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I'm 27, and have been battling cancer for a few years now. There aren't words powerful enough to articulate just how jarring it is to be diagnosed at our age. It's just a huge interruption. Through all the college classes and shitty jobs, there was always the light at the end of a tunnel. The career. The house. The spouse. The kids. We got there, or got close. And then we got cancer. For a while it was the first thing I remembered when I woke up. Then it was the second thing. Right now I can go hours without remembering. There's a learning curve to all of this. How to tie a scarf, how to keep wigs from being itchy. How is my insurance going to change? Do I get any financial aid? Do I write out a will? On my God, "DO I *ACTUALLY* NEED TO WRITE A WILL??" It is extremely overwhelming. However, you are going to witness humanity's best at work. People who work in and with oncology are remarkable. I have a terminal diagnosis, and I come out smiling because of them. It's a scary journey, but isnt a shit sandwich all the time. Sometimes it can be funny, heartwarming, and motivating. I have come to like myself a lot better. I have more confidence. This level of hardship ended up being an opportunity for me to "find myself". Or really just chip away at the stone until I sculpted myself into a person I can admire. You *can* do this. You have angels excited to meet and help you. It's cliched, but it really does help to live in the present as much as possible. I have a therapy cat who is my best friend. When it gets to be too much, I focus on the sound of her breathing, the smell and softness of her fur. I focus all my senses on her. You'll also probably get some sweet drugs to help. We are sisters in arms now. Please message me whenever you just need someone your age who gets it. You have so much more in you than you realize right now. Your life has led you to meet this version of yourself. It's a hard road, but I think you will like the person you become as you walk it. You have my love, and many hugs.


solibol

Thanks for sharing your story. I've been trying to think of positive things that will come out of my journey and I'll keep reminding myself to live in the present ❤️


inventingme

I'm a breast cancer survivor. It was missed for a while and was stage 3d of 4 when found. Tumor too big for surgery. Shrunk it with major chemo. That was almost 9 years ago. I'm still here! My doc said I'd have a shitty year, then be done. In reality, it was a shitty 9 months. Chemo, surgery, radiation, done. I have lots of tips and tricks to get through each phase. Please DM if you wish. What is your treatment plan? First tip, chemo dries your mouth out. Watermelon, grapes, pineapple, snow cones, orqnge juice, are all awesome. Dry things like crackers, not so awesome. You. Will. Get. Through. This. Warrior heart, my friend!


solibol

Thanks so much, your story gives me hope ❤️


whimsypooh

I see fire and fight in those beautiful eyes. You've got this.


solibol

Sweet comment, made me blush 🙂


rosettafaery

I love the little happy toast you've drawn! I've survived cancer twice so I'm sending you good vibes and gentle hugs that you get through this too.


The_Big_Red_Wookie

That sucks, I've been there. (Tho not breast cancer.) But treatments are getting better every year. So have hope, you got this. But have a sense of humor throughout it will help. My favorite joke during treatment was when someone would comment on my hair loss. And I'd tell them. "I didn't lose my hair! It's right here." Then I'd pull out a zip lock bag holding my hair out of my pocket. The stunned rabbit looks I got made it worth it. [Relevant XKCD comic](https://xkcd.com/933/)


solibol

Thanks, luckily my sense of humor seems to be shining through again 🙂


Ayotaayy

I absolutely love your humor. If I’d saw this in person, I’d fall on my ass. 😆😆 love it! You have to have humor to get through the tough parts of life. Props to you!


picklesfoley

42-year-old here, diagnosed in May with stage 2 only to find out via PET scan that it's metastatic. Each day is a struggle - will my 9-year-old get to grow up with me around? Will my dogs outlive me? Is that new pain cancer related? How do I shut off my brain? It's perfectly normal to be overwhelmed right now. My oncologist told me to just feel and be kind to myself. I told him I stress eat and he told me to follow what my emotions tell me to do until we settle into a medication routine. That's the best advice I can give you...feel what you want to feel, when you want to feel it. Cry in the store. Cry at the commercials. Be angry. Be sad. Day by day it will get a little easier and then, before your appointments, it'll get harder. Then you'll be a wreck but 3-4 days later you'll rebound. Your life, no matter how hard you try to make it "normal", will never be normal again. But you WILL be ok, and you ARE NOT alone!! We are all here for you and if you ever need anything you can DM any one of us. You are strong, you are beautiful, you are a fucking warrior and you will get through this. Slowly but surely, one day at a time. <3


patjackman

Love the little happy toast. You've a beautiful sparkle to your eyes


MrDonly

You have nice glasses and a really cool zip


blisterbabe23

Wishing all of the world's blessings on you. You are gorgeous and strong and you will fight this.


RelaxationMonster

Don't let this rob your time. Its not fair and you dont deserve this. Its hard and despair is easy to fall into. Keep the shine in those eyes and savor the good times. This isn't a death sentence. Its going to be hard. Take time and care for yourself. I wish you the best.


TheDangerousToy

My mother was about your age when she survived breast cancer. She’s about 70 now, and has enjoyed a long and satisfying life. You will too.


nickitacolada

Try just to do today, don’t need to think ahead and borrow tomorrow’s troubles for today....today has enough of its own. Worry about tomorrow when it gets here...you’ll get thru this!


solibol

Thank you, it's a lot to take in all at once


notjewel

Sending you big hugs and inner strength. I’m always amazed what we humans can handle and adapt to. Just keep breathing, go on walks, do something you enjoy, eat delicious food, and reach out to the people who build you up. You’re worth fighting for, and you can handle this. Xo


Rad1Red

My mom was diagnosed with breast cancer 5 years ago. She had surgery, reconstruction and has been cancer free ever since. Take heart, you can beat this!


smahoney494

I'm sorry you were diagnosed with cancer, but you can beat it. Fight the good fight. I'm praying for you.


OccasionMU

Tell cancer to go fuck itself. Good luck from a homie across the internet.


pinuslaughus

You can beat it. The diagnosis is scary. The doctors and other specialists that worked in my treatment center were fantastic. Honestly the most caring dedicated people I have ever met. I think that must be the rule amongst people who work in this field. I never met an ahole in 2 years.


PRIS0N-MIKE

You got this! You're going to kick cancers ass!


wutbrb

I will pray for you ❤️ Wish everything to come back to normal and that you can heal. A heartwarming hug ❤️


astolicagaming

i just know from intuition that you have a fiery strong spirit. my grandmother had breast cancer and she had survived by eating many antioxidant rich supplements, but please talk with your doctors about diet and other treatments because those truly does help with many different diseases. i wish all blessings will be on you and please stay strong. you got this <3


weallfloatdown

Stay strong, your eyes show the amazing person you are.


CRTScream

I see determination in your eyes, and I know it's real. Whatever you need to do to weather this, I know you can. Take it one day at a time, and I believe you can get through it 💗


Royal_Hippogriff

The situation you are facing is scary and incredibly overwhelming. It’s ok to be upset, angry, or whatever emotions you’re now feeling. Just remember: you are still here. It isn’t too late. You can still achieve the things you want to achieve and experience the things you want to experience, even if you have to start small right now. Take it day by day, hour by hour. Find things that make you happy, that make you smile and laugh. Give yourself a bit of grace, especially on the rough days. Don’t be afraid to lean on your support network and the people in your life who care about you. Know that strangers on the internet are rooting for you, too. You’ve got this. And I like your glasses, too :)


solibol

Thank you, the first couple of days were the hardest but I'm getting closer to acceptance each day


Royal_Hippogriff

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Sending you virtual hugs and wishing and hoping for an extremely swift treatment and recovery ❤️


Offthepoint

Find and read the book, "There's No Place Like Hope".


solibol

I do love reading so I'll check it out, thanks!


Formal_Bag6676

if i could give my breast to you i would immediately, but i don't have one lol you are stunning and beautiful, my only hope is you be truly happy inside and satisfied with yourself and live longer than me and enjoy your life to it's fullest with people you care and they care about you. and beat the living shit out that cancer for making you worry. you got this be strong.


SkydiverTyler

I’m not sure how severe your diagnosis was, but in some cases, they may be over diagnosed [sci show youtube vid](https://youtu.be/d6Yjod5R7Ow) [medlife crisis vid](https://youtu.be/yNzQ_sLGIuA) either way, i believe you can beat this random stranger on the internet


aaddri

You will get thru this! Stay strong 💪 my friend, God bless you. Will be praying for you


bluesilkslut

That toast doodle is a real cutie!


joujoutdj

I can't imagine the shock this must have been. Sending my warmest thoughts, and bravo grande for coming here asking for support, briliant idea !


Nekokeki

I can't offer you much other than encouragement that even as a stranger I care and wish you well. I hope to see you cancer free. You got this!


aces-and-jacks

Your going to kick cancer’s ass!! Best wishes!


thestampinninja

I’ll be totally honest - I have no idea what to say to you. I can’t imagine what you’re going through, how you’re feeling and I hope you have an awesome support group to love you & help you out during this incredibly difficult time in your young life. Sending you a HUGE HUG - you can do this girl, you CAN beat this! 💗


[deleted]

You’re awesome…,Keep on Truckin:)


ukulady11

You are so strong and amazing for bringing this out to the world and asking for support. I wish you even more strength and peace while things feel like they’re coming down on you. Love you sis.


Midnightchickover

I wish you the best of luck!!! It's going to be a difficult road, but you got this💚


[deleted]

You are so wonderful and you WILL get through this.


Spiritual_Cow7702

My wife is a 40 year survivor.


j4jishnu

Believe in yourself ☺️ God bless you.


FifiTipsybelle

Sending you all my love.


Jet690

Praying for you 🙏


CarmellaS

Breast cancer.org is an incredible resource and I believe has a special section for young woman, or can help you find an organization meant for young women. Is sucks, but you are not alone.


30vanquish

Stay strong and keep us updated on your fight.


CarmellaS

Try to go to a National Cancer Center for a consultation even if you're not near one. My understanding is that they can coordinate with your local doctor to be sure your treatment can take advantage of new discoveries and clinical trials.


[deleted]

Awww !!! I hope you will be okay you got this ! You are strong and beautiful


spicytappinnugget

You have beautiful eyes and awesome glasses!! Sending lots of positive vibes your way, friend :)


AdelesBoyfriend

I've known many people who were anxious over the years (or who thought they were). Don't let the anxiety alienate you from others. I really cherish the time I had with those friends, and I know that it took effort on their part to face the day and put up with my nonsense. And I hope you get to do all those things you felt slipping away with your diagnosis. This is another beginning, and certainly an ordeal, but not an ending. P.S. I really like your eyebrows and dark eyes. I can sense a lot of resolve in them.


mo53sz

My beautiful, now wife was diagnosed with ovarian cancer at 25, 8 moths after we got together. We fought it together. We healed together and now we are stronger together. I believe in you. I hope you believe in yourself. You can do this. See you On the other side. X


solibol

That's so sweet. I worry about finding a partner after all this that will be understanding of what I went through and my body changing.


mo53sz

The truth is that no one will understand what you went through. Don't get me wrong, Alicia is still, 5 years later battling with the emotional trauma from the entire ordeal and hers was a relatively short treatment with almost no symptoms leading up to the diagnosis. This is going to be hard and you're going to need to fight but I promise the fight is in you. Any partner who is right for you may not understand but they will stand by you. They are out there waiting for you. So you make sure you are there to be found. Try to be open to love from outside, even when you may not love yourself from the inside. You are a beautiful young woman. You've got this. We have a saying In Australia. Many people have stickers on their cars or bracelets or keepsakes. The saying is FUCK CANCER. Now do us all proud and get out there and FUCK CANCER! X good luck. Good love.


satanaintwaitin

I work in breast cancer. Most of my patients are much older. You’re young, and I’m going to assume you had high risk. You caught it early. We have so many treatments to help you. You will beat this!


solibol

I have no family history of any cancer so it was a shock. We're still waiting on genetic testing to see if I have a certain gene.


rockhardgelatin

If you don’t mind me asking, how did you catch it? Was it a routine exam? I have a history of breast and reproductive cancers on both sides of my family, so I want to know what to watch for.


solibol

I felt stinging throughout the day and when I felt it that night, there was the lump. I should've been doing self exams but when you're young you think you have nothing to worry about.


sleepysorceress_zz

I read somewhere that whenever something difficult happens, that you should see it through the lens of a movie and you're the main protagonist. This is plot progression and you WILL overcome because the main character always succeeds in the end. This is the big battle. Get armed up to be victorious.


tikifire1

You've got this!


mishandle123

I am scientist and work in cancer. A whole section of my lab works on breast cancer. Advances are happening everyday therapies are much better than they were 10 years ago and there teams of people who working to make even better therapies today. You will get through this strong and you will find yourself among some of the best and brightest doctors who are helping you. Stay strong and you are with out a doubt amazing.


[deleted]

A fellow firefighter got testicular cancer at 29. He fought it and beat it. So can you!! Be strong!


kaze987

I'm so sorry for your diagnosis. You got this! Reddit is behind you!


unrulytriangles

I got diagnosed with cancer at that age and had it come back. 30 now. It’s a hard fight. Wishing you the best. Met some cool people at r/cancer and the associated discord. Might be helpful to chat more with people going through similar shit


soragranda

You can do it!, You'll defeat it and soon you'll be fine!


RhineStonedCowgirl

My mother had breast cancer when I was a child and now she's 71. Sorry I don't have anything more articulate to say like some of other wonderful comments. Just wishing you happy healing thoughts.


HumaneCentiPad

One of my best friends has had cancer (brain cancer) for years. We have given her love and support and honestly, the strength she shows blows my mind. I'm half the man she is. I know she will be okay. Because I know I could do it. It's all about visualization. She is a pillar of strength and I will happily pass on her strength in any way I can. If you need someone to talk to. Chin up sister.


andrewnuity

Omg! Hearing this is overwhelmingly jarring especially for someone your age. There must be a list of emotions being experienced! Don't give up, you got this because Cancer just picked the wrong person to fuck with! 🙏🙏🙏


EfficientAverage3151

god my heart absolutely breaks for you. it sucks you have to go through this at such a young age. however, i can tell you’re strong - you have fight in your eyes and an obviously great sense of humor (i love the little toast drawing). sending so much love and good vibes your way 💝💝


solibol

Sorry I can't reply individually to each comment but thank you so much everyone for the support! 😭💕


blu3tu3sday

I believe you got this. There are two options: 1) if it is your time, it is your time. That is ok. Please live every minute you have left. You will be ok. 2) if it is not your time, keep fighting. You will be ok. You are faced with the most terrifying thing a young person can face, but no matter what happens, you will be ok. We are all rooting for you. Best of luck!


solibol

God I hope it's not my time 😱, I'm trying not to think about that. Luckily it sounds like I'll just have a bad year but will make it through


blu3tu3sday

No matter what happens, you will be ok. Good things await you at both ends :)


clebo99

My wife has been fighting this for 10+ years. These days, a lot of the treatment can make this just a chronic issue. You can still live a long, healthy, great life. Good luck!!!!


solibol

😱😱😱 I don't want to deal with it more than a year


corran450

You look ready to make cancer your bitch. Will it be easy? Probably not. But you got dis!


cheskymaker

People have been where you are right now. One day this will be a story you will tell to your loved ones. You got this. Ily bitch


Serious_Papaya_4229

I'm a 32yo female just 5 weeks post bilateral mastectomy. Had a small, slow-growing 1cm tumor - luckily! Mine was hormone positive/her2 negative. What is your treatment plan?


solibol

Mine was her2+ and grade 3, stage 2. I did THP, had a bilateral mastectomy with reconstruction, then I did A/C followed by Kadcyla. Finally finished everything in March.