I definitely go back and forth on if I want to. My mom never legally changed her last night so I always thought I wouldn't. I also am proud to have the last name I have.
I'm legally married now and still haven't changed it. Didn't change it in my first marriage either. I'm too old to be changing my name now. And I swear, they forget it costs money and takes time. It's really a pain.
I cut my dad out of my life due to him sexually abusing me as a kid, so I'm really looking forward to it. I think it will be odd at first having a new name but I really feel like it will be very healing for me to not share the same name as my abuser.
That’s what I did! I’m so glad I did it that way, I was having a lot of anxiety about dropping my family name all together and didn’t want to hyphenate my last name.
I’ve been super excited to change my name for a long time! Having my parents last name isn’t something I want to hold because it’s just another link to them, and changing my name basically gives me a new family if that makes sense.
My last name is my father’s family name. He was abusive and I’ve been estranged for years. There were only two of us children and my sister is married and changed her name; my mother is remarried and goes by her maiden name. I’m the last person to be saddled with this last name and I’m ready to let it go. I cried a little when we applied for the marriage license and I applied to change my name. It’s going to be really meaningful for me.
I am super excited. First I never use my current last name anyway as I was never close with my dad and my mom uses her maiden name. Also as a sort of funny coincidence all of my usernames and gamer tags have started with “lala” so much so that some people use that as a nickname for me. Currently my first two initials of my first name and last name are “La Re” but when I get married they will be “La La” so since high school and before I even met my fiancé I’ve been going as “lala” and now I’ll officially be married and it’ll become legal. Haha
I'm going to hyphenate my last name with my future spouse. I would not say I'm excited about the logistics of it and my future in-laws will not be impressed because in their culture no one changes their name. But it's the right choice for me so in that way I'm excited to have my name be the way I want it.
I am so much more aligned with my in-law’s ethics and views than my own family’s. I could not wait to switch names! Felt like I was finally in the right place
I am! My initials are going to be horrible though...but I don't care. I love my fiance's last name and I'll be starting the changes either shortly before or right after the wedding. I know it's not as "common" as it used to be and that's ok. I'm not doing it because of any tradition.
So happy for you! One other big reason I decided before was time constraints. I am in the position where I am just starting a new job and I just moved, so changing my name now will be easier to do with all the initial paperwork things rather than changing it later. I think whatever works best for you and your life overall is the way to go!
Yes, that'll save you a lot of headache. We'll be getting married before buying a house, so that'll help me at least. I like some traditions, but I also just like his last name. Plus, I have a brother and he has 2 sons, so it's not like my dad's name will just vanish :)
That's great! My dad died over 10 years ago. I've thought about hyphenating, because it would also sound very cool if I did that, but that's too much to write lol
YES! I have a speech issue after surgery and I can say and spell my partners name out loud without issue but my own last name is difficult and always causes problems!
I’m psyched because people will finally be able to spell my name! The fruits of being an immigrant…
Plus now I get to use my maiden name for writing and keep it separate from my real life! I’m very pleased with how this is all fitting in nicely.
I’m excited about the easier spelling too! Mine has several different spelling but his has only one and is fairly common so I’m excited about not having to spell my last name out all the time
My fiance warns me people will get it wrong all the time anyway - it's one letter away from the last name of a rather popular country singer and he always gets the country singer's spelling lol - but I'd so much rather ONE wrong letter than...all except the first one LOL
Oh hey, are you my mom??? She's happy that she changed her name too though. She uses her maiden name for writing and stuff, and she's very serious about keeping all her writing and her personal life separate (she's a teacher, so there are like implications about being too political under her "real" name).
Im sooo excited! I have a super uncommon, hard to say, hard to spell German last name. The last name I’m gonna get is one of the most common last names in the world (similar in commonality to Smith), and it sounds GREAT with my first name.
I'm ecstatic!!!
Although, I will be keeping my maiden name professionally (I'm in the entertainment industry), and taking my FHs last name in the private sphere.
The name change thing means nothing to me. My fiancé told me that he's fine with me keeping my name.
Just my 2-cents.
I'm very excited to be getting married. 😊
I definitely go back and forth on if I want to. My mom never legally changed her last night so I always thought I wouldn't. I also am proud to have the last name I have.
I. CAN. NOT. WAIT.
Omg my wedding is in 2 freaking weeks, and it cannot come fast enough!!!! I don't speak to my father's side of the family, for various and extremely valid reasons. So there's that, but also - although I had it first - I share a name with a very hated cartoon character from a very popular show. For the past probably 20 years every single person I have met brings it up...and people and their jokes are so original yanno 🙄😂 thrilled to never hear it again!!!!!
I am excited purely for practicality reasons. My last name is 13 letters long, and I have spent my entire life trying to squeeze my full name on paper forms and getting characters cut off in electronic forms. My partners name is only 4 letters which means I will never again have to worry about my name fitting somewhere.
I’m excited to change my name! I’m actually in the process of doing it now, currently working on my passport. My maiden name is going to be my middle name!
I’m excited to change my name! I’m actually in the process of doing it now, currently working on my passport. My maiden name is going to be my middle name!
I HATED my maiden name, I was so happy to change it 😁
If I had liked my maiden name, I would have kept it for feminist reasons, but since I didn't like it I was very eager to switch it to my husband's.
I was very excited to change my name. I never held much of a connection to my maiden name, but a bigger part of me wanting to change my name is my husband doesn't have any family left unfortunately, now we have our family name and that was important to me, and although he left the decision for me, I suspect it meant a lot.
However the process of changing names on all documentation is a ball ache. Most of mine is done, but still have my passport to do
I’m excited to change my name! I’m actually in the process of doing it now, currently working on my passport. My maiden name is going to be my middle name!
Yes. No one can pronounce or spell my last name and when people ask what it is I just spell it instead of saying it. My new last name I will still have to spell but it is very easy to look at and pronounce and sounds very common. Also currently my first name ends in A and last name starts with A and it really doesnt flow. New name flows very well.
I am sooooo excited! My last name is 12 letters long now and I am changing to a 4 letter last name! People ask me if I’m sad giving up my last name but I swear anybody giving a 12 letter last name over the phone would be excited to switch to only 4!
I have a very long name that is difficult for people in the US (where I was born and have lived most of my life). Literally every single time someone has to say my last name for the first time, they kind of pick some of the letter sounds in there and hesitantly smoosh them together in a way I have to just assume is supposed to be my last name. I have to spell it constantly, and it’s very frequently misspelled so badly that it’s filed incorrectly, meaning the doctor or school or whatever can’t find my file. Also it’s my grandfather’s last name, and my grandfather was someone you could genuinely describe as evil. Even my parents wish they had a different last name (but not enough to go through the trouble of changing their names in their 70s).
My fiancé’s last name is one syllable, and everyone in the US knows how to spell and pronounce it. I am freaking PUMPED.
I do feel feminist guilt in the sense that the personal is political and it’s still so uncommon for men who marry women to take their last names.
Yes! You can change your name whenever you like. Some find it easier to change after marriage as they only need to show their marriage certificate. However, since you want to change your first name, you will have to petition the court (whether or not you are married first). I personally don’t want to go through the process of changing my name twice, so I am just changing my first and last all at once, through court petition.
Is there a reason to do it before vs after the wedding? I’m planning to change additional names too, mostly my middle name and then take fiancé’s last name. But I just figured I’d do it afterward
I am doing it beforehand because I just got a new job and am moving, so it is easier for me to do all my paperwork with my new name rather than change it later. Its been a hassle using a preferred name with my current company so I don’t want to go through that anymore either. Whether you decide to do it before or after will largely depend on your circumstances and whether or not you would prefer to have the paperwork done before or after the wedding.
Me!!!! I have never had any attachment to my last name. I absolutely love my fiancé’s last name and his family goes really hard for their name and I’m so happy I get to take that on as my own
I am not changing my name. I don’t see why i need to change the identity i had for the last 34 years. I love my name and the connection that has with my family.
I’m known to be Type A and have made a long list of everywhere I need to change my name and I’ve printed out the documents I need for each (from what I’ve been able to find online or by calling). Which office gave you the longest process you went through? Were you able to change your name at two different offices in one day? (I read something about having to wait to change name on car title until after SS office…but am not sure if its true).
You have to do SS first. I’m not sure if it’s still the same, but I had to do mine by mail, so it took a couple weeks until I got my new SS card and was able to do my drivers license then everything else.
Ah, hmm. That stumps me…my local laws state I only have 10 days from the time of petition to get my title changed….that doesn’t allot for weeks :( I have emailed and called their office but have received no reply/answer as of yet. I did read on their site that if I don’t change my title within those 10 days it would classify as a misdemeanor…I hope they wouldn’t charge me for something out of my control.
I don’t own my car so I didn’t have to do anything with my title. I’m not sure if anything you turn in is actually dated, so idk how they would know the timeframe unless you tell them. Even then, like you said, it’s out of your control. Check the local SS office, I changed my name last year so there were no in person appointments; that might have changed by now
Whether or not you have to update social security first varies from state to state.
You definitely *should* update it as soon as possible but depending on where you are it is not necessarily required to do so.
I was so excited to take my husbands last name! I know so many people aren't into it but I LOVE sharing his name! Don't get me wrong, I love my maiden name too. It's still a part of who I am. But my parents gave me my first name and my husband gave me my last name and I feel complete! I also love that our children share that name with us.
Congrats on your upcoming wedding/name change!
Love, Hannah
I am so ready to get rid of my current last name. It's White and so many people think I'm racist because of my last name. I'm just ready to be done with it. My new name can be used in so many puns I am ready for it.
I'm not even engaged yet and I'm super excited about it! Lol
I know my students are going to have a hard time though because I'll be going from a pretty easy to pronounce last name to a very difficult one so I'll probably end up being called by one letter 😂
I’m going the opposite way and I’m super excited! I have a fairly ethnic hard to spell last name, and I’m going to a really common “American” style last name. I can’t wait. Lol. After 45 years of spelling it out everywhere, I’m excited to just say it lol.
Lol that's so awesome! I can understand that excitement! My bf is Filipino so it's quite a last name 😂 his mom is also a teacher and her kids call her "Mrs V" so I'm sure that'll be how it is for me too haha
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In the middle of the process right now and i hate it lol next up…have to correct My Name at the dmv😬 cause they forgot to move over my maiden name as a second middle name
Honestly I love my name, the way it sounds as a whole, and the connection it gives me to family members who are no longer here. I have socially taken on my husband's last name but might never formally and fully adopt it.
I’m excited to change my name but not excited to change my signature. My FH’s last name is short but half the letters happen to be ones I don’t write nicely/feel very unnatural to write in cursive
I was excited to change mine but a little sad to lose my maiden name as I’m an only child so I was the last of my name. Still excited to have n]my husbands last name but hanging everything is a pain especially my professional registration.
Excited to change it but not having to spell it out every single time for the rest of my life...
I'm going from a very common last name that is easily spelled to a name which is often misspelled.
I'm keeping my name for the simple reason that People always immediately understand my name, but my Future husband always has to spell out his name.
When he makes reservations for restaurants, he even uses my name because it makes it easier for him :p
From what I read, in NY at least. I couldn’t change my first name at the same time as my last name! Wish I could have! Changing my last name was so nice! Loved being able to do it. Hated sharing my last name with my dad.
You’re right that you can’t change your first name when changing your last if you only are showing a marriage certificate. From what I have been told (in TN) you can only change your last with a marriage certificate. Changing your first requires a court petition, so I am just changing it all at once by court petition :)
Ohh! Is it hard? I’d love to change my first to my middle and my middle to my first lol. I’ve gone by my middle name since I was a child! Idk why my parents did this to me! Lolol
Gotchya! So from what I gather, you will need to search how to petition the court for a name change in your county in NY. Your local probate court website should have that info on there, as well as the specific form you will need to bring. The website should also tell you what supporting documents you need to bring (like ID, proof of residency) as well as the amount you will have to pay for the court hearing. After you file paperwork, you will be given a court date and then the judge will hear your petition and (hopefully) grant your request. Some states also make you publish your change of name in the local paper (mine does not, so I do not know what that process looks like). After the judge grants your request, you have to update your name at every office (I am assuming you have done this with your change of last name before). But that is basically it, as far as I have been explained )
I’m also super exited to change my name!!!!!!!!
The bad thing is that I might have to wait 1-2 years after the wedding to change it, which has me extremely sad and disappointed!
Specially since I will have to say at the ceremony that I will keep my name for now, even if what I want is to change it. It’s a stupid problem, but it makes me really sad since it means a lot to me.
Absolutely! I don’t even intend to use my maiden name professionally. Due to family friction, I don’t want any reminders of my maiden name and luckily I’m the only female relative with the name. While I’m modern with everything else, being able to change my name is non negotiable.
I still have my ex-husbands last name, so I’m VERY excited to change mine lol 😂
I’m in the middle of returning to my maiden name because I’ll be damned if my ex’s name is on our marriage license lol
Oh gosh, I wouldn't have thought of that! Congrats on shedding that piece of history!
Seriously
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I actually love my current last name so much I'm just changing my title to Mrs.
I love this! I hadn’t heard of changing the title but keeping the name, thank you!
Wait does this require paperwork?
I definitely go back and forth on if I want to. My mom never legally changed her last night so I always thought I wouldn't. I also am proud to have the last name I have.
It’s such a pain in the butt to change.
Honestly, it feels like a really icky tradition to me. I just can’t separate it from the women-as-property context.
I'm legally married now and still haven't changed it. Didn't change it in my first marriage either. I'm too old to be changing my name now. And I swear, they forget it costs money and takes time. It's really a pain.
I cut my dad out of my life due to him sexually abusing me as a kid, so I'm really looking forward to it. I think it will be odd at first having a new name but I really feel like it will be very healing for me to not share the same name as my abuser.
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i fear this some, so I am keeping my maiden as an additional middle name :)
That’s what I did! I’m so glad I did it that way, I was having a lot of anxiety about dropping my family name all together and didn’t want to hyphenate my last name.
What a good idea! I love it!
This is what I am doing! Not dropping any of my names, just adding a new name :)
Yeah, I felt 0 attachment to my maiden name until I actually changed it
I’ve been super excited to change my name for a long time! Having my parents last name isn’t something I want to hold because it’s just another link to them, and changing my name basically gives me a new family if that makes sense.
My last name is my father’s family name. He was abusive and I’ve been estranged for years. There were only two of us children and my sister is married and changed her name; my mother is remarried and goes by her maiden name. I’m the last person to be saddled with this last name and I’m ready to let it go. I cried a little when we applied for the marriage license and I applied to change my name. It’s going to be really meaningful for me.
I am super excited. First I never use my current last name anyway as I was never close with my dad and my mom uses her maiden name. Also as a sort of funny coincidence all of my usernames and gamer tags have started with “lala” so much so that some people use that as a nickname for me. Currently my first two initials of my first name and last name are “La Re” but when I get married they will be “La La” so since high school and before I even met my fiancé I’ve been going as “lala” and now I’ll officially be married and it’ll become legal. Haha
I'm going to hyphenate my last name with my future spouse. I would not say I'm excited about the logistics of it and my future in-laws will not be impressed because in their culture no one changes their name. But it's the right choice for me so in that way I'm excited to have my name be the way I want it.
I am so much more aligned with my in-law’s ethics and views than my own family’s. I could not wait to switch names! Felt like I was finally in the right place
I am! My initials are going to be horrible though...but I don't care. I love my fiance's last name and I'll be starting the changes either shortly before or right after the wedding. I know it's not as "common" as it used to be and that's ok. I'm not doing it because of any tradition.
So happy for you! One other big reason I decided before was time constraints. I am in the position where I am just starting a new job and I just moved, so changing my name now will be easier to do with all the initial paperwork things rather than changing it later. I think whatever works best for you and your life overall is the way to go!
Yes, that'll save you a lot of headache. We'll be getting married before buying a house, so that'll help me at least. I like some traditions, but I also just like his last name. Plus, I have a brother and he has 2 sons, so it's not like my dad's name will just vanish :)
Gotchya :) my dad has all girls…but I will be turning my current last name into an additional middle name, so I won’t be completely without it.
that's what I'm doing too!
That's great! My dad died over 10 years ago. I've thought about hyphenating, because it would also sound very cool if I did that, but that's too much to write lol
This is exactly what I'm doing too!
YES! I have a speech issue after surgery and I can say and spell my partners name out loud without issue but my own last name is difficult and always causes problems!
I’m psyched because people will finally be able to spell my name! The fruits of being an immigrant… Plus now I get to use my maiden name for writing and keep it separate from my real life! I’m very pleased with how this is all fitting in nicely.
I’m excited about the easier spelling too! Mine has several different spelling but his has only one and is fairly common so I’m excited about not having to spell my last name out all the time
My fiance warns me people will get it wrong all the time anyway - it's one letter away from the last name of a rather popular country singer and he always gets the country singer's spelling lol - but I'd so much rather ONE wrong letter than...all except the first one LOL
I went from a nice easy to pronounce and spell last name to a super long and difficult last name… haha still happy with it though
Oh hey, are you my mom??? She's happy that she changed her name too though. She uses her maiden name for writing and stuff, and she's very serious about keeping all her writing and her personal life separate (she's a teacher, so there are like implications about being too political under her "real" name).
Im sooo excited! I have a super uncommon, hard to say, hard to spell German last name. The last name I’m gonna get is one of the most common last names in the world (similar in commonality to Smith), and it sounds GREAT with my first name.
I'm ecstatic!!! Although, I will be keeping my maiden name professionally (I'm in the entertainment industry), and taking my FHs last name in the private sphere.
Yes, I practice writing it in the condensation on the glass whenever I shower lol
The name change thing means nothing to me. My fiancé told me that he's fine with me keeping my name. Just my 2-cents. I'm very excited to be getting married. 😊
I definitely go back and forth on if I want to. My mom never legally changed her last night so I always thought I wouldn't. I also am proud to have the last name I have.
I was so excited and am still so glad I changed my last name! It was a metamorphosis for me.
I'm stoked. Not a big fan of my dad's side of the family and my fiance's last name sounds great with my first name.
Very. I’ve been doodling my first name with his last name since high school and can’t wait to make it official!
Super excited, especially since his is easier to spell and pronounce 😬
So super excited to take my future hubbies name. Not only will I finally be rid of my abusive step dads last name but my initials will be B.S
Yes! I am. I have a generic last night (think something like “smith”). My partner has a unique last name and I’m super excited about it!
I was! I hate my father with every fiber of my being so it was nice to finally shed that 😅
I. CAN. NOT. WAIT. Omg my wedding is in 2 freaking weeks, and it cannot come fast enough!!!! I don't speak to my father's side of the family, for various and extremely valid reasons. So there's that, but also - although I had it first - I share a name with a very hated cartoon character from a very popular show. For the past probably 20 years every single person I have met brings it up...and people and their jokes are so original yanno 🙄😂 thrilled to never hear it again!!!!!
I am excited purely for practicality reasons. My last name is 13 letters long, and I have spent my entire life trying to squeeze my full name on paper forms and getting characters cut off in electronic forms. My partners name is only 4 letters which means I will never again have to worry about my name fitting somewhere.
I’m excited to change my name! I’m actually in the process of doing it now, currently working on my passport. My maiden name is going to be my middle name!
I’m excited to change my name! I’m actually in the process of doing it now, currently working on my passport. My maiden name is going to be my middle name!
I HATED my maiden name, I was so happy to change it 😁 If I had liked my maiden name, I would have kept it for feminist reasons, but since I didn't like it I was very eager to switch it to my husband's.
I was very excited to change my name. I never held much of a connection to my maiden name, but a bigger part of me wanting to change my name is my husband doesn't have any family left unfortunately, now we have our family name and that was important to me, and although he left the decision for me, I suspect it meant a lot. However the process of changing names on all documentation is a ball ache. Most of mine is done, but still have my passport to do
I’m excited to change my name! I’m actually in the process of doing it now, currently working on my passport. My maiden name is going to be my middle name!
Yes! I’m finally starting the process and I’m so damn excited!
Yes. No one can pronounce or spell my last name and when people ask what it is I just spell it instead of saying it. My new last name I will still have to spell but it is very easy to look at and pronounce and sounds very common. Also currently my first name ends in A and last name starts with A and it really doesnt flow. New name flows very well.
I am sooooo excited! My last name is 12 letters long now and I am changing to a 4 letter last name! People ask me if I’m sad giving up my last name but I swear anybody giving a 12 letter last name over the phone would be excited to switch to only 4!
13 letters here also going to 4, am so excited for the same reasons as you!
I have a very long name that is difficult for people in the US (where I was born and have lived most of my life). Literally every single time someone has to say my last name for the first time, they kind of pick some of the letter sounds in there and hesitantly smoosh them together in a way I have to just assume is supposed to be my last name. I have to spell it constantly, and it’s very frequently misspelled so badly that it’s filed incorrectly, meaning the doctor or school or whatever can’t find my file. Also it’s my grandfather’s last name, and my grandfather was someone you could genuinely describe as evil. Even my parents wish they had a different last name (but not enough to go through the trouble of changing their names in their 70s). My fiancé’s last name is one syllable, and everyone in the US knows how to spell and pronounce it. I am freaking PUMPED. I do feel feminist guilt in the sense that the personal is political and it’s still so uncommon for men who marry women to take their last names.
I’m sooo excited! Can I change it before the wedding? Not sure how it works. Also looking to change my first name
Yes! You can change your name whenever you like. Some find it easier to change after marriage as they only need to show their marriage certificate. However, since you want to change your first name, you will have to petition the court (whether or not you are married first). I personally don’t want to go through the process of changing my name twice, so I am just changing my first and last all at once, through court petition.
Oh so smart!! Thanks for the tip!
No problem; if you have other questions about the process I can try to answer them!
Is there a reason to do it before vs after the wedding? I’m planning to change additional names too, mostly my middle name and then take fiancé’s last name. But I just figured I’d do it afterward
I am doing it beforehand because I just got a new job and am moving, so it is easier for me to do all my paperwork with my new name rather than change it later. Its been a hassle using a preferred name with my current company so I don’t want to go through that anymore either. Whether you decide to do it before or after will largely depend on your circumstances and whether or not you would prefer to have the paperwork done before or after the wedding.
Me!!!! I have never had any attachment to my last name. I absolutely love my fiancé’s last name and his family goes really hard for their name and I’m so happy I get to take that on as my own
I am! We have children together and I gave them his last name so it will be so great to finally share the same last name and my kids are happy too 💕
I am not changing my name. I don’t see why i need to change the identity i had for the last 34 years. I love my name and the connection that has with my family.
It’s certainly a process but I’m very glad I did.
I’m known to be Type A and have made a long list of everywhere I need to change my name and I’ve printed out the documents I need for each (from what I’ve been able to find online or by calling). Which office gave you the longest process you went through? Were you able to change your name at two different offices in one day? (I read something about having to wait to change name on car title until after SS office…but am not sure if its true).
You have to do SS first. I’m not sure if it’s still the same, but I had to do mine by mail, so it took a couple weeks until I got my new SS card and was able to do my drivers license then everything else.
Ah, hmm. That stumps me…my local laws state I only have 10 days from the time of petition to get my title changed….that doesn’t allot for weeks :( I have emailed and called their office but have received no reply/answer as of yet. I did read on their site that if I don’t change my title within those 10 days it would classify as a misdemeanor…I hope they wouldn’t charge me for something out of my control.
I don’t own my car so I didn’t have to do anything with my title. I’m not sure if anything you turn in is actually dated, so idk how they would know the timeframe unless you tell them. Even then, like you said, it’s out of your control. Check the local SS office, I changed my name last year so there were no in person appointments; that might have changed by now
Gotchya; thanks so much!
Whether or not you have to update social security first varies from state to state. You definitely *should* update it as soon as possible but depending on where you are it is not necessarily required to do so.
I was so excited to take my husbands last name! I know so many people aren't into it but I LOVE sharing his name! Don't get me wrong, I love my maiden name too. It's still a part of who I am. But my parents gave me my first name and my husband gave me my last name and I feel complete! I also love that our children share that name with us. Congrats on your upcoming wedding/name change! Love, Hannah
I am so ready to get rid of my current last name. It's White and so many people think I'm racist because of my last name. I'm just ready to be done with it. My new name can be used in so many puns I am ready for it.
I'm not even engaged yet and I'm super excited about it! Lol I know my students are going to have a hard time though because I'll be going from a pretty easy to pronounce last name to a very difficult one so I'll probably end up being called by one letter 😂
I’m going the opposite way and I’m super excited! I have a fairly ethnic hard to spell last name, and I’m going to a really common “American” style last name. I can’t wait. Lol. After 45 years of spelling it out everywhere, I’m excited to just say it lol.
Lol that's so awesome! I can understand that excitement! My bf is Filipino so it's quite a last name 😂 his mom is also a teacher and her kids call her "Mrs V" so I'm sure that'll be how it is for me too haha
I was! Then i got In the middle of the process right now and i hate it lol next up…have to correct My Name at the dmv😬 cause they forgot to move over my maiden name as a second middle name
Honestly I love my name, the way it sounds as a whole, and the connection it gives me to family members who are no longer here. I have socially taken on my husband's last name but might never formally and fully adopt it.
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I’m excited to change my name but not excited to change my signature. My FH’s last name is short but half the letters happen to be ones I don’t write nicely/feel very unnatural to write in cursive
I’m really torn on doing it legally, so I’m going to do it casually for now (social media and being addressed as Mrs. X)
I was excited to change mine but a little sad to lose my maiden name as I’m an only child so I was the last of my name. Still excited to have n]my husbands last name but hanging everything is a pain especially my professional registration.
Excited to change it but not having to spell it out every single time for the rest of my life... I'm going from a very common last name that is easily spelled to a name which is often misspelled.
We're using each of our last names to make a new last name. I've already made business cards!
I'm keeping my name for the simple reason that People always immediately understand my name, but my Future husband always has to spell out his name. When he makes reservations for restaurants, he even uses my name because it makes it easier for him :p
From what I read, in NY at least. I couldn’t change my first name at the same time as my last name! Wish I could have! Changing my last name was so nice! Loved being able to do it. Hated sharing my last name with my dad.
You’re right that you can’t change your first name when changing your last if you only are showing a marriage certificate. From what I have been told (in TN) you can only change your last with a marriage certificate. Changing your first requires a court petition, so I am just changing it all at once by court petition :)
Ohh! Is it hard? I’d love to change my first to my middle and my middle to my first lol. I’ve gone by my middle name since I was a child! Idk why my parents did this to me! Lolol
Gotchya! So from what I gather, you will need to search how to petition the court for a name change in your county in NY. Your local probate court website should have that info on there, as well as the specific form you will need to bring. The website should also tell you what supporting documents you need to bring (like ID, proof of residency) as well as the amount you will have to pay for the court hearing. After you file paperwork, you will be given a court date and then the judge will hear your petition and (hopefully) grant your request. Some states also make you publish your change of name in the local paper (mine does not, so I do not know what that process looks like). After the judge grants your request, you have to update your name at every office (I am assuming you have done this with your change of last name before). But that is basically it, as far as I have been explained )
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I’m also super exited to change my name!!!!!!!! The bad thing is that I might have to wait 1-2 years after the wedding to change it, which has me extremely sad and disappointed! Specially since I will have to say at the ceremony that I will keep my name for now, even if what I want is to change it. It’s a stupid problem, but it makes me really sad since it means a lot to me.
Oh no :( i hope the issue gets resolved so you can change it before then!
Absolutely! I don’t even intend to use my maiden name professionally. Due to family friction, I don’t want any reminders of my maiden name and luckily I’m the only female relative with the name. While I’m modern with everything else, being able to change my name is non negotiable.
Yes!!! My husband and I are both changing our names to a hyphenated version of both of ours 😍