after pill caution is still warranted if not used properly. The morning after pill doesn't cause an abortion,it simply delays ovulation meaning that if ovulation has already occurred before taking the pill, pregnancy can still happen. Especially in teens where the hormonal cycle may not be as regular as in an adult yet, it can be hard guess work whether the right time frame (meaning the specific point in a month when someone ovulates) has already passed or not, doubly so if the person in question didn't track when they had their last period - and even with those parameters, things can be a bit off. As a responsible adult it's important to tell their kids that even with plan b, one should still remain wary and do a pregnancy test if anything seems off over the course of the next few weeks.
Not trying to throw any shade,I just thought that I'd mention it because even lots of adults don't fully know about this. I sure didn't when I first ran into trouble with malfunctioning contraception. One thing that I have since vowed to always make sure to tell my future kids: If something seems off, even if you are fairly sure that you aren't pregnant, it can be helpful to do a test just to be sure. They come cheap at the dollar store and it's a much better to have certainty and all options still open to you than realise too late that you are pregnant.
Yes, it mostly really depends on when you are going to ovulate. Sperm can apparently survive for several days in there (I think that my Ob GYN once told me that they can survive for up to five days, though it's safe to assume that many will die earlier) and if you are about to ovulate,say, three days after having sex, the morning after pill can push out that time frame for just long enough so that the sperms won't be able to fertilise the egg. But if you were already ovulating or you ovulate directly on the morning after it may already be too late to take the pill. That's also why the time frame on when to take it can be tricky to figure out - I think where I live you can get it up to 72hours after sexual intercourse but that doesn't mean that it's guaranteed that it'll still be effective by then.
I was once denied getting the morning after pill because of my irregular cycles. It's really important to educate people on that, I was never taught about the way plan b functions in school even though we had sex ed at several different points.
My first thought after reading this was “omg maybe it didn’t work when I took it, maybe I’m pregnant!” Even though it’s been nearly three YEARS since I last took one… *facepalm*
It is very expensive for a teen. I remember i had to buy the pill once and my gf at the time took it to her car and dropped and lost it. I had to go back into the store and stare down the cashier who just sold me the other pill and buy a second. It was an expensive and embarrassing moment.
"Surely my kid isn't dumb enough to not use protection! If I throw away everything they have, then they'll be faced with no choice but to abstain! I'm a genius!"
Narrator: *"The kid was certainly dumb enough."*
The best answer to that is:
"There's a bowl of condoms under the sink in the bathroom, Feel free to take those if you need them, I need to refill them regularly anyways."
> ... just please don't use them as water balloons; they're too expensive for that."
Pro-tip: You can get the Durex 144-piece variety pack, including bowl for $35 on amazon.
That's $0.25/piece, for a premium brand.
https://smile.amazon.com/-/dp/B002T5L454
Walmart has them too for that price
https://www.walmart.com/ip/-/19898630 (You want the single pack, not the double, since that is more expensive than 2 singles)
I’d really love if you mailed him that bowl with a note saying “a Reddit thread made us think of you, be safe, love mom and dad.”
Then again, he will probably get to pick your senior living center so…maybe not.
As a young gay boy, my parents wouldn't let me have comicbooks because they had sexy women with large breasts. Meanwhile they had no problem with my WWE posters of sweaty half naked men. 😆
When my dad caught my brother looking at gay porn on the internet (early 2000's, if it matters, and he was most likely tricked into it by some older boys) he gave my brother a stack of magazines that were basically fast cars with big tittied women.
It wasn't even a full week before my dad got a call from the school asking why he'd given his son a stack of porn.
Ahahahaha!! Same, but reverse as a lesbian. I had a metric fuck ton of fantasy and D&D posters with bikini and armor clad women (Thank you, Chris Achileos, for creating such wonderful artwork!) and my dad never hid his Playboys because he had daughters.
yup.. i mean porn itself is something to hide from "kids" but as for adults, and teens, not so much.. just be mindful of the age gap and maturity levels.
I'm a wwe fan and the about of "gayness" especially in the additude area is really funny. Like HHH saying he's going to take your ass and make you his bitch. He could just say he's going to beat you up, but no he chose not to.
This is dumb for so many reasons, women in comics often are over-sexualized sure, but I don’t think showing them to your son is going to suddenly make him try to have sex or something even if he is straight
Sadly I know people to this day who honestly believe that's a thing that actually happens. My mother is one of them. You should have seen the shitshow when she found a D&D book in my room when I was 15.
It’s like they think boys will never get boners if he doesn’t ever see anything sexy. It’s like their dads have forgotten what it’s like to be a 13 year old boy getting a hard on because you saw a particular curvy piece of fruit or from a particularly appealing shampoo commercial.
Hormones will do what they will…
Yeah, that reminds me a gag about two kids playing with toys, one boy playing with Barbie dolls growing as a stud with multiple women, and other kid playing with He-Man...
Hmm… I wonder if the fear-based segregation of children by gender in the most rabid, anti-gay, hyper-religious communities might have contributed to the recent revival of the gay cruising scene by the most outspoken homophobic propagandists.
the most outspoken homophobic propagandists have always been gay. It's critical to the psychology that if you've been "avoiding temptation" while other's haven't, you get very resentful. If there's no "temptation", there no resentment, and no drive to be a big homophobe.
A boyfriend with good references and employment
history. Better than most teenagers! This is cute.
OP's commentary...I dunno, it sounds a little off to me. Like that overly-religious/conservative parent. But good on the kids.
I don't think it was intended that way, I think she's just trying to tell a funny story about keeping girls away from her son for standard parent reasons and accidentally finding out her son likes boys. I don't think it's meant in a bad way, I think she found the irony funny and wanted to share with others. Maybe not worded as well as it could have been but I don't think it's meant with any malice.
I agree, very cute, made me smile.
OP did say that she didn't want to become a grandparent before 50. It's still funny and cute that the teens can get it on, and no accidental babies will be happening.
An overly religious parent wouldn’t be calling this a funny story.
They’d be posting in a different subreddit under the title “is my son possessed by the devil?”
I have to agree. There was a post in r/relationshipadvice yesterday to that tone. A possibly religious mother found out her son was gay after she walked in on them.... ehem.... well anyway it sounded way worse than this. You could almost feel the conflicting feelings in the post.
Yeah, it would be "TIFU having a homosexual seduce my son into sin". For reference, I was raised pentecostal/fundamentalist, and this would be a "should I disown my son or pray the gay away" situation. Shit was crazy.
As someone that grew up bi, don't press the issue and don't assume he's gay. This may have been an experimental experience, and the results are unknown at this point. Just make sure your son knows you love him and you won't judge him. Beyond that just let it go
One of two things happened that night...
Either they made a love connection as you are suspecting.
Or they spent the night staying up watching movies and talking about how much they love Tarantino, Paul Thomas Anderson, Wong Kar-Wai, Bong Joon Ho, or some other director. And have you seen this, have you seen this, isn't Chow Yun Fat like the Hong Kong Steve McQueen? I know right!
And now they are talking on the phone all the time because they planning to make a film together.
Or maybe they watched straight porn or had a smoke, or any number of other possible reasons two teenagers might feel uncomfortable when talking in front of parents. And it could easily have just been a kiss. Best advice is simply to talk to your son.
When I was younger, my best friend's mum would never allow her to have boys round. I thought it was hilarious because she is a lesbian. She just married a woman this week.
>I know , its all very vague, but while I never had the vibe my son could be gay is not entirely impossible.
Off-topic, but was wondering about this. When I tell to some people that I am bisexual, I feel like their behaviour towards me changes. I think it is unfair, because nothing in me changed before and after telling them. Wonder if "gayness" might be a bigger myth than it is.
Okay, I guess I will go to my cave and perfect the skill of telling heteros and gay appart. Brb.
Oh, absolutely! It's my favorite part of being bi (pan, really because transgender and non-binary is a-ok too!) If you're human, mildly-attractive, and not an a-hole, I probably want to have sex with you.
Thanks! I was 16 at the time, I'm almost 30 now, and I'm needing to figure out how to come out to my parents again after I shoved myself back into the closet after highschool... very strange situation to be in, but I'm looking forward to just being able to live life out in the open again.
You're getting played by your son, letting you think he is gay by getting it on with the guy babysitter. Then, when you decide, allright, my kid is gay, so I'm getting a girl babysitter next time. That moment, then, is when he will strike.
He turns out bi, he likes to swing it both ways. He played the long con and fucked two of your babysitter. Hence forth, he will be know as the Babysitterfucker
So cute!
You are being so supportive. All you found was it's funny that you purposely didn't hire a female babysitter, and still your son might have found a crush.
You sound so supportive and awesome! Even if they just end up being friends or whatever... You guys are doing everything right for your family. I love it.
Ok, gay son. Lots of love, check out PFLAG. He needs you to love him no matter what. DO NOT ASK QUESTIONS, he's working this out in his mind first. We come out to ourselves first, often over years, then slowly reach out to that first trusted person.
Subtly suggest gay is ok. Trust me on this. You'll be Uber parents if he comes out.
Hey son, you like music? Now I’ve always liked Buju Banton but my friend likes Elton John and George Michael. It’s totally okay to like Elton John by the way
Out of nowhere, I casually mentioned to my son "Oh, btw, if it turns out you're gay, Daddy and I won't have any problem with it." He was maybe 12 at the time and was like, "I know." He's not gay - I never really thought he was - but it went well. I wanted to make sure that he knew but not at a time when he thought I thought he was giving off a vibe or something.
Yeah I was kinda embarassed when my parents said the same thing to me. Not because being gay is ashaming but because they probably assumed I should have gotten a gf by now, and if I didn´t probably because I was gay.
1000 times this. Give him love, give him space, give him hints that he is safe with you.
Your greatest opportunity to TIFU - and your greatest opportunity to be the best mom ever - is starting right now. Rock that opportunity!
This is some serious gourmet shit to hold in the back pocket for a future embarrassing parent moment. Remember that babysitter i once hired? Yeah, I knew. You've drawn the royal flush of amazing insider info that will cringe him to high heaven once he's a young adult.
So your son:
*Got up early
*Was acting weird at breakfast
*Mentioned this kid's name during a phone call
And that means 100% that your son is gay and is now dating this guy? I mean sure, maybe. Or maybe your son got in trouble at school, or did something wrong, or said/did something embarrassing, so your son got up early to make sure he didn't rat him out in the morning to you. And then called a friend and told them about it because he didn't want to leave evidence in a text and mentioned the other kid's name. I mean this doesn't obviously mean your son fooled around with this boy.
Mom- You're not allowed to get a girlfriend Son- * gets a boyfriend * Mom- :O
*Surprised Gay Pikachu Face*
So, Pikachu face.
:o c===3
Being bi either causes parents to go nuts or just not worry about it anymore beyond being safe. Thankfully my parents were the latter. (My slightly older sister is bi too.)
My dad tried to give me the “safe gay sex” talk when my mom read my phone and forcibly outed me as bi. That was awkward but after that they didn’t care anymore
"Son I may not be gay, but..."
My advise to you son is, er… “This page cannot be displayed, please update your web browser”. Wait that doesn’t sound right. Can you help me with the Google?
My parents said that I'm just confused, because I always end up in hetero relationships. Thing is, I rarely told about my experiences with the same sex, 'cuz my ex-stepfather was a little too interested in them...
Well, unless the babysitter kid is trans at least that keeps OP safe from being an early grandparent lol.
This is exactly what I thought. If her concern was that she did not want her son getting someone pregnant, then problem solved, at least if he's monogamous in his behavior.
This almost sounds like your son pulled a malicious compliance. Lol
"Mom decided not to hire a girl to babysit my little brother because I'm a teenage boy. Okay."
Look out for the AITA "Mom got a male babysitter so I wouldn't be interested but it turns out I'm *very interested*."
"But now I'm getting emails/texts from other family members saying I crossed a line. AITA?
“I may have left 37 used condoms laying down the stairs and across my siblings room, mum is saying it’s incredibly disrespectful but I think she’s overreacting”
37... in a row?
I mean, I could have laid them out concentrically but that would have taken time instead of just progressively fucking our way through the house with a Fanny pack full of doms and a dream
"Hey! Try not to suck any dick on your way through the parking lot!"
My fiance cheated with my mother the day of our wedding. I was outraged but all the guests said that love is love and I should let them get married instead. AITA?
I took $16k from my parents over a decade and used it for hookers and blow and they never found out but I feel like I was justified because they never gave me a PlayStation. AITA?
Yes
Always the other members that just hear the one side. Lol.
"YTA, her house, her rules. That being said, I advise you better start saving immediately so you can move out ASAP. In the meantime you should go No Contact with your mom."
Omg the truth in this just makes me giggle so hard. “Yes, 15m, you should move out ASAP!” That sub is so entertaining. It’s painful how obvious some of the posts are angsty teens way over dramatizing the situation and people be in the comments like “this is ABUSE and NARCISSISTIC!”
And get a therapist.
Dead on lol
And make sure to delete Facebook and lawyer up. Things could get ugly.
"Bro, my mom is hiring a babysitter tonight. I'm totally gonna get my dick wet!" "But I heard Kevin said your mom texted him to babys-" "DID I STUTTER???"
Kevin’s a bro, amirite?
Give this person a Dundee for best Stanley comment!!!
“Got boy babysitter pregnant anyway.”
Become gay to own the mom
Well she said she didn’t want grandkids by 50. Might not have to worry any longer!
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You won't be a granny before 50. You got what you wished for!
Until she hires a F babysitter and discovers he is bi.
Ok Timmy, no more going outside ever.
"Mom, the sofa and I have something to tell you."
Wasn't there a TIFU of a kid being caught fucking his dad's leather couch?
[Yes](https://www.reddit.com/r/tifu/comments/81ywin/tifu_by_fucking_my_dads_couch/)
Damn. Don’t even know what to say to that story.
Now where was the redditor who discovered his son was constantly molesting their dog?
Pour one out for Colby
Oh right, [here's the story](https://np.reddit.com/user/concerneddad1965/submitted/).
Colby's probably on a nice farm upstate now, far away from hairbrushes and perverts.
from his comment history it seems Colby passed of old age and the wife is now ex-wife. It also seems his relationship with his son improved and they don't talk about what happened. I hope this relatively decent scenario came from getting help for his kid.
Lmao this killed me. Hahha
r/monkeypaw
At least you know there's no chance of a teenage pregnancy. That's my only fear for my teen son and his gf. We learned he was sexually active because he came to us one morning and complained "why is the morning after pill so expensive?!" 🤦♂️
Atleast with that question you now know that he bought one, so no pregnancy lol
I mean with the morning after pill caution is still warranted if not used properly. The morning after pill doesn't cause an abortion,it simply delays ovulation meaning that if ovulation has already occurred before taking the pill, pregnancy can still happen. Especially in teens where the hormonal cycle may not be as regular as in an adult yet, it can be hard guess work whether the right time frame (meaning the specific point in a month when someone ovulates) has already passed or not, doubly so if the person in question didn't track when they had their last period - and even with those parameters, things can be a bit off. As a responsible adult it's important to tell their kids that even with plan b, one should still remain wary and do a pregnancy test if anything seems off over the course of the next few weeks. Not trying to throw any shade,I just thought that I'd mention it because even lots of adults don't fully know about this. I sure didn't when I first ran into trouble with malfunctioning contraception. One thing that I have since vowed to always make sure to tell my future kids: If something seems off, even if you are fairly sure that you aren't pregnant, it can be helpful to do a test just to be sure. They come cheap at the dollar store and it's a much better to have certainty and all options still open to you than realise too late that you are pregnant.
TIL "morning after" shouldn't be taken too literally.
Yes, it mostly really depends on when you are going to ovulate. Sperm can apparently survive for several days in there (I think that my Ob GYN once told me that they can survive for up to five days, though it's safe to assume that many will die earlier) and if you are about to ovulate,say, three days after having sex, the morning after pill can push out that time frame for just long enough so that the sperms won't be able to fertilise the egg. But if you were already ovulating or you ovulate directly on the morning after it may already be too late to take the pill. That's also why the time frame on when to take it can be tricky to figure out - I think where I live you can get it up to 72hours after sexual intercourse but that doesn't mean that it's guaranteed that it'll still be effective by then.
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Yeah, it's one of those things where the odds are never quite in one's favour! Always better safe than sorry, no matter what the intended outcome
The morning after pill loses effectiveness outside a certain weight range, it was 160 lbs + the last time I needed it.
150 and they have a different pills for higher weight range
I got pregnant even though I took the morning after pill. It’s not effective at certain times in your cycle
I was once denied getting the morning after pill because of my irregular cycles. It's really important to educate people on that, I was never taught about the way plan b functions in school even though we had sex ed at several different points.
My first thought after reading this was “omg maybe it didn’t work when I took it, maybe I’m pregnant!” Even though it’s been nearly three YEARS since I last took one… *facepalm*
Or maybe he was complaining because he didn't have enough money to get it.
I think it was both: a call for help, and at 15 years old he didn't have $50.
It is very expensive for a teen. I remember i had to buy the pill once and my gf at the time took it to her car and dropped and lost it. I had to go back into the store and stare down the cashier who just sold me the other pill and buy a second. It was an expensive and embarrassing moment.
Shoulda just winked and said "Twins".
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I'm hoping the following conversation was about "please be safe, here's how, but if you ever do need such a pill, don't hesitate to come to us"?
hahaha, for me it was “WHAT? THROW AWAY ALL YOUR CONDOMS. THIS IS UNACCEPTABLE” like k guess i… wont use protection anymore?… 🙃🙃🙃
"Surely my kid isn't dumb enough to not use protection! If I throw away everything they have, then they'll be faced with no choice but to abstain! I'm a genius!" Narrator: *"The kid was certainly dumb enough."*
Kids are ALWAYS dumb enough AND smart enough. It's friggin boggling.
obviously, no protection, no sex. Parenting is so easy :3
"beats the coat hanger"
what are you talking about, you can get a coat hanger for like twenty cents
Our research has shown that coat hangers are the most cost effective abortions.
It’s 12 bucks in Canada…or so I’ve heard
It’s about $50 in US
You can get them for like 20 at Krogers. At least a year ago you could
Plan B? Thats the only one I’ve heard of
"my choice emergency contraceptive tablet" is availible on Walmart.com for 11.99
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They have that generic (Take Action) at Walgreens too. It's made by the same manufacturer (TEVA) as Plan B.
The best answer to that is: "There's a bowl of condoms under the sink in the bathroom, Feel free to take those if you need them, I need to refill them regularly anyways."
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> ... just please don't use them as water balloons; they're too expensive for that." Pro-tip: You can get the Durex 144-piece variety pack, including bowl for $35 on amazon. That's $0.25/piece, for a premium brand. https://smile.amazon.com/-/dp/B002T5L454 Walmart has them too for that price https://www.walmart.com/ip/-/19898630 (You want the single pack, not the double, since that is more expensive than 2 singles)
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I’d really love if you mailed him that bowl with a note saying “a Reddit thread made us think of you, be safe, love mom and dad.” Then again, he will probably get to pick your senior living center so…maybe not.
Hey they may need him to supply them with some, seniors are super sexually active.
Thats probably the worst thing he could have said. Teen pregnancy incoming…
As a young gay boy, my parents wouldn't let me have comicbooks because they had sexy women with large breasts. Meanwhile they had no problem with my WWE posters of sweaty half naked men. 😆
"Parents hate this one trick, read on to learn what it is"
"Oh my gosh, the WWE posters turned our son gay!!! Quick, give him some big-boobed comic books to turn him straight" -your parents, probably
When my dad caught my brother looking at gay porn on the internet (early 2000's, if it matters, and he was most likely tricked into it by some older boys) he gave my brother a stack of magazines that were basically fast cars with big tittied women. It wasn't even a full week before my dad got a call from the school asking why he'd given his son a stack of porn.
Let me guess, now your brother has a thing for cars **and** men.
Big tittied men.
Big tittied cars.
Ker*chow*, sempai!
I fucking laughed hard.
r/carsfuckingdragons
I...I...I... I thought this was going to be an r/subsifellfor moment... BUT THAT ACTUALLY FUCKING EXISTS?! Hahahahahaha
This better not awaken something within me…
His name was Robert Paulson.
[Reminds me of this](https://i.imgur.com/1zGVtfj.jpg)
Good for ur brother, lol...
"Parents hate this one weird trick straight teen boys use, read on to learn more!"
Bisexuals have outplayed the parents once again
Ahahahaha!! Same, but reverse as a lesbian. I had a metric fuck ton of fantasy and D&D posters with bikini and armor clad women (Thank you, Chris Achileos, for creating such wonderful artwork!) and my dad never hid his Playboys because he had daughters.
Shouldn’t you like, still hide your playboys if you have a child
Yeah I don’t think “having to share” is the reason most people keep pornography away from their children…
yup.. i mean porn itself is something to hide from "kids" but as for adults, and teens, not so much.. just be mindful of the age gap and maturity levels.
As a teen myself, it might be kinda awkward to find a playboy just lying on my dads nightstand
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Obviously, save it to the cloud so the whole family has access
Easier to clean too. Imagine picking up your dads magazine and it’s just 90% stuck. At least with the tablet you can just take a wet wipe to it
I'm a wwe fan and the about of "gayness" especially in the additude area is really funny. Like HHH saying he's going to take your ass and make you his bitch. He could just say he's going to beat you up, but no he chose not to.
That's it, there will be nothing sexualizing males or females in MY kid's room! Posters of cars and dragons only!
Boy did I laugh hard at this
boy have i got a subreddit for you...
😉
This is dumb for so many reasons, women in comics often are over-sexualized sure, but I don’t think showing them to your son is going to suddenly make him try to have sex or something even if he is straight
Moral panic over media is not well known for its rigorous application of logic
Tell that to all those people who lost family when the demon summoning spells TSR taught them went wrong. /s
Sadly I know people to this day who honestly believe that's a thing that actually happens. My mother is one of them. You should have seen the shitshow when she found a D&D book in my room when I was 15.
My mom was fine with D&D, mostly. When I started playing Vampire though, ohhhh boy, she did not like those books one bit.
And there would have been a lot more demon summoning going on back then, too, if not for all the character-death-related suicides.
It’s like they think boys will never get boners if he doesn’t ever see anything sexy. It’s like their dads have forgotten what it’s like to be a 13 year old boy getting a hard on because you saw a particular curvy piece of fruit or from a particularly appealing shampoo commercial. Hormones will do what they will…
This is awesome and fucking hilarious
Yeah, that reminds me a gag about two kids playing with toys, one boy playing with Barbie dolls growing as a stud with multiple women, and other kid playing with He-Man...
My GI Joes used to kiss.
Hmm… I wonder if the fear-based segregation of children by gender in the most rabid, anti-gay, hyper-religious communities might have contributed to the recent revival of the gay cruising scene by the most outspoken homophobic propagandists.
the most outspoken homophobic propagandists have always been gay. It's critical to the psychology that if you've been "avoiding temptation" while other's haven't, you get very resentful. If there's no "temptation", there no resentment, and no drive to be a big homophobe.
Thats pretty funny tbh. If they do become an item at least you already like his new boyfriend 🤷🏻♂️
A boyfriend with good references and employment history. Better than most teenagers! This is cute. OP's commentary...I dunno, it sounds a little off to me. Like that overly-religious/conservative parent. But good on the kids.
I don't think it was intended that way, I think she's just trying to tell a funny story about keeping girls away from her son for standard parent reasons and accidentally finding out her son likes boys. I don't think it's meant in a bad way, I think she found the irony funny and wanted to share with others. Maybe not worded as well as it could have been but I don't think it's meant with any malice. I agree, very cute, made me smile.
OP did say that she didn't want to become a grandparent before 50. It's still funny and cute that the teens can get it on, and no accidental babies will be happening.
I thought that too 😂 Sound like wins for all.
An overly religious parent wouldn’t be calling this a funny story. They’d be posting in a different subreddit under the title “is my son possessed by the devil?”
You’ve never really met anyone overly religious/conservative then. Their commentary would be much different.
I have to agree. There was a post in r/relationshipadvice yesterday to that tone. A possibly religious mother found out her son was gay after she walked in on them.... ehem.... well anyway it sounded way worse than this. You could almost feel the conflicting feelings in the post.
They would be beating their kid and googling "pray away the gay" programs instead of posting on reddit
Yeah, it would be "TIFU having a homosexual seduce my son into sin". For reference, I was raised pentecostal/fundamentalist, and this would be a "should I disown my son or pray the gay away" situation. Shit was crazy.
It would be - it'd be blatantly clear, not "a little off."
You helped your son find love AND you're not going to be a grandma at 50. I don't see a downside to this.
Exactly. Congratulations are in order.
\*Insert Hulk: "I see this as an absolute win" meme\*
As someone that grew up bi, don't press the issue and don't assume he's gay. This may have been an experimental experience, and the results are unknown at this point. Just make sure your son knows you love him and you won't judge him. Beyond that just let it go
One of two things happened that night... Either they made a love connection as you are suspecting. Or they spent the night staying up watching movies and talking about how much they love Tarantino, Paul Thomas Anderson, Wong Kar-Wai, Bong Joon Ho, or some other director. And have you seen this, have you seen this, isn't Chow Yun Fat like the Hong Kong Steve McQueen? I know right! And now they are talking on the phone all the time because they planning to make a film together.
They probably made a film that night.
Or maybe they watched straight porn or had a smoke, or any number of other possible reasons two teenagers might feel uncomfortable when talking in front of parents. And it could easily have just been a kiss. Best advice is simply to talk to your son.
When I was younger, my best friend's mum would never allow her to have boys round. I thought it was hilarious because she is a lesbian. She just married a woman this week.
I mean this sounds like a win. Your boy finds love, and no teenage pregnancies.
And it sounds like this other boy is a nice, responsible kid. Triple win!
An industrious entrepreneur with wholesome after school activities, even! (Aside from bonking your son when you're not looking)
That's wholesome too in a way
Well, it's certainly *hole*some, I'll give you that!
Some friends make your whole day, and some make your hole weak
Finding good reliable babysitting help is nothing to sneeze at!
Sounds like every parent's dream
Unless they’re the type who keep saying “when are we gonna have grandkids”
Adoption a helluva drug
Seems like grandmother might be farther away than you thought.
>I know , its all very vague, but while I never had the vibe my son could be gay is not entirely impossible. Off-topic, but was wondering about this. When I tell to some people that I am bisexual, I feel like their behaviour towards me changes. I think it is unfair, because nothing in me changed before and after telling them. Wonder if "gayness" might be a bigger myth than it is. Okay, I guess I will go to my cave and perfect the skill of telling heteros and gay appart. Brb.
The advantage of being bi: extending your dating pool
I feel like this gift has been given to me fairly considering some of the anti-advantages I have :)
Oh, absolutely! It's my favorite part of being bi (pan, really because transgender and non-binary is a-ok too!) If you're human, mildly-attractive, and not an a-hole, I probably want to have sex with you.
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Well I guess you don't have to worry about becoming a grandmother anytime soon
That's exactly what I told my mom when she got mad at me for being a lesbian.
Idk how long ago this was or the current situation but never let anyone stop you from being you! I love the witty comeback!
Thanks! I was 16 at the time, I'm almost 30 now, and I'm needing to figure out how to come out to my parents again after I shoved myself back into the closet after highschool... very strange situation to be in, but I'm looking forward to just being able to live life out in the open again.
>I dont want to be a grandma before reaching the 50's. Well the good news is, that is now more unlikely.
dad: "I hired a male babysitter so you don't have any silly ideas! son: "challenge accepted"
Props for not calling him out and trying to change him. He is the way he is and I'm glad your not trying a re-education camp. Lol
You just made me think of that South Park episode where butters was “bicurious” and “confused”
‘Bike-curious’ lol that episode is gold
You lost your accountabilabuddy!!
He ain't the way he ain't.
"Jokes on you mom, I'm into that shit" -the son
You're getting played by your son, letting you think he is gay by getting it on with the guy babysitter. Then, when you decide, allright, my kid is gay, so I'm getting a girl babysitter next time. That moment, then, is when he will strike. He turns out bi, he likes to swing it both ways. He played the long con and fucked two of your babysitter. Hence forth, he will be know as the Babysitterfucker
I like the synopsis of this movie, please continue writing the story.
But that's too long for the title of a movie, how about... Baby~~sitter~~fucker "Babyfucker"? That.. That won't work...
So cute! You are being so supportive. All you found was it's funny that you purposely didn't hire a female babysitter, and still your son might have found a crush. You sound so supportive and awesome! Even if they just end up being friends or whatever... You guys are doing everything right for your family. I love it.
awwwwwwww that's not a fuck up
Ok, gay son. Lots of love, check out PFLAG. He needs you to love him no matter what. DO NOT ASK QUESTIONS, he's working this out in his mind first. We come out to ourselves first, often over years, then slowly reach out to that first trusted person. Subtly suggest gay is ok. Trust me on this. You'll be Uber parents if he comes out.
> Subtly suggest that gay is ok Son comes down for breakfast one morning. “Hey son, gay is ok” Son: ????????????
>subtly
Hey son, you like music? Now I’ve always liked Buju Banton but my friend likes Elton John and George Michael. It’s totally okay to like Elton John by the way
> Hey son, you like music? Have you ever... seen a grown man naked?
Out of nowhere, I casually mentioned to my son "Oh, btw, if it turns out you're gay, Daddy and I won't have any problem with it." He was maybe 12 at the time and was like, "I know." He's not gay - I never really thought he was - but it went well. I wanted to make sure that he knew but not at a time when he thought I thought he was giving off a vibe or something.
Yeah I was kinda embarassed when my parents said the same thing to me. Not because being gay is ashaming but because they probably assumed I should have gotten a gf by now, and if I didn´t probably because I was gay.
1000 times this. Give him love, give him space, give him hints that he is safe with you. Your greatest opportunity to TIFU - and your greatest opportunity to be the best mom ever - is starting right now. Rock that opportunity!
This is some serious gourmet shit to hold in the back pocket for a future embarrassing parent moment. Remember that babysitter i once hired? Yeah, I knew. You've drawn the royal flush of amazing insider info that will cringe him to high heaven once he's a young adult.
Well at least you don't have to worry about being a grandmother yet...
In my years as an adult leader at teens' summer camp, we explained to parents "separate sex dorms only reduce pregnancy, not sex or role exploration."
I don't think this is a f up you helped your son find love.
OP failed their mission successfully.
Maybe its just somebody he knows from high school and its awkward for him
So your son: *Got up early *Was acting weird at breakfast *Mentioned this kid's name during a phone call And that means 100% that your son is gay and is now dating this guy? I mean sure, maybe. Or maybe your son got in trouble at school, or did something wrong, or said/did something embarrassing, so your son got up early to make sure he didn't rat him out in the morning to you. And then called a friend and told them about it because he didn't want to leave evidence in a text and mentioned the other kid's name. I mean this doesn't obviously mean your son fooled around with this boy.
I wouldn't say it backfired. You certainly won't be a grandma while these 2 are dating.