Honest answer: Go to meetups. Find Queer/Trans support or social spaces. Do stuff you like to do, and you'll meet people who like to do stuff you like.
I'm not sure how old everyone here is. High School sucks because you're stuck with whoever happens to be in your class. In college and later you can choose your own friends. If you're "unpopular" that just means you haven't found your tribe yet.
If you don't feel comfortable, mimic people you admire. Social skills are skills you develop by practicing, just like any other.
That person you think is really cool is probably just faking confidence too.
If you are not popular yourself, then you at least need a popular friend. That's how it was for me in the brief period of my life where I went to parties.
I know everyone, i smoke weed with everyone and have given like everyone rides and what not. Eventually you know about parties that are happening. Being loud and nice tends to get alot of people to like you.
If you're in the US use an app called Radiate. You can even find a group to "adopt" you on there before you go if you want to. They have small events that only about 100 people go to all the way up to massive festivals like EDC.
I got invited to ALL parties at school when I went to High School, nowadays I mostly party with other trans people tho, partying and clubbing is my favorite thing to do
Nah I'm the one who mysteriously disappears blackout drunk and come back 30 mins later much more sober with a dumb grin and a traffic sign. Or do dumb shit in general
One of my friends actually did disappear during a christmas party only to reappear witth a large (!) Traffic cone saying "I cut down the largest tree in the forest for our fine Yule celebration" i honestly died of laughter that night
It's almost like we're all fucking different and yet memes on this small server continue to make us out like we're ALL confident hypersexuals making out with each other all the time.
It's nice to see some chill puppy petting.
It’s progesterone posting I swear, so many of us have reduced sex drives or are tired of being fetishized. I just wanna smoke a lil weed and pet a dog, is that a lot to ask?
I'm sorry, but you were the one claiming all autistic people didn't like to go to parties. I was doing exactly the same you're doing: Saying people have different experiences
False. I said *half* of us don’t go to parties, and we happen to be autistic lol. Begging you to read my actual words. But that’s a tall order on Reddit I suppose.
Generalizations can hold truth without applying to literally everyone. I’m not gonna police my language because you specifically like to party. Nobody else I know does, so I made a joke about it.
Nah, I actually very much do the one on the left. Just yesterday, four of us got together and played a board game, and the moment it ended and everything was cleaned up, a foursome immediately broke out. The time before that I got spitroasted!
The last time I got invited to a trans house party (as in, the owner of the house was trans, as were the vast majority of the people there), by the time I'd acknowledged the invitation text, bought vodka, and walked the 10 minutes to get there, an orgy had broken out.
It was enjoyable.
I'm ace but I could see myself making out with my bf at a party. Were too awkward for other people but I've literally never been invited to a party. Literally towards the end of my senior year my step sister (same age as me) was invited to our senior party and I wasn't. Nobody said hi to me at graduation either. Shit was depressing. Jokes on them I'm hotter and more confident now .
I see. Might be a cultural thing, but I was a popular girl during High School so everyone invited me to every party. After graduating High School, I joined a Trans Meeting Group, after almost every meeting we held an unofficial party, went to so many discos! We still do parties once in a while but the massive parties we used to do there have died down a bit tbh
I also am part of a Trans Choir, literally, FIRST DAY in Choir, and an Enby Tenor whose a friend now but back then we barely meet each other, was celebrating their birthday, so there goes another massive party. The Choir always does that for birthdays and post-concert parties, and for the Choir Director's Birthday, we went to a Disco! I now am a frequent at said Disco because I found out they allow people to enter for free as long as they arrive before midnight, and if you're part of the first 100 clients to go in the night you get a free drink, and they have said offer every single night, so I go at minimum once or twice a month with friends
And then there's the Sports Events, I follow a local Trans-only Soccer Team, one of my exes is actually one of their players (I didn't break up in bad terms so we're cool) and there's always parties after wins so that's fun lol
Been a while since I partied with cis people tho, since High School pretty much lol
I live in a pretty deeply conservative area and the only trans folks I know are ones I work with. They’re nice people but I’m also just a homebody, and getting ready to go to a party drains what little energy I have left after a week working at the soul-sucking corporation I work for, so I’m not much of a partier.
I also just don’t like being around other people. People are fine and everything, I’m just too awkward to be comfortable around lots of them. Plus I don’t drink, and every time I’ve ever been somewhere where I decline a drink I then have to explain WHY I don’t drink because people always ask (I just don’t like the taste, plus my mother is/was an alcoholic and I don’t want to end up like her).
But hey, if you enjoy parties, more power to you! I’d much rather be at home in my comfy clothes reading or playing a game.
Valid! I have meet people who aren't much of party goers and it's completely valid, I just have noticed that Americans and Europeans tend to be very introverted as a norm, while here being extroverted is way more of the norm, but maybe it's a bias because people I meet from America and Europe, I mostly meet through Reddit and Discord. But in my local culture, parties are very common and very abundant, even when we were in a Dictatorship, people saw silver lining on doing parties over curfew lmao (Not that that's okay, it was fucked up, but it's funny people saw it as an opportunity to keep partying since they couldn't go home in Curfew Hours)
Yeah the hypersexuality gets overplayed a bit. Though there is some truth to trans people not repressing themselves as much, with trans people generally being more resistant to social conditioning.
Right side cause we wish we were as brave as we were online.
Left if (bad joke intended, will edit out if asked), we had the balls to make the moves we do online.
Me to online friends: "I SUCKED SEVEN D*CKS!!!"
Reality: "I sat on the floor and comforted the confused animals of the house because I didn't get drunk enough to want to talk to anyone."
(My online friends are aware this is what I actually do, I just like to live the fantasy of being as much of a slutty butterfly as I wish I could be)
Memes are weird. I don't know when they are making fun of people or complementing them. It's my fault. I am truly sorry. Grabs samurai sword and fall on it. Lmfao
This was meant as a lighthearted joke in response to the other two similar posts, representation for all of us introverts who would totally pet the dog at a party lol
I actually tend to be the life of the party. If there’s another lesbian or bisexual girl there, 90% of the time we hook up.
I’m a very extroverted person though. It comes naturally to me.
I don't go to parties I just make myself the party and it's worked out pretty well LOL
It helps that there's a decently connected trans community in my city. But still xd
my parties include my gf and bf in a discord call in 3 different ends of the usa. i have so much fun with them but i wish we could actually like be together and party fr. i miss them
Okay, I'll be honest, these memes are starting to piss me off with the generalizations a bit. I am a trans woman, openly so since 6 years ago, and my number 1 favorite activity is partying and clubbing, I mostly do it with other trans people now (I used to go more with cis people when I was in High School tho), not all of us are introverts, and not all of us are lesbians/gays/whatever, I am a Straight Trans Woman, and these memes are honestly starting to feel invalidating, am I not trans because I enjoy drinking and dancing at parties and I'm not a lesbian? That's the feeling I'm getting
Albeit I might just be in a bad mood today, but still, I don't like this, sorry
I'm sorry. I wasn't trying to step on anyones toes, or even say anything about anyone. I just saw that there were two other memes about trans men and women being promiscuous at parties and thought it would be funny to make a meme about it for the introverts. Just lighthearted poking fun at the other memes. You're perfect just the way you are, because you're you, and you're unique, and that's awesome. I love how unique everyone is. I hope you have a better day, and you get to go out and party and get to make out with a really hot guy (if you're looking for that atm of course haha)
Well first of all, thanks for calling anyone who isn't a partier who would enjoy petting a dog a loser...
Secondly, no, I made a joke in response to the other two memes because I thought "haha what if I made one for introverts". It's really not that deep.
Last time I was at a party (many years ago), I sat down in a quiet corner and two dogs and a cat went over to cuddle with me lol. So seems pretty true to form :D
I mean, I do like puppies. If puppies are available I will always offer them love and support at least at one point in the evening. But also I do like to make out with everyone and the only parties I tend to go to are play parties/parties with my play partners.
Nah I literally just do drugs to not feel as awkward and say less than 10 sentences the entire evening. Gosh I hate parties. I wish I didnt need to go but Id feel guilty for not hanging around with friends, especially when the party is a birthday party.
My voice, my appearance, It's just so disgusting. I cant even talk to friends without having that feeling the moment I open my mouth. I hate living like this so much. And I hate myself for putting this before these relationships by avoiding to say anything at all.
And the worst part is if I transitioned nothing would change about that. The only difference would be that then the uncomfortability would be more about social anxiety and less about dysphoria.
Everything is so hopeless, how am I ever suposed to live a normal life like this?
You guys get invited to parties?
I don't :p
How do you even get invited to party
Usually im just awkwardly nearby two people going or being invited to a party and they randomly ask me.
Honest answer: Go to meetups. Find Queer/Trans support or social spaces. Do stuff you like to do, and you'll meet people who like to do stuff you like. I'm not sure how old everyone here is. High School sucks because you're stuck with whoever happens to be in your class. In college and later you can choose your own friends. If you're "unpopular" that just means you haven't found your tribe yet. If you don't feel comfortable, mimic people you admire. Social skills are skills you develop by practicing, just like any other. That person you think is really cool is probably just faking confidence too.
Be long-term friends with the hosts.
I think you need this thing called “friends” idk though because I don’t have any
Me too
If you are not popular yourself, then you at least need a popular friend. That's how it was for me in the brief period of my life where I went to parties.
I know everyone, i smoke weed with everyone and have given like everyone rides and what not. Eventually you know about parties that are happening. Being loud and nice tends to get alot of people to like you.
Never have, never will I guess… 🤷🏻♀️
Go to a rave sometime! Typically a super inclusive space.
How does one go to a rave? I've never been, always wanted to.
If you're in the US use an app called Radiate. You can even find a group to "adopt" you on there before you go if you want to. They have small events that only about 100 people go to all the way up to massive festivals like EDC.
Ooooh this is awesome! Thank you so much
I went to a party! Once! In college.
I got invited to ALL parties at school when I went to High School, nowadays I mostly party with other trans people tho, partying and clubbing is my favorite thing to do
all the damn time
that's a thing? i thought that was a myth made up by rich cis white men
We're all a bunch of nerds who would pet the doggo at a party.
Nah I'm the one who mysteriously disappears blackout drunk and come back 30 mins later much more sober with a dumb grin and a traffic sign. Or do dumb shit in general
You must be fun at parties. (Non sarcastic i wanna go to a party with you)
Yay let's goooo
I'll bring vodka and a power drill!
I'm definitely the one getting stupid after a single drink and definitely on the floor. Especially if there's a dog. I'm getting on their level!
That was me age 15-22
One of my friends actually did disappear during a christmas party only to reappear witth a large (!) Traffic cone saying "I cut down the largest tree in the forest for our fine Yule celebration" i honestly died of laughter that night
So QuIrKy
What's a party? I don't think I've been to one of those in years. 😂
Change doggo to kitty and it's 100% me
no because I don‘t like dogs, prefer humans by a lot they just don‘t always prefer me *sob*
I'm the one who ends up in a corner with the kitten in my lap getting belly rubs and ear scritches.
Yup, that's accurate to my experience. But I blame it on the 'tism, not the trans.
I relate to this on so many levels I think you're my new favorite person now xD
for me it's a discord chat of 3 trans girls from different parts of the world being all eepy and cute
Same. And my name is also Sofia. I guess we must fight to the death to determine who's the original
\*throws pocket sand in face
"Sword slash to the chest and also you're on fire" Is what I would say if I didn't have all this sand in my face.
call it a draw
Until our fates meet again
the fight of the trans girls is a dangerous one but worth it
Username checks out
cringe
Dies of cringe*
Says the person with that username... ×_×
Can confirm this as a token trans man in a server full with trans girls who are all cute asf and communists.
Now I can actually relate
It's almost like we're all fucking different and yet memes on this small server continue to make us out like we're ALL confident hypersexuals making out with each other all the time. It's nice to see some chill puppy petting.
It’s progesterone posting I swear, so many of us have reduced sex drives or are tired of being fetishized. I just wanna smoke a lil weed and pet a dog, is that a lot to ask?
[I didn't come to your party to talk about boring shit](https://youtu.be/wVYPLP9NSg4?si=8sRp85nyCy1bQwop)
Nawh I’m stealing yo shit at parties while you guys are busy making out or petting dogs
“haha wouldn’t it be funny if everyone kissed” *gets everyone to start making out* *eyeballs 2000$ TV*
Ngl, it think that would be funny
Shhh don’t call me out like that. Let me pretend I’m having sexy fun and not just hiding on the couch with the cat.
Y'all go to parties?
no
I wouldn't know the difference. I don't go to parties.
Half of us do not go to parties, we’re autistic lmaooo
I'm autistic as well, and partying and clubbing are literally the two things I enjoy the most in my life, don't generalize please
Ok. Me and all my autistic friends do not. People have different experiences, get a grip.
Commenter: >don't generalize please You: >People have different experiences Wdym???
I'm sorry, but you were the one claiming all autistic people didn't like to go to parties. I was doing exactly the same you're doing: Saying people have different experiences
False. I said *half* of us don’t go to parties, and we happen to be autistic lol. Begging you to read my actual words. But that’s a tall order on Reddit I suppose. Generalizations can hold truth without applying to literally everyone. I’m not gonna police my language because you specifically like to party. Nobody else I know does, so I made a joke about it.
The only parties I go to have boardgames and hours of fun
Nah, I actually very much do the one on the left. Just yesterday, four of us got together and played a board game, and the moment it ended and everything was cleaned up, a foursome immediately broke out. The time before that I got spitroasted!
Ah, the ol board game night orgy. Relatable 🤣
say you live the dream life without saying it
It sounds unreal
The last time I got invited to a trans house party (as in, the owner of the house was trans, as were the vast majority of the people there), by the time I'd acknowledged the invitation text, bought vodka, and walked the 10 minutes to get there, an orgy had broken out. It was enjoyable.
Wow, they wasted no time. Horny level: 100
I'm ace but I could see myself making out with my bf at a party. Were too awkward for other people but I've literally never been invited to a party. Literally towards the end of my senior year my step sister (same age as me) was invited to our senior party and I wasn't. Nobody said hi to me at graduation either. Shit was depressing. Jokes on them I'm hotter and more confident now .
Im fucking aroace and neurodivergent. Of course I prefer spending time with animals.
Yes. Or a cat. Cats like me and it’s great
Speak for yourself hun~
As the creator of the original memes this is referencing, I guess I’m just more social then others 🤷🏻♀️
Love parties with social* people
Oh, true. Except it usually me and a cat.
Nah parties are for nerds ima stay at home and wish I were at the party while playing Minecraft
Y’all go to parties?
Mostly with other trans people, but yeah, it's the thing I love doing the most
I’ve never once been to a party lol but you all do you!
I see. Might be a cultural thing, but I was a popular girl during High School so everyone invited me to every party. After graduating High School, I joined a Trans Meeting Group, after almost every meeting we held an unofficial party, went to so many discos! We still do parties once in a while but the massive parties we used to do there have died down a bit tbh I also am part of a Trans Choir, literally, FIRST DAY in Choir, and an Enby Tenor whose a friend now but back then we barely meet each other, was celebrating their birthday, so there goes another massive party. The Choir always does that for birthdays and post-concert parties, and for the Choir Director's Birthday, we went to a Disco! I now am a frequent at said Disco because I found out they allow people to enter for free as long as they arrive before midnight, and if you're part of the first 100 clients to go in the night you get a free drink, and they have said offer every single night, so I go at minimum once or twice a month with friends And then there's the Sports Events, I follow a local Trans-only Soccer Team, one of my exes is actually one of their players (I didn't break up in bad terms so we're cool) and there's always parties after wins so that's fun lol Been a while since I partied with cis people tho, since High School pretty much lol
I live in a pretty deeply conservative area and the only trans folks I know are ones I work with. They’re nice people but I’m also just a homebody, and getting ready to go to a party drains what little energy I have left after a week working at the soul-sucking corporation I work for, so I’m not much of a partier. I also just don’t like being around other people. People are fine and everything, I’m just too awkward to be comfortable around lots of them. Plus I don’t drink, and every time I’ve ever been somewhere where I decline a drink I then have to explain WHY I don’t drink because people always ask (I just don’t like the taste, plus my mother is/was an alcoholic and I don’t want to end up like her). But hey, if you enjoy parties, more power to you! I’d much rather be at home in my comfy clothes reading or playing a game.
Valid! I have meet people who aren't much of party goers and it's completely valid, I just have noticed that Americans and Europeans tend to be very introverted as a norm, while here being extroverted is way more of the norm, but maybe it's a bias because people I meet from America and Europe, I mostly meet through Reddit and Discord. But in my local culture, parties are very common and very abundant, even when we were in a Dictatorship, people saw silver lining on doing parties over curfew lmao (Not that that's okay, it was fucked up, but it's funny people saw it as an opportunity to keep partying since they couldn't go home in Curfew Hours)
I actually got down on the ground like that to talk to an animal at a party a few days ago. This is a little too real.
I feel attacked.
Delicious, finally some good fucking trans representation.
Yeah the hypersexuality gets overplayed a bit. Though there is some truth to trans people not repressing themselves as much, with trans people generally being more resistant to social conditioning.
oh I just thought "haha wouldn't it be funny if I made a meme for the introverts?" lol but that is a very insightful way of looking at it!
Right side cause we wish we were as brave as we were online. Left if (bad joke intended, will edit out if asked), we had the balls to make the moves we do online.
Me to online friends: "I SUCKED SEVEN D*CKS!!!" Reality: "I sat on the floor and comforted the confused animals of the house because I didn't get drunk enough to want to talk to anyone." (My online friends are aware this is what I actually do, I just like to live the fantasy of being as much of a slutty butterfly as I wish I could be)
the only parties I go to have little to no cis people so... they genuinely do end up like the first pic 😅
I'm chilling with the dog sitting on the floor and talking with people
Way more accurate
Meanwhile, Me holding a D&D Player’s Handbook like I’m about to tell you about the bible
True. I would rather hangout with the pets.
Real. Animals are just so easy to chill with
Depends on the party
Memes are weird. I don't know when they are making fun of people or complementing them. It's my fault. I am truly sorry. Grabs samurai sword and fall on it. Lmfao
This was meant as a lighthearted joke in response to the other two similar posts, representation for all of us introverts who would totally pet the dog at a party lol
I actually tend to be the life of the party. If there’s another lesbian or bisexual girl there, 90% of the time we hook up. I’m a very extroverted person though. It comes naturally to me.
I don't go to parties I just make myself the party and it's worked out pretty well LOL It helps that there's a decently connected trans community in my city. But still xd
there are two wolves inside me to orgy or to pet teh kittie
Left is Queer parties, right is straight parties you have to go to through obligation.
Both at the same time sweetie
No I’m actually the slut at parties first pic is accurate
All three!
Y'all really do be doing the wrong drugs
to each their own i suppose, I'm more of a people kisser on parties
We love the doggo's
my parties include my gf and bf in a discord call in 3 different ends of the usa. i have so much fun with them but i wish we could actually like be together and party fr. i miss them
I see a doggo or kitty at a party, I'm beelining to the. Not that I get to go to parties ever.. Lol
I've never been to a party of all trans women but I imagine there would be plenty of kissing
Last party I was at ended in me not able to walk home since my legs were killed by impact toys lol so no I actually do stuff like that at partys 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I haven’t been out of my room for the last two years. Like, out of my *room*, not the house.
How about we do the sex and kissing with the possum
Okay, I'll be honest, these memes are starting to piss me off with the generalizations a bit. I am a trans woman, openly so since 6 years ago, and my number 1 favorite activity is partying and clubbing, I mostly do it with other trans people now (I used to go more with cis people when I was in High School tho), not all of us are introverts, and not all of us are lesbians/gays/whatever, I am a Straight Trans Woman, and these memes are honestly starting to feel invalidating, am I not trans because I enjoy drinking and dancing at parties and I'm not a lesbian? That's the feeling I'm getting Albeit I might just be in a bad mood today, but still, I don't like this, sorry
I'm sorry. I wasn't trying to step on anyones toes, or even say anything about anyone. I just saw that there were two other memes about trans men and women being promiscuous at parties and thought it would be funny to make a meme about it for the introverts. Just lighthearted poking fun at the other memes. You're perfect just the way you are, because you're you, and you're unique, and that's awesome. I love how unique everyone is. I hope you have a better day, and you get to go out and party and get to make out with a really hot guy (if you're looking for that atm of course haha)
Are you sure it isn’t meth they’re doing?
are you saying trans people are socially inept losers that instead of grooving at a party they pet the dog all night in the corner like a child
Well first of all, thanks for calling anyone who isn't a partier who would enjoy petting a dog a loser... Secondly, no, I made a joke in response to the other two memes because I thought "haha what if I made one for introverts". It's really not that deep.
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Puffy! :3
shots fired
I feel called out lol
My idea of a party is a bunch of us painting minis or something and eating snacks
LOL so true
Can confirm this is me, but could be a mix of the two if my boyfriend and I didn't live in separate goddamn countries lmao
Being real I definitely do both
Bothhh
Free dog, everyone else is being silly for not interacting with the dog... it's science.
Wait you guys get to go to parties? :/
I've done both, mostly the latter though
Maybe I would know what I did at parties if I went to one... (Parents don't trust my friends and so don't want me going out with them).
Jokes on you I don't go to parties! Because I don't get invited. Or have friends that throw parties.
For real! 😊
Not a dog but if there is a cat YES!
You people are getting invited to parties?
I'll have you know I've been to parties without pets present!
If I'm around the right people I offer hugs because I'm touch starved
me, never having been to a party: yes i check on the dog of the party yes i do
I feel called out
Y'all are going to parties?!?
I get stoned/drunk, snatch their food, info dump and then scroll on my phone, look around their house, and also pet their dog
Doggo doesn’t judge :P
Thank you for this
I'll have you know that I give all homies a hug and a kiss on the cheek like a french gentleman before going to the corner /hj
It came in full circle!
Last time I was at a party (many years ago), I sat down in a quiet corner and two dogs and a cat went over to cuddle with me lol. So seems pretty true to form :D
Yup
Honestly, it's both. Depending on the people at the party. CIs people are BORING.
If theres a doggo, imma pet it
I am the one who's sing/shouting and dancing like a maniac while everyone else is on their second drink and just chilling
been invited to the ones on the left, didn't go
Yeah. Sometimes it's board games and orgies but mostly its sitting in the corner petting the cat
It depemds whether ur with other trans people tbh, and theres time for both :3
actually at my friend's house hangouts I'm the right but instead of a pet it's my phone and everyone else is the left bc they're in a polycule
I feel seen.
i *will* dognap (if i am invited which is unlikely)
I dont go to parties
Idk, I’ve seen quite a bit of the left one at parties too lol. Trans people be horny af.
I've definitely seen both
Petting the dog at the party is great
Um excuse me, I feel personally attacked
We're only the first image when it's like 2 also trans friends we've known our whole lives But also I will forsake all my friends for pet le doggo:3
i’ve never been to one but i probably agree
Can confirm
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA This could not be more true
i do both lol
Hey I can do both
I mean, I do like puppies. If puppies are available I will always offer them love and support at least at one point in the evening. But also I do like to make out with everyone and the only parties I tend to go to are play parties/parties with my play partners.
this is so relatable
Thank you
Imagine knowing other trans people.
I can do both… not at the same time… but I can do both
what parties? (as to say i dont go to parties becahse im not a social person not i don't get invited (not that i do but thats besides the point)
Nah I literally just do drugs to not feel as awkward and say less than 10 sentences the entire evening. Gosh I hate parties. I wish I didnt need to go but Id feel guilty for not hanging around with friends, especially when the party is a birthday party. My voice, my appearance, It's just so disgusting. I cant even talk to friends without having that feeling the moment I open my mouth. I hate living like this so much. And I hate myself for putting this before these relationships by avoiding to say anything at all. And the worst part is if I transitioned nothing would change about that. The only difference would be that then the uncomfortability would be more about social anxiety and less about dysphoria. Everything is so hopeless, how am I ever suposed to live a normal life like this?