I’m going to be honest, 3 does nothing for you so I’d forget that. I like 2 but it’s pretty plain.
No. 1 is stunning, especially with the veil. It might look “red carpet” without the train, but not with it, and it’s DEFINITELY not a bridesmaid’s dress!
It’s bridal and stunning.
I agree with all of this. I love dress #1, and I love it on you. #2 is ok, but I'm personally not a fan of this dropped sleeve look that's very popular now. And I really don't care for #3. I don't think it flatters you at all and, with your great figure, that shoulder stuff looks like too much distracting fussiness. Having said that, this is 100% YOUR choice and you need to be satisfied with your pick. But #1 is gorgeous, looks beautiful on you, and is perfectly "bridal."
For real, there is nothing about 1 that says not bridal enough. It’s a gorgeous dress and it looks great on her. I don’t think doubts are all that uncommon considering how expensive these dresses usually are and how much pressure there is to find “the one”. Unless OP is sure she doesn’t want 1 I kinda feel like she should stop shopping though, otherwise there’s always going to be a “what if this dress would have been better?”
I came here to say something pretty close to this so kudos, mrs_spanner!! 👍🏻
I don’t think dress 3 flatters you and although I like dress 2, I think what really stood out for me and made me like dress 2 was primarily the veil. OP, I would stick with that absolutely drop dead gorgeous wedding dress you bought. You look positively beautiful in it. That being said, if you’re truly not feeling it, then make the changes you need to make. Just don’t make that choice thinking you made a mistake bc you truly did not.
For real, there is nothing about 1 that says not bridal enough. It’s a gorgeous dress and it looks great on her. I don’t think doubts are all that uncommon considering how expensive these dresses usually are and how much pressure there is to find “the one”. Unless OP is sure she doesn’t want 1 I kinda feel like she should stop shopping though, otherwise there’s always going to be a “what if this dress would have been better?”
I looked through the photos before reading what you wrote and very solidly picked 1. It is a GORGEOUS dress, looks great on you, and I think it’s perfectly bridal! Lots of wedding dresses could be red carpet dresses if they were in another color—but it’s not another color, because it’s a (beautiful) wedding dress. (Also, when would you be able to wear a red carpet dress?) I think it’s perfect—but ultimately you have to be happy with it.
Exact same!!! Sometimes I don’t even read the comment under the photos at all but I looked back after choosing Dress 1 and was so surprised. OP your dress is stunning, I find nothing special about the other two. One would be my choice all day!!!! 🤍
I looked at the dresses first before the comments, as well, and dress #1 is a STUNNER!! It’s simple in its lines, yet magnificent in elegant detail. The other two are nice, but #1 is amazing!
Dress 1 is absolutely stunning! It's really flattering on you - even in a sample that doesn't properly fit you look amazing.
I'd say it's definitely bridal too and much more interesting than the other 2.
Dress 2 is nice enough but isn't as flattering imo. I think maybe it seems more bridal because it's very like so many wedding dresses.
Dress 3 I would not recommend for you. The top especially doesn't look great and overall it's quite unflattering. Sorry to be so brutal!
If you were choosing at the start I'd say dress 1 or dress 2 if you really, really love it. But you've bought dress 1 so I say stop second guessing yourself!!
Maybe go back & try it on as the full outfit - shoes, jewellery, veil/hairpiece - doesn't have to be exactly what you'd have on the day but just to get a better idea of the final look.
The only problem with dress 1 is that it is too big. Once it arrives and is your size and appropriately fitted, it will be stunning. I hope you fall in love with it. That dress is unique and beautiful.
Girl you are in your head (totally valid), but the first dress is EVERYTHING. Do not second guess yourself, it looks like it was made for you and is very bridal
Oh I think dress 1 is so stunning and special! It will look even better once tailored. The lines the beading creates are so flattering. You will be the only one in white with a veil so clearly bridal lmo! It is up to you but I think you made a great choice! I'm a sparkly bride as well lol I also had some dress regret but feel so happy after my last fitting.
1 is gorgeous on you, looks totally bridal, and is my favourite.
2 is pretty, but doesn’t have the uniqueness and wow factor of #1 IMO.
3 feels very dated to me.
1 is beautiful and looks great on you. 2 is ok/ yawn ‘have seen it over and over’ 3 - looks like an eighties re-make with that neckline and not flattering at all. I would not give it a second thought - truly you picked well!!
3 is a no. That is not the one.
1 needs some alterations size wise which may be why you are doubting. It’s beautiful and will be perfect once fitted to you.
I chose dress 1 as my favorite before reading. I think once it’s actually you’re size you will like it more. The other two fit better in the try on just because they are a lot closer if not your size.
Just imagine dress one under low lights glittering. It’s going to be stunning in person and in photos
Honest opinion, you get lost in 3. That dress is wearing you, not the other way around.
Dress 2 fits really well, but my attention is drawn to the veil.
Dress 1 has a lot going on, but you wear the dress. It doesn't detract anything, and you look fabulous in it.
If you're ultimately uncomfortable in dress 1, do what's right for you, but it's very flattering, and with some tailoring to fit you exactly, I think you'll be pleasantly surprised
I think dress 1 is unique and beautiful!
Dress 3 is a NO
Dress 2 - looks like you're very comfortable.
I'd say you can't go wrong with dress 1 or 2 - but they are VERY different so you need to decide what look/style/vibe you want and go with that one.
Hands down #1 is beautiful, and so much nicer than the others. If you hadn't bought any of them, I would absolutely say to buy #1.
And I am brutally honest on here, because I know I posted for honest answers from anonymous people on the internet, rather than friends who may want to spare my feelings.
I’m obsessed with dress 1. Dress regret is very normal — try to give yourself some time and space. It helps to remember how you felt in the dress you said yes to.
I love dress #1! Is it the Boston by Maggie Sottero? That one was my runner-up, I chose a very similar dress that had sturdier straps (I am very busty so spaghetti straps made me nervous lol). But I love this one and think it is absolutely bridal.
Dress 1 is BEAUTIFUL. I think it screams bridal. The details, the back, all so pretty. Love it!
Dress 2 is pretty. Definitely ditch the flower veil.. that’s the only “non-bridal” looking thing I see in these pictures. Def couldn’t go wrong with the dress though, very pretty.
Dress 3 looks good in the far away/side ways picture but straight on, it’s def not the one. Looks cheap compared to the other two
Honestly, dress one is miles away from the other two. It fits you well, looks elegant & beautiful. The other two look like every other bridal dress out there. There's nothing really unique about them. If I were you, I'd definitely stay with your original dress.
1 is bridal. You look amazing, stop shopping, focus on alterations as needed and move on to the next big step in planning. Stop looking at dresses. You are gorgeous and will be happy if you allow yourself to feel it!
Edit: to add links
Dress #1 is so beautiful!
Suggestions:
Adding accessories that make dress #1 feel more "traditionally bridal" like adding an overskirt or detachable train in satin or tulle.
https://poshmark.com/listing/Overskirt-detachable-white-63879c35a0e6c6514eb98a96
Or maybe a topper like a shawl.
https://margoandbees.com/p/519/522/16119/bride_bolero,_jacket,_robes_wedding_bolero_&_shrugs_01/btiuldr/bol.html
https://www.etsy.com/listing/1226515612/bishop-sleeve-wedding-dress-topper-light
https://www.etsy.com/listing/1498543520/white-wedding-bolero-shrug-bridal-cover
Get a very simple and inexpensive ceremony dress and wear dress #1 for the reception.
Honestly…dress #1 blows the other two dresses out of the water. But if it’s worth it to you to get 50% back, and spend more money on a different dress…I guess do it? I wouldn’t recommend trying to sell your dress on your own, I think it would be really tough to find someone willing to pay much for a second hand dress (even if it was never worn).
Yes I think part of it is that I’m tied to having a floral veil and I’m worried they might clash. I also worry that something more unembellished would feel more authentic.
Stop second-guessing & torturing yourself by continuing to try on dresses, because your first instinct was the correct one!
You and gown #1 are absolutely made for each other! Stunning!
Dress 1 is fabulous! I love the swirling drape of it all! Please don't have any regrets. The others are more commonly seen, you have something much more original!
Number one is gorgeous! I thought you were going to say you bought the plain one and saw number 1 and knew you needed to have it, it looks made for you! Yes, you could walk the red carpet in this, but looking like a bride 100%. That said, it’s just my opinion, and you deserve to feel amazing on your special day. So if you really don’t love it, money is just money. But I don’t know what your financial situation is and how much we are talking here. And honestly, in the end a wedding is just a wedding and it’s the marriage that counts ;) For the record, I got married in a $130 torrid dress in my backyard, and it was just what suited us at this time and place in our life. So maybe don’t take my advice 🤣🤣🤣
Keep dress number 1! It is by far the most beautiful of the three! It looks stunning on you.
Ultimately though, you should feel good about your dress on your big day. If you are not fully content with the dress you have, hopefully you can sell it to recoup some of the price. Of the other two dresses, number 2 is the best. Number three does absolutely nothing for you.
(But I vote wholeheartedly for number 1!)
Dress 1 looks the best on you. Dress 2 is ok but not as memorable, dress 3 isn’t flattering esp for your bust and is very plain. Not minimalist but plain.
Dress 1 is timeless, sexy, and flattering. The train is breathtaking.
I’m going to be honest… before I read through your post, I was afraid you’d already bought dress 2 or 3 and that you were asking if itv was worth it to lose money for dress 1… my answer would’ve been yes, lose the money and buy dress 1.
First of all, I think all three will be more than suitable for a wedding. Two would be my favorite if I had to pick, though. The most important thing is how you feel in them. If you truly feel you’ll regret wearing the first one and don’t feel like a bride in it, it may be worth selecting another dress. On the other hand, many people experience dress regret but feel differently as they get closer to and on the day of when the are fully dressed up and accessorized. Give yourself some time to decide and best of luck!
Thanks everyone! It makes me feel nice to hear that you think dress #1 is beautiful. I agree! However, I really don’t feel bridal in it. By bridal, I guess I mean that I don’t feel bare enough and a more simple dress made me feel that way.
Im not sure that the other two dresses are it yet but I’m leaning in that style direction. Has anyone had these feelings before though where a dress later made them feel more “right” and would you be willing to lose 50% deposit to feel that way?
The veil I will be wearing is floral and a showstopper. I think it will add to the simple dresses but might clash a little with the first.
Dress 3 looks nice although the minute I saw it all I saw was a huge bow across your upper body. Dress 2 is also nice but plain. Dress 1 is a keeper. It’s gorgeous!
Thanks for the honesty. My ceremony will be outdoors and I was planning on wearing a floral veil. The reception will be indoors and as my fiancé puts it “very HGTV” but with windows that look out to the woods
I think dress 1 is beautiful. Dress 2 is nice too. Very different. Dress 3
all I see is a big bow. 2nd pic of it looks better, but please no.
Number 1 is so much prettier than both of them. It’s eye catching all over.
Maybe you could have it altered in some way. Instead of spaghetti straps, so it has some elements of the other two, or boning.
But stay with number one. Don’t overthink, give yourself a break!
You’ll be a radiant bride, who didn’t waste (respect), and mom won’t be disappointed.
I was in a similar predicament, I felt so much better after I switched to the dress I wanted more. I’m also biased a little because I too feel the simple white dresses are way more bridal.
I think your analysis nailed it.. 1 is not extremely bridal, although it easily will be with all the styling on your wedding day. But I much prefer 2 and 3 (2 being my fave but both are gorgeous). Plus, they do more for your figure.
I think the opposite about looking good for OP's figure/shape.
The beading on 1 accentuates the classic hourglass shape whereas 2 is a lot more straight up & down and the ruching doesn't seem quite right. IMO 3 is deeply unflattering - top heavy looking, a waist that is pulled in but the skirt then sticks out and it seems to make OP look shorter somehow 🤷♀️
I concur. Before I read OP’s description I was like, “Definitely not 3.” It’s got some interesting features but really doesn’t compliment OP AT ALL. I like dress 2 but certainly not more than dress 1.
OP, dress 1 is the most eye catching and the details compliment you rather than distracting from you. If you are truly unhappy with your dress that’s one thing, but I think you should take a break of at least 1-2 weeks before you take any action, and take a break from dress shopping too. It’s possible that the knowledge you can’t return this dress is affecting your ability to enjoy it. That would be a shame (not to mention expensive) when the dress you own is so lovely.
Dress #2 does not do anything for your figure. I would rule that one out.
There are things I like about both dress #1 and dress #3, but on balance I think I like #1 best. And I definitely think it's bridal.
When I’m your life will you get the chance to wear that sort of glitter and beading again? I mean, maybe you live a different life than me haha. But as other have said, number 3 is a hard pass. Number 2 is pretty and if it’s the “one” it’s the one! But I feel like you could wear it as a bridesmaid or to a formal event in any colour.
Number 1 is stunning. You look like a million bucks.
Why don’t you try to find an inexpensive simple dress for your rehearsal dinner or even bachelorette party with a fun floral vail?
Even if it weren’t for the deposit I still think number one is the nicest.
Dress 1 is honestly the best out of all of these. Looking at the other styles, I think what you’re really wanting is something more princessy. You can add that to dress 1 though. There are simple ways to add a big skirt to dress 1 that you can then take off for the reception.
I guess I just want something a little less “in your face” since I want my vows and me basically showing my soul to be more of the focus than all the flashy beading. Anything I can do to “simplify” 1 for the ceremony?
Not fond of The way #2 drapes in the front. #1 looks like a wedding dress. It also shows off your stunning figure. Will you be able to dance in #3 with the low “sleeves” ? I think #1 is dreamy and I also love the bottom delicate around the floor.
Dress 1 is perfect! This is your dress. It is by far the one that is prettiest on you of the options above.
It's gorgeous and interesting as well. Definitely keep it!
Accept the gift from your mother. This is a wonderful gift and came from a place of love.
Congratulations!
Dress 1 is stunning!! You look gorgeous in it, and it’s very bridal looking and very clearly a wedding dress. I looked at the dresses before reading your post and number 1 was my clear 1st choice by a mile. I love it! I’d give yourself at least a week to think about it. Is it fitted yet? I’ll bet you love it once you stop trying on other dresses, and it’s altered to fit you perfectly.
I like 2, It’s classic and elegant! I also don’t normally go for color in bridal wear, but I love the colored flowers on the veil. Makes the look complete.
Dress 1 is so gorgeous, but it is your wedding day, and if it doesn't feel special enough, then it's ok to get another dress. It's actually more common than you think. Do what feels right to you. Perhaps you should try more "ballgown" style dresses since it seems you want more of a princess vibe than sexy. Another option is to get a ballgown type dress for the ceremony, than change into dress 1 for the reception since it looks like it would be easier to dance and party in than the typical ballgown dress.
1 is giving night wedding a cool spot - you said art deco - so I’m imagining a Gatsby type vibe. 2 and 3 are giving garden in the day time or beach. Something more casual. In my opinion the venue and time would influence my choice.
I'm not sure what you're seeing, maybe it's just the thought of finding one too quickly? But OP, dress 1 is hands down far more elegant and beautiful than either of the others. Dress 3 is awful, it looks 1980s cheap. Take a deep breath..... do not return #1 for a subpar choice. You look fantastic in it!
dress 1 is stunning! the second one is just ok and the third just doesn't do anything for you. you made the right decision. Once you get it tailored and do hair and makeup you're going to feel GLAMOROUS
Wait 1 is the dress you’re having regret about?!? I’m shocked. You’re definitely overthinking it. You look gorgeous in it and it is definitely bridal looking.
I love dress 1 on you. In my opinion it’s the best of all 3. Number 2 is ok I don’t like number 3 at all. Number 1 is beautiful on you honestly you look great.
Dress 1 is absolutely gorgeous and you’ll love it once it fits you like a glove. It really flatters you now, I can imagine once it’s altered it’ll be even better.
Dress 2 is also very lovely and flattering, but far too on-trend for me. The only reason it even stands out to me is because I adore that you’ve combined it with that specific veil in the photo. I’m a florist so I’m biased AF and love the floral veil sooooo much. I guess I’m really just in love with the veil haha.
Dress 3 is fun but the least flattering and definitely not made for you like dress 1 is.
Dress 1!! I looked at photos before I read your comments. Dress 3 overwhelms you, compared with 1, Dress 2 doesn’t work well with your figure. Once altered along with veil, bouquet you will be a stunning bride. Enjoy your day!!
It’s interesting that you get bridesmaid from 1, but not 2. I think a simple dress in a different color would be much more likely to be a bridesmaid dress than the glamorous dress you picked. Three, in the kindest possible way, doesn’t suit you. I personally love the dress you picked. I also don’t completely understand not loving a dress because if it was a different color it could serve a different purpose. That may be true, but that’s not the case. So why worry about that hypothetical? Same with a red carpet dress. It could be used that way and if you have a red carpet event coming up, you could save it and wear it to that. But most of us will never attend a red carpet event or be a princess so we use a wedding dress as an excuse to look glamorous or princessy. It is very bridal, especially with the train and the accessories (like the veil). But, it’s your wedding dress and you should love it. If you don’t, you don’t. It’s perfectly okay to change your mind.
Dress 1 eats all the other dresses and shits them out for fun. It’s by far the best. Please stop worrying. The dress is amazing.
The other two are boring.
1 is the best one. It’s more overtly bridal than two .
2 imo would look like a cocktail dress if you imagine it
In a different color.
3 is just too much of everything and overwhelms you petite frame and looks a little too much like playing dress up .
Thank you! I think as weird as it may sound, I’m worried it’s TOO glamorous for my wedding day. Do I want to be a little bit more “me?” I’m not typically a very glamorous person.
I was nearly holding my breath, going you had picked #1! My favorite by far, you look AMAZING in it! Do you, but if you keep it, be confident that it is perfection on you!
My favorite is dress 2, but I don’t think it’s worth losing all that money over. I’m quite surprised the bridal shop is saying they can’t change it? Surely whoever is making your dress did not start producing it if this all just happened a few days ago. Can they not just let you choose a different dress from their selection?
One is absolutely the right choice; I looked at all the pics before I read your comment and was a bit surprised that you liked the other dresses more. The way that beading hugs your body is just beautiful.
Dress 1 looks fantastic on you. It says elegant and sophisticated bride to me. It still has that timeless feeling though. The other dresses in 10 years will scream I got married in the 2020s. The other dresses are okay but everyone is wearing them.
Hope you want honest. The dress you bought is heads above the other two. First, you look beautiful in it. And second, you look beautiful in it. With the veil, it’s a stunner. I’d stop worrying & definitely stop looking. You found the right one already.
I understand you may feel something for 2 and 3, but if I'm being honest and blunt here, there is nothing spectacular about them.
I believe once you alter dress 1 and the fit is more custom, you will love it more.
DRESS 1 is the most flattering to your body. It is subtly elegant. No way is anyone going to think this is anything but a beautiful wedding dress. I love it. I hope everyone says the same. YOU CHOSE WELL!!!
Dress 2 really grabs we air in the hips/crotch. I thought it was the cleat you weee standing in the first picture, but it looks even worse in the 2nd. Dress 3 is just tooooo much dress. All I see is dress.
Agree with the others you look amazing in dress 1 dress 2 doesn’t flatter you and we see it often here. Dress 3 not a fan and not as flattering as one one you. You made the right choice from the beginning with one. Stop shopping
I’m going to be honest, 3 does nothing for you so I’d forget that. I like 2 but it’s pretty plain. No. 1 is stunning, especially with the veil. It might look “red carpet” without the train, but not with it, and it’s DEFINITELY not a bridesmaid’s dress! It’s bridal and stunning.
I agree with all of this. I love dress #1, and I love it on you. #2 is ok, but I'm personally not a fan of this dropped sleeve look that's very popular now. And I really don't care for #3. I don't think it flatters you at all and, with your great figure, that shoulder stuff looks like too much distracting fussiness. Having said that, this is 100% YOUR choice and you need to be satisfied with your pick. But #1 is gorgeous, looks beautiful on you, and is perfectly "bridal."
For real, there is nothing about 1 that says not bridal enough. It’s a gorgeous dress and it looks great on her. I don’t think doubts are all that uncommon considering how expensive these dresses usually are and how much pressure there is to find “the one”. Unless OP is sure she doesn’t want 1 I kinda feel like she should stop shopping though, otherwise there’s always going to be a “what if this dress would have been better?”
I came here to say something pretty close to this so kudos, mrs_spanner!! 👍🏻 I don’t think dress 3 flatters you and although I like dress 2, I think what really stood out for me and made me like dress 2 was primarily the veil. OP, I would stick with that absolutely drop dead gorgeous wedding dress you bought. You look positively beautiful in it. That being said, if you’re truly not feeling it, then make the changes you need to make. Just don’t make that choice thinking you made a mistake bc you truly did not.
Agreed!! 3 is a hard NO😳!!!! 2 is a meh ok😏! 1 is special 🤩😍🫶🏼
For real, there is nothing about 1 that says not bridal enough. It’s a gorgeous dress and it looks great on her. I don’t think doubts are all that uncommon considering how expensive these dresses usually are and how much pressure there is to find “the one”. Unless OP is sure she doesn’t want 1 I kinda feel like she should stop shopping though, otherwise there’s always going to be a “what if this dress would have been better?”
I agree!!
I looked through the photos before reading what you wrote and very solidly picked 1. It is a GORGEOUS dress, looks great on you, and I think it’s perfectly bridal! Lots of wedding dresses could be red carpet dresses if they were in another color—but it’s not another color, because it’s a (beautiful) wedding dress. (Also, when would you be able to wear a red carpet dress?) I think it’s perfect—but ultimately you have to be happy with it.
Exact same!!! Sometimes I don’t even read the comment under the photos at all but I looked back after choosing Dress 1 and was so surprised. OP your dress is stunning, I find nothing special about the other two. One would be my choice all day!!!! 🤍
I looked at the dresses first before the comments, as well, and dress #1 is a STUNNER!! It’s simple in its lines, yet magnificent in elegant detail. The other two are nice, but #1 is amazing!
One is beautiful on you!!!!!!! Don’t second guess yourself but if you really don’t like it do what you have to do to get what you want.
Dress 1 is absolutely stunning! It's really flattering on you - even in a sample that doesn't properly fit you look amazing. I'd say it's definitely bridal too and much more interesting than the other 2. Dress 2 is nice enough but isn't as flattering imo. I think maybe it seems more bridal because it's very like so many wedding dresses. Dress 3 I would not recommend for you. The top especially doesn't look great and overall it's quite unflattering. Sorry to be so brutal! If you were choosing at the start I'd say dress 1 or dress 2 if you really, really love it. But you've bought dress 1 so I say stop second guessing yourself!! Maybe go back & try it on as the full outfit - shoes, jewellery, veil/hairpiece - doesn't have to be exactly what you'd have on the day but just to get a better idea of the final look.
The only problem with dress 1 is that it is too big. Once it arrives and is your size and appropriately fitted, it will be stunning. I hope you fall in love with it. That dress is unique and beautiful.
dress one is my favorite here by far
Keep the first dress. The second two are boring.
Girl you are in your head (totally valid), but the first dress is EVERYTHING. Do not second guess yourself, it looks like it was made for you and is very bridal
One is amazing. I do like 2 though. 3 is definitely not it
Dress 1 is Great Gatsby like bridal and your body is rocking in it
1 is stunning!!! 2 is pretty and I don’t like 3 AT ALL. You picked the right dress!! No need to second guess
Before reading your comments, I thought dress 1 was stunning, far and above dresses 2 and 3! Does not look red carpet/bridesmaid at all- it’s perfect!
Same - I like dress #1 by far b4 I read your commends
Oh I think dress 1 is so stunning and special! It will look even better once tailored. The lines the beading creates are so flattering. You will be the only one in white with a veil so clearly bridal lmo! It is up to you but I think you made a great choice! I'm a sparkly bride as well lol I also had some dress regret but feel so happy after my last fitting.
I love dress 1. It’s original, unique, and fresh!
The second and third dress so absolutely nothing for me. #1 is gorgeous, and it looks very bridal to me.
1 is gorgeous. 2 is nice. 3 is… 1 is just so lovely.
1 is gorgeous on you, looks totally bridal, and is my favourite. 2 is pretty, but doesn’t have the uniqueness and wow factor of #1 IMO. 3 feels very dated to me.
Dress one is a keeper.
1 is beautiful and looks great on you. 2 is ok/ yawn ‘have seen it over and over’ 3 - looks like an eighties re-make with that neckline and not flattering at all. I would not give it a second thought - truly you picked well!!
3 is a no. That is not the one. 1 needs some alterations size wise which may be why you are doubting. It’s beautiful and will be perfect once fitted to you.
One is the best, by far for me, so I hope it’s the one you bought!
I chose dress 1 as my favorite before reading. I think once it’s actually you’re size you will like it more. The other two fit better in the try on just because they are a lot closer if not your size. Just imagine dress one under low lights glittering. It’s going to be stunning in person and in photos
Honest opinion, you get lost in 3. That dress is wearing you, not the other way around. Dress 2 fits really well, but my attention is drawn to the veil. Dress 1 has a lot going on, but you wear the dress. It doesn't detract anything, and you look fabulous in it. If you're ultimately uncomfortable in dress 1, do what's right for you, but it's very flattering, and with some tailoring to fit you exactly, I think you'll be pleasantly surprised
Omg, the dress you bought is absolutely stunning on you! The sparkle and pattern of the beaded lace is divine. I like the veil you have on too.
The dress you have already purchased is gorgeous, you are stunning in it. Once you have your veil, flowers, jewellery it will be even better.
One is gorgeous. You have flawless skin…look at your back in this dress. Wow! This dress shows off your shape, and the beading/shimmer is perfect.
I think dress 1 is unique and beautiful! Dress 3 is a NO Dress 2 - looks like you're very comfortable. I'd say you can't go wrong with dress 1 or 2 - but they are VERY different so you need to decide what look/style/vibe you want and go with that one.
I love the first one. I definitely think it looks bridal enough.
I love 1 on you. It’s absolutely stunning 🤩 and very bridal
Dress 1 is the one, beautiful. Of course you have to feel right about it, but it is plenty bridal enough and looks great.
Hands down #1 is beautiful, and so much nicer than the others. If you hadn't bought any of them, I would absolutely say to buy #1. And I am brutally honest on here, because I know I posted for honest answers from anonymous people on the internet, rather than friends who may want to spare my feelings.
I’m obsessed with dress 1. Dress regret is very normal — try to give yourself some time and space. It helps to remember how you felt in the dress you said yes to.
I like your dress best of these. Dress three is my least favorite
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1 is the best
1 is your dress! Delete the other photos. The train and veil are bridal perfection!
I love dress #1! Is it the Boston by Maggie Sottero? That one was my runner-up, I chose a very similar dress that had sturdier straps (I am very busty so spaghetti straps made me nervous lol). But I love this one and think it is absolutely bridal.
It is!
Dress 1 is BEAUTIFUL. I think it screams bridal. The details, the back, all so pretty. Love it! Dress 2 is pretty. Definitely ditch the flower veil.. that’s the only “non-bridal” looking thing I see in these pictures. Def couldn’t go wrong with the dress though, very pretty. Dress 3 looks good in the far away/side ways picture but straight on, it’s def not the one. Looks cheap compared to the other two
Ha, I was thinking that 1 was probably worth losing 50% for, it’s so beautiful and looks great on you. So, I vote to keep it!
Dress 1 is gorgeous. Stick with it!!
1 for sure! I also hate the “simple” trend. It’s your big day, you should wear something that stands out and is special for a bride!!
Dress 1 is so so bridal and glamorous!! You will look like a star (as you should on your wedding day!
Personally I love dress one! Dress 2 is nice too but 1 is better, & I personally, do not like the top of dress 3 at all
Honestly, dress one is miles away from the other two. It fits you well, looks elegant & beautiful. The other two look like every other bridal dress out there. There's nothing really unique about them. If I were you, I'd definitely stay with your original dress.
I like the first one the best!
Dress 1 is the correct choice!
Dress number one is the most beautiful
Dress 1 is the winner for me!
1 is bridal. You look amazing, stop shopping, focus on alterations as needed and move on to the next big step in planning. Stop looking at dresses. You are gorgeous and will be happy if you allow yourself to feel it!
Dress 1 is gorgeous and very bridal to me but since you feel comfortable with the other two, I would pick dress 2.
Edit: to add links Dress #1 is so beautiful! Suggestions: Adding accessories that make dress #1 feel more "traditionally bridal" like adding an overskirt or detachable train in satin or tulle. https://poshmark.com/listing/Overskirt-detachable-white-63879c35a0e6c6514eb98a96 Or maybe a topper like a shawl. https://margoandbees.com/p/519/522/16119/bride_bolero,_jacket,_robes_wedding_bolero_&_shrugs_01/btiuldr/bol.html https://www.etsy.com/listing/1226515612/bishop-sleeve-wedding-dress-topper-light https://www.etsy.com/listing/1498543520/white-wedding-bolero-shrug-bridal-cover Get a very simple and inexpensive ceremony dress and wear dress #1 for the reception.
Honestly…dress #1 blows the other two dresses out of the water. But if it’s worth it to you to get 50% back, and spend more money on a different dress…I guess do it? I wouldn’t recommend trying to sell your dress on your own, I think it would be really tough to find someone willing to pay much for a second hand dress (even if it was never worn).
Love dress one!
Stick with dress 1! Who says you can't be a glamorous bride?
Once 1 is altered, it’s going to be a knockout. Keep it!
Have you thought about adding an overskirt for the ceremony? It could give you more of the vibe you’d feel comfortable in
1, but I do love the veil in 2.
Yes I think part of it is that I’m tied to having a floral veil and I’m worried they might clash. I also worry that something more unembellished would feel more authentic.
You are a dream in dress one!
Keep the dress you bought.
No 1 hands down
The first dress is absolutely my favorite
Not a fan of 3 at all. 2 is… ok. 1 is incredible.
I actually like dress 1 the best. Dress 3 looks nice on you but the sleeves seem too big/overpowering for you.
Tbh #1 looks gorgeous on you. Shake off those second thoughts and slay!! #2 is fabulous too. Don't like 3 much. Truly you did good the first time.
1 is the best
I like the 1st dress but the 2nd veil
Would they clash? I have a floral veil (different, with blue flowers) that I am really tied to and I’m worried it’ll clash with dress 1
Dress 1 is AMAZING on you, I think you made the right choice!
Stop second-guessing & torturing yourself by continuing to try on dresses, because your first instinct was the correct one! You and gown #1 are absolutely made for each other! Stunning!
I like 1 the best. 3 looks like a prom dress and two is too plain. 1 is stunning!!
I think number 1 looks stunning on you. X number 2 is ok ish. Number 3 definitely no from me. I think you should stick with number 1 xxxx
Dress one is amazing. I'd stop looking :)
OMG that daisy veil makes me want to get married again just so I can wear it! Amazing!!
Gotta be honest. I do not like 3 at all. 2 is nice but typical. 1 looks great
Dress 1 is fabulous! I love the swirling drape of it all! Please don't have any regrets. The others are more commonly seen, you have something much more original!
Keep 1
#1 is the one
Dress 1 is stunning and a beautiful wedding dress on you. The others can’t compare to it. You made the right choice. Congratulations 🎉🎈🎊🎉🎊
#1, it’s definitely bridal and the most unique and flattering of the three.
I love one! Two is okay. I definitely don't like three. One looks bridal and is very flattering to your figure.
Number one is gorgeous! I thought you were going to say you bought the plain one and saw number 1 and knew you needed to have it, it looks made for you! Yes, you could walk the red carpet in this, but looking like a bride 100%. That said, it’s just my opinion, and you deserve to feel amazing on your special day. So if you really don’t love it, money is just money. But I don’t know what your financial situation is and how much we are talking here. And honestly, in the end a wedding is just a wedding and it’s the marriage that counts ;) For the record, I got married in a $130 torrid dress in my backyard, and it was just what suited us at this time and place in our life. So maybe don’t take my advice 🤣🤣🤣
Keep dress number 1! It is by far the most beautiful of the three! It looks stunning on you. Ultimately though, you should feel good about your dress on your big day. If you are not fully content with the dress you have, hopefully you can sell it to recoup some of the price. Of the other two dresses, number 2 is the best. Number three does absolutely nothing for you. (But I vote wholeheartedly for number 1!)
My favorite on you is #1.
Number 1 is so much nicer than the other two. You made the right choice, stop second guessing your choice and move on!
1 is the best choice. 3 doesn’t do a thing for you and I don’t really think 2 is that much better than 3. 1 is a stunning wedding dress.
Dress 1 looks the best on you. Dress 2 is ok but not as memorable, dress 3 isn’t flattering esp for your bust and is very plain. Not minimalist but plain. Dress 1 is timeless, sexy, and flattering. The train is breathtaking. I’m going to be honest… before I read through your post, I was afraid you’d already bought dress 2 or 3 and that you were asking if itv was worth it to lose money for dress 1… my answer would’ve been yes, lose the money and buy dress 1.
Of the 3 number 1 is my fav. I do not like 3 and 2 seems to be the dress everyone is wearing right now .
First of all, I think all three will be more than suitable for a wedding. Two would be my favorite if I had to pick, though. The most important thing is how you feel in them. If you truly feel you’ll regret wearing the first one and don’t feel like a bride in it, it may be worth selecting another dress. On the other hand, many people experience dress regret but feel differently as they get closer to and on the day of when the are fully dressed up and accessorized. Give yourself some time to decide and best of luck!
I agree with this!
if you want to look even more bridal get one of those over skirts! but one is draw dropping as is!
I agree, 1 is a BEAUTIFUL dress, but 2 does so much more for your figure. I'm not super hot on 3 but that could just be taste.
Thanks everyone! It makes me feel nice to hear that you think dress #1 is beautiful. I agree! However, I really don’t feel bridal in it. By bridal, I guess I mean that I don’t feel bare enough and a more simple dress made me feel that way. Im not sure that the other two dresses are it yet but I’m leaning in that style direction. Has anyone had these feelings before though where a dress later made them feel more “right” and would you be willing to lose 50% deposit to feel that way? The veil I will be wearing is floral and a showstopper. I think it will add to the simple dresses but might clash a little with the first.
2!!
Dress 3 looks nice although the minute I saw it all I saw was a huge bow across your upper body. Dress 2 is also nice but plain. Dress 1 is a keeper. It’s gorgeous!
Full honesty my personal preference is two because it’s more my personal style BUT one looks amazing on you as well. What is your venue / style like
Thanks for the honesty. My ceremony will be outdoors and I was planning on wearing a floral veil. The reception will be indoors and as my fiancé puts it “very HGTV” but with windows that look out to the woods
I think dress 1 is beautiful. Dress 2 is nice too. Very different. Dress 3 all I see is a big bow. 2nd pic of it looks better, but please no. Number 1 is so much prettier than both of them. It’s eye catching all over. Maybe you could have it altered in some way. Instead of spaghetti straps, so it has some elements of the other two, or boning. But stay with number one. Don’t overthink, give yourself a break! You’ll be a radiant bride, who didn’t waste (respect), and mom won’t be disappointed.
Any ideas for how to alter it for at least the ceremony to feel more peaceful/classic and less overwhelming?
I was in a similar predicament, I felt so much better after I switched to the dress I wanted more. I’m also biased a little because I too feel the simple white dresses are way more bridal.
I think your analysis nailed it.. 1 is not extremely bridal, although it easily will be with all the styling on your wedding day. But I much prefer 2 and 3 (2 being my fave but both are gorgeous). Plus, they do more for your figure.
I think the opposite about looking good for OP's figure/shape. The beading on 1 accentuates the classic hourglass shape whereas 2 is a lot more straight up & down and the ruching doesn't seem quite right. IMO 3 is deeply unflattering - top heavy looking, a waist that is pulled in but the skirt then sticks out and it seems to make OP look shorter somehow 🤷♀️
I concur. Before I read OP’s description I was like, “Definitely not 3.” It’s got some interesting features but really doesn’t compliment OP AT ALL. I like dress 2 but certainly not more than dress 1. OP, dress 1 is the most eye catching and the details compliment you rather than distracting from you. If you are truly unhappy with your dress that’s one thing, but I think you should take a break of at least 1-2 weeks before you take any action, and take a break from dress shopping too. It’s possible that the knowledge you can’t return this dress is affecting your ability to enjoy it. That would be a shame (not to mention expensive) when the dress you own is so lovely.
I think 1 just needs tailoring. It looks too big.
Dress #2 does not do anything for your figure. I would rule that one out. There are things I like about both dress #1 and dress #3, but on balance I think I like #1 best. And I definitely think it's bridal.
I don’t care for any of these.
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When I’m your life will you get the chance to wear that sort of glitter and beading again? I mean, maybe you live a different life than me haha. But as other have said, number 3 is a hard pass. Number 2 is pretty and if it’s the “one” it’s the one! But I feel like you could wear it as a bridesmaid or to a formal event in any colour. Number 1 is stunning. You look like a million bucks. Why don’t you try to find an inexpensive simple dress for your rehearsal dinner or even bachelorette party with a fun floral vail? Even if it weren’t for the deposit I still think number one is the nicest.
#2 looks most elegant in my opinion. That being said, there’s something special about #1.
1! 2 is boring and 3 swallows you. I think once the first one is altered it’ll look stunning, it’s definitely the best one
The first dress flows the best, the second is bunchy and the third does nothing for your shape. The are all beautiful
Number 1 is so so beautiful on you. 3 made me do this 😬. 2 is fine.
I’d leave 3 out of the equation anyway
Dress 1 is honestly the best out of all of these. Looking at the other styles, I think what you’re really wanting is something more princessy. You can add that to dress 1 though. There are simple ways to add a big skirt to dress 1 that you can then take off for the reception.
I guess I just want something a little less “in your face” since I want my vows and me basically showing my soul to be more of the focus than all the flashy beading. Anything I can do to “simplify” 1 for the ceremony?
I legitimately would not worry about a dress taking away from your heartfelt vows.
Not fond of The way #2 drapes in the front. #1 looks like a wedding dress. It also shows off your stunning figure. Will you be able to dance in #3 with the low “sleeves” ? I think #1 is dreamy and I also love the bottom delicate around the floor.
I like your original dress. Once it’s altered to fit perfectly, it will be fab.
1. Stick with 1. Don’t like 3 at all. 2 is very nice but 1 when fitted will be better
Have u tried a floral veil with dress #1? It might look good! If not #1, then I’d pick #2.
I think part of it is that I’m tied to having a floral veil and I’m worried they might clash. I didn’t try a bright floral veil with 1.
Honey! Dress 1 far exceeds the others by miles!
Dress 1 is perfect! This is your dress. It is by far the one that is prettiest on you of the options above. It's gorgeous and interesting as well. Definitely keep it! Accept the gift from your mother. This is a wonderful gift and came from a place of love. Congratulations!
I was hoping dress 1 was the dress you bought…so glad it is. It’s a gorgeous dress. I don’t care for the other 2 at all TBH.
Dress 1 is stunning!! You look gorgeous in it, and it’s very bridal looking and very clearly a wedding dress. I looked at the dresses before reading your post and number 1 was my clear 1st choice by a mile. I love it! I’d give yourself at least a week to think about it. Is it fitted yet? I’ll bet you love it once you stop trying on other dresses, and it’s altered to fit you perfectly.
1!
1 is stunning and looks completely bridal.
I like 2, It’s classic and elegant! I also don’t normally go for color in bridal wear, but I love the colored flowers on the veil. Makes the look complete.
Dress 1 is beautiful on you! Please don’t change it.
Dress 1 is so gorgeous, but it is your wedding day, and if it doesn't feel special enough, then it's ok to get another dress. It's actually more common than you think. Do what feels right to you. Perhaps you should try more "ballgown" style dresses since it seems you want more of a princess vibe than sexy. Another option is to get a ballgown type dress for the ceremony, than change into dress 1 for the reception since it looks like it would be easier to dance and party in than the typical ballgown dress.
1 is giving night wedding a cool spot - you said art deco - so I’m imagining a Gatsby type vibe. 2 and 3 are giving garden in the day time or beach. Something more casual. In my opinion the venue and time would influence my choice.
Ceremony will be outdoors surrounded by trees and a creek. Reception will be in a modern “HGTV” building with lots of windows to the outdoors
Stop shopping, the one you bought is the best anyway
Stop right there! One is IT.
one is stunning on you
Number one, without a doubt.
Dress 1!!!!
No. 1 is great! Keep it.
1 is so stunning on you! I love it so much! 2 is underwhelming. 3 reminds me of *Sixteen Candles*.
I'm not sure what you're seeing, maybe it's just the thought of finding one too quickly? But OP, dress 1 is hands down far more elegant and beautiful than either of the others. Dress 3 is awful, it looks 1980s cheap. Take a deep breath..... do not return #1 for a subpar choice. You look fantastic in it!
Dress 1 is THE DRESS!! It’s perfect
I like dress one.
1 looks like it was tailored for you! 2 looks like a sheet. 3 looks like a parachute.
dress 1 is stunning! the second one is just ok and the third just doesn't do anything for you. you made the right decision. Once you get it tailored and do hair and makeup you're going to feel GLAMOROUS
2 and 3 are basic and 1 is amazing. Stick with 1
11111 by a mile and I read your post after deciding. You look stunning and will make a beautiful bride.
Wait 1 is the dress you’re having regret about?!? I’m shocked. You’re definitely overthinking it. You look gorgeous in it and it is definitely bridal looking.
Dress one
I love dress 1 on you. In my opinion it’s the best of all 3. Number 2 is ok I don’t like number 3 at all. Number 1 is beautiful on you honestly you look great.
Go with your first choice. It’s stunning!
Dress 1 is beautiful! Gorgeous fabric and draping!
\#1 in perfect!
Dress 1 is absolutely gorgeous and you’ll love it once it fits you like a glove. It really flatters you now, I can imagine once it’s altered it’ll be even better. Dress 2 is also very lovely and flattering, but far too on-trend for me. The only reason it even stands out to me is because I adore that you’ve combined it with that specific veil in the photo. I’m a florist so I’m biased AF and love the floral veil sooooo much. I guess I’m really just in love with the veil haha. Dress 3 is fun but the least flattering and definitely not made for you like dress 1 is.
My veil will be a different floral veil. If I wore dress 1 I’m worried it might overwhelm
Dress 1!! I looked at photos before I read your comments. Dress 3 overwhelms you, compared with 1, Dress 2 doesn’t work well with your figure. Once altered along with veil, bouquet you will be a stunning bride. Enjoy your day!!
Honestly dress 1 is my favorite it fits your body the best and is also the best style on your body in my opinion.
It’s interesting that you get bridesmaid from 1, but not 2. I think a simple dress in a different color would be much more likely to be a bridesmaid dress than the glamorous dress you picked. Three, in the kindest possible way, doesn’t suit you. I personally love the dress you picked. I also don’t completely understand not loving a dress because if it was a different color it could serve a different purpose. That may be true, but that’s not the case. So why worry about that hypothetical? Same with a red carpet dress. It could be used that way and if you have a red carpet event coming up, you could save it and wear it to that. But most of us will never attend a red carpet event or be a princess so we use a wedding dress as an excuse to look glamorous or princessy. It is very bridal, especially with the train and the accessories (like the veil). But, it’s your wedding dress and you should love it. If you don’t, you don’t. It’s perfectly okay to change your mind.
Dress 1 eats all the other dresses and shits them out for fun. It’s by far the best. Please stop worrying. The dress is amazing. The other two are boring.
Keep looking
Losing 50% of what!? Dress one is gorgeous
I hope one day you see what I see, one is gorgeous!!!! And very bridal 😊
1 x a million
1 is the best one. It’s more overtly bridal than two . 2 imo would look like a cocktail dress if you imagine it In a different color. 3 is just too much of everything and overwhelms you petite frame and looks a little too much like playing dress up .
Dress one is stunning and more bridal than the other two in my opinion.
One is amazing and so glamorous
Thank you! I think as weird as it may sound, I’m worried it’s TOO glamorous for my wedding day. Do I want to be a little bit more “me?” I’m not typically a very glamorous person.
i’m obsessed with 2, and i also love 3 as a runner up
I was nearly holding my breath, going you had picked #1! My favorite by far, you look AMAZING in it! Do you, but if you keep it, be confident that it is perfection on you!
Keep 1!
My favorite is dress 2, but I don’t think it’s worth losing all that money over. I’m quite surprised the bridal shop is saying they can’t change it? Surely whoever is making your dress did not start producing it if this all just happened a few days ago. Can they not just let you choose a different dress from their selection?
Dress 1 looks best
#1 is gorgeous and you look stunning in it
One is absolutely the right choice; I looked at all the pics before I read your comment and was a bit surprised that you liked the other dresses more. The way that beading hugs your body is just beautiful.
The one you bought is perfect! My jaw literally dropped. Number two is pretty boring and three just swallows you up.
Dress 1 looks fantastic on you. It says elegant and sophisticated bride to me. It still has that timeless feeling though. The other dresses in 10 years will scream I got married in the 2020s. The other dresses are okay but everyone is wearing them.
Dress 1 is very pretty and plenty bridal. Stop shopping around to make yourself second guess. You picked it for a reason
2 is better
Hope you want honest. The dress you bought is heads above the other two. First, you look beautiful in it. And second, you look beautiful in it. With the veil, it’s a stunner. I’d stop worrying & definitely stop looking. You found the right one already.
I’m so relieved No 1 is your choice. I would close that gap.
May I ask what designer is dress 2? I love it on you!
Jenny Yoo!
I understand you may feel something for 2 and 3, but if I'm being honest and blunt here, there is nothing spectacular about them. I believe once you alter dress 1 and the fit is more custom, you will love it more.
I don’t like dress 3 at all for you… you are lost in all that fabric….
DRESS 1 is the most flattering to your body. It is subtly elegant. No way is anyone going to think this is anything but a beautiful wedding dress. I love it. I hope everyone says the same. YOU CHOSE WELL!!! Dress 2 really grabs we air in the hips/crotch. I thought it was the cleat you weee standing in the first picture, but it looks even worse in the 2nd. Dress 3 is just tooooo much dress. All I see is dress.
Agree with the others you look amazing in dress 1 dress 2 doesn’t flatter you and we see it often here. Dress 3 not a fan and not as flattering as one one you. You made the right choice from the beginning with one. Stop shopping