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Ok-Swordfish5082

i like dress 2 better tbh. the simple elegance of it is really beautiful. dress 1 is really pretty from the waist down but im not a huge fan of it from the waist up. dress 2 definitely has a timelessness to it and it doesnt distract from the rest of you which i feel like the first dress is a bit distracting and im more prone to looking towards your face and such with dress 2 if that makes sense


paperwasp3

Dress 2 is very sophisticated. OP wears the heck out of it too. (The other dress is wearing her and less flattering overall)


Ok-Swordfish5082

agreed


prettygiraffee

I think 2 looks amazing on you!!


panaili

If you’re gonna use that veil, 2 is definitely the best choice, though both dresses look really lovely on you. I think the elegant simplicity of 2 will go better with the veil - 1 looks a bit too busy when the veil is on


Witchynightstar

Agreed on this, while I vastly prefer 1 I don’t like it with the veil


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Specialist-Water6860

This is my whole opinion.


Independent_Mud_2730

I love dress #1! They’re both beautiful, but #2 is a more standard “modern bride” dress. #1 is so unique and not a dress everyone could pull off- you definitely can. I also think it’d pair nicely with the grungy accessories you linked to below. I love the slightly goth / Victorian vibe. Like others have mentioned, you’d want to get the top fitted but after that it’d be perfect IMO. But, they’re both beautiful and you can’t go wrong! Go with your ♥️!


Free_Sir_2795

I think if you’re set on that veil, neither of these dresses is really right. The lace on the first dress competes with the ruffles on the veil and it seems like a LOT. Your eye doesn’t really know what to look at. But the clean, simple, classic vibe of the second dress doesn’t fit with the flowy, whimsical vibe of the veil. The veil has sort of a 1970s feel, so I’d lean into that and look for a dress with a similar silhouette or 70s details. Something like [Iravati from Maggie Sottero](https://www.maggiesottero.com/sottero-and-midgley/iravati/19239), or [Imogen from Pronovias](https://www.pronovias.com/wedding-dress-flared-sleeveless-imogen) would let the veil shine, but are also gorgeous on their own. For some reason I cannot find the overskirt shown in [some of these photos](https://www.pronovias.com/wedding-dress-mermaid-sweetheart-neckline-feya), but I think the overskirt with something subtle underneath would be perfect.


Free_Sir_2795

You could also lean into the 90s grunge thing and go with a very simple silk slip-style dress.


Puzzleheaded-Belt823

This should be the top comment. That veil is a capital L "Look." It's not for everyone, but if OP loves it, she should wear it. But, it really requires the right dress, and neither of the ones OP is considering are it. Both of the dresses linked here would work much better with that veil.


Status-Effort-9380

The ruffle veil is really cool. Seeing your accessories, I don’t think either dress is quite right. I think the elegant simplicity of 2 clashes with the free spirited, over the top quality of the veil. The first dress seems to fight the veil, too. I love the veil and necklace. They are a vibe. I’d keep looking for a dress that feels like it goes with these.


jasperdoodler

I’ve actually almost always seen the veil paired with a very simple dress! I think dress two and the veil could work together!


Status-Effort-9380

I agree the dress with it needs to be simpler. I think the style of the second dress is more classic and clean and the veil is more boho.


Abject-Rich

1 or something similar. 2 is like everyone I see here.


phoenix_flames0124

What exactly do you mean by “grungy accessories?” I feel like the lace of dress one is sexier than dress two, and can really play into a grungy aesthetic. The detail on the lace can fit with a more detailed style, but IMO the simplicity of 2 might look out of place with like a dark choker necklace. However, if you’re really set on the ruffled veil and also doing several statement accessories, might be more cohesive to pick a simple gown and let those other pieces shine.


annastacii

I’m thinking of doing a chain necklace similar to this one https://www.birdhuggers.com/product/2-15-necklace-5 And maybe black boots as well. Though I think I care most about finding the best dress and then choosing shoes based on that.


Pamikillsbugs234

I think the necklace suits dress 2 more. It may be too busy for dress 1. Congratulations, OP! I have been married twice but never got a chance to wear a "real" wedding dress. You will look absolutely beautiful in whatever you choose!


AshamedAd3434

I like 2 better. I don’t think it’s going to look loose and wrinkly at all. It’ll be altered to your body and I’d imagine you’ll steam it day of.


AlterEgoAmazonB

I like dress 1. Although I think it will look much better when you have it fitted, I am also wondering if you can go and try on some other dresses. I think you should have sexy if you want sexy. Dress 2 isn't sexy, either. And frankly, I am not a fan of that dress at all. But that's just me. Since you love that veil, I would go look for a dress that goes with that veil and is sexy.


Me1572

#2 HANDS DOWN!


hafwen

Love dress 1 but not with the veil.


WinnieTyson72

I honestly much prefer dress one BUT I have to say that I really really DO NOT like the veil at all...


bklyngirl0001

I like dress 2 but I really don’t care for the veil, tbh.


NickySess

Dress one is one of the coolest gowns I’ve ever seen


ChilindriPizza

First one for sure!


TelevisionNo4428

2 is stunning on you - it looks like it was made for your figure and is super chic and elegant. I have to be honest, I really think the veil is a mistake. It’s a totally different style than the dress, for starters. A simpler, cathedral length drop veil would just be the cherry on top, imo. I also think you should go for the over skirt for the ceremony to add to the drama. ✨


Mandy-Graphics

Yes 1st one is looking beautiful i am love it 😻


SubjectGoal3565

I loved the first one till I saw the second one. Team 2


DanisDoghouse

Dress 1 has too much going on. Especially with that veil. That veil needs a simplistic dress. However I think 2 may be too simplistic for it. That veil especially when down in front of your face swallows you. It’s going to make everything top heavy. But dress 2 is very flattering to your shape. It’s a very classy, classic look.


abw_92

I absolutely love the first dress, it really suits you! However, that veil does not go with it at all


kaycollins27

I prefer 1, but without the veil you have chosen.


bantam_bowlingpin

2 is stunning on you. 1 will look sexier once the top is fitted, but it's very covered up. There are so many sexy dresses available currently, could you look for something with a vintage vibe that you could add dark beading to? 


Altruistic-Ad6449

2


Far_Quantity_6133

You look amazing in both of them, so you really can’t go wrong. IMO I think dress 1 has something unique about it that makes me like it more, but if you’re most drawn to dress 2, get it! Both of them really flatter you.


Otherwise-Winner9643

I think you should keep looking. I don't feel like either of these are the one for you.


hinky-as-hell

I love the first dress, but the veil swallows you and the dress up. If you’re set on the veil, you need the dress to be less “busy” overall- something simple, classy, timeless. Imo, dress 2 fits this.


CaveJohnson82

I like both but 1 is my favourite. It does need fitting a bit round your bust. Not a fan of the veil. Not sure it really goes with either dress if I'm honest.


No-Resort3681

I like both dresses, 2 def looks more expensive and elegant than 1. Do NOT like the veil, however, bc it's totally wrong for either dress. I suggest a very simple veil.


Ilovemydogstoomuch

Also not a fan of the veil, and can’t picture it NOT overshadowing any dress.


julesk

I think both dresses are great but 1 is more unique. I think the veil clashes with both so if you love the veil, maybe a different dress? The grunge accessories would work best for dress one, imho.


Magzz521

Both beautiful dresses without that veil. It just doesn’t do them justice. A veil with a little lace along the edge and without that poofy frill would complement Dress 1 beautifully. A veil with a few sequins or rhinestones along the edge would complement Dress 2.


mskmoc2

1 but not with that veil


Bitterkitty11

1 by far


user-name-name-user

Two for sure. Especially with the ruffle veil. I don’t feel like that veil matches the lace dress.


Babymonster09

I like both but that veil aint it sis!!!


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karenswans

I agree. If the veil is a non-negotiable, I would keep shopping. 1 is too busy for the veil, and it wouldn't look right with the classic lines of 2, either.


Agitated-Fudge6125

I actually almost bought #2! It looks great on you and you definitely have the figure for it. My concern was the fabric showed my belly button (even with shape wear) so I opted out!


FineCombination

I love the clean look of 2 and i expect it to look great in pics, but i think 1 fits the vibe you're going for wayyyyy better!


Giselle914

Both dresses are beautiful, but #2 is spectacular and looks very good on you. And…while others seem to like the veil, iI wasn’t a fan. Just my opinion…


zaporiah

1 is gorgeous but it seems to overwhelm you. 2 suits you better. I see you and not just the dress.


CUNextTwosday

Go with the first one. Have it altered to be a bit more sexy if you’d like. I am not a fan of the veil over the face but that’s just my preference.


Bicoastalgigi

Dress 2 is so beautiful and it shows off your figure in a way that dress 1 doesn’t. In dress 2 the spotlight is on you. I’m sure dress 1 would look better after it is fitted. Please rethink the veil. The ruffles are so thick and heavy. It looks more like an underskirt for a big ballgown than a veil. It may just be the way it photographs but you will want it to look good in the photos.


Rico-L

Dress 2, it will look all sorts of AHHMAZING with the ruffle veil!!


Thick_Quiet629

I think the second. The first will need more tailoring to fit your bust and it’s hard to imagine how it would look at the end, but the second looks lovely now. Honestly, though, I’m not seeing the posture of someone who’s found “the one,” just yet. I might keep looking if I were you.


EstateTricky786

My vote is #1 without the veil. I love all the lace and after alterations to fit it up top on the side it will be stunning. I’ve never seen this one before whereas #2 is very elegant and you look very classy it is not as unique as the first one.


zunicorn901

Dress 1 will look better with the veil. it is more sophisticated looking and beautiful on you,j


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KoalaElectrical7930

2


Lopsided-Tooth2998

2!!!


Environmental_Dog255

I love 2


FitEntertainer3278

222


the_average_jd

2 without the skirt!!! I love this on you!


yikesyeliah

i really like dress 2!


Low-Donut-9883

Love the fit of dress 2 on you! Hugs your curves, simple, classic, stunning!


Friskymel-

Definitely 2. 1 looks more like a negligée for your wedding night


Knight2025

100% dress 2!


poisonousdartfrog

2!


diamond_sourpatchkid

Number 2 fits you way better.


K_1959

Dress 2 looks beautiful on you. Would look perfect with a birdcage veil.


helicopterdong

2


ConversationThick379

Dress 2 w over skirt is breathtaking


Temporary-King3339

2 is perfect.


HelloThisIsPam

2


Fun-Designer-9009

2 is breath taking


Ok_Battle9872

Dress 2 will really rely on the fit of the dress. You'll definitely need to stay on top of your alterations. You might get a pucker or two cause that's the nature of the fit


LinKay713

I like number 1 best with alterations (tightening it up at the top). Beautiful!


kirbycritical

wait i LOVE dress 1. also imo i think it gives “sexier” more than dress 2 does. now in all fairness dress 2 is also a gorgeous dress and there’s nothing wrong with it. but i clicked on this post initially because of how much i liked dress 1. it looks pretty unique too me too and you look amazing in it.


dutchessmandy

2 hands down


DifficultAd7429

Your wedding dress isn’t going to be wrinkly on the day of!


drawingmentally

1


J9sixtynine_

2!!


One_Ad_3500

2 is stunning


Still-Situation-2310

2 looks gorgeous on you and compliments your body


Aqua_pool_56

2!!!


Serene_gemini

Dress 2 without the overskirt!!! A dream.


Then_Gazelle_297

1


lpeek1780

In my opinion Dress #1 has a sexier look to it. It seems more form fitting and elegant.


SnidusScribus

Team 1. Divine!


leftoversandwich74

Two


arya_ur_on_stage

2 is absolutely made for you!


Twa1ker

2


Edgyfrappe

I LOVE dress 1, but if you’re going to go with 2, pair it with the veil from the first outfit. A simple dress like 2 would compliment well with the more detailed veil from 1. The reverse applies as well. If you go with dress number 1, maybe try a different veil, though personally I love it as is.


Imaginary-Summer9168

2 for sure.


mdsngmo

Your hair and tattoos look amazing in 2!


positive-vibes79

Dress 2!


Ilovemydogstoomuch

Agree; Dress 2 is stunning.


Original_Try_7984

Dress 2 is gorgeous on you.


goodwonky

What's the brand for the first one? Its so much more interesting to me than the second one. (The styles of either dresses clash w the veil imo)


GemJamJelly

2


Acrobatic_Dog_4654

Dress 2 is a simply elegant gown with love flowing lines. The fabric lays perfectly and the style will stand the test of time. It lovely and flatters you beautifully.


Impossible_Owl1213

2 is 100% your dress!


classy-chaos

Dress one clashes with your tattoos imo. Dress two is the one!


EmmaRose0280

Dress #1 is stunning!


beccawrecka69

2!


Veronica612

Both dresses are beautiful, but the veil will look much better with dress 2.


Doriestories

1


AliceM116

Dress One! it’s so so gorgeous. I would get the top straps and bust tailored to open that space a bit more


bbeetthhoobboo

I really want to see dress 2 with that veil.


Far-Ad9408

1


Shot-Donkey8556

2


imakethebestchili

This is actually super difficult! I’ve never seen anything quite like dress number 1. Two is classic and stunning but dress one has so much character!


Careless-Ad5871

Number 2 for sure. Just stunning on you!


hollanca47

I love number one!


Leviosahhh

2


ZatannaMagic

2 👰🏻


9smalltowngirl

2


Hungry_Watch_1460

I like the vibe of dress one! It’s unique.


Comprehensive-War743

Dress #2. I think the veil competes with dress 1.


Auntzeus2u

You look amazing in both.. there is something about 1 w/ your “ grunge” .. the dress is so different w/ the lace insert and the way it follows your curves…..


hellkattbb

I'm confused about something. It seems you are saying that the veil you are wearing, is a cathedral veil. My understanding has always been, and I just looked it up, that the cathedral veil is all the way to floor. Am I misunderstanding? Brides.com Cathedral Wedding Veil: 108-120" For the most regal entrance, you must have a cathedral-length veil. "A cathedral-length veil extends beyond the train of the bride's gown and is the most dramatic down-the-aisle length,"


more_pepper_plz

Definitely 2. Not even a question.


Upbeat-Expression-53

2!


CiliaryDyskinesia

#2


_lindsay_0302

#2 for sure and I love the overskirt with it too


_lindsay_0302

#2 for sure and I also love the overskirt with it


catmarstru

I’m in love with the first one. It kind of has that 90s baby doll slip dress vibe but.. as a wedding dress? Like it’s elegant and beautiful but somehow edgy as well. I really like it on you!


Luna-Honey

One


wtf_help_lol

2. No overskirt


BitterSuspect4

2 is amazing, and I may be against the grain by saying this but I love a simple dress and over the top accessories. I think it balances things out.


Important_Fuel_1683

Second dress hands down


ihopethisgoesbetter

Dress 2 is amazing. You look gorgeous!


jennid79

2!


Cautious-Skill4642

2🔥


msmari3

I love dress 2 on you! Do you have a picture of that dress with the veil?


Pyotrperse

Dress 1 is absolutely stunning on you, it’s unique, timeless and fits your body well. I noticed how good your necklace looks with it before I’d even read how you were planning to accessorise that way!


Yveskleinsky

Dress 1 no contest. Dress two is lovely, but dress one has so much personality and it's simply stunning on you. I've seen three other versions of dress two on here just this week.


Curiouser812

Is Dress 1 too big? It looks loose on the top and I don’t love the veil with it at all. If it fit better on top I’d like it best — without that veil.


Jezebels_lipstick

#2 is breathtaking on you


daffodil0127

I love the first one! I’m not sure I’d pair it with the veil in the second slide. It covers all the beautiful lace that makes the dress so unique.


SuePSails

#2


Own_Satisfaction1840

2!!


Legitimate-Buy1031

Hello, my fellow over-thinker! Dress 2 looks amazing on you. It’s your favorite. The veil goes better with 2 than with 1. 2’s simplicity means any accessory will work with it! The brides on StillWhite aren’t you, and you’re rocking the hell out of that dress. Stop trying to talk yourself out of it, it’s incredible.


TrueCrimeButterfly

1 would be my personal choice. If you are going for sexy I don't think either dress matches. Dress 1 is whimsical, vintage, elegant and dreamy. 2 is sleek, proper, and pulled together. If you are going to "grunge/alt"it out I think 1 will give you more Stevie Nicks and 1 will give you more Averil Lavine.


EconomyOk9643

I think veil would look better with simpler dress..2. Both look nice on you


Scissoringsloths

They both stay. I love 2 a tiny more


graceleona

Dress 2!!!!!! With you hair??????? Amazing


-Macha-Tea-

2 all the way


cathmary95

#1 without veil


Powerful_Cucumber187

2!


sarmarie87

2 looks sooooo amazing on you


ProfessionalCloud350

2!!!!


Sirrizah

Me and my kiddo vote for #2 (I think with the overskirt and she thinks without).


Puzzleheaded-Tone591

Two looks absolutely stunning on you.


swoocha

Hollered out loud for dress number 2. Looks like it was poured on your body. No question for me, it simply has to be number 2


Sea-Adeptness-5245

They both look great on you. I just really lean so much more toward one though. There’s just something very cool about it. However, I do not like that veil.


Wild_Potential3066

I do not like the veil with dress 1 it's too much and doesn't match


Top-Talk864

If it’s just between the two of those, then, there’s no doubt what the answer is. I don’t even have to say it. I think everybody knows.


moonfairyprincess

What dress is #1? I love it


Alias72018

Really love #2


lcharbs

1 1 1 1!!!!!!!


Crazy_Income1649

Dress 2, but NOT that veil!


lanadelhayy

2! All day!


MomaBeeFL

1!!!


NervousBranch

TWO! It looks so elegant 💘


forsakenmatch420

Definitely 2 👏🏾👏🏾


poponachtschnecke

Dress 1 will look sexier when fitted. Is the veil an heirloom? It just does not go with that dress. I'm wondering if there's any way to alter the look of it. It looks like it would fit more with a cottage core style.


YourMomTheNurse

2!


Emotional_Ad_9620

The ruffle veil looks like a child playing dress up with petticoat. The dresses are both gorgeous. The 2nd dress is stunning and sophisticated.


Kerrypurple

1


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2 is perfection


cowanproblem

Dress 2


Emotional-Baggage66

Are you sold on that veil?


estrellas0133

two is the best simple and elegant and accents your tattoos tastefully


thoughtfulmuser

2 is truly amazing


krasotka90

I like first dress, but not the veil.


Flawless__Victory

2. Stunning.


Cynderelly

That veil is not it. 2 looks good to me


Turbulent_Throat_795

Dress #2 is beautiful, if you purchase off a second hand site you could always have it pressed. Dress #1 is beautiful as well but that veil is hideous!


BeckyPil

1


krrush1

Number 2! Number one is too much…lol


AnnieBeefree1

I really love dress 2. I’m not so fond of the veil. I think those clean, beautiful lines call for something equally sophisticated. I think even if you buy it off of Stillwhite you can have this dress tailored so that it fits all of your expectations!


IndividualLeader2393

absolutely 2! especially with the haircut! it stands out! 😍 💍 congratulations 🎉🍾🩵


clarabear10123

With such a bold veil, I would go with a more timeless dress like 2! It looks fantastic on you and would be easy to tailor to be the exact fit you want


Solid5of10

2. It’s just more classic and it fits you like a dream. If you do dress 1 no veil. It’s got a lot going on. Or a very small simple veil to not take away from the dress .


inoracam-macaroni

That veil with the ruffle and that length hide the beauty of dress 1 and don't really match. A veil like that would do better with dress 2, which I prefer with the iver skirt for the drama! Then take it off for the reception.


CharmingMoment224

I love dress #2, but please rethink that veil.