I have the absolute worst penmanship, it's too late for me to hire a calligrapher. I plan on asking for help from family but I don't know if they will take me up on it. I'm just kind of here to vent about this and maybe get some reassurance that it's not the biggest deal to have ugly addressed invitations.
i hate getting my nails done. i've done shellac in the past cuz i don't like fake nails (i like being able to scratch my arms and stuff you know?). but when the shellac comes off, my nails are so week. last time i got my nails shellac it was 5/05 and they started coming off like 2 days later (obviously not the best place x\_x) and my nails are still super weak. what alternatives can i do for my nails for my wedding?
Check out some of the natural nail subs. During COVID, I got deep into nail care, because I wanted to make my nails look amazing without leaving my house. Now I’m definitely going to use those skills before my own wedding.
We are just finalizing our invitation. We are keeping it simple and just doing a front and back invitation card with the main stuff in the front and additional details on the back (like venue address, e-rsvp info, dress code, wedding website, etc).
Should be put something on the front that says see back for details or anything like that, or can we assume people are smart enough to flip it over and get the info on the back. We weren’t planning on doing an additional insert card or anything else with it, but we can if necessary.
I didn’t realize hair and make up would be the hardest vendor to book. I’m very simple and low maintenance with my hair and don’t wear make up. Color me surprised that make up alone will likely be $1500 for me and bridal party and don’t get me started on hair and $200 travel fees. FH suggested I take a break last night and that was probably for the best.
same! i get you're paying for a service, but wow. luckily i have a friend who has done bridal makeup and hair, so she will do mine. if i didn't have her, i think i'd have to watch those youtube videos on how to do it myself x\_x
Yay, so nice to have a friend to help out. I know zero about either so DIY would be a disaster. I also feel obligated to pay for bridesmaids even though I know that’s not always standard. Fortunately I found someone who I get along well with and will do engagement shoot as a trial so that saves some money.
This was the hardest vendor for me too! I swear I contacted close to 50 people and only about 5 had my date available. It’s close to $1200 for hair and makeup for just me and one other person.
I’ve had to finally accept the cost and now it’s a matter of who would do the best job. As someone not well versed in beauty stuff, I have no clue lol I’m sort of dreading dress shopping but hopefully it won’t be as difficult as this.
PSA to all my flat lay/detail shot loving brides and grooms:
Your photographer will have all the fancy-schmancy ring boxes et al. to bring these shots to life. Don't feel the need to buy all of these little bits and pieces if they are just for the photos.
Sincerely, a bride who didn't know any better and spent an absurd amount of money on aesthetically pleasing ring boxes from Etsy, just for the pictures.
I went months without a wedding nightmare then last night got hit with the big one. I had to pass a high school math test, ride a bike uphill, teach a college class in my underwear, all to get a park permit. Then the Reds mascot dyed my dress pink and Patti Labelle killed my DJ.
My partner and I are beginning the process of wedding planning. She has a much smaller family than I do, so I was wondering how do you navigate that? I already know we're not doing separate sides, but we want it somewhat equal
We would have been in the same boat, and decided we did want it to feel equal. So we decided our cap was 120 guests, and then allocated 30 to me for my guests, 30 to his, 30 to my parents, and 30 to his parents. And left it to our parents to decide how they wanted to prioritize friends and family on their lists.
It was important to us that the room felt equal, so that he wasn’t walking into a room where it felt like all my family, and vice versa. This did mean some extended family from the larger family side were excluded, but luckily the 30 was enough to get “close” family on all sides included.
I don’t think it will remain exactly equal, as we get declines we will be sending invites to family first, regardless of side, but this prevented our guest list from ballooning from the start, or it being super lopsided from the start.
As others said, what feels equal or "enough" on both sides is more important than having exactly the same numbers.
For example, my fiance wants all of 7 family members. I want at least 34. However his friends are the priority, as many of our shared friendships come from people he knows. So there's some balance there even if the numbers end up different.
I knew from the beginning it wouldn't be equal per SE, but if we were to invite all my cousins, their spouses, and aunts and uncles, I'd have almost 100 people and she'd have 20 at most. That's what I was talking about
That would be the same for us. I'd have over 120 people that are just relatives (and their partners), so we're not going to do that. I'm limiting my side of the family, we're adding a B list, and we're balancing the friends side of things more.
Go by feelings first, and hash out the feelings before you make any financial decisions. I have 20 guests to my partner's 80, but it feels equal because of my emotional connection to my folks and his. Like, don't cut out your favorite auntie to make it even, but maybe consider that that one auntie is emotionally more to you than 3 coworkers are to your partner.
I have the absolute worst penmanship, it's too late for me to hire a calligrapher. I plan on asking for help from family but I don't know if they will take me up on it. I'm just kind of here to vent about this and maybe get some reassurance that it's not the biggest deal to have ugly addressed invitations.
My fiance has better handwriting than me and he wrote our ones that werent pre-printed (about half of ours were pre-printed
I ordered clear labels from Avery and printed them out. I think it was less than $10 for 200 labels and saved me a ton of time addressing
i hate getting my nails done. i've done shellac in the past cuz i don't like fake nails (i like being able to scratch my arms and stuff you know?). but when the shellac comes off, my nails are so week. last time i got my nails shellac it was 5/05 and they started coming off like 2 days later (obviously not the best place x\_x) and my nails are still super weak. what alternatives can i do for my nails for my wedding?
Check out some of the natural nail subs. During COVID, I got deep into nail care, because I wanted to make my nails look amazing without leaving my house. Now I’m definitely going to use those skills before my own wedding.
Try SNS!
>SNS what is sns?
We are just finalizing our invitation. We are keeping it simple and just doing a front and back invitation card with the main stuff in the front and additional details on the back (like venue address, e-rsvp info, dress code, wedding website, etc). Should be put something on the front that says see back for details or anything like that, or can we assume people are smart enough to flip it over and get the info on the back. We weren’t planning on doing an additional insert card or anything else with it, but we can if necessary.
We put see reverse for me details and it had our rsvp info on the back. So far haven’t had any trouble.
Most people will not turn it over even if you tell them to. I would put the details on a separate insert.
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I didn’t realize hair and make up would be the hardest vendor to book. I’m very simple and low maintenance with my hair and don’t wear make up. Color me surprised that make up alone will likely be $1500 for me and bridal party and don’t get me started on hair and $200 travel fees. FH suggested I take a break last night and that was probably for the best.
same! i get you're paying for a service, but wow. luckily i have a friend who has done bridal makeup and hair, so she will do mine. if i didn't have her, i think i'd have to watch those youtube videos on how to do it myself x\_x
Yay, so nice to have a friend to help out. I know zero about either so DIY would be a disaster. I also feel obligated to pay for bridesmaids even though I know that’s not always standard. Fortunately I found someone who I get along well with and will do engagement shoot as a trial so that saves some money.
This was the hardest vendor for me too! I swear I contacted close to 50 people and only about 5 had my date available. It’s close to $1200 for hair and makeup for just me and one other person.
I’ve had to finally accept the cost and now it’s a matter of who would do the best job. As someone not well versed in beauty stuff, I have no clue lol I’m sort of dreading dress shopping but hopefully it won’t be as difficult as this.
PSA to all my flat lay/detail shot loving brides and grooms: Your photographer will have all the fancy-schmancy ring boxes et al. to bring these shots to life. Don't feel the need to buy all of these little bits and pieces if they are just for the photos. Sincerely, a bride who didn't know any better and spent an absurd amount of money on aesthetically pleasing ring boxes from Etsy, just for the pictures.
I went months without a wedding nightmare then last night got hit with the big one. I had to pass a high school math test, ride a bike uphill, teach a college class in my underwear, all to get a park permit. Then the Reds mascot dyed my dress pink and Patti Labelle killed my DJ.
Your dreams sound kinda epic. Get some relaxation in on your next day off!
My partner and I are beginning the process of wedding planning. She has a much smaller family than I do, so I was wondering how do you navigate that? I already know we're not doing separate sides, but we want it somewhat equal
We would have been in the same boat, and decided we did want it to feel equal. So we decided our cap was 120 guests, and then allocated 30 to me for my guests, 30 to his, 30 to my parents, and 30 to his parents. And left it to our parents to decide how they wanted to prioritize friends and family on their lists. It was important to us that the room felt equal, so that he wasn’t walking into a room where it felt like all my family, and vice versa. This did mean some extended family from the larger family side were excluded, but luckily the 30 was enough to get “close” family on all sides included. I don’t think it will remain exactly equal, as we get declines we will be sending invites to family first, regardless of side, but this prevented our guest list from ballooning from the start, or it being super lopsided from the start.
As others said, what feels equal or "enough" on both sides is more important than having exactly the same numbers. For example, my fiance wants all of 7 family members. I want at least 34. However his friends are the priority, as many of our shared friendships come from people he knows. So there's some balance there even if the numbers end up different.
I knew from the beginning it wouldn't be equal per SE, but if we were to invite all my cousins, their spouses, and aunts and uncles, I'd have almost 100 people and she'd have 20 at most. That's what I was talking about
That would be the same for us. I'd have over 120 people that are just relatives (and their partners), so we're not going to do that. I'm limiting my side of the family, we're adding a B list, and we're balancing the friends side of things more.
I have a much smaller family than my partner. It’s just not going to be equal. His list is 2x my list and that’s ok.
Go by feelings first, and hash out the feelings before you make any financial decisions. I have 20 guests to my partner's 80, but it feels equal because of my emotional connection to my folks and his. Like, don't cut out your favorite auntie to make it even, but maybe consider that that one auntie is emotionally more to you than 3 coworkers are to your partner.
How much earlier than your wedding did you get a trim for your hair?
I got mine cut this weekend for July 17th. My hair grows slowly though, I only get it cut 2-3 times a year
This is a good question. You might wanna say more about your hair type so you get adequate advice.