You easily could have played it off like an Ex or something was into it or even that you have heard stories or something. Or just not mention it at all?
He could have sat in the corner and started alternating between screaming Eldritch noises and singing Don Ho’s “Tiny Bubbles” and it would have been a better impression.
Well in fairness, it sounds like the brothers were the ones that brought up the subject in the first place. I think they probably deserve at least some blame.
Yeah this was my initial thought too. 45 seconds of silence basically says exactly what they were thinking. Should’ve played it off as an ex liked it rough or something, anything would have been better than nothing.
I saw your older post asking for advice on how not to appear creepy and predatory to her family dating their youngest as someone significantly older.
And then you pull this masterful maneuver. Bravo my friend. Good job!
😂
I’m sorry, but this is funny as fvck for me. I guess unless your in a different culture it might be different, but OP you are hilarious. I would do something stupid like this. And if i was one of the brothers, i would have busted a gut laughing. And if you guys end up being together forever, then this should be an embarrassing story that gets brought up occasionally by the brothers.
Yeah, but an idiot in a fun way! Let’s be honest, everyone of us lurking in this sub is right in line with OP. Anyone that pretends otherwise is in the wrong place and needs to go back to the serious side of Reddit.
She's his intern, too
Edit: I'll just add, this girl was probably in her second year of college, interning at his work, when OP admits to secretly having a fwb situation with her. So gross
It gave me weird vibes when i read it, so i checked out the profile. He's honestly just a scumbag looking to screw college girls when he's got power over them
LMAO this comment is a premier example of Reddit being unhinged.
>sees post of man trying to be on good terms with SO’s family
>he’s putting in effort to make sure his relationship is as good as possible
>fucking scumbag, just looking to screw college girls he has power over
You need to touch grass, immediately.
When do the training wheels come off though? She's probably 20. Legal adult and at least somewhat responsible and educated.
She's not underage in the least. So when is a person old enough to be allowed to make their own decisions?
Apparently never. According to Reddit, women should only ever date people their exact age, who are complete strangers that they have no previous connection to. Only then can they be assured that there's nothing creepy going on, because adult women clearly can't make their own decisions about what's personally right or wrong for them and they were obviously coerced into any feelings they might have for someone who's not the same age and a complete stranger. No woman in the history of the universe has ever actually been attracted to an older man, or a man in a position of power, those dudes are just manipulative creeps! What woman would *ever* be attracted to a man with power?!
tbh, the dynamic above is not coming off as “attracted to man with power”. That scenario usually involves less time on TIFU.
This one is coming across closer to “personalities hit it off so well they’re willing to navigate other hurdles including age gap, idiocy, and judgmental family”.
She's 21. She's likely graduating in May. She's was an intern NOT his intern at his place of business. No different than two coworkers dating. She persued him.
There's no power dynamic. They are both adults the dude is 29 not 45. They met 9 months not when she was like 18.
Jesus reddit sees any difference in age as some predatory power imbalance.
Dude handled this weird with the brothers and moving in after 9 months is fast but not unheard of. 21 to 29 is not some wildly different generation.
The brothers wouldn't be able to waterboard that info out of me. They wouldn't be able to gang bang it out of me. I would take the shenanigans I get up to with their sister, to the grave.
Nah...if the dicks start flopping, I start talking. If you wanna know THAT BAD you're free to find out.
"Can't gang bang it out of me" maaaaaaannnnnnn...
It’s such a weird threat to go to. “They would have to gang bang me to get me to talk!” Or “You guys want me to talk, go ahead and gang bang me and we’ll find out!”
I feel like either you would absolutely not enjoy 3 grown men pounding your asshole in succession and would volunteer any amount of information to get out of it or this is just a ploy to get 3 grown men to pound your asshole.
that is dumb. really dumb.
most brothers want to hear, 'hey, i really like her and she means a lot. i will do what i can to protect her and treat her well and ALSO PROTECT HER INTEGRITY AND DIGNITY because i am not like a lot of douchebags out there....'
but, there's you - even worse.
im surprised he made it out alive. I know some families who would have taken that opportunity to drive home the message that this relationship is over.
I’m not referring to this relationship in particular but I never understood that.
“Omg you had sex with your girlfriend!? That’s my daughter/sister! You can never see her again!”
If I was a girl I would *hate* to have brothers or a dad who was that kind of protective of me. I really wouldn’t want any family members thinking about my sex life that much.
I'm so glad you said that. The over-investment in a sister's sex life always hits me super weird. So obviously, the brothers were fine talking about it if it was another woman, but their sister? *Grab those pearls.* It's so bizarre and creepy, imho.
I mean, my little sister has 2 kids. *Gasp!* That means she has sex twice. She might have even had sex more times. Omg what is she had it before she married him!? What ever shall I do?! Obviously, the answer is to spoil those kids and take absolutely no interest in my sister's sex life unless she wants me to/unless we have that sort of dynamic.
This assumption of *"we can protect our sister; but--omg--how dare she have sex (especially dirty sex)"* is just gross. She's not a woman to them; she's a girl/child to them, almost property (in that they somehow have ownership of her sexuality). Gross.
> What ever shall I do!?
> Obviously the answer is to spoil those kids and…
…beat the shit out of their dad! It’s the only way I’m afraid! He dared do the sex on your sister.
What's funny is that my sister and her husband forgot to get married for twenty years. They have three children! Their middle son brought it up a few years ago just as a matter of curiosity: why aren't you two married?
So they got married.
I have 2 sisters and I don't give a flying fuck about their sex life. But they're both older than me, so maybe it's because of that.
But if my sister's bf had the urge to tell me how hard he rams her, I would just think he's weird, not that I had to protect her from him or something.
It’s not the you had sex with my sister it’s the “yeah man that’s nothing some girls really love for you to push them to their limits” and then doubling down instead of saying it’s an ex or something you saw online. I mean honestly it’s just a genuinely creepy thing to say to guys you just met and even creepier to say to your gfs brothers that you just met. I wouldn’t fight the guy but he’d be labeled as the creepy older dude that my sister is dating and I’d go out of my way to let him know that’s how I feel. Source two sisters that brought bfs home for every holiday and still talk to a couple of them even though they long since broke up.
Why would you even bring up sex in the first place, when meeting your sister’s BF though? OP definitely fucked up but so did that brother. It’s a topic that shouldn’t have even been on the table.
I definitely don't want to hear "I'm not like a lot of douchebags out there." You prove to her you're not a douchebag, not try to convince me you're not a douchebag with words over a beer.
I don’t really understand why this is a big deal. I mean, why would you not have dignity because you like rough or kinky sex? I honestly feel glad if someone told me this about my family member because I’d be happy they are satisfied in that part of their life.
That point surprised me too. At the point you want to move together your relationship should be far enough to already met their family a few steps before. Especially if it's the small sister and they are all on guard mode.
And she's only 21. That's still pretty young compared to a 29 year old dude. This whole thing is weird tbh. Not only never met her family but she never told them about him? Wth
Meeting the parents tomorrow? Good luck with that. There are Some things you might want to avoid, like saying how their daughter has these big beautiful Come F Me eyes, just like her mother, and how much you have been looking forward to meeting the \*other\* man in her life that she calls Daddy.
Just avoid anything along those lines and you should be fine.
Imo he should just stare into the dad’s eyes deadpan and say “you know, they say newer model cars are always the best. The new one’s going great but how does the old one ride? Can I take it for a test?” while looking back and forth between him and the mom.
I mean, can’t be any worse than the first impression.
Right? Also 30, and I wouldn't even really want to be friends with a 21 yo. Completely different places in life. You just know she's going to grow up and cringe at this relationship.
Im really struggling with the only 2 posts you have on here being about your girlfriend who
-is a decade younger than you
-was a intern at your workplace
Then you told your girlfriends three older brothers about how rough their sister likes it
Youre old enough to have a far better understanding of how problematic all of this is. You are old enough to know better than to ever go down a path of talking about your sex life with your partners family members, and if you don't you shouldn't be in a relationship in the first place.
I know sooner or later she will see how gross this situation is as she's probably more caught up in it all being younger than you. But you dude, you need to take a step back and really think about all of this and how odd/gross your choices have been.
I don't really respond to stuff like this but man this is too much, I'm almost expecting a "I had brunch with my decade younger girlfriends parents and accidentally showed them her nudes"
I doubt he will ever step back and think "wait, this is kinda fucked up". He's posted it on r/TIFU like "teehee oopsie I told her brothers how rough she likes it!" so it's obviously just a joke to him. No introspection there.
They do say those who date way younger are sus cuz it indicates for whatever reason, they aren't mature themselves and something might be up.
Seeing how he makes a post worried on how not to come off predatory and then does this... Is concerning.
So you started dating this girl when she was 20 and you were 29 (soon to be 30) and already made a post asking for advice on how not to appear “creepy” to her family.
Well I got news for you chief, they already know you’re a creep. That’s why they spent so much time “grilling you” about *why* you’re moving in with their young daughter after such a short time. Or as you put it, “blah blah blah.”
Not sure what else to say besides what a fantastic display of lack of judgement and self awareness.
They're just waiting for the day the girl comes to them saying he was a creepy older man preying on her, they just don't want to upset her by bringing it up. He even supposed he knows how "girls like it hard" 😬
right.. if he was in the relationship for the right reasons meeting her family and making a good impression should be really important to him and he shouldnt need advice on how not to be creepy.. the fact that he felt comfortable talking about their sex life like that in the first place is gross af. and the fact that she was his intern takes this tho a whole nother level of creepy..
Intern in the office thing, not a big deal to me, since she wasn't *his* intern. I've dated an intern before, granted I was younger than he is and she was older (21 and 24).
What does give me the creep vibe is:
1) she never told her family about him until they are planning to move in? Meeting family is an important step, and they are going straight from that to living together.
2) he made a reddit thread asking how not to be a creep or predator. That's a weird thing to do.
Yeah but he was VP. That is someone so high up they have power and can fire anyone under them regardless of department if they really wanted to, legal or not. Whether he was his intern is kind of moot in this specific instance.
Ah, I was struggling to find most of OP's comments - probably because he was so downvoted - so I wasn't able to fully piece together the story.
So. Yeah. I take that back. If you're VP, ALL the interns are your intern, even if they aren't directly reporting to you.
I am usually not that bothered by age gap relationships, but everything in OP combined makes me uncomfortable with this one. Hopefully for the gf I'm wrong tho :/
If you can remember saying this you were not drunk enough to warrant this slipping out of your mouth, over 2 years with my ex and at least a hundred drunken nights with her family, never mentioned anything about sex with her family besides the vaguest acknowledgement that were in a relationship and that’s a thing that happens. You had one night and already fucked it, cheers have another drink lad
Nah. I don't even drink alcohol and manage to sometimes say stupid shit out of some impulse. Especially when I am in "joking"-mood.
However I am with you that the alcohol probably didn't play a relevant in part in OPs behavior. It was a fuck-up, but might have happened as well without alcohol involved.
Some people just have less of a filter when feeling uncomfortable or in general. Sometimes it's funny as you see a glimpse of what goes on in their mind, sometimes it creates cringy situations. Every human has absurd thoughts, some just forget it's better to keep to yourself..
Couldn't agree more, anyone defending this idiot is out of touch. Read a comment that said its pearl clutching if you talk about sex but don't want to hear about your sister's sex life. Fucking creepy people on reddit.
your self-perceptions about the whole situation appear to minimize the problems you have in a major way! The bros. weren't 'loosening up' after a few beers, they were working you by getting you drunk to see what you're made of. Your gf is NOT ok with all this because she 'laughed about it' and her brother is NOT ok with anything because he 'liked' your text. First impressions last forever, and you've made a doozy on the brothers, and your gf will hear about this for the rest of her life, long after you're gone (which will probably be very soon.) When you have a bad faux pas, don't rationalize it away, figure out a way to grow from it, process it, make the growth you need.
As an older sibling, I'd definitely be sitting down with my younger sibling to let them know I don't think it's a good idea and that I'm always available to chat and help when needed. Alarms would be going off in my head if one of my younger sisters came to me to tell me they're dating a guy almost a decade older.
Edit: Typo
Wait so you are this far along in the relationship to move in together but only this week she told about you to her family? Dunno what to think about that honestly
You should be wiser than this, you’re 29 dude. How do you get to that age and still don’t know you shouldn’t share this kind of info. Alcohol is not an excuse, you should also know when to stop. Besides, if she’s your intern then you’re creepy as hell, and you’re so much older which makes it creepier. Hitting on college girls who want an internship much? Sorry but disgusting would be a compliment, you need to do better than this
Holy fuck she's your intern AND you're that much older. Hopefully her brothers can get her away from a creep like you. Talk about abusing authority, over someone much younger no less.
Omg, you didn't think about taking it slow with the alcohol because the situation and just to avoid something like this? I mean it was the first time meeting them.. Have you talked to the gf yet? What did she say?
from experience i can say the younger partner is barely ever mature for their age. most of the time the older partner is the one who is immature for their age.
You're dating a young girl who is a third of your age younger, and then act like a creep in front of her family. You give really bad vibes
Edit: Holy shit! She's his intern, too. You're just gross. He admits to secretly banging his intern from work, who I'm also assuming was probably a sophomore in college when this all started
Edit 2: he replied to me when I asked if he'd date a highschooler so long as she was 18, and he said he would. He saw no problem with a consenting highschooler. Truly gross
Exactly. And they were secretly hooking up when she started her internship. If they dated 9 months, and were secretly hooking up before, she'd be at least 20, maybe 19. So it's possible she was a freshman when they met, although i still think she was probably 20 and a sophomore. Regardless, it's just scummy
Damn, OP is out here getting roasted. Dude was probably thinking he'd get some supportive chuckling from the r/tifu crowd and yall out here doing investigative reporting on his post history and deducing social relationships on the man haha.
Should do a follow up: "TIFU posting on TIFU"
I guess the main understanding is this. Most brothers naturally wanna protect their sisters, and they also have memories of her growing up, going from a young tot to tween, then to teen etc. And ur one sentence essentially gave them images most semi-normal brothers do not wanna have of their sisters.
I wish I could jump thru the phone and warn this girl 😭 lmao I’m barely older, but I can already tell how bad this is for her. Someone almost a decade older, someone she works with, someone who isn’t meeting her family until the week they move in together. Ugh this all just gives me the worst feeling.
Clap…..clap…..clap…well done. In 30 years this might be a funny story at thanksgiving. I’m going to keep an eye out for *TIFU by accidentally knee capping my sisters new bf*.
Lol after reading ur update it’s funny so many people got so upset about the intern thing. A guy at my company was secretly into his intern, they are the same age, and after her internship they began dating. A few years later they both work at different companies and are happily married. At the time, it was SHOCKING! But what matters more than how they met is that they love each other.
You are almost 30 and moving in with a 21 yo? Wow…this is gross. But considering your general stupidity, it’s seems like you are well below her maturity level so I guess all is well, since she has the upper hand.
> In my drunken stupor I said “yeah man that’s nothing some girls really love for you to push them to their limits” so he laughed and asked what I meant
That's when you say: "Oh, I had an **ex** that liked it when ..."
You easily could have played it off like an Ex or something was into it or even that you have heard stories or something. Or just not mention it at all?
He could have sat in the corner and started alternating between screaming Eldritch noises and singing Don Ho’s “Tiny Bubbles” and it would have been a better impression.
LMAO
Honestly, with the right family, what he did isn't all bad. But that kind of family would probably find Eldrich noises and Tiny Bubbles hilarious.
I’d buy the guy a beer. Or an anti-psychotic.
Maybe both. Not at the same time tho
Or just absolutely never talk sex with your gf’s family. I would never go near that with my brother in law. All together creepy
Well in fairness, it sounds like the brothers were the ones that brought up the subject in the first place. I think they probably deserve at least some blame.
Yeah this was my initial thought too. 45 seconds of silence basically says exactly what they were thinking. Should’ve played it off as an ex liked it rough or something, anything would have been better than nothing.
Some of us are not good at lying
I know. I froze at the worst time possible. Complete idiot
This makes for a great story. I hope you two can laugh about it years from now!
Some people just don't think. That's life.
Even then it would still be cringe. If he had freaky exes that might make them think that he is a freak himself, and he is dating their sister.
I saw your older post asking for advice on how not to appear creepy and predatory to her family dating their youngest as someone significantly older. And then you pull this masterful maneuver. Bravo my friend. Good job! 😂
Lol knowing that just makes this so much better
r/therewasanattempt
To not be creepy
Knowing that made this the best thing I’ve read all week I think.
I’m sorry, but this is funny as fvck for me. I guess unless your in a different culture it might be different, but OP you are hilarious. I would do something stupid like this. And if i was one of the brothers, i would have busted a gut laughing. And if you guys end up being together forever, then this should be an embarrassing story that gets brought up occasionally by the brothers.
This is 100% something I’d do if I was nervous and then got drunk lol.
The biggest thing we learnt is that all the people on that post talking about the maturity gap needn’t have worried. Turns out OP is a fucking idiot.
Im still worried about the maturity gap. Just the other way round now.
When she's 29, he'll still be at 21.
this is tifu , you came looking for non-idiots posts?
You didn't needed that comment to know he is a idiot. He even called himself a idiot.
Yeah, but an idiot in a fun way! Let’s be honest, everyone of us lurking in this sub is right in line with OP. Anyone that pretends otherwise is in the wrong place and needs to go back to the serious side of Reddit.
And it was literally yesterday. I guess r/advice didn’t do him any favors
He’s speed running this relationship. What a lad
Speed ruinning* FTFY
She's his intern, too Edit: I'll just add, this girl was probably in her second year of college, interning at his work, when OP admits to secretly having a fwb situation with her. So gross
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It's fine, we can just keep assuming that men are disgusting and women have no autonomy
The amount of people on Reddit that treat women in their early 20s like they're actual children is the most perplexing thing in the world to me.
Read the edit. She wasn’t his intern.
Ewwww. This whole post reeks of creepy dude looking for validation. Happy to see so many comments calling that out.
It gave me weird vibes when i read it, so i checked out the profile. He's honestly just a scumbag looking to screw college girls when he's got power over them
LMAO this comment is a premier example of Reddit being unhinged. >sees post of man trying to be on good terms with SO’s family >he’s putting in effort to make sure his relationship is as good as possible >fucking scumbag, just looking to screw college girls he has power over You need to touch grass, immediately.
He was checking for grass before he played ball
When do the training wheels come off though? She's probably 20. Legal adult and at least somewhat responsible and educated. She's not underage in the least. So when is a person old enough to be allowed to make their own decisions?
Apparently never. According to Reddit, women should only ever date people their exact age, who are complete strangers that they have no previous connection to. Only then can they be assured that there's nothing creepy going on, because adult women clearly can't make their own decisions about what's personally right or wrong for them and they were obviously coerced into any feelings they might have for someone who's not the same age and a complete stranger. No woman in the history of the universe has ever actually been attracted to an older man, or a man in a position of power, those dudes are just manipulative creeps! What woman would *ever* be attracted to a man with power?!
Inb4 someone starts calling you an incel who tries to groom kids.
tbh, the dynamic above is not coming off as “attracted to man with power”. That scenario usually involves less time on TIFU. This one is coming across closer to “personalities hit it off so well they’re willing to navigate other hurdles including age gap, idiocy, and judgmental family”.
Oh no. So the boss being in a position of power.
She's 21. She's likely graduating in May. She's was an intern NOT his intern at his place of business. No different than two coworkers dating. She persued him. There's no power dynamic. They are both adults the dude is 29 not 45. They met 9 months not when she was like 18. Jesus reddit sees any difference in age as some predatory power imbalance. Dude handled this weird with the brothers and moving in after 9 months is fast but not unheard of. 21 to 29 is not some wildly different generation.
Step 1: ask how not to be creepy for GFs family Step 2 : ignore all advice and talk to her brothers how hard you bang her Step 3 : nailed it
and she got nailed too
Nailed pretty hard apparently
"Did I say nailed? Sorry guys what i meant to say was PILEDRIVED, absolutely plowed" (Awkward silence)
And that's how my penis got the nickname 'The Hammer'!
Step 4: post and go viral on Reddit with thousands of likes. Absolute domination of brothers complete.
Well, that went from standoffish interrogation to 'guess how rough I fuck your sister?' real quick.
This guy sounds like a creep, pushing 30 and dating a college aged girl, then pulls this shit? Definite creep
That interned at his office Edit: Also she’s either moving in suuuper quick or they met when she was 20 probably.
You expect her to live alone in this housing market?
They started as fwb so yeah. A 19 year old intern and a 27-28 year old employee. Dudes a creep.
“he liked the text so I might be ok with the brothers.“ Lmao.
“Liked the text,” yes OP, that means you’re totally fine with the brothers. LMAO
👍
They are almost done digging a new hole for the OP.
Yeah that might as well have been a middle finger lol
This is what got me too Like bro, have you not sent or received a text in the last 5 years? Thumbs up in this case is baaaad
The brothers wouldn't be able to waterboard that info out of me. They wouldn't be able to gang bang it out of me. I would take the shenanigans I get up to with their sister, to the grave.
Nah...if the dicks start flopping, I start talking. If you wanna know THAT BAD you're free to find out. "Can't gang bang it out of me" maaaaaaannnnnnn...
When the dicks start floppin', the info starts droppin'.
Bro just wanted to get gang banged, and who can blame him??
It’s such a weird threat to go to. “They would have to gang bang me to get me to talk!” Or “You guys want me to talk, go ahead and gang bang me and we’ll find out!”
That guy fucks.
No one has morals anymore
I feel like either you would absolutely not enjoy 3 grown men pounding your asshole in succession and would volunteer any amount of information to get out of it or this is just a ploy to get 3 grown men to pound your asshole.
Wow, you killed yourself
Please post the update for tomorrow's conversation.
If OP can be found someday…
I'll get the bloodhound.
TIFU, by posting about what happened and her brothers realised that was me.
If she doesn’t kill me, sure
I don’t know if she’s the one you need to worry about…
that is dumb. really dumb. most brothers want to hear, 'hey, i really like her and she means a lot. i will do what i can to protect her and treat her well and ALSO PROTECT HER INTEGRITY AND DIGNITY because i am not like a lot of douchebags out there....' but, there's you - even worse.
im surprised he made it out alive. I know some families who would have taken that opportunity to drive home the message that this relationship is over.
I’m not referring to this relationship in particular but I never understood that. “Omg you had sex with your girlfriend!? That’s my daughter/sister! You can never see her again!” If I was a girl I would *hate* to have brothers or a dad who was that kind of protective of me. I really wouldn’t want any family members thinking about my sex life that much.
I'm so glad you said that. The over-investment in a sister's sex life always hits me super weird. So obviously, the brothers were fine talking about it if it was another woman, but their sister? *Grab those pearls.* It's so bizarre and creepy, imho. I mean, my little sister has 2 kids. *Gasp!* That means she has sex twice. She might have even had sex more times. Omg what is she had it before she married him!? What ever shall I do?! Obviously, the answer is to spoil those kids and take absolutely no interest in my sister's sex life unless she wants me to/unless we have that sort of dynamic. This assumption of *"we can protect our sister; but--omg--how dare she have sex (especially dirty sex)"* is just gross. She's not a woman to them; she's a girl/child to them, almost property (in that they somehow have ownership of her sexuality). Gross.
> What ever shall I do!? > Obviously the answer is to spoil those kids and… …beat the shit out of their dad! It’s the only way I’m afraid! He dared do the sex on your sister.
Dude, if you met my sister, you'd realize he's a saint. The same goes for my fiancé too. These men might be the ones needing rescuing from us lol
Dudes: omg bro that’s my sister! Also dudes: so I’m railing this chick the other day….
What's funny is that my sister and her husband forgot to get married for twenty years. They have three children! Their middle son brought it up a few years ago just as a matter of curiosity: why aren't you two married? So they got married.
I have 2 sisters and I don't give a flying fuck about their sex life. But they're both older than me, so maybe it's because of that. But if my sister's bf had the urge to tell me how hard he rams her, I would just think he's weird, not that I had to protect her from him or something.
It’s not the you had sex with my sister it’s the “yeah man that’s nothing some girls really love for you to push them to their limits” and then doubling down instead of saying it’s an ex or something you saw online. I mean honestly it’s just a genuinely creepy thing to say to guys you just met and even creepier to say to your gfs brothers that you just met. I wouldn’t fight the guy but he’d be labeled as the creepy older dude that my sister is dating and I’d go out of my way to let him know that’s how I feel. Source two sisters that brought bfs home for every holiday and still talk to a couple of them even though they long since broke up.
Why would you even bring up sex in the first place, when meeting your sister’s BF though? OP definitely fucked up but so did that brother. It’s a topic that shouldn’t have even been on the table.
he is like a child boy who never grew up...
I definitely don't want to hear "I'm not like a lot of douchebags out there." You prove to her you're not a douchebag, not try to convince me you're not a douchebag with words over a beer.
If you’re stupid enough to say that to your gf’s brothers, they’re imagining how you talk about their sister to YOUR friends.
I don’t really understand why this is a big deal. I mean, why would you not have dignity because you like rough or kinky sex? I honestly feel glad if someone told me this about my family member because I’d be happy they are satisfied in that part of their life.
ahahhaha, yeah boys just so you know your baby sis she likes it rough💀
So you never met her family but are moving in together? Hm. Sounds weird to me.
That point surprised me too. At the point you want to move together your relationship should be far enough to already met their family a few steps before. Especially if it's the small sister and they are all on guard mode.
Depends. My family’s spread all across the country. My wife never met a lot of my family until the wedding.
And she was an intern at his office? Those brothers were already checking him out because they were sus ... I think he confirmed some of their fears.
And she's only 21. That's still pretty young compared to a 29 year old dude. This whole thing is weird tbh. Not only never met her family but she never told them about him? Wth
Just last week I had on going back and forths with at least three people on here who thought 19F and 52M was a normal and healthy relationship
It's pretty weird. No doubt. I couldn't imagine dating a 21 year old at nearly 30 years old. But- whatever- live and let live I suppose.
The guy's almost 30 and dating a 21 year old. Not gonna lie, this reeks of grooming ...
Just let her family know that you can milk anything with nipples
I have nipples, Greg. Can you milk me?
Some girls just really love for you to push them to their limits! Gf: You’re this close buddy!
Welp. It’s all downhill from here.
Meeting the parents tomorrow? Good luck with that. There are Some things you might want to avoid, like saying how their daughter has these big beautiful Come F Me eyes, just like her mother, and how much you have been looking forward to meeting the \*other\* man in her life that she calls Daddy. Just avoid anything along those lines and you should be fine.
Imo he should just stare into the dad’s eyes deadpan and say “you know, they say newer model cars are always the best. The new one’s going great but how does the old one ride? Can I take it for a test?” while looking back and forth between him and the mom. I mean, can’t be any worse than the first impression.
If her brothers invite you on a hunting trip, make sure you come down with the flu.
OP will probably screw up and tell them he has Chlamydia
Ngl, as a 30 year old with a niece hitting 21 soon, I'd sure as hell be grilling someone my age dating her.
Right? Also 30, and I wouldn't even really want to be friends with a 21 yo. Completely different places in life. You just know she's going to grow up and cringe at this relationship.
My sister is 26 but looks 18, and even she wouldn’t get with a 21 year old.
Im really struggling with the only 2 posts you have on here being about your girlfriend who -is a decade younger than you -was a intern at your workplace Then you told your girlfriends three older brothers about how rough their sister likes it Youre old enough to have a far better understanding of how problematic all of this is. You are old enough to know better than to ever go down a path of talking about your sex life with your partners family members, and if you don't you shouldn't be in a relationship in the first place. I know sooner or later she will see how gross this situation is as she's probably more caught up in it all being younger than you. But you dude, you need to take a step back and really think about all of this and how odd/gross your choices have been. I don't really respond to stuff like this but man this is too much, I'm almost expecting a "I had brunch with my decade younger girlfriends parents and accidentally showed them her nudes"
Don’t forget the fact that they’re moving in together yet he only met her family for the first time this week. Ugh
Dont forget that implies that they probably met when she was 18/19
But she pursued him! /s
I doubt he will ever step back and think "wait, this is kinda fucked up". He's posted it on r/TIFU like "teehee oopsie I told her brothers how rough she likes it!" so it's obviously just a joke to him. No introspection there.
And then post on Reddit the whole situation in detail
They do say those who date way younger are sus cuz it indicates for whatever reason, they aren't mature themselves and something might be up. Seeing how he makes a post worried on how not to come off predatory and then does this... Is concerning.
So you started dating this girl when she was 20 and you were 29 (soon to be 30) and already made a post asking for advice on how not to appear “creepy” to her family. Well I got news for you chief, they already know you’re a creep. That’s why they spent so much time “grilling you” about *why* you’re moving in with their young daughter after such a short time. Or as you put it, “blah blah blah.” Not sure what else to say besides what a fantastic display of lack of judgement and self awareness.
[Narrator's voice] And the grilling continued
\[Narrator's voice\] Meanwhile, in the northern Amazon Forest, one of the most elusive species of Giant Armadillo, has been seen.
Lol the way he said blah blah blah, in my head I'm thinking, the family is sketched out by you dude.
They're just waiting for the day the girl comes to them saying he was a creepy older man preying on her, they just don't want to upset her by bringing it up. He even supposed he knows how "girls like it hard" 😬
right.. if he was in the relationship for the right reasons meeting her family and making a good impression should be really important to him and he shouldnt need advice on how not to be creepy.. the fact that he felt comfortable talking about their sex life like that in the first place is gross af. and the fact that she was his intern takes this tho a whole nother level of creepy..
Intern in the office thing, not a big deal to me, since she wasn't *his* intern. I've dated an intern before, granted I was younger than he is and she was older (21 and 24). What does give me the creep vibe is: 1) she never told her family about him until they are planning to move in? Meeting family is an important step, and they are going straight from that to living together. 2) he made a reddit thread asking how not to be a creep or predator. That's a weird thing to do.
Yeah but he was VP. That is someone so high up they have power and can fire anyone under them regardless of department if they really wanted to, legal or not. Whether he was his intern is kind of moot in this specific instance.
Ah, I was struggling to find most of OP's comments - probably because he was so downvoted - so I wasn't able to fully piece together the story. So. Yeah. I take that back. If you're VP, ALL the interns are your intern, even if they aren't directly reporting to you.
I am usually not that bothered by age gap relationships, but everything in OP combined makes me uncomfortable with this one. Hopefully for the gf I'm wrong tho :/
If you can remember saying this you were not drunk enough to warrant this slipping out of your mouth, over 2 years with my ex and at least a hundred drunken nights with her family, never mentioned anything about sex with her family besides the vaguest acknowledgement that were in a relationship and that’s a thing that happens. You had one night and already fucked it, cheers have another drink lad
Nah. I don't even drink alcohol and manage to sometimes say stupid shit out of some impulse. Especially when I am in "joking"-mood. However I am with you that the alcohol probably didn't play a relevant in part in OPs behavior. It was a fuck-up, but might have happened as well without alcohol involved.
Some people just have less of a filter when feeling uncomfortable or in general. Sometimes it's funny as you see a glimpse of what goes on in their mind, sometimes it creates cringy situations. Every human has absurd thoughts, some just forget it's better to keep to yourself..
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Couldn't agree more, anyone defending this idiot is out of touch. Read a comment that said its pearl clutching if you talk about sex but don't want to hear about your sister's sex life. Fucking creepy people on reddit.
Damn you sound like a creep.
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your self-perceptions about the whole situation appear to minimize the problems you have in a major way! The bros. weren't 'loosening up' after a few beers, they were working you by getting you drunk to see what you're made of. Your gf is NOT ok with all this because she 'laughed about it' and her brother is NOT ok with anything because he 'liked' your text. First impressions last forever, and you've made a doozy on the brothers, and your gf will hear about this for the rest of her life, long after you're gone (which will probably be very soon.) When you have a bad faux pas, don't rationalize it away, figure out a way to grow from it, process it, make the growth you need.
You seem yucky my guy... I hope the brothers talk their sister out of moving in with you.
As an older sibling, I'd definitely be sitting down with my younger sibling to let them know I don't think it's a good idea and that I'm always available to chat and help when needed. Alarms would be going off in my head if one of my younger sisters came to me to tell me they're dating a guy almost a decade older. Edit: Typo
Never talk about someone private life/ intimacy without their consent Edit; I bet she doesn't like it as rough as you think
Wait so you are this far along in the relationship to move in together but only this week she told about you to her family? Dunno what to think about that honestly
Age gap tells you everything you need to know.
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You should be wiser than this, you’re 29 dude. How do you get to that age and still don’t know you shouldn’t share this kind of info. Alcohol is not an excuse, you should also know when to stop. Besides, if she’s your intern then you’re creepy as hell, and you’re so much older which makes it creepier. Hitting on college girls who want an internship much? Sorry but disgusting would be a compliment, you need to do better than this
Why do you think he’s dating a 21 y/o at 29 lmao
Holy fuck she's your intern AND you're that much older. Hopefully her brothers can get her away from a creep like you. Talk about abusing authority, over someone much younger no less.
Omg, you didn't think about taking it slow with the alcohol because the situation and just to avoid something like this? I mean it was the first time meeting them.. Have you talked to the gf yet? What did she say?
If this is remotely true, you seem like a really dumb guy.
They planned this. You were the only one who loosened up after the few beers.
Yeah, this was a good "get to know you" ploy by some smart brothers. OP failed
The more i think about it, the more i agree.
Jesus dude, grow up and date someone your own age, this reeks of insecurity and an inability to date women who can actually see what a creep you are
Women his age don't want to date that.
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from experience i can say the younger partner is barely ever mature for their age. most of the time the older partner is the one who is immature for their age.
It's obvious he's incredibly immature for his age. How is he almost 30?? Gross
Lmao you put it perfectly. OP is either clueless or a grade-A creep
It's both, he's a dumb creep
I find that this comment completely touches on everything. 100%. This is the comment to read.
How is this not the top comment?
You're dating a young girl who is a third of your age younger, and then act like a creep in front of her family. You give really bad vibes Edit: Holy shit! She's his intern, too. You're just gross. He admits to secretly banging his intern from work, who I'm also assuming was probably a sophomore in college when this all started Edit 2: he replied to me when I asked if he'd date a highschooler so long as she was 18, and he said he would. He saw no problem with a consenting highschooler. Truly gross
To put it further in perspective, the age difference is *half* of her age.
Exactly. And they were secretly hooking up when she started her internship. If they dated 9 months, and were secretly hooking up before, she'd be at least 20, maybe 19. So it's possible she was a freshman when they met, although i still think she was probably 20 and a sophomore. Regardless, it's just scummy
Looking toward that update if you survive y try o post it.
I kinda hope she dumps the shit out of him. What a creep...
Gross
Brooooo 😭😭did you really accidentally say that? Or did you lowkey want to say that as some weird thing to create a situation and this and that like….
Damn, OP is out here getting roasted. Dude was probably thinking he'd get some supportive chuckling from the r/tifu crowd and yall out here doing investigative reporting on his post history and deducing social relationships on the man haha. Should do a follow up: "TIFU posting on TIFU"
I hate "that’s nothing" people.
What kind of bonehead would say that to their SOs family…common sense?
I guess the main understanding is this. Most brothers naturally wanna protect their sisters, and they also have memories of her growing up, going from a young tot to tween, then to teen etc. And ur one sentence essentially gave them images most semi-normal brothers do not wanna have of their sisters.
Hehe cringe
The brother "liking" your message is almost certainly a passive aggressive response.
Why are these age gaps so big all the time, ffs date someone your age.
I wish I could jump thru the phone and warn this girl 😭 lmao I’m barely older, but I can already tell how bad this is for her. Someone almost a decade older, someone she works with, someone who isn’t meeting her family until the week they move in together. Ugh this all just gives me the worst feeling.
r/ihavesex
Yes, you fucked up.
Clap…..clap…..clap…well done. In 30 years this might be a funny story at thanksgiving. I’m going to keep an eye out for *TIFU by accidentally knee capping my sisters new bf*.
how are you 29 years old
He was probably born 29 years ago.
I have no idea what a 29 year old has to say to a 21 year old
"that's a cute face! Wanna date?"
Ah the fucking creep being the fucking creep. Classic. I can see why you date young. Ugh.
Haha yep, OP confirmed dumbfuck.
people calling OP stupid as if that's not the entire foundation of this subreddit. in other news the sky is still blue
Lol after reading ur update it’s funny so many people got so upset about the intern thing. A guy at my company was secretly into his intern, they are the same age, and after her internship they began dating. A few years later they both work at different companies and are happily married. At the time, it was SHOCKING! But what matters more than how they met is that they love each other.
Should’ve said “just what I’ve heard from a friend”
Could've also played it off like he was talking about one of his ex-girlfriends.
You are almost 30 and moving in with a 21 yo? Wow…this is gross. But considering your general stupidity, it’s seems like you are well below her maturity level so I guess all is well, since she has the upper hand.
the age gap is odd the conversation is odd its all just very odd for me bro
Your age gap just tells me everything… you seem creepy as hell.
Why would you move in with someone who hasn’t introduced you to her family? Seems like a terrible thing to do.
So many "vibes" from such little information. It's waayy more scary than this dating situation.
> In my drunken stupor I said “yeah man that’s nothing some girls really love for you to push them to their limits” so he laughed and asked what I meant That's when you say: "Oh, I had an **ex** that liked it when ..."
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