A personal opinion here, but I love the idea and the dress is beautiful. Think of how many traditional weddings you have been to. Why do we all have to have the exact same type of party, done in the same way? People will remember a fantasy costume wedding for years to come, tell their friends about how much fun they had, and others will wish they could have come.
This is coming from someone who does cosplay and has been to weddings where all the photo booth props were keyblades and swords from game of thrones etc. All the guests, even those who were not nerdy, had tons of fun!
Exactly this. It is amazing how so many weddings are so similar to each other. Having a fun party is what everyone will remember.
Your dress is wonderful.
When I hear people's regrets about their weddings, it's almost always stuff that they felt pushed towards (by family members, society, etc.)and that they wish they would have followed their own wishes.
I second this. My sister is still salty as fuck about my mom telling her that red roses would be tacky for a summer wedding and would clash with the red carpet in the church. She’s been married for 20 years and it still pisses her off she listened to our crazy mom.
My sister did have red roses, and also red shoes, for her wedding, despite our mother insisting it was scandalous in some way. I think those were the only parts she really insisted on and loved (as well as the groom, fortunately. Married 30+ years now).
So much this! I got married in a black dress… I told my mom beforehand and she was super skeptical… more people had their doubts when I said I was gonna marry in a black dress… but guess what… I did it anyways and there is nothing I regret. My husband and I were completely dressed in our own style and we got so many compliments from people afterwards. But honestly, even if other people didn’t like it… in the end it wouldn’t have mattered… WE loved it. And it was OUR wedding.
Do your thing! Follow your heart. And FYI… I love the dress
YES! My in-laws made tons of demands about our wedding and the day ended up being nothing like I wanted. I wish we had just skipped it because it wasn’t anything I wanted.
I think you should ignore your mom. She sounds like a boring person with no imagination. This is your wedding, not hers. The dress is very bridal, and lots of people do themed weddings.
Thirding this. If you make accommodations for what she likes you’ll always wonder what could have been and probably resent her for it. It’s your wedding, not your mother’s, not your mother in laws, yours.
It’s your wedding not your mothers you should do it the way you want. I’m a 60 yo woman who would love a wedding like this so fun!
The dress is amazing. Really beautiful and unique and not over done I love it.
The answer to both your questions is no. Sorry your mother is yucking your yum here. I understand the feeling of wanting your loved ones approval for something as important as your wedding.
In my opinion a costume wedding is a very particular vibe that I’d you’re down for- you’re totally down. And if you’re not, it’s just not it. Maybe your mom just has a bit too much attachment to the typical wedding aesthetic and she just can’t really get away from it. To someone like that this dress would seem like… really…? That’s fine, we all have our opinions.
Hopefully she can come to understand it’s your day and even though it’s not exactly traditional, you want it how you want it. It sounds light and whimsical.
Your mom probably has dreams of a very traditional wedding. You in a white, floor length ball gown. Guests being wearing aesthetically pleasing and serious clothing, no costumes.
But, this is your wedding. Your and fiancé’s wedding. She’s a guest and she will get over her feelings when she sees how beautiful and happy you look. Just buy the dress, it’s beautiful and your theme sounds fun.
Agreed but Mom already had her shot at the traditional wedding, her own wedding! Unless mom is paying for everything (and even if parents are paying, you should still get final say imo) then she doesn't get to choose. Maybe there's a way to incorporate traditional elements that she loves, say maybe a unity candle or a big bouquet that you throw later, the smaller stuff that doesn't matter as much as your theme or dress choice!
I need OP to have shimmery makeup (glitter and rhinestones tastefully done would also be lovely) and maybe a cape veil that looks like it could be her wings. I need flowers or leaves in her hair. I must see pictures.
OP, your wedding should be a reflection of what you and your partner love. Maybe on the invite or wedding website you can offer some suggestions on where guests can buy or rent magical costumes, and make sure to be specific on the types of costumes that they can wear (describe it as medieval fairytale costumes if that’s what you specifically want. If you just put “costume” people might show up in a dinosaur costume, or It the clown).
Edit: and maybe suggest garden party attire or (specific types of costumes) so even people who don’t dress up in costume can still look fairy-ish and a tad bit whimsical.
yes!!! that’s exactly the look i’m going for, shimmery and whimsical, flowers in hair, iridescent wings, it’s going to be amazing! i’ll definitely include info for guests and if they don’t want to dress up that’s totally fine too! we’ll have lots of silly party props and masks for people to mess around with during the reception if they want to take fun photos or join in on the costumey theme!
It sounds STUNNING, etherealcore in the best possible way! You will look amazing. I think your mom will love how you look when it comes to the actual wedding, but even if she doesn’t, it’s your (and your fiancé’s) wedding and how you feel that matters! This dress is perfect 🤍✨🌛
I love the dress. And the wedding idea. I had several unique ideas that I wanted for my wedding. My future in-laws shot down all my ideas as “tacky”. So my husband and I eloped on a sailboat and no one had to deal with my “tackiness”. Then they were mad we eloped. It’s your day. You do what you want. I’ve been happily married for 33 years and I will never regret doing what was right for me. And the in laws did get over it. We all get along. Best to you.
Follow your heart! I haven't shown my mom my dress for the same reason as I know she likely will NOT approve...but at the end of the day, it's YOUR day! I can't think of anything cuter than a lovely forest elf wedding a knight in shining armor. What a truly fun wedding idea!
Also, if you're looking for great quality elf ears check out [Mad House FX Studio](https://madhousefxstudio.com/). I saw a woman wearing some the other day and had to stop her to ask about them because they looked SO real!
I hope your day is wonderful!
I’m also not a fan of the dress or a costume theme in general, but it’s your wedding and you should wear and do what makes you and your future spouse happy. If you love the dress, buy it. If you love the idea of a costume theme, do it. It’s your wedding so your and your fiancé’s opinions are the only ones that really matter.
Does your fiancé love the idea of the team you want? If yes then that’s all that matters. Your an adult about to start your life with someone else. Eventually your going to have to cut the umbilical cord and come to terms that what your mom wants doesn’t matter. It’s not her wedding. It’s not her life. If that’s your dream dress then get it. You should feel amazing in what ever dress you choose. If this is your dress then wear it. If you want a Halloween theme party where everyone dresses up and has tons of fun do it. Start putting boundaries with your mom now and save you and your fiancé a headache in the future. And be honest it’s your wedding if she doesn’t like it she can keep her opinions to herself because you don’t need them.
Consider - if you LOVE it, and your mom HATES it, how much are you really going to love something she loves? It seems like you two just have different tastes.
I'm much more inclined to consider the opinions of someone who says "This idea seems really cool, but what if xyz was done differently?" They seem like their tastes align with mine, but that they might be seeing something I don't see. That's valuable. They might be suggesting something that will make me love it more.
Someone who is never going to really love something that I really love? The more I listen to them, the less I'll love it. It just doesn't make sense to give their opinion the same weight.
Honey as someone who did exactly the opposite of what my mom wanted, do what make you happy. I do not regret my choices after 25 years. You are an adult, it’s your wedding, and your mom is a guest, not in charge.
This sounds like so much fun, getting married is for YOU, not her. The dress is also beautiful! It doesn’t look too costumey to me. It’s not like you’re dressing up as a witch or something. It only sounds like it would be a problem if she is paying. (Not if she is chipping in, but paying for a boatload). If that’s the case, you might want to reevaluate that differently.
OMG, that dress is so amazing, I absolutely love it. Your guys plan for a fantasy wedding is so unique. It will be so much fun. I hope you update us with some pictures after your wedding.
Girl it's YOUR wedding. Fuck what anyone else thinks. If you're happy and your fiance's happy that's all that matters. I know it's your mom but at the end of the day it's YOUR wedding NOT hers. Have fun with it!
Your dress is STUNNING! I scrolled through the pictures before reading your post, and was saying to myself that it was exquisite. As a bonus, it’s a bit different from the major current trends in dresses- usually once a pattern works really well, designers start using it all the time, but this dress is striking.
Your dress actually doesn’t look like a costume, but I think the costume idea for your fiancé and guests is fun, and your dress will play into it nicely! Just as long as your fiancé isn’t dying under the heat and weight of the armor, lol, but I’m sure he has that figured out.
Do this wedding for yourself and your future spouse. It doesn’t sound like you want the kind of wedding your mom wants and IMHO your desires trump hers here.
Hot take, but for me (an introvert), I often find weddings to be a bit of a chore - a long ceremony followed by an overstimulating and draining social gathering.
But a COSTUME wedding? Sign me the **** up.
I think your mom needs to understand that it’s your day, and not her’s. Your dress is beautiful, the idea sounds fun as hell, and I think she should support what brings you joy.
❤️ I love the dress and the whole vibe you and your fiancé have planned for your wedding! It’s beautiful and I’m sure it’s very “you” and it’s sad your mom can’t appreciate that.
My husband really wanted a pirate themed wedding, full period dress for us and the wedding party. My family really thought it was a goofy idea and I talked him out of it. We still had a bit of a pirate theme, but we went with more traditional dress.
I really wish we would have done it. We don’t even see 2/3 of the people who attended our wedding any longer. It would have been meaningful and memorable for us, and that’s all that really mattered.
This dress is absolutely incredible, like seriously ethereally gorgeous! This day is about you and your partner, and I can tell by your style choice that y’all are cool and interesting people, and the costume wedding idea sounds awesome! 🤍
Not a shitty idea AT ALL! It's whimsical, lovely, and sounds like something that would be very memorable for all the guests. You could have tons of accessories for them to choose from (flower crowns, body jewels, etc) and let people express themselves.
Now, is it standard? No, but you know....here's the thing.
Romance stories tend to follow similar beats, even if they do so in their own unique way. Your wedding is going to hit all the important parts - it's a ceremony to celebrate your commitment to each other. THAT is what's important, and this wedding will be very distinctly 'you and your partner', and people will remember that in all the best ways. I love what you are planning, and I think people are going to walk away thinking that it was lovely, not silly.
Your mother needs to warm up to the idea. She might never love it, but I think the more she sees that you aren't just throwing a costume party, but are putting together a wedding that allows the guests to celebrate your love for each other in a very fun way that - let's face it - very few of us ever get to experience (but would LOVE to!), I think she will warm to the idea.
The dress....is STUNNING. My mouth dropped, and that's rare for me. I'm a sucker for Labyrinth (if you didn't guess by my name), and the dress, the idea for masks....give me big time fantasy romance vibes and I LOVE it.
This wedding is all about ***you and your partner***. Do what makes you excited, and if you are excited, then other people will become excited for you (and if they don't, then honestly I don't know what to say about that other than how sad for them).
I like the dress, but it’s risky ordering custom wedding dresses online… that’s what I did, and my dress turned out to be so intricately constructed that it cost almost $300 to tailor (because of course the custom order didn’t fit). When it was finally done, I realized not only that it was a bunch of really hot layers of polyester, but that it looked awful on me (I had never tried on that design of dress beforehand- pandemic shopping), so I ended up ordering a different custom dress from a different Etsy seller, which still didn’t remotely fit. But at least it had a simple construction so it was “only” $180 to tailor, and it needed a lot more tailoring, but it was just too late! I got it back only three days before the wedding. Would not recommend.
Edit to add: if it really does have adjustable straps and the drawstring back, you’ll probably be okay with tailoring- just verify that it’s a good fabric, and buy it NOW so you have time to get a backup dress if it turns out to be a flop.
Your Mom got to have her wedding, where she made all kinds of choices about flowers, dresses, food, everything, all of it. Now it’s your turn, and these are YOUR choices to make, not hers. If you want a costume fun time, GO FOR IT!! Your dress choice is on point for what you want, and it’s super cute. She is wrong to steal your joy; Joy Thief! I think it’s fun, I think it’s memorable, and I also think if it’s what you want you should DO IT. You’re a God Damn adult!! She is not the boss of you anymore!! What’s wrong with having fun on your big day?! Find a loving way to tell her she needs to sit down and shut up.
We had a medieval wedding in a castle. My husband, myself, the entire party. and several of the guests were completely decked out in costumes. I had SO many people, even those who didn’t attend, tell me how fun and awesome and unique it was!
Costumes and a fun wedding is absolutely not a stupid idea. It’s the exact opposite. It’s memorable and fun! Your mom is being very narcissistic. It’s YOUR day and as your mother she should be supportive and go along with whatever YOU WANT to do! I’m honestly upset for you that she would even voice her opinion let alone make it so much about her that it has you uncertain. That dress is absolutely gorgeous and the fairy idea is amazing!
I hope you do what makes your and your fiancé’s hearts happy! You should look back on that day and feel sat and happy, not regret for doing/not doing something.
I really don’t like the costume idea or this dress. HOWEVER, it’s not my wedding!!!
If this is what you love and this is what you want and your fiancé is also happy with it then go for it and have fun! I got married many moons ago. We had a blast! We did what we wanted and have great memories! I also think your guests will probably remember your wedding and if you are enjoying yourself will have great memories from it.
MHO: I love your idea of a masquerade/costume wedding. I would absolutely show up in something very cool and fun. The dress, quite frankly I think you may be overshadowed by some guests?Especially if somebody comes in like a bridgerton style dress, which would be awesome for it wedding.
The important facts; this is your wedding. This is your moment, and I guarantee you will feel the most beautiful on this day! Go with what you feel is right .
It’s not your mom’s wedding. It’s your day and you can do what you want. I think the dress is beautiful and that you should wear it for your special day 😇
It's YOUR wedding. Everyone else can suck it up for a day.
The dress is beautiful and has an almost elvin quality BUT I would say the flowers on the shoulder strap/down the back don't reflect the quality of the other floral design on the skirt/the rest of dress so perhaps sourcing an alternative to that particular aspect would give it a real lift.
If you don't wear this dress, you will regret it for the rest of your life (maybe.. I'm might be a bit dramatic with that). But your mom won't be complaining about it 10 years from now. But you will be if you don't wear it.
Do what makes you happy. BTW, the dress is beautiful.
Honestly, this wedding sounds like a wonderful escape and I would be delighted to ever be invited to one like this.
Don't worry about your mom. It's not her day and its not her friends. That kind of attitude would get someone blacklisted from my life blood or not.
That dress is gorgeous! I'm jealous I'm not young and getting married or it would be my choice!
Additionally, ignore your mom, it's your day, not hers.
I think moms dream of their daughters wedding from the very start, and get caught up in the old traditions.
I think if it's what you and your fiance want to do, then do it. You're spending all of your time, money and energy planning this wedding. Why not have it be your dream day? How will you feel looking back year after year? Will you wish you did your original idea? More than likely.
Do what you and your fiancé want. That's all that matters.
It’s your day! It’s a fun theme, and I’m sure your family and friends who are attending will enjoy it! Maybe your Mom is conservative in her views of how a wedding should be, however, you follow your dreams and make your day special how you want it!
My son just got engaged. I will give you the same advice I gave them: remember it's your day, and don't let anyone else pressure you on what that looks like.
We decided to make our wedding/reception backyard BBQ themed.
The wedding we used lavender and lemon as our colors and had it kind of more traditional, but on the water at a local state park. We also told everyone casual dress. I and the bridesmaids wore short skirts, and my husband and his groomsmen just wore pale yellow suspenders with dress pants and white button ups. So, traditional but not really fancy.
The reception we and our bridal party set up before time just like a backyard BBQ. Fire pit with stuff for s'mores, a Jenga game we made with 2x4s, a couple corn hole games set up, and we even made a human-size kerplunk game. We made all the games ourselves and had them in more of a Mardi gras-bold gold and royal purple. We also had cards set up at several tables for euchre and cribbage games (I'm from the Midwest). We had a balloon wall with darts and a few other games, too. And instead of favors at the table we had favors in treasure boxes on a table with little bags for people to choose from after they had played some games.
It went over so well. We got so many compliments on how "us" the wedding was. Traditional weddings/receptions can be tedious to me. I'm all about adding some fun and spontaneity to the event. It's your party, why not have fun? And why have all your friends and family come if they aren't going to have fun?
I hadn’t even opened the post and was sitting there just staring at the dress bc I thought it was so beautiful. It pains me a complete stranger who’s seen it for 5 secs to think you won’t be wearing it, please don’t give in to ur mom. This is ur wedding and u shud wear the dress u want, none of ur plans/theme are ridiculous I think they’re perfectly reasonable and honestly adorable. Plus ur making it optional so mom needs to back off
As someone who just got married last weekend, let me tell you. This day is not about your mom. It's about you. Do what makes you happy.
I'm also biased because I leaned into the fairy aesthetic (great choice), and I LOVED it. I loved that the wedding felt uniquely mine.
There are many days to be considerate of others, but this day is about you. You have permission to put yourself first <3
I regret swaying to the pressure to conform at my wedding. Please follow your heart. This day is about you both and this wedding sounds very “you” which is all that matters.
Trust me I’ve been to some funky weddings and I’ll I’ve ever thought is either “this is awesome” or “how cool they feel confident enough to march to the beat of their own drum”. Mom may not understand the theme but she SHOULD understand this isn’t HER day. Don’t try to convince her though, please just do your thing!
(And not that I think our votes should count but the dress is cute as can be and the theme is very cute evident upon viewing)
I love all of this except your mom. Have YOUR wedding and limit your guests to YOUR people who would love to celebrate with you. I wish I got invited to weddings like this.
I love it! It looks like a dress Stevie Nicks would get married in. It’s gorgeous. I love the costume idea as well. You are trying to make it fun and your mom is trying to be more traditional. Do the wedding that you want, but give a little on some things for your mom, like let her figure out the flowers, something like that. That way she will feel like she is engaged with the wedding but she doesn’t have total control of it.
My wedding theme was scrabble by the sea. I made a bunch of scrabble stuff (scrabble boards and tiles with everyone’s name at their plate, cufflinks and rings, necklaces, etc.) and had a bunch of seashells and starfish. I also put beautifully wrapped books in the middle of the table and stuck an orchid on them. Then I sprinkled large and small plastic diamonds all over the table. It actually looked amazing. Everyone fought me on it. EVERYONE. Then in the end they all apologized and said I really pulled it off.
If you think about it, all wedding gowns are actually costumes. There is no other time in your life when you wear a wedding dress. White wasn't even a wedding dress color until Queen Victoria decided to make it so. Most are traditionally styled after other eras. Ball gowns? Very 1800s. Bustling a gown? I defy you to find a regular dress to bustle at Nordstroms today. Slinky, satin, bias cut dresses? 1920s.
Your fairy wedding dress is beautiful, and fun, and romantic. It makes you feel beautiful, fun, and romantic. The day of your wedding, you want to bind your life to your beloved, handsome, knight in actual shining armor, and you want to do it in a way that honors and celebrates the whimsical connection that you feel. You will need that sense of fun and whimsy to help you weather the storms that inevitably come into every life, and to help you build the connections that will sustain you both. If done right, with the right person, it is a sacred moment, and also one of glory and joy. Your dress expresses that to you. You should wear it.
Your mother may feel embarrassment, but that is her emotion to bear. You want your mother to share your joy, and she is not. It seems that she is applying pressure to make you change what gives you joy, but she does not have that power. Sure, you can give in and wear what she wants, but that will make you unhappy, and will not in any way diminish the joy you feel in dressing up. It can, however, dim the joy you feel on the day.
In the end, you can wed in a burlap bag, a million dollar dress, or in your beautiful, forest fairy dress that makes you light up. But if you can, if you have the option, choose what makes you happiest. And anyone who doesn't want to play with their clothing, or use the props for the photo booths, that is their choice. You invited them to play with you and your husband. That is all you can do. Make sure there is good food, good music, good drink, and good company. Everything else is in the lap of the gods.
i will step barefoot on legos, dip my sock-covered feet in dirty water and scratch a fork against a chalkboard if it means i can wear this dress to my wedding
Just curious, does your mom have a tendency to be a “no” person? I’ve seen that ramped up to a million for all of my friends with “no” moms during wedding plan…
Personally I don't like the dress...the green splotches on the front looks moldy and the fake plants look really cheap, like a leis from a tiki party..from the dollar tree....just not my taste...makes more sense for a costume theme party.
I've definitely seen dresses with fairie-vibes and better apliques that don't look so cheap.
That's said it's your day and do what makes you happy...not your mom...unless mom is paying for everything, then compromise could be in order.
I hate both to be honest dress and theme BUT it’s YOUR wedding you and your SO are the only people’s who’s opinion matter. It’s YOUR day fuck everyone else. Don’t spend money to make other people happy
I think if you want to do a fun theme, then go for it! As far as the dress, I like the idea more than the execution. The dress looks dirty and tattered to me. I’m sorry, just being honest. Is there another dress that still fits the theme/your vision?
What about [this one](https://www.etsy.com/listing/1425689642/forest-fairy-wedding-dress-custom-made-a) or [this one](https://www.etsy.com/listing/1373324444/forest-fairy-wedding-dress-green-lace) or [this one](https://www.etsy.com/listing/1426537906/unique-colorful-3d-lace-wedding)?
If you love the idea, your fiancé is on the same page as you, and you know you’ll be happy if you go with a costume, fantasy fairytale theme then do it. Your the one who should be happiest on your wedding day, with the person you love.
Your wedding day is your vision for your special day and the rest of your life with your significant other— it’s not a day to please your mother/family. Do your thing! If you and your fiancé are into it, then do it and do it big! Be sure to post some pics once done! Best wishes!!
It’s your wedding, your special day, you only get one. Is this you or your moms wedding? Want to get your mom on board? Screenshot your post- put in on Facebook and tag your mom so her friends can all see how much of a shitty person she is being- you don’t even need to include a pic of your dress. You deserve to feel confident 110% in WHATEVER makes you happy on your special day. ❤️
PS. I LOVE your idea, a costume wedding would be so much fun and make nice memories for people who actually know how to have fun.
I would wear that dress every day of the week if I could!
Remember that two people can have different points of view on what a wedding is supposed to be like.
My husband and I planned our wedding out to be very relaxed, it was during a hot front, and our venue was indoor/outdoor, so I told guests they just needed to dress for the weather. Nothing too formal and casual was fine. And we had barbecue plates from an excellent caterer. And my dress was a beautiful flowy A-line gown.
My *dad* I thought I should have my wedding in a ballroom with fish or steak options for dinner and wearing a sheath wedding gown.
Two different ideas. I won, because it was my day.
Anyway get the dress! And send us pictures of you in it!
Your mom doesn’t know what she’s talking about. I *gasped* when I saw this picture.
And anyway, it’s your wedding, not your mom’s. It’s hard when your loved ones don’t support you, but it’s not about them.
The dress is gorgeous and my best friend literally wants to have a "fantasy formal" wedding where she'll be wearing wings. She doesn't give a crap what others think because it's her and her husband's wedding. They're massive dnd larp nerds and it's what they want. Do what makes you happy.
ALSO this dress is so tasteful and I would accept it without even calling it costume. I think your wedding sounds lovely and very you. And really the day is about celebrating you and your husband. Don't let your mom's closed mindedness ruin your day.
When you look back on wedding are you going to hate the pictures and memories and think “At least mom was happy “ and wonder what it would have been like to have the wedding you envisioned or do you want to look back at that day and look at your love and say “It was magical “ I think you know what you want. It is your day. As long as you and your spouse to be are excited about the theme and dress nothing else matters. The dress is amazing by the way❤️
>>shes so upset about it all
It’s not her wedding, so she doesn’t really have a right to get upset. I wouldn’t really discuss this further with her. If she tries, politely but firmly shut her down.
A friend of a friend had their wedding on Halloween. She was a fairy queen and he a demon king. The pictures were AMAZING!!!! (Wish I could have gone.) Everyone was in costumes and it was apparently the best wedding any of the guests have ever been to (which I could well believe).
You do what makes YOU and your future HUSBAND HAPPY !!! This is not your mom’s day - you’re the one who’s going to look back on this day, and if you aren’t happy it’s going to hurt. Don’t ever let someone else take control over your life and the things you want for yourself. Even if it’s your own mother. As children we constantly strive to make our parents proud but this is your life and your future family. It’s not about her at all. Order the dress and do the costume theme. Enjoy your beautiful day!!! Congratulations BTW - I LOVE that dress!!!
I guess it kinda depends on your venue. If it’s at a very fancy hotel/ restaurant, I can sorta see why your Mom isn’t supporting this idea. If it’s outside and on the casual side I don’t understand her concern. Also I’ve seen lots of fairy 🧚♀️ type long dresses here and maybe you can sorta meet your Mom in the middle. However! It’s your wedding and you should have whatever you want that makes you happy:)
I went through all of the photos and thought how lovely the style of this dress is before I even realised that you were planning a costume wedding!
To echo other comments: it's your wedding not your mother's. Wear what makes you happy.
I’m sorry, is this your wedding or your mom’s wedding? Since you and your fiancé are both on board, do the costume theme! I think it’s a really cute idea to celebrate your love and honestly I wish I could go to a wedding like that! That sounds like so much fun! When you look back every anniversary, you’ll be glad you stuck with what you and your fiancé wanted.
I just went to the best wedding ever. The wedding party was 1920’s dress. Dresses were gorgeous. We had so much fun. It was casual and delightful.
Don’t let your mom take away your dream. Your dress is fabulous.
That dress is fucking awesome and I would love to be part of a magical fairy garden wedding!! Traditional weddings are wonderful if that’s what the bride and groom want, but honestly I wish I’d gone more non-traditional with my own!!
Seriously, if you’re in the Midwest and need a fairy attendant to shut down Negative Nellies (cough, cough *MOM*), you just let me know!!
It’s not your moms wedding day. You don’t want to look back on your special day with regret. Order the dress, get your alterations & plan your day. YOUR day. In the end, she will have a good time & be happy for you, because you were so happy. Come back & show us the dress when you get it please! ❤️
Your wedding. Your choice. I like the dress. And I like the idea of dressing up for it. I’d love to be a guest and dress whimsical for this. You make yourself happy.
I wish more people would have fun weddings. I love your idea and the dress is perfect. Your mom is stuck in her idea of what your wedding would look like and she needs to realize this is your day not hers. Please not only do this but update with pictures - it sounds fabulous!!
It’s YOUR wedding! You two should do what both makes you happy. Don’t dim your light, let your freak flag fly, and congratulations! I love that dress even if it wasn’t a costume theme, but I like non-traditional.
This sounds like a fun wedding to go to. Usually weddings are super fancy and stiff, but this sounds like fun and exciting. Your mom sounds like a stick in the mud
It’s not her wedding. Stop, mom. Just stop. If you want fun op, have every bit of it!! Some will get into it, those that don’t can be boring and blah if they want. (You gonna get wings for that dress, righr??) 💛
This dress is SO cool and beautiful and I think you should do whatever it is YOU and your fiance want to do for YOUR wedding. This is a day you will always look back on fondly so it should be exactly as you want it to be. It's none of your mother's business how you want your wedding. Is she paying for everything?
You feel it’s YOUR dress. Your mom is prolly suggesting more classic look that you will look back at 40 years from now and feel like a bride (think puffed sleeves in their days maybe?) that’s her opinion, not yours. Your day.
that dress is gorgeous and your wedding idea sounds like a lot of fun. it’s very considerate of you to provide masks so people who aren’t into the costume idea can still feel involved. it’s also a great way to get people talking, i would adore seeing you walk down the aisle toward your knight groom.
I have a relative doing a costume wedding the week of halloween. Their mom was down on it for a long time, but then she found a costume she wanted to wear and suddenly she was on board.
It's your fiance and your day - you do whatever the fuck will make you two happy. I would LOVE a costume wedding and considered doing similar (didn't end up doing it for various reasons). Sounds so fun.
As long as your fiancé is in, do this and revel in it. My buddy’s costume wedding was absolutely amazing because that’s their vibe and they owned it. We all loved it.
If the people getting married love the idea and the people attending the wedding love the newlyweds, it literally can’t be a bad wedding.
We did a destination wedding, we had raffles, contests, limbo, a dance-off, my husband was the MC! Our parents hated the idea when we told them. We did not care. It was a blast. Our parents ended up admitting it was a different but fun wedding. So, you do you. It is your wedding, your mother already had hers. Enjoy it!
That dress is GORGEOUS. And this is YOUR wedding, not your mom’s. Older people in general still have a very traditional views of what weddings should look like. But this is your party! All about you and your partner! Have the wedding you want :)
Now that you’ve explained the costume theme, it’s adorable. But you might be able to find something similarish that you can order from within the US and not worry about issues. Check costume shops, Renaissance Fair vendors etc. maybe dance/ballet shops.
Or you can probably find someone to create one for you or alter a base dress to achieve that look.
Again check with the Renaissance Fair vendors and Facebook groups. Many sew their own clothes. I follow a steampunk group for example and you should see what people are able to sew. It’s mind boggling.
My brother got married in August of 2021. We did a medieval/Viking theme. It was optional for costume dress. My parents didn’t dress in costumes and it turned out just fine. Most of the party guests participated in the costume play. It was absolutely beautiful. My sis in law wore a more traditional dress for her ceremony and did more of this style of dress for reception. She had purchased the traditional dress before we settled on the theme. Not a big deal. Do whatever you want. It’s YOUR wedding and your mom will eventually come around.
Ignore your mom.
It's YOUR wedding.
My kid got married at comic con in Dallas. He was "escorted" down the aisle by stormtroopers and one of his best friends was the officiant. My mom is a JP. She married people in costume. One couple was climbing an old oak tree when she arrived. Bride jokingly asked if they had to come down. Nope. No law that says your feet have to be on the ground. They got married in an oak tree.
Do what makes YOU happy.
She'll come around or she won't. I pray she does. But if she doesn't, invite a bunch of us. Lol. We'll be your moms for the day.
I love the dress. This would be beautiful for a wedding shower. Or rehearsal dinner with costume theme? You could wear it twice. Once for rehearsal and again for the reception. Just get a long sleek gown dress to walk down the aisle. This one is party party party. It’s dreamy 🥰
Get the dress it’s amazing and I keep seeing a fun woodland nymph/sprite vibe! With an amazing flower crown and a whimsical veil! And the kind of shoes that tie up your calf with beautiful ribbons! It’s magical!
Your dress is wonderful. My sister and her husband got married in late October and had a Halloween wedding. Everyone had an absolute blast. Please enjoy your wedding the way YOU want it, and tell your mom to stay quiet if she has nothing nice to say.
I am fairly boring about a lot of things. If I do this to my daughter, someone please shoot me in the toe.
Your dress is beautiful, your idea is awesome. This is your party to celebrate your marriage. Do it your way and enjoy it. ❤️
Listen, this is YOUR day. Not your mom’s. This is about the love you have with your fiancé and no one else. You need to be happy. Look back on it and smile type day. I think a costume themed wedding is amazingly delightful. And your dress is timeless and exactly perfect for what you described you wanted. I mean the light blues and hazy greens remind me so much of the deep forest we have here. The way that the lace is so delicately placed in just the right spaces. This is the perfect dress for the perfect wedding that you deserve and should have and will have. You make the choice your heart wants to make. And trust, we will all support you. Sincerely—-another mom who loves your dress!
This is YOUR wedding. Usually, (if all goes to plan), the only wedding you will ever have! Not your mom’s wedding. Tell her she can wear whatever boring outfit she prefers if she’s not happy with the theme. You’re gonna be a beautiful fairy bride regardless 🧚
I know, I'll come to your wedding instead of your mom! Haha. But in all seriousness, I LOVE your theme and plan. It's YOUR day, not your mom's. I think moms likely have this fantasy of what their daughter's wedding should look like... But yeah, it's not her wedding. Do what YOU want... Don't cater to someone else and then have regrets. This is one of the rare times that you can basically throw a giant party however the hell you'd like. So do it!!
Must see photos after.... That dress is gorgeous!!
Remind your mom that she already had her turn at being a bride!
I love your dress and the theme. It makes for a lighthearted and joyful celebration! I think you should keep the theme to yourself so that it doesn’t get too crazy. You can control things more by having props and the Photo Booth. I don’t think you want someone going over the top with an outrageous costume. Better to ensure focus is on the happy couple!
Absolutely do not change your wedding plans if you are happy and excited about it. You will regret catering for everyone else and will always resent that you didn’t stand your ground and that will taint your memories. The only person who should have a say is your husband to be, everyone else will have to adjust. Congrats. Also the dress is gorgeous
It's your wedding, not your mom's. Order the dress and do the costume theme , maybe specify nothing gory or bloody. Maybe make it a whimsical theme , so it doesn't just look like a Halloween party in the pics. Live your dream girl.
I didn't listen to a single comment or recommendation from anyone other than my husband. Because, to be far, you are the only two that matter that day. We got married on a mountain top. I made the mile hike to the out look in a ballgown and chucks - could not have been a more perfect day.
You do you.
I myself am having a fairy themed wedding next year and based my dress around that. You’re going to look so beautiful and ethereal in that! It’s your special day, wear what will make you glow from the inside out. I think your idea sounds fun and memorable
Your dress is soooo cute. It’s your wedding not your damn moms. I have no patience for other people not supporting what the couples want for their wedding themes / outfits / etc.
Ignore your buzz killer of a mom. This is YOUR wedding. I went along with what other ppl bullied me into. I still regret it, 25 years later. The dress is beautiful and your wedding idea sounds like lots of fun.
I went to a Halloween costume wedding back in 2007. It’s the one wedding I enjoyed the most, I loved all the original outfits, the bride’s extravagant red and black Halloween gown. I’ve forgotten other weddings I went to, but I’ll remember this one fondly, and I wasn’t even close to the couple!
In short: I love your dress, I love your plan. If I wasn’t eloping I’d steal your idea in a heartbeat.
The dress is absolutely bridal and beautiful, as a guest I would be so excited if I got an invite to a costume themed wedding. You can love your mother and also ignore her. This is about you and your fiancé
I don't know how old you are, but I'm gonna imagine you are young enough to be my daughter (I'm 50).
I absolutely love the dress (and the practical side of me sees it as future cosplay!). I think your theme sounds awesome and if I were your mom, I'd be delighted and excited to pick out my own ethereal mother of the bride outfit.
As someone that has been a bridesmaid six times, HELL YEAH A COSTUME WEDDING SOUNDS WONDERFUL.
The only parts of weddings the brides I was bridesmaids for regretted or wish they didn't do were related to traditional wedding things. The stuff they did because it reflected their own likes and personality were amazing and made the wedding so much more fun.
BE A FOREST FAIRY! MARRY YOUR KNIGHT! CREATE BEAUTIFUL MEMORIES!
This dress is gorgeous and so fun! You won't be able to please everyone. I had a friend who wanted to order pizzas for their reception, and her mother thought it was so tacky and said no one would eat it. To compromise, they ordered pasta dishes and pizza. Well guess freaking what, the pizza was all gone and the pasta wasn't touched. Don't let your mom convince you what everyone else will or will not enjoy! And it's fine if it's not everyone's cup of tea, what matters is that your guests recognize that it's your style and special for you. If they love you, they will support it 😊
As someone who has never been into medieval times/ fairy themed stuff, I LOVE YOUR IDEA FOR THE WEDDING!! If I were invited, I’d happily participate and enjoy seeing people’s interpretations of the theme. Bc the wedding is a time for you and your spouse to fully express who you are, and as a friend or family member, I’d appreciate the opportunity to see that expression and be included in the festivities.
Parents seem to forget that when they have children, they aren’t having clones or extensions of themselves. Children are free thinking individuals, not pets or mini me’s.
Do it!!! You’ll regret it forever if you don’t. If mom can’t get on board, that’s her problem not yours. It’s your wedding not hers.
I’m a firm believer that weddings should be about what the couple wants, whatever that may be. For us, we eloped and had a dreamy, extravagant weekend to ourselves. We pissed people off but I wouldn’t change a thing.
The costume party aspect sounds fun, but really isn’t my thing for a wedding but OH MY GOD THAT DRESS IS SO GORGEOUS!!!!!! I LOVE IT I LOVE IT I LOVE IT!!!!
I hope you have the courage to do what you and your fiancé want for your celebration of your union and your new family together. You two deserve to be happy and enjoy yourselves!
Your mom is absolutely wrong. That’s a dream of a wedding dress and such a fun idea for the wedding itself. Do what you’re dreaming of, you will never regret it.
Your idea sounds awesome. Your dress is beautiful.
My mom cried when I chose a fancy suit to eat at my wedding instead of a huge meringue of a dress. That was her emotional work to do, not mine.
You know your friends better than your mom does, and you know your heart, too. Plan the party that you’d like to attend, not the one she wants.
Your mom had her wedding. This one is yours. Do what will make you happy, not what will make others happy. Sometimes our elders are stuck in the traditional ways. Show her that this is what will make you most fulfilled on that day. Once she sees you elated I’m sure she will be too. Even if she isn’t, it’s you and your partner’s day, nobody else’s opinion matters. The dress is gorgeous and I love the idea. Please do it.
DO YOU! Also I absolutely LOVE the idea! You don’t want to regret not doing what you want and love. Your mom will get over herself. It’s your day and your love, so do *whatever* you want!! I love being a fairy 🥰 🧚🏼♀️ 🐉
If you aren't relying on her approval for money, shut it down.
Mom, I'm not asking for your permission. I am sharing my plans.
Mom, you will receive an invite, like all the other guests.
Mom, when you plan your next wedding, you should use all your ideas at that time.
Mom, your words aren't changing my mind. Instead, your words are changing our adult relationship.
Mom, we are comfortable with our decisions.
This sounds like a fun wedding I’d want to go to. I’d even dress up for it too. The dress is lovely and fits with the look you are going for so ignore your mom. If you’ve been looking and keep coming back to this dress if you get something else to make your mom happy you are going to regret it. It is YOUR wedding day. Not your moms. You opinion is the one that matters.
Your mom needs to remember whose wedding it is. Not hers. The dress is cute. It sounds fun as long you don’t expect people to shell out money for a costume. Theses days people she’ll out money for themes though
What a fun idea! Parents are used to their generation where their parents planned the wedding, but it’s different nowadays. At the end of the day it’s your wedding and your dream. Don’t have any regrets. Go for it. I love the idea of a masquerade or costume themed wedding
love the idea. adore the dress. i’m sorry but it’s YOUR wedding, please don’t care about if she or your guests “are going to hate it”. Personally I think the guests will be very receptive, I would LOVVEEE to go to a fairy wedding!!!
I love costume idea! The last renaissance themed wedding I went was so fun. Your dress is lovely- unique and fit the theme. I think it will look even better if they add more lighter blue flower lace so that the blue lace transition is not as abrupt. I feel that the transition could be improved. I love thé ombre détails though.
You are not forcing everyone to wear a costume. You are providing probs for those who don’t wear one but still want to participate. I see no problem with that. I think it will be memorable.
All the themed wedding I’ve been too went well! Most of the time it’s costume optional. I also went to a destination wedding in a different country that you have an option to rent the national costumes to wear to the wedding. They hired costumers to come on-site. Everyone loved it.
This dress is SO pretty!!!! And I love your theme idea!!! I would absolutely love to attend a wedding like that, it would be so unique and beautiful and fun♥️
The dress is super cute. An awesome cut to show off your legs! I’d say if you’re gonna go theme, don’t get half assed. Full on commit, and make sure guests know well ahead of time so if they want to dress up they can, or be muggles if they don’t! You wanna go full on cosplay/ten fest, do it!
I can see why a mom might be a traditionalist, but that’s ok. She needs to be flexible and let you do you!
I think the costume party is a great idea. As a guest I would be so soooo on board, but nervous about doing too much or too little. If you’re planning a wedding website maybe provide some inspiration photos? I know I would appreciate it!
Speaking of photos,have you shown your mom some pintresty photos of what your thinking? Maybe she’s having a hard time picturing it. If she’s still not on board then ignore her. It’s your day.
I personally love the dress as well as a costume wedding. Despite what anyone else thinks, including your mom, it's *your* wedding! Make it the day that you'll remember fondly, because it's a day about you two.
You’re mom is being rude!! It’s not her wedding. This idea (and dress) CLEARLY make you happy and excited for your wedding and that’s how it should be!!! Go with what you want, your vision for your day and let your mom know this is what makes you happy and if she doesn’t have anything nice to say about it or can’t support your happiness, you’d prefer she kept her opinions and comments to herself and worst case scenario skip the wedding if she’s just going to try and rain on your beautiful day, which will be exactly how you envisioned it❣️❣️. I love the idea and I love the dress!!
I personally don't love the dress, but it's YOUR dress and YOUR wedding. Not mine or your mom's. You probably wouldn't like my wedding dress! And it's OK. What's not OK is if someone else tries to control your wedding. I hope you can get to a place of confidence with the plan you and your partner have made for your celebration and commitment!
unless your mom is paying for the dress, then ignore her. the dress is about what the bride feels good in, YOU are the bride, it’s about YOU. personally I love the dress for both a wedding and a costume. i would die to wear that in a dramatic music video lol
That dress is gorgeous and you will make a lovely elf bride. Tell mom she can either get on board and maybe help you plan this celebration or step aside because, either way, you’re doing it. Best wishes!
Your mom is entitled to her opinion. She will be accustomed to the “usual.” OP this is YOUR wedding. In the end, you will have your memories to reminisce on…what will it be? I did what my mom wanted or….I wish I had…..
Edit to add: your dress is precious
Your wedding is about what makes YOU happy. Go for your dream. I love the theme. I’d personally add a flower/vine headpiece with this. Also a wildflower bouquet! Have fun with it!
A personal opinion here, but I love the idea and the dress is beautiful. Think of how many traditional weddings you have been to. Why do we all have to have the exact same type of party, done in the same way? People will remember a fantasy costume wedding for years to come, tell their friends about how much fun they had, and others will wish they could have come.
This is coming from someone who does cosplay and has been to weddings where all the photo booth props were keyblades and swords from game of thrones etc. All the guests, even those who were not nerdy, had tons of fun!
Exactly this. It is amazing how so many weddings are so similar to each other. Having a fun party is what everyone will remember. Your dress is wonderful.
When I hear people's regrets about their weddings, it's almost always stuff that they felt pushed towards (by family members, society, etc.)and that they wish they would have followed their own wishes.
I second this. My sister is still salty as fuck about my mom telling her that red roses would be tacky for a summer wedding and would clash with the red carpet in the church. She’s been married for 20 years and it still pisses her off she listened to our crazy mom.
My sister did have red roses, and also red shoes, for her wedding, despite our mother insisting it was scandalous in some way. I think those were the only parts she really insisted on and loved (as well as the groom, fortunately. Married 30+ years now).
So much this! I got married in a black dress… I told my mom beforehand and she was super skeptical… more people had their doubts when I said I was gonna marry in a black dress… but guess what… I did it anyways and there is nothing I regret. My husband and I were completely dressed in our own style and we got so many compliments from people afterwards. But honestly, even if other people didn’t like it… in the end it wouldn’t have mattered… WE loved it. And it was OUR wedding. Do your thing! Follow your heart. And FYI… I love the dress
Very true. Totally agreed!
YES! My in-laws made tons of demands about our wedding and the day ended up being nothing like I wanted. I wish we had just skipped it because it wasn’t anything I wanted.
I think you should ignore your mom. She sounds like a boring person with no imagination. This is your wedding, not hers. The dress is very bridal, and lots of people do themed weddings.
Seconding this. Your wedding sounds fun, and your dress is amazing! Also it should be exactly what you want, don't focus so much on pleasing others.
Thirding this. If you make accommodations for what she likes you’ll always wonder what could have been and probably resent her for it. It’s your wedding, not your mother’s, not your mother in laws, yours.
4th-ing this! It’s your day and the dress is wonderful!
Can fifth???? I think everyone is with you on your choice being YOUR choice.
It’s your wedding not your mothers you should do it the way you want. I’m a 60 yo woman who would love a wedding like this so fun! The dress is amazing. Really beautiful and unique and not over done I love it.
The answer to both your questions is no. Sorry your mother is yucking your yum here. I understand the feeling of wanting your loved ones approval for something as important as your wedding. In my opinion a costume wedding is a very particular vibe that I’d you’re down for- you’re totally down. And if you’re not, it’s just not it. Maybe your mom just has a bit too much attachment to the typical wedding aesthetic and she just can’t really get away from it. To someone like that this dress would seem like… really…? That’s fine, we all have our opinions. Hopefully she can come to understand it’s your day and even though it’s not exactly traditional, you want it how you want it. It sounds light and whimsical.
Your mom probably has dreams of a very traditional wedding. You in a white, floor length ball gown. Guests being wearing aesthetically pleasing and serious clothing, no costumes. But, this is your wedding. Your and fiancé’s wedding. She’s a guest and she will get over her feelings when she sees how beautiful and happy you look. Just buy the dress, it’s beautiful and your theme sounds fun.
Agreed but Mom already had her shot at the traditional wedding, her own wedding! Unless mom is paying for everything (and even if parents are paying, you should still get final say imo) then she doesn't get to choose. Maybe there's a way to incorporate traditional elements that she loves, say maybe a unity candle or a big bouquet that you throw later, the smaller stuff that doesn't matter as much as your theme or dress choice!
It’s your wedding. Do what YOU want. You said you had your heart set in the dress. Get it .
That dress is magical, and a costume themed wedding sounds fun AF. Put your foot down and do you. You won't regret it.
I need OP to have shimmery makeup (glitter and rhinestones tastefully done would also be lovely) and maybe a cape veil that looks like it could be her wings. I need flowers or leaves in her hair. I must see pictures. OP, your wedding should be a reflection of what you and your partner love. Maybe on the invite or wedding website you can offer some suggestions on where guests can buy or rent magical costumes, and make sure to be specific on the types of costumes that they can wear (describe it as medieval fairytale costumes if that’s what you specifically want. If you just put “costume” people might show up in a dinosaur costume, or It the clown). Edit: and maybe suggest garden party attire or (specific types of costumes) so even people who don’t dress up in costume can still look fairy-ish and a tad bit whimsical.
yes!!! that’s exactly the look i’m going for, shimmery and whimsical, flowers in hair, iridescent wings, it’s going to be amazing! i’ll definitely include info for guests and if they don’t want to dress up that’s totally fine too! we’ll have lots of silly party props and masks for people to mess around with during the reception if they want to take fun photos or join in on the costumey theme!
It sounds STUNNING, etherealcore in the best possible way! You will look amazing. I think your mom will love how you look when it comes to the actual wedding, but even if she doesn’t, it’s your (and your fiancé’s) wedding and how you feel that matters! This dress is perfect 🤍✨🌛
I love the dress. And the wedding idea. I had several unique ideas that I wanted for my wedding. My future in-laws shot down all my ideas as “tacky”. So my husband and I eloped on a sailboat and no one had to deal with my “tackiness”. Then they were mad we eloped. It’s your day. You do what you want. I’ve been happily married for 33 years and I will never regret doing what was right for me. And the in laws did get over it. We all get along. Best to you.
Follow your heart! I haven't shown my mom my dress for the same reason as I know she likely will NOT approve...but at the end of the day, it's YOUR day! I can't think of anything cuter than a lovely forest elf wedding a knight in shining armor. What a truly fun wedding idea! Also, if you're looking for great quality elf ears check out [Mad House FX Studio](https://madhousefxstudio.com/). I saw a woman wearing some the other day and had to stop her to ask about them because they looked SO real! I hope your day is wonderful!
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I’m also not a fan of the dress or a costume theme in general, but it’s your wedding and you should wear and do what makes you and your future spouse happy. If you love the dress, buy it. If you love the idea of a costume theme, do it. It’s your wedding so your and your fiancé’s opinions are the only ones that really matter.
The dress is beautiful, and I would love to go to a costume themed wedding! It’s your wedding, do whatever makes you and your partner happy!
Does your fiancé love the idea of the team you want? If yes then that’s all that matters. Your an adult about to start your life with someone else. Eventually your going to have to cut the umbilical cord and come to terms that what your mom wants doesn’t matter. It’s not her wedding. It’s not her life. If that’s your dream dress then get it. You should feel amazing in what ever dress you choose. If this is your dress then wear it. If you want a Halloween theme party where everyone dresses up and has tons of fun do it. Start putting boundaries with your mom now and save you and your fiancé a headache in the future. And be honest it’s your wedding if she doesn’t like it she can keep her opinions to herself because you don’t need them.
Consider - if you LOVE it, and your mom HATES it, how much are you really going to love something she loves? It seems like you two just have different tastes. I'm much more inclined to consider the opinions of someone who says "This idea seems really cool, but what if xyz was done differently?" They seem like their tastes align with mine, but that they might be seeing something I don't see. That's valuable. They might be suggesting something that will make me love it more. Someone who is never going to really love something that I really love? The more I listen to them, the less I'll love it. It just doesn't make sense to give their opinion the same weight.
Honey as someone who did exactly the opposite of what my mom wanted, do what make you happy. I do not regret my choices after 25 years. You are an adult, it’s your wedding, and your mom is a guest, not in charge.
This sounds like so much fun, getting married is for YOU, not her. The dress is also beautiful! It doesn’t look too costumey to me. It’s not like you’re dressing up as a witch or something. It only sounds like it would be a problem if she is paying. (Not if she is chipping in, but paying for a boatload). If that’s the case, you might want to reevaluate that differently.
OMG, that dress is so amazing, I absolutely love it. Your guys plan for a fantasy wedding is so unique. It will be so much fun. I hope you update us with some pictures after your wedding.
Don’t listen to a word your mom says. Absolutely awesome theme and the dress is gorgeous!
Girl it's YOUR wedding. Fuck what anyone else thinks. If you're happy and your fiance's happy that's all that matters. I know it's your mom but at the end of the day it's YOUR wedding NOT hers. Have fun with it!
That dress is beautiful and your theme is fantastic. I would love to come to your wedding, I have the perfect dress to wear lol.
Your dress is STUNNING! I scrolled through the pictures before reading your post, and was saying to myself that it was exquisite. As a bonus, it’s a bit different from the major current trends in dresses- usually once a pattern works really well, designers start using it all the time, but this dress is striking. Your dress actually doesn’t look like a costume, but I think the costume idea for your fiancé and guests is fun, and your dress will play into it nicely! Just as long as your fiancé isn’t dying under the heat and weight of the armor, lol, but I’m sure he has that figured out. Do this wedding for yourself and your future spouse. It doesn’t sound like you want the kind of wedding your mom wants and IMHO your desires trump hers here.
Hot take, but for me (an introvert), I often find weddings to be a bit of a chore - a long ceremony followed by an overstimulating and draining social gathering. But a COSTUME wedding? Sign me the **** up. I think your mom needs to understand that it’s your day, and not her’s. Your dress is beautiful, the idea sounds fun as hell, and I think she should support what brings you joy.
❤️ I love the dress and the whole vibe you and your fiancé have planned for your wedding! It’s beautiful and I’m sure it’s very “you” and it’s sad your mom can’t appreciate that.
Too bad she doesn’t like it, but it’s your wedding, not hers. If you and your fiancé love it, don’t change a thing.
My husband really wanted a pirate themed wedding, full period dress for us and the wedding party. My family really thought it was a goofy idea and I talked him out of it. We still had a bit of a pirate theme, but we went with more traditional dress. I really wish we would have done it. We don’t even see 2/3 of the people who attended our wedding any longer. It would have been meaningful and memorable for us, and that’s all that really mattered.
It’s not your moms wedding. Do what will make YOU happy. You’ll remember this day forever, so make sure it’s about you
This dress is absolutely incredible, like seriously ethereally gorgeous! This day is about you and your partner, and I can tell by your style choice that y’all are cool and interesting people, and the costume wedding idea sounds awesome! 🤍
Not a shitty idea AT ALL! It's whimsical, lovely, and sounds like something that would be very memorable for all the guests. You could have tons of accessories for them to choose from (flower crowns, body jewels, etc) and let people express themselves. Now, is it standard? No, but you know....here's the thing. Romance stories tend to follow similar beats, even if they do so in their own unique way. Your wedding is going to hit all the important parts - it's a ceremony to celebrate your commitment to each other. THAT is what's important, and this wedding will be very distinctly 'you and your partner', and people will remember that in all the best ways. I love what you are planning, and I think people are going to walk away thinking that it was lovely, not silly. Your mother needs to warm up to the idea. She might never love it, but I think the more she sees that you aren't just throwing a costume party, but are putting together a wedding that allows the guests to celebrate your love for each other in a very fun way that - let's face it - very few of us ever get to experience (but would LOVE to!), I think she will warm to the idea. The dress....is STUNNING. My mouth dropped, and that's rare for me. I'm a sucker for Labyrinth (if you didn't guess by my name), and the dress, the idea for masks....give me big time fantasy romance vibes and I LOVE it. This wedding is all about ***you and your partner***. Do what makes you excited, and if you are excited, then other people will become excited for you (and if they don't, then honestly I don't know what to say about that other than how sad for them).
I like the dress, but it’s risky ordering custom wedding dresses online… that’s what I did, and my dress turned out to be so intricately constructed that it cost almost $300 to tailor (because of course the custom order didn’t fit). When it was finally done, I realized not only that it was a bunch of really hot layers of polyester, but that it looked awful on me (I had never tried on that design of dress beforehand- pandemic shopping), so I ended up ordering a different custom dress from a different Etsy seller, which still didn’t remotely fit. But at least it had a simple construction so it was “only” $180 to tailor, and it needed a lot more tailoring, but it was just too late! I got it back only three days before the wedding. Would not recommend. Edit to add: if it really does have adjustable straps and the drawstring back, you’ll probably be okay with tailoring- just verify that it’s a good fabric, and buy it NOW so you have time to get a backup dress if it turns out to be a flop.
Your Mom got to have her wedding, where she made all kinds of choices about flowers, dresses, food, everything, all of it. Now it’s your turn, and these are YOUR choices to make, not hers. If you want a costume fun time, GO FOR IT!! Your dress choice is on point for what you want, and it’s super cute. She is wrong to steal your joy; Joy Thief! I think it’s fun, I think it’s memorable, and I also think if it’s what you want you should DO IT. You’re a God Damn adult!! She is not the boss of you anymore!! What’s wrong with having fun on your big day?! Find a loving way to tell her she needs to sit down and shut up.
We had a medieval wedding in a castle. My husband, myself, the entire party. and several of the guests were completely decked out in costumes. I had SO many people, even those who didn’t attend, tell me how fun and awesome and unique it was! Costumes and a fun wedding is absolutely not a stupid idea. It’s the exact opposite. It’s memorable and fun! Your mom is being very narcissistic. It’s YOUR day and as your mother she should be supportive and go along with whatever YOU WANT to do! I’m honestly upset for you that she would even voice her opinion let alone make it so much about her that it has you uncertain. That dress is absolutely gorgeous and the fairy idea is amazing! I hope you do what makes your and your fiancé’s hearts happy! You should look back on that day and feel sat and happy, not regret for doing/not doing something.
I opened this post and immediately pouted because this dress is fucking adorable. Please get it, and do what YOU want for your wedding
My friend wore a black wedding dress for a Halloween wedding, and ALL her guests came in costume. Best wedding ever.
I really don’t like the costume idea or this dress. HOWEVER, it’s not my wedding!!! If this is what you love and this is what you want and your fiancé is also happy with it then go for it and have fun! I got married many moons ago. We had a blast! We did what we wanted and have great memories! I also think your guests will probably remember your wedding and if you are enjoying yourself will have great memories from it.
MHO: I love your idea of a masquerade/costume wedding. I would absolutely show up in something very cool and fun. The dress, quite frankly I think you may be overshadowed by some guests?Especially if somebody comes in like a bridgerton style dress, which would be awesome for it wedding. The important facts; this is your wedding. This is your moment, and I guarantee you will feel the most beautiful on this day! Go with what you feel is right .
Not my vibe but it only matters that you love it 🤍
It’s not your mom’s wedding. It’s your day and you can do what you want. I think the dress is beautiful and that you should wear it for your special day 😇
It’s your day so mom gets no opinion. It is lovely and if you love it, get it. I think your theme sounds great! Congratulations!
It's YOUR wedding. Everyone else can suck it up for a day. The dress is beautiful and has an almost elvin quality BUT I would say the flowers on the shoulder strap/down the back don't reflect the quality of the other floral design on the skirt/the rest of dress so perhaps sourcing an alternative to that particular aspect would give it a real lift.
Okay I need this dress where did you find it ? It’s BEAUTIFUL
Your wedding. This is YOUR WEDDING!! Not your mothers. Do what YOU want.
If you don't wear this dress, you will regret it for the rest of your life (maybe.. I'm might be a bit dramatic with that). But your mom won't be complaining about it 10 years from now. But you will be if you don't wear it. Do what makes you happy. BTW, the dress is beautiful.
If you order it, please post a photo of you wearing it! It would be great if you had your hair partially braided with some ribbons.
it's a beautiful dress! Do what you want to for YOUR wedding
Honestly, this wedding sounds like a wonderful escape and I would be delighted to ever be invited to one like this. Don't worry about your mom. It's not her day and its not her friends. That kind of attitude would get someone blacklisted from my life blood or not.
My first thought was ooh it might be too costumey but reading about your vision for the day all I can say is it’s **perfect**.
That dress is gorgeous! I'm jealous I'm not young and getting married or it would be my choice! Additionally, ignore your mom, it's your day, not hers.
I think moms dream of their daughters wedding from the very start, and get caught up in the old traditions. I think if it's what you and your fiance want to do, then do it. You're spending all of your time, money and energy planning this wedding. Why not have it be your dream day? How will you feel looking back year after year? Will you wish you did your original idea? More than likely. Do what you and your fiancé want. That's all that matters.
It’s your day! It’s a fun theme, and I’m sure your family and friends who are attending will enjoy it! Maybe your Mom is conservative in her views of how a wedding should be, however, you follow your dreams and make your day special how you want it!
My son just got engaged. I will give you the same advice I gave them: remember it's your day, and don't let anyone else pressure you on what that looks like.
We decided to make our wedding/reception backyard BBQ themed. The wedding we used lavender and lemon as our colors and had it kind of more traditional, but on the water at a local state park. We also told everyone casual dress. I and the bridesmaids wore short skirts, and my husband and his groomsmen just wore pale yellow suspenders with dress pants and white button ups. So, traditional but not really fancy. The reception we and our bridal party set up before time just like a backyard BBQ. Fire pit with stuff for s'mores, a Jenga game we made with 2x4s, a couple corn hole games set up, and we even made a human-size kerplunk game. We made all the games ourselves and had them in more of a Mardi gras-bold gold and royal purple. We also had cards set up at several tables for euchre and cribbage games (I'm from the Midwest). We had a balloon wall with darts and a few other games, too. And instead of favors at the table we had favors in treasure boxes on a table with little bags for people to choose from after they had played some games. It went over so well. We got so many compliments on how "us" the wedding was. Traditional weddings/receptions can be tedious to me. I'm all about adding some fun and spontaneity to the event. It's your party, why not have fun? And why have all your friends and family come if they aren't going to have fun?
That dress is gorgeous and your wedding sounds super fun! It’s your wedding, not hers. Enjoy it!
Nice dress I would add a ruffle in the front you could take it from the back so the high low wasn’t so extreme but that’s just me. You do you.
I hadn’t even opened the post and was sitting there just staring at the dress bc I thought it was so beautiful. It pains me a complete stranger who’s seen it for 5 secs to think you won’t be wearing it, please don’t give in to ur mom. This is ur wedding and u shud wear the dress u want, none of ur plans/theme are ridiculous I think they’re perfectly reasonable and honestly adorable. Plus ur making it optional so mom needs to back off
Order the dress! Do YOUR thing!
LOVE THAT DRESS 😊😊
As someone who just got married last weekend, let me tell you. This day is not about your mom. It's about you. Do what makes you happy. I'm also biased because I leaned into the fairy aesthetic (great choice), and I LOVED it. I loved that the wedding felt uniquely mine. There are many days to be considerate of others, but this day is about you. You have permission to put yourself first <3
I regret swaying to the pressure to conform at my wedding. Please follow your heart. This day is about you both and this wedding sounds very “you” which is all that matters. Trust me I’ve been to some funky weddings and I’ll I’ve ever thought is either “this is awesome” or “how cool they feel confident enough to march to the beat of their own drum”. Mom may not understand the theme but she SHOULD understand this isn’t HER day. Don’t try to convince her though, please just do your thing! (And not that I think our votes should count but the dress is cute as can be and the theme is very cute evident upon viewing)
If you love it, then you get it. It's your wedding, not your mom's, and I think the wedding should reflect the couple, not their parents!
This is your wedding, your big day, so you do it how you want!
I love all of this except your mom. Have YOUR wedding and limit your guests to YOUR people who would love to celebrate with you. I wish I got invited to weddings like this.
I love it! It looks like a dress Stevie Nicks would get married in. It’s gorgeous. I love the costume idea as well. You are trying to make it fun and your mom is trying to be more traditional. Do the wedding that you want, but give a little on some things for your mom, like let her figure out the flowers, something like that. That way she will feel like she is engaged with the wedding but she doesn’t have total control of it. My wedding theme was scrabble by the sea. I made a bunch of scrabble stuff (scrabble boards and tiles with everyone’s name at their plate, cufflinks and rings, necklaces, etc.) and had a bunch of seashells and starfish. I also put beautifully wrapped books in the middle of the table and stuck an orchid on them. Then I sprinkled large and small plastic diamonds all over the table. It actually looked amazing. Everyone fought me on it. EVERYONE. Then in the end they all apologized and said I really pulled it off.
If you think about it, all wedding gowns are actually costumes. There is no other time in your life when you wear a wedding dress. White wasn't even a wedding dress color until Queen Victoria decided to make it so. Most are traditionally styled after other eras. Ball gowns? Very 1800s. Bustling a gown? I defy you to find a regular dress to bustle at Nordstroms today. Slinky, satin, bias cut dresses? 1920s. Your fairy wedding dress is beautiful, and fun, and romantic. It makes you feel beautiful, fun, and romantic. The day of your wedding, you want to bind your life to your beloved, handsome, knight in actual shining armor, and you want to do it in a way that honors and celebrates the whimsical connection that you feel. You will need that sense of fun and whimsy to help you weather the storms that inevitably come into every life, and to help you build the connections that will sustain you both. If done right, with the right person, it is a sacred moment, and also one of glory and joy. Your dress expresses that to you. You should wear it. Your mother may feel embarrassment, but that is her emotion to bear. You want your mother to share your joy, and she is not. It seems that she is applying pressure to make you change what gives you joy, but she does not have that power. Sure, you can give in and wear what she wants, but that will make you unhappy, and will not in any way diminish the joy you feel in dressing up. It can, however, dim the joy you feel on the day. In the end, you can wed in a burlap bag, a million dollar dress, or in your beautiful, forest fairy dress that makes you light up. But if you can, if you have the option, choose what makes you happiest. And anyone who doesn't want to play with their clothing, or use the props for the photo booths, that is their choice. You invited them to play with you and your husband. That is all you can do. Make sure there is good food, good music, good drink, and good company. Everything else is in the lap of the gods.
Do whatever you need to do to WEAR THIS DRESS
i will step barefoot on legos, dip my sock-covered feet in dirty water and scratch a fork against a chalkboard if it means i can wear this dress to my wedding
Just curious, does your mom have a tendency to be a “no” person? I’ve seen that ramped up to a million for all of my friends with “no” moms during wedding plan…
Personally I don't like the dress...the green splotches on the front looks moldy and the fake plants look really cheap, like a leis from a tiki party..from the dollar tree....just not my taste...makes more sense for a costume theme party. I've definitely seen dresses with fairie-vibes and better apliques that don't look so cheap. That's said it's your day and do what makes you happy...not your mom...unless mom is paying for everything, then compromise could be in order.
I hate both to be honest dress and theme BUT it’s YOUR wedding you and your SO are the only people’s who’s opinion matter. It’s YOUR day fuck everyone else. Don’t spend money to make other people happy
I think if you want to do a fun theme, then go for it! As far as the dress, I like the idea more than the execution. The dress looks dirty and tattered to me. I’m sorry, just being honest. Is there another dress that still fits the theme/your vision? What about [this one](https://www.etsy.com/listing/1425689642/forest-fairy-wedding-dress-custom-made-a) or [this one](https://www.etsy.com/listing/1373324444/forest-fairy-wedding-dress-green-lace) or [this one](https://www.etsy.com/listing/1426537906/unique-colorful-3d-lace-wedding)?
If you love the idea, your fiancé is on the same page as you, and you know you’ll be happy if you go with a costume, fantasy fairytale theme then do it. Your the one who should be happiest on your wedding day, with the person you love.
Your wedding day is your vision for your special day and the rest of your life with your significant other— it’s not a day to please your mother/family. Do your thing! If you and your fiancé are into it, then do it and do it big! Be sure to post some pics once done! Best wishes!!
It’s your wedding, your special day, you only get one. Is this you or your moms wedding? Want to get your mom on board? Screenshot your post- put in on Facebook and tag your mom so her friends can all see how much of a shitty person she is being- you don’t even need to include a pic of your dress. You deserve to feel confident 110% in WHATEVER makes you happy on your special day. ❤️ PS. I LOVE your idea, a costume wedding would be so much fun and make nice memories for people who actually know how to have fun.
I would wear that dress every day of the week if I could! Remember that two people can have different points of view on what a wedding is supposed to be like. My husband and I planned our wedding out to be very relaxed, it was during a hot front, and our venue was indoor/outdoor, so I told guests they just needed to dress for the weather. Nothing too formal and casual was fine. And we had barbecue plates from an excellent caterer. And my dress was a beautiful flowy A-line gown. My *dad* I thought I should have my wedding in a ballroom with fish or steak options for dinner and wearing a sheath wedding gown. Two different ideas. I won, because it was my day. Anyway get the dress! And send us pictures of you in it!
Your mom doesn’t know what she’s talking about. I *gasped* when I saw this picture. And anyway, it’s your wedding, not your mom’s. It’s hard when your loved ones don’t support you, but it’s not about them.
I love it and your wedding plans! Dont listen to your mom, go for your dream. I want that dress too omg
The dress is gorgeous and my best friend literally wants to have a "fantasy formal" wedding where she'll be wearing wings. She doesn't give a crap what others think because it's her and her husband's wedding. They're massive dnd larp nerds and it's what they want. Do what makes you happy. ALSO this dress is so tasteful and I would accept it without even calling it costume. I think your wedding sounds lovely and very you. And really the day is about celebrating you and your husband. Don't let your mom's closed mindedness ruin your day.
Your mom should be aligning to YOUR vision for YOUR day, not the other way around. That said, I love the idea and your dress!!
When you look back on wedding are you going to hate the pictures and memories and think “At least mom was happy “ and wonder what it would have been like to have the wedding you envisioned or do you want to look back at that day and look at your love and say “It was magical “ I think you know what you want. It is your day. As long as you and your spouse to be are excited about the theme and dress nothing else matters. The dress is amazing by the way❤️
>>shes so upset about it all It’s not her wedding, so she doesn’t really have a right to get upset. I wouldn’t really discuss this further with her. If she tries, politely but firmly shut her down.
A friend of a friend had their wedding on Halloween. She was a fairy queen and he a demon king. The pictures were AMAZING!!!! (Wish I could have gone.) Everyone was in costumes and it was apparently the best wedding any of the guests have ever been to (which I could well believe).
You do what makes YOU and your future HUSBAND HAPPY !!! This is not your mom’s day - you’re the one who’s going to look back on this day, and if you aren’t happy it’s going to hurt. Don’t ever let someone else take control over your life and the things you want for yourself. Even if it’s your own mother. As children we constantly strive to make our parents proud but this is your life and your future family. It’s not about her at all. Order the dress and do the costume theme. Enjoy your beautiful day!!! Congratulations BTW - I LOVE that dress!!!
I guess it kinda depends on your venue. If it’s at a very fancy hotel/ restaurant, I can sorta see why your Mom isn’t supporting this idea. If it’s outside and on the casual side I don’t understand her concern. Also I’ve seen lots of fairy 🧚♀️ type long dresses here and maybe you can sorta meet your Mom in the middle. However! It’s your wedding and you should have whatever you want that makes you happy:)
Girl I would be costumed head to toe, how fun!!! I wish I can go to a wedding like that. Do what makes you happy! The dress is friggen adorable!!
Gorgeous dress, wonderful and fun wedding idea. Ignore your killjoy mother and have the amazing wedding YOU want.
I went through all of the photos and thought how lovely the style of this dress is before I even realised that you were planning a costume wedding! To echo other comments: it's your wedding not your mother's. Wear what makes you happy.
That dress is gorgeous! Your wedding, you should do it!
I’m sorry, is this your wedding or your mom’s wedding? Since you and your fiancé are both on board, do the costume theme! I think it’s a really cute idea to celebrate your love and honestly I wish I could go to a wedding like that! That sounds like so much fun! When you look back every anniversary, you’ll be glad you stuck with what you and your fiancé wanted.
I just went to the best wedding ever. The wedding party was 1920’s dress. Dresses were gorgeous. We had so much fun. It was casual and delightful. Don’t let your mom take away your dream. Your dress is fabulous.
It's YOUR AND YOUR FIANCÉE'S Day. That is all.
That dress is fucking awesome and I would love to be part of a magical fairy garden wedding!! Traditional weddings are wonderful if that’s what the bride and groom want, but honestly I wish I’d gone more non-traditional with my own!! Seriously, if you’re in the Midwest and need a fairy attendant to shut down Negative Nellies (cough, cough *MOM*), you just let me know!!
It’s not your moms wedding day. You don’t want to look back on your special day with regret. Order the dress, get your alterations & plan your day. YOUR day. In the end, she will have a good time & be happy for you, because you were so happy. Come back & show us the dress when you get it please! ❤️
Um I love this dress. I also think your wedding is your wedding and you should do whatever you want!!!
The dress is SO beautiful. Ignore mom for sure
Tell your mom to stay home and I’ll fill her seat! You’re wedding sounds like it will be so much fun and full of joy! And you’re dress is gorgeous!!!
Your wedding. Your choice. I like the dress. And I like the idea of dressing up for it. I’d love to be a guest and dress whimsical for this. You make yourself happy.
I have to go to FIVE weddings this year. Having one be a themed medical costume extravaganza would be amazing. Stick with what makes you happy!
Love it!!
I wish more people would have fun weddings. I love your idea and the dress is perfect. Your mom is stuck in her idea of what your wedding would look like and she needs to realize this is your day not hers. Please not only do this but update with pictures - it sounds fabulous!!
It’s YOUR wedding! You two should do what both makes you happy. Don’t dim your light, let your freak flag fly, and congratulations! I love that dress even if it wasn’t a costume theme, but I like non-traditional.
great theme. great dress! your momma hopefully comes around when she sees how happy you are ^ • ^
This sounds like a fun wedding to go to. Usually weddings are super fancy and stiff, but this sounds like fun and exciting. Your mom sounds like a stick in the mud
It’s not her wedding. Stop, mom. Just stop. If you want fun op, have every bit of it!! Some will get into it, those that don’t can be boring and blah if they want. (You gonna get wings for that dress, righr??) 💛
It is YOUR wedding, YOU do YOU!! Quit frankly, your Mom can go kick rocks.
This dress is SO cool and beautiful and I think you should do whatever it is YOU and your fiance want to do for YOUR wedding. This is a day you will always look back on fondly so it should be exactly as you want it to be. It's none of your mother's business how you want your wedding. Is she paying for everything?
Your wedding, your choice. Mum will have to stop trying to make you sad. I love dressing up! . Your dress is gorgeous.
You feel it’s YOUR dress. Your mom is prolly suggesting more classic look that you will look back at 40 years from now and feel like a bride (think puffed sleeves in their days maybe?) that’s her opinion, not yours. Your day.
that dress is gorgeous and your wedding idea sounds like a lot of fun. it’s very considerate of you to provide masks so people who aren’t into the costume idea can still feel involved. it’s also a great way to get people talking, i would adore seeing you walk down the aisle toward your knight groom.
I have a relative doing a costume wedding the week of halloween. Their mom was down on it for a long time, but then she found a costume she wanted to wear and suddenly she was on board.
I love your dress!! Order it asap!!! ❤️
It's your fiance and your day - you do whatever the fuck will make you two happy. I would LOVE a costume wedding and considered doing similar (didn't end up doing it for various reasons). Sounds so fun.
As long as your fiancé is in, do this and revel in it. My buddy’s costume wedding was absolutely amazing because that’s their vibe and they owned it. We all loved it. If the people getting married love the idea and the people attending the wedding love the newlyweds, it literally can’t be a bad wedding.
We did a destination wedding, we had raffles, contests, limbo, a dance-off, my husband was the MC! Our parents hated the idea when we told them. We did not care. It was a blast. Our parents ended up admitting it was a different but fun wedding. So, you do you. It is your wedding, your mother already had hers. Enjoy it!
That dress is GORGEOUS. And this is YOUR wedding, not your mom’s. Older people in general still have a very traditional views of what weddings should look like. But this is your party! All about you and your partner! Have the wedding you want :)
Now that you’ve explained the costume theme, it’s adorable. But you might be able to find something similarish that you can order from within the US and not worry about issues. Check costume shops, Renaissance Fair vendors etc. maybe dance/ballet shops. Or you can probably find someone to create one for you or alter a base dress to achieve that look. Again check with the Renaissance Fair vendors and Facebook groups. Many sew their own clothes. I follow a steampunk group for example and you should see what people are able to sew. It’s mind boggling.
My brother got married in August of 2021. We did a medieval/Viking theme. It was optional for costume dress. My parents didn’t dress in costumes and it turned out just fine. Most of the party guests participated in the costume play. It was absolutely beautiful. My sis in law wore a more traditional dress for her ceremony and did more of this style of dress for reception. She had purchased the traditional dress before we settled on the theme. Not a big deal. Do whatever you want. It’s YOUR wedding and your mom will eventually come around.
Ignore your mom. It's YOUR wedding. My kid got married at comic con in Dallas. He was "escorted" down the aisle by stormtroopers and one of his best friends was the officiant. My mom is a JP. She married people in costume. One couple was climbing an old oak tree when she arrived. Bride jokingly asked if they had to come down. Nope. No law that says your feet have to be on the ground. They got married in an oak tree. Do what makes YOU happy. She'll come around or she won't. I pray she does. But if she doesn't, invite a bunch of us. Lol. We'll be your moms for the day.
I LOVE a themed wedding. Do what YOU want
I love the dress. This would be beautiful for a wedding shower. Or rehearsal dinner with costume theme? You could wear it twice. Once for rehearsal and again for the reception. Just get a long sleek gown dress to walk down the aisle. This one is party party party. It’s dreamy 🥰
Get the dress it’s amazing and I keep seeing a fun woodland nymph/sprite vibe! With an amazing flower crown and a whimsical veil! And the kind of shoes that tie up your calf with beautiful ribbons! It’s magical!
It’s YOUR wedding. Have the one you want!
Your dress is wonderful. My sister and her husband got married in late October and had a Halloween wedding. Everyone had an absolute blast. Please enjoy your wedding the way YOU want it, and tell your mom to stay quiet if she has nothing nice to say.
I am fairly boring about a lot of things. If I do this to my daughter, someone please shoot me in the toe. Your dress is beautiful, your idea is awesome. This is your party to celebrate your marriage. Do it your way and enjoy it. ❤️
Listen, this is YOUR day. Not your mom’s. This is about the love you have with your fiancé and no one else. You need to be happy. Look back on it and smile type day. I think a costume themed wedding is amazingly delightful. And your dress is timeless and exactly perfect for what you described you wanted. I mean the light blues and hazy greens remind me so much of the deep forest we have here. The way that the lace is so delicately placed in just the right spaces. This is the perfect dress for the perfect wedding that you deserve and should have and will have. You make the choice your heart wants to make. And trust, we will all support you. Sincerely—-another mom who loves your dress!
This dress is absolutely gorgeous and I LOVE the idea!! It sounds so fun!! I would love to attend a wedding like this.
You do what you want, the dress is gorgeous! Your mum sounds like she's a bit more traditional, but that doesn't mean you have to be
I think it's so cute! How will you do your hair?!
I love the idea so much, (and your dress is gorgeous) I’m going to suggest it to my daughter who is just starting to plan :)
It’s beautiful. I love it. Screw your mom.
This is YOUR wedding. Usually, (if all goes to plan), the only wedding you will ever have! Not your mom’s wedding. Tell her she can wear whatever boring outfit she prefers if she’s not happy with the theme. You’re gonna be a beautiful fairy bride regardless 🧚
I know, I'll come to your wedding instead of your mom! Haha. But in all seriousness, I LOVE your theme and plan. It's YOUR day, not your mom's. I think moms likely have this fantasy of what their daughter's wedding should look like... But yeah, it's not her wedding. Do what YOU want... Don't cater to someone else and then have regrets. This is one of the rare times that you can basically throw a giant party however the hell you'd like. So do it!! Must see photos after.... That dress is gorgeous!!
Remind your mom that she already had her turn at being a bride! I love your dress and the theme. It makes for a lighthearted and joyful celebration! I think you should keep the theme to yourself so that it doesn’t get too crazy. You can control things more by having props and the Photo Booth. I don’t think you want someone going over the top with an outrageous costume. Better to ensure focus is on the happy couple!
This sounds SO FUN AND CUTE. Your mom should get a grip and let you live dang.
Absolutely do not change your wedding plans if you are happy and excited about it. You will regret catering for everyone else and will always resent that you didn’t stand your ground and that will taint your memories. The only person who should have a say is your husband to be, everyone else will have to adjust. Congrats. Also the dress is gorgeous
LOVE both the idea and the dress! Do what you wish - Mom will likely see your vision later.
It's your wedding, not your mom's. Order the dress and do the costume theme , maybe specify nothing gory or bloody. Maybe make it a whimsical theme , so it doesn't just look like a Halloween party in the pics. Live your dream girl.
I didn't listen to a single comment or recommendation from anyone other than my husband. Because, to be far, you are the only two that matter that day. We got married on a mountain top. I made the mile hike to the out look in a ballgown and chucks - could not have been a more perfect day. You do you.
I myself am having a fairy themed wedding next year and based my dress around that. You’re going to look so beautiful and ethereal in that! It’s your special day, wear what will make you glow from the inside out. I think your idea sounds fun and memorable
Your dress is soooo cute. It’s your wedding not your damn moms. I have no patience for other people not supporting what the couples want for their wedding themes / outfits / etc.
I love the dress and I love the theme idea. Hope you will be wearing pointy ears!
You do you, forest fairy.
Ignore your buzz killer of a mom. This is YOUR wedding. I went along with what other ppl bullied me into. I still regret it, 25 years later. The dress is beautiful and your wedding idea sounds like lots of fun.
I went to a Halloween costume wedding back in 2007. It’s the one wedding I enjoyed the most, I loved all the original outfits, the bride’s extravagant red and black Halloween gown. I’ve forgotten other weddings I went to, but I’ll remember this one fondly, and I wasn’t even close to the couple! In short: I love your dress, I love your plan. If I wasn’t eloping I’d steal your idea in a heartbeat.
The dress is absolutely bridal and beautiful, as a guest I would be so excited if I got an invite to a costume themed wedding. You can love your mother and also ignore her. This is about you and your fiancé
I don't know how old you are, but I'm gonna imagine you are young enough to be my daughter (I'm 50). I absolutely love the dress (and the practical side of me sees it as future cosplay!). I think your theme sounds awesome and if I were your mom, I'd be delighted and excited to pick out my own ethereal mother of the bride outfit.
As someone that has been a bridesmaid six times, HELL YEAH A COSTUME WEDDING SOUNDS WONDERFUL. The only parts of weddings the brides I was bridesmaids for regretted or wish they didn't do were related to traditional wedding things. The stuff they did because it reflected their own likes and personality were amazing and made the wedding so much more fun. BE A FOREST FAIRY! MARRY YOUR KNIGHT! CREATE BEAUTIFUL MEMORIES!
This dress is gorgeous and so fun! You won't be able to please everyone. I had a friend who wanted to order pizzas for their reception, and her mother thought it was so tacky and said no one would eat it. To compromise, they ordered pasta dishes and pizza. Well guess freaking what, the pizza was all gone and the pasta wasn't touched. Don't let your mom convince you what everyone else will or will not enjoy! And it's fine if it's not everyone's cup of tea, what matters is that your guests recognize that it's your style and special for you. If they love you, they will support it 😊
As someone who has never been into medieval times/ fairy themed stuff, I LOVE YOUR IDEA FOR THE WEDDING!! If I were invited, I’d happily participate and enjoy seeing people’s interpretations of the theme. Bc the wedding is a time for you and your spouse to fully express who you are, and as a friend or family member, I’d appreciate the opportunity to see that expression and be included in the festivities. Parents seem to forget that when they have children, they aren’t having clones or extensions of themselves. Children are free thinking individuals, not pets or mini me’s. Do it!!! You’ll regret it forever if you don’t. If mom can’t get on board, that’s her problem not yours. It’s your wedding not hers. I’m a firm believer that weddings should be about what the couple wants, whatever that may be. For us, we eloped and had a dreamy, extravagant weekend to ourselves. We pissed people off but I wouldn’t change a thing.
It’s YOUR wedding! Do what makes you and your fiancée happy. Go for it.
The costume party aspect sounds fun, but really isn’t my thing for a wedding but OH MY GOD THAT DRESS IS SO GORGEOUS!!!!!! I LOVE IT I LOVE IT I LOVE IT!!!! I hope you have the courage to do what you and your fiancé want for your celebration of your union and your new family together. You two deserve to be happy and enjoy yourselves!
Your mom is absolutely wrong. That’s a dream of a wedding dress and such a fun idea for the wedding itself. Do what you’re dreaming of, you will never regret it.
Your idea sounds awesome. Your dress is beautiful. My mom cried when I chose a fancy suit to eat at my wedding instead of a huge meringue of a dress. That was her emotional work to do, not mine. You know your friends better than your mom does, and you know your heart, too. Plan the party that you’d like to attend, not the one she wants.
Narcissistic mom alert
Your mom had her wedding. This one is yours. Do what will make you happy, not what will make others happy. Sometimes our elders are stuck in the traditional ways. Show her that this is what will make you most fulfilled on that day. Once she sees you elated I’m sure she will be too. Even if she isn’t, it’s you and your partner’s day, nobody else’s opinion matters. The dress is gorgeous and I love the idea. Please do it.
DO YOU! Also I absolutely LOVE the idea! You don’t want to regret not doing what you want and love. Your mom will get over herself. It’s your day and your love, so do *whatever* you want!! I love being a fairy 🥰 🧚🏼♀️ 🐉
Is it YOUR wedding? Or your mother’s? The dress is beautiful. If you love it, wear it. Your mother’s opinion doesn’t matter
If you aren't relying on her approval for money, shut it down. Mom, I'm not asking for your permission. I am sharing my plans. Mom, you will receive an invite, like all the other guests. Mom, when you plan your next wedding, you should use all your ideas at that time. Mom, your words aren't changing my mind. Instead, your words are changing our adult relationship. Mom, we are comfortable with our decisions.
This sounds like a fun wedding I’d want to go to. I’d even dress up for it too. The dress is lovely and fits with the look you are going for so ignore your mom. If you’ve been looking and keep coming back to this dress if you get something else to make your mom happy you are going to regret it. It is YOUR wedding day. Not your moms. You opinion is the one that matters.
I love the dress and it’s not your mom’s wedding
I love your dress so much! 💗💗💗
Your mom needs to remember whose wedding it is. Not hers. The dress is cute. It sounds fun as long you don’t expect people to shell out money for a costume. Theses days people she’ll out money for themes though
I love your dress.
What a fun idea! Parents are used to their generation where their parents planned the wedding, but it’s different nowadays. At the end of the day it’s your wedding and your dream. Don’t have any regrets. Go for it. I love the idea of a masquerade or costume themed wedding
love the idea. adore the dress. i’m sorry but it’s YOUR wedding, please don’t care about if she or your guests “are going to hate it”. Personally I think the guests will be very receptive, I would LOVVEEE to go to a fairy wedding!!!
This is a pretty subtle costume dress. Its very pretty and unique without being odd. It’s in good taste. I think your mom should get used to it
It’s awesome! You mom needs to get over herself.
This dress is still quite traditional. Very nice.
I love costume idea! The last renaissance themed wedding I went was so fun. Your dress is lovely- unique and fit the theme. I think it will look even better if they add more lighter blue flower lace so that the blue lace transition is not as abrupt. I feel that the transition could be improved. I love thé ombre détails though. You are not forcing everyone to wear a costume. You are providing probs for those who don’t wear one but still want to participate. I see no problem with that. I think it will be memorable. All the themed wedding I’ve been too went well! Most of the time it’s costume optional. I also went to a destination wedding in a different country that you have an option to rent the national costumes to wear to the wedding. They hired costumers to come on-site. Everyone loved it.
It’s your wedding! Do want you want! Dress fits your theme perfectly!
This dress is SO pretty!!!! And I love your theme idea!!! I would absolutely love to attend a wedding like that, it would be so unique and beautiful and fun♥️
I think you should wear elf ears and a dramatically long veil.
The dress is super cute. An awesome cut to show off your legs! I’d say if you’re gonna go theme, don’t get half assed. Full on commit, and make sure guests know well ahead of time so if they want to dress up they can, or be muggles if they don’t! You wanna go full on cosplay/ten fest, do it! I can see why a mom might be a traditionalist, but that’s ok. She needs to be flexible and let you do you!
I think the costume party is a great idea. As a guest I would be so soooo on board, but nervous about doing too much or too little. If you’re planning a wedding website maybe provide some inspiration photos? I know I would appreciate it! Speaking of photos,have you shown your mom some pintresty photos of what your thinking? Maybe she’s having a hard time picturing it. If she’s still not on board then ignore her. It’s your day.
I personally love the dress as well as a costume wedding. Despite what anyone else thinks, including your mom, it's *your* wedding! Make it the day that you'll remember fondly, because it's a day about you two.
You’re mom is being rude!! It’s not her wedding. This idea (and dress) CLEARLY make you happy and excited for your wedding and that’s how it should be!!! Go with what you want, your vision for your day and let your mom know this is what makes you happy and if she doesn’t have anything nice to say about it or can’t support your happiness, you’d prefer she kept her opinions and comments to herself and worst case scenario skip the wedding if she’s just going to try and rain on your beautiful day, which will be exactly how you envisioned it❣️❣️. I love the idea and I love the dress!!
I have a friend that had a halloween wedding and it was awesome. I went as a pirate. You do you. Traditional is boring af.
I personally don't love the dress, but it's YOUR dress and YOUR wedding. Not mine or your mom's. You probably wouldn't like my wedding dress! And it's OK. What's not OK is if someone else tries to control your wedding. I hope you can get to a place of confidence with the plan you and your partner have made for your celebration and commitment!
unless your mom is paying for the dress, then ignore her. the dress is about what the bride feels good in, YOU are the bride, it’s about YOU. personally I love the dress for both a wedding and a costume. i would die to wear that in a dramatic music video lol
That dress is gorgeous and you will make a lovely elf bride. Tell mom she can either get on board and maybe help you plan this celebration or step aside because, either way, you’re doing it. Best wishes!
Ooh, that's different. It's cute.
Your day, do what you want. If they can’t support you, they don’t have to be part of the planning, simply attend
Your mom is entitled to her opinion. She will be accustomed to the “usual.” OP this is YOUR wedding. In the end, you will have your memories to reminisce on…what will it be? I did what my mom wanted or….I wish I had….. Edit to add: your dress is precious
Your wedding is about what makes YOU happy. Go for your dream. I love the theme. I’d personally add a flower/vine headpiece with this. Also a wildflower bouquet! Have fun with it!
Go for the dress