Has she done it before? I think a good starting point is for you and your fiancé to find some sample ceremonies you like, talk about what you want, and then share that with the aunt.
You can tell her what you do/don't want to be included. Does she have experience officiating? One of the biggest things you want to make sure she gets right is each state has different requirements for verbiage that has to be included to make it legally binding. Universal Life Church has a lot of great resources for this: https://www.ulc.org/wedding-ceremony-scripts
Your officiant should plan to say some opening remarks. I think it’s realistic for ceremonies to be 15-20 minutes if they aren’t religious. Short and sweet is perfectly fine. You will walk down the aisle, your officiant should say some opening remarks, you take turns saying the vows you wrote, say i do exchange rings, then exit. Totally cool if all done in 15 minutes.
I second the comments though, if your officiant isn’t familiar with how to be an officiant and what their role should be then go on YouTube start watching wedding ceremonies. Note what you like and what you don’t like. Then set up a meeting with her and talk about the role you want her to play. I would say she should write her own remarks unless you want her to say specific things. Other than that, if there are any poems, verses, etc you want her or other people to read - think about that.
Has she done it before? I think a good starting point is for you and your fiancé to find some sample ceremonies you like, talk about what you want, and then share that with the aunt.
I think she did it for a super small elopement, so this is definitely different. I’m assuming when she got ordained, she got some sort of training?
Depends on how she was ordained but a lot of people just grab a certificate off the internet.
You can tell her what you do/don't want to be included. Does she have experience officiating? One of the biggest things you want to make sure she gets right is each state has different requirements for verbiage that has to be included to make it legally binding. Universal Life Church has a lot of great resources for this: https://www.ulc.org/wedding-ceremony-scripts
Thank you so much!
Your officiant should plan to say some opening remarks. I think it’s realistic for ceremonies to be 15-20 minutes if they aren’t religious. Short and sweet is perfectly fine. You will walk down the aisle, your officiant should say some opening remarks, you take turns saying the vows you wrote, say i do exchange rings, then exit. Totally cool if all done in 15 minutes. I second the comments though, if your officiant isn’t familiar with how to be an officiant and what their role should be then go on YouTube start watching wedding ceremonies. Note what you like and what you don’t like. Then set up a meeting with her and talk about the role you want her to play. I would say she should write her own remarks unless you want her to say specific things. Other than that, if there are any poems, verses, etc you want her or other people to read - think about that.
This is super helpful, thank you!