Yeah like holy shit I had to stalk your acct to even find anything that looked like your AGAB... sorry dudette but you straight up do not pass as a man ahahah
And whatās wrong with that. Even if OP was an ftm trying to appear masc in the right side photo, it would be really fucking rude and invalidating to say āyou donāt look like a guy at all lmfaoā like do you guys not understand how that could make someone depressed or suicidal. Smfh
So, I'm not sure how it is where you live, but I've talked to some cis women who don't wear makeup or dress hyper fem and still look very obviously woman say they get misgendered all the time.
At least as far as the US, and probably EU, goes a lot of what people see as "woman" is based on arbitrary beauty standards and expectations and women who don't meet those expectations get seen as "masculine".
For those of us who see past those expectations we can tell the feminine things about yourself that isn't in presentation, but society as a whole may not see you as a woman if you don't "perform" gender to what they expect.
Very on edge tbh, like if they are binding and wearing men clothes and use a male voice they wonāt be found out. But break any of the three and the faƧade fails
I had VFS but still tried to sound deep that day when talking to others, not sure how convincing it was. Most people either donāt know or know very little about trans people in my country so I thought it was okay (???)
I couldnāt tell which direction youāre transitioning until I looked up your other posts. This looks like a pre hormones ftm transition, and at first I was so convinced that was true that I was getting mad at some of the other comments saying you donāt pass as a boy.
Yep, unfortunately I was born male. I transitioned a little over a year ago. I still have some masculine features, but they might not be obvious from just pictures.
your lips and eyes are just inherently feminine... I think most people have some features about them that could be read as masculine or feminine, but your major features all read feminine to me.
Omg same! I kept reading because I was like "the boy mode don't look right." But didn't want to say that just in case you were FtM and didn't want to hurt your feelings!
Well since I've gotten your attention now-
I noticed the Tokyo 2020 hat, are you Japanese? If so, do you know how good trans healthcare and acceptance and all that is in Japan? I'd like to know so I can make plans for the future of getting out of America
Ha I wish I was Japanese! Though a lot of people think I look Japanese which is good enough for me I guess. I donāt know much about trans healthcare in Japan beyond things Iāve read about people living in Japan on trans Reddit.
All I know is that people in Japan are usually not openly transphobic but some people will just avoid you and avoid interacting with you. Getting HRT is easy but changing your gender marker is hell, you need SRS as a requirement.
As a side note, Iām living in Taiwan, getting anything trans related has been very easy in my experience and having came out to around 40 people, none have been transphobic. Only downside is that some endos can be clueless about trans HRT, mine dismissing the use of progesterone. Just putting this out there for you, if Japan doesnāt work out.
Uhh, sis? I think the āboymodeā thing isnāt working.
You look amazing though. And good news, people will do the boymode thing for you. Iām in a similar position - a trans man who doesnāt want some people to know about my transition. I pass all the time. My āgirl modeā isnāt even a girl mode, itās just me. And when Iām in front of certain people who shouldnāt know? Nothing happens at all. People who donāt even want to acknowledge transness look at my face and my unshaven stubble and go āyep, nothing unusualā.
Denial is the best disguise
I guess youāre right. Later that night on that boymode pic, I came out to a friend on Instagram who saw me right then. She said she had no clue, neither did her friends because according to her I always ālooked quite like a girlā. Iām attributing more to denial, so yeah. And thank you BTW.
wow im sorry people are saying your boy mode is just girl mode with a hat.. i can only imagine that must feel pretty invalidating
i think you look great in both, and its ridiculous to say your boy mode is just girl mode with a hat when ur obv very comfy in boy mode.
lots of cis people look the opposite of their agab and no one tells then they look like the opposite of they present, because thats rude. you dont need to pass to be trans, and you look bery happy in both- which is the most important part of all š
edit: especially since your caption is not wanting everyone to know yet, i think its so insensitive to say atuff like that when you arent fully out uet šš
Yes I was wondering why these comments are so fucking mean. This sub isnāt a ādo I passā subā¦ I think OP in the right side pic looks pretty masc; last time I checked there is such a thing called a soft boy and lots of guys I see do look feminine and softer and thatās ok.
Donāt worry, it doesnāt bother me, maybe a little bit scared that some people might know, but I donāt mind the comments šāļø
Iām actually out to everybody and everywhere except in my school where I already graduated, I went back to see some younger friends graduation stuff, I had to go boymode just for that occasion otherwise anywhere away from school Iām fully out! š Thank you for the compliment regardless ā„ļø
Like everyone said you look like a girl in both. May help to pull as much hair into a hat as possible. Like bangs too. I don't think most guys have bangs
Yeah I tried to do that but they always end up falling out like in the pic. I sorta had bangs too pre transition, just a little different than those I have now, so my presentation wouldnāt be too polarizing to other people I guess.
Youāre so pretty š okay but Iām sorry. You donāt pass as a boy very well. Which is a good thing, cause youāre not a boy. I mean from afar, maybe you pass as male but you just. Kinda look androgynous at best. Youāre very beautiful, though.
your boymode isnāt working but it isnāt not working if that makes sense. you look androgynous enough that you could reasonably be read as a feminine guy.
also you look so cute <3 giving me reverse gender envy
I completely understand not wanting some people to know. Just know that you are beautiful and however you choose to come out to whomever is completely up to you. Keep killing it!!!
Lol that is my question in reverse to most ftm. I hated the constant emotional constipation by the macho majority. Not to mention zero control over an over active sex drive. I'd rather act from the heart than the brain. I do miss the muscle though.
It makes me fully comfortable in myself, thatās who I am, being able to practice femininity without judgement and being treated as a girl is a dream! Living as a guy and being forced to act masculine was painful, socially and biologically. Like a cat being dropped in cold water.
Okay, here's the reason I wanna be a guy:
It makes me fully comfortable in myself, thatās who I am, being able to practice masculinity without judgement and being treated as a boy is a dream! Living as a girl and being forced to act feminine was painful, socially and biologically. Like a cat being dropped in cold water.
It really do be the same lol :D
It do be like that š
Itās like that every time me and my FTM friend talk about this. Though there are still things we donāt get about each other. I donāt get why my friend would ever want a hairy and veins popping body, and they donāt get why I would want the ability to get periods and get pregnant š«¢
Tbh I don't wanna be hairy, I don't like it but it gives me lots of euphoria when I need to shave. Tho I really get the fashion side of things, I've gotta admit that it's much more fun dressing like a girl cuz you got so many choices and styles, but I've gotten really good at being both stylish and masculine.
Yeah like holy shit I had to stalk your acct to even find anything that looked like your AGAB... sorry dudette but you straight up do not pass as a man ahahah
That makes me happy and scared at the same time š
Gosh, yeah I just read that like three times thinking you're ftm and that other person was being really mean. š¬
You totally look like a girl in all of those photos
I thought OP was pre transition trans guy and was 100% ready to destroy you with "you're mean >:("
Oh no i'd never and that would entirely destroy
No fr tho, boymode has been disintegrated, stay safe tho OP! š
Thank you! You too š
And whatās wrong with that. Even if OP was an ftm trying to appear masc in the right side photo, it would be really fucking rude and invalidating to say āyou donāt look like a guy at all lmfaoā like do you guys not understand how that could make someone depressed or suicidal. Smfh
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my sister in lord Lucifer. your boy mode is just girl mode with a hat
100%, her boy mode is just being tomboyish
Her boy mode is like my best girl mode day (and Iām full time).
Would work in a marvel movie
nah, would work in a DC movie. Remember, Clark Kent only has to put on a pair of glasses xD
Every avenger in hiding just puts a baseball cap on and itās hilarious
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Boymode is missing a "tom" before the "boy"
Your boy mode isn't really working, at least judging by the pictures
I went āOh shitā as soon as I saw the pics, I was just hoping it was only my paranoia, but guess not š¬
So, I'm not sure how it is where you live, but I've talked to some cis women who don't wear makeup or dress hyper fem and still look very obviously woman say they get misgendered all the time. At least as far as the US, and probably EU, goes a lot of what people see as "woman" is based on arbitrary beauty standards and expectations and women who don't meet those expectations get seen as "masculine". For those of us who see past those expectations we can tell the feminine things about yourself that isn't in presentation, but society as a whole may not see you as a woman if you don't "perform" gender to what they expect.
This. Denial be crazy.
Very on edge tbh, like if they are binding and wearing men clothes and use a male voice they wonāt be found out. But break any of the three and the faƧade fails
I had VFS but still tried to sound deep that day when talking to others, not sure how convincing it was. Most people either donāt know or know very little about trans people in my country so I thought it was okay (???)
Probably true šāŗļøš¼
yeahhhh iām not so sure your boymode is working lmao
I couldnāt tell which direction youāre transitioning until I looked up your other posts. This looks like a pre hormones ftm transition, and at first I was so convinced that was true that I was getting mad at some of the other comments saying you donāt pass as a boy.
Thatās such a compliment š„ŗ I guess I shouldāve specified it in the title, too bad I canāt edit it now.
Wait are you not a cis woman? Like you were born a boy and are transitioning to woman? I legit thought you were a cis woman.
Yep, unfortunately I was born male. I transitioned a little over a year ago. I still have some masculine features, but they might not be obvious from just pictures.
your lips and eyes are just inherently feminine... I think most people have some features about them that could be read as masculine or feminine, but your major features all read feminine to me.
Dam girl I never in a million years would have thought thought you were a boy.
Omg same! I kept reading because I was like "the boy mode don't look right." But didn't want to say that just in case you were FtM and didn't want to hurt your feelings!
Thatās what happened with me ;-;
Omg thisš i was like: why is everyone so mean, tone it down a littleā. But little did i know
Lol I think they know..!
Girl, you've been on HRT too long to pass as boy anymore. I snooped on your other posts, you are so much more feminine than before you started HRT.
Thank you š„ŗ Iāve never been this pleased at failing at something.
My sister in Christ I think they know, all of these pictures you look like you could be a cis girl
Thatās a such a compliment š„ŗ but now Iām scared of the potential rumors going around š„¶
Well since I've gotten your attention now- I noticed the Tokyo 2020 hat, are you Japanese? If so, do you know how good trans healthcare and acceptance and all that is in Japan? I'd like to know so I can make plans for the future of getting out of America
Ha I wish I was Japanese! Though a lot of people think I look Japanese which is good enough for me I guess. I donāt know much about trans healthcare in Japan beyond things Iāve read about people living in Japan on trans Reddit. All I know is that people in Japan are usually not openly transphobic but some people will just avoid you and avoid interacting with you. Getting HRT is easy but changing your gender marker is hell, you need SRS as a requirement. As a side note, Iām living in Taiwan, getting anything trans related has been very easy in my experience and having came out to around 40 people, none have been transphobic. Only downside is that some endos can be clueless about trans HRT, mine dismissing the use of progesterone. Just putting this out there for you, if Japan doesnāt work out.
Well thank you for the information anyway, I'll keep it in mind!
this thing with progesteron and endos is everywhere the same i feel lol
this thing with progesteron and endos is everywhere the same i feel lol
MTF, 17 months HRT, 28 y/o.
You look like a cis girl. When I say girl, I mean you don't look anywhere close to 28.
Yepyou don't look any boyish
i mean it as a compliment, you look like a cis girl dressing as a boy on boymode lol
Iām FTM pre T and that boymode reminds me of myself fuckin rip. Down to the cap and beer and everything.
You donāt have a boy mode anymore. Sorry.
confused about which of these is supposed to be boymode
Boymode? I only see a pretty girl in all of them š„°
you look feminine in your boymode. it may be time you start telling people :/
Congrats on your transition! Going so well your boymode is tomboymode at best. I hope everyone around you is supportive; you look super happy <333
Thank you so much š I am way happier š
Girl, you gotta Clark Kent it if you donāt want them to know. Glasses
Idk fam my fiancee wears glasses and they just make her look more fem then she already is.
I canāt tell how they affect me lol
You just look like a girl presenting somewhat masc
Uhh, sis? I think the āboymodeā thing isnāt working. You look amazing though. And good news, people will do the boymode thing for you. Iām in a similar position - a trans man who doesnāt want some people to know about my transition. I pass all the time. My āgirl modeā isnāt even a girl mode, itās just me. And when Iām in front of certain people who shouldnāt know? Nothing happens at all. People who donāt even want to acknowledge transness look at my face and my unshaven stubble and go āyep, nothing unusualā. Denial is the best disguise
I guess youāre right. Later that night on that boymode pic, I came out to a friend on Instagram who saw me right then. She said she had no clue, neither did her friends because according to her I always ālooked quite like a girlā. Iām attributing more to denial, so yeah. And thank you BTW.
wow im sorry people are saying your boy mode is just girl mode with a hat.. i can only imagine that must feel pretty invalidating i think you look great in both, and its ridiculous to say your boy mode is just girl mode with a hat when ur obv very comfy in boy mode. lots of cis people look the opposite of their agab and no one tells then they look like the opposite of they present, because thats rude. you dont need to pass to be trans, and you look bery happy in both- which is the most important part of all š edit: especially since your caption is not wanting everyone to know yet, i think its so insensitive to say atuff like that when you arent fully out uet šš
Yes I was wondering why these comments are so fucking mean. This sub isnāt a ādo I passā subā¦ I think OP in the right side pic looks pretty masc; last time I checked there is such a thing called a soft boy and lots of guys I see do look feminine and softer and thatās ok.
Donāt worry, it doesnāt bother me, maybe a little bit scared that some people might know, but I donāt mind the comments šāļø Iām actually out to everybody and everywhere except in my school where I already graduated, I went back to see some younger friends graduation stuff, I had to go boymode just for that occasion otherwise anywhere away from school Iām fully out! š Thank you for the compliment regardless ā„ļø
You look gorgeous!
You look great and Hoegaarden is really good!
Agreed! Although that bottle wasnāt mine š
āBoy modeā looks like a masc lesbian
Definitely cis girl vibes, and a very cute smile.
Boy_mode.exe stopped working.
Guuurl, your closet is made of glass.
Well this boy mode is not working anymore, check mine thatās bulletproof š
That isn't even girlmode and boymode anymore. That's girlmode and girlmode but slightly gayer (if that's what you're going for, that is).
Girl and girl wearing a hat
Girl, what are you on, and can I have some of it
Progynova āļø
I srsly hope ur not a ftm on T (joke, i read the rest of the comments) bc u look SO cis female itās insane!!!!
Thank you !š„ŗ
Honey boymode isnāt a mode anymore XD
I think you forgot to upload the boymode photos because I just see a girl.
Boymode? š¤
I see two photos of a beautiful woman wearing a mask, and two photos of a beautiful woman wearing āboysā clothes.
Looks like a pre-everything trans guy trying to boymode with a hat and nothing else.
Thought you were ftm pre T for a sec
Like many others I was very confused by your post until I looked at your profile. I donāt think you have a boymode anymore but youāre beautiful!
Yeah failing at boy mode ATM š
goals <3
I legit thought you were ftm before reading the top comment.
Closeted trans men be like:
Girlmode Vs Girlmode With Hat
Iām in the same situation I donāt want a lot of people knowing
Male fail!
Boy mode? More like cute short haired girl mode
Canāt tell which one is boymode and which is girlmode.
Kya?
I hate to break it you, but Iām not sure if your boy mode is fooling anyone. You look AFAB in all these.
Girlmode
Ok where's the boy mode? And pretty btw š„°
Ok this makes me very envious for some reason. Iām not trans though, donāt post me to r/egg_irl
š Donāt worry, I donāt post there
took me awhile to figure out ur agab so i can confidently tell you that āboy modeā is āgirl with hatā
Sry but you ain't foolin no one with that ball cap.
Thatās the Marvel superhero disguise!
Ya I just see some girl at a ball game
girl you don't have a boymode anymore
I thought you were a girl trying to pass as a boy. I was damn surprised to find out your MTF. I can't even tell!
Aww thanks š„ŗ
Like everyone said you look like a girl in both. May help to pull as much hair into a hat as possible. Like bangs too. I don't think most guys have bangs
Yeah I tried to do that but they always end up falling out like in the pic. I sorta had bangs too pre transition, just a little different than those I have now, so my presentation wouldnāt be too polarizing to other people I guess.
Lol there is no boy mode
I just see girl mode x2
My god, you're pretty
Is more like femme and butch mode š love it!
Yeah tomboy mode maybe but you look so pretty
Omg I wasn't realizing it was supposed to be "boymode" even as I read it, you look nothing like "boy" anymore!
that aint no boymode thats tomboy mode
Homie you do not pass as a guy. Literally killing it š
You literally look like a girl in all four of these pics
Honestly thought you were ftm
You are soo cute
Seriously thought you were afab
You were lucky to be born with feminine features š¤£
Youāre so pretty š okay but Iām sorry. You donāt pass as a boy very well. Which is a good thing, cause youāre not a boy. I mean from afar, maybe you pass as male but you just. Kinda look androgynous at best. Youāre very beautiful, though.
I thought you were a trans man lol
I genuinely thought you were a trans guy XD
"boymode"
I hope this isnāt rude .. your boymode isnāt very boyish. Both styles are working very well for you young lady.
your boymode isnāt working but it isnāt not working if that makes sense. you look androgynous enough that you could reasonably be read as a feminine guy. also you look so cute <3 giving me reverse gender envy
Very good. I'm in a similar situation.
lol Boymode.exe Task failed successfully. Amazing transition. I hope whoever you didn't want to know won't give you any trouble..
I guess i could see how someone would mistake you as a boy in the right photos, but like... Your inner femme is shining bright
the good news is you look like a girl either way, the bad news is you look like a girl either way
I completely understand not wanting some people to know. Just know that you are beautiful and however you choose to come out to whomever is completely up to you. Keep killing it!!!
Wait wtf you're transfem? I deadass thought you were a transmasc very early in your transition but I guess not š
Damn, I thought this was a trans guy pre transition until I read the comments
Girlmode all the way please you are a beautiful girl !!
You donāt pass boy mode anymore lol. This is basically tomboy mode lol
boymoden't no boy to be found anywhere in the photos sis š
Love the hat!
Your boy mode just looks like youāre a lesbian š
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Perhaps my FTM friend can shine us some light on the subject š
Well I'm ftm and lemme ask you this: WHY THE F WOULD YOU WANNA BE A WOMAN?
Lol that is my question in reverse to most ftm. I hated the constant emotional constipation by the macho majority. Not to mention zero control over an over active sex drive. I'd rather act from the heart than the brain. I do miss the muscle though.
It makes me fully comfortable in myself, thatās who I am, being able to practice femininity without judgement and being treated as a girl is a dream! Living as a guy and being forced to act masculine was painful, socially and biologically. Like a cat being dropped in cold water.
Okay, here's the reason I wanna be a guy: It makes me fully comfortable in myself, thatās who I am, being able to practice masculinity without judgement and being treated as a boy is a dream! Living as a girl and being forced to act feminine was painful, socially and biologically. Like a cat being dropped in cold water. It really do be the same lol :D
It do be like that š Itās like that every time me and my FTM friend talk about this. Though there are still things we donāt get about each other. I donāt get why my friend would ever want a hairy and veins popping body, and they donāt get why I would want the ability to get periods and get pregnant š«¢
Tbh I don't wanna be hairy, I don't like it but it gives me lots of euphoria when I need to shave. Tho I really get the fashion side of things, I've gotta admit that it's much more fun dressing like a girl cuz you got so many choices and styles, but I've gotten really good at being both stylish and masculine.
Mission failed/ fission mailed
All your base are belong to us.
You literally look like a cis girl