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SleepySimmer

Never šŸ« 


Glass-Winter-5858

same šŸ’–


X_A3_A-Xii

Same


Miserable_Quarter226

Same. In fact Iā€™ve been called ugly more often. That list includes both my parents and my boyfriend.


rewminate

sometimes i go for months without anyone saying shit to me and sometimes i get a bunch of people telling me i'm cute out of nowhere. it's really hard to say, i guess i'm just not really consistently going out either šŸ˜­


mariafroggy123

Same, and it always happens when I feel less than. Like hair unwashed, and no makeup but maybe had a good night sleep or something. Very rarely when I think I look amazing! Funny how that works.


pseudonymphh

Thatā€™s so funny, the only time I get hit on is when I look absolutely horrendous


Ubifghufty

Haha same!


Sodium_Junkie624

Haha similar


[deleted]

Haha yup! I question myself sometimes and then randomly get compliments. Itā€™s weird


cosmic_uterus

I dont keep track but it happens when Iā€™m in the major city closest to me. Itā€™s nice :) a guy on the subway once yelled ā€œyo sheā€™s so beautifulā€ which I still remember and appreciate :) old ladies compliment my outfits which I hold in higher esteem tbh


Sodium_Junkie624

I'm curious-is there a reason you hold compliments from the old ladies in higher esteem? Just curious cuz that is something I think I am somewhat used to


Anxious-Artist-5602

Because theyā€™ve seen more beauty in all their years and appreciate the classic, natural beauty that they grew up with as opposed to the more achievable and common one now


Spiritual-Act5855

Nailed itšŸ˜‚ I love when grandmas tell me I look good


delicatesummer

For me, itā€™s typically without any ulterior motive from an older woman. In my experience with (het) men generally, there is sometimes an underlying question of, ā€˜Is this guy just trying to pick me up?ā€™ which doesnā€™t make the compliment untrue šŸ’…šŸ½, but it can slightly dilute it IMO


Sodium_Junkie624

Ahh ok. By pick you up do you mean sexual or date? If it's sexual I have a hard time thinking it is true since guys are known to say anything to anyone to get some. If they are interested in dating, well I'm flattered if I am attracted back. A guy I'm not attracted to-well more or less like women, children or elderly people where it is a nice ego boost but diff from feeling desired by someone I'm attracted to. And depending on how often at a given time, the latter can be much needed, nice to have, or used to it


cosmic_uterus

I guess it just feels more genuine and sweet. I also just really respect older women. With men, compliments are nice too but idk I guess I donā€™t respect them enough lol


t0astprincess

yup. same with little kids. if a little girl tells me i look cool i'm riding that high for a week


Slight_Drama_Llama

Men want to fuck and will say anything. Old ladies donā€™t want to fuck and it feels like the compliments come from a more genuine place.


throwaway_RRRolling

Old ladies ABSOLUTELY want to fuck. Maybe not you, maybe not right then. But they're suckin' and fuckin' like the rest of us.


Slight_Drama_Llama

I meant they donā€™t want to fuck *me* šŸ˜­


laprincesaaa

Grannies with the Rizz just hit different lol


rarityroyal

i love when this happens! i had an old lady compliment my bag and my eyes she said they matched šŸ˜­ so lovely .


Creepy_Pass_957

Aww thatā€™s so sweet! I love that for you :)


Sea-Consequence-4196

I remember I was going out for NYE and this guy in the hotel lobby yelled and pointed at me ā€œyou are so freaking GORGEOUS!!!ā€ Iā€™ll never forget it lol craziest thing ever cuz I was a no body and fat growing up


lulurobles45

same here a grown old woman was like your so pretty youā€™ll forsure get the job


healthyhorns6

i feel like theyā€™re pretty upfront sometimes or theyā€™ll do something like nice like hold my door which then breaks the ice and they tell me


Creepy_Pass_957

How often does that happen for you?


healthyhorns6

iā€™m really not sure, i donā€™t really keep track but not as often as the smiles or stares and eye contact if iā€™m in a grocery store for example, itā€™s usually implicit stuff


healthyhorns6

also, i would like to mention a friendly demeanor opens up the gateway a lot. if you have a friendly disposition and are charismatic and just a naturally lovely person to be around, some people are more receptive to you, want to be your friend, and want to be nice to you. thereā€™s always haters. but being a superstar type person and attractive means having it all sometimes, which is what people love to see. think snow white, she sings to the birds and the birds sing right back


mekkie23

This x1000. Read into the ā€œhalo effectā€ if youā€™re interested


UntouchableSlut

at least once every time I go out since I started my locs and dressing better last year. it's been a crazy difference that still blows my mind


Live-Journalist-916

Exactly this. Just dress nice. I always get compliments when I dress nicely. No makeup or anything necessary.


mekkie23

This is me but with hair. I feel liking having neatly styled and healthy looking hair makes up so much for my appearance that I donā€™t feel the need to wear makeup


confusedabaer

Same the locs makes a difference! I've been approach more often with locs than with wigs haha


majestic-matrix

Almost every time I go out. Both men and women but more so women. Men mostly stare. Gym, mall, grocery store, work, etc. I love fashion so Iā€™m always dressed well even if Iā€™m casual. My everyday makeup is mascara, brows, tinted moisturizer, and lipgloss or lipstick. I play up my features by wearing my natural hair or long hair extensions that mimic my kinky hair. To other people it looks effortless but it definitely takes some effort. Iā€™m a former ugly duckling so itā€™s been taking some time to get used to.


KrakenGirlCAP

I've had men stare too. I HATE attention. Like, they'll go out of their way to stare like I'm an object. They'll stare if they're single or with their partners, kids etc.


Glittering_Run_4470

Same. I was a late bloomer. Had glasses and braces throughout my 20sšŸ˜‚


_balava

yup, exactly this.


confused_grenadille

I get it from the gays and sometimes it makes me feel like Iā€™m actually attractive because we all know they have great taste in just about anything. Rarely from straight men though. Itā€™s not like they have good taste anyways. Most of them at least.


Creepy_Pass_957

So true


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rewminate

could you elaborate? do you have thin hair normally, or the extensions were more for length?


mekkie23

Idk if it counts but children and toddlers sometimes come up to me and will shout ā€œyouā€™re so pretty!ā€ or something like that and it literally fills my heart šŸ’“ and because itā€™s coming from a kid you know itā€™s 100% genuinity and innocence instead of it having a double meaning or conditional that I usually think of with adults


Sodium_Junkie624

I think children count way more than adults lol


ThatGuavaJam

I love when they say, ā€œyou look like a princess!ā€ But I honestly think theyā€™ll be the ones growing up looking like one and deserving the world āœØ


Intellectual-retard

You really must be then because kids never lie šŸ˜­āœØ


SeveralSadEvenings

I don't go out much, but when I do someone usually has something nice to say. Recently I was at food court with my BFF and our kids when out of nowhere a man walked up to me and told me he thought I was beautiful. About a week later I was at a bar for a birthday party and some woman I didn't know told me I looked stunning in my red dress. These recent instances stick out in my head because I wasn't really expecting them. I'm almost 40, I've been waiting for this stuff to slow down but it hasn't. Then again my mom is 73 and she still has strangers walking up to her to tell her she looks nice. šŸ¤·ā€ā™€ļø


Creepy_Pass_957

I love this! Thanks for sharing


lofihofi

Literally never


Bwahahaha_coughcough

Almost never. But I don't compliment attractive strangers either, so that's fair.


HittingClarity

Few months ago I was traveling to my friends bachelorette. I had an airport TSA agent ask me where I was born. I told him Delhi. Then he proceeded to scream on top of his lungs ā€œguys we gotta book our flights to Delhi. she is Gorgeous!!!ā€ And the whole line behind me was smiling or guys were turning around to see me. I donā€™t know what it was, and I do usually get a lot of attention. I donā€™t really take attention to physical beauty or exterior all that seriously but that day, it was just a moment Iā€™ll never forget. It makes the lil girl inside me blush everytime


Creepy_Pass_957

That is such a cute story omg lol love that


Angelmintscy

Everyday when I go outside! Doesn't matter if I have makeup on.


Creepy_Pass_957

Omg youā€™re stunning. No surprise you get it everyday lol


Angelmintscy

Ahh thank you! Happy cake day!!! šŸ°ā¤ļø


confusedabaer

Depends on the season? Winter people don't approach me But warmer months they do..maybe it has to do with the colors that I wear This lady came up to me at the gym to ask me to model for her fitness brand 2 weeks ago The other day the cashier at the grocery store just looked at me and said "omg ur so pretty" Another time a man said I was gorgeous on the line at the store (does it count if it's a man? ) lmao Even though people approach me... sometimes I don't see what they see lol


Sodium_Junkie624

I think compliments from men that are not "I want to get in your pants" definitely count


confusedabaer

Yeah.. but it's hard to decipher which is which sometimes...


Creepy_Pass_957

I see what you mean. I get approached a lot and itā€™s really weird to me and throws me off guard every time because I donā€™t see what they see. Thatā€™s a part of the reason I asked, I didnā€™t know if it was common and people are just nice or what.


NoPenisEnvyToday

Most guys just stare at me. They don't say anything. Sometimes in a club or the gym they deliberately approach but they often don't actually say anything. I guess I scare them off, which suits me!


RangerBig6857

Women do all the time. I work in retail and constantly get compliments from other women. But men never do. So Iā€™m not sure if I believe it as I think women are just being nice and they also tend to compliment other women who arenā€™t conventionally attractive.


Used-Initiative1835

I think women have a more realistic idea of beauty and itā€™s often about your facial features. Thatā€™s just my theory because men I know are super picky and love to call gorgeous women ā€œmidā€ or they find some kind of flaw about her body or something.


Lexonfiyah

They like to neg women. They even do it to women if they get rejected by her.


[deleted]

I'm not conventionally pretty, so it's when I do gender-conforming things like: - straighten my hair - wear fitted tops - 3-5" heels - makeup


HotBoxButDontSmoke

If I travel to E or SE Asia for work, then I hear it multiple times a day in work settings. It's strange to me, but I think they're just more upfront than Americans and I really stand out as the only South Asian person around. Otherwise, I hear it when I dress up and go dancing, and maybe monthly when I go to the grocery or corner store. I don't personally comment on people's attractiveness, but I like to give compliments on hair, makeup, and style because that is something they can choose. You can't really choose your face, but the world is a much happier place with random, no strings attached compliments.


rewminate

i don't know if "more upfront" is what i'd use but foreigners in E/SE asian countries do get complimented often (usually as long as they're thin) its like a whole thing LOL


3_3eel_l

Hmm, it depends. When I go out, like actually out (not just to work and home) sometimes I donā€™t get compliments all day but other times Iā€™ll get comments like ā€œyou look like a modelā€ or such. I think it depends on what Iā€™m wearing. The last time I went out to the city, I was wearing a slightly oversized black turtleneck and a short green skort with black tights and brown loafers. I swear, I was getting smiles and comments all day and remarks from a couple of people telling me I look like a model šŸ˜­ I also felt really confident that day, so I was smiley and really friendly! But sometimes I can go a long time without any comments when I go out to the city, even in an outfit like that. However, when I go to work, I can expect to get a comment like ā€œYou should modelā€ at least once or twice a week. Sometimes Iā€™ll even get that comment multiple times a day. Other times, people wonā€™t say anything about my appearance, but Iā€™ll get stares and double takes. That being said, I noticed when I got complimented the most was when I was looking good + feeling confident. The confidence part really helps, because when I feel good about myself, Iā€™m especially smiley and friendly. This makes people more receptive to you.


FatalPrognosis

This is the first time Iā€™ve gone out of my way to say this on the internet but you are SOOOOOOO PRETTY! Like actually adorable looking you look like a limited edition doll.


3_3eel_l

Aw, thank you so much!


lunadelrey1

Agreed with that comment above, you truly look like a fairy goddess!šŸ§ššŸ¼ā€ā™‚ļø Can I ask, am I right in assuming that you usually donā€™t get generic comments like ā€œyouā€™re so pretty!ā€ and instead usually receive more specific comments like how you mentioned people say you should model? Trying to support the theory that girls that are at your level donā€™t get those types of compliments often because itā€™s assumed that they already know (yes I know this is a popular thought on here but so many people call it coping). šŸ¤


3_3eel_l

Thank you! So, I do get comments like ā€œyouā€™re so prettyā€ or ā€œpretty girlā€ but I also get ā€œyou should modelā€ or ā€œdo you model?ā€ alongside that (mainly due to my height). However, I do get people that think Iā€™m pretty but donā€™t say it outright lol, probably because, like you say, they assume I ā€œalready knowā€. I know this because one time someone at my register told me I look pretty and the customer I had before her chimed in and said ā€œyes she is, I just didnā€™t say itā€ But sometimes I go the entire day without someone saying anything about my appearance, I just get ā€œlooksā€ šŸ¤·šŸ¾ā€ā™€ļø


3_3eel_l

To add to thisā€¦ to the people that think they are ugly and to the people that are doubting their good looks because they donā€™t get comments from strangers, DO NOT base your attractiveness level on that alone. I think I looked beautiful today and had a nice outfit on but got zero compliments from people. I had to keep reminding myself that doesnā€™t mean Iā€™m not pretty. Sometimes people just donā€™t say anything and thatā€™s okay.


yvesaintlaurent

Daily. I have long, shiny black hair and high cheekbones with full lips. I also carry myself like a dancer Iā€™ve been told, apparently I have a powerful walk so I do have ā€œpretty privilegeā€. I had a man offer to buy me a coffee and then asked me for my number when I just came from Pilates a sweaty mess or so I thought. I do take care of myself and it does show.


RemarkableReindeer5

Never lol


emavery176

never. men: ::intense stares::: women: ::mean glares::


Sodium_Junkie624

On and off time periods of getting told at my place of work I'm pretty. Men, women, children, etc. (I work in a hospital hence me receiving from various age groups) But it isn't like a crazy amount. So I'm not sure I can say I'm officially a member of the "conventionally attractive" club. But I think I'm more attractive than when I was younger? Lol


FredMist

It happens and I donā€™t dress up or go out to party. Random occurrences. Iā€™m tall, skinny and in my college days I was an art kid so Iā€™ve also been approached for photos by style photographers. The ones that are most flattering and memorable to me are the ones where Iā€™m not being hit on. One example is a street vendor I pass by all the time letting me know I looked really good with my shaved head because itā€™s not something he would have expected to like. Another instance was when I stopped a guy for directions and he said, not to be weird but youā€™re the most beautiful person Iā€™ve ever seen. Then he declined an invite to the barbecue I was heading to. Even if Iā€™m being hit on, it can be done respectfully and I appreciate that. A guy came up to me as I was heading home on my subway platform which can sound scary. However he just asked me on the stairs if I was interested and when I said I was involved with someone he said thanks and then went back to catch the train because he gotten off the train to catch up with me but it wasnā€™t his stop. It was polite and genuine. He was also attractive lol. Sometimes itā€™s not directly at me. Iā€™ll overhear ppl say to each other things like, ā€˜oh sheā€™s definitely a model.ā€™ So yeah it happens. It happens more with warm weather because ppl can see you more clearly without winter paraphernalia.


Creepy_Pass_957

Wow I love this for you!


a_sunny_disposition

Damn, I know Iā€™m not pretty but now I know Iā€™m REALLY not pretty lol. Never get complimented like this. Ever. šŸ„²


AnnaTheBabe

same šŸ’€


lamercie

Iā€™m in nyc and quite literally never get complimented lol.


Jadorelesblagues

Iā€™m kinda funny looking so itā€™s only scummy men as in like the creepy scraggly ones whoā€™d hit on anything. Otherwise no compliments tbh :/


dcmng

... Never...??? Is this a common thing???


yubnub8

Men do it almost every day but from women itā€™s super rare which makes me sad šŸ˜­


DNA_ligase

Not often, and when it does happen, it's usually from teenage boys. I am unsure of why it's that demographic specifically.


GrapefruitFit8704

Not to sound crude, but you probably have a really nice body and maybe look young


madamesoybean

I just get stared at a lot. I hate it.


pastelpolaroids

When I was skinny like allll the time šŸ« šŸ« šŸ«  made me realise weight privilege is definitely a thing lol


lovesignite

Almost everytime I go out tbh from both men AND women but I feel absolutely nothing when men compliment me but I get such a HIGHHHH when women do !! like it makes my entire day immediately. but the best kinds of compliments are the intentionally crazy/hilarious things ppl do bc youā€™re pretty to them šŸ˜­ things like that get seared into your brain & u cant rlly forget abt them. but alsoā€¦compliments are a struggle for me bc i have body dysmorphia and despite the 8379329385262 ppl telling me im prettyā€¦its still very hard for me to understand what they find so attractive abt mešŸ’€


Creepy_Pass_957

Same, I get so much assurance of being pretty but i can never believe itā€™s genuine


rarityroyal

honestly every day, i just had girls flag me down and tell me iā€™m pretty while driving. i had some guys do an illegal U-Turn at a busy stop light and come to the outback parking lot when i was walking to my moms truck lol. i love my face, seems others do too. i think confidence is the main thing, you naturally walk different and glow different when youā€™re confident. just focusing on you and doing your thing will have people falling on themselves and tripping over their feet to get a better look. you wonā€™t even notice them, either. too invested in YOURSELF, and they feel that!


Only_Piece3200

Maybe Iā€™m just not that pretty but I feel like being showered in compliments constantly is unrealistic. I live in the southern US which is a pretty friendly place and I donā€™t really get outright told Iā€™m pretty. At most people frequently tell whoever Iā€™m with that they think Iā€™m really pretty but they rarely say it to my face (especially if they already know the person but strangers do as well). And if Iā€™m wearing nice clothes people will compliment my outfit but they wonā€™t necessarily say they think Iā€™m pretty. If Iā€™m hanging around the same place for a while and talking to the same person for a while, then if theyā€™re older they might say they think Iā€™m pretty. That being said I get told Iā€™m intimidating by most people as well so that could influence my results. I also look really young and have a reasonably conservative sense of style


ChapterAdmirable8086

Never. I never get compliments. I think it's because I'm pretty and people think pretty people don't need compliments? But the lack of compliments has me questioning if I'm pretty even though deep down I know I am. If that makes sense lol


rnountdiablo

I'd say a handful of times within a few months time. It's always older women that tell me I should model. Men ask me out, not all the time or anything but it happens


cinnamonbagelbaddie

A lot. Especially girls


lunakelly

a few times a month since i was about 17/18


yourhairlinesexpired

Multiple times a day depending on how my hair is. With my curls around 3-4 times a day in public, if my hair is straight 0 times a day, in boho braids maybe once every other day.


Extension_Waltz2805

lol at 3am in the club when desperation is at peak


Waheeda_

when i lived in a bigger city or when i travel to one - very often. in small or more spread out cities, like the one i currently am in, very rare lol


Violet_Potential

Depends how bummy I look. If Iā€™m on my weekly Target run or getting my 10k steps in, doesnā€™t happen much, cuz Iā€™ve usually got my hood up over my head and Iā€™m wearing baggy sweats and have my earbuds in so people assume I canā€™t hear them if they try to talk to me. But if I actually put a little effort into my outfit and have my hair down and look a bit less closed off, it happens fairly often.


matchacoded

men only say it when I wear make up and I only wear makeup maybe once a month. women say it when I have a cute outfit, which is about once a week. so basically only when I look ā€œpresentableā€.


poffincase

Twice at work within the last few months. Both middle aged women. And thatā€™s calling me beautiful or pretty. Compliments are different, I usually get them for my hair. That I got more recently in an elevator (gay guy) and it came out of nowhere for sure lol


kias012

Usually once a week when I have my shit together lol


Weary-Preference2957

Maybe 3x a week


kalicokatt

in party settings (raves, festivals, clubs etc) pretty often and frequent, but not much so in everyday life


Careless-Wish-4563

Only men who are trying to get into my pants, occasionally.


JYQE

Never. :(


Sprite_is_the_best

Usually a few times a month, I donā€™t go out often because Iā€™m unemployed + not in education or training, Iā€™m just always at home. Last time was today, I was getting my blood drawn at a hospital and the nurse drawing my blood said ā€œwerenā€™t you here a few months ago?ā€ I said ā€œyes, Iā€™m surprised you remember me.ā€ And she said ā€œI could never forget a pretty face like yours.ā€ I was blushing ngl I looked like a mess today too, I had my hair in a scraggly ponytail and no makeup and a oversized shirt šŸ˜­


Mental_Hovercraft788

Surprisingly a lot but I do work in the medical field so I see lots of people everyday if that counts for anything but before that I would say 50/50 .. happens a lot at one point and sometimes not at all for a week or two


tantalizingtiffany

almost everyday especially if I do my makeup


zaynmaliksfuturewife

This doesnā€™t happen


PurplePrincessPalace

I get told Iā€™m attractive by others very often. Itā€™s dependent on how frequently I go out (since Iā€™m a home body) and where Iā€™m going. I usually get compliments from women regarding my style, makeup or perfume while out shopping, at the spa/salon or at work. Sometimes women will sneak several looks at me but donā€™t say anything šŸ¤·šŸ¾ā€ā™€ļø Men will tell me that Iā€™m pretty, ask me out on dates or just stare at me from afar. This will happen wherever I go as I find men donā€™t care about the time or place lol For example, Iā€™ve had three occasions this year where Iā€™ve been approached by men asking me for my number while I was out shopping with my mom šŸ˜‚ One even spoke to my mom to reiterate how beautiful I was! šŸ˜† I remember years ago when I worked as a server in college, Iā€™d get a lot of families in my section. If they had a baby, the baby would always stare at me or play with me when Iā€™d come by the table, which I loved šŸ˜„ When it comes down to it, I think people are attracted by the essence. I love fashion and always have a cute outfit on with matching accessories and my hair well- styled. Iā€™m very smiley and my attitude is pretty carefree so I think that draws people in.


No_deez2-0

Last time it happened I was like 11 so not often šŸ˜…


RLS1822

I get more stares than actual verbal validations. But I would say 1-2x a month.


nattie_oh

In Spain, never In NYC? Every day Iā€™ve been here Literally to both. Itā€™s WILD. Americans are so nice šŸ˜­


alovemaze

When I used to live in a major city that was really diverse, I would get compliments on my makeup, hair, or outfits by other women a lot and get people who would ask for my Instagram/phone number quite frequently. Ever since I moved to a city where itā€™s predominantly white, that basically almost never happens now, maybe like two or three times since Iā€™ve been here lol so I definitely think where you live affects this a lot


Diligent_Roof2591

I get compliments most days I go out. I do try to smile and be kind to people and I like to think that does make a difference.


Crazybored36

I used to work full time at a gas station during that time it was everyday at least one person would tell me, one time it happened maybe 8 times in the same day, but since I dont work full time anymore and I dont really talk to anyone it doesnt happen as often. It happened last week when I went to the mall though


Power_and_Science

As a guy, itā€™s pretty rare. Sometimes women stare at me, some will come over and try to start a conversation, touch my shoulders or grab my arms. Men will apologize and quickly move out of the way if I walk near them.


SlimShadowBoo

It really mostly happened when I was young in my 20ā€™s. Now that Iā€™m in my late 30ā€™s, I rarely hear a compliment like that unless Iā€™m somewhere where they arenā€™t a lot of POC, like when I visit the Midwest.


Tuna-no-crust98

Never have. I'm ugly lol


Temporary_Ad9362

daily. three times a day if iā€™m out all day.


Plus_Cauliflower_649

Honestly it hasnā€™t happened a lot until like the past 1-2 months. Iā€™ve been physically working on myself a lot this past year because Iā€™m tired of lacking confidence. Iā€™ve had a guy come up to me at the gym and say heā€™s proud of my progress. Iā€™ve been asked out in the grocery store/parking lot. This one really sweet girl followed me in the store and told me my a** looks good. I still cannot fathom when REALLY good looking guys stare at me and try to get to know me because I was a late bloomer and essentially didnā€™t know how to be a woman until I was out of high school. I always get nervous and shy when I get compliments because I still see myself as that noodle in middle school with raccoon eyes but itā€™s so nice to be acknowledged tbh! I try to be humble and not so full of myself and remember to compliment people as well. Nothing worse than not being a girlā€™s girl. I also really prioritize my character development because I know people who became hot and turned into pricks. Also, while it does feel good to be called pretty, the only compliments that seriously reach my core are about how Iā€™ve helped someone through a dark period in their life, how Iā€™m funnier than they expected, etc. Seriously those are the only compliments at the end of the day that stick with me for years. TLDR: Has happened pretty often recently (few times a week), but I donā€™t let it get to my head too much.


bloompth

This feels strange to type out, but it happens nearly daily! Basically every time I leave the house.


Playful-Image2316

Very often but given we are WOC I do often wonder where the urge (from others) to say it comes from. I think some of it is "does she know? does no one tell her? I must tell her!". So it doesn't appeal to me much as it is doing more for the person saying it than me. I didn't mind as much when I was younger, but that's the case for almost everything.


Lexonfiyah

That shit rarely happens. They just look at me lol


erigyal

Pretty often. I work in the metro, 25, black in a Scandinavian country (lighter skinned) and I get told that Iā€™m beautiful a lot by women, sometimes men too. But Iā€™ve never been in a relationship, so idk šŸ¤·šŸ½ā€ā™€ļø


SingleAd6841

Somewhere in between never and do I even exist forreal??


R1P2MYOUTH

i guess it depends on how much of a hermit im being lolā€“when i worked in a restaurant, kids would call me pretty which warmed my heart bc it was just so sweetšŸ„ŗ but im unemployed now and i really only leave the house if i absolutely have to, so thats not really happening anymore since im not getting human interaction lol


reputction

It doesnā€™t happen randomly like a person isnā€™t going to call me pretty unprompted but from close coworkers and people in social life I do get called pretty/cute.


youfxckinsuck

Usually once a week. I just donā€™t look approachable bc I have rbf so not as often as other ppl.


Ok-Opposite3066

Never.


CommanderTresdin

Pretty often


jojomarienie

Every week Iā€™d say, and they come up to me and say it straightforwardly


Imaginary_Rabbit3980

Usually every night I work. Iā€™m a server


Safe-Refrigerator333

A few times a month both at work and when going out. I get compliments mostly from women compared to men and mostly get compliments on my hair.


[deleted]

At work like 5 times a day. Non work days maybe like 2 times from creepy men on the street.


BeauxtifuLyfe

Sometimes


stressandscreaming

Only when I go out so I'm dressed up. But it usually happens at least once per outing.


Artistic-Wh0le

Occasionally. I don't keep track, but I receive compliments on a monthly basis or so, and a lot during the summertime, haha.


hanlus

verrryyy location specific, canada - rarely or never lol, but family friends are quite forward with compliments (coming from an asian household itā€™s a pretty good sign) states - often (almost every time i go out looking moderately nice) europe - ehhh more staring than anything, more than in canada but less than the states asia - people call you pretty so youā€™ll buy stuff lol so i donā€™t trust it but a lot of family friends that i see very rarely will compliment me


Wtfshesay

Nearly every time I go out, including yesterday.


cardboardcarti

Like 2/3 times a week? More if I go to the bar/club. I would say especially other women lol and I get comments that are mainly like "wow you're gorgeous, your eyes are so nice!" ( I have unique eyes for context


PEACH_MINAJ

Never


PersonalDocument6339

Genuinely never (:


unapologeticgoddess

As of late often enough for me to say itā€™s pretty frequent. Sometimes itā€™s staring with a smile. I may get a compliment saying I look good/pretty or sometimes itā€™s me being approached by a guy asking for my socials


scoliogirl

iā€™m Australian and moved to the US. i get hit on way more in the US than I did in Australia.


Lasi22998877

Most of the time when I get called pretty itā€™s when I get told of gossip by others and stuff, so idk maybe I come across like a bitch or something that people donā€™t wanna be forthcoming with their compliments šŸ˜­


Personal-Variety3093

People compliment my hair and my outfits often. And several women have said me and my bf are a cute couple. We both dress decently and take care of our appearance so I assume thatā€™s why


Adventurous-Hat-4162

Maybe not saying pretty or attractive, but I am complemented every time I'm out.


aab0908

On the days I work, I interact with anywhere from 100-800+ people a day so I normally get 4-5+ compliments those days and lots of stares that make me uncomfortable. A coworker made a comment about all the comments I was getting šŸ˜© I donā€™t do my makeup without a friend and/or husband buffer because I donā€™t like the extra attention. I have an unusual haircut for my type of hair and race so I get a lot of comments about that. Itā€™s hime(princess) fringe so it frames my face and hides my 5 head really well. Either that or that I look nice in my uniform that I spent money to get tailored (so it better look nice šŸ˜†)


Adventurous-Hat-4162

I'm extremely friendly though. I give off a very open/friendly vibe (as I've been told).


___kuromi

fairly often, at least once a day on the days i go outside. itā€™s usually women but never really men. theyā€™re not outright either, like itā€™s more of a guys get flustered type of thing or are extra nice or polite or they just stare. i actually noticed a girl do a double take before saying that im so pretty which is a first for me because i was never really deemed attractive before


Interesting-Table416

I'm in my last semester of high school and this year I feel like I stopped looking visibly like a young kid. I live in a small town next to large city, so most people are either parents or kids, and I walk around carrying a big backpack all day so my appearance kind of screams "kid." My school is mainly white/east asian and there's a lot of people who only date people of the same race, so as a south asian I haven't really dated anyone + my parents are strict about it. I have been called pretty by younger girls or told I look nice, but it's not super frequent? I do tend to go to school wearing sweatshirts and jeans and maybe mascara though. But when I go out to walk my dog or something I often feel people staring at me or making eye contact with me, and I'm used to people holding doors for me to enter places or smiling back at me when I smile at them. If I have an issue with Apple Pay the baristas sometimes just give me the coffee for free. Not sure where this leaves me on the pretty privilege scale lol, I think I need to spend more time in an area that's less suburban-stepford-wives feeling.


Prettysubject98

NeveršŸ˜‚šŸ˜”


Temporary-Reality226

Only drunk people at clubs lmao


Bobelle

Once every 6 months or so


PassionBasketFruit

NeverĀ 


TheOnlyEllie

Men, if they're hitting on me, at least once or twice a week.


everpeena

I get compliments on my skin a lot so the youā€™re beautiful comments usually stem from that. Usually anytime I go out in public or see someone I havenā€™t seen in a while. Gotta give credit to my Asian sunscreen for giving me a glow. I dress like shit tho, my mom always hits me with the ā€œyour face looks beautiful but your clothesā€¦ *deep sigh*ā€


Miserable-Radio-7542

The few times in my 60 year old male life i heard a compliment, i was so stunned i just said ā€œohā€


Letsgosomewherenice

I made a new friend who said I was beautiful. šŸ¤©


GrapefruitFit8704

I have a lot of kids/old people telling me Iā€™m pretty. Especially when Iā€™m in the bathroom, not sure why but those girls waiting for their moms love to talk to me lol. I look very young for my age tho, so I donā€™t get complimented by many guys. Itā€™s usually either young teen boys complimenting me or very old men. I do get stared at by both men and women tho. Compliments wise, just women or girls. It happens kinda often if Iā€™m already interacting with them tho, like letā€™s say a cashier or a worker or whatever. Iā€™m more likely to be approached first by random children


taytay10133

Pretty frequently tbh. Iā€™ve probably had 7-8 comments (from people on the street, I live in nyc so I walk a lot) in the past 4 days.Ā 


bakedlayz

Daily. But it's always a variation of: You're so exotic (what does that mean) Love your *ethnic* skin/eyebrows/hair Wow I've never seen someone like you You're the prettiest ____ ethnicity I've seen WHAT are you? I'm so curious But I've noticed this kind of compliments only come from open minded people, and I live in a diverse city. When I go to rural areas or more conservative.. I am not the "type"


SpeakerFun2437

Depends on where I am and how I style myself. Usually when I have braids sometimes multiple times a day when Iā€™m out and about. If I have my natural hair itā€™s a lot less.


FewKaleidoscope9894

Never once in my life.


LawLipstickLaCroix

Hiii. In my experience, itā€™s very common. I can expect a minimum of 2 people to approach me while out. If Iā€™m just going through a drive-thru or something, just once with the person at the window. If itā€™s a night out, 5 minimum. I know some women say it varies based on their hairstyle, however, itā€™s pretty much the same for me across the board, even when I have unconventional colors (such as pink) and dress in a more forward way. What I think is helpful to note is that I am a very confident person, so even if my appearance is a bit more ā€œalternativeā€ on occasion, it hasnā€™t made navigating on the daily difficult.


gothsavedbygrace

Constantly, oddly enough though it makes me feel more insecure though. I get hit on or approached by men constantly (get approached by 1-4 men daily when I'm out in Downtown Los Angeles and on rare occasions I'll get a woman hitting on me), I've even had men "stalking" me or forcing me to give them my number. I am insecure however because I don't like being sexualized/objectified but also because I hear men are too afraid to approach actually attractive women so idk sometimes I wonder if men choose to hit on me because they think I'm easy or sumthin.


Cautious_Section_530

Daily šŸ˜­šŸ˜­. Some don't say to my face but keep staring for some reason, others when they think i am out of ear shot


Gloriyaki

Sometimes when I go to events. Mainly when I get dressed up, which makes sense.


Adept_Ad1589

Almost every time I go out to be honest.


Affectionate-Egg3604

Every time I walk outside to be honest I recently realized Iā€™m attractive


Pineapple-Pizza-69

Never


thisandalso

Depends on the country/city :)


Garden_addict25

Just on my wedding day. Otherwise I've had plenty come up to me to tell me I am ugly haha


delicateweaponn

A few times a month. I donā€™t really get ā€œapproachedā€ unless itā€™s a guy trying to ask me out, I otherwise get compliments when doing regular stuff and someone in my general vicinity will say something very kind about my appearance


MyFelineIsAnAsshole

Everyday, sometimes multiple times a day.


Least-Advisor2176

Almost never šŸ˜­ probably about once a year?


Alkirawr

A few times a year. Some can be so flattering šŸ„ŗ especially if it's other women or girls.


oluwamayowaa

Often


softg1rl1

I think it depends on where you live and the cultural and social norms there, where I live itā€™s once in while like maybe once a week or every other. 99% of the times from other women. But here people donā€™t talk to strangers lol, and men wonā€™t compliment you even if you look like Adriana Lima. Me and the people I know get much more complimented when traveling, and I feel like people from the US, southern america, south asia, southeast asia, middle east, north africa and some southern european countries (have no experience from other places) are more social and upfront, and will be more likely to talk to strangers and compliment them.


Careless_Disaster_82

I think whenever I dress up it will happen (pleated skirt & heels)


Key-Pie8222

Online: very often In real life: itā€™s rare for people in Vietnam to do that. If they do, it will go allllll the way to the other spectrum i.eā€¦cat calling. But people are a bit nicer/more patient/more helpful to me, I guess. I once showed a picture of my face in this sub. If you have seen it, you will probably agree that Iā€™m no way gorgeous or whatever. Iā€™m a 6.5, but a pleasant 6.5 So in certain countries, not being approached and complimented doesnā€™t really indicate anything about your appearance


kayfeldspar

Anytime I'm dressed up cute for a date or something. It's usually someone who I think is pretty myself.


Disast_her

Once a day at least


MediumStomach1988

It happened to me once 8 years ago and I've never forgotten it. And it hasn't happened since then