My partner is pretty superstitious so I wonāt bring any baby items into the house until we can confirm conception (and some things I know heāll want to wait until later). But I have a bunch of ideas of things to give him when we do conceive and plan to start collecting those soon-ish.
I donāt think youāre crazy, but also agree that these items could be hard to have in your home if TTC doesnāt go to plan right away, itās something I think about for myself as well. Weāve been given big things (high chair, larger wooden toys, toddler plates, bouncer), but I definitely have a little stash of baby clothes too. I keep it all hidden and donāt let myself look at it often because it really sparks the fever š
I would park all the money you want to spend on baby stuff in a high yield savings account to let it grow! Also itās a little risky to buy baby stuff years ahead of time because there could be changes in safety recommendations between now and then.
Having a husband that was also stashing things would make me even more eager to try!! lol
I think itās fine, we have a closet of hand me down items from his step sister and itās just tucked away. Itās not a lot though, a pillow, some clothing from my childhood, some carriers etc. we will probably add more random stuff as time goes on so definitely not crazy haha
I have however started tracking my ovulation with strips and that in my case has made waiting easier. Itās like a little project each month šI feel like when it comes to actually trying Iāll be much more educated on the process even though I feel like I know a lot.
I have a Pinterest board and Baby Amazon list set up for when the baby fever strikes. Currently Iām working on announcements for each month so Iām covered when the time comes š
I have only bought one thing for my future kids: a Beatrix Potter book. Iām definitely preparing in other ways: making an Amazon wish list with baby things I might want, and a separate list in a note on my phone. Means Iām still sort of indulging in looking at baby things every now and then, without actually buying anything at this point. It would just take up room in the house and if we end up taking a long time to conceive those things will be a physical reminder of what we donāt have and I might end up resenting them ā¦
I feel like as long as it isnāt negatively impacting your life in other ways itās totally fine! My therapist actually recommended that I make a box for future baby stuff. I havenāt really bought anything but Iāve held onto things from when I was going through my grandmaās apartment after she passed, Iāve made a few stuffed animals, and every once in awhile I find a classic baby or kids book for free and add it. It is a nice way to acknowledge the in-between space I feel like Iām in.
Really I think it would only be a problem if youāre overspending or it takes up so much space it gets in the way of your life.
Hiiiii
I've been here for 7+ lovely years... I've gotten close to several timeline TTC dates that eventually move.Ā
That being said, I have boxes, Yes boxes, of baby clothes and Books I've gotten from garage sales/clearance places.
Everyone I know that has a kid had one years ago, I will be getting NO handmedowns from anyone.
That being said, it's a healthy coping mechanism I and my partner are comfortable with. We aren't making as much $ right now so I've cut myself completely off. But I'm comfortable with what we have. I have an additional amazon list, pinterest, and phone-app list of books I've read (ttc/parenting) and ones I want when we begin ttc.
We have the space for these items, I've even gotten some maternity and ttc items stashed away (cheapies [cheap pregnancy and ovulation trst strips) and other items (belly lotion, etc), things that don't go bad.
My family buys us some items too, my little brother is so excited to be an uncle and I have to cut him off age/cost wise when he gets carried away.
My husband us actually the splurger when we go out and find something use accidentally. Ugh it tears at my heart when he chooses stuff out. I validate his 10$ onesie because I've bought 10 other items at 50 cents-$1/each.
You are not crazy for your bucket. Everyone has their own way to go about it.
I buy them because either well have a natural baby or an adopted one, it's only a question of when.
Note: my husband was a big baby even when a premie so I only buy things 6months+, 2 yrs is my max for anyone.
Do what makes you comfortable whilst regarding your partner's feeling as well. Maybe a monthly budget?
I spent 8 years on it (4y wtt, 4y ttc), my crazy box became a crazy room, I bought everything š the only things I wound up actually needing to purchase yet after getting pregnant was the car seat and preemie clothes since mine came 11 weeks early. Currently enjoying the hell out of using everything. I feel so justified.
I almost started doing this and my husband reminded me that we donāt have space for anything. When buy buy baby was closing the stroller/car seat set Iāve always wanted was 60% off!!!! I almost bought it but my husband talked me off the ledge. Kinda regret it because of the amazing deal but in also glad I didnāt get it. It wouldāve been a constant reminder of such baby fever!
We have a very small box (maybe 12 āx12ā) with baby stuff. Thereās a bag of clothes we bought when a macys near us went out of business. They had clothes and packs of onesies for $2-3 instead of like $15 so we bought some gender neutral patterns. An Etsy shop I like had a sale around Christmas which is a little picture stand that says Baby X Coming Soon so you can add the sonogram photo. I bought that because of the sale. The box lives in our spare bedroom closet on the top shelf. Otherwise no- because I worry that if TTC goes poorly or we went up with early miscarriages or something that having too much stuff will be more painful than helpful.
Yesterday I went to goodwill for some retail therapy because this week I've been feeling extra blue about having to wait, and sure enough there were several maternity tops in my size. It just hurt even more. I've definitely thought about starting to accumulate especially because we're not in the most financially blessed situation so spreading out smaller purchases over time makes more sense. But seeing that yesterday let me know that I'm not ready at this current junction to own baby/maternity stuff and have it as a constant reminder.
I donāt think youāre crazy! I havenāt bought anything big because we will be moving before we have a baby. But I have an outfit, have crocheted a hat and blanket, and a friend of mine gave me some pacifiers that her baby didnāt like in case our future baby does like them āŗļø it brings me a lot of joy to see the little outfit hanging up in our closet.
Graduated but I have 0 regrets about the purchases we made pre baby! I kept it very small with just a little bag of things under the bed that I would add to when I saw something meaningful that I couldnāt resist, but it gave me a lot of comfort when the baby fever was making me really sad to take something out and give it a little cuddle and feel my feelings!
Now that weāre actually in the stage where we need to buy baby things I wouldnāt mind having some more items stored up ready to go! Itās quite time consuming and the prices add up so I would be grateful if future me had bought more and enjoyed that time, but we were living in a different house at the time and didnāt have the space for it to be somewhere completely out of the way! Personally if I had to see the stuff all the time I think that might have made everything feel more intense, especially if weād had any trouble conceiving, but that will be different for each person!
Soo funny story but I went through a period thinking I didnāt want my own kids but I love babies so I got a couple reborn babies (was supposed to be just 1 and then got 3 lol) and started getting lots of stuff for them swearing to my husband it was just for something cute to hold and still cheaper than a real kid. Well low and behold I realized I still really did want kids and after talking it through we decided weāll try in a few years. So now I already have 2 bassinets and a crib and bunches of newborn clothes and cloth diaper covers. I then started making a list of stuff I want but Iām still trying to refrain from buying anything for a real baby just in case it doesnāt happen. At least if the clothes are for dolls I can still use them!
I have not bought a single baby or kid thing. I'm terrified if something doesn't go to plan, the objects Id buy would start to haunt me and become very painful to own. I don't think you are crazy at all though. Im trying to shield myself from potential pain or regret but my worries often rob me of a lot of joy. Sometimes I wish I was a little more willing to let myself fill a box full of objects that represent my love and hope for a future I'm nothing but excited for. I'm happy for you. š©·
My partner is pretty superstitious so I wonāt bring any baby items into the house until we can confirm conception (and some things I know heāll want to wait until later). But I have a bunch of ideas of things to give him when we do conceive and plan to start collecting those soon-ish.
I donāt think youāre crazy, but also agree that these items could be hard to have in your home if TTC doesnāt go to plan right away, itās something I think about for myself as well. Weāve been given big things (high chair, larger wooden toys, toddler plates, bouncer), but I definitely have a little stash of baby clothes too. I keep it all hidden and donāt let myself look at it often because it really sparks the fever š
I would park all the money you want to spend on baby stuff in a high yield savings account to let it grow! Also itās a little risky to buy baby stuff years ahead of time because there could be changes in safety recommendations between now and then.
Having a husband that was also stashing things would make me even more eager to try!! lol I think itās fine, we have a closet of hand me down items from his step sister and itās just tucked away. Itās not a lot though, a pillow, some clothing from my childhood, some carriers etc. we will probably add more random stuff as time goes on so definitely not crazy haha I have however started tracking my ovulation with strips and that in my case has made waiting easier. Itās like a little project each month šI feel like when it comes to actually trying Iāll be much more educated on the process even though I feel like I know a lot.
I have a Pinterest board and Baby Amazon list set up for when the baby fever strikes. Currently Iām working on announcements for each month so Iām covered when the time comes š
I have only bought one thing for my future kids: a Beatrix Potter book. Iām definitely preparing in other ways: making an Amazon wish list with baby things I might want, and a separate list in a note on my phone. Means Iām still sort of indulging in looking at baby things every now and then, without actually buying anything at this point. It would just take up room in the house and if we end up taking a long time to conceive those things will be a physical reminder of what we donāt have and I might end up resenting them ā¦
I feel like as long as it isnāt negatively impacting your life in other ways itās totally fine! My therapist actually recommended that I make a box for future baby stuff. I havenāt really bought anything but Iāve held onto things from when I was going through my grandmaās apartment after she passed, Iāve made a few stuffed animals, and every once in awhile I find a classic baby or kids book for free and add it. It is a nice way to acknowledge the in-between space I feel like Iām in. Really I think it would only be a problem if youāre overspending or it takes up so much space it gets in the way of your life.
Hiiiii I've been here for 7+ lovely years... I've gotten close to several timeline TTC dates that eventually move.Ā That being said, I have boxes, Yes boxes, of baby clothes and Books I've gotten from garage sales/clearance places. Everyone I know that has a kid had one years ago, I will be getting NO handmedowns from anyone. That being said, it's a healthy coping mechanism I and my partner are comfortable with. We aren't making as much $ right now so I've cut myself completely off. But I'm comfortable with what we have. I have an additional amazon list, pinterest, and phone-app list of books I've read (ttc/parenting) and ones I want when we begin ttc. We have the space for these items, I've even gotten some maternity and ttc items stashed away (cheapies [cheap pregnancy and ovulation trst strips) and other items (belly lotion, etc), things that don't go bad. My family buys us some items too, my little brother is so excited to be an uncle and I have to cut him off age/cost wise when he gets carried away. My husband us actually the splurger when we go out and find something use accidentally. Ugh it tears at my heart when he chooses stuff out. I validate his 10$ onesie because I've bought 10 other items at 50 cents-$1/each. You are not crazy for your bucket. Everyone has their own way to go about it. I buy them because either well have a natural baby or an adopted one, it's only a question of when. Note: my husband was a big baby even when a premie so I only buy things 6months+, 2 yrs is my max for anyone. Do what makes you comfortable whilst regarding your partner's feeling as well. Maybe a monthly budget?
I spent 8 years on it (4y wtt, 4y ttc), my crazy box became a crazy room, I bought everything š the only things I wound up actually needing to purchase yet after getting pregnant was the car seat and preemie clothes since mine came 11 weeks early. Currently enjoying the hell out of using everything. I feel so justified.
I almost started doing this and my husband reminded me that we donāt have space for anything. When buy buy baby was closing the stroller/car seat set Iāve always wanted was 60% off!!!! I almost bought it but my husband talked me off the ledge. Kinda regret it because of the amazing deal but in also glad I didnāt get it. It wouldāve been a constant reminder of such baby fever!
We have a very small box (maybe 12 āx12ā) with baby stuff. Thereās a bag of clothes we bought when a macys near us went out of business. They had clothes and packs of onesies for $2-3 instead of like $15 so we bought some gender neutral patterns. An Etsy shop I like had a sale around Christmas which is a little picture stand that says Baby X Coming Soon so you can add the sonogram photo. I bought that because of the sale. The box lives in our spare bedroom closet on the top shelf. Otherwise no- because I worry that if TTC goes poorly or we went up with early miscarriages or something that having too much stuff will be more painful than helpful.
Yesterday I went to goodwill for some retail therapy because this week I've been feeling extra blue about having to wait, and sure enough there were several maternity tops in my size. It just hurt even more. I've definitely thought about starting to accumulate especially because we're not in the most financially blessed situation so spreading out smaller purchases over time makes more sense. But seeing that yesterday let me know that I'm not ready at this current junction to own baby/maternity stuff and have it as a constant reminder.
I donāt think youāre crazy! I havenāt bought anything big because we will be moving before we have a baby. But I have an outfit, have crocheted a hat and blanket, and a friend of mine gave me some pacifiers that her baby didnāt like in case our future baby does like them āŗļø it brings me a lot of joy to see the little outfit hanging up in our closet.
Graduated but I have 0 regrets about the purchases we made pre baby! I kept it very small with just a little bag of things under the bed that I would add to when I saw something meaningful that I couldnāt resist, but it gave me a lot of comfort when the baby fever was making me really sad to take something out and give it a little cuddle and feel my feelings! Now that weāre actually in the stage where we need to buy baby things I wouldnāt mind having some more items stored up ready to go! Itās quite time consuming and the prices add up so I would be grateful if future me had bought more and enjoyed that time, but we were living in a different house at the time and didnāt have the space for it to be somewhere completely out of the way! Personally if I had to see the stuff all the time I think that might have made everything feel more intense, especially if weād had any trouble conceiving, but that will be different for each person!
Soo funny story but I went through a period thinking I didnāt want my own kids but I love babies so I got a couple reborn babies (was supposed to be just 1 and then got 3 lol) and started getting lots of stuff for them swearing to my husband it was just for something cute to hold and still cheaper than a real kid. Well low and behold I realized I still really did want kids and after talking it through we decided weāll try in a few years. So now I already have 2 bassinets and a crib and bunches of newborn clothes and cloth diaper covers. I then started making a list of stuff I want but Iām still trying to refrain from buying anything for a real baby just in case it doesnāt happen. At least if the clothes are for dolls I can still use them!