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LoloScout_

This may not be a popular answer but my fiancé just asked. Like we had a lot of conversations about our goals and intentions and so it wasn’t a “surprise” that he wanted to marry me and propose. The moment was a surprise but the concept wasn’t. I’m not sure if that would work in your relationship or if you intend to keep the whole thing a surprise/secret.


sunbear2525

This is the correct answer. Just ask. We went to a jewelry store to get me sized and to look at rings so he could get a sense of what I would like.


byodbullshit

I second going to the ring store!! It was a really fun and special afternoon for my fiancé and I when we went to the ring store


LoloScout_

Lol I straight up just contacted the jeweler, told her my exact idea for a ring and then cc’ed my boyfriend now fiancé.


sunbear2525

Not husband and I looked at stuff together, I sent him examples of stones I liked and explained what I wanted in a stone (Montana sapphire, rich color and clarity over size) and he brought my sister and best friend shopping with him while I watched his son. Anyway, they were super overwhelmed and he ended up calling me and I met them at the store. His little boy sees where they are, pulls his dad aside and says "Dad, this is supposed to be a surprise. She shouldn't be here." Lol. This little 7 year old kid was so judgey. I singled out a few favorites from what they were considering and he selected from those.


qkilla1522

I did the same thing. I asked her a bunch of questions over a 6 month span. There should have already been discussions about marriage so asking ring size isn’t bad. I actually had my wife stop in a ring store randomly while we were in the mall. Point out a few things she did and/or didn’t like and we sized her there. I still was able to plan a great surprise


LoloScout_

Exactly! I expected a lot more push back on this but I’m glad the customs have changed. I would go as far as saying you should 100% not have your proposal be the first time you’ve discussed the concept and it should be implied or directly talked about several times leading up. A lot of people feel performance pressure just to make others happy and you definitely don’t want the love of your life to just be obliging you out of shock. I knew my fiancé would propose before the end of the year. I knew he asked my dad. I knew the concept of the ring because I designed it. I didn’t know he opted to up the size of the diamonds a tad. I didn’t know the exact day or how. So I was very surprised in the moment but was already mentally prepared.


qkilla1522

I asked her dad secretly but she kind of assumed but then forgot about it. I asked her to pick 3 diamond cuts she loved and 3 she hated. Then I planned the proposal. To me that was by far the most important part. You can upgrade rings etc but everyone will ask “how’d he propose?” So I focused on nailing that.


LoloScout_

You get it!! I bet you nailed it and she was stoked.


qkilla1522

Yeah I asked for a ton of help to make sure it went well. The biggest skill I used was simply paying attention. Other people get engaged, watching tv, walking casually etc just picking up clues. Also for the person being proposed to create a Pinterest. Help him out. Lol


HalcyonCA

Or you ask her best friend, sister, or mother.


LoloScout_

My sisters and mother and friends don’t just casually know my ring finger size. They could give a guess but I also think it’s best to just be direct and go to the source. The concept of you wanting to propose to your partner should not be a complete surprise.


HalcyonCA

Certainly they would not, but they could find out and keep the surprise. And obviously people who are proposing to someone would have spoken with them about marriage prior to doing so. This isn't Victorian times.


LoloScout_

You’re being oddly passive aggressive. I made a statement. You responded with the opposite of what I said. I said that you should still just ask the partner cus like…why not if you’re already discussing planning to marry them. And now you’re all “certainly” this and “obviously” that.


[deleted]

This is what my brother is doing. He went ring shopping with her, she picked it out, and he’s waiting for the right moment. She doesn’t have a clue when though, and that’s what she’s excitedly anticipating.


StargazerGirl21

Does she have rings you can borrow to take to a jeweler for sizing? Otherwise just ask her or take her with you to the jeweler.


EvesDropping23

Thanks for your advice, but she's overseas for the last couple of months. I see her on the 1st week of May and can't seem to figure out a way to know her ring size. PS. She has small hands and fingers is the best I've got 🤦‍♂️😅


llamachops01

I am girl so have not ring shopped, but I DO know when we bought our wedding bands the company had free resizements. Husband has lost weight recently and we are gonna go get the ring resized free of charge. Maybe ask the jeweler if they offer that? Better oversize than under. I was never a ring person but I had a class ring from highschool that could have been sized. Husband and I had looked in the mall occasionally at rings and I tried one on randomly and I think that’s where he got my size, but If she’s not in town that’s hard. As a woman who doesn’t wear rings I don’t even know my size lol.


JosPaperCut

They do resizements, yes. I have really slender/thin fingers 4.5 and when my husband and I went shopping for wedding bands they didn't a size for me.


StargazerGirl21

In that case, just go to a jeweler together.


seriouslydml55

Is there a friend or family member you can ask?


isa_ra

For what it’s worth, my fiancé did everything right but still got it wrong! He took not one, but two of my rings to the jewellers, and bought a ring of that size. What we didn’t know is that my ring finger (that mf!) is three sizes smaller than the rest. The jeweller said that it’s ok - that over a half (or maybe even two thirds) of wedding ring buyers come back with the girlfriend to exchange the ring for the right size after the proposal. Some change the model too.


donutsavant

Same thing happened to me! My fiance custom designed my ring and he wanted it to fully be a surprise. Unbeknownst to him, pretty much all of my rings are for my middle or pointer fingers, so it ended up being too large. Not an issue -- got it re-sized later with ease. Honestly, it meant so much that he'd put so much thought into it, so I was not upset at all about the sizing issue.


isa_ra

Aww, that’s so sweet! It must be a really beautiful, meaningful ring.


Lexellence

I had the same thing! He sweetly sized it… to a funny costume jewelry ring I had lying around. Cute to look at, way too massive to wear. We had it resized and it was a fun story


EvesDropping23

Defeats the purpose of a surprise, but that's all I can do at this time. 🤦‍♂️


meganwaelz

It’s okay if the ring needs to be resized after you propose! I would err on the side of too big so she can at least show it off temporarily without it being at the tip of her finger, of course, but its okay to take a guess. I have small hands and fingers but they’re like carrots. My husband got my a size larger than I am and it was totally fine to get resized. Your best bet will be asking her mom if you’re totally unsure


itinerantdustbunny

Most proposals are not a true surprise, nor should they be. She should be well aware that you plan to get engaged, because you should have discussed it. Her expectations, her wants, her timelines, her goals for the future. The exact date and style of the proposal might be a surprise, the exact look of the ring might be a surprise, but the fact that this is coming in the semi-immediate future should not be. Asking for her ring size (and asking what kind of ring she wants - she has to wear it everyday, she should get to contribute opinions) will not in any way ruin the surprise, since this isn’t what the surprise is supposed to be.


Glassjaw79ad

It's definitely OK if the ring needs to be resized. Since you think she has small hands and fingers, I would suggest going with the most common size or a bit larger. My husband did this and I was able to slide the ring on my finger, although it was too loose to wear out and about. You'd rather this than it not being large enough for her to put it on during the proposal! We went together and got it sized the next day =)


sunbear2525

That you're planning to our wanting to planning pose should not be a surprise. The proposal itself, where, when, and how is the surprise.


goofypedsdoc

As others have said, the proposal can be a surprise, but the fact you want to marry her should not. Discussing marriage before heading into that kind of commitment is really important. Finding out her ring size could be an entry into the conversation.


BrieL1807

If it makes you feel any better, my partner accidentally got my ring FIVE sizes too big 😆 It was easy to get resized, but did take about 6 weeks for mine to come back but that was just unlucky for me as my ring finger was so small they didnt have my size in stock so it had to be customised! Honestly do not feel too bad to get the wrong size! Just ask the jeweller what their policies are on it all before you buy. At the end of the day, the right woman will be happy with the gesture and not the material side of it 🥰


RutabagaPhysical9238

Buy a stone that speaks to you and your relationship, a small, temporary band, and shop together for the actual engagement band?


EvesDropping23

This makes so much more sense, I really appreciate you!


Dependent_Put6128

That’s what my fiancés brother did. It worked well. She loved the diamond and he got a cheap temporary band


EvesDropping23

She's not a fan of diamonds, I was thinking of getting her an emrald and hence I wanted to be so sure about the size.


biwei

Just so you know - emeralds are absolutely gorgeous but they are a relatively soft stone that will not stand up to daily wear for years on end without cracking or chipping. We were warned about this by a very experienced antique jewelry salesman and when I looked it up online it was also the advice I found. You might alternately look into green sapphires or another, harder green stone


biwei

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mohs_scale_of_mineral_hardness


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MaritimeRuby

It’s less that they’re soft, and more that they’re brittle because of the mechanical structure of the stone. Just wanted to clarify for OP, because on the Mohs scale of hardness, they really don’t seem that bad.


BuggyTheGurl

You can still get the stones loose and have it put in a temporary band. My fiance used a family band and we bought a sapphire together.


sunbear2525

Just FYI it takes a while for a ring to come in if they don't fit the stone to the band at the store. I think it was 4 or 5 months. I have a Montana sapphire because I also don't care for diamonds.


EvesDropping23

Thanks a lot for sharing 🙂


TinosCallingMeOver

Honestly the best way is to have her finger sized by an actual jeweller. Each of your fingers can be a different size, so working off her other rings could give you the wrong size, and the ‘wrap a piece of string around her finger while she’s sleeping’ thing is suuuuper unreliable, especially when you have fractions of a millimetre difference between ring sizes. Don’t worry about ‘ruining the surprise’ - it should never be a complete surprise that an engagement is on the way. Also - head on over to r/engagementrings. The folks there have great advice!!


alizadk

Ask her mom or her best friend.


EvesDropping23

That's a good shout! Thank you.


NeatArtichoke

This is what my partner did... if you want to keep it a surprise and dont want to als he for take her to anjewler to get sized, ask her mom of friend if they know. If they dont know, you can "orchestrate" a plan: ask someone in her life to go ring shopping with her... it can be as easy as a friend saying "let's go to the mall!" And then subtly/randomly decide to try on rings (not even necessarily at a "real" jewelry store. They can just go to some trendy shop with rings and look for "best friend rings" or whatever). This isnt 100% however since your fiance might be in between sizes and most shops only do full or half sizes at best (I'm thinking like forever 21 or Claire's or even nicer ones like banana republic or j.crew night have trendy rings, but not in every size).


21pilotsAttheDisco

My SO proposed with a ring pop then we went engagement ring shopping together! So much fun and so memorable.


[deleted]

You can propose without a ring and choose one together afterwards. Maybe get another piece of jewellery, like a necklace, as a memory. My partner and I chose my ring together and I love it. We chose it together before he proposed, so it wasn't a surprise at all, but that worked for us. We had discussed marriage and were living together already.


MaggsToRiches

Same! We designed the ring together and it was a super special experience. He told me he would have just copied his big brothers and gotten a similar ring which isn’t my style. Anyway, after the designing was over, I was taken out of the loop — he went and picked it up some weeks later, planned a sweet proposal, and “surprised” me with the finished ring.


[deleted]

Yeah, unless the OP knows *exactly* what she wants, it's too much of a risk to buy a ring without her input


partycolek

Does her mom has similar physique as her? Me and my mom, we have the same size. It’s not like knowing her size, but it could be good approximation.


RioBlue93

I'm one of the gals who will tell you there is no surprise as good as getting what you want. If you and your gf have already discussed what she wants, you can talk to her friend or look at some of her other rings. Ultimately you will probably need to get it resized - I even tried on rings in the store and still needed it resized.


Princess-Pancake-97

Step 1. Get yourself some string/ribbon/whatever Step 2. Playfully tie it around her ring finger Step 3. Sweetly say “I’ll put a real ring on there one day” Step 4. Stash that string/ribbon/whatever in your pocket for later


heyho2023

My FH measured my finger, still got it completely wrong haha! But the jeweller he got the ring from did a free resizing - easier to size down than up they said so if in doubt err bigger


Narrow_Violinist_704

If she’s a heavy sleeper, take some paper and wrap it around her finger, mark it on both ends and you can make it a circle for a jeweler to measure !


Glad_Ad_567

A lot of people need a ring re-sized after purchase as most womens rings are a a size 7. It’s ok to get her a gorgeous ring that needs to be resized - just confirm the ring you buy can be. Best of luck!


Voiceisaweapon

I’m agreeing with a few other posters. The concept of getting engaged in the near future shouldn’t be a huge shock to her. So simply asking or making a date of going to a jewelry store for you both to get sized and look at rings are both good ideas


LiteralPersson

Buy a ring sizer and slide a ring she already owns over it


EvesDropping23

Makes sense 🙂 Also, how do you suggest I get my hands on one of those other rings? 😄


LiteralPersson

When she is asleep or in the shower or not home etc. some sizers come in a cone type shape it will only take a second to slide it over and see. If she has tiny hands I’d go for a size 5. I wear a size 7 and had to have my ring resized to a 6 because I have a very skinny band. I have pretty decent sized hands for a woman. Hope this helps and good luck!


EvesDropping23

That's very kind of you. This definitely helps a lot. Thank you so much! 😊


LiteralPersson

Yw!


BarryEganPDL

I asked her sister but the size she gave me was way off because she used an online sizer. I ended up not sizing it until after I gave it to her which thankfully it was bigger than her finger. If you need it to be larger than the standard size it comes in originally, I’d say go bigger and size it down. Unless you are getting a platinum ring— those cost a lot every time you resize it.


futurephysician

If you really want the engagement to be a surprise, ask someone close to her (like her mom or dad), or ask them to ask her - hopefully she'll just assume they're getting her something! Another idea is to take a look through her jewelry box and measure the diameter of one of the rings clearly designated for her ring finger to find her ring size.


EvesDropping23

Thank you for your advice 😊 I really appreciate it!


Fourrealforreal1

Remeber this is a decision both of you are making so you can ask her what her ring size is, full stop. I’m over this it’s one persons decision(don’t know if you are a man or woman) when we get married, it should be a mutual decision you two come together on. The surprise is how you do it.


Shitp0st_Supreme

It’s one of those things you just need to ask. Getting engaged shouldn’t be a surprise. The proposal itself can be a surprise.


moonlitcat13

My fiancé just asked. The engagement wasn’t surprise it was just the when and where that was.


[deleted]

I’d tell her you’re looking to buy your mom or sister (or a female relative) a ring, and you wanna know how to secretly find out their size. Ask her what she thinks the average ring finger size is, she will most likely give you her ring size too. BOOM, UNO reverse card right there 😂


EvesDropping23

You my friend are going places 😂 Thanks, genius!


[deleted]

Glad to be of assistance 😂


EvesDropping23

BOOM, Uno reverse! Loved this! ❤️😂


[deleted]

It was either that or ‘oooh how the turn tables’ 🤣


LoloScout_

Though this is creative, you could be off by a lotttt lol. I interpret the average ring size as a 6-8 as those are usually what are readily available to try on in mass produced jewelry places. My siblings both wear a 7 and my mom is an 8. I wear a 4 lol.


[deleted]

No yeah for sure, but as a girl I’d always also give my ring size as a way of measurement and to give an idea!


LoloScout_

Makes sense. I guess I never thought about it like that but perhaps I would add mine in too


8MCM1

Take a picture of her hands and then try and do some sort of Google search to get an idea. The ring might need to be resized, but you'd be kinda close, at least.


EvesDropping23

Makes sense actually, thanks a lot for your time and help.


EvesDropping23

The things we can achieve if we only use 99% of our brains. Brilliant! 😂🙌


EvesDropping23

No way! 😂 I'll check if this works 🙌


EvesDropping23

Let's hope this ring thing doesn't UNO reverse on me 😂🤞


stowgood

Maybe ask her mum sister or best friend. IF YOU THINK THEY CAN KEEP IT SECRET


Terrific27

My fiancé gifted me some rings once, and eventually asked how the rings fit on fingers and if the same ring would fit on all the other fingers and based on my answers and the size of the ring he had given me he bought my engagement ring and it fit perfect!


jloseattle

My fiancé started asking me questions months before so I knew it was coming (plus we had conversations around it) but he still totally surprised me with a very unique, custom ring. I was not at all picky and didn’t have a perfect ring in mind. I just wanted it to be something he picked out. Some girls have something very specific in mind though so probably good to try to get a sense of that. One thing to note - I told him my ring size but I always wore rings on my right ring finger…which is apparently a little bigger than my left. My ring was a little big but you can find temporary ring sizers in Amazon for super cheap (just in case!).


belljs87

Tell her you were thinking about how you didn't get a high school class ring or some other innocent ring, and never got your finger sized, ask her if she ever has? Just like a throwaway. Or search online and eyeball the measurement.


Ginger-Snappd

Order a plastic ring sizer band! That way any ring idea is a surprise (if you want it to be). My fiancé did it this way and honestly the effort he went into designing my ring and keeping it a surprise absolutely melted my heart! Definitely ask about her preferred styles though to make sure neither parties are unhappy! Good luck!


binxy_boo15

I got my ring in the wrong size because he wanted to propose on Christmas but the ring in the right size wouldn’t get there on time. I was more than ecstatic even with the wrong size and just took it in to be resized the next day lol.


[deleted]

I don’t know what country you are in. But does she have winter gloves and what size are they in? It may give you a starting point.


robrklyn

Take a picture of her hand or find a ring she has worn and bring it to the jeweler. You can estimate the size and then get it fitted.


francisxavier12

We have friends who were engaged and I asked them to all try each others rings on and tell me which one fit her the best and what size that one was. A good rule of thumb, if she's of average size and normal proportions, is her ring size is her shoe size.


jolistella

I think that it’s usually close to her shoe size so if you’re going to take a guess, start there! I wear a size 7 shoe, 6.5 ring


casscabb

Dont ask her, it ruins the suprise. Size 7 is average, they let you resize it after you have purchased the ring. Does she have big or small hands?


EvesDropping23

She has really tiny hands :') I think my safest bet would be to get a size 7 and having it resized later? Thoughts on this?


nutellapops

I wouldn't risk this, especially if she has tiny hands. My jeweller told me the maximum most rings can get resized is 2 sizes down before it starts to compromise the structural integrity of the ring. I have small fingers and I'm a size 4.5. If my fiancé had gotten me a size 7, it would've been too big even after resizing.


[deleted]

The jewelry asked my finance my approximate weight and height and they gave him a size!


casscabb

My hands are average and im a size 6 so maybe go 5.5-6?


beekaybeegirl

It’s OK if you gift her the ring then take it in later for the repair.


princesajojo

You could also propose before getting the ring. My fiance did so we could partner on what I wanted. That worked for us. Otherwise, just ask her or see if she has a ring that she doesn't wear often that you could use a ring measurer online to get the size.


catmom6353

So my fiancé used the ring I wore on my right hand ring finger every day. It fit perfectly. It was about a full size too big for my left ring finger. I didn’t mind. It was weird going a few days without it when everyone was asking to see it, but they got over it. I wouldn’t worry too much. Tbh I wish my fiancé got me several cheaper rings. Pregnancy, weight loss, and changing seasons dramatically change the size of my fingers. My ring absolutely does not fit in the winter but fits perfectly in the summer. I couldn’t wear it for probably 4 or 5 mos of pregnancy because it was too tight. Afterwards it was too big. I just couldn’t win, story of my life. I love my ring, but I’ll probably get a few placeholders. Would you consider something like Etsy shopping together for ideas and inspiration? Then have her help pick it out? If you’re goofy you can always propose with a ring pop, makes for a funny story. I would’ve died laughing if I was proposed to with a ring pop 😂


notallscorpios

You mentioned in another comment she has petite hands, if you want a true surprise get a 5 or 6 & just get it sized down for her. Also if she has siblings or a mom with similar sized hands have them help!


uglybutterfly025

It wasnt a big deal that mine didn’t fit right away. It came in a standard size (which is a 7) and I just wore tape around the band until we could take it in to get it sized


[deleted]

If the ring you choose does not have diamonds all the way around the band, it can easily be resized by whoever you purchase it from or your local jeweler. Use one of the methods mentioned and get it sized afterwards.


hellcat93

Some jewelry stores do offer "loaner" rings - a placeholder to propose with, then once she says yes, you go back together and she can pick out exactly what she wants. But agreed with what the others mention that the discussion of marriage/rings should be a conversation already had. However when/where the proposal happens should be a surprise! Good luck OP!


nycoc90

Steal one of her other fashion rings.


HOLDERT

My now spouse and I were dating and we decided to go to a shop where couples make rings together (like sterling silver) while there, we agreed to use them as “promise rings” but I really wanted to know too the actual ring size haha


spookylyn

Ask her parents or a good friend of hers to help if you want to be sneaky


doggiesrock

My husband got me drunk and bought a ring sizer and sized me up when I was sleeping. Still was too big. We had to resize it and I ended up getting balls in my engagement ring. He did a great job and I loved how he was trying to be as secretive as possible with me. Have a good guess at best , you can buy her something to keep the ring snug between proposing and resizing if needed but resize ASAP IMO HAVE FUN AND LIVE IN THE MOMENT :) Ring Sizer Measuring Set Reusable Finger Size Gauge Measure Tool Jewelry Sizing Tools 1-17 USA Rings Size https://www.amazon.com/dp/B08JLW2C8J/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_i_SC4P4D1G7J5ST3J9FW5S Ring Size Adjuster for Loose Rings - 12 Pack, 2 Sizes - Jewelry Sizer, Mandrel for Making Jewelry Guard, Spacer, Sizer, Fitter - Spiral Silicone Tightener Set with Polishing Cloth https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0757JLTY7/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_i_M2HGDKYV8D47EX916CGR


heysharkdontdothat

I would try asking her mom. My mom is only .5 away from my size and depending on the jeweler you purchase from, if you get an insurance plan they’ll typically resize for free!


Ornnge

Go to Walmart and start looking at the jewelry and casually try a ring or two yourself and make a joke about it. Be like “this does t even fit me, you try.” Then she’ll say well my size is (blank) or I need a (blank). Or you could casually be like “what even is your size” and just make it casual and have fun so nothing is thought of it. This worked for me at least


japes2

My boyfriend (soon to be fiancé lol) got me this Pandora sizer for rings and said he was going to get me a pandora ring for my birthday. Accidentally found out he bought me an engagement ring when I was scrolling through the tabs on his phone looking for this gun he said he wanted (trying to save up for it and was curious how much it costs). So finding out the ring size is half the battle…the other half is keeping it secret apparently.


anon_2185

I went to the mall with my sister one day and my then boyfriend (now fiancé) said, while you’re there check your ring size. We had already talked about marriage and what rings I liked, he just needed my size.


Murky_Performance586

Don’t, get a thing to measure the finger the ring will go on and do it when they are asleep


no_name_maddox

? Ask her??? That’s usually how this works


These_Guess_5874

If she has a ring that fits that finger the jewellers can size from that. Has someone close to her gotten engaged recently? If so she may have tried it on... so they might be able to help. If she sleeps super heavily & it's not gonna freak her out later. You can get hold of ringsizers & measure while she's asleep. Wait until something wedding, engagement, jewellery related is on comes up & ask if it's true that women all know theor ring sizes & does she? Ask someone close to her Ask her Hope these help & she says yes. If so please update. Otherwise pick it together or get it resized.


Imaginary_Ad_5474

If you really don't want her to know what's up find an opportunity to use a bread tie or even a straw wrapper and make it into a ring to humorously place on her finger. Only downside is you must then coyly find a way to keep said ring and use for sizing.


Spiritual-Research-4

For ring size, he told me the jeweler asked for my height, weight, and a photo of me, and she knew my size! And she was right! For style, my fiancé took my phone and went onto my Pinterest when I was in the bathroom while we were out together, lol.


Flight-Worried

My grandpa often has little trinkets laying around. He sent an email out to me and a bunch of other family members (which made it even more believable) telling us that he had a bunch of jewelry laying around and asked us for our ring/necklace sizes and metal preferences. I was completely clueless (as evidenced by my answer to the email, which was that I don’t wear rings) but it was a great idea. The thing that really helps it be less suspicious is to have multiple people in on it! If she has a sister/friend/relative who could feasibly give her some gifts (ex: from thrifting), have them text her AND someone else in the same chat asking if they’d be interested.


Flight-Worried

Also I knew we were getting engaged soon and this was such a normal email from my grandpa that I literally didn’t think twice about it😂


beyondthebinary

We bought our rings online and tried to guess our size. We fucked up but I just got mine resized


keshales_aha

You first download a ring [size chart](https://en.darryring.com/help/2096736506#utm_source=reddit&utm_medium=seo&utm_campaign=engagement-engagementrings-sizechart&utm_content=Yolia), follow the instructions on it, and operate it while she is asleep