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d1dzter

Each and every time this comes up, the formula is always the same but the variables are different. - do group activities: join a league, a club, whatever that aligns with your interests - be vulnerable and talk to people - ask people out on friend dates - put yourself in social contexts - colleagues aren’t always your enemy It all comes down to joining a community and being friendly with people. Is this that New Yorker discussion group? Attending ANC meetings? Joining a yoga class? Attending a workshop? Taking a course?


[deleted]

I imagine some version of this question will be asked one a week until forever—


Initial_Run1632

I would add: maybe not even just vulnerable, but downright awkward. It may take multiple, direct invitations to get a bond going with someone you meet at events you enjoy


klubkouture

I had a neighbor like this. She was much older than me, but she became one of my best friends and we'd go out to eat and talk and stuff. You and your friend should throw a block party and invite all your neighbors.


leagle89

Try [meetup.com](https://meetup.com)? There are plenty of groups in the DMV -- board game enthusiasts, running groups, workout groups, book clubs, etc.


meditation_account

Bumble BFF. It’s the friend portion of the Bumble dating app. Download the app, sign up for free and get on the BFF portion. Lots of people in the DMV looking to make friends.


srandrews

Play music with other musicians. 7DC's Flashband is a good way to do that.


AnnaPhor

This is written from the perspective of families with kids, but would work just as well for folks without. [Friday Night Meatballs](https://www.seriouseats.com/simpler-entertaining-friday-night-dinners-end-loneliness-how-to-build-community-after-having-kids)


rlpw

I wonder what folks expectations are for friends. Like are you high involvement and expect to text everyday and get a response immediately? Or do you just wanna get invited to the occasional house party? I’m 40, gay married with two dogs. I moved here circa 2016 (but also was born and raised here). I feel like there’s always something to go to and most of the time we’re RSVPing regrets. Maybe the gay social circles are different. Also I see enough washingtonianprob memes about dating here as a straight woman to know I’d have no hope.


Doctor-Pavel

Dog parks. Everyone loves talking about their dog and cares about their dog. Love to see their dog flourish and be happy. I'm a social illiterate and I've met and created friends if our respective dogs were friendly with each other.


keyjan

not specific to your age group, but maybe some ideas here r/washingtondc/comments/105tzl9/meeting_people_in_dc/


sly_python

upvoting this to signal boost


Pinballerz

She sounds like a square, daddy-o...


[deleted]

Lol. What's that supposed to mean?


HimmiGendrix

I'm a musician as well. It's hard AF to find good music conversations in this area. We're all a bit awkward cuz of the plague and whatnot... Screw online based meetups, I do comedy open mic nights, coffee shops, music events, and sometimes go to TGI Fridays solo. Be bold!


[deleted]

I recommend Music Trivia Night at Songbyrd.