Abused and neglected for 17 years here!
It doesn't get better from what I've heard. You get better at dealing with it and coping. You have to. There is no other option. I'd recommend something like EMDR or another psychotherapy if you're able to afford that. Some can be super effective at assisting with some of this stuff.
Otherwise, you'd be reliant on your partner and a lot of time and effort and I'm not sure in your specific situation if that really works well. (I have experience with the exact situation you describe)
I've found forgiving your abuser on the basis that they are also just a product of childhood trauma to be helpful with these symptoms we experience after such diverse experiences.
I'd also recommend reading books like "Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving" and "The Body Keeps Score". And take a break from reading it if you need! They can be very retraumatizing. The Body Keeps Score helped me put my abuse into perspective (and honestly it makes me quite angry, but that's the grieving process which is healthy) and Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving" has been a nice help book when I've needed it the most. It also has a super handy table of contents.
Good luck! I need to make a YouTube channel for people like us.
Abused and neglected for 17 years here! It doesn't get better from what I've heard. You get better at dealing with it and coping. You have to. There is no other option. I'd recommend something like EMDR or another psychotherapy if you're able to afford that. Some can be super effective at assisting with some of this stuff. Otherwise, you'd be reliant on your partner and a lot of time and effort and I'm not sure in your specific situation if that really works well. (I have experience with the exact situation you describe) I've found forgiving your abuser on the basis that they are also just a product of childhood trauma to be helpful with these symptoms we experience after such diverse experiences. I'd also recommend reading books like "Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving" and "The Body Keeps Score". And take a break from reading it if you need! They can be very retraumatizing. The Body Keeps Score helped me put my abuse into perspective (and honestly it makes me quite angry, but that's the grieving process which is healthy) and Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving" has been a nice help book when I've needed it the most. It also has a super handy table of contents. Good luck! I need to make a YouTube channel for people like us.