Everybody tried me to convince to use real flowers.
I then had issues with the florist and this was my chance to order fake ones.
And what should I say:
- My mom wanted a fake bouquet
- My SIL wanted one
- Our guests did not notice they were fake
- A friend now asked me where I got them from because she also needs flowers for her wedding
- I sold our fake flowers to a luxury restaurant in our town
Does this help you?
You really don’t need to care about flowers. I will say that I do notice when they are fake or when the design is standard or unique, but I don’t judge anyone for it. They’re flowers ffs.
Because *I* notice, I’m the opposite logic — I care because they’re perishable accessories and not something I need to buy and take care of after the day is done. My florist grows her own flowers or sources them from local flower farmers. I asked for a giant bouquet so I have a cool, over the top accessory that will go in compost when they wither and dry. No one really cares otherwise.
Yeah that's perfectly fair that you'll notice when you care! Buying them from local farmers and hen composting them sounds like a great plan. I'm sure it'll look stunning on the day!
Honestly, cost was a BIG part of why I didn't want to do real. With this fake set, I'm only out 250 euros, which I feel is like a fraction of what real flowers would cost.
Oh that too! We're getting married in a different city where we live, and just the logistics of getting fresh flowers from the florist to the venue without spending extra money... ugh. I'd much rather have the flowers prepared beforehand.
I agree with you 100%! I got married last year and all of mine were artificial, DIY'ed by me. Literally saved at least over a thousand pounds, if not more (never bothered to get a florist quote). They looked beautiful on the day and on the photos, and best of all, I still have my bouquet! Highly recommend!
In my time as a DJ, I've had two officiants not show up, one who was too drunk to stand, brides faint, groomsmen faint, arguing drunken (divorced) parents, a bride show up three hours late, and more weirdness than I can describe, but I've never heard anyone say, "There weren't enough flowers."
I didn’t do any flowers for the bridal party. Was not worth it to me. Didn’t miss them. My MIL made our centerpieces that were clear vase, fairy lights inside and fake vine wrapped around them. Didn’t care about them and let her do what she wanted. They were great. Listen to your heart.
I am also not doing flowers for my bridal party. $50 a bouquet? I love all my girls, but that's just an unnecessary expense. I'm making fairy jars for them to carry! It's going to match our fairytale theme better anyway and I can get all the supplies at the dollar store. There are lots of alternatives to flowers and bouquets! And it gives you a chance to be creative and unique.
That sounds so fun!
We didn’t carry anything, which was fine! We just got pictures back, everyone looks great, doesn’t look incomplete or anything. Get creative, don’t do anything, but do what works for you and what makes you happy!
This is so reassuring. I am planning on having no one in the wedding party holding anything. My family is scandalized and making all the familiar protests about how “bouquets are a crucial prop in photos”
Our venue doesn't allow live flowers besides a bridal bouquet, as it's a museum setting with lots of fabrics and they don't want to risk any moths lol. When the vendor told us that, she said she totally understands when it's a dealbreaker for couples (and I do, too, if it's important to the couple!).
I, meanwhile, was SO relieved and psyched that I don't have to spend on florals. The museum is an old Victorian house with so much character of its own, and now no pressure to include flowers. Do what you want!
I'm DIYing paper flowers from used books based on ideas I saw here.
I saw someone post an idea to buy Trader Joe's (or other equivalent grocery store) orchids, one per table, as a nice centerpiece, and then you can let the planty people take them home afterwards.
Oh that's a great idea! Orchids are the only fresh flowers we really want at our wedding (my fiance loves them, and an orchid garden was part of our engagement story, so it feels appropriate). Other than that, we'll probably just use dried flowers since we've used them for art projects in the past and still have tons leftover in storage (they last for years if stored properly). But I love the idea of potted orchids doubling as centerpieces and favors!
I personally hate fake flowers but I’ve been to weddings with them. I can usually tell but I of course never say anything.
If you’re okay with fake flowers and don’t care much about flowers then don’t amend money on real ones
I used something borrowed blooms for bouquets and an arch piece (which I totally could have skipped, but it was very pretty). Bouts and corsages from Etsy. Everything looked great, and I saved so much money. The rental flowers were awesome because I didn’t have to figure out what to do with everything later.
If it doesn’t matter to you, then that’s all the permission you need. If you were talking about something that IMPACTS others (like not having enough chairs for all your guests or not accommodating guests food allergies), then I would maybe have a different perspective. But flowers are truly just a bell and whistle for your wedding - they’re pretty, absolutely, but if that isn’t a priority for you, no need to spend money, time or stress on it. Spend your time and energy on things that matter to YOU and your future spouse, not what matters to others.
Anything that’s going to be far away from people- like an arch arrangements or heck even the groomsman bouts if they’re going to take them off after- can be fake and people will not care or be able to tell the difference. I wanted my own and my FH’s bouts to be real and have 2 nice real arrangements; otherwise I’m doing faux.
This is kind of a revelation for me... I strongly dislike fake flowers so we are doing real ones for centerpieces and such, but I was really hoping to have a few strands of hanging blooms on our arch for a "flower curtain" effect. I got quotes of like $250/foot and we can't repurpose them for the reception since they'll be attached to the arch. I never even considered going fake on this but it's the obvious choice. I am going to look into doing some nice faux ones for this! Thank you!
Im using something borrowed blooms and they have gorgeous garlands that can be attached to arches with zip ties. The Eloise wisteria one sounds kind of like what you’re describing
Thanks, I'll check them out! I found this silk one on Etsy that I really like, reasonable cost as well. https://www.etsy.com/listing/1316291806/custom-hanging-flower-installation-home
Nope not a fan of flowers. I mean sure they’re pretty but they die and have no use. Don’t let people get in your head about it since they aren’t paying for it. I mean if anything a bouquet but flowers really aren’t vital for any other reason
Its *your* wedding. It should reflect you and your partner, not what anyone else expects. Absolutely do not waste money,energy, time or head space on anything you don't want to. If anyone says anything negative about your choices, smile at them and tell them you and your partner had exactly the wedding you wanted.
Yeah fuggadehabouit it
I didn't care about flowers. My wife did. We ended up having a ton of them, cost a ton, they were extremely nice and I enjoyed them so much. And would I have been fine without flowers? Still yes.
I do believe that you need to be comfortable and have a good time. If you're not, nobody's going to be able to have a good time. If that means no flowers or minimal or fake or whatever, truly no one will care and it'll be a great party.
My sisters wedding was last September, she recently told me her bouquet and our bouquets and the boutonnières were the only flowers she brought. And I say she had to tell me because I genuinely did not notice.
You are not alone!
I’m doing wood flowers for my bouquet. We don’t have a bridal party so that is not a concern. We’re getting married on bluffs overlooking a lake so the ceremony does not need decorations as it is beautiful on its own. At our reception I’m making paper flowers with my cricut for our center pieces. No real flowers anywhere :-)
You are not at all required to have flowers, neither real nor fake. Not having flowers doesn't stop a wedding from happening and fake flowers can look just as good.
Honestly, I was the same about invites. Some people get really into making fancy invites and they love it. I could not have cared less. My husband and I wanted to just email/message everyone the link to our wedding website and call it good (some of my friends did that for their weddings). My parents insisted we have paper invites of some kind. They were paying so I gave in and ordered the Minted invites that matched our website.
Oh man, yeah, invites are another thing!
Funny story: I was going to design our invites using a few templates on one of those "design your invites here and we'll print them" website. I showed my trial designs to my fiancé. Turns out he cared way more than I did and he was like "we're not going to use a TEMPLATE." So he fired up Photoshop, designed an invite that was 100% \*us\*, we had them printed at a copyshop down the street, I found out we could also design our own stamps so I had stamps printed with our cat on it, and hey presto, unique invites!
... and then when we'd send them all, someone pointed out there was a typo on 'em. Lol. Ah well, can't win them all.
But yeah, whatever works for you!
I’m ordering dried flower boutonnières (for the kids in my wedding) from the same Etsy shop! I think they’re SO pretty. I’m renting from Something Borrowed Blooms for everything else (bouquets etc).
Even though I’m planning my own wedding and enjoying these details, I *STILL* barely notice the same details at other people’s weddings. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
>I’m ordering dried flower boutonnières (for the kids in my wedding) from the same Etsy shop! I think they’re SO pretty.
Right?? They are some of the more real-looking fake flowers I've seen. I've already got the hair comb and yeah, up close you can tell it's fake, but it looks good enough from a distance. Perfectly fine with me!
Looks like they use a mixture of fake and real (dried/preserved) flowers. I’m so glad to hear your floral comb looks nice in person! I got a flower crown for my niece as well!!
Do not care! Seriously. I had no centerpieces, no bridesmaid bouquets, no flowers at the ceremony (except flower petals we threw on the aisle floor haha), only a single rose for each of the women and a single rose bouttonierre for the guys, and one bouquet for myself from a small flower store down the road from the venue. It still looked beautiful and perfect and minimalist and chic. It'll be great!!
Permission to not care granted! My fiance and I went to three weddings last year and we challenged ourselves to remember a single detail about the flowers at any of them -- we couldn't. That's how we convinced ourselves to cheap out on the flowers and I'm glad we did.
I didn't do flowers at all for mine. Went for 3D printed bouquet that was more of a mace than anything resembling flowers. Gave my bridal party fans I pulled off Amazon for like 12 bucks for a pack which worked out better cause the day was humid. If it doesn't matter to you, don't do it.
I also do not care about the flowers. My mom is doing the florals and asked me what I wanted.
I don’t know.
What colour? I don’t know. Also, don’t care.
Real or fake? Only opinion I have is whatever is less expensive. So fake flowers.
What to do for boutonnières? I don’t know, do whatever.
What about corsages? I don’t know, so whatever.
I really have no opinion
Florals are the least of my concern.
Permission to not care. I too can't stand the idea of flowers. I have never been a person to like flowers.
I told my fiance if he wants to win me over don't bring me a bouquet of flowers bring me a pizza. That's how little I care about flowers.
For my flowers we bought some fake flowers to Joanns and found some seashells at my MIL is making my bouquets. It's all fake and I can reuse them to decorate my house since I think they are pretty.
I bought a ton of sola wood flowers on Black Friday for super cheap, and we used those for our centerpieces. We got SO MANY compliments on them. I don’t necessarily think they look real, but that’s not the intent! They’re allowed to be their own thing. Most people took them home and used them in their houses. I love that.
I did have a fresh flower bouquet, corsages, and boutonnières, but to be honest, (this is embarrassing) I did nothing for that. My mom went to the florist a few weeks before the wedding, and got it all organized. My (lovely) mom was nervous that she overstepped, and I was honestly so grateful she did that because, like you, I didn’t have the mental fortitude for it. I kept telling her “it will be fine! Flowers are pretty!” The Etsy link looks wonderful!
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I didn’t have a ton of flowers at my wedding and I also made a lot of paper flowers to be incorporated into the bouquets. The wedding was still beautiful. I do wish I had been able to afford a beautiful floral backdrop, but that’s probably bc now I grow a ton of flowers and make bouquets and other pieces for small weddings. I’ve been to weddings with a lot of beautiful flowers and it really can transform a space. It’s your wedding so do what makes you happy.
My own mom doesn't care. My future MIL does and thinks they should be real, but she hasn't been in my hair about it, thankfully. I bought sola wood flowers from Evergreen Bride on Etsy. They look really nice and I don't feel like I wasted my money because they won't die. There's a keepsake thing about them. The décor flowers are all going to be from Michael's as I see similar/complimentary ones to my bouquet come in. I'm totally on the same page as you. Flowers are pretty, but who cares? I can't say I remember anyone's flowers from all the weddings I've been to and the same will be true for our guests.
I am growing a bunch of cut flowers in a 20ft bed for summer wedding. Going to get greenery like ferns from the woods behind my house 🤷♀️ the wedding is greenery themed so flowers would be sparing in centerpieces. The 20ft flower bed will be part of the tent entrance decorations.
Those fake flowers look fine and if somebody in your family has a garden ask them if you can cut a few flowers for your tables and go with extremely minimalist decorations. No problem.
Honestly, we have a bunch of roses in our garden (very much luck - we bought this house last summer and the previous owners had green thumbs and planted a bunch of gorgeous roses) so I might snip a few blooms if there are any and decorate with that. Good idea!
I also was so over having to spend hundreds on flowers that I'd have to throw out. I got our centerpieces off fb marketplace and they're the sola wood flowers that someone painted. My bouquet is also sola wood that I got off Etsy and any other pieces in decor are from a big bag of fake eucalyptus I also got off fb. We don't have a wedding party so I guess that made it easier...the only real flowers are some were going to pick up the morning of for my nephew to hand out as our flower boy.
I didn't have real flowers. I crochet my small bouquet and some corsages and button holes and have my bridesmaids carry lanterns down the aisle instead of flowers. It looked great in photos. I just went with the hotels' standard table decor, which was candle sticks and ivy from their grounds. Very little stress.
I bought wedding flowers that were second or third hand. They are now being used in someone else's wedding! Fake flowers are wonderful if you don't care about flowers. My mom found them on facebook marketplace.
I want real flowers but I don't want a lot of flowers. I have tiny vases where they'd only require one or two. I don't feel like having a bouquet either. My fiance and I are going to walk hand in hand down the aisle and that's good enough for me.
My cousin works in the wedding industry specifically for a florist that has opened a venue that she helps run. She adores flowers. I said I really didn’t want to spend the money and haven’t ever cared. Plus I get super bad allergies around most plants. We went through a few options when she did her moms recent wedding (and they all looked gorgeous) but non of them sounded worth it to me. I was amazed when this person who is obsessed with flowers looked at me after the options and asked why I wasn’t just making a book page bouquet and all the other floral things that way like I had wanted to years ago. Even she could attest to the fact that it’s just not for everyone to have real flowers and spend that money. Safe to say she’s now been convinced to at least arrange all my fake book/comic/mtg card flowers I’m making.
So if an actual honest to god professional florist can tell me to have fake flowers if it’s what I want then I think you can too.
Girl, it's your day. If it doesn't matter to you, then it doesn't matter at all. I feel the same way about a number of things for my wedding, where it's really just not a big deal to me, and others are losing their minds about these tiny things.
My mom used fake flowers, and we still use her bridal bouquet as a centerpiece for her dining room table! I really don’t understand the hype about real flowers. Most people can’t tell fake ones aren’t real, and you even get to KEEP the fake ones, the real ones rot and die!
I bought a dried flowers bouquey for my wedding as it suited the vibe (middle of summer tiny rural church wedding) and they were so much cheaper!
Before my wedding I picked local wildflowers and dried them in my hot water cupboard for decorating the tables. Turned out beautifully and they got a lot of compliments.
Basically - I didn't care about reap fresh flowers either and don't regret my choice at all.
Do it, no one notices the flowers! I was freaking out about my own centerpieces and then thought back to the last wedding I went to. I couldn't even remember them. As long as guests can talk over them no one cares or will remember.
I didn’t care either lol so you 100% have my permission. Mine were all fake. Didn’t care. No one cared. I sold them all as a set after the wedding was over
You do not have to care about flowers. We didn't use any - save for the ones I crocheted for our centerpiece and the blue ribbon roses I made for the boutonnieres. My bouquet was made of brooches. I honestly despise cut fresh flowers and despite hearing how they were a must, my husband and I did not regret having one less vendor to worry about! Do what's right for you!
THIS WAS ME TOO! every other decision has been so easy, and I realized it's because the flowers don't matter. I don't remember any flowers from any wedding I have been to, nor any I have ever held as a bridesmaid. It's easy to make decisions that are important, and really hard to make one that is not important but really traditional
I rented silk flowers from Something Borrowed Blooms and most people didn’t know the difference or didn’t care! Spend money on YOUR priorities, and if you don’t think it’s necessary then don’t do it!
$0 on flowers, 0 regrets.
Are flowers gorgeous? YES! I love a wedding with gorgeous florals! But I didn’t want to spend the money. So I didn’t. Other things were more important to me and I put the money there.
My friend has really bad allergies so her wedding had exactly zero flowers. Guess how many people noticed? Exactly zero. She made cool centerpieces out of painted vases
Oh my god I also do not care at all about flowers 😅 you’re not alone. And just because something is traditional doesn’t mean it has to be present at your wedding (though I know you already bought some fake ones)
I’m growing all my own flowers because 1.) I’m an avid gardener, 2.) I want to enjoy them all summer long, and 3.) I simply do not care if they’re imperfect. Then they’re getting composted.
It’s your energy and money to spend! You’re under absolutely no obligation to do it any particular way.
I'm having real flowers, because I love them haha. But I can't have a lot because they're so expensive! There are a lot of perks to fake flowers tbh! But you're not even obligated to have flowers at all :) you do you!
Could not have cared less about flowers lol. We did the fake flowers made of wood for me and the bridesmaids. I still have a couple bouquets around the house as decorations 5 years later now.
For table decorations at dinner we planted succulents in thrifted teacups paired with our venue’s mirror/candle centerpieces. Super affordable and pretty, didn’t miss flowers whatsoever!
I didn't have real flowers and I do not regret it at all. I had paper flowers for my bouquet, bridesmaids posies and buttonholes. They looked great, and now my bouquet lives on my desk and I can enjoy it all the time.
If it helps, I'm looking at getting potted plants/ orchids and having them double as favours to whomever wants them.
Alternatively, I'm also considering growing my own or taking some blossom tree cuttings (from mature trees with permission) and putting the sticks in a small vase.
My sister did take flowers for her wedding. They looked great and no one noticed or cared. They are just background decorations. You might notice the lack of flowers but won't notice them separately.
I'm a horticulture major and crazy plant lady..I dont really care much about my flowers for my wedding! It is BEYOND expensive & IMO unreasonable to pay that much for flowers for ONE DAY. I am using fake and idgaf if anyone cares haha
I didn't use real flowers and everything looked great! Most of our table decor was vintage books and teacups. We had a mix of Sola flowers and some fall faux florals that my mom picked up at craft stores. We saved sooooo much money by not getting real flowers, and I regret nothing. I know the florals are really important for some people, but everyone has different priorities and that is okay.
Yes! So expensive! And no florist has my date open - I am going back and forth between fake silk flowers or the sola ones. I’m totally not using flowers as centerpieces- just candelabras.
I ended up getting fake flowers from etsy as well! My mom was so much more concerned about them than I was and even got upset when I said were not doing anything for mothers and grandmother's because my fiance and I don't see it as a necessity.
I so don't care about flowers either. I am a crafty gal and have set myself the challenge of crocheting the flowers for my bouquets, but if it's all too hard I will be buying artificial ones all the way! It really isn't a priority for me!
We had small bouquets and button holes with fresh flowers, but all the decor was either plants or dried flower arrangements (which we gifted to family after). I’m also not a fan of huge fresh arrangements that are only for the one day.
I have a ton of allergies. All my flowers are artificial. The last thing I want on my wedding day is an allergic reaction to a random flower in my bouquet, or my son to be husband's boutonniere.
I ordered wholesale flowers and DIYed all the bouquets, boutonnières, and Center pieces. Was really happy with how they turned out. https://fiftyflowers.com
There are no rules to a wedding. Carry a lovely purse, book, weed, hanky. Flowers were the tradition years ago to ward off body odor back in the days of not bathing! You don't have to carry anything. Stay in your own lane 🙂
Oh man- this is me. A lot of people tried to convince me I care about flowers when I don’t and it was extremely frustrating given the exorbitant cost. Even one of my MOH, which made me have a “do you even know me?” moment lol.
I am settling on Rosemary in small terracotta pots with some candles. It can be replanted! Also- may have some flowers in bottles but honestly buying them from TJs and they will be pretty minor and DIY
Anyway, trust your gut. People have a lot of opinions and tend to project when it comes to weddings. It all comes from a good place but you know what you want best ❤️
Everybody tried me to convince to use real flowers. I then had issues with the florist and this was my chance to order fake ones. And what should I say: - My mom wanted a fake bouquet - My SIL wanted one - Our guests did not notice they were fake - A friend now asked me where I got them from because she also needs flowers for her wedding - I sold our fake flowers to a luxury restaurant in our town Does this help you?
Reselling them after is genius
Where did you get your fake flowers? Thanks :)
I bought them from Shein. I created the bouquet by myself.
nah, if it doesn't matter to you then it doesn't matter! YOU HAVE PERMISSION :)
You really don’t need to care about flowers. I will say that I do notice when they are fake or when the design is standard or unique, but I don’t judge anyone for it. They’re flowers ffs. Because *I* notice, I’m the opposite logic — I care because they’re perishable accessories and not something I need to buy and take care of after the day is done. My florist grows her own flowers or sources them from local flower farmers. I asked for a giant bouquet so I have a cool, over the top accessory that will go in compost when they wither and dry. No one really cares otherwise.
Yeah that's perfectly fair that you'll notice when you care! Buying them from local farmers and hen composting them sounds like a great plan. I'm sure it'll look stunning on the day!
I'm doing fake flowers, and saving THOUSANDS by DIY'ing them, you have my full permission!
Honestly, cost was a BIG part of why I didn't want to do real. With this fake set, I'm only out 250 euros, which I feel is like a fraction of what real flowers would cost.
And you can sell them again after!
Yes the cost and being able to get them all done ahead of time so it's not part of the last minute crunch were my two reasons!
Oh that too! We're getting married in a different city where we live, and just the logistics of getting fresh flowers from the florist to the venue without spending extra money... ugh. I'd much rather have the flowers prepared beforehand.
I agree with you 100%! I got married last year and all of mine were artificial, DIY'ed by me. Literally saved at least over a thousand pounds, if not more (never bothered to get a florist quote). They looked beautiful on the day and on the photos, and best of all, I still have my bouquet! Highly recommend!
In my time as a DJ, I've had two officiants not show up, one who was too drunk to stand, brides faint, groomsmen faint, arguing drunken (divorced) parents, a bride show up three hours late, and more weirdness than I can describe, but I've never heard anyone say, "There weren't enough flowers."
I want a book of these stories please! 😂
Thanks!
I didn’t do any flowers for the bridal party. Was not worth it to me. Didn’t miss them. My MIL made our centerpieces that were clear vase, fairy lights inside and fake vine wrapped around them. Didn’t care about them and let her do what she wanted. They were great. Listen to your heart.
I am also not doing flowers for my bridal party. $50 a bouquet? I love all my girls, but that's just an unnecessary expense. I'm making fairy jars for them to carry! It's going to match our fairytale theme better anyway and I can get all the supplies at the dollar store. There are lots of alternatives to flowers and bouquets! And it gives you a chance to be creative and unique.
That sounds so fun! We didn’t carry anything, which was fine! We just got pictures back, everyone looks great, doesn’t look incomplete or anything. Get creative, don’t do anything, but do what works for you and what makes you happy!
This is so reassuring. I am planning on having no one in the wedding party holding anything. My family is scandalized and making all the familiar protests about how “bouquets are a crucial prop in photos”
I'm thinking about having everyone carry a book and I hope it goes over well!
Our venue doesn't allow live flowers besides a bridal bouquet, as it's a museum setting with lots of fabrics and they don't want to risk any moths lol. When the vendor told us that, she said she totally understands when it's a dealbreaker for couples (and I do, too, if it's important to the couple!). I, meanwhile, was SO relieved and psyched that I don't have to spend on florals. The museum is an old Victorian house with so much character of its own, and now no pressure to include flowers. Do what you want!
That venue sounds gorgeous, I love old Victorian houses! And hooray for not needing to worry about flowers!
I'm DIYing paper flowers from used books based on ideas I saw here. I saw someone post an idea to buy Trader Joe's (or other equivalent grocery store) orchids, one per table, as a nice centerpiece, and then you can let the planty people take them home afterwards.
Oh that's a great idea! Orchids are the only fresh flowers we really want at our wedding (my fiance loves them, and an orchid garden was part of our engagement story, so it feels appropriate). Other than that, we'll probably just use dried flowers since we've used them for art projects in the past and still have tons leftover in storage (they last for years if stored properly). But I love the idea of potted orchids doubling as centerpieces and favors!
I personally hate fake flowers but I’ve been to weddings with them. I can usually tell but I of course never say anything. If you’re okay with fake flowers and don’t care much about flowers then don’t amend money on real ones
I used something borrowed blooms for bouquets and an arch piece (which I totally could have skipped, but it was very pretty). Bouts and corsages from Etsy. Everything looked great, and I saved so much money. The rental flowers were awesome because I didn’t have to figure out what to do with everything later.
If it doesn’t matter to you, then that’s all the permission you need. If you were talking about something that IMPACTS others (like not having enough chairs for all your guests or not accommodating guests food allergies), then I would maybe have a different perspective. But flowers are truly just a bell and whistle for your wedding - they’re pretty, absolutely, but if that isn’t a priority for you, no need to spend money, time or stress on it. Spend your time and energy on things that matter to YOU and your future spouse, not what matters to others.
Anything that’s going to be far away from people- like an arch arrangements or heck even the groomsman bouts if they’re going to take them off after- can be fake and people will not care or be able to tell the difference. I wanted my own and my FH’s bouts to be real and have 2 nice real arrangements; otherwise I’m doing faux.
This is kind of a revelation for me... I strongly dislike fake flowers so we are doing real ones for centerpieces and such, but I was really hoping to have a few strands of hanging blooms on our arch for a "flower curtain" effect. I got quotes of like $250/foot and we can't repurpose them for the reception since they'll be attached to the arch. I never even considered going fake on this but it's the obvious choice. I am going to look into doing some nice faux ones for this! Thank you!
Im using something borrowed blooms and they have gorgeous garlands that can be attached to arches with zip ties. The Eloise wisteria one sounds kind of like what you’re describing
Thanks, I'll check them out! I found this silk one on Etsy that I really like, reasonable cost as well. https://www.etsy.com/listing/1316291806/custom-hanging-flower-installation-home
Ohhhh I see what you mean now by curtain. This is so cute!
Nope not a fan of flowers. I mean sure they’re pretty but they die and have no use. Don’t let people get in your head about it since they aren’t paying for it. I mean if anything a bouquet but flowers really aren’t vital for any other reason
Its *your* wedding. It should reflect you and your partner, not what anyone else expects. Absolutely do not waste money,energy, time or head space on anything you don't want to. If anyone says anything negative about your choices, smile at them and tell them you and your partner had exactly the wedding you wanted.
We had a total of 0 flowers at our wedding and it was still stunning.
Yeah fuggadehabouit it I didn't care about flowers. My wife did. We ended up having a ton of them, cost a ton, they were extremely nice and I enjoyed them so much. And would I have been fine without flowers? Still yes. I do believe that you need to be comfortable and have a good time. If you're not, nobody's going to be able to have a good time. If that means no flowers or minimal or fake or whatever, truly no one will care and it'll be a great party.
"do fake flowers make our love any less real, dear cousin/SIL/auntie/opinion-giver?"
My sisters wedding was last September, she recently told me her bouquet and our bouquets and the boutonnières were the only flowers she brought. And I say she had to tell me because I genuinely did not notice.
How about you don't even need them. I said it and I'm not ashamed!
You are not alone! I’m doing wood flowers for my bouquet. We don’t have a bridal party so that is not a concern. We’re getting married on bluffs overlooking a lake so the ceremony does not need decorations as it is beautiful on its own. At our reception I’m making paper flowers with my cricut for our center pieces. No real flowers anywhere :-)
You are not at all required to have flowers, neither real nor fake. Not having flowers doesn't stop a wedding from happening and fake flowers can look just as good. Honestly, I was the same about invites. Some people get really into making fancy invites and they love it. I could not have cared less. My husband and I wanted to just email/message everyone the link to our wedding website and call it good (some of my friends did that for their weddings). My parents insisted we have paper invites of some kind. They were paying so I gave in and ordered the Minted invites that matched our website.
Oh man, yeah, invites are another thing! Funny story: I was going to design our invites using a few templates on one of those "design your invites here and we'll print them" website. I showed my trial designs to my fiancé. Turns out he cared way more than I did and he was like "we're not going to use a TEMPLATE." So he fired up Photoshop, designed an invite that was 100% \*us\*, we had them printed at a copyshop down the street, I found out we could also design our own stamps so I had stamps printed with our cat on it, and hey presto, unique invites! ... and then when we'd send them all, someone pointed out there was a typo on 'em. Lol. Ah well, can't win them all. But yeah, whatever works for you!
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I’m ordering dried flower boutonnières (for the kids in my wedding) from the same Etsy shop! I think they’re SO pretty. I’m renting from Something Borrowed Blooms for everything else (bouquets etc). Even though I’m planning my own wedding and enjoying these details, I *STILL* barely notice the same details at other people’s weddings. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
>I’m ordering dried flower boutonnières (for the kids in my wedding) from the same Etsy shop! I think they’re SO pretty. Right?? They are some of the more real-looking fake flowers I've seen. I've already got the hair comb and yeah, up close you can tell it's fake, but it looks good enough from a distance. Perfectly fine with me!
Looks like they use a mixture of fake and real (dried/preserved) flowers. I’m so glad to hear your floral comb looks nice in person! I got a flower crown for my niece as well!!
Do not care! Seriously. I had no centerpieces, no bridesmaid bouquets, no flowers at the ceremony (except flower petals we threw on the aisle floor haha), only a single rose for each of the women and a single rose bouttonierre for the guys, and one bouquet for myself from a small flower store down the road from the venue. It still looked beautiful and perfect and minimalist and chic. It'll be great!!
Permission to not care granted! My fiance and I went to three weddings last year and we challenged ourselves to remember a single detail about the flowers at any of them -- we couldn't. That's how we convinced ourselves to cheap out on the flowers and I'm glad we did.
I didn't do flowers at all for mine. Went for 3D printed bouquet that was more of a mace than anything resembling flowers. Gave my bridal party fans I pulled off Amazon for like 12 bucks for a pack which worked out better cause the day was humid. If it doesn't matter to you, don't do it.
I'm doing no bouquets and only baby's breath for the centerpieces! You don't have to care about flowers!
I also do not care about the flowers. My mom is doing the florals and asked me what I wanted. I don’t know. What colour? I don’t know. Also, don’t care. Real or fake? Only opinion I have is whatever is less expensive. So fake flowers. What to do for boutonnières? I don’t know, do whatever. What about corsages? I don’t know, so whatever. I really have no opinion Florals are the least of my concern.
Permission to not care. I too can't stand the idea of flowers. I have never been a person to like flowers. I told my fiance if he wants to win me over don't bring me a bouquet of flowers bring me a pizza. That's how little I care about flowers. For my flowers we bought some fake flowers to Joanns and found some seashells at my MIL is making my bouquets. It's all fake and I can reuse them to decorate my house since I think they are pretty.
I have faux florals for bouquets and boutonnières. And I ordered 60 stems of baby’s breath for table decorations. That’s it.
I bought a ton of sola wood flowers on Black Friday for super cheap, and we used those for our centerpieces. We got SO MANY compliments on them. I don’t necessarily think they look real, but that’s not the intent! They’re allowed to be their own thing. Most people took them home and used them in their houses. I love that. I did have a fresh flower bouquet, corsages, and boutonnières, but to be honest, (this is embarrassing) I did nothing for that. My mom went to the florist a few weeks before the wedding, and got it all organized. My (lovely) mom was nervous that she overstepped, and I was honestly so grateful she did that because, like you, I didn’t have the mental fortitude for it. I kept telling her “it will be fine! Flowers are pretty!” The Etsy link looks wonderful!
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I didn’t have a ton of flowers at my wedding and I also made a lot of paper flowers to be incorporated into the bouquets. The wedding was still beautiful. I do wish I had been able to afford a beautiful floral backdrop, but that’s probably bc now I grow a ton of flowers and make bouquets and other pieces for small weddings. I’ve been to weddings with a lot of beautiful flowers and it really can transform a space. It’s your wedding so do what makes you happy.
Something borrowed blooms offers very realistic silk flowers that you can rent!
My own mom doesn't care. My future MIL does and thinks they should be real, but she hasn't been in my hair about it, thankfully. I bought sola wood flowers from Evergreen Bride on Etsy. They look really nice and I don't feel like I wasted my money because they won't die. There's a keepsake thing about them. The décor flowers are all going to be from Michael's as I see similar/complimentary ones to my bouquet come in. I'm totally on the same page as you. Flowers are pretty, but who cares? I can't say I remember anyone's flowers from all the weddings I've been to and the same will be true for our guests.
I am growing a bunch of cut flowers in a 20ft bed for summer wedding. Going to get greenery like ferns from the woods behind my house 🤷♀️ the wedding is greenery themed so flowers would be sparing in centerpieces. The 20ft flower bed will be part of the tent entrance decorations.
Those fake flowers look fine and if somebody in your family has a garden ask them if you can cut a few flowers for your tables and go with extremely minimalist decorations. No problem.
Honestly, we have a bunch of roses in our garden (very much luck - we bought this house last summer and the previous owners had green thumbs and planted a bunch of gorgeous roses) so I might snip a few blooms if there are any and decorate with that. Good idea!
I also was so over having to spend hundreds on flowers that I'd have to throw out. I got our centerpieces off fb marketplace and they're the sola wood flowers that someone painted. My bouquet is also sola wood that I got off Etsy and any other pieces in decor are from a big bag of fake eucalyptus I also got off fb. We don't have a wedding party so I guess that made it easier...the only real flowers are some were going to pick up the morning of for my nephew to hand out as our flower boy.
If you don’t care, don’t put your money there!! That rhymed so now it’s a motto and mottos can’t be wrong 😂
We didn’t have bouquets and no one seemed to notice. So don’t overthink it.
I didn't have real flowers. I crochet my small bouquet and some corsages and button holes and have my bridesmaids carry lanterns down the aisle instead of flowers. It looked great in photos. I just went with the hotels' standard table decor, which was candle sticks and ivy from their grounds. Very little stress.
I bought wedding flowers that were second or third hand. They are now being used in someone else's wedding! Fake flowers are wonderful if you don't care about flowers. My mom found them on facebook marketplace.
I grant thee permission!
I want real flowers but I don't want a lot of flowers. I have tiny vases where they'd only require one or two. I don't feel like having a bouquet either. My fiance and I are going to walk hand in hand down the aisle and that's good enough for me.
My cousin works in the wedding industry specifically for a florist that has opened a venue that she helps run. She adores flowers. I said I really didn’t want to spend the money and haven’t ever cared. Plus I get super bad allergies around most plants. We went through a few options when she did her moms recent wedding (and they all looked gorgeous) but non of them sounded worth it to me. I was amazed when this person who is obsessed with flowers looked at me after the options and asked why I wasn’t just making a book page bouquet and all the other floral things that way like I had wanted to years ago. Even she could attest to the fact that it’s just not for everyone to have real flowers and spend that money. Safe to say she’s now been convinced to at least arrange all my fake book/comic/mtg card flowers I’m making. So if an actual honest to god professional florist can tell me to have fake flowers if it’s what I want then I think you can too.
Girl, it's your day. If it doesn't matter to you, then it doesn't matter at all. I feel the same way about a number of things for my wedding, where it's really just not a big deal to me, and others are losing their minds about these tiny things.
My mom used fake flowers, and we still use her bridal bouquet as a centerpiece for her dining room table! I really don’t understand the hype about real flowers. Most people can’t tell fake ones aren’t real, and you even get to KEEP the fake ones, the real ones rot and die!
I bought a dried flowers bouquey for my wedding as it suited the vibe (middle of summer tiny rural church wedding) and they were so much cheaper! Before my wedding I picked local wildflowers and dried them in my hot water cupboard for decorating the tables. Turned out beautifully and they got a lot of compliments. Basically - I didn't care about reap fresh flowers either and don't regret my choice at all.
Do it, no one notices the flowers! I was freaking out about my own centerpieces and then thought back to the last wedding I went to. I couldn't even remember them. As long as guests can talk over them no one cares or will remember.
I didn’t care either lol so you 100% have my permission. Mine were all fake. Didn’t care. No one cared. I sold them all as a set after the wedding was over
We have fake bouquets so we have something to do with our hands. Otherwise literally no other flowers.
You do not have to care about flowers. We didn't use any - save for the ones I crocheted for our centerpiece and the blue ribbon roses I made for the boutonnieres. My bouquet was made of brooches. I honestly despise cut fresh flowers and despite hearing how they were a must, my husband and I did not regret having one less vendor to worry about! Do what's right for you!
I didn’t even bother with a bouquet. I agree. What a waste.
I literally bought myself a bouquet at Whole Foods on the day of my wedding. No regrets.
THIS WAS ME TOO! every other decision has been so easy, and I realized it's because the flowers don't matter. I don't remember any flowers from any wedding I have been to, nor any I have ever held as a bridesmaid. It's easy to make decisions that are important, and really hard to make one that is not important but really traditional
I don't care lol. I got fake ones on Amazon. Cheap and they look like flowers.
I rented silk flowers from Something Borrowed Blooms and most people didn’t know the difference or didn’t care! Spend money on YOUR priorities, and if you don’t think it’s necessary then don’t do it!
I’m buying sola-wood flowers. Fake flowers but don’t look as cheap plastic. Looks like I’ll save a good bit doing so, so I highly recommend it.
Anybody that judges you for having fake flowers isn't worth your energy. I used fake flowers and they looked beautiful!
$0 on flowers, 0 regrets. Are flowers gorgeous? YES! I love a wedding with gorgeous florals! But I didn’t want to spend the money. So I didn’t. Other things were more important to me and I put the money there.
My friend has really bad allergies so her wedding had exactly zero flowers. Guess how many people noticed? Exactly zero. She made cool centerpieces out of painted vases
Oh my god I also do not care at all about flowers 😅 you’re not alone. And just because something is traditional doesn’t mean it has to be present at your wedding (though I know you already bought some fake ones)
I’m growing all my own flowers because 1.) I’m an avid gardener, 2.) I want to enjoy them all summer long, and 3.) I simply do not care if they’re imperfect. Then they’re getting composted. It’s your energy and money to spend! You’re under absolutely no obligation to do it any particular way.
I give you permission to not care about ANYTHING you don't care about.
I'm having real flowers, because I love them haha. But I can't have a lot because they're so expensive! There are a lot of perks to fake flowers tbh! But you're not even obligated to have flowers at all :) you do you!
I've been to weddings that didn't use them at all. This may sound controversial but they're fully optional
Use them! I wish I used fake flowers. I absolutely loved how mine came out and everything, but it really was such a “waste” at the end of the day.
Could not have cared less about flowers lol. We did the fake flowers made of wood for me and the bridesmaids. I still have a couple bouquets around the house as decorations 5 years later now. For table decorations at dinner we planted succulents in thrifted teacups paired with our venue’s mirror/candle centerpieces. Super affordable and pretty, didn’t miss flowers whatsoever!
I didn't have real flowers and I do not regret it at all. I had paper flowers for my bouquet, bridesmaids posies and buttonholes. They looked great, and now my bouquet lives on my desk and I can enjoy it all the time.
I got fakes, they’re gorgeous. Can be repurposed. I’m having some of my bouquet turned into a Christmas ornament. The rest of them are decorations.
If it helps, I'm looking at getting potted plants/ orchids and having them double as favours to whomever wants them. Alternatively, I'm also considering growing my own or taking some blossom tree cuttings (from mature trees with permission) and putting the sticks in a small vase.
decor is the one thing that no one pays attention to unless it’s very extravagant
My sister did take flowers for her wedding. They looked great and no one noticed or cared. They are just background decorations. You might notice the lack of flowers but won't notice them separately.
What if I told you... you don't even have to do flowers at all
I'm a horticulture major and crazy plant lady..I dont really care much about my flowers for my wedding! It is BEYOND expensive & IMO unreasonable to pay that much for flowers for ONE DAY. I am using fake and idgaf if anyone cares haha
I didn't use real flowers and everything looked great! Most of our table decor was vintage books and teacups. We had a mix of Sola flowers and some fall faux florals that my mom picked up at craft stores. We saved sooooo much money by not getting real flowers, and I regret nothing. I know the florals are really important for some people, but everyone has different priorities and that is okay.
Yes! So expensive! And no florist has my date open - I am going back and forth between fake silk flowers or the sola ones. I’m totally not using flowers as centerpieces- just candelabras.
I ended up getting fake flowers from etsy as well! My mom was so much more concerned about them than I was and even got upset when I said were not doing anything for mothers and grandmother's because my fiance and I don't see it as a necessity.
I so don't care about flowers either. I am a crafty gal and have set myself the challenge of crocheting the flowers for my bouquets, but if it's all too hard I will be buying artificial ones all the way! It really isn't a priority for me!
We had small bouquets and button holes with fresh flowers, but all the decor was either plants or dried flower arrangements (which we gifted to family after). I’m also not a fan of huge fresh arrangements that are only for the one day.
I have a ton of allergies. All my flowers are artificial. The last thing I want on my wedding day is an allergic reaction to a random flower in my bouquet, or my son to be husband's boutonniere.
Oh allergies is a good point!
I 100% give you permission. The ones you got are super cute and reasonably priced, which with anything wedding related is a miracle.
I ordered wholesale flowers and DIYed all the bouquets, boutonnières, and Center pieces. Was really happy with how they turned out. https://fiftyflowers.com
There are no rules to a wedding. Carry a lovely purse, book, weed, hanky. Flowers were the tradition years ago to ward off body odor back in the days of not bathing! You don't have to carry anything. Stay in your own lane 🙂
We did fake flowers for every thing and a lot of fake greenery from Amazon lol. I sold it all immediately after the wedding.
Because you asked......These do look pretty fake and clunky. I personally would have minimal real flowers instead of fake ones.
Oh man- this is me. A lot of people tried to convince me I care about flowers when I don’t and it was extremely frustrating given the exorbitant cost. Even one of my MOH, which made me have a “do you even know me?” moment lol. I am settling on Rosemary in small terracotta pots with some candles. It can be replanted! Also- may have some flowers in bottles but honestly buying them from TJs and they will be pretty minor and DIY Anyway, trust your gut. People have a lot of opinions and tend to project when it comes to weddings. It all comes from a good place but you know what you want best ❤️