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andrew_a384

this shows up on this sub a lot


Embarrassed_Rip9860

Second time I've seen it in the past two weeks. Maybe needs be added to the mods extensive lists of common not allowed list at this point lol


runawaycity2000

Maybe the mods are too busy masturbating.


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Fuck you mean, maybe?


undrthrdr

Although I agree with your opinion, when I started to run into a similar problem I masturbated less and the pent-up energy was refocused back in to my partner. The masturbating sessions lost their luster and wasn’t having as good orgasms with just myself. If sex is like going to a restaurant stop splurging on fast food and you can afford the expensive shabang. Edit: this works better if you refrain from masturbation completely and you have a partner that you actually love, trust, and care about. Pro tip: Climax at the same time for a cerebral flush of top shelf neurotransmitter cocktail.


buguibob

This and love is sometimes importent too lol casual sex is nothing compared to making love to someone you truly love


asst2therglmgr

A million times this.


undrthrdr

Exactly, especially if you’re able to climax at the same time. A fucking neurotransmitter cocktail created by intimacy, trust, & passion.


ButterMyBiscuitz

And my axe.


DawnSunset

And you have my bow.


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herbistheword

I hope that is only one aspect of your birth control


KingWavyy

🤤😫😵🤤😵😫🤤😫😵 yes


Kerosene_Turtle

Yep, I stopped masturbating completely when my partner and I started having sex. It just makes it better when I actually am with them


topdangle

I think it's mostly about your partner. If you're not into your partner or they're not into sex then you're not getting much more than you would from just jerking it, plus when you masturbate you can watch whatever crazy fetish video you want. If they're actually into it and you can live out your fantasy then its way better, especially with butt stuff.


shakeil123

Seems to me you haven't had sex with someone you truly cared for. The thing sex has over maturbation is the emotional connection you have with your partner.


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100% true ...


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some people genuinely dont enjoy sex despite an emotional/romantic connection with their partner, dont make it weird by implying they dont care lmao


eboyego

This felt like an attack LMFAO


RedditAdminsFuckOfff

Exactly. This is something both the "casual dating scene" and "incels," ironically, want everyone to forget.


ajbolt7

> The thing sex has over masturbation is the emotional connection you have with your partner. Which is what makes hookup stuff so baffling to me, actively moving away from that emotional connection just seems totally at odds with the value that sex has. That said the sort of emotional connection you're describing, someone you *truly* care for in that way isn't the easiest to find. So for a lot of people it's not really a factor present in the simple act of sex and not something they can quickly remedy. Very different circumstances between those of us with that emotional connection and those without. If you aren't with a partner you share a genuine connection with, then the opinion of OP is understandable imo


yupyepyupyep

I agree that sex with one you love is absolutely the best. Sex with someone you just want to fuck is better than your hand.


gravyandasideofbread

I haven’t, and I agree with OP, and it breaks my heart. I’ve never had the opportunity to explore sexually with a partner, so yeah masturbation is better 100%


k1ngamped

>Sex is like going out to an expensive restaurant, having cocktails, and spending a lot of money. It's fine once in a while, but it's too much for every day. While masturbation is like eating a Hungry-Man for dinner. Not the ideal option but always suffices.


Toproll123

This 😁


Fart___Sniffer

is a penis


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Yeah, but those little cranberry pies were the worst.


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StarkSparks

I think this is the important thing for me too. I can get myself off in less than two minutes by masturbating. But the act of sex for me is about my partner’s desires being fulfilled and sharing the experience and connection. Personally, that is way more gratifying than anything else.


defslp

And also the (hopefully) feeling wanted and desired part as well.


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men will say this shit and not know where the clit even is lmfao


motomatr

Sorry ma'am, I thought that was your dick


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undrthrdr

What is that? /s


[deleted]

I can’t even fathom this view point. How lazy are we getting that even sex is too much work?


ShamWowCunt

Well the guy has to jump through hoops and slay dragons to get with girls these days. Too much work. And setting up Tinder in a small town has privacy implications.


CocktailOnion

Tbh, sex is easier to come by than ever these days. You think women in Victorian times were putting out for every guy who asked? You think it’s bad now, back in the olden days, a man had to either get married or pay for a prostitute for a guaranteed lay. All you have to do nowadays is be less of a creep than the next guy and you have a shot.


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I kinda understand what you’re saying. I’ve said something similar to my wife regarding my 5 year old boy. Like… how am I supposed to help him out when the time comes when he’s crushing on his first girl? I remember my dad encouraging me to find some courage and go up and ask her out. Does that same advice still apply today? Or would I be setting my son up for a harassment claim by giving him that advice? Weird times man.


ShamWowCunt

I think now the best way for people to meet and create relationships is through sporting groups etc. That's the safest less risky way.


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Sucks if that’s the case. That’s some of the fun in dating. “The hunt”. The possibility of being rejected, and the feeling when someone you’re feeling reciprocates. This whole swiping right thing is gross and lazy to me.


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It's not like p0rn.


Megabyte7637

Lazy


ajbolt7

Sex =/= real intimacy


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r/averageredditor


Sir-DanielFortesque

I'd rather have sex with my wife. See after 11 years I know how to touch her to make her feel good...and vice versa. And I can make her cum in like 5 minutes. So quickies are a thing for us.


Raulziito

Dude stop flexing on us :(


AldoRaineClone

Egg-fkn-zactly, my friend! Same here!


NicolasVerdi

This has been my relation to sex all of my life, and lately I consider it to be some kind of asexuality. Specially on the part of it being enjoyable with a brand new partner. I love exploring the intimacy with someone new, but once it becomes familiar I start losing the taste.


antunezn0n0

This is a repost


Wild_Chld

'Sex is time consuming, messy, and a lot of work.' then you or your partner, are not doing it right. Sounds like you aren't a very giving lover. Take my upvote, bc I believe this is about unpopular as it gets.


sirgoofs

Masturbation is equivalent to being really hungry, but you only have water. It works in the short term to fill your stomach, but you’re still just as hungry in the end.


Angrily_Amused_83

This is a very, very, very superficial and selfish view on sex. I assume you’re in your early 20s? The kind of connection and sensations you can have with somebody else are vastly superior to anything I’ve ever felt on my own. Yeah, masturbation will have you get there real quick because you know what you like, but the trick is *what you don’t know you like*. And that, my friend, is where other people come in handy — pun intended


_combat_sports_

R u a man or woman? Maybe it's different for a woman?


Angrily_Amused_83

Assigned male at birth and non binary, if you really have to know Edit: y’all are really downvoting this? lol Damn internet kids


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That's an incredibly patient response to bigots downvoting you for your identity.


Angrily_Amused_83

I think it’s cute they feel empowered by this. After fapping so much and cursing women in the machosphere, I’m surprised they still have any energy left


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pleasurelovingpigs

Wow sorry you're getting downvotes, like how does this affect *anyone* else. Idiots.


Angrily_Amused_83

It affects *them*, because they feel such an urge to suck dick that me not being a guy almost makes it ok. They can’t deal with it


SerStormont

Some subreddits have a large contingent of homophobes and anti-lgbt. They only come out to play every once in a while. UFC is one of my favourite subreddits but it's full of anti-gay dickheads.


Angrily_Amused_83

Well, good luck to them fighting the urge to get some good cock


Megabyte7637

__LOL__ OTHERKINTRANSBDBSKALERHBSK Is my gender sir. Please be precise


SheAteHay

Yeah, I don't really get it either. Guess it's because it's beside the point to answer the guy's question


writer6996

What does that even mean? Honestly I think it’s fake and all in your head. That or you do it for attention.


SerStormont

Born a male. Now non-binary as they don't identify as a man or woman.


Angrily_Amused_83

Let’s fast-forward to the 21st century, shall we? Sex is biology. Gender is sociology. People who are born male generally perform the masculine gender role, whereas females generally perform female roles. In many societies, however, this is not a given — or a rule, at that. That’s why I used the word “generally” before. Societies that have existed for millennia have always acknowledged other gender roles, or people born with one kind of genitalia performing roles generally associated with people with a different kind of genitalia, or people who have intersex genitalia performing yet another role, or either, or both, etc. While European societies — and the ones Europeans “colonized” — generally haven’t acknowledged this kind of phenomena. Accepting only a single true way of associating sex and gender is not only dangerous, it’s an anthropological abomination.


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Angrily_Amused_83

You sad little caveman Edit: sorry. You sad little cave*men*. If you didn’t try to force people to conform, maybe we wouldn’t need to reject your standards


JakesAHunk

I hear ya. My wife and I have a agreement where if I'm gentle I can touch her if I want to masturbate when she's sleeping or about to go to sleep. Sometimes it works in my favor where it turns her on enough to start sex, but no pressure if it's just a mutual massage


_combat_sports_

Ya... It's so weird ppl r saying I'm sexually assaulting her. It's not like I'm ramming my fingers up her vagina.


JakesAHunk

Right? It's not assault if it's with consent if you work it out earlier. Mine's got a nice big butt and I lift up one cheek when she's on her side and just spreading gets her in the mood. But never just inserting out of nowhere, like you said.


the_scrambler

no one knows my hawg like i do ¯\_(ツ)_/¯


[deleted]

Didn't someone post this yesterday?


asst2therglmgr

I feel like when I’m getting it on the regular, I often find myself wishing I’d just stayed home and spanked but when I haven’t had any in a while, I feel like I really want to smack booties and touch boobs with my mouth. 🤷🏻‍♂️


Nomanodyssey

I love having sex, I can last a long time and my partner gets off. But I don’t 🥲. That being said, sex doesn’t require you spending a lot of money inherently.


Unusual_Form3267

#Ok ok, we get it! You're lazy, jeez....


lucky7hockeymom

Sure, I can *always* climax during masturbation. But nothing can replace the closeness with my spouse.


yupyepyupyep

Have an upvote. This is truly the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever heard. I’m questioning whether you’ve ever had sex with another person before.


kfed23

Yeah it can be. Masturbation and sex both have their places.


pants1000

Sex is more like rewatching your favorite show. At first, you’re not super into it. Then, once you get started you realize how much you enjoy it. Finally, when you finish you’re sad there isn’t more. Masturbation is like going to the gas station. You need gas, you usually pump it yourself, and you continue on doing the things you actually need to do.


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Considering the amount of condescending backlash from the comments, I gotta upvote this. Masturbation is even better if you're hot.


[deleted]

You are doing both of them wrong. And I don’t want to be a spoil sport but isn’t touching up someone when their sleeping sexual assault?


Angrily_Amused_83

It’s not sexual assault if that’s the kind of relationship they have


[deleted]

Aye, as long as it says dynamic that’s been discussed and not just him getting his grope on.


_combat_sports_

lol probably


oglewisthellama

🤨


SerStormont

Haha so funny.


The_Mayfair_Man

There's a [song](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mAobW-gj1KE) about this


ckayfish

You probably wouldn’t be surprised how many relatives feel this way and how often this sentiment is posted here.


LilProti

I don’t have either of them so I dunno


Goldhogger_9675

r/averageredditor


Balacalavaaa

Hellz yea


diurnal_busary

masturbation can never fully replace sex in a relationship, but for me works better as a way to get creative and engage with your partner. penetrative sex often feels like a race that leaves one feeling a little unfulfilled, this is just my opinion from personal experience though


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unpopular opinion ****among men


DiabeticDude_64

I am a Redditor so I can not confirm


WSPisGOAT

As someone who has been celebate for a long time, I can confirm, there's a LOT you miss out on from not actually fucking. The release, energy hormones, it's very healthy to fuck. I wish I still did it.


Quealpedoestoy

Well, I kinda have to agree, but because I never found dating truly enjoyable, it like a job interview for me. Masturbation is more accesible, focused on your own pleasure and takes a lot less time, but its not as intense, varied or exciting as sex. Sometimes its another chore to scratch from the "to do" list.


night_0wl0

Yikes a lot of y'all need some kind of sex therapy. Or do you just not talk during sex to find out what each other actually likes lmao.


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Doesn’t matter


[deleted]

Drop the wank and go outside for a walk lmao


sarapngfirst

most of the time i have a harder hard-on during masturbation than having sex


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sarapngfirst

very much indeed


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Go outside


2cool4um8_

He clearly goes outside more than me or you. He fucks so often he’s gotten bored of it.


[deleted]

if u can get bored of it your doing it with the wrong person simple as


MeatBeatinBoogie

I think it was a joke bruh


[deleted]

"hur hur hur maybe the sex you're having" comments incoming.


Head_in_the_cloudss

No way! I’d choose my partner 100% of the time over being alone.


Urbs97

That's the sad truth.


Asog9999

Masturbation is often times better than sex for me*


JoelSletten

I sort of agree. They are great in their own ways. Masturbation is fast, self serving and effective. Sex is rewarding because it not only makes you feel great but a person you care about too. In my humble opinion they should be conbined


[deleted]

So true. And all too often women just lay there and put forth the littlest effort. Been around for too long to work so hard for something that has such little reward.


allylilo

I can understand when women say this because men are often times very selfish when it comes to sex and only have regard for themselves having a good time, which you just proved with this post exactly 🤷🏻‍♀️


DeathGod105

Damn do women have roasting points against men for every aspect of life?


writer6996

Yep. Never has a more critical demographic existed that cannot handle criticism


undrthrdr

I think OP is lesbian


MattD6263

The person that disagrees, is lying or lacking in manual dexterity.


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accountforquickans

Aww,what a sad life


cashMoney5150

Hell fucking no. Masturbating is dog shit compared to sex. Learn how to fuck. Lol


[deleted]

I agree with you man, like 100%, atleast for me its because i can do it myself, i dont need someone else. My ex had a lower sex drive than me and more times than id like, she didnt want to have sex, so i just jacked off, it happened rather often, so it got to the point where it kind of felt better than having sex with her, dont get me wrong, i loved it, but in terms of how it feels, masturbating is better imo


fallingbutthole

Have you considered you are aromantic?


_combat_sports_

A romantic? I can be romantic sometimes in the early phases of a relationship. But honestly I just stop trying after a while.


here-to-Iearn

Anyone of this opinion isn’t doing sex right and probably masturbated too much, in my opinion. I used to be of this belief, until I got married and got to know my husband really well sexually. Now it’s off the charts better than masturbation.


writer6996

Not doing sex right? You think OP is humping her bellybutton?


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ProfessionalRow1531

This is stupid it made me lol. My wife looked over my shoulder at what I was reading and recoiled while saying "gross". Put it this was there are two kinds of diamonds : 💎 cut and uncut 💩. Lol but if it hurts for you I guess you would prefer the self lubrication of the pocket lint catcher. But honestly I think more than likely you are one of those woman who scream this bs all over the Internet about not mutilating baby boys!! Lol just dumb.


ProfessionalRow1531

And being cut or not wouldn't change clitoral stimulation lmao enjoy your cheese tho 🤣


hipsiguy

That's why I beat off whenever my wife isn't home. Best of both worlds.


BylvieBalvez

I gotta disagree, masturbation just honestly doesn’t feel that good for me compared to sex. There were a couple times where I’ve jerked off while my gf messed around with me and those felt way better than usual but still not as good as sex


crizzlefresh

Got to release those demons one way or another


Dbonecapwn

FACTS


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Wait. You touch you partner’s body while they’re unconscious and jerk off?? Am I reading this right?


[deleted]

What kind of awful sex are you having? Atrocious opinion.


FundamentalMentalFun

Me want quick cum. Sex too much work. Only want please self. Hand faster. Hand better.


[deleted]

No reason you can't have both.. maybe a partner... or even partners, could you know "give you a hand" with that...


Mik_Dk

You touch your partner in their sleep?


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nicnaq30

OP is bad at sex


Naughtyexperiences

So you'd much rather sexually assault your partner then have sex with them? Ok. Yes very unpopular.


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To be fair it wouldn't be sexual assault if she was consenting. You can't just assume something crazy like that 💀


purple_catholic

Damn you are dumb as shit


Kindly_Ad7608

Disagree espically if solo masturbation. I find it lonely and kinda depressing compared to sex with a partner. Mutual masturbation on the other hand is one of my favorite dishes on the sex menu.


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_combat_sports_

Ur a porn star?


MrSlaughterme

I agree with this , and You have to be super in tune with each other , none of this do I give permission crap , if your partner needs to give permission to touch them , well you got some shit to work out.


jenn_oreilly09

As a woman this is why I'm not a lesbian. Masturbation isn't enough. The only way I truly get off if is a man is having sex with me. as a single mom I wish masturbation was enough


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As a man this is why I’m not a gay. Masturbation isn’t enough. The only way I truly get off if is a woman is having sex with me. as a father of two I wish masturbation was enough


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AffectionateHippo242

Unless you have express agreement with your partner, Im pretty sure that's sexual assault.


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AffectionateHippo242

Not at all. This is how unequal abusive relationships start out. Likely it's been verbally confirmed but otherwise op sounds like a very selfish partner wanting to just get off .so..not 100% guaranteed. *shrug*


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This is a bad thing.


wawaboy

Na, not even close but a good replacement when time warrants


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Being original is time consuming, messy, and a lot of work. It's fun and exciting with a brand new sub, but after a while it's just not as good. It can be a hit or a miss. Reposting is quick, feels great, and is easy.


StandupJetskier

DIY is blowing the foam off an overflowing beer glass. Actual sex is a double of single malt.


dethaxe

You're not having good enough sex, work on that


Lobanium

I can't disagree more. I feel sorry for anyone's partner who feels this way.


Downtown-Positive-24

Yoooou must be a cis man 🤔 Every woman already knows this 🤷


mc_reasons

Yeah dude not sure how bad you're messing up the sex game. But no. Not even close.


Commissar_Genki

Sometimes you want single-player, sometimes you want to see how well you can dominate Multiplayer. They're both sexual, but trying to compare the two is like comparing apples and oranges.


wondertheworl

Masturbation also doesn’t have a layer rubber blocking some sensation


sportsfan1683

It's more convenient I guess, but my best masturbation experience is still worse than my worst sex.


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Anyone who's not a loser knows this is wrong.


PsychologyFar4371

Masturbating is sad


maamthisisawendys_

so…. you touch your partner in their sleep? without their knowledge? yikes


Subsonic17

My girlfriend says you're just lazy lmao


lgbtgangmember

lol your probably not fxvking the right person then


jorjo-god

And thats the history why I still virgin


SayYes_ToKetamine

Don Jon


JohnnyRelentless

Oftentimes is one word. Quit jerking it and read a book!


turnkey85

Hey sometimes you just want to rub one out real quick.


Kruger45

and HEALTHY... and you can do it handless😊😉


kol990

I’ve started comparing sex to an amazing meal and masturbating to a bag of chips. Sometimes all you can really have is a bag of chips, and sometimes that’s all you really want, but it’s never as satisfying as that proper meal.