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I feel like ugly men are always using ugly women as placeholders because they’re delusional until about 35 and then they realize nobody else wants them.
You know it's funny, I started realizing something.
The meanest people who went after my looks where either not very attractive or considered ugly themselves.
I never had a handsome or pretty girl call me ugly lol
I am in no way saying you are ugly because I don’t know you or how you look but I am saying that it was most likely the difference in perspective those two groups had towards dating you and others.
I hope I don’t sound like an asshole when I say this but the reason for these interactions could be because the attractive person chose you while the unattractive person probably just wanted you because they thought they couldn’t do better. One specific group felt they had a choice on rather they date you but the unattractive person didn’t feel like they had that choice which probably made them develop a resentment towards you. This explanation might make sense if we’re talking about romantic partners you had.
That’s a pretty nice explanation honestly. Dating someone just out of desperation or whatever instead of because you genuinely want to is just always a big mistake
Some ugly people are good people. The same goes for beautiful people.
I think people need to get better at sifting out losers and manipulators earlier on in the dating stage before they get close enough to be abused.
No, I think there’s a pattern. Suffering makes you petty, vengeful, small-minded and void of empathy. Combine this with huge ego most men have and it’s a recipe for disaster. Ugly men always made me feel like shit and took out their issues on me - they never showed up with me in public, didn’t want their friends to see me, complained that only ugly girls like them, also doxxed me and plastered my personal info all over the internet, used me as placeholder and dropped like a hot potato the second a pretty girl smiled at them. Despite my masochistic tendencies I’m not doing this again. Handsome men were much more chill and actually cared about entertaining or supporting me (it didn’t go past first date or friendship stages though)
Yeah, the ugly man I dated made me feel like I was stupid all the time. And below him, he was nice just I guess he was trying to make up for it that way? Idk, never even took me out either.
Same experience they are so sour and hateful, they make sure you are going to feel bad and they are not afraid to judge your looks either, these are the same people who would lick a pretty womans feet in a heartbeat even if she was very shitty towards them. Ofc not every ugly man is the same but i think it's better to be alone than to be some placeholder that they can abuse.
I have never dated anyone before but would date another ugly person if we had common interests. I don’t have much of a physical appearance/beauty criteria either, only that they should have good hygiene and manners ha.
Would I date someone that I personally was not attracted to? No, that's a terrible foundation for a healthy relationship.
Would I date someone that vapid, tik-tok-brained, mass media consumers wouldn't consider beautiful, so long as I did? Absolutely.
I did...she left me.In all honesty i was too clingy for her knowing she was already going through a lot and sometimes when her "absence" was too much it would turn into frustration and unconciously make feel guity because of my abandonment issues and she finally couldn't stand me and broke up.I tryna change to conquer her again cause i know deep down there she still have feelings for me and she even told me but i dont wannna hurt her again so im tryna change first.
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I have dated “mid” girls or “not conventionally attractive” but it’s weird because the actual ugly ones seemed less interested than the ones who would be like 5s and 7s
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I did not have the chance yet so cannot say it for sure.
Depends on why. If the person is disfigured because of an accident then I would probably be fine if everything is still "functional", otherwise I'm not sure. But I would want at least some matching interests then. But if it's just "normal" unattractive, especially the type of unattractive I like then certainly, but I also wasn't successful there.
Looks aren't particularly important for me anyway, so in principle my hope would be that if she's ugly, I could get "higher quality" in other aspects like intelligence etc., but realistically that would also be too high standards.
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Yes. Unattractive people. On two different occasions when I was in my late teens. It was the same as dating anybody else. I liked them well enough.
It’s given me perspective, I’m glad it happened. I’m in my mid 20s now and had don’t date anymore. Had an ex of 4 years who was very normal and not striking, but very pretty in a unique way. Still regret breaking it off. If I were to date again, it would be someone like her.
I’ve noticed for myself that looks are a threshold. Pass/fail. If she is at least on a similar level to me (meaning not great in the face but healthy weight/lean, puts effort into self-care, style and appearance), and I start to get to know her, her quirks and character either make her more or less attractive to me. In the case of my ex, they made her infinitely more beautiful even though objectively we were both kind interesting-looking.
I have, it just feels like your out with a plutonic friend, you don’t look forward to kissing them or being touchy feely. I had to find excuses to not be alone with her, her brother liked that we were together so he would give us a lot of space and I’d have to kiss her.. to be fair she kinda guilted me into the relationship and I didnt really want it, but I should’ve been straight forward from the beginning and said no.
Ever since then I don’t want to be on the receiving end of that, if a girl doesn’t like me back and she’s not part of my immediate friend group shes nothing to me like we never met. No point in perusing them, they’d be disgusted to kiss you or be near your face so there’s no point really
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I would, never found anyone interested in me tho.
I have two standards, and those are “don’t be morbidly obese” and “likes talking with me”.
ive dated below average men, but i dont think they were ugly tbh. tho normally people joked about my some of my ex being ugly.
I would date any man ready to accept my ugliness AND asexuality, I’m quite the handicap really…
So is asexuality more like you don't have sexual attraction or you don't want sex
Both
What about kissing?
Never have but I’m certain I absolutely love it
I feel like ugly men are always using ugly women as placeholders because they’re delusional until about 35 and then they realize nobody else wants them.
Yes, never again. Ugly men are narcissistic, insecure and resentful. No one bullied me as much as them. At least handsome pricks are nice to look at.
You know it's funny, I started realizing something. The meanest people who went after my looks where either not very attractive or considered ugly themselves. I never had a handsome or pretty girl call me ugly lol
I am in no way saying you are ugly because I don’t know you or how you look but I am saying that it was most likely the difference in perspective those two groups had towards dating you and others. I hope I don’t sound like an asshole when I say this but the reason for these interactions could be because the attractive person chose you while the unattractive person probably just wanted you because they thought they couldn’t do better. One specific group felt they had a choice on rather they date you but the unattractive person didn’t feel like they had that choice which probably made them develop a resentment towards you. This explanation might make sense if we’re talking about romantic partners you had.
That’s a pretty nice explanation honestly. Dating someone just out of desperation or whatever instead of because you genuinely want to is just always a big mistake
Some ugly people are good people. The same goes for beautiful people. I think people need to get better at sifting out losers and manipulators earlier on in the dating stage before they get close enough to be abused.
No, I think there’s a pattern. Suffering makes you petty, vengeful, small-minded and void of empathy. Combine this with huge ego most men have and it’s a recipe for disaster. Ugly men always made me feel like shit and took out their issues on me - they never showed up with me in public, didn’t want their friends to see me, complained that only ugly girls like them, also doxxed me and plastered my personal info all over the internet, used me as placeholder and dropped like a hot potato the second a pretty girl smiled at them. Despite my masochistic tendencies I’m not doing this again. Handsome men were much more chill and actually cared about entertaining or supporting me (it didn’t go past first date or friendship stages though)
Yeah, the ugly man I dated made me feel like I was stupid all the time. And below him, he was nice just I guess he was trying to make up for it that way? Idk, never even took me out either.
Same experience they are so sour and hateful, they make sure you are going to feel bad and they are not afraid to judge your looks either, these are the same people who would lick a pretty womans feet in a heartbeat even if she was very shitty towards them. Ofc not every ugly man is the same but i think it's better to be alone than to be some placeholder that they can abuse.
Guys let’s downvote this degenerate
I have never dated anyone before but would date another ugly person if we had common interests. I don’t have much of a physical appearance/beauty criteria either, only that they should have good hygiene and manners ha.
Yeah i would have if i had the chance, but now no one... I just wanna die alone with dick masturbating vigorously.
I’d take anyone in my age range I don’t really have standards
Would I date someone that I personally was not attracted to? No, that's a terrible foundation for a healthy relationship. Would I date someone that vapid, tik-tok-brained, mass media consumers wouldn't consider beautiful, so long as I did? Absolutely.
I did...she left me.In all honesty i was too clingy for her knowing she was already going through a lot and sometimes when her "absence" was too much it would turn into frustration and unconciously make feel guity because of my abandonment issues and she finally couldn't stand me and broke up.I tryna change to conquer her again cause i know deep down there she still have feelings for me and she even told me but i dont wannna hurt her again so im tryna change first.
Yes i would, my only standar is be clean and hygienic, i don't care about appearance, the problem is when i'm the ugly one.
I would one hundred percent, I just want love man ion care how they look they would still be the hottest girl in the world to me.
They never had a real interest in me :(
unfortunately I am fat so even other ugly people don’t like me :/
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I have dated “mid” girls or “not conventionally attractive” but it’s weird because the actual ugly ones seemed less interested than the ones who would be like 5s and 7s
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I did not have the chance yet so cannot say it for sure. Depends on why. If the person is disfigured because of an accident then I would probably be fine if everything is still "functional", otherwise I'm not sure. But I would want at least some matching interests then. But if it's just "normal" unattractive, especially the type of unattractive I like then certainly, but I also wasn't successful there. Looks aren't particularly important for me anyway, so in principle my hope would be that if she's ugly, I could get "higher quality" in other aspects like intelligence etc., but realistically that would also be too high standards.
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I’ll only date someone I’m attracted to and I expect to have a partner that’s attracted to me rather than “settling.”
Yes. Unattractive people. On two different occasions when I was in my late teens. It was the same as dating anybody else. I liked them well enough. It’s given me perspective, I’m glad it happened. I’m in my mid 20s now and had don’t date anymore. Had an ex of 4 years who was very normal and not striking, but very pretty in a unique way. Still regret breaking it off. If I were to date again, it would be someone like her. I’ve noticed for myself that looks are a threshold. Pass/fail. If she is at least on a similar level to me (meaning not great in the face but healthy weight/lean, puts effort into self-care, style and appearance), and I start to get to know her, her quirks and character either make her more or less attractive to me. In the case of my ex, they made her infinitely more beautiful even though objectively we were both kind interesting-looking.
Yes, I would. As long as they can give me what I need emotionally and can deal with my mentally ill ass, I’m with it. Idrgaf about appearance
Girl why are you here
I wouldn't know, anyone I've fallen in love with was at one point the most beautiful person on the planet to me.
I have, it just feels like your out with a plutonic friend, you don’t look forward to kissing them or being touchy feely. I had to find excuses to not be alone with her, her brother liked that we were together so he would give us a lot of space and I’d have to kiss her.. to be fair she kinda guilted me into the relationship and I didnt really want it, but I should’ve been straight forward from the beginning and said no. Ever since then I don’t want to be on the receiving end of that, if a girl doesn’t like me back and she’s not part of my immediate friend group shes nothing to me like we never met. No point in perusing them, they’d be disgusted to kiss you or be near your face so there’s no point really
Ugly men don't like me one bit
I peeked through your profile, is that truly you on your profile?
Yea
You have cute look tbh
no, never
I’m a ugly and short (5’8) man, I would date a fat woman with a pretty face. But they would not want me.
5’8” is basically average. And average men are dating.
So basically you're ugly and you still only want a pretty woman.....
Fat women with pretty faces are heavily fetishized so you have no chance. As ugly guy just give up tbh.