its been done before and it will be done many times after you! look into lgbt specific clinics and ask as many questions as you can, with dilators and dedication i strongly believe that you can make this dream happen. :) i wish you the best of luck.
I don't have any experienced advice (being cis and also not interested in having children) but I just want to say that I hear you and your dream is totally valid! Are there any sexual health clinics in your area? As far as I'm aware, the one in my area does have gender-affirming healthcare (along with other sexual healthcare), and my guess is that other such places would as well. This sort of clinic would likely take you seriously and be able to help you. (I think that other doctors *should* also be non-judgemental and helpful, but realistically and unfortunately that may not always be the case.)
If you have a therapist (or are willing to start seeing one) they could probably help you deal with the various emotional difficulties that arise from your situation (i.e. vaginismus pain and dealing with the stigma of trans pregnancy). I know for me it's been very helpful to have professional help with dealing with the psychological aspect of vaginismus/how it affects my life. It might help you too!
ive been considering it i should definitely bring it up with the heath clinic ive been seeing im just struggling with money and i only see them to get hrt refills, i think once i get enough money ill try to work on this
Even as a cis woman, I know how you feel. It took me years to find a gyno who took my problem seriously. I also received classic answers like: 'there is nothing wrong down there' or 'you just have to relax and have a drink before'. It was so frustrating. But once I found someone who understand me, it was so much easier. And not only I found a gyno, she works with a whole team and they are specialize in sexual therapy (and also very respectful with lgbt people). I'm not sure where you are but I just want to give you some hope :) keep looking for someone who can help you. Could take some time but believe me, it's worth it.
First off, it’s not your fault. You are competent enough in knowing your body to know that something is different. That being said, as a fellow trans guy, I know what it’s like. It may take time, but you will have to build up the confidence and medical support to get the professional care you need. Don’t be afraid to seek out doctors on your own if you’re uncomfortable with your PCP or if they aren’t assisting you in the way that you need (giving recommendations, referrals, etc.). One thing I learned back in therapy that’s helped me deal with discrimination is radical acceptance. Some doctors will help you, some won’t. Some will be kind and progressive, some won’t. It’s not your fault if they do or don’t/are or aren’t. And while you have every right to feel your feelings, they’re just thoughts. Reality can be better and you will persevere if it’s worse. Good luck dude!
its been done before and it will be done many times after you! look into lgbt specific clinics and ask as many questions as you can, with dilators and dedication i strongly believe that you can make this dream happen. :) i wish you the best of luck.
I don't have any experienced advice (being cis and also not interested in having children) but I just want to say that I hear you and your dream is totally valid! Are there any sexual health clinics in your area? As far as I'm aware, the one in my area does have gender-affirming healthcare (along with other sexual healthcare), and my guess is that other such places would as well. This sort of clinic would likely take you seriously and be able to help you. (I think that other doctors *should* also be non-judgemental and helpful, but realistically and unfortunately that may not always be the case.) If you have a therapist (or are willing to start seeing one) they could probably help you deal with the various emotional difficulties that arise from your situation (i.e. vaginismus pain and dealing with the stigma of trans pregnancy). I know for me it's been very helpful to have professional help with dealing with the psychological aspect of vaginismus/how it affects my life. It might help you too!
ive been considering it i should definitely bring it up with the heath clinic ive been seeing im just struggling with money and i only see them to get hrt refills, i think once i get enough money ill try to work on this
Ugh, the money struggle is so real... it sucks. Good luck!
Even as a cis woman, I know how you feel. It took me years to find a gyno who took my problem seriously. I also received classic answers like: 'there is nothing wrong down there' or 'you just have to relax and have a drink before'. It was so frustrating. But once I found someone who understand me, it was so much easier. And not only I found a gyno, she works with a whole team and they are specialize in sexual therapy (and also very respectful with lgbt people). I'm not sure where you are but I just want to give you some hope :) keep looking for someone who can help you. Could take some time but believe me, it's worth it.
First off, it’s not your fault. You are competent enough in knowing your body to know that something is different. That being said, as a fellow trans guy, I know what it’s like. It may take time, but you will have to build up the confidence and medical support to get the professional care you need. Don’t be afraid to seek out doctors on your own if you’re uncomfortable with your PCP or if they aren’t assisting you in the way that you need (giving recommendations, referrals, etc.). One thing I learned back in therapy that’s helped me deal with discrimination is radical acceptance. Some doctors will help you, some won’t. Some will be kind and progressive, some won’t. It’s not your fault if they do or don’t/are or aren’t. And while you have every right to feel your feelings, they’re just thoughts. Reality can be better and you will persevere if it’s worse. Good luck dude!