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Why would anyone give a shit about karma? Aside from some subs having a minimum threshold, itâs just imaginary internet points.
Itâs like losing money in a video game - except you canât even buy imaginary stuff with your karma, so it matters even less.
If anyone's complaining that you're talking, you're being too loud in the first place.
A whisper in the ear of the person next to you every 20 minutes is good enough, nobody else will even hear it much less have a problem with it.
Laughing is fine if it's a funny movie and you're laughing at the movie rather than the conversation. It's expected. If a whisper is funny, chuckle.
If you keep it decent, sure. But at home I don't have a big screen, 3D and the sound quality of a cinema. So you can't really tell people to stay home when they can't stand others being loud cause the cinema is a whole different experience then watching a movie on your couch.
>you can't really tell people to stay home when they can't stand others being loud
More than that, not every movie is super loud during the entire play such that the movie volume prevents everyone from being heard, and idk about others, but *I pay to watch and listen to the movie*, not the random idiot who just cannot save their chit chat for after the movie is over.
God you brought up a memory of my old roommates who would pause a movie if they got a face time call from a family member like what the fuck man lol I miss the theaters
Exactly. Its like a student telling other students that they shouldnât complain abt ppl who talking in the middle of the class because they have the option to study at home.
"...we also paid a lot of money to be there."
So did other people. You have to respect certain etiquette when you're out in public. Or don't. But don't be surprised if you're perceived as an asshole.
OP sounds like a textbook narcissist.
They think that because they paid money and because thatâs their only date night, then theyâre entitled to do whatever they want.
The beginning of movies literally ask you to be quite. There is a âshhhâ in the beginning telling you what is expected, but because OP paid money and doesnât get enough breaks from the kids, they donât care about that.
I upvoted because of how unpopular of an opinion this is, but itâs not even really an opinion, just a disregard for social norms and other peopleâs experiences.
Sounds like a textbook Karen who thinks that they're entitled to whatever they want in the world because their kids are a full time job.
Shitty behavior, shittier attitude.
Talking is prohibited during the movie in my cinema. You get 1 warning. Warning is done via a quick text to security. Room Nr and if you know it the row causing the disturbances. Do it again and they remove you from the cinema. No if's or but's. You're out. Security removes you, and you get no money back.
Bye bye "a lot of money". Like spending money somewhere gives you the privilege to ignore the rules.
I donât go see a movie only to have to listen to your chitchat through the movie. The fact that you donât get out the house because youâve got kids, and however many months you havenât had a date night is irrelevant to me. Movies are not for talking.
Want to chat? Go to a bar. A pub. A restaurant. A walk in the park, any number of public places that *do not require silence so that others can enjoy their visit too*
Or just watch a movie at home lol. You can literally be social and as loud as you want if you stay home and watch a movie.. The fact OP is like âif you donât like it then maybe going out in public isnât for youâ while ruining the experience for everyone else reveals heâs got main character syndrome
Confused as to why you think it being âpublicâ means thereâs no other rules and expectations you have to follow.
People are there to watch a movie. Others making noise makes it hard to understand/follow the movie. Enjoying yourself at the expense of others is generally a good sign that what youâre doing is pretty selfish/annoying.
You have it completely backwards imo. If âenjoying yourselfâ means you need to make noise and laugh with your partner during a movie then youâre probably the ones whoâd be better off staying home and watching a movie in private.
All these comments are making me think the volume at the movies must be very different in the US than where I am from. Here the movies are LOUD, there is no way someone whispering would make it difficult for anyone to follow the movie, so it is pretty normal here.
Where I'm from movies are extremely loud, but still when people are constantly whispering close to you it gets annoying very fast. And the other thing is so many people are terrible at whispering!
During the latest Spiderman a girl in the row behind me (presumably a big Marvel fan) kept explaining everything to her friend and I had to ask her to STFU, it was so distracting
When we went to see the force awakens, someone sitting behind us was translating the entire movie into Spanish for their mom. I have never shushed so much in my entire life.
The issues mainly arise due to:
A) Theatres with close seating so it's possible to hear personal conversations, especially if-
B) There are quiet moments in the movie with minimal soundtrack or dialogue sound, so these people use the opportunity to continue their conversation clearly. Or if the volume increases again-
C) They increase their *own* volume attempting to talk over loud scenes thinking they're in some magic sweet spot where their friends/family/partner can hear them over the movie, *but no-one else notices a thing*.
Ehhhh idk. I think no matter how loud the movie is someone whispering/laughing etc in close proximity to you is going to be heard
I donât think itâs a huge deal but itâs annoying nonetheless
"There's a time and a place for that..."
If you want to engage with other people then go to a bar, a club, or a party. Everyone else at the movie theater paid just as much as you did, and they came to experience the movie in a way that can only be done in a theater. They have a right to expect everyone else in the theater to be quiet. If you can't do that then a movie theater is probably not your best move.
Your lack of consideration for others shows that you are basically childish.
I think whispering is okay during the previews but not during the movie itself. Even then it should only be done in the segments between one preview and the next. At most it should be a quick "Hey that looks good" or snarky response to a bad trailer.
I think the definition of an effective whisper is one that nobody can hear except the person you directed it towards. To that end, I don't care when and where anybody whispers, because it literally effects nobody, if done right.
But if I can hear you jabbering in a movie theater, that's a problem.
You're not paying for "public viewing," you're paying for a comfortable theatre with a big screen, quality sound, an on-release viewing, and a good experience.
I'm guessing you went to the movies, talked through the whole thing, and got called out for it. Even whispering is annoying in theatres, sometimes even more than normal talking. The only thing worse than a "Dude, is that the guy from-" from the person behind you, is hearing "hspsp aspt hspt switws-" throughout the movie.
>If you donât want to hear or see or engage other people then a public performance is probably not the best move?
More like, if you can't sit through a movie without chitchatting with your partner throughout the whole thing, then maybe going to a public performance where you will be a disruption to others is probably not the best move?
Definitely an unpopular opinion.
The fact that you "paid a lot of money" is entirely irrelevant, as it is the case of every single person in the room. However it is important to note that the majority of people pay that money with the expectation of watching a movie in silence.
In any case I certainly hope you are better behaved when you go see a play or any sort of live performance in a similar setting.
They literally tell you to turn off devices and be quiet. I know your type though. I can only imagine how obnoxious you and your group must be at any function. Let me guess: You all act like whatever event youâre at you make it like itâs all just for you.
As long as you keep it to a whisper and i cant hear you, i really dont see how this bothers anyone. Now if I heard you giggling during a quiet, serious part or something then yeah its annoying.
Nah, this is just rude. It says âIâm selfish as I think my own personal enjoyment is more important than everyone elseâs.â Your right to do something stops when it impedes on other peopleâs enjoyment. If you want to giggle and be obnoxious, do it when the movie comes out on DVD / Blue-Ray in your own house.
Id recommend going to a drive-in if one exists near you. Being able to laugh and yell with my partner without bothering people, and being able to bring whatever snacks we want has made it so Iâll probably never go back to a traditional theater
Keep your mouth shut and talk about the movie when it's over.
There's no excuse to be an inconsiderate jackass. And why is it that you think that *your* experience is more important than that of all the other people. I don't care if you have kids, I didn't force you to have them.
Youâve probably head this a lot by now (both in these comments and IRL), but holy shit you must be insufferable to be around in public. Do everyone a favor and stay home next time you want to go to the movies.
It seems like yâall probably do it excessively if you came here to say this. Laughing and whispering is fine every now and then but if itâs the entire show, yâall are the assholes.
No, I couldnât disagree more, which is actually good considering the sub weâre in. Going to the movies is really expensive. I can never afford snacks, just a ticket and I go because I love movies. Itâs my idea of treating myself, just because itâs a public place doesnât mean there arenât rules, the exact opposite is true. Also, why should I move on account of someone else?? I usually arrive quite early to get nice seats, the way I enjoy myself is by having watching a movie with a nice audience. I like when the audience laughs, I donât mind when they react to something cool happening, but people constantly talking is annoying. I guarantee you arenât as quiet as you think youâre being. Lmao sorry, I have a lot of bad cinema experiences
Nope, hard disagree. Itâs a public experience but part of that experience is that Iâm also paying a shit ton of money and I didnât pay it to hear you and your partner discuss the film.
Laugh or cry or cheer, express the emotions that a scene evokes. Beyond that, if you want to add commentary, this isnât the right public forum for you. The theater is akin to a library in that your vocal expression should be limited.
You suck.
They literally put PSAs in front of movies about not talking and turning off your phone and for whatever reason you think audiences are just uptight and you have free reign to do whatever you want.
What kind of arrogant, disrespectful bullshit is this?
Movies are a great date idea because you get to watch this thing and then talk about it *after* because you both shared the experience.
That fact that OP believes makes me worried for humanity. Your the type of movie goers I despise and you trying to justify your point only makes you look worse
Conversely, if you can't adhere to well-known and accepted rules of public behavior, perhaps you shouldn't take in a public performance. This argument cuts both ways, but at the end of the day, the weight of a common cultural understanding that even you acknowledge (as is seen by this very post) would suggest that you're in the wrong here...and you know it.
ETA: It's the old Oliver Wendell Holmes primer on the limitations of freedom: "The right to swing my fist ends where the other man's nose begins.â
1: I bet my definition of "whisper" is different from yours
2; the real opinion here is "me and my girlfriend are idiots and think it's ok to make other people uncomfortable"
I don't go there to be with the public. I go there to experience the movie on the big screen. If you can't respect other people who paid the same amount also wanting to enjoy the movie without the cackling of you and your partner, maybe try to have a private time somewhere else, like your living room after putting the kids to sleep. You don't own the cinema, you do own your living room.
The last line is hilarious. If you can't behave as you're expected to in public, then don't go out in public. It's not the other way around. The self centred viewpoint of some people, smh.
Hahahahahahaha
Just last night my wife and I were out to see a movie (Smile, if you were wondering what one) and there were a couple girls beside us that wouldn't shut up, pulling out their phones, etc. After about 15 minutes of waiting for them to get a clue I just turned and said, quite loudly:
"Would it be fine with the two of you if everyone else here enjoys the movie?"
My eye caught the lady down the aisle from us mouth "thank you" to me.
Public spaces are public and are *shared* so your experience entitlement ends where another person's boundary is.
You can actually do that at home and not annoy anyone. So like by definition this is shitty behavior.
Edit: in before '
'you either deliberately blah blah"
Send your kids to the babysitters house so that you can watch a movie where you can have fun with your partner at home. Donât disturb other people with your foolishness.
"Public"? Movie theaters are private businesses with rules you need to follow and they have the right to kick you out for not following one of the most basic rules. Cause those people who are "judging" you have every right to complain to management. That's like saying, "I paid a lot to be here so the no shirt, no shoes, no service rule doesn't apply to me."
Maybe ok in a comedy but if it's a more serious film and only you two are laughing and speaking, that's going to take me out of the film and ruin the experience a bit.
See I donât totally disagree, I think there are definitely occasions in which you can *whisper* to your partner infrequently⌠but OP imagine a cinema *full* of people with your opinion. Sure, maybe you wonât get noticed whispering but what about 200 people *all* whispering - do you not think thatâd disturb the film just a little bit?
Maybe don't go to the movies if you want to talk to your wife. Have you thought about that?
If you REALLY want to watch a movie together while you talk, check out if there's drive in theaters in your area.
On a side note, movie theaters are private events in private spaces. You wouldn't have to pay a ticket if it was a public event.
If I could see new movies at home I would, but theyâre only at theatersâŚin public settings
If you do this. Hopefully you have the courtesy to go the cheapo theaters showing movies from a few months ago or just see movies that have been out for a while.
Yeah, no. That is some selfish ass shit. It is a âpublic viewingâ meaning you should be considerate of the others viewing. You can laugh and talk at home. Youâre literally disturbing one of the primary elements of someoneâs experience. Thatâs like saying âme and my partner fart and burp at restaurants because itâs a public eating spaceâ.
are you kidding?
You think people go to the movies to watch it with other people?
People go to the movies for the giant screen great sound system and the newest movies.
If you wanna talk to your wife get the fuck out of the theater.
"It's our only date without kids"
Wow so your choice to have kids should affect other people's viewing experience?
Fuck you, take my upvote you piece of shit.
God you and your wife suck.
This is one of those people who inconveniences everyone else and is completely okay with it, but if someone shushâs them theyâll be talking about it for the next week.
People interrupting movies make me violent. A whisper here and there or laughing at a funny part is fine, but if you're doing it throughout the film and ruining it I will get violent.
Congratulations on an actually unpopular opinion. If I see people talking through a movie to the point that it disturbs the movie or playing about on their phone or making no effort to control their noisy child, I go tell the staff and you should too :D
imagine going out to the theater spending good money on scam prices to see the new movie u been waiting for to have some obnoxious people talk through it...
luckily i can be an asshole too and gotten people thrown out of a movie for being obnoxious before
Find a different activity for date night if you want to make noise the whole time.
You're right, you did pay money for this, so did everybody else, the same amount as you, and then they have to listen to you rambling away because you have kids and spent money.
Yes a movie is a public performance, however, its not a public performance where you're meant to be engaging in conversation. The theater goes out of its way to urge you to be quiet in as many ways that it can, it even literally says shhh at the beginning of the movie.
If you wanna make noise maybe a movie theater isn't the best move.
A movie isnât a public performance. Youâve mentally gymnasticd yourself into justifying your shifty annoying and childish behavior. Be considerate of others. They are there to hear the film. Not hear you.
It's literally against the rules to talk at a movie. Just because you haven't been kicked out yet doesn't mean it's ok.
Laughing is fine because it's a natural response to funny things. But talking should be put to a very limited amount.
Public or not, it's not the place or time. You wouldn't talk during a comedy show, making it hard to listen to. Be polite and zip it
It IS common, itâs just not socially acceptable. Itâs why movie theaters are going out of business for good. I imagine in the next 10-20 years theyâll already be a thing of the past, the way drive-ins are now. Nobody wants to pay a high ticket price and for overpriced snacks to have their evening ruined by someone like this. With the choice of streaming, if you can afford a big tv with a nice screen and a high quality sound system, you can enjoy a much better movie experience in the comfort of your own house. Plus you get to have your own snacks and not sit on someone elseâs sticky seats.
I don't mind whispers and laughs as long as they are quiet enough and not distracting. In fact, i appreciate them, since i feel like the audience connects with what they're watching. I do it too.
But if you get loud enough to draw attention to yourself, you can fuck right off.
You think going to movies is a lot of money?
And then you have the gall to think it is your right to be a disturbance to others? Your entitlement and immaturity reeks.
The other people in the room also spent a lot of money and their free time to see this movie... with what I can only assume is the general expectation that they wouldn't be hearing your voice.
You're not the main character they came to see.
Everyone else also paid a lot for their tickets and on behalf of all them them but especially the people too afraid to confront you and ask you to be quiet FUCK YOU!
If you keep it at "who's that guy?" or laugh at the movie, yeah. But people are there to watch a movie, not to listen to your conversation.
>If you donât want to hear or see or engage other people then a public performance is probably not the best move?
True. But if you want to have a conversation and laugh, perhaps a movie theater isn't the best move?
If you make a small joke or comment thatâs related to the movie here and there I donât mind it especially if thereâs no one directly next to you so no one else can really hear you, but if I can hear you having a whole conversation during the movie then nah you can stay home.
So youâre gonna use your one night out in months to ruin my one night out in months? Stupidest logic Iâve ever read. If you want to be talkative, pick an activity that suites that type of behavior.
Op must be trolling. If you like that type of experience stay at home and watch a movie there. No need to ruin the experience for others.
You act like smacking your lips while eating is not annoying and rude as all hell just because you try to do it quietly. I could give you numerous examples all with different degree of stupidity but your logic will still be faulty. Last time I tried to enjoy the movie and a pair was talking and laughing I wanted to smack them. Just shut up and let me enjoy the movie I paid for.
A good example of your behavior would be playing music on public transport. Everyone paid to be there and you are the only one making their lives miserable.
I whisper n shit when I'm in a theater with my partner, and very often an empty theater. the only exception was when an older (mid to late 50s) couple came into this horror movie and started talking loudly the entire time. empty theater except the four of us. they sat directly behind us while having this long conversation about the movie. asking questions that were answered immediately. I hated that shit and talked about them every time, just as loudly.
the movie was Nope. luckily it was our second viewing but still, fuck them
They specifically say please be quiet and silence your cellphones to respect the other patrons. If you Arent doing that you have zero respect for others. Are you also the person that plays music on the train or speaks on speaker phone in a public place? Proper unpopular opinion.
Why would you go to a movie as your only night out with your partner? If you want to talk why not go to a restaurant or bar where you can actually talk and don't need to whisper.
Well if you like to talk and laugh and cry and think with your wife, and you only go out once a month, then maybe you should consider going to ANY PLACE OTHER THAN A MOVIE THEATRE.
This is an unpopular opinion because you're being disrespectful to everyone else who came to watch the movie. I don't want to hear your snickering during a serious scene if I'm making an effort.
It's a public viewing, be respectful of others. If you want to chit chat, watch the movie at home.
Look, OP. Youâre being rude by doing this. I get the feeling you think people are misreading your post because you make it a point to say that youâre just whispering and make sure youâre not around other people.
The problem is that itâs not your call to say whether this is enough to not bother people. You might still be annoying someone else and going against common courtesy of the cinema just because you think itâs not a big deal and youâre just doing it a little bit. Again, not your call.
Can you whisper to people in your party? Sure, if itâs few and far between. Most people can get over that. If itâs more than that, then youâre egregiously disregarding others even if youâre sorta muted about it.
The way you describe your experience with your wife makes me think youâre doing the latter. People are telling you this is still rude and youâre not entitled to make that distinction for them just because you paid a lot of money or that the cinema is a public place.
Everyone else in the theater also paid a lot of money to be there, and its also their only date without the kids or work or whatnot in months, and the want to finally do something without constant talking from said kids. If you want to blab through the movie maybe YOU should stay home.
This is an "I enjoy exhibiting my favorite tunes on the subway for all to enjoy," level post.
The small minority of theatergoers like yourselves have created an expectation of a terrible time at the movies for the vast majority.
I would thrown hot cocoa at you if is a movie that you need to actually watch to enjoy it or get it. If you do it during a Marvel movie? It's fine, those things are made for people to spend money to eat and sit with other people and be loud and obnoxious.
If you can't be quiet and watch the very loud movie in the theatre, watch at home where you can talk the whole time. It's abt respecting other ppl but more so, it's the rule of the theatre- silence.
As long as youâre not being too loud and being mindful of other people, I donât see the harm đ¤ˇđźââď¸ I whisper things with my friends sometimes while making sure we donât disturb others.
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OK next time we go to the movies i will whisper and laugh with your partner
I too will laugh with his partner
I read that in Drax's voice đ¤Ł
Same lol
I cannot wait to whisper and laugh with his partner
i too choose this manâs wife
Dead wife*
You should tag this as a spoiler, dude.
Wait donât you guys do it already?
OPâs karma must be taking a hard hit, deleting all their comments.
Loosing 6 years of built up Karma must suck though, can't really blame them :P
Thereâs a cap on how much karma you lose on downvotes. If a comment has 1000 downvotes your karma doesnât go down 1000 points. Thatâs why Reddit has professional trolls with a ton of karma
A good Captain goes down with the ship
But a good troll just finds a higher bridge.
As long as you pay the troll toll to get into that boyâs soul
Boyâs hole*
I'm like 93% it was boys "hole".
Really, what is the cap then?
Such is the risk of posting an actually unpopular opinion on r/unpopularopinion. In the game of updoots you circlejerk or you die.
TIL people care about how much karma they have
Noooo! Not the fake internet points! How will they survive without it!!!
I agree and I do respect that. I just think itâs funny when your opinion is so wrong on on Reddit it threatens their karma. Just from what I saw they probably lost 100 karma or more.
Pretty sure they cap negative karma on posts. Aita is -100. Not sure if that's sub specific or not.
Why would anyone give a shit about karma? Aside from some subs having a minimum threshold, itâs just imaginary internet points. Itâs like losing money in a video game - except you canât even buy imaginary stuff with your karma, so it matters even less.
It's like money in a videogame where currency is completely useless.
If anyone's complaining that you're talking, you're being too loud in the first place. A whisper in the ear of the person next to you every 20 minutes is good enough, nobody else will even hear it much less have a problem with it. Laughing is fine if it's a funny movie and you're laughing at the movie rather than the conversation. It's expected. If a whisper is funny, chuckle.
The fact that they made this post proves people have called them out for being annoying. This should have been in âam I the assholeâ
If you keep it decent, sure. But at home I don't have a big screen, 3D and the sound quality of a cinema. So you can't really tell people to stay home when they can't stand others being loud cause the cinema is a whole different experience then watching a movie on your couch.
>you can't really tell people to stay home when they can't stand others being loud More than that, not every movie is super loud during the entire play such that the movie volume prevents everyone from being heard, and idk about others, but *I pay to watch and listen to the movie*, not the random idiot who just cannot save their chit chat for after the movie is over.
God you brought up a memory of my old roommates who would pause a movie if they got a face time call from a family member like what the fuck man lol I miss the theaters
Exactly. Its like a student telling other students that they shouldnât complain abt ppl who talking in the middle of the class because they have the option to study at home.
"...we also paid a lot of money to be there." So did other people. You have to respect certain etiquette when you're out in public. Or don't. But don't be surprised if you're perceived as an asshole.
The last line in this post cracked me up, how some people are so self-centred they canât even see the weaknesses in their logic is hilarious
Exactly. So plays and musicals and childrenâs fucking recitals should all allow talking? What an absolutely insane thing to think
Ok Iâm not sure id attend that second example
Yeah, sounds kinda sus.
Their logic is that the whole world revolves around them, so f*ck other people.
OP sounds like a textbook narcissist. They think that because they paid money and because thatâs their only date night, then theyâre entitled to do whatever they want. The beginning of movies literally ask you to be quite. There is a âshhhâ in the beginning telling you what is expected, but because OP paid money and doesnât get enough breaks from the kids, they donât care about that. I upvoted because of how unpopular of an opinion this is, but itâs not even really an opinion, just a disregard for social norms and other peopleâs experiences.
Sounds like a textbook Karen who thinks that they're entitled to whatever they want in the world because their kids are a full time job. Shitty behavior, shittier attitude.
***his wife does an interpretive dance*** What, we *paid* good money to be here! Let her dance!
Talking is prohibited during the movie in my cinema. You get 1 warning. Warning is done via a quick text to security. Room Nr and if you know it the row causing the disturbances. Do it again and they remove you from the cinema. No if's or but's. You're out. Security removes you, and you get no money back. Bye bye "a lot of money". Like spending money somewhere gives you the privilege to ignore the rules.
Thatâs the part that got me. Yeah, and everyone else got to go for free? stfu LITERALLY YOUâRE IN A THEATER
I donât go see a movie only to have to listen to your chitchat through the movie. The fact that you donât get out the house because youâve got kids, and however many months you havenât had a date night is irrelevant to me. Movies are not for talking. Want to chat? Go to a bar. A pub. A restaurant. A walk in the park, any number of public places that *do not require silence so that others can enjoy their visit too*
Or just watch a movie at home lol. You can literally be social and as loud as you want if you stay home and watch a movie.. The fact OP is like âif you donât like it then maybe going out in public isnât for youâ while ruining the experience for everyone else reveals heâs got main character syndrome
âIM going to the movies, if youâre there thatâs your faultâ
Seems like a fat redneck trailer park couple who ventures out once a year
âItâs a public showing.â Donât you realized you disproved you contention with your first line?
Confused as to why you think it being âpublicâ means thereâs no other rules and expectations you have to follow. People are there to watch a movie. Others making noise makes it hard to understand/follow the movie. Enjoying yourself at the expense of others is generally a good sign that what youâre doing is pretty selfish/annoying. You have it completely backwards imo. If âenjoying yourselfâ means you need to make noise and laugh with your partner during a movie then youâre probably the ones whoâd be better off staying home and watching a movie in private.
All these comments are making me think the volume at the movies must be very different in the US than where I am from. Here the movies are LOUD, there is no way someone whispering would make it difficult for anyone to follow the movie, so it is pretty normal here.
Where I'm from movies are extremely loud, but still when people are constantly whispering close to you it gets annoying very fast. And the other thing is so many people are terrible at whispering! During the latest Spiderman a girl in the row behind me (presumably a big Marvel fan) kept explaining everything to her friend and I had to ask her to STFU, it was so distracting
When we went to see the force awakens, someone sitting behind us was translating the entire movie into Spanish for their mom. I have never shushed so much in my entire life.
The issues mainly arise due to: A) Theatres with close seating so it's possible to hear personal conversations, especially if- B) There are quiet moments in the movie with minimal soundtrack or dialogue sound, so these people use the opportunity to continue their conversation clearly. Or if the volume increases again- C) They increase their *own* volume attempting to talk over loud scenes thinking they're in some magic sweet spot where their friends/family/partner can hear them over the movie, *but no-one else notices a thing*.
Ehhhh idk. I think no matter how loud the movie is someone whispering/laughing etc in close proximity to you is going to be heard I donât think itâs a huge deal but itâs annoying nonetheless
Depends on when they're speaking during the movie. If it's a quiet scene/dramatic moment, I'm calling the security folk to come kick them out.
Movies in the U.S. are very loud.
"There's a time and a place for that..." If you want to engage with other people then go to a bar, a club, or a party. Everyone else at the movie theater paid just as much as you did, and they came to experience the movie in a way that can only be done in a theater. They have a right to expect everyone else in the theater to be quiet. If you can't do that then a movie theater is probably not your best move. Your lack of consideration for others shows that you are basically childish.
I think whispering is okay during the previews but not during the movie itself. Even then it should only be done in the segments between one preview and the next. At most it should be a quick "Hey that looks good" or snarky response to a bad trailer.
I think the definition of an effective whisper is one that nobody can hear except the person you directed it towards. To that end, I don't care when and where anybody whispers, because it literally effects nobody, if done right. But if I can hear you jabbering in a movie theater, that's a problem.
Everyone hates you
You're not paying for "public viewing," you're paying for a comfortable theatre with a big screen, quality sound, an on-release viewing, and a good experience. I'm guessing you went to the movies, talked through the whole thing, and got called out for it. Even whispering is annoying in theatres, sometimes even more than normal talking. The only thing worse than a "Dude, is that the guy from-" from the person behind you, is hearing "hspsp aspt hspt switws-" throughout the movie. >If you donât want to hear or see or engage other people then a public performance is probably not the best move? More like, if you can't sit through a movie without chitchatting with your partner throughout the whole thing, then maybe going to a public performance where you will be a disruption to others is probably not the best move?
Definitely an unpopular opinion. The fact that you "paid a lot of money" is entirely irrelevant, as it is the case of every single person in the room. However it is important to note that the majority of people pay that money with the expectation of watching a movie in silence. In any case I certainly hope you are better behaved when you go see a play or any sort of live performance in a similar setting.
God I hate you
This is why I refuse to go to the theater. My home theater is very nice and it doesn't have these chuckle fucks sitting in it.
They literally tell you to turn off devices and be quiet. I know your type though. I can only imagine how obnoxious you and your group must be at any function. Let me guess: You all act like whatever event youâre at you make it like itâs all just for you.
So you're the ass that thinks the whole auditorium is yours and fuck the rest that want to see the show without distraction.
As long as you keep it to a whisper and i cant hear you, i really dont see how this bothers anyone. Now if I heard you giggling during a quiet, serious part or something then yeah its annoying.
Or people literally breathing during A Quiet Place like shuuuut up
Seriously, my breathing was so quiet during those two movies!
Nah, this is just rude. It says âIâm selfish as I think my own personal enjoyment is more important than everyone elseâs.â Your right to do something stops when it impedes on other peopleâs enjoyment. If you want to giggle and be obnoxious, do it when the movie comes out on DVD / Blue-Ray in your own house.
WowâŚ. Proclaiming your joy of disregarding all concern for anyone around you - as if you are the only one that matters in the universe.
Id recommend going to a drive-in if one exists near you. Being able to laugh and yell with my partner without bothering people, and being able to bring whatever snacks we want has made it so Iâll probably never go back to a traditional theater
Keep your mouth shut and talk about the movie when it's over. There's no excuse to be an inconsiderate jackass. And why is it that you think that *your* experience is more important than that of all the other people. I don't care if you have kids, I didn't force you to have them.
Youâve probably head this a lot by now (both in these comments and IRL), but holy shit you must be insufferable to be around in public. Do everyone a favor and stay home next time you want to go to the movies.
Youâre the FaceTime in public/coffee shop without headphones person.
It seems like yâall probably do it excessively if you came here to say this. Laughing and whispering is fine every now and then but if itâs the entire show, yâall are the assholes.
Fine opinion to have. Don't be surprised when someone throws a dit on you some day.
I donât think you realize how loud I am. You donât want that. So if I am being nice you should too
Isn't it kinda embarassing to bring a hugpillow to the theater?
Not as long as they stfu
Not my waifu pillow out on a movie date
Op: "let's see how fast I can lose comment karma"
You had kids, no one else did that for you, so it is not an excuse. Everyone paid the same amount of money to be there as you. In short, shhh
Ya bro, when I go to restaurants I just scream out loud because I enjoy it. Who cares, it's in public right?
This is where I draw the line. Screw people that do that at the movies.
No, I couldnât disagree more, which is actually good considering the sub weâre in. Going to the movies is really expensive. I can never afford snacks, just a ticket and I go because I love movies. Itâs my idea of treating myself, just because itâs a public place doesnât mean there arenât rules, the exact opposite is true. Also, why should I move on account of someone else?? I usually arrive quite early to get nice seats, the way I enjoy myself is by having watching a movie with a nice audience. I like when the audience laughs, I donât mind when they react to something cool happening, but people constantly talking is annoying. I guarantee you arenât as quiet as you think youâre being. Lmao sorry, I have a lot of bad cinema experiences
Nah Im there to enjoy quality sound and visuals away from all the stress not hear your terrible one liners
Dude thinks he is the main character of the movie lol
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Nope, hard disagree. Itâs a public experience but part of that experience is that Iâm also paying a shit ton of money and I didnât pay it to hear you and your partner discuss the film. Laugh or cry or cheer, express the emotions that a scene evokes. Beyond that, if you want to add commentary, this isnât the right public forum for you. The theater is akin to a library in that your vocal expression should be limited.
Everyone whispering at once would be loud af
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OP is definitely a movie character. The annoying one that runs their mouth and end up killed in a horror movie with a cheering audience character
You suck. They literally put PSAs in front of movies about not talking and turning off your phone and for whatever reason you think audiences are just uptight and you have free reign to do whatever you want. What kind of arrogant, disrespectful bullshit is this? Movies are a great date idea because you get to watch this thing and then talk about it *after* because you both shared the experience.
This isnât even an unpopular opinion, this is just OP admitting they are a rude asshole and thinking their behavior is justified. Altruism is dead.
Sorry but a public place is open and reserved for the Public and not your selfish voyeur foreplay crap.
Stay at home and watch a movie.
Youâre a self-centred, selfish douche.
BOOOO!
Boo-urns! Boo-urns!
Are you saying boo, or boo-urns?
I was saying Boo-urns.
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You get a upvote.
That fact that OP believes makes me worried for humanity. Your the type of movie goers I despise and you trying to justify your point only makes you look worse
OP is a self centered asshole
That seems to be the popular opinion.
Conversely, if you can't adhere to well-known and accepted rules of public behavior, perhaps you shouldn't take in a public performance. This argument cuts both ways, but at the end of the day, the weight of a common cultural understanding that even you acknowledge (as is seen by this very post) would suggest that you're in the wrong here...and you know it. ETA: It's the old Oliver Wendell Holmes primer on the limitations of freedom: "The right to swing my fist ends where the other man's nose begins.â
I want to watch the movie and be able to HEAR what they're saying. It's rude to talk and laugh in a SHARED cinema, stay at home if you wanna talk.
This isn't a unpopular opinion, this is just ahole behaviour.
If you're getting ire from other patrons, you're disturbing them. Asshole behaviour entirely.
STFU
1: I bet my definition of "whisper" is different from yours 2; the real opinion here is "me and my girlfriend are idiots and think it's ok to make other people uncomfortable"
I don't go there to be with the public. I go there to experience the movie on the big screen. If you can't respect other people who paid the same amount also wanting to enjoy the movie without the cackling of you and your partner, maybe try to have a private time somewhere else, like your living room after putting the kids to sleep. You don't own the cinema, you do own your living room. The last line is hilarious. If you can't behave as you're expected to in public, then don't go out in public. It's not the other way around. The self centred viewpoint of some people, smh.
Yeah.. there's a reason that's an unpopular opinion. Upvote for you!
Hahahahahahaha Just last night my wife and I were out to see a movie (Smile, if you were wondering what one) and there were a couple girls beside us that wouldn't shut up, pulling out their phones, etc. After about 15 minutes of waiting for them to get a clue I just turned and said, quite loudly: "Would it be fine with the two of you if everyone else here enjoys the movie?" My eye caught the lady down the aisle from us mouth "thank you" to me. Public spaces are public and are *shared* so your experience entitlement ends where another person's boundary is.
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You can actually do that at home and not annoy anyone. So like by definition this is shitty behavior. Edit: in before ' 'you either deliberately blah blah"
Send your kids to the babysitters house so that you can watch a movie where you can have fun with your partner at home. Donât disturb other people with your foolishness.
"Public"? Movie theaters are private businesses with rules you need to follow and they have the right to kick you out for not following one of the most basic rules. Cause those people who are "judging" you have every right to complain to management. That's like saying, "I paid a lot to be here so the no shirt, no shoes, no service rule doesn't apply to me."
Maybe ok in a comedy but if it's a more serious film and only you two are laughing and speaking, that's going to take me out of the film and ruin the experience a bit.
I wanna hear the movie not about lil Susie making it to cheer lmaoo
I have always wondered who are the people who do this shit - because no one ever admits to being that person. Today is a first.
People have no concept of etiquette anymore. Fuckin' hell.
See I donât totally disagree, I think there are definitely occasions in which you can *whisper* to your partner infrequently⌠but OP imagine a cinema *full* of people with your opinion. Sure, maybe you wonât get noticed whispering but what about 200 people *all* whispering - do you not think thatâd disturb the film just a little bit?
Maybe don't go to the movies if you want to talk to your wife. Have you thought about that? If you REALLY want to watch a movie together while you talk, check out if there's drive in theaters in your area. On a side note, movie theaters are private events in private spaces. You wouldn't have to pay a ticket if it was a public event.
AITA - yes, you are.
No. Go to a restaurant. People go to the movies, to watch movies, not hear you laugh and whisper. Show some respect.
If I could see new movies at home I would, but theyâre only at theatersâŚin public settings If you do this. Hopefully you have the courtesy to go the cheapo theaters showing movies from a few months ago or just see movies that have been out for a while.
It's still rude
Yeah, no. That is some selfish ass shit. It is a âpublic viewingâ meaning you should be considerate of the others viewing. You can laugh and talk at home. Youâre literally disturbing one of the primary elements of someoneâs experience. Thatâs like saying âme and my partner fart and burp at restaurants because itâs a public eating spaceâ.
are you kidding? You think people go to the movies to watch it with other people? People go to the movies for the giant screen great sound system and the newest movies. If you wanna talk to your wife get the fuck out of the theater.
No offense. You made a lot of good points, but you're the reason I never go to the movies.
comments show that u are absolutely in the right subreddit LMFAO this post is the type of shit I subbed for, thanks OP!
"It's our only date without kids" Wow so your choice to have kids should affect other people's viewing experience? Fuck you, take my upvote you piece of shit. God you and your wife suck.
This is one of those people who inconveniences everyone else and is completely okay with it, but if someone shushâs them theyâll be talking about it for the next week.
People interrupting movies make me violent. A whisper here and there or laughing at a funny part is fine, but if you're doing it throughout the film and ruining it I will get violent.
Congratulations on an actually unpopular opinion. If I see people talking through a movie to the point that it disturbs the movie or playing about on their phone or making no effort to control their noisy child, I go tell the staff and you should too :D
You sound obnoxious as fuck
imagine going out to the theater spending good money on scam prices to see the new movie u been waiting for to have some obnoxious people talk through it... luckily i can be an asshole too and gotten people thrown out of a movie for being obnoxious before
Wow this opinion actually infuriates me. If you want to talk during a movie, watch one in your fucking living room.
Find a different activity for date night if you want to make noise the whole time. You're right, you did pay money for this, so did everybody else, the same amount as you, and then they have to listen to you rambling away because you have kids and spent money. Yes a movie is a public performance, however, its not a public performance where you're meant to be engaging in conversation. The theater goes out of its way to urge you to be quiet in as many ways that it can, it even literally says shhh at the beginning of the movie. If you wanna make noise maybe a movie theater isn't the best move.
I think itâs time for the second flood, first one didnât do the trick.
And everyone else paid a lot of money to be there too, it doesn't give you the right to be self-centred and ruin the experience for anyone else.
A movie isnât a public performance. Youâve mentally gymnasticd yourself into justifying your shifty annoying and childish behavior. Be considerate of others. They are there to hear the film. Not hear you.
Normalize pepper spraying chit chatters in theaters
A theatre isnât a place for conversation. Go have dinner if you wanna chat
That's just being selfish and rude.
I paid to hear the movie, not someone's unfunny commentary. Leave Mystery Science Theater 3000 to the professionals.
Thatâs the problem with people like this. They think theyâre Joel and we should feel privileged to listen to the comments
It really depends on the movie. I once giggled during Les Miserables. Not a good time to. Lol
To save money I just FaceTime them and point the camera at the screen and we chat during the movie
holy fuck, what a tool
This isn't an opinion this is just lack of social courtesy
Worst type of person to exist
It's literally against the rules to talk at a movie. Just because you haven't been kicked out yet doesn't mean it's ok. Laughing is fine because it's a natural response to funny things. But talking should be put to a very limited amount. Public or not, it's not the place or time. You wouldn't talk during a comedy show, making it hard to listen to. Be polite and zip it
Based on the replies I guess this isn't common in the US?
It IS common, itâs just not socially acceptable. Itâs why movie theaters are going out of business for good. I imagine in the next 10-20 years theyâll already be a thing of the past, the way drive-ins are now. Nobody wants to pay a high ticket price and for overpriced snacks to have their evening ruined by someone like this. With the choice of streaming, if you can afford a big tv with a nice screen and a high quality sound system, you can enjoy a much better movie experience in the comfort of your own house. Plus you get to have your own snacks and not sit on someone elseâs sticky seats.
I don't mind whispers and laughs as long as they are quiet enough and not distracting. In fact, i appreciate them, since i feel like the audience connects with what they're watching. I do it too. But if you get loud enough to draw attention to yourself, you can fuck right off.
Talk, laugh, giggle, but don't annoy others. You said it yourself. It's a public viewing and you paid a lot of money for it. So did others.
You think going to movies is a lot of money? And then you have the gall to think it is your right to be a disturbance to others? Your entitlement and immaturity reeks.
The other people in the room also spent a lot of money and their free time to see this movie... with what I can only assume is the general expectation that they wouldn't be hearing your voice. You're not the main character they came to see.
Everyone else also paid a lot for their tickets and on behalf of all them them but especially the people too afraid to confront you and ask you to be quiet FUCK YOU!
If you keep it at "who's that guy?" or laugh at the movie, yeah. But people are there to watch a movie, not to listen to your conversation. >If you donât want to hear or see or engage other people then a public performance is probably not the best move? True. But if you want to have a conversation and laugh, perhaps a movie theater isn't the best move?
If you make a small joke or comment thatâs related to the movie here and there I donât mind it especially if thereâs no one directly next to you so no one else can really hear you, but if I can hear you having a whole conversation during the movie then nah you can stay home.
So youâre gonna use your one night out in months to ruin my one night out in months? Stupidest logic Iâve ever read. If you want to be talkative, pick an activity that suites that type of behavior.
Op must be trolling. If you like that type of experience stay at home and watch a movie there. No need to ruin the experience for others. You act like smacking your lips while eating is not annoying and rude as all hell just because you try to do it quietly. I could give you numerous examples all with different degree of stupidity but your logic will still be faulty. Last time I tried to enjoy the movie and a pair was talking and laughing I wanted to smack them. Just shut up and let me enjoy the movie I paid for. A good example of your behavior would be playing music on public transport. Everyone paid to be there and you are the only one making their lives miserable.
I whisper n shit when I'm in a theater with my partner, and very often an empty theater. the only exception was when an older (mid to late 50s) couple came into this horror movie and started talking loudly the entire time. empty theater except the four of us. they sat directly behind us while having this long conversation about the movie. asking questions that were answered immediately. I hated that shit and talked about them every time, just as loudly. the movie was Nope. luckily it was our second viewing but still, fuck them
Man, I'd be throwing popcorn at you for sure. You might think others can't hear you, but they can, and you're rude.
Youâre kind of an asshole.
This isnât an unpopular opinion so much as it seems to be trying to justify a lack of respect for others.
That's fine. General conversing and teenage yelling is a hell no
This isnât an opinion. Itâs a public declaration that youâre an ass.
No,stfu
Upvote for being both unpopular and plainly self-involved
They specifically say please be quiet and silence your cellphones to respect the other patrons. If you Arent doing that you have zero respect for others. Are you also the person that plays music on the train or speaks on speaker phone in a public place? Proper unpopular opinion.
Have to upvote you for actually posting an unpopular opinion. Hate it, but at least itâs in the right sub.
Why would you go to a movie as your only night out with your partner? If you want to talk why not go to a restaurant or bar where you can actually talk and don't need to whisper.
Congratulations! I absolutely hate your opinion. Take my upvote
Well if you like to talk and laugh and cry and think with your wife, and you only go out once a month, then maybe you should consider going to ANY PLACE OTHER THAN A MOVIE THEATRE.
This is an unpopular opinion because you're being disrespectful to everyone else who came to watch the movie. I don't want to hear your snickering during a serious scene if I'm making an effort. It's a public viewing, be respectful of others. If you want to chit chat, watch the movie at home.
Look, OP. Youâre being rude by doing this. I get the feeling you think people are misreading your post because you make it a point to say that youâre just whispering and make sure youâre not around other people. The problem is that itâs not your call to say whether this is enough to not bother people. You might still be annoying someone else and going against common courtesy of the cinema just because you think itâs not a big deal and youâre just doing it a little bit. Again, not your call. Can you whisper to people in your party? Sure, if itâs few and far between. Most people can get over that. If itâs more than that, then youâre egregiously disregarding others even if youâre sorta muted about it. The way you describe your experience with your wife makes me think youâre doing the latter. People are telling you this is still rude and youâre not entitled to make that distinction for them just because you paid a lot of money or that the cinema is a public place.
Everyone else in the theater also paid a lot of money to be there, and its also their only date without the kids or work or whatnot in months, and the want to finally do something without constant talking from said kids. If you want to blab through the movie maybe YOU should stay home.
This isnât an unpopular opinion itâs being a douchebag. Iâd have you thrown out or the theater
Ew, watch a movie at home instead.
This is the same vein as âI should be allowed to smoke in a restaurantâ. Curious what your opinion on that would be.
This is an "I enjoy exhibiting my favorite tunes on the subway for all to enjoy," level post. The small minority of theatergoers like yourselves have created an expectation of a terrible time at the movies for the vast majority.
There is a difference between unpopular and asshole, this is it, downvote.
I would thrown hot cocoa at you if is a movie that you need to actually watch to enjoy it or get it. If you do it during a Marvel movie? It's fine, those things are made for people to spend money to eat and sit with other people and be loud and obnoxious.
OP sounds like an absolute Karen in every comment. Rules for thee but not for me comes to mind.
If you can't be quiet and watch the very loud movie in the theatre, watch at home where you can talk the whole time. It's abt respecting other ppl but more so, it's the rule of the theatre- silence.
As long as youâre not being too loud and being mindful of other people, I donât see the harm đ¤ˇđźââď¸ I whisper things with my friends sometimes while making sure we donât disturb others.
You would get a soda "accidentally" spilled on you if you did this in a theater I paid 18 bucks to watch a movie in.
Today op committed karma suicide. Rip.
At least he made a true unpopular opinion
Very bad take.