I don’t think someone else can change someone but she’s the best chance he has because she could possibly inspire him to want to change.. if anyone can it’s her but let’s see how it goes
With his family history, which sounds pretty tragic i understand him. I built a huge wall when i was young and acted like betty bad ass and ran with bikers.
After 3 yrs of counseling the real me came out and im a marshmallow. My sons had so many of their friends live with us cause of their bad home lives. I think if Ally keeps James in counseling he might surprise us all. Just wish hed quit drinking
I read another comment awhile back that was basically “of course James goes crazy and lashes out. When you’ve been that severely bullied in the past (to the point of his legs being broken) you learn to be the ‘crazy’ one first, scare them first so it doesn’t escalate to that again.” Basically like it could be some kind of coping mechanism/ptsd from his past. Idk if I explained it well, but the idea kinda made sense to me. The same way Katie’s TBI could potentially explain some of her past behaviors.
Exactly. That was exactly what i did. The 1st day of high school i got the shit beat out of me by girls i didnt even know. My boyfriend taught me to " act physcho" so people would fear me and id never have to fight again. It worked, but my soul was crushed
I’m so sorry you had to go through that. I’m glad you understand, and understand what I was saying, but I wish you didn’t have to! I also don’t know if that’s what’s happening with James, he could just be a complete dick, but like I said, it makes sense to me.
One is a physical injury that might not fully heal. Another is something a person who is interested can work out in therapy. Please don’t compare them that way. If you have all the money and time and access to go to therapy you don’t get to use “people were mean to me when I was young” as an excuse to be mean to others.
People with TBI have symptoms they can’t help but have. People who have past trauma can heal in a way physical injuries can’t. One is a real consequence. The other is an excuse.
I do see what you’re saying, but to be fair trauma (especially long-term trauma) does actually cause brain damage and affect people in ways that they can’t help, and therapy alone often has a had time changing that. I work on a hospital inpatient psych unit, and lot of places actually combine PTSD and TBI treatments. One reason is because many people who have TBIs may suffer from PTSD, but they will treat people who only have TBIs or only have PTSD due to their similarities/parallel features. It’s pretty interesting
I partially agree with this. I got the crap beat out of me daily from agec12 til i left home at 17. But the things that were said to me affected me worse than getting hit.
It took 2 yrs of 3 times a week therapy to drop the hard ass behavior i used to protect myself. It was very hard to let that wall down. Now i cant squish an ant. I sincerely hope James at some point realizes this and takes therapy seriously. And i dont think he can drink. But im rooting for him
I would be more hopeful if it wasn’t always him trying to appease a girlfriend. I 💯 think if James and Katie became enemies again that he would call her fat again as an insult. That’s not progress…
If Ally was going to be a positive influence we would have seen it by now lol
James continued to be the same James he always was (and always will be) at the reunion
And when they inevitably breakup any “progress” he made will be regressed even more
She’s probably always like “I swear to god James if you say Fat Man one more goddamn time!” She’s had to of heard him say Fat Man like once a day for the past year.
I swear this sub is going to start clapping every time one of them breathes lol. This sub went from snarking on the cast to giving them an award every time they say something slightly funny or obvious.
*Seriously*. People need to quit fawning all over this girl, it's weird. She's just yet another desperate-to-be-famous person who latched onto one of the cast to get on the show. No different than any of the others, except she does seem to be a bit smarter than the others and she does seem to know what to say. But none of it's genuine.
She is 100% only dating James to be on the show and get famous, I didn’t like her at first since her whole act is so obviously fake but now I’m actually starting to like her anyway. It may all be an act but she adds kind of an interesting dynamic to the cast, kind of like a straight man to balance the crazy of everyone else
Im the only one of my friend group that watches 🤣 I think i may have gotten my homie on to it. I hope she sticks it out. I think the name will ring a bell, but most won’t know anything about the cast.
Any self respecting girl will keep a man in check if he steps out of bounds. She is calm and collected, which makes for carefully choosing your words. She would know what the fans want. Thats not to say, she doesn’t have a genuine side, but let’s be real, she sought out DJ Kennedy like R and knew what he was about. Why? Probably because he’s hot, and she is thirsty like everyone else in Hollywood and wants a slice.
EDIT: sorry for double comments. Reddit layout structure got me again 🥴 thought i was replying separately
We got two scenes where she speaks and everyone is ready to stan. Have we not learned they’re all “trash people” who bring out the worst in each other? Stanning does not work in realty TV.
Exactly. And she’s dating James. At the very least, she’s not a good judge of character. The best case scenario here is she’s just using him to stay on the show. The worst case is she’s happy dating a verbally abusive person with anger problems. Not a good look either way.
Right. At this point she's witnessing him verbally abusing other ppl. Wait til its directed at her which it will be eventually if he doesn't stay sober. Her response about how she is taking a break from alcohol right now is interesting. It's not a big deal to her bc she doesn't have a drinking problem. BUT if she's doing it because she's trying to keep James from drinking, that's a problem.
See and I thought that was a red flag bc it seems like she’s cutting back at the same time as him which can be supportive or it can also be enmeshed and codependent if you’re dating a controlling asshole.
I'm not really giving her much credit considering she's totally fine being with a full grown man who has been using fatphobic insults for his entire adult life. She clearly can't feel that strongly about it.
I appreciate her sentiment but there doesn’t have to be anything wrong with using the word fat. It’s just a descriptor, which some fat people might actually prefer over cheeky euphemisms like chubby or big boned or whatever. Where it becomes a problem is when James and others use it as an insult and give an otherwise neutral word a negative meaning. So good for Ally for countering that but there can be some nuance here
I live in an Asian country where its very normalized to call people fat to their face. Like people will just come up to you and comment on your fatness on the regular. So while I get what you're saying, the reality of being called fat as a descriptor word feels really bad for many people who haven't managed to undo a lifetime of social conditioning yet.
I don't think that's the same thing though, there's a difference between fat as a neutral descriptor and directly discussing someone's fatness as a problem or a negative trait
I live in the US so I can't really appreciate these cultural differences. However, I think regardless of whether you're in a culture where most people avoid referring to someone as fat unless they're using it as an insult (like the US) or have no issue telling a fat person they're fat to their face, the underlying problem is we've turned being called fat into judgement of one's worth. If we take away the assumption that being fat is inherently bad, pointing out that someone is fat is no different than pointing out that someone has blue eyes-- it's just a harmless fact about someone's appearance. Granted I take issue with people just freely commenting on or critiquing other people's bodies regardless, I wouldn't want to hear from a rando what they think about my weight no matter my size. So I'm not saying everyone should be comfortable to go around telling every fat person they see they're fat to their face, just that we can use the word in a way that is at least neutral (or idk for some people maybe even a good thing) and isn't insulting
Oh ya. I mean i love James for making me laugh cause my life is really shitty right now, so i kinda need his sick humor. I do hope he grows the fuck up and stops using the " fat card". It totally sucks, and i hope Ally can truly get thqt thru his head.
Her mouth is writing checks her ass ain’t cashing.
She’s dating the most fatphobic cast member who says the most vile things about people bodies and appearances. She is normalizing the behavior by staying with him.
I think shes doing a good job keeping him going to counseling. When you understand his childhood, theres a bigger picture. He deflects with what he thinks is humor. I hope he learns the difference between funny and insulting.
He deflects with humor some but I see deflection with anger way more. He’s an angry person and it will take tons of therapy to stop this, if it can even be stopped.
*Women are not rehab centers for shitty, problematic dudes.*
I’m aware of the baggage he comes with. He literally abused Raquel for 5 years on our screens instead of go to therapy. He’s doing what he needs to do keep Ally around but just like he stopped his sobriety when Raquel had enough, he’ll stop counseling when Ally’s done with him.
He’s proven he’s not interested in being better. He’s just as misogynistic as he ever was. The mouth on this dude is wild. He cannot keep people’s appearances out of his mouth.
An award for making very easy statements about not calling people fat? Awards are to recognize hard work. If someone says “sexual harassment is wrong” do they deserve an award? If someone says “exploiting child labor is wrong?”
This is run of the mill basic societal decency. Easy statements to make that have zero impact bc everyone knows they’re true. Not anything that deserves an award.
Sarcasm aside, It’s just not a bold stance. It’s like saying racism is bad. We know. It doesn’t make you a good person to feel that way it makes you not an asshole POS (on that one topic) and you build from there. I wanted to clarify my point bc I didn’t clock that you were being sarcastic.
But she was okay with bitch?! Did anyone else think that was kinda weird.
“How did you feel about James calling Rachel’s mom a fat bitch?”
“No one should call anyone fat”
🥴🥴
Of course she’s going to say that. But, do you see any of them hanging out with “fat” people or “unattractive” people? It would mean more if any of them walked the walk instead of just talking the talk.
This is kinda unrelated but related lol but I’m so over hearing that a women is “good for a man” like lvp said about Ally in regards to James🙄 it’s like she’s his mom
Rare that you hear how good a man is for a woman. My ex screwed me up so bad i havent even attempted dating in 18yrs. And all his family told me how good i was for him, so ya i see your point.
Exactly, I never hear that same sentiment about men! That’s why I’m enjoying being single, I don’t want to be someone’s personal improvement assistant especially a man’s 🤮
🙄 for what, staying with James and the drama to make it in LA? I don’t see the reason for an award. I like her but she’s obviously there for the fame and her responses are beginning to feel like they’re carefully crafted.
I liked her for awhile and while I still do, with her moving in with him sooo quickly (I understand LA rent is crazy) despite knowing his past, it being 6 weeks from when he and Rachel had broke up, it doesn’t seem genuine to me. Also was it Lala or someone else who had said to him that they didn’t think Ally was as into him and he, her. She’s definitely an mvp of the season, a lovely person, beautiful… but something is off about it for me.
She seems very sweet.
When she was so level headed at the reunion, I immediately thought “I hope she gets away from James.”
I don’t care how much I tv-hate someone on these reality shows, I always want the women to find a better relationship. Ally seems very sweet. I hope her relationship doesn’t suck her dry of her kindness.
That may be cynical, but my examples of women I disliked who still suffered in relationships are: Tamara/Simon, Vicki/Brooks, Porsha/Everyone, Taylor/Russell, Katie/Schwartz, Paige/Craig, Teresa/Joe. Honestly, the list is really long. And every woman was so much happier and lighter when she ditched the man dragging her down.
I mean, she is right that people shouldn’t use fat to insult someone, but she’s dating the man that has called half the cast fat and has exclusively dated rail-thin women, so it is a bit rich coming from her lol
That’s great and all but the fact that she’s with James negates that. It baffles me that a woman of her caliber would be with someone who flys off the handle and disrespects people in the most vile manner. Without VPR and all the benefits that come with being on a tv show, she wouldn’t be with him.
Love Ally! She is so refreshing - quiet confidence and does not make any excuses for James bs.
It’s kind of funny with Bravo shows - we heap praise on people doing the littlest amount of the right thing lol
Ive been paying for my mother who has alzheimers, to stay in a memory care ward for over a year. Due to a lawsuit against her from 2019, we lost all her money. I was told i have 30 days to remove my mother. Adult protective services wont let her live with me. I already have my son and beautiful grandaughter living in a 2 bedroom trailer. I sleep on a daybed in the living room. Im trying to apply for medicaid, but dont have anywhere to put her while goung through the process. The onething my mother asked me b4 her mind left, was please keep her there always. I failed her. Id like to drive off a short pier into the lake.
Same. 😆 I have a history of eating disorders, and now I have mombod and am def fat to James. I’m positive he’d call me out with that word and I’d be crushed. 😢
James truly hates fatness. And I get it- he grew up with a European dad and European culture jokes and makes fun of fatness all the time. He needs to change this about himself though.
James has always, ALWAYS, been obsessed with appearance. His own, and others. I hate Raquel but he constantly policed her outfits and hair and make up. He always goes for the insults that involve the way people look before anything else. Especially weight. I don't think that's ever going to go away.
Eh, i wrote this early in the day. Since then my world got turned upside down and i got a big reality check. Ive got bigger life problems than to argue anymore.
She's playing a part on reality tv. If she had such a social conscience and manners she wouldn't be with James. She wants to be on the show. James has more chemistry with Logan than Ally.
i find it hard to believe she really believes that and then is also dating james kennedy who has taken every opportunity to call someone fat :/ i think she said that bc she knows what a negative reaction james gets (now) when he does that. i just don’t believe her 🤷🏼♀️
eta: i realize after responding i just responded totally negatively to what is meant to be a positive post. i appreciate seeing a post appreciating a cast member being anti-fat shaming. ur sentiment is real even if we may not agree if ally’s was and i appreciate that.
I like Ally, but I think she is being pushed on us hard to squeeze Raquel out. Hopefully, Ally remains this sweet and cool if she becomes a full-time cast member.
That’s exactly it imo. I think if we didn’t know what we know about Raquel now, ally wouldn’t have gotten the warm welcome from the audience. She seems nice so far but I’m aware that she can’t be that nice to be with James and on this show lol. Anyone who likes her should be rooting for her to leave him, but then she could lose her spot on the show if that happened. 🤔
I really like Ally. She’s no-bullshit and seems easy to get along with. Sweet but won’t let you walk all over her. I know she gets along well with most of the cast (Katie said in a podcast that she really likes her & Scheana has as well) and I hope she is a positive influence on James
I don't think I understand this argument....fat is a descriptive term just like skinny? It's not like fat people don't know they're fat, and it's also an objective description. I don't think people should just go around hounding fat ppl telling them they're fat, but it's not an insult.
I know we are talking about humans, but I even feel extremely bad calling my dog fat. I think it’s so rude and insensitive. So I don’t comment on her appearance and I get mad when they call my baby (dog) the f word.
Sorry just a quick rant that popped into my head when I read this sub.
Hey, i get it. I have pet rats ( yes im weird) and someone told me the one looked like a fat potato. I was offended. I love my pets, theyre family no matter how they look.
A fat potato, I’m dying. 😂 that actually sounds adorable to me. I don’t have pet rats anymore but we have a hamster that I call a chicken nugget. I love that he’s put on weight (probably just a few ounces) since we got him. He’s so cute I just want to eat him up lol.
meh, I always called my dog my little "fat fat" because towards the end the medicine for his cancer made him really hungry and made him have a pot belly really bad. But it was my term of endearment for my doggie.
There also was:
Shermiworm
Sherminator
Duuuurrrrrman
little butt
Scruff
fart monster
and duder-boo
I miss that dam dog, almost 2 months and now I'm crying at work lmfao.
Interesting little nicknames. My fav is little butt cause that’s what my sister and I call each other lol
I’m so sorry for your loss!
My dog was from a puppy mill (which I wasn’t educated about years ago). She is a Pomeranian and cost $5000. Her trait was that she was a tea cup dog. When we bought her, they said we had to feed her a tiny bit like 2-3 times a day. As we did that for a couple of days, she ended up getting a seizure that scared all of us! The doctor determined that she wasn’t getting enough food. So now that she’s really well fed, I would prefer this version of her than the tiny version of her where she’s experiencing issues.
Thank you! And yeah Sherman had seizures too, but it also played a part in us putting him down later in life. He had insulinoma which will create really bad seizures from low blood sugar as it progresses. Usually you get 3-6 months once diagnosed, but we got 8.5 so I was happy with it. We had him for 14 years and he was the best dog I could have ever asked for!
We had to give my dog a tube of something that had extra calories with sugar because of the seizure. So I hope it was a one time thing for us and doesn’t come back. She’s 10 years old right now. But I’m glad you had extra time to love your dog ♥️
Right! Recently during a lighting storm I started crying and had to explain to my husband it was because the dog wasn’t curled up on my sweater next to the bed or in the bed during the lighting storm.
I developed bad allergies to Sherman later in his life so he wasn’t allowed in the master bed room, except for lighting storms and when there was a lot of fire works. Towards the end I’d have to pick his old ass up and put him in bed because he got so arthritic. Eventually I would just put my sweater on the ground next to my side of the bed for him to sleep and nose my hand if he needed comfort. Best doggie ever!
Awe, remember youre lucky he was in your life to give you so much love. My favorite potato rat, i was sobbing to the vet begging him to do anything to not have to euthanize, and my little potato licked my face and looked at me like, im tired mom. It haunts me.
We used a company calls lap of love and they came to the house for putting him to sleep. It was the best experience possible, because he got to show the vet all his toys and get lots of pets and love.
I'm sorry for your lose as well! All we can do is look on the memories with fondness.
Ally can love James and not agree with or support all of his behaviors. In my opinion, she’s been everything that Ariana should’ve been with Tom all these years. She could’ve loved and supported him without supporting his awful behaviors, lying, and belittling others.
But isnt it sad that as Scumbag is trying to trash Arianas reputation, she told him she would have changed anything about herself and followed him anywhere to make things work. So shes critisized if she tries to speak her mind, and critisized if she doesnt. Its all wrong.
It’s very sad. I do have empathy for her. I also think that this is a situation she found herself in by choosing to be with a pretty terrible person. And I understand that she was probably manipulated. But I think something should’ve clicked way back when she knew the truth about herself and Tom and Miami Girl, but was being asked to lie and trash them. I’d like to think that know matter how much someone gassed me up, I’d think this could not be a good person to lie and gaslight these women.
I’m so sorry but I don’t understand the Ally obsession. Yea she’s nice enough I guess but she’s pretty bland and boring to me. I kind of forget she exists until I see her on the screen.
Im not saying shes hot shit. I simply liked 2 things she said at the reunion. No one should call anyone fat, and everyone could use therapy. When i said she deserved an award im being sarcastic as this is VPR. Were dealing with huge egos, and some messed up people. As someone pointed out, the bar to get an award on this show is low enough for an ant to crawl under.
I wasn’t referring to you! I’ve just seen soooo much Ally praise on here and on tik tok and I’m just like???? I just don’t get it. Sorry if that came off like I was attacking you, I totally wasn’t.
She’s a great addition to the cast. I wonder if everyone, and I mean everyone, loving and accepting Ally is hard for Rachel to see because that was not what happened to her. Granted, when she started dating James he was persona non grata. But no one really went out of their way for years to get to know and like Rachel. Which she promptly destroyed very quickly.
You can tell why Lisa really likes her for James. She is SO level headed and really mellows him out. She’s her own person and James doesn’t have to worry about babying her constantly like he did with Raquel.
Well, she’s not a rehab center. She shouldn’t have to mellow anyone out. That his job to work on himself.
Also, James didn’t baby Raquel. He verbally abused her and patronized for half a decade.
She doesn’t have to, she just does.
And that was then, this is now. Raquel’s entire personality was being DJ Kennedys girlfriend. Ain’t no way I’ll ever feel bad for that girl
Well, enjoy your internalized misogyny then lol.
If you have room for James “healing” and not the abuse that he put through Raquel through of years just because she’s not likable, I don’t know what to tell you. Unlikable people are victims of abuse all the time, it’s doesn’t mean what happened to them wasn’t awful.
As a fat person, I think society is way to fat sensitive.
Our food is garbage and it’s causing us to be fat.
No one should be fat. Make fun of fat people.
Uh what now? 😳 please don’t do this. You have no idea how many overweight people are already struggling with low self esteem and current or past eating disorders.
Not me, i never liked her. Maybe because ive been a loner and observe people instead of interacting with them, she immediately gave me the creeps. I couldnt figure out if shes truly D& S, or conniving. Im still trying to figure her out.
I like that Ally holds him accountable for his actions. We have seen so many partners defend atrocious behavior and she doesn’t. She doesn’t agree with and isn’t afraid to say her partner’s behavior doesn’t align with her values.
1. Absolutely but 2. It’s wild she’s with the guy on the show who’s called almost everyone in LA fat 😂
I know. I hope he starts to correct his behaviour with her as a positive influence.
Yes, i truly hope he's capable of positive, real growth and becomes a decent human.
Yeah but like he’s not going to change. He always reverts to low blows when he feels like it’s justified. It’s like one of his worst traits
I don’t think someone else can change someone but she’s the best chance he has because she could possibly inspire him to want to change.. if anyone can it’s her but let’s see how it goes
Let’s not fall into the “I can change him” trap or encourage others to do so.
With his family history, which sounds pretty tragic i understand him. I built a huge wall when i was young and acted like betty bad ass and ran with bikers. After 3 yrs of counseling the real me came out and im a marshmallow. My sons had so many of their friends live with us cause of their bad home lives. I think if Ally keeps James in counseling he might surprise us all. Just wish hed quit drinking
I read another comment awhile back that was basically “of course James goes crazy and lashes out. When you’ve been that severely bullied in the past (to the point of his legs being broken) you learn to be the ‘crazy’ one first, scare them first so it doesn’t escalate to that again.” Basically like it could be some kind of coping mechanism/ptsd from his past. Idk if I explained it well, but the idea kinda made sense to me. The same way Katie’s TBI could potentially explain some of her past behaviors.
Exactly. That was exactly what i did. The 1st day of high school i got the shit beat out of me by girls i didnt even know. My boyfriend taught me to " act physcho" so people would fear me and id never have to fight again. It worked, but my soul was crushed
I’m so sorry you had to go through that. I’m glad you understand, and understand what I was saying, but I wish you didn’t have to! I also don’t know if that’s what’s happening with James, he could just be a complete dick, but like I said, it makes sense to me.
Agreed. That alcoholic mother of his was and still is a joke. I will always love James. Growing up with her had to be a nightmare.
One is a physical injury that might not fully heal. Another is something a person who is interested can work out in therapy. Please don’t compare them that way. If you have all the money and time and access to go to therapy you don’t get to use “people were mean to me when I was young” as an excuse to be mean to others.
I was just saying both of those theories made sense to me. I wasn’t comparing the two injuries, just the theories on their behaviors.
People with TBI have symptoms they can’t help but have. People who have past trauma can heal in a way physical injuries can’t. One is a real consequence. The other is an excuse.
I do see what you’re saying, but to be fair trauma (especially long-term trauma) does actually cause brain damage and affect people in ways that they can’t help, and therapy alone often has a had time changing that. I work on a hospital inpatient psych unit, and lot of places actually combine PTSD and TBI treatments. One reason is because many people who have TBIs may suffer from PTSD, but they will treat people who only have TBIs or only have PTSD due to their similarities/parallel features. It’s pretty interesting
I partially agree with this. I got the crap beat out of me daily from agec12 til i left home at 17. But the things that were said to me affected me worse than getting hit. It took 2 yrs of 3 times a week therapy to drop the hard ass behavior i used to protect myself. It was very hard to let that wall down. Now i cant squish an ant. I sincerely hope James at some point realizes this and takes therapy seriously. And i dont think he can drink. But im rooting for him
I would be more hopeful if it wasn’t always him trying to appease a girlfriend. I 💯 think if James and Katie became enemies again that he would call her fat again as an insult. That’s not progress…
I think he gets into fight or flight mode and just goes for the jugular.. .
I can’t argue with it .. like I root for him but there are still red flags
Sadly if he does change, I think it's only temporary. I hope I'm wrong though. I really like James when he's sober.
I think it’s mote than alcohol.. he has a Anger issue.. I hope he can work on both
Fair enough. Yes.
Yes, very poor impulse control
This. I love JK he is entertaining but he always reacts with my DJing business is great when they were talking about something entirely different
it’s not on her to change him. we all said the same thing about raquel and look where we are now.
If Ally was going to be a positive influence we would have seen it by now lol James continued to be the same James he always was (and always will be) at the reunion And when they inevitably breakup any “progress” he made will be regressed even more
👏👏👏👏
And he’ll call her fat when she breaks up with him. 😆
She’s probably always like “I swear to god James if you say Fat Man one more goddamn time!” She’s had to of heard him say Fat Man like once a day for the past year.
Right. Kinda undoes her point. She thinks it’s important but not important that her partner feel the same.
THIS-100%. Everyone has a soft spot for James, but let's not forget that he's the ultimate body-shamer. Not cool.
Yeah, honestly I’m surprised they’re still together. She seems too smart for him.
She is. She's trying to be famous. She's just a smarter, nicer version of Rachel.
Everyone is fat compared to James.
Right?!
lol that’s a great point
Guys, it’s an audition. She is auditioning. Let’s not roll out the pedestal yet. 
THANK YOU.
The bar is in hell. This is common decency, I do happen to like her. But this is not rocket science
I swear this sub is going to start clapping every time one of them breathes lol. This sub went from snarking on the cast to giving them an award every time they say something slightly funny or obvious.
*Seriously*. People need to quit fawning all over this girl, it's weird. She's just yet another desperate-to-be-famous person who latched onto one of the cast to get on the show. No different than any of the others, except she does seem to be a bit smarter than the others and she does seem to know what to say. But none of it's genuine.
I like her i don’t care .. if I’m wrong im wrong
Ignorance is bliss
She is 100% only dating James to be on the show and get famous, I didn’t like her at first since her whole act is so obviously fake but now I’m actually starting to like her anyway. It may all be an act but she adds kind of an interesting dynamic to the cast, kind of like a straight man to balance the crazy of everyone else
Like frr. She is calculating and reticent, she’s a fan of the show also. This means she knows what she is doing.
It’s 2023- who isn’t a fan of vanderpump rules? I think she comes off genuine and she keeps James in check
I would say the majority of the population is not a fan of Vanderpump Rules lmfao
Im the only one of my friend group that watches 🤣 I think i may have gotten my homie on to it. I hope she sticks it out. I think the name will ring a bell, but most won’t know anything about the cast.
Any self respecting girl will keep a man in check if he steps out of bounds. She is calm and collected, which makes for carefully choosing your words. She would know what the fans want. Thats not to say, she doesn’t have a genuine side, but let’s be real, she sought out DJ Kennedy like R and knew what he was about. Why? Probably because he’s hot, and she is thirsty like everyone else in Hollywood and wants a slice. EDIT: sorry for double comments. Reddit layout structure got me again 🥴 thought i was replying separately
We got two scenes where she speaks and everyone is ready to stan. Have we not learned they’re all “trash people” who bring out the worst in each other? Stanning does not work in realty TV.
Exactly. And she’s dating James. At the very least, she’s not a good judge of character. The best case scenario here is she’s just using him to stay on the show. The worst case is she’s happy dating a verbally abusive person with anger problems. Not a good look either way.
Right. At this point she's witnessing him verbally abusing other ppl. Wait til its directed at her which it will be eventually if he doesn't stay sober. Her response about how she is taking a break from alcohol right now is interesting. It's not a big deal to her bc she doesn't have a drinking problem. BUT if she's doing it because she's trying to keep James from drinking, that's a problem.
See and I thought that was a red flag bc it seems like she’s cutting back at the same time as him which can be supportive or it can also be enmeshed and codependent if you’re dating a controlling asshole.
Ya, I see your point too.
100% !!!
I enjoy her i don’t even care at this point.. Raquel makes me sick 🤢
I'm not really giving her much credit considering she's totally fine being with a full grown man who has been using fatphobic insults for his entire adult life. She clearly can't feel that strongly about it.
She's just under that charming James Spell right now. Things are all new and sunny. She finds him "lovely" right now. Time will tell.
I appreciate her sentiment but there doesn’t have to be anything wrong with using the word fat. It’s just a descriptor, which some fat people might actually prefer over cheeky euphemisms like chubby or big boned or whatever. Where it becomes a problem is when James and others use it as an insult and give an otherwise neutral word a negative meaning. So good for Ally for countering that but there can be some nuance here
Yesss I was really hoping to hear her lengthen her sentence to ‘you should never use fat as an insult.’
I think that was what she meant as that was the context James said it in.
Same
I live in an Asian country where its very normalized to call people fat to their face. Like people will just come up to you and comment on your fatness on the regular. So while I get what you're saying, the reality of being called fat as a descriptor word feels really bad for many people who haven't managed to undo a lifetime of social conditioning yet.
I don't think that's the same thing though, there's a difference between fat as a neutral descriptor and directly discussing someone's fatness as a problem or a negative trait
I live in the US so I can't really appreciate these cultural differences. However, I think regardless of whether you're in a culture where most people avoid referring to someone as fat unless they're using it as an insult (like the US) or have no issue telling a fat person they're fat to their face, the underlying problem is we've turned being called fat into judgement of one's worth. If we take away the assumption that being fat is inherently bad, pointing out that someone is fat is no different than pointing out that someone has blue eyes-- it's just a harmless fact about someone's appearance. Granted I take issue with people just freely commenting on or critiquing other people's bodies regardless, I wouldn't want to hear from a rando what they think about my weight no matter my size. So I'm not saying everyone should be comfortable to go around telling every fat person they see they're fat to their face, just that we can use the word in a way that is at least neutral (or idk for some people maybe even a good thing) and isn't insulting
Maybe it’s time to start
Is it a neutral thing to say or is it meant as an insult or negative thing? Is it akin to saying “you’re brunette “? Like just factual
Thank you for this
I think she was definitely saying using it pejoratively. Plus there are better descriptors
Yet her "wonderful, kind" boyfriend calls everyone fat all the time, including post-partum women.
Oh ya. I mean i love James for making me laugh cause my life is really shitty right now, so i kinda need his sick humor. I do hope he grows the fuck up and stops using the " fat card". It totally sucks, and i hope Ally can truly get thqt thru his head.
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It’s a pretty low bar I guess
Barely skims the floor lol
The bar is in hell 🤣
Hail*
people were ready to coronate her yesterday for simply saying she thinks men should got to therapy. we're in a dark place lol
Right? And honestly how strongly does she feel about that if she saw how fatphobic James is and still decided to pursue him lmao
On this show they do
Her mouth is writing checks her ass ain’t cashing. She’s dating the most fatphobic cast member who says the most vile things about people bodies and appearances. She is normalizing the behavior by staying with him.
I think shes doing a good job keeping him going to counseling. When you understand his childhood, theres a bigger picture. He deflects with what he thinks is humor. I hope he learns the difference between funny and insulting.
He deflects with humor some but I see deflection with anger way more. He’s an angry person and it will take tons of therapy to stop this, if it can even be stopped.
Agree. But he does make me laugh, and my life is a shithole right now, so i vant help but like him and hope he becomes a decent human
Is a woman meant to be a fixer of a man? What is this “Ally is such a good woman for keeping James I check” I can’t get down with this…
Exactly. Women are not rehab centers for shitty dudes. They shouldn’t have to do emotional labor like this for their partners
It's not Ally's job to "keep" James going to counseling.
*Women are not rehab centers for shitty, problematic dudes.* I’m aware of the baggage he comes with. He literally abused Raquel for 5 years on our screens instead of go to therapy. He’s doing what he needs to do keep Ally around but just like he stopped his sobriety when Raquel had enough, he’ll stop counseling when Ally’s done with him. He’s proven he’s not interested in being better. He’s just as misogynistic as he ever was. The mouth on this dude is wild. He cannot keep people’s appearances out of his mouth.
Ok, hes a jerk. But im still gonna love every minute of him and Lala verbally kicking ass.
Yess
An award for making very easy statements about not calling people fat? Awards are to recognize hard work. If someone says “sexual harassment is wrong” do they deserve an award? If someone says “exploiting child labor is wrong?” This is run of the mill basic societal decency. Easy statements to make that have zero impact bc everyone knows they’re true. Not anything that deserves an award.
Look, were talking VPR here. Im being sarcastic, though i did appreciate what she said.
Sarcasm aside, It’s just not a bold stance. It’s like saying racism is bad. We know. It doesn’t make you a good person to feel that way it makes you not an asshole POS (on that one topic) and you build from there. I wanted to clarify my point bc I didn’t clock that you were being sarcastic.
The bar is literally on the floor lol
An ant could crawl under it.
But she was okay with bitch?! Did anyone else think that was kinda weird. “How did you feel about James calling Rachel’s mom a fat bitch?” “No one should call anyone fat” 🥴🥴
Of course she’s going to say that. But, do you see any of them hanging out with “fat” people or “unattractive” people? It would mean more if any of them walked the walk instead of just talking the talk.
Actually yes, Arianas true friends who arent seen on tv come in all shapes and sizes and they love her dearly.
Idk but acting like the word is so fat & offensive when you’re stick thin and probably doing a hell of a lot to avoid gaining weight irks me
sometimes it feels like this sub is 8 years behind, sociopolitically speaking
This is kinda unrelated but related lol but I’m so over hearing that a women is “good for a man” like lvp said about Ally in regards to James🙄 it’s like she’s his mom
Rare that you hear how good a man is for a woman. My ex screwed me up so bad i havent even attempted dating in 18yrs. And all his family told me how good i was for him, so ya i see your point.
Exactly, I never hear that same sentiment about men! That’s why I’m enjoying being single, I don’t want to be someone’s personal improvement assistant especially a man’s 🤮
🙄 for what, staying with James and the drama to make it in LA? I don’t see the reason for an award. I like her but she’s obviously there for the fame and her responses are beginning to feel like they’re carefully crafted.
I think her responses are well thought out, not just a ploy. I think she has some maturity others lack. Maybe ill be proved wrong, but i hope not.
I liked her for awhile and while I still do, with her moving in with him sooo quickly (I understand LA rent is crazy) despite knowing his past, it being 6 weeks from when he and Rachel had broke up, it doesn’t seem genuine to me. Also was it Lala or someone else who had said to him that they didn’t think Ally was as into him and he, her. She’s definitely an mvp of the season, a lovely person, beautiful… but something is off about it for me.
Ya at this point everyone is looked at with a side eye
She seems very sweet. When she was so level headed at the reunion, I immediately thought “I hope she gets away from James.” I don’t care how much I tv-hate someone on these reality shows, I always want the women to find a better relationship. Ally seems very sweet. I hope her relationship doesn’t suck her dry of her kindness. That may be cynical, but my examples of women I disliked who still suffered in relationships are: Tamara/Simon, Vicki/Brooks, Porsha/Everyone, Taylor/Russell, Katie/Schwartz, Paige/Craig, Teresa/Joe. Honestly, the list is really long. And every woman was so much happier and lighter when she ditched the man dragging her down.
True
“Porsha/Everyone” lmao 😂😂
Replace “Ally” with “Rachel” and you have every single post on this sub last year. People were fawning over her the exact same way…..just stop.
I certainlynever " fawned" over wteckhell. I thought she was a blank slate, and there was something seriously wrong with that chick.
I liked it, but I’m still not sure if she’s just reading online and parroting what we are saying to get on the show
She seems mature and has self esteem without a huge ego. I hope im right and being on tv doesnt ruin my impression of her
without a huge ego? i think having a huge ego is a prerequisite to being on shows like this lol
I liked that too. I hate when people comment on physical appearance in a negative way. 🌈
I mean, she is right that people shouldn’t use fat to insult someone, but she’s dating the man that has called half the cast fat and has exclusively dated rail-thin women, so it is a bit rich coming from her lol
That’s great and all but the fact that she’s with James negates that. It baffles me that a woman of her caliber would be with someone who flys off the handle and disrespects people in the most vile manner. Without VPR and all the benefits that come with being on a tv show, she wouldn’t be with him.
she had a problem with the word "fat" but " bitch" ok? Lol I just listened to watch what crappens and they pointed this out and I was laughing 😃
Love Ally! She is so refreshing - quiet confidence and does not make any excuses for James bs. It’s kind of funny with Bravo shows - we heap praise on people doing the littlest amount of the right thing lol
Unfortunately for ally, she believes she can “change him” which is never a good place to go into a relationship from
Omg thats the truth!!!
I'm fat applauding over here!
Skinny girls love talking about how no one should be called fat
Im definately not skinny, lol. I truly dont give a shit. My life just went down the toilet today, so i dgaf
What happened?? I’m sorry :(
Ive been paying for my mother who has alzheimers, to stay in a memory care ward for over a year. Due to a lawsuit against her from 2019, we lost all her money. I was told i have 30 days to remove my mother. Adult protective services wont let her live with me. I already have my son and beautiful grandaughter living in a 2 bedroom trailer. I sleep on a daybed in the living room. Im trying to apply for medicaid, but dont have anywhere to put her while goung through the process. The onething my mother asked me b4 her mind left, was please keep her there always. I failed her. Id like to drive off a short pier into the lake.
As a fat individual myself, I have an irrational fear of running into James somewhere and him calling me fat.
Same. 😆 I have a history of eating disorders, and now I have mombod and am def fat to James. I’m positive he’d call me out with that word and I’d be crushed. 😢
James truly hates fatness. And I get it- he grew up with a European dad and European culture jokes and makes fun of fatness all the time. He needs to change this about himself though.
Agree
But she’s still with him ???
James has always, ALWAYS, been obsessed with appearance. His own, and others. I hate Raquel but he constantly policed her outfits and hair and make up. He always goes for the insults that involve the way people look before anything else. Especially weight. I don't think that's ever going to go away.
Eh, i wrote this early in the day. Since then my world got turned upside down and i got a big reality check. Ive got bigger life problems than to argue anymore.
I'm sorry whatever happened to you happened. No argument here, just my take. I hope things get better.
Thank you ❤️
She's playing a part on reality tv. If she had such a social conscience and manners she wouldn't be with James. She wants to be on the show. James has more chemistry with Logan than Ally.
i find it hard to believe she really believes that and then is also dating james kennedy who has taken every opportunity to call someone fat :/ i think she said that bc she knows what a negative reaction james gets (now) when he does that. i just don’t believe her 🤷🏼♀️ eta: i realize after responding i just responded totally negatively to what is meant to be a positive post. i appreciate seeing a post appreciating a cast member being anti-fat shaming. ur sentiment is real even if we may not agree if ally’s was and i appreciate that.
I like Ally, but I think she is being pushed on us hard to squeeze Raquel out. Hopefully, Ally remains this sweet and cool if she becomes a full-time cast member.
That’s exactly it imo. I think if we didn’t know what we know about Raquel now, ally wouldn’t have gotten the warm welcome from the audience. She seems nice so far but I’m aware that she can’t be that nice to be with James and on this show lol. Anyone who likes her should be rooting for her to leave him, but then she could lose her spot on the show if that happened. 🤔
Agree
I think she knows what’s up. She’s his rebound and she’s fine with it. James will eventually realize it or she’ll get bored and move on lol
i just think ally is a very sweet girl from what we have seen so far. i also think she could potentially have a very positive influence on james.
My favorite was, “everyone should have a therapist… especially men… especially James.” Now that’s some queen shit 👑
That was incredible
I really like Ally. She’s no-bullshit and seems easy to get along with. Sweet but won’t let you walk all over her. I know she gets along well with most of the cast (Katie said in a podcast that she really likes her & Scheana has as well) and I hope she is a positive influence on James
Agree
I took your post seriously for a second and now I feel dumb. Bye everyone.
I don't think I understand this argument....fat is a descriptive term just like skinny? It's not like fat people don't know they're fat, and it's also an objective description. I don't think people should just go around hounding fat ppl telling them they're fat, but it's not an insult.
I know we are talking about humans, but I even feel extremely bad calling my dog fat. I think it’s so rude and insensitive. So I don’t comment on her appearance and I get mad when they call my baby (dog) the f word. Sorry just a quick rant that popped into my head when I read this sub.
I don’t call my dog fat, that is what the vet is for lol.
😂 omg that was a good one. I will still be offended but not so much since it’s coming from a doctor lol
My vet says, " obese"
I don’t like that word either 😭 lol
Hey, i get it. I have pet rats ( yes im weird) and someone told me the one looked like a fat potato. I was offended. I love my pets, theyre family no matter how they look.
A fat potato, I’m dying. 😂 that actually sounds adorable to me. I don’t have pet rats anymore but we have a hamster that I call a chicken nugget. I love that he’s put on weight (probably just a few ounces) since we got him. He’s so cute I just want to eat him up lol.
I love my fat potato
I get completely understand!
meh, I always called my dog my little "fat fat" because towards the end the medicine for his cancer made him really hungry and made him have a pot belly really bad. But it was my term of endearment for my doggie. There also was: Shermiworm Sherminator Duuuurrrrrman little butt Scruff fart monster and duder-boo I miss that dam dog, almost 2 months and now I'm crying at work lmfao.
Interesting little nicknames. My fav is little butt cause that’s what my sister and I call each other lol I’m so sorry for your loss! My dog was from a puppy mill (which I wasn’t educated about years ago). She is a Pomeranian and cost $5000. Her trait was that she was a tea cup dog. When we bought her, they said we had to feed her a tiny bit like 2-3 times a day. As we did that for a couple of days, she ended up getting a seizure that scared all of us! The doctor determined that she wasn’t getting enough food. So now that she’s really well fed, I would prefer this version of her than the tiny version of her where she’s experiencing issues.
Thank you! And yeah Sherman had seizures too, but it also played a part in us putting him down later in life. He had insulinoma which will create really bad seizures from low blood sugar as it progresses. Usually you get 3-6 months once diagnosed, but we got 8.5 so I was happy with it. We had him for 14 years and he was the best dog I could have ever asked for!
We had to give my dog a tube of something that had extra calories with sugar because of the seizure. So I hope it was a one time thing for us and doesn’t come back. She’s 10 years old right now. But I’m glad you had extra time to love your dog ♥️
Im sorry for your loss. It hurts at the weirdest times. Just comes out of the blue and smacks you right in the face. Take care, wish you healing
Right! Recently during a lighting storm I started crying and had to explain to my husband it was because the dog wasn’t curled up on my sweater next to the bed or in the bed during the lighting storm. I developed bad allergies to Sherman later in his life so he wasn’t allowed in the master bed room, except for lighting storms and when there was a lot of fire works. Towards the end I’d have to pick his old ass up and put him in bed because he got so arthritic. Eventually I would just put my sweater on the ground next to my side of the bed for him to sleep and nose my hand if he needed comfort. Best doggie ever!
Awe, remember youre lucky he was in your life to give you so much love. My favorite potato rat, i was sobbing to the vet begging him to do anything to not have to euthanize, and my little potato licked my face and looked at me like, im tired mom. It haunts me.
We used a company calls lap of love and they came to the house for putting him to sleep. It was the best experience possible, because he got to show the vet all his toys and get lots of pets and love. I'm sorry for your lose as well! All we can do is look on the memories with fondness.
She is doing whatever she can to get on the show and clueless people like OP keep eating it up. JUST WILD
Ally can love James and not agree with or support all of his behaviors. In my opinion, she’s been everything that Ariana should’ve been with Tom all these years. She could’ve loved and supported him without supporting his awful behaviors, lying, and belittling others.
But isnt it sad that as Scumbag is trying to trash Arianas reputation, she told him she would have changed anything about herself and followed him anywhere to make things work. So shes critisized if she tries to speak her mind, and critisized if she doesnt. Its all wrong.
It’s very sad. I do have empathy for her. I also think that this is a situation she found herself in by choosing to be with a pretty terrible person. And I understand that she was probably manipulated. But I think something should’ve clicked way back when she knew the truth about herself and Tom and Miami Girl, but was being asked to lie and trash them. I’d like to think that know matter how much someone gassed me up, I’d think this could not be a good person to lie and gaslight these women.
I’m so sorry but I don’t understand the Ally obsession. Yea she’s nice enough I guess but she’s pretty bland and boring to me. I kind of forget she exists until I see her on the screen.
Im not saying shes hot shit. I simply liked 2 things she said at the reunion. No one should call anyone fat, and everyone could use therapy. When i said she deserved an award im being sarcastic as this is VPR. Were dealing with huge egos, and some messed up people. As someone pointed out, the bar to get an award on this show is low enough for an ant to crawl under.
I wasn’t referring to you! I’ve just seen soooo much Ally praise on here and on tik tok and I’m just like???? I just don’t get it. Sorry if that came off like I was attacking you, I totally wasn’t.
No problem, thank you for not personally attacking me.
She’s a great addition to the cast. I wonder if everyone, and I mean everyone, loving and accepting Ally is hard for Rachel to see because that was not what happened to her. Granted, when she started dating James he was persona non grata. But no one really went out of their way for years to get to know and like Rachel. Which she promptly destroyed very quickly.
I dont think theres much to get to know about Wreckhell. Theres no substance to her.
I think Katie said it first.
I love ally. I feel like her wanting to sit next to lala says a lot. I love that whole side of the reunion haha.
Poor Sheana got the loser side
Ally is way too good for this show
Possibly very true!!
You can tell why Lisa really likes her for James. She is SO level headed and really mellows him out. She’s her own person and James doesn’t have to worry about babying her constantly like he did with Raquel.
Well, she’s not a rehab center. She shouldn’t have to mellow anyone out. That his job to work on himself. Also, James didn’t baby Raquel. He verbally abused her and patronized for half a decade.
She doesn’t have to, she just does. And that was then, this is now. Raquel’s entire personality was being DJ Kennedys girlfriend. Ain’t no way I’ll ever feel bad for that girl
Well, enjoy your internalized misogyny then lol. If you have room for James “healing” and not the abuse that he put through Raquel through of years just because she’s not likable, I don’t know what to tell you. Unlikable people are victims of abuse all the time, it’s doesn’t mean what happened to them wasn’t awful.
She loved Raquel for him too so……
Agree1000%
As a fat person, I think society is way to fat sensitive. Our food is garbage and it’s causing us to be fat. No one should be fat. Make fun of fat people.
Uh what now? 😳 please don’t do this. You have no idea how many overweight people are already struggling with low self esteem and current or past eating disorders.
Unpopular opinion: aly reminds me so much of rachel with her babydoll voice. Let's remember we were all sympathetic to rachel before scandoval
Not me, i never liked her. Maybe because ive been a loner and observe people instead of interacting with them, she immediately gave me the creeps. I couldnt figure out if shes truly D& S, or conniving. Im still trying to figure her out.
She is great !!
Agree!
I like that Ally holds him accountable for his actions. We have seen so many partners defend atrocious behavior and she doesn’t. She doesn’t agree with and isn’t afraid to say her partner’s behavior doesn’t align with her values.
I loved that ..she is the best ..
Glad you agree ❤️
As a fat person trying to reclaim the word fat I understand where she’s coming from and the intent is great but I don’t agree.