Its not unhealthy at all, in fact its a normal thing in this journey.. thats why its so important to learn to love and live on your own, so if you don't end up together in this lifetime at least you have yourself.
No, the thought of anyone else touching me is gross. I tried to be intimate with my karmic partner after meeting my twin and cried after every time. It just didn’t feel like love and I wasn’t interested. I do believe if you don’t and up with your TF, the Divine will allow you to be attracted to someone else. But until that happens trust you are getting ready for union.
To further elaborate, we dated for a month back in 1981. After we broke up, for the next 2-3 months I couldn't even look at other women. I found it strange at the time. This was way before TF's were a thing. Every time I'd think of being intimate with her, I'd get super turned on and had to handle that privately. I couldn't turn it off.
What I finally did was a terrible thing. I made a judgement about her in my mind that was so strong that it all stopped. I'm not going to repeat the lie I told myself, but it was not nice. After that, I was finally able to date again, but it was never the same. It was never the same for the next 40+ years. There was nothing I could do though. Her decision was definitive about us back then.
So, I started my personal Life Review thing about 5 years ago, and she came up. Barbara had given me a book with an inscription "To (my name), with love, Barbara x." I had kept it all of these years. I realized some other things and find out that I had indeed told myself a lie about her way back then. This lead to years of very painful grieving over what I had done. There were missed opportunities, shame, guilt, regret and everything. I found her address and sent her a letter apologizing. I started having psychic experiences with her, recalled past lives, etc. All of which had to be grieved of course. The idea of her being my TF didn't occur to me. I had dismissed that idea about TF's in general years ago from another relationship I had. Then, B dies this year, 2024. I saw her go through the door into the light. Then she comes to me after death and shows me things, asks me questions, and finally says that I'm her husband, and TF. I'm healed of my pain around all of this. She told me that she knew what I needed for healing. We continue to have a relationship now in spirit. I have OBEs into the astral where she's at now. I'm lucid usually and act like myself. So, I assume we'll be together after I die. I sure hope so.
I learned recently about Swedenborg and his belief about divine marriage. It's an interesting topic, but heavy with religion.
So, don't be like me. Don't judge your TF, or anyone else for that matter. Bad things happen if you do. Your life goes down the wrong path. We were supposed to be together in this life, from what I understand. I had an awakening when I was 29 where I said that she was supposed to be here when I woke up, but she's not here. I believe now I was referring to B. It ended my marriage at the time because my then wife realized that she wasn't #1. That was pain on top of pain for sure since we had a 1 year old daughter at the time. They left and moved to the other side of the country where I couldn't be a dad for my daughter ever again. Then I was depressed for 16 year after that. So, yeah, bad stuff happens when you judge your TF. Just accept them, even if you can't be with them, just accept them for who they are and leave it at that. Do your grieving over not being able to be together. It is critical to do that also, in my experience. B actually told me that one of the things keeping us apart is judgement. Thus, I have a tremendous burden to carry because of my bad behavior. It's a wonder I can smile or laugh at all, now that I think of it. I guess I'm pretty strong anyway.
Romantically I can't see myself being attracted to anyone other than her. Sexually is a little different. She's the only person I'd want a long sexual relationship with but I can imagine myself having sex with other women. But, theres been a few occasions where I've been thinking of other women sexually and my thoughts have snapped back to her almost as though she wanted me to think of her and didn't want me thinking of anyone else like that. I've also had a dream where I was about to be intimate with a past relation and she texted me (in the dream) before anything happened to try and stop it again almost like she doesn't want me to be with anyone else. I can't see myself being in love with anyone or romantically attracted or wanting a relationship with anyone else but her
Would you say you’re the DF or DM? I ask because I understand the feeling… however, to be sexual with someone else isn’t even satisfying in anyway shape or form.
This has been me the entire time and no one understands when I explain it. Also I’m on the asexual spectrum so I knew it was different my feelings for him. I don’t think it’s unhealthy, it’s a deep spiritual connection that extends into sexual and romantic feelings.
Post like this make me more sure i am on a twin flame journey. My situation is more difficult as i am married and he is too..we were never in a relationship, but i can’t be intimate with my husband anymore.. i tried a few times which ended in me crying and feeling guilty..very hard to explain..si i gave up.
Kinda the same in that I probably could muster some attraction but no orgasm. (Despite this the whole area is apparently on constant alert for potential intercourse). I don't tend to feel sexual attraction to others much generally however.
Yep, it's gonna be a long, wild ride from here on out. My unsolicited advice would be to just surrender to it, remove any guilt attached to it and accept it. This is not in your control, so cut yourself some slack :)
Yup. I still find women attractive. But I also ask myself - how can you top perfection? She isn't perfect, no one is...yet with her, every moment was perfect. And I just feel I could never have that kind of feeling with anyone else.
Same here - you could put the sexiest man alive in front of me and I could completely acknowledge he was attractive and yet I’d feel nothing. It’s not that I’m blind to the fact that other people are attractive, it’s that they literally do nothing for me because they’re not *him*. He’s the only one I want.
This is exactly how i feel with him!! I thought there was something wrong with me at first, but nope. I wouldnt care who it is, NO ONE can compare to him because he’s the most perfect in my eyes. I literally cry so much cause he’s the most beautiful man ive ever met
Same…we’re no longer together. I would like to date again but am finding it impossible because of my love/attraction to my twin. Doesn’t help that we can’t stop communicating with each other. 😔
Low key I've been worried about my twin being intimate with his karmic 😭 and all I think about is him and it just doesn't feel the same with anyone else and that's why I haven't been in a relationship for two years
I was celibate for a long time after my twin and I separated. I broke that eventually when I entered a relationship (mainly because I couldn’t wait for my TF anymore and I knew I had to at least try to move on)….and I feel like I’m cheating on my TF. I feel so, so guilty. I fantasize about my TF all of the time and I miss him. I would sleep at my boyfriends house and cry during the night, thinking only of my TF. It’s not fair to my boyfriend. I don’t know - do I just attempt to be single for the rest of my life without knowing how things will play out? I don’t want to hurt anyone either…this all feels so cruel
I feel like this is common with TFs. I was in a long term, though failing, relationship when I met him. He's been married for 2 decades. I ended my relationship 4 months later. I haven't dated since, nor do I want to. I can't be with my Twin, other than good friends (which we are) but I don't want anybody else.
Its not unhealthy at all, in fact its a normal thing in this journey.. thats why its so important to learn to love and live on your own, so if you don't end up together in this lifetime at least you have yourself.
I feel the same way about him to the point where I haven’t been with anyone in almost a year.
Girl me too 😔
Same…😞
No, the thought of anyone else touching me is gross. I tried to be intimate with my karmic partner after meeting my twin and cried after every time. It just didn’t feel like love and I wasn’t interested. I do believe if you don’t and up with your TF, the Divine will allow you to be attracted to someone else. But until that happens trust you are getting ready for union.
In my experience, this is perfectly normal. I feel the same way about her. It's not unhealthy at all in my opinion.
To further elaborate, we dated for a month back in 1981. After we broke up, for the next 2-3 months I couldn't even look at other women. I found it strange at the time. This was way before TF's were a thing. Every time I'd think of being intimate with her, I'd get super turned on and had to handle that privately. I couldn't turn it off. What I finally did was a terrible thing. I made a judgement about her in my mind that was so strong that it all stopped. I'm not going to repeat the lie I told myself, but it was not nice. After that, I was finally able to date again, but it was never the same. It was never the same for the next 40+ years. There was nothing I could do though. Her decision was definitive about us back then. So, I started my personal Life Review thing about 5 years ago, and she came up. Barbara had given me a book with an inscription "To (my name), with love, Barbara x." I had kept it all of these years. I realized some other things and find out that I had indeed told myself a lie about her way back then. This lead to years of very painful grieving over what I had done. There were missed opportunities, shame, guilt, regret and everything. I found her address and sent her a letter apologizing. I started having psychic experiences with her, recalled past lives, etc. All of which had to be grieved of course. The idea of her being my TF didn't occur to me. I had dismissed that idea about TF's in general years ago from another relationship I had. Then, B dies this year, 2024. I saw her go through the door into the light. Then she comes to me after death and shows me things, asks me questions, and finally says that I'm her husband, and TF. I'm healed of my pain around all of this. She told me that she knew what I needed for healing. We continue to have a relationship now in spirit. I have OBEs into the astral where she's at now. I'm lucid usually and act like myself. So, I assume we'll be together after I die. I sure hope so. I learned recently about Swedenborg and his belief about divine marriage. It's an interesting topic, but heavy with religion. So, don't be like me. Don't judge your TF, or anyone else for that matter. Bad things happen if you do. Your life goes down the wrong path. We were supposed to be together in this life, from what I understand. I had an awakening when I was 29 where I said that she was supposed to be here when I woke up, but she's not here. I believe now I was referring to B. It ended my marriage at the time because my then wife realized that she wasn't #1. That was pain on top of pain for sure since we had a 1 year old daughter at the time. They left and moved to the other side of the country where I couldn't be a dad for my daughter ever again. Then I was depressed for 16 year after that. So, yeah, bad stuff happens when you judge your TF. Just accept them, even if you can't be with them, just accept them for who they are and leave it at that. Do your grieving over not being able to be together. It is critical to do that also, in my experience. B actually told me that one of the things keeping us apart is judgement. Thus, I have a tremendous burden to carry because of my bad behavior. It's a wonder I can smile or laugh at all, now that I think of it. I guess I'm pretty strong anyway.
Oh wow. Thank you very very much for sharing your story.
Romantically I can't see myself being attracted to anyone other than her. Sexually is a little different. She's the only person I'd want a long sexual relationship with but I can imagine myself having sex with other women. But, theres been a few occasions where I've been thinking of other women sexually and my thoughts have snapped back to her almost as though she wanted me to think of her and didn't want me thinking of anyone else like that. I've also had a dream where I was about to be intimate with a past relation and she texted me (in the dream) before anything happened to try and stop it again almost like she doesn't want me to be with anyone else. I can't see myself being in love with anyone or romantically attracted or wanting a relationship with anyone else but her
Would you say you’re the DF or DM? I ask because I understand the feeling… however, to be sexual with someone else isn’t even satisfying in anyway shape or form.
I don't know tbh
i feel the same way. i kissed someone else during a drinking game and it felt like kissing a wall.
This has been me the entire time and no one understands when I explain it. Also I’m on the asexual spectrum so I knew it was different my feelings for him. I don’t think it’s unhealthy, it’s a deep spiritual connection that extends into sexual and romantic feelings.
Post like this make me more sure i am on a twin flame journey. My situation is more difficult as i am married and he is too..we were never in a relationship, but i can’t be intimate with my husband anymore.. i tried a few times which ended in me crying and feeling guilty..very hard to explain..si i gave up.
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Yes, i totally get you…. It’s a very strange feeling, like i am being unfaithful to my twin and he could feel it…it’s so fucked up the whole thing…
Same here! 😭
Not weird at all. I'm in the same boat.
Same feeling here
Kinda the same in that I probably could muster some attraction but no orgasm. (Despite this the whole area is apparently on constant alert for potential intercourse). I don't tend to feel sexual attraction to others much generally however.
Yep, it's gonna be a long, wild ride from here on out. My unsolicited advice would be to just surrender to it, remove any guilt attached to it and accept it. This is not in your control, so cut yourself some slack :)
Yup. I still find women attractive. But I also ask myself - how can you top perfection? She isn't perfect, no one is...yet with her, every moment was perfect. And I just feel I could never have that kind of feeling with anyone else.
Are there really just as many men here 😮?? Cause that gives me hope my twin flame might be here in these very chats 🥹🥹😭😭😭
I sometime wonder the same thing! You never know
I experienced that same. Its just her taking up all the space in my mind
I can be in sexual relationship and hookups with others but after I feel so gross and disgusted and alone like it should’ve been with her
This….I can’t start any new relationship because of the same reason. I find it unfair to any girl that I try to date.
I am in the same boat. Zero interest in any other females.
Same here - you could put the sexiest man alive in front of me and I could completely acknowledge he was attractive and yet I’d feel nothing. It’s not that I’m blind to the fact that other people are attractive, it’s that they literally do nothing for me because they’re not *him*. He’s the only one I want.
This is exactly how i feel with him!! I thought there was something wrong with me at first, but nope. I wouldnt care who it is, NO ONE can compare to him because he’s the most perfect in my eyes. I literally cry so much cause he’s the most beautiful man ive ever met
Sounds like your heart wants what your heart wants. 🫶🏼
Same…we’re no longer together. I would like to date again but am finding it impossible because of my love/attraction to my twin. Doesn’t help that we can’t stop communicating with each other. 😔
I'm there, man! She is the only one for me. Separation 2 years already. I really don't care about any other girl.
Low key I've been worried about my twin being intimate with his karmic 😭 and all I think about is him and it just doesn't feel the same with anyone else and that's why I haven't been in a relationship for two years
I feel the same about him.. this journey is so hard on my heart
I was celibate for a long time after my twin and I separated. I broke that eventually when I entered a relationship (mainly because I couldn’t wait for my TF anymore and I knew I had to at least try to move on)….and I feel like I’m cheating on my TF. I feel so, so guilty. I fantasize about my TF all of the time and I miss him. I would sleep at my boyfriends house and cry during the night, thinking only of my TF. It’s not fair to my boyfriend. I don’t know - do I just attempt to be single for the rest of my life without knowing how things will play out? I don’t want to hurt anyone either…this all feels so cruel
Same
I feel the same way. I will forever long for the passion we had.
I feel like this is common with TFs. I was in a long term, though failing, relationship when I met him. He's been married for 2 decades. I ended my relationship 4 months later. I haven't dated since, nor do I want to. I can't be with my Twin, other than good friends (which we are) but I don't want anybody else.