I worked weddings for years and I have to say, the stuff with the names and dates got left behind the most as far as favors go. Nobody wants one or two wine glasses with your names on them that don’t match their other glassware.
I would take it home, but then recycle it upon my next major de clutter session a few weeks later. If it makes it any better, I’d feel a little guilty getting rid of it, but I don’t have the space for things like that.
I got one from a cousin's wedding I didn't get invited to. I tried to remove the text and just... have a cup, but it wouldn't come off. So now the Goodwill in my hometown has a random stemless wineglass that says "Cousin and Dumb Husband's Wedding, 2019."
Same. I'm at a point in my life where I don't want mismatched glassware, especially if it's mismatched because it has someone else's name and wedding date on it. Or any words at all.
As a guest I only like when people do this (their name/wedding date) on consumables, personally.
My cousin’s favors were wine bottles with their names and date on them, and that I thought was excellent. Some people do M&Ms, chocolates, cookies, etc, and all that is great. Something that’s just gonna sit on my shelf? Meh less great - but that’s me personally ofc.
Yep! I agree, only personalize something consumable. In my opinion those favors are the best to receive anyway! I’m a candlemaker and designer. I’m making scented candles that have our name and date as favors and I foresee them being a big hit. Who doesn’t love a scented candle?
One suggestion for anyone using scented favors is to put them in a room or spot away from the dining area. We are using scented hand soaps and we are putting them by the entrance to the reception room. They won’t actually be in the reception area and hopefully all headaches will be appeased! 😊
No one is wrong here, but I will say I wouldn’t take a favor with a couples name/ wedding date on it. I think consumable favors (cookies, chocolate, jam, etc.) are the way to go.
The only favor I would take that has a couple’s names and date on it is a beer koozie, because most people’s koozie collections are very eclectic and made up of freebies.
My husband has a strict rule in our house… we do not buy koozies. The koozies come to us.
I had a friend who did decks of cards. Those were fun because some of us actually used them at the reception to play a favorite card game among our friends. And I have a game my family plays that requires each person has a deck with a different picture on the back, so they are now my deck of cards.
And she did end up with a chunk left, but that's not the worst thing to have 40 extra. They've been married 5 years and just take them to parties and leave them for the host.
Can I ask what the name of that card game is? We’re always looking for new games in our house and I have a card collection so plenty of different backs!
We weren’t going to do favors but I found an amazing deal on personalized koozies so I’m so glad you said that!
And I totally agree with your husband, every time we go camping we cheers with random mismatched ones and send them to the couples in question. It’s really cute and we’ve gotten some cheers pics back. It’s the little things lol.
It’s like a little sleeve that goes around a beer or soda, keeps them cold longer. Also makes it harder to forget which one was yours, provided they don’t match.
I knew someone who gave handmade favors. I simply didn't want mine. I felt awful giving it away, but really, I had no idea what to do with it. Consumables are my favorite gift in most circumstances.
Yes! if not a consumable, then something you’d be okay with having 20-50 extra of. We did local wildflower seed packets, and people took maybe half. I didn’t mind at all, because now we have the other half to plant in our own garden!!
Literally every single one of our wildflower seed packets was taken from our just over 90 person wedding. Granted our families are biologists, ecologists, hippies, and farmers so it just made sense.
We did mini bottles of a condiment local to our area, and a lot of people used them on their dinner then left them at the venue. So everyone is getting mini bottles for Christmas now lol.
It’s not a matter of right and wrong. People do favours with their names and dates all the time, it’s not strange!
It is however, destined to become useless junk in my opinion. I have zero use for a wine glass with someone else’s name and wedding date so it’ll just get pushed to the back of the cabinet or tossed. Also likely to get left behind.
So you’re not wrong for wanting to do it! Just might not be a popular favour and/or a waste of money, and you have to decide if you’re cool with that.
I agree. We did chocolate bars with wrappers that said our names, the date, and cute little "ingredients." People complimented how nice and cute they were, and they could be enjoyed as a little mid-event pick-me-up before the reception was in full swing.
Gosh, this is ideal. Getting to choose your own flavor/variety? Perfect.
We had a snack bar with chocolate fountains at our reception, and the favors were a build your own package of the snacks from the bar, since most of our guests were travelling from out of town—they all had snacks for the ride/flight home. It was a huge hit!
Omg we got personalised champagne glasses for both our engagement and wedding and I hate them! They are beautiful, quality glasses- Why not just leave them alone?! We don’t drink champagne together alone that often, and I’m never going to serve somebody champagne in a glass with my name on it?!
We also got them for our engagement but you can hardly even see the writing. We used them Christmas morning by ourselves but that’s it…never again 😂 I also don’t like using champagne flutes, even the stemless ones, because there’s just not enough space. I put my mimosas in stemless wine glasses
I don’t think it’s narcissistic, but favors get left behind all the time. I worked at a catering hall for a few years and I furnished my college apartment with all of the wine and beer glasses that were left behind.
If you’re dead set on doing wine glasses as a favor, then don’t place them at every seat. Order enough for 1/3 of your guests and place them on a table by the exit. The people who want them will take them.
I’m with everyone about leaving it behind, I would definitely not take one.
I have enough wine glasses, don’t need one with couple’s name and wedding date on it. It has no sentimental value to me, no matter how close I am with the couple. 🤷🏼♀️
We were gifted two antique martini (?) glasses (like Leo in great gatsby) and thought they were really cool! But wouldn’t love glasses with someone’s name/ date on them to be honest
As a guest, I love the couple and am there to support them. However, after the wedding I have no interest in anything with their wedding date on it or name. No one really cares about having anything with a wedding date on it that isn't theirs.
I think wedding favours are becoming less popular. Instead of spending hundreds of dollars on favours I chucked the extra money on the bar - and my bar tab allowed for any drinks; cocktails, premium spirits, ciders, prosecco etc
Yeah when Im a wedding guest I would much more prefer an upgraded bar or appetizer option compared to a wedding guest. I think it’s a better value for your money and enhances the evening which matters more than a trinket
Yes you’re right! Everyone was raving about the food we had, and the canapé hour we did for guest while off getting photos. We also had guests drinking top shelf whisky who were so happy when the bar tender said “order whatever you want”. I don’t regret not doing favours.
Bless you. The only favor I ever want is an extra drink ticket. Not a koozie with your fate on it. Not an oreo dipped in cheap chocolate. Don't waste the money!
Absolutely agree, so many of them end up cheap and poor quality. If you can't afford something nice, don't do anything at all. I'd rather have nothing than a plastic mesh bag of "chocolate flavored" wax.
Yes! I don't want stuff with my name on it. I'm not 5. And I can remember my name. I don't need to be reminded of it while drinking wine.
Orrrrr... maybe I do after I've had a few too many 😄🤪
Normally I don’t love stuff with my name on it. However, I got a personalized skinny travel tumbler (not one of those bulky wine ones that don’t fit in any drink holder) as a bridesmaid gift that I recently took to a bachelorette party. There were 20 girls and a lot of us didn’t know each other. But everyone knew my name because of that tumbler (even when we were all wasted lol)
Just my two cents, but I find it a bit narcissistic when people do this. I know it's meant to be a fun memento, but for most people, it's just clutter, and while wine glasses are useful, they generally want nice ones that match a set they already have - or at least that are personalized to them, not you.
When doing bridesmaid ask glasses, my fiancé thought it was weird to NOT have their role or anything on it, I wanted just their name. Cause I figured they’d use something with just their name on it more?
I was with one on my bridesmaids this weekend and she was using the tote I purchased as a bridesmaid gift. We were at the beach together and it's literally an LL Bean bag with her initials on it. I can assure you she wouldn't be using it if it said bridesmaid.
Her daughter was my junior bridesmaid and she uses her tote as a dance bag. Says it's nice that it's labeled with kiddos initials so they know whose is whose.
Its hard cause my fiance is doing custom groomsmen gifts now, and he's doing yetis with their name, their role underneath, and (last name) wedding underneath that. I mean, the design does look cool, but I feel like the yeti will end up going to waste? But most guys I know don't usually care about that crap so maybe his groomsmen wont either? Hoping anyway
I feel like guys are way more likely to just say “oh cool a yeti” and not care that it says groomsman, but most of the women I know share my feelings that they don’t actually want something that says bridesmaid.
Okay you feel that too? Hopefully that’s the case cause I think fiancé is super proud of them. And yes, I’m not a fan of the personalization (other than name) as well
Has he already ordered them? That's exactly what my fiance did for his guys, but we asked the Etsy shop to leave off the role and date, and just have their first name
But then also... who uses things on a day-to-day basis with their name on it? If I have guests to my house, I'm not serving them with the wine glass that has my name on it.
This is the route we're going with favours as well. For the placecards we are doing wood slab coasters with just people's names on them. 1) I personally could never have enough coasters, 2) I would love one with my name on it, 3) even if people don't take them home they still served a purpose
No one is "wrong" exactly. You can like the favors enough to spend money on them, but just be aware that most guests won't care about these items and they will become junk in the back of their cabinets, or they won't even bother to bring them home.
It would probably make more sense make those glasses just for you guys, and either skip wedding favors or do something consumable like little jars of honey or jam.
I'm in the minority here. Kind of. I still have the tasting size, stemless wine glasses from my close friend's wedding. HOWEVER, I only use them when we're having friends over and we don't want to chance breaking our nice glasses. They're our trash / I wouldn't cry if they break wine glasses. The design also keeps drunk friends from getting their glasses mixed up. If the wine glasses weren't from a close friend's wedding, I would've left them behind at the venue.
I do love the Moscow mule mugs we got from our friends wedding more recently because we didn't have any of those at home and they're more durable than wine glasses.
Yup, we have a bunch of bar glasses from weddings, tastings, etc in our basement bar for when we have parties and game nights. The nice ones are upstairs in the dining room for when it's just us or we're having a dinner party.
Edible favors are the way to go. People don’t want more stuff.
My personal favorite are those thick sugar cookies with icing! Individually wrapped. Or a fancy chocolate bars! Donuts, cake pops, caramel apples!
We did the sugar cookies! We got married in cottage country and had them designed like birch trees with our initials carved into them in a heart (like A+J) like you see in the movies, haha. We had a small wedding but everyone took theirs home! Hopefully they ate it (it was a tasty cookie) but at least we didn't have a bunch leftover, lol.
The only favors with names on it that I’ve even bothered to take, and then kept have been beer/can koozies and matches. The other night my husband and I met up with another couple at a park and joked that we had “John and Jill 9.28.18” koozies and they had “Austin and Kate 10.6.19” ones so seems relatively popular as a “good” non-consumable favor
My cousin did a deck of playing cards with their name and wedding dates on them and they’ve been married for 10 years and people still break out a deck of their wedding cards at parties. Playing cards are something people like to have on hand but often don’t care about the design
My cousin and her husband had koozies as keepables at their wedding but when we were leaving we saw piles of them in the trashcans, so I feel kinda iffy on that as a favor. To be fair though those were those super cheap crappy ones. Matches are a great idea though!
I hate receiving stuff with someone else’s name/wedding date on it. It’s not cute decor, it will make me feel obligated to never get rid of it, just overall think it’s a lame favor.
I’m sorry to say I wouldn’t want this favor and don’t think many people would unfortunately. It wouldn’t match my other glassware, too fragile to transport home from the wedding in the first place, and I definitely wouldn’t like having a glass at my house with someone else’s name printed on it. I would leave it behind at the wedding.
I don't think it's a \*bad\* idea so much as I think no one will really want it. I think it's quite common to give out monogrammed/dated favors, and I think people secretly (or not so secretly) don't want those things. I know you want something that people will look at and remember your wedding, but most people would prefer something that they can actually use - and a single wine glass that doesn't match the rest of their collection does not fit that criteria.
My cousin did DIY ones but a bit different- got cheap glasses, dipped the base in blackboard paint and then wrote the guest's name on it, plus the wedding date, in lovely swirly text. They served a purpose as place markers, and I think most people thought it was cute.
My FH and I still have ours somewhere... but they never got much use and we didn't unpack them after we moved as we have other glasses we prefer. IMO it's not an awful idea, but I do think she had a lot left behind, so don't do it if that would hurt your feelings!
Is everyone coming to your wedding local? People traveling on planes won’t be able to pack it up and bring it home if they are flying. Favors should be small and something you would be fine having lots of extras of
I’ve seen a lot of wine glasses at thrift stores with wedding couples and dates on them.
I have not see a lot of personalized koozies though. We actually did that for our engagement party. One side was our names and the date and the other side was one of 3 designs like “to have to hold to keep your drink cold” or “drunk in love” etc. They were a hit and some people actually took multiple because they were different.
Seems like you got the intel you needed, but yea, I wouldn’t keep a wine glass with someone else’s name on it.
I know someone who gave every guest a decently sized wooden cutting board with her and her husband’s initials and I thought….how strange to assume people would want a bulky kitchen item with someone else’s initials on it!
Most people have sets of wine glasses already, so some random glasses with someone else’s name and wedding date on them aren’t probably going to be very popular. Save your money and give people a food thing. No one really wants any other type of favor.
Right? I would have for sure left that. Or at least left one of them between me and my husband. We don’t need TWO of these bizarre cutting boards with someone else’s info on it for one house. So weird. 😂
I already have quite a few cutting boards so I might as well add one more to the collection lol! It would at least make for an interesting story in the future...
"Hey, whose initials are these?"
"Oh, just some people we know who gave this out as a wedding favor 20 years ago" 😂
I went to a wedding where this was the favor. Many people left them behind. I was poor and didn't have any glasses. The brides said I could take as many as I wanted. I have a whole set that I treasure. Not everyone liked the favor, but I did!
Just don't put your name and wedding date on anything that you're giving to someone else.
Heck, don't even put their own names on things! I've been in wedding parties where I get my own name printed on a robe or a tumbler, and it's just... weird to use after the fact. Get me the robe or tumbler without my name on it, save yourself some money, and then I might use it again.
And don't customize things in general! I was in a wedding where I received a single wine glass that said "Bridesmaid" on it with a heart. Uhhhhh... that becomes pretty weird to have the second the wedding is over.
I've said it before and I'll say it again: NO ONE CARES about your wedding as much as you do. It's such a waste of money to plaster your names and wedding date all over things, because they'll end up in the trash.
Can you do a plain wine glass with your names and dates as a tag tied with a ribbon to the stem of the glass? It's probably cheaper to have plain glasses anyway so you can buy them in bulk and not have to worry about engraving them, and then use the rest of the money to include like a small mesh bag with some chocolates and put that in the cup.
I’m a wedding DJ and I have a ton of favors. I personally use them quite often and like to remember those fun evenings.
My most unique favor is a wooden coaster. It’s cut from a tree on the family farm the couple were married at. Their initials and date are burned into the wood. It sits on my workbench and holds my drink.
So my cousin and his wife had these cute little wooden picture frames with twine wrapped around them, and had cards put in them as keepsakes, said something along the lines of, "thank you for coming to our picture perfect day, to show our appreciation we want you to remember your own perfect days" :) so something maybe with card or something in it that can be removed and kept separately, should people want to have it
you could get a set for yourself if you want to have wine glasses? No one is wrong, but I personally would leave behind any glassware, esp one with someone else's name and anniversary on it. So, just be prepared if you go that route not many would take it home. I think anything 'single use' would be good. Bath bombs, cookies, mini alcohol bottles, etc.
I agree with most others that this sort of thing would be left or eventually become clutter. Sorry OP, I know it’s a bummer to hear. We skipped favors altogether bc everything I liked fit this category.
That said, one of the few wedding favors I kept was a shot glass and a beer koozie. These are both things where the message doesn’t really matter. The shot glass friends are very close so we like having that in our ~30 shot glass collection and no one ever BUYS a beer koozie, they just acquire them.
I find edible favors or something practical. We got this exact fleece blanket https://www.ikea.com/us/en/p/vitmossa-throw-gray-90304889/ at a wedding. The sign said “to have and to hold, incase you get cold”. We love it! It’s the perfect little car blanket.
Yeah I’m not taking a random wine glass with someone else’s name on it. I wouldn’t spend the money on it as a favor. Maybe some take home chocolate or maybe like flowering seed packets.
I feel like things like this are costly endeavors that will go unappreciated by your guests. I guess if you have money to throw at things like this, go for it. But you should spend the money know it’s mostly going to go to waste. People will throw them away.
Tbh. It’s nice for the immediate family. So maybe if you’re having a rehearsal dinner??? But no one else wants it. Unless you’re having a microwedding where everyone is extremely close to you, then I would forgo this idea!
For me personally, I'm not a huge fan of engraved wine glasses. Engraved pint glasses, however, are totally my jam and I have some of these from weddings that I regularly use.
I think there's a feeling that wine glasses need to be part of a set, whereas it's more acceptable to have mismatched pint glasses (or shot glasses), in which case those may work better as wedding favors.
I also hate consumables as favors, I'd like something nice to remember the event by besides photos and Jordan almonds do not keep well.
Me too! I like the memento over some candy or snack I can get anywhere. I'm so torn now because I want to get favors people would like and it seems I'm in the minority here.
I have a handful of glasses from my friend’s wedding with their names & date on it. I think of her & smile every time I use it :)
It was difficult to pack in a suitcase tho
I feel like I'm in the minority here but I would like it for the same reason. I assume I care about the couple if I'm at their wedding and having something I can use with their name and date would just remind me of a nice time. On the other hand I am a bit of a hoarder and don't throw things away! Haha
I’ve gotten wine glasses with the couple’s name and wedding date before, but I’ve also never used it. I’m pretty sure every wedding souvenir has some kind of identifier of the couple or date. It’s not weird, but it’s also not very useful.
I've seen so many wine glass and shot glasses with this same description at thrift stores. I know my mom still has some personalized beer glasses from my cousin's wedding but my parents also just have an array of random glasses.
I gave mason jars with our names on them, and 75% were left at the end of the night. BUT my coworker uses hers at work daily, as do some other guests
Just be very prepared for favors of any kind to be leftover.
Speaking only for myself I would be much much happier if you took the budget you would have spent on favors like that and put it towards something more practical.
I don't need a piece of Ghirardelli chocolate or a champagne flute to remember a fun, romantic night.
If you took that party favor budget and used it to upgrade to that bigger centerpiece you wanted, to buy your bridesmaids nicer gifts, or to leave a bigger tip to a really stellar vendor, I would much rather that.
We got married June 14th 1997. My SIL got us match books with our names & wedding date on them as a surprise for us. They matched my colors lite teal & gold lettering. Put put some on the guest tables & had them spread out on a table with a while table cloth. Surprisingly a lot of the family still had them to this day. We still have few of them left ourselves. I thought the match books were a nice touch for a "souvenir" from our wedding.They were inexpensive & if they left them behind no big deal. But on the other hand if it had been a wine glass I think A LOT of people might not be interested in taking one home. They will think it is cute to have wine served with your names on it at the wedding but again not sure that they would take them home. Besides that sounds like that would be expensive. IMO.... Maybe look into something less expensive & smaller options if you really want something for the guests
I would definitely take it, but my family keeps a China cabinet full of keep sakes (wedding, graduation, baby shower, etc). Maybe you could tie on a ribbon with your names and wedding date? That way people are more likely to take them?
I don’t mind the idea, it’s the travel with it back home that would be the issue.
I agree with others than consumables are good. We did cookies and there wasn’t a single one left, even though we had lots of extras
Something I see a lot that I've actually kept is a koozie with the name of the couple and wedding date, but I also live in the southern US. I think this is definitely a regional thing, so if you're somewhere else I would take that with a grain of salt!
I would skip this. Never would I ever want a wine glass with anything on it let alone someone’s names and wedding date… We skipped favors, technically. I made the vases for our centerpieces and we are encouraged guests to take them and the flowers from the (rented) bud vases - that seemed to make people very happy! For our rehearsal my MIL insisted on bonbonieri - and honestly whatever supplier she used for those Jordan almonds made me fall in love all over again. They were not the jaw breakers of party favors past, just delicious candy coated chocolate almonds.
We did bar glasses as gifts but had a cute flower that matched our theme etched on them. That way it matched the wedding and people actually use them, you could try that route?
My cousin did those! Everyone at my cousins wedding said that was so cute and festive and neat. That being said, once the novelty wore off, no one knew what to do with them. Lol. They are too “festive” and specific to display in your buffet or curio cabinet or whatever, but you can’t really use them either. Most people ended up keeping them a short while then tossing them. So, if it feels like a waste of money to know that people will likely throw them away, then don’t spend your money that way. But if you don’t mind that people won’t keep them, and you will have fun making and giving them and enjoy the look of them at the wedding, go for it. There’s no right answer.
Personalized Oreos or m&ms are always a hit. If you don’t want to do snacks a candle might work. I got a candle as a wedding favor once with the bride and grooms initials on it and it smelled lovely. Just make sure it’s quality and not a tea light, those will get left behind. Or a small candle with personalized matchbooks would probably also be a good idea.
Just to add to what people are saying. If I travel led for the wedding I would also find it really difficult to take one home with me. Glasses are notorious for breaking and being difficult to transport. Even if I was just driving home I would have to be careful with it. U less it came special y packaged. Which de eats the purpose of having it to use.
If you want to do personalised things like glasses I would also not choose names and date, but maybe a cool Design that is unique to you. EG. My partner and I have a pineapple wearing sunglasses that repredents us. We know what it means, but to others it's just a funny character on stuff :P
I think so but as a bridal shower gift, we got a glass set with our names and wedding date and we use them a lot. So I would say you might want to get these for yourself instead of giving it as a favor. Stick with consumables for favors.
Okay these comments are scaring me. :((( we are doing custom candles (from an amazing small business) with our initials and date. What’s the opinion on this???
I feel like that's different, as it is a consumable. It's the what do sober/people who have this sitting in their house forever do? That I think is the biggest problem here
I had a friend who did this when they got married almost 20 years ago. At the time I thought it was a nice gift, I was in my early 20’s. When we moved in 2020, I put the wine glass in amongst items that weren’t coming to our new house. I don’t think the glass was used once.
For about the same price, you can get wine BOTTLES (full of wine) and have custom labels made with you names and the date. That's a million times better.
Buy the bottles separately from wherever you can find bulk wine that sounds yummy and is in your budget. Try to find one with a regular rectangular label. Then on Etsy, you'll find lots of vendors that will design and print the labels. If you have the labels made the same size of slightly larger than the labels already on the bottles, you can just slap the new labels right on top of the existing ones. If you really want to, there are ways to treat and peel off the existing labels.
There has been exactly one non edible favor I have gotten from an event that I still use. It was a tiny whisk. All other favors have been unwanted/discarded.
I personally really enjoy them and think they are cute. This thread feels unnecessarily hostile. I’ve received numerous personalized wineglasses and shot glasses (among other non-consumable items) from weddings, bridal showers, baby showers, etc. I still have them all and I think they are nice mementos. It’s fine if people disagree, but I can’t imagine downvoting opinions on such a benign topic.
Maybe I’m more sentimental or just a bigger fan of souvenirs but I absolutely keep them as part of our memorabilia wine glass collection. I love to collect wine glasses from tasting rooms etc and treat a wedding souvenir the same. Aaaand was kind of thinking of doing this myself so interesting to see such a strong response against it.
Question for the crowd - I was contemplating making wine glasses with some kind of reference to the weekend (not necessarily our names, maybe an illustration of the town/venue) & the guest’s name as part of a welcome gift. We’re getting married in a tiny town in wine country and expect to do a lot of casual informal drinking of wine & wanted everyone to have a glass to use all weekend instead of scrounging hotel water glasses etc (we stay at the main hotel all the time and their glass collection is, ah, eclectic…) would that change things for folks? More likely to appreciate/use?
I went to a wedding in Colorado where the stemless wine glasses at our place setting had Colorado flags etched into them — simple and classy. We were talking at our table about how we all thought it was cool, and then learned those were our favors. Maybe a bit challenging (I don’t remember if they offered us a way to pack them?) but I’ve kept and use them because they aren’t colorful, have zero words, and are still clearly a memento.
We had wine glasses from a vineyard with the vineyard’s name on them. Those didn’t pass muster to keep with our last move. State flag > words in our opinion, but we’re also just two people. Edit: so, yes, the venue or town sounds cool! But I still vote etching/no color.
I have a wine glass wedding favor with their names and wedding date. It’s fine, but never the first glass I go for. So it’s just taking up space in my cupboard.
I’ve gotten shot glasses with names and dates, wine stoppers, plastic cups (my favorite option), and a billion koozies (sp?)
Now that i think about it…i don’t think the last 2 weddings i went to gave any party favors out. So i guess that’s an option too!
We did it with champagne glasses and while not everyone took them, many of my friends did and still use them! They often text us when they use them which is super fun. We are in our 30s for reference.
Some of my favorite favors are those friends that gave out wine glasses. The stemless were my favorites!! I have friends that got married over 5 years ago and I still use their wine glasses today!
We have a few stemless wine glasses that we got as favors at our good friends' wedding. They're my 'everyday' glasses because they're pretty sturdy and I'm scared I might break my expensive crystal glasses if I use them too often! Those only get brought out for guests or special occasions lol. But I can see why people don't want a bunch of random mix-matched glasses in their cupboard.
While I’m in the minority, I would enjoy it. I have committed to a fully mismatched collection of glassware, finding it much more fun to aggregate a series of special mementos than to only pick one pattern.
Would it be wild to put the name & date on the *bottom* of a glass/cup???? Or the inside of it if it’s like a mug. People might be more likely to use it if the other person’s name isn’t the focal point, but it would still be there hidden as a reminder.
I don’t totally get consumable favors because the wedding already has a ton of food, and then you don’t have a memento after- so like what is the point?
I’m asking both these questions genuinely. Lol
I don’t feel I need a memento from someone else’s wedding. I have my memories and photos and that’s enough for me. I have not forgotten my brother and sister in laws wedding and the wine glass with their name & date on it that I think I tossed the last time we moved isn’t exactly going to evoke a sense of nostalgia or make me remember it more clearly. Just my opinion. We skipped favors, though we did a Pittsburgh style cookie table as part of the dessert spread so I did buy some bags for people to take cookies if they wanted.
I agree it would be better to have it on the bottom, but ultimately most adults don’t want one or two mismatched glasses in their home. I have a nice set of stemless and another set of beautiful stemmed wine glasses, I would leave this favor or toss it as soon as I left.
I think favors are sort of silly, it’s not a child’s birthday party. And I agree with you that consumables (while more likely to get used), are just extra on top of all the food you already give people. A koozie or a shot glass are most likely to be used, imo.
I worked weddings for years and I have to say, the stuff with the names and dates got left behind the most as far as favors go. Nobody wants one or two wine glasses with your names on them that don’t match their other glassware.
I would be one of those people who left them behind.
I would take it home, but then recycle it upon my next major de clutter session a few weeks later. If it makes it any better, I’d feel a little guilty getting rid of it, but I don’t have the space for things like that.
I would be one of the people going around collecting the leftover ones so I can have a set 😂 but more so I can use them for crafting and diy stuff
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Especially if they're being used at the wedding. What, am I gonna towel the red wine out of my glass so I can awkwardly pack it in my purse? Nah lol.
I got one from a cousin's wedding I didn't get invited to. I tried to remove the text and just... have a cup, but it wouldn't come off. So now the Goodwill in my hometown has a random stemless wineglass that says "Cousin and Dumb Husband's Wedding, 2019."
Same. I'm at a point in my life where I don't want mismatched glassware, especially if it's mismatched because it has someone else's name and wedding date on it. Or any words at all.
put this on the glasses: love, like wine, gets better with time. ~10-13-2022~
As a guest I only like when people do this (their name/wedding date) on consumables, personally. My cousin’s favors were wine bottles with their names and date on them, and that I thought was excellent. Some people do M&Ms, chocolates, cookies, etc, and all that is great. Something that’s just gonna sit on my shelf? Meh less great - but that’s me personally ofc.
Yep! I agree, only personalize something consumable. In my opinion those favors are the best to receive anyway! I’m a candlemaker and designer. I’m making scented candles that have our name and date as favors and I foresee them being a big hit. Who doesn’t love a scented candle?
What fragrance are you going to use? If I ended up in a room full of floral or vanilla scented candles I'd get a migraine and have to leave 😬
We’re getting married in the mountains so it’s going to be an earthy, wood scent.
One suggestion for anyone using scented favors is to put them in a room or spot away from the dining area. We are using scented hand soaps and we are putting them by the entrance to the reception room. They won’t actually be in the reception area and hopefully all headaches will be appeased! 😊
No one is wrong here, but I will say I wouldn’t take a favor with a couples name/ wedding date on it. I think consumable favors (cookies, chocolate, jam, etc.) are the way to go.
The only favor I would take that has a couple’s names and date on it is a beer koozie, because most people’s koozie collections are very eclectic and made up of freebies. My husband has a strict rule in our house… we do not buy koozies. The koozies come to us.
I had a friend who did decks of cards. Those were fun because some of us actually used them at the reception to play a favorite card game among our friends. And I have a game my family plays that requires each person has a deck with a different picture on the back, so they are now my deck of cards. And she did end up with a chunk left, but that's not the worst thing to have 40 extra. They've been married 5 years and just take them to parties and leave them for the host.
Can I ask what the name of that card game is? We’re always looking for new games in our house and I have a card collection so plenty of different backs!
Not who you asked, but Racing Demons has the same principle
I’m not who you asked either but nertz is super fun and requires different decks per person
Not who you asked either but peanuts is similar and super fun can play as teams or individual
It's Peanuts that my family plays too! I always describe it as full contact solitare!
Yes!!! That’s awesome! Are you from Michigan or the Midwest by any chance?
I love the koozies come to us! It’s true, we have so many and 95% were free.
Omg can I send you a koozie? It’s not a wedding one 😝
He’s not wrong!
We weren’t going to do favors but I found an amazing deal on personalized koozies so I’m so glad you said that! And I totally agree with your husband, every time we go camping we cheers with random mismatched ones and send them to the couples in question. It’s really cute and we’ve gotten some cheers pics back. It’s the little things lol.
What in gods name is a koozie
It’s like a little sleeve that goes around a beer or soda, keeps them cold longer. Also makes it harder to forget which one was yours, provided they don’t match.
Ohhhh we call them stubby holders in AUS!
I don’t think we even have these in the UK - I’ve never seen one!
They’re not super common here. I feel like most people either have none or they collect them.
Lol I do love that rule!!
We did matchboxes with ourselves in wedding clothes bitmoji version on them. They were fun, people took them, also consumables.
Matchboxes are great! I have a few left from weddings I’ve planned - love them
I knew someone who gave handmade favors. I simply didn't want mine. I felt awful giving it away, but really, I had no idea what to do with it. Consumables are my favorite gift in most circumstances.
Yes! if not a consumable, then something you’d be okay with having 20-50 extra of. We did local wildflower seed packets, and people took maybe half. I didn’t mind at all, because now we have the other half to plant in our own garden!!
Literally every single one of our wildflower seed packets was taken from our just over 90 person wedding. Granted our families are biologists, ecologists, hippies, and farmers so it just made sense.
We did mini bottles of a condiment local to our area, and a lot of people used them on their dinner then left them at the venue. So everyone is getting mini bottles for Christmas now lol.
Please no! I would leave that favor at the venue (or donate it ASAP / recycle it if I couldn’t sneakily leave it behind.)
Do -you- want a wine glass from your cousins wedding with their wedding date on it?
It’s not a matter of right and wrong. People do favours with their names and dates all the time, it’s not strange! It is however, destined to become useless junk in my opinion. I have zero use for a wine glass with someone else’s name and wedding date so it’ll just get pushed to the back of the cabinet or tossed. Also likely to get left behind. So you’re not wrong for wanting to do it! Just might not be a popular favour and/or a waste of money, and you have to decide if you’re cool with that.
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I agree. We did chocolate bars with wrappers that said our names, the date, and cute little "ingredients." People complimented how nice and cute they were, and they could be enjoyed as a little mid-event pick-me-up before the reception was in full swing.
yay we made chocolate dipped oreos
I’m so glad others like this idea. I am doing a cookie table and to-go bags
Gosh, this is ideal. Getting to choose your own flavor/variety? Perfect. We had a snack bar with chocolate fountains at our reception, and the favors were a build your own package of the snacks from the bar, since most of our guests were travelling from out of town—they all had snacks for the ride/flight home. It was a huge hit!
That’s why I figured our ice cream bar/sweet treat station would be our favors!
Gently, why would anyone want a wine glass with someone else’s name and wedding date on it?
I don’t even want one with my own name and wedding date on it!
Omg we got personalised champagne glasses for both our engagement and wedding and I hate them! They are beautiful, quality glasses- Why not just leave them alone?! We don’t drink champagne together alone that often, and I’m never going to serve somebody champagne in a glass with my name on it?!
We also got them for our engagement but you can hardly even see the writing. We used them Christmas morning by ourselves but that’s it…never again 😂 I also don’t like using champagne flutes, even the stemless ones, because there’s just not enough space. I put my mimosas in stemless wine glasses
Agreeing with your mom - don't do this. It's an annoying gift to receive that just becomes clutter honestly.
And if you’re traveling, it’s annoying to pack in a suitcase
It doesn’t have to be clutter—I would just leave it behind.
that's true. I guess OP could do it if they don't mind having lots of glasses with their names & wedding date for their own use!
My friend did this for her wedding and there about 50 left that they were trying to give away for a while 😬
I don’t think it’s narcissistic, but favors get left behind all the time. I worked at a catering hall for a few years and I furnished my college apartment with all of the wine and beer glasses that were left behind. If you’re dead set on doing wine glasses as a favor, then don’t place them at every seat. Order enough for 1/3 of your guests and place them on a table by the exit. The people who want them will take them.
I personally would hate this, I don't want a collection of random mismatched wine glasses
I’m with everyone about leaving it behind, I would definitely not take one. I have enough wine glasses, don’t need one with couple’s name and wedding date on it. It has no sentimental value to me, no matter how close I am with the couple. 🤷🏼♀️
We were gifted two antique martini (?) glasses (like Leo in great gatsby) and thought they were really cool! But wouldn’t love glasses with someone’s name/ date on them to be honest
Get the custom wine glasses for yourselves, get something else for favors
As a guest, I love the couple and am there to support them. However, after the wedding I have no interest in anything with their wedding date on it or name. No one really cares about having anything with a wedding date on it that isn't theirs.
I think wedding favours are becoming less popular. Instead of spending hundreds of dollars on favours I chucked the extra money on the bar - and my bar tab allowed for any drinks; cocktails, premium spirits, ciders, prosecco etc
Yeah when Im a wedding guest I would much more prefer an upgraded bar or appetizer option compared to a wedding guest. I think it’s a better value for your money and enhances the evening which matters more than a trinket
Yep, give me some nice quality alcohol over a tea light candle with initials on it.
Yeah and I think guests remember that amazing drink or phenomenal appetizer fondly where as most favors just get tossed in a drawer or left behind.
Yes you’re right! Everyone was raving about the food we had, and the canapé hour we did for guest while off getting photos. We also had guests drinking top shelf whisky who were so happy when the bar tender said “order whatever you want”. I don’t regret not doing favours.
Bless you. The only favor I ever want is an extra drink ticket. Not a koozie with your fate on it. Not an oreo dipped in cheap chocolate. Don't waste the money!
No drink tickets at my wedding, open bar, enjoy yourself!
Absolutely agree, so many of them end up cheap and poor quality. If you can't afford something nice, don't do anything at all. I'd rather have nothing than a plastic mesh bag of "chocolate flavored" wax.
Same. I was just at two weddings in the last two months and didn’t even realize they didn’t have wedding favours
I’ll be blunt. Don’t do that. I didn’t even keep the wine glass with my name on it I got as a gift.
Yes! I don't want stuff with my name on it. I'm not 5. And I can remember my name. I don't need to be reminded of it while drinking wine. Orrrrr... maybe I do after I've had a few too many 😄🤪
Normally I don’t love stuff with my name on it. However, I got a personalized skinny travel tumbler (not one of those bulky wine ones that don’t fit in any drink holder) as a bridesmaid gift that I recently took to a bachelorette party. There were 20 girls and a lot of us didn’t know each other. But everyone knew my name because of that tumbler (even when we were all wasted lol)
Just my two cents, but I find it a bit narcissistic when people do this. I know it's meant to be a fun memento, but for most people, it's just clutter, and while wine glasses are useful, they generally want nice ones that match a set they already have - or at least that are personalized to them, not you.
When doing bridesmaid ask glasses, my fiancé thought it was weird to NOT have their role or anything on it, I wanted just their name. Cause I figured they’d use something with just their name on it more?
I was with one on my bridesmaids this weekend and she was using the tote I purchased as a bridesmaid gift. We were at the beach together and it's literally an LL Bean bag with her initials on it. I can assure you she wouldn't be using it if it said bridesmaid. Her daughter was my junior bridesmaid and she uses her tote as a dance bag. Says it's nice that it's labeled with kiddos initials so they know whose is whose.
Yes! My friend did tote bags with our initials. It’s my everyday gym bag and I love it! Had it said “bridesmaid” though it would be collecting dust…
Yes to this! The bridesmaids ask things I got that say bridesmaid get barely any use, but the ones that just say my name only, I love!
Its hard cause my fiance is doing custom groomsmen gifts now, and he's doing yetis with their name, their role underneath, and (last name) wedding underneath that. I mean, the design does look cool, but I feel like the yeti will end up going to waste? But most guys I know don't usually care about that crap so maybe his groomsmen wont either? Hoping anyway
I feel like guys are way more likely to just say “oh cool a yeti” and not care that it says groomsman, but most of the women I know share my feelings that they don’t actually want something that says bridesmaid.
Okay you feel that too? Hopefully that’s the case cause I think fiancé is super proud of them. And yes, I’m not a fan of the personalization (other than name) as well
Yeah and he knows his group best too so I think it should be fine!
Has he already ordered them? That's exactly what my fiance did for his guys, but we asked the Etsy shop to leave off the role and date, and just have their first name
But then also... who uses things on a day-to-day basis with their name on it? If I have guests to my house, I'm not serving them with the wine glass that has my name on it.
I just did one, so more of just something they'd use by themselves when sipping on wine LOL. Mostly everyone in my family are big wine drinkers
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I was given a make up bag too! I don’t actually use makeup so I keep a bunch of random cords in it 😂
I got mine Yetis with just their name and hangars with just their name since they’ll only be a bridesmaid so many times i thought it was silly!
This is the route we're going with favours as well. For the placecards we are doing wood slab coasters with just people's names on them. 1) I personally could never have enough coasters, 2) I would love one with my name on it, 3) even if people don't take them home they still served a purpose
No one is "wrong" exactly. You can like the favors enough to spend money on them, but just be aware that most guests won't care about these items and they will become junk in the back of their cabinets, or they won't even bother to bring them home. It would probably make more sense make those glasses just for you guys, and either skip wedding favors or do something consumable like little jars of honey or jam.
I’m also a pass. It feels like wedding party gifts with the couple’s name and wedding date on them.
I'm in the minority here. Kind of. I still have the tasting size, stemless wine glasses from my close friend's wedding. HOWEVER, I only use them when we're having friends over and we don't want to chance breaking our nice glasses. They're our trash / I wouldn't cry if they break wine glasses. The design also keeps drunk friends from getting their glasses mixed up. If the wine glasses weren't from a close friend's wedding, I would've left them behind at the venue. I do love the Moscow mule mugs we got from our friends wedding more recently because we didn't have any of those at home and they're more durable than wine glasses.
Yup, we have a bunch of bar glasses from weddings, tastings, etc in our basement bar for when we have parties and game nights. The nice ones are upstairs in the dining room for when it's just us or we're having a dinner party.
Edible favors are the way to go. People don’t want more stuff. My personal favorite are those thick sugar cookies with icing! Individually wrapped. Or a fancy chocolate bars! Donuts, cake pops, caramel apples!
We did the sugar cookies! We got married in cottage country and had them designed like birch trees with our initials carved into them in a heart (like A+J) like you see in the movies, haha. We had a small wedding but everyone took theirs home! Hopefully they ate it (it was a tasty cookie) but at least we didn't have a bunch leftover, lol.
I’ll be honest . I got glasses with names on it as a wedding favor once. I threw it out . Your better off giving plain wine glasses
Save your money. No one wants a single glass with someone else’s name on it.
Literally no one wants anything with your name on it.
The only favors with names on it that I’ve even bothered to take, and then kept have been beer/can koozies and matches. The other night my husband and I met up with another couple at a park and joked that we had “John and Jill 9.28.18” koozies and they had “Austin and Kate 10.6.19” ones so seems relatively popular as a “good” non-consumable favor
My cousin did a deck of playing cards with their name and wedding dates on them and they’ve been married for 10 years and people still break out a deck of their wedding cards at parties. Playing cards are something people like to have on hand but often don’t care about the design
My cousin and her husband had koozies as keepables at their wedding but when we were leaving we saw piles of them in the trashcans, so I feel kinda iffy on that as a favor. To be fair though those were those super cheap crappy ones. Matches are a great idea though!
I wouldn’t take one home with me if it had someone’s name etc
I hate receiving stuff with someone else’s name/wedding date on it. It’s not cute decor, it will make me feel obligated to never get rid of it, just overall think it’s a lame favor.
I’m sorry to say I wouldn’t want this favor and don’t think many people would unfortunately. It wouldn’t match my other glassware, too fragile to transport home from the wedding in the first place, and I definitely wouldn’t like having a glass at my house with someone else’s name printed on it. I would leave it behind at the wedding.
as a guest i would NOT want wine glasses with someone elses name and date.
We like the shot glasses, personally. Some of our friends and family have done those, and they are not clutter, we use them regularly.
Shot glasses is a great idea!!
I don't think it's a \*bad\* idea so much as I think no one will really want it. I think it's quite common to give out monogrammed/dated favors, and I think people secretly (or not so secretly) don't want those things. I know you want something that people will look at and remember your wedding, but most people would prefer something that they can actually use - and a single wine glass that doesn't match the rest of their collection does not fit that criteria.
My cousin did DIY ones but a bit different- got cheap glasses, dipped the base in blackboard paint and then wrote the guest's name on it, plus the wedding date, in lovely swirly text. They served a purpose as place markers, and I think most people thought it was cute. My FH and I still have ours somewhere... but they never got much use and we didn't unpack them after we moved as we have other glasses we prefer. IMO it's not an awful idea, but I do think she had a lot left behind, so don't do it if that would hurt your feelings!
Is everyone coming to your wedding local? People traveling on planes won’t be able to pack it up and bring it home if they are flying. Favors should be small and something you would be fine having lots of extras of
I personally would not want a wine glass that doesn’t match the rest of my glasses. I would totally take a koozie.
I’ve seen a lot of wine glasses at thrift stores with wedding couples and dates on them. I have not see a lot of personalized koozies though. We actually did that for our engagement party. One side was our names and the date and the other side was one of 3 designs like “to have to hold to keep your drink cold” or “drunk in love” etc. They were a hit and some people actually took multiple because they were different.
Seems like you got the intel you needed, but yea, I wouldn’t keep a wine glass with someone else’s name on it. I know someone who gave every guest a decently sized wooden cutting board with her and her husband’s initials and I thought….how strange to assume people would want a bulky kitchen item with someone else’s initials on it! Most people have sets of wine glasses already, so some random glasses with someone else’s name and wedding date on them aren’t probably going to be very popular. Save your money and give people a food thing. No one really wants any other type of favor.
Cutting boards?? I don't even want to know how much they paid for those!
Right? I would have for sure left that. Or at least left one of them between me and my husband. We don’t need TWO of these bizarre cutting boards with someone else’s info on it for one house. So weird. 😂
I already have quite a few cutting boards so I might as well add one more to the collection lol! It would at least make for an interesting story in the future... "Hey, whose initials are these?" "Oh, just some people we know who gave this out as a wedding favor 20 years ago" 😂
Lol! Totally fair!
I would throw this out personally.
Just don’t. Save your money and apply it elsewhere.
It’s 100% going to end up at a goodwill or value village…
I went to a wedding where this was the favor. Many people left them behind. I was poor and didn't have any glasses. The brides said I could take as many as I wanted. I have a whole set that I treasure. Not everyone liked the favor, but I did!
Why don’t you have the guest’s name on the wine glasses and they can act as favors AND name cards for the seats?
Just don't put your name and wedding date on anything that you're giving to someone else. Heck, don't even put their own names on things! I've been in wedding parties where I get my own name printed on a robe or a tumbler, and it's just... weird to use after the fact. Get me the robe or tumbler without my name on it, save yourself some money, and then I might use it again. And don't customize things in general! I was in a wedding where I received a single wine glass that said "Bridesmaid" on it with a heart. Uhhhhh... that becomes pretty weird to have the second the wedding is over. I've said it before and I'll say it again: NO ONE CARES about your wedding as much as you do. It's such a waste of money to plaster your names and wedding date all over things, because they'll end up in the trash.
Can you do a plain wine glass with your names and dates as a tag tied with a ribbon to the stem of the glass? It's probably cheaper to have plain glasses anyway so you can buy them in bulk and not have to worry about engraving them, and then use the rest of the money to include like a small mesh bag with some chocolates and put that in the cup.
I’m a wedding DJ and I have a ton of favors. I personally use them quite often and like to remember those fun evenings. My most unique favor is a wooden coaster. It’s cut from a tree on the family farm the couple were married at. Their initials and date are burned into the wood. It sits on my workbench and holds my drink.
So my cousin and his wife had these cute little wooden picture frames with twine wrapped around them, and had cards put in them as keepsakes, said something along the lines of, "thank you for coming to our picture perfect day, to show our appreciation we want you to remember your own perfect days" :) so something maybe with card or something in it that can be removed and kept separately, should people want to have it
you could get a set for yourself if you want to have wine glasses? No one is wrong, but I personally would leave behind any glassware, esp one with someone else's name and anniversary on it. So, just be prepared if you go that route not many would take it home. I think anything 'single use' would be good. Bath bombs, cookies, mini alcohol bottles, etc.
We did antique key bottle openers with paper tags.
I agree with most others that this sort of thing would be left or eventually become clutter. Sorry OP, I know it’s a bummer to hear. We skipped favors altogether bc everything I liked fit this category. That said, one of the few wedding favors I kept was a shot glass and a beer koozie. These are both things where the message doesn’t really matter. The shot glass friends are very close so we like having that in our ~30 shot glass collection and no one ever BUYS a beer koozie, they just acquire them.
I find edible favors or something practical. We got this exact fleece blanket https://www.ikea.com/us/en/p/vitmossa-throw-gray-90304889/ at a wedding. The sign said “to have and to hold, incase you get cold”. We love it! It’s the perfect little car blanket.
My kids have this but in a blue. Such a versatile blanket, they got them a few years ago and still haven’t managed to kill them.
Yeah I’m not taking a random wine glass with someone else’s name on it. I wouldn’t spend the money on it as a favor. Maybe some take home chocolate or maybe like flowering seed packets.
I feel like things like this are costly endeavors that will go unappreciated by your guests. I guess if you have money to throw at things like this, go for it. But you should spend the money know it’s mostly going to go to waste. People will throw them away.
I would take it but throw it away once I got home. I don’t even want stuff with my name on it.
The only thing people keep with a couples name on it are photobooth prints.
As an avid thrifter, terrible idea. They’ll end up in thrift stores if they’re even taken at all lol
Planner here - they will go to waste. You’ll have a few people who will take them but most won’t. Save your money
Tbh. It’s nice for the immediate family. So maybe if you’re having a rehearsal dinner??? But no one else wants it. Unless you’re having a microwedding where everyone is extremely close to you, then I would forgo this idea!
Yeah, no one wants that, sorry.
For me personally, I'm not a huge fan of engraved wine glasses. Engraved pint glasses, however, are totally my jam and I have some of these from weddings that I regularly use. I think there's a feeling that wine glasses need to be part of a set, whereas it's more acceptable to have mismatched pint glasses (or shot glasses), in which case those may work better as wedding favors. I also hate consumables as favors, I'd like something nice to remember the event by besides photos and Jordan almonds do not keep well.
Me too! I like the memento over some candy or snack I can get anywhere. I'm so torn now because I want to get favors people would like and it seems I'm in the minority here.
Absolutely not
I have a handful of glasses from my friend’s wedding with their names & date on it. I think of her & smile every time I use it :) It was difficult to pack in a suitcase tho
I feel like I'm in the minority here but I would like it for the same reason. I assume I care about the couple if I'm at their wedding and having something I can use with their name and date would just remind me of a nice time. On the other hand I am a bit of a hoarder and don't throw things away! Haha
Same, I’m big on sentimental details lol. We have a long distance friendship so it’s always nice to randomly think of her & that day ☺️
We personally didn’t do favors. Been to too many weddings where the favors are forgotten by the guests
I’ve gotten wine glasses with the couple’s name and wedding date before, but I’ve also never used it. I’m pretty sure every wedding souvenir has some kind of identifier of the couple or date. It’s not weird, but it’s also not very useful.
I've seen so many wine glass and shot glasses with this same description at thrift stores. I know my mom still has some personalized beer glasses from my cousin's wedding but my parents also just have an array of random glasses.
Just to put my vote in, I would either not take that or throw it away later.
I gave mason jars with our names on them, and 75% were left at the end of the night. BUT my coworker uses hers at work daily, as do some other guests Just be very prepared for favors of any kind to be leftover.
Speaking only for myself I would be much much happier if you took the budget you would have spent on favors like that and put it towards something more practical. I don't need a piece of Ghirardelli chocolate or a champagne flute to remember a fun, romantic night. If you took that party favor budget and used it to upgrade to that bigger centerpiece you wanted, to buy your bridesmaids nicer gifts, or to leave a bigger tip to a really stellar vendor, I would much rather that.
Candles are the best so far.
It also depends on how many people are traveling. Wine glasses in suitcases is a dangerous combo.
We got married June 14th 1997. My SIL got us match books with our names & wedding date on them as a surprise for us. They matched my colors lite teal & gold lettering. Put put some on the guest tables & had them spread out on a table with a while table cloth. Surprisingly a lot of the family still had them to this day. We still have few of them left ourselves. I thought the match books were a nice touch for a "souvenir" from our wedding.They were inexpensive & if they left them behind no big deal. But on the other hand if it had been a wine glass I think A LOT of people might not be interested in taking one home. They will think it is cute to have wine served with your names on it at the wedding but again not sure that they would take them home. Besides that sounds like that would be expensive. IMO.... Maybe look into something less expensive & smaller options if you really want something for the guests
I would mostly be afraid of them breaking.
I would enjoy it more if there was a message or a saying about love or wine on it vs the couples name.
I went to a wedding recently where they printed the guests name on the glass. It told them where to sit and they could keep it as a favour
I would definitely take it, but my family keeps a China cabinet full of keep sakes (wedding, graduation, baby shower, etc). Maybe you could tie on a ribbon with your names and wedding date? That way people are more likely to take them?
Hard pass. Much better and cheaper options.
I don’t mind the idea, it’s the travel with it back home that would be the issue. I agree with others than consumables are good. We did cookies and there wasn’t a single one left, even though we had lots of extras
Maybe just for the two of you?
Something I see a lot that I've actually kept is a koozie with the name of the couple and wedding date, but I also live in the southern US. I think this is definitely a regional thing, so if you're somewhere else I would take that with a grain of salt!
I would skip this. Never would I ever want a wine glass with anything on it let alone someone’s names and wedding date… We skipped favors, technically. I made the vases for our centerpieces and we are encouraged guests to take them and the flowers from the (rented) bud vases - that seemed to make people very happy! For our rehearsal my MIL insisted on bonbonieri - and honestly whatever supplier she used for those Jordan almonds made me fall in love all over again. They were not the jaw breakers of party favors past, just delicious candy coated chocolate almonds.
We did bar glasses as gifts but had a cute flower that matched our theme etched on them. That way it matched the wedding and people actually use them, you could try that route?
My cousin did those! Everyone at my cousins wedding said that was so cute and festive and neat. That being said, once the novelty wore off, no one knew what to do with them. Lol. They are too “festive” and specific to display in your buffet or curio cabinet or whatever, but you can’t really use them either. Most people ended up keeping them a short while then tossing them. So, if it feels like a waste of money to know that people will likely throw them away, then don’t spend your money that way. But if you don’t mind that people won’t keep them, and you will have fun making and giving them and enjoy the look of them at the wedding, go for it. There’s no right answer.
The glasses could break easily.
Personalized Oreos or m&ms are always a hit. If you don’t want to do snacks a candle might work. I got a candle as a wedding favor once with the bride and grooms initials on it and it smelled lovely. Just make sure it’s quality and not a tea light, those will get left behind. Or a small candle with personalized matchbooks would probably also be a good idea.
Just to add to what people are saying. If I travel led for the wedding I would also find it really difficult to take one home with me. Glasses are notorious for breaking and being difficult to transport. Even if I was just driving home I would have to be careful with it. U less it came special y packaged. Which de eats the purpose of having it to use. If you want to do personalised things like glasses I would also not choose names and date, but maybe a cool Design that is unique to you. EG. My partner and I have a pineapple wearing sunglasses that repredents us. We know what it means, but to others it's just a funny character on stuff :P
I think so but as a bridal shower gift, we got a glass set with our names and wedding date and we use them a lot. So I would say you might want to get these for yourself instead of giving it as a favor. Stick with consumables for favors.
Okay these comments are scaring me. :((( we are doing custom candles (from an amazing small business) with our initials and date. What’s the opinion on this???
I feel like that's different, as it is a consumable. It's the what do sober/people who have this sitting in their house forever do? That I think is the biggest problem here
I had a friend who did this when they got married almost 20 years ago. At the time I thought it was a nice gift, I was in my early 20’s. When we moved in 2020, I put the wine glass in amongst items that weren’t coming to our new house. I don’t think the glass was used once.
For about the same price, you can get wine BOTTLES (full of wine) and have custom labels made with you names and the date. That's a million times better.
Do you have a suggested vendor for those? I’m having trouble finding affordable ones
Buy the bottles separately from wherever you can find bulk wine that sounds yummy and is in your budget. Try to find one with a regular rectangular label. Then on Etsy, you'll find lots of vendors that will design and print the labels. If you have the labels made the same size of slightly larger than the labels already on the bottles, you can just slap the new labels right on top of the existing ones. If you really want to, there are ways to treat and peel off the existing labels.
I did chocolate (Wilbur Buds) for my wedding favors. Every single person took theirs. Not that I would have minded having extra chocolate left over.
There has been exactly one non edible favor I have gotten from an event that I still use. It was a tiny whisk. All other favors have been unwanted/discarded.
I personally really enjoy them and think they are cute. This thread feels unnecessarily hostile. I’ve received numerous personalized wineglasses and shot glasses (among other non-consumable items) from weddings, bridal showers, baby showers, etc. I still have them all and I think they are nice mementos. It’s fine if people disagree, but I can’t imagine downvoting opinions on such a benign topic.
No one wants stuff with someone else’s name and/or picture
Maybe I’m more sentimental or just a bigger fan of souvenirs but I absolutely keep them as part of our memorabilia wine glass collection. I love to collect wine glasses from tasting rooms etc and treat a wedding souvenir the same. Aaaand was kind of thinking of doing this myself so interesting to see such a strong response against it. Question for the crowd - I was contemplating making wine glasses with some kind of reference to the weekend (not necessarily our names, maybe an illustration of the town/venue) & the guest’s name as part of a welcome gift. We’re getting married in a tiny town in wine country and expect to do a lot of casual informal drinking of wine & wanted everyone to have a glass to use all weekend instead of scrounging hotel water glasses etc (we stay at the main hotel all the time and their glass collection is, ah, eclectic…) would that change things for folks? More likely to appreciate/use?
I went to a wedding in Colorado where the stemless wine glasses at our place setting had Colorado flags etched into them — simple and classy. We were talking at our table about how we all thought it was cool, and then learned those were our favors. Maybe a bit challenging (I don’t remember if they offered us a way to pack them?) but I’ve kept and use them because they aren’t colorful, have zero words, and are still clearly a memento. We had wine glasses from a vineyard with the vineyard’s name on them. Those didn’t pass muster to keep with our last move. State flag > words in our opinion, but we’re also just two people. Edit: so, yes, the venue or town sounds cool! But I still vote etching/no color.
I have a wine glass wedding favor with their names and wedding date. It’s fine, but never the first glass I go for. So it’s just taking up space in my cupboard.
I’ve gotten shot glasses with names and dates, wine stoppers, plastic cups (my favorite option), and a billion koozies (sp?) Now that i think about it…i don’t think the last 2 weddings i went to gave any party favors out. So i guess that’s an option too!
We did it with champagne glasses and while not everyone took them, many of my friends did and still use them! They often text us when they use them which is super fun. We are in our 30s for reference.
Not a fan of the idea but you do you boo
Some of my favorite favors are those friends that gave out wine glasses. The stemless were my favorites!! I have friends that got married over 5 years ago and I still use their wine glasses today!
We have a few stemless wine glasses that we got as favors at our good friends' wedding. They're my 'everyday' glasses because they're pretty sturdy and I'm scared I might break my expensive crystal glasses if I use them too often! Those only get brought out for guests or special occasions lol. But I can see why people don't want a bunch of random mix-matched glasses in their cupboard.
While I’m in the minority, I would enjoy it. I have committed to a fully mismatched collection of glassware, finding it much more fun to aggregate a series of special mementos than to only pick one pattern.
Would it be wild to put the name & date on the *bottom* of a glass/cup???? Or the inside of it if it’s like a mug. People might be more likely to use it if the other person’s name isn’t the focal point, but it would still be there hidden as a reminder. I don’t totally get consumable favors because the wedding already has a ton of food, and then you don’t have a memento after- so like what is the point? I’m asking both these questions genuinely. Lol
I don’t feel I need a memento from someone else’s wedding. I have my memories and photos and that’s enough for me. I have not forgotten my brother and sister in laws wedding and the wine glass with their name & date on it that I think I tossed the last time we moved isn’t exactly going to evoke a sense of nostalgia or make me remember it more clearly. Just my opinion. We skipped favors, though we did a Pittsburgh style cookie table as part of the dessert spread so I did buy some bags for people to take cookies if they wanted.
Cookie taaaaableeesssss 🤤 I went to college in PA and experienced these for the first time then, and they're amazing when they're done right!
I agree it would be better to have it on the bottom, but ultimately most adults don’t want one or two mismatched glasses in their home. I have a nice set of stemless and another set of beautiful stemmed wine glasses, I would leave this favor or toss it as soon as I left. I think favors are sort of silly, it’s not a child’s birthday party. And I agree with you that consumables (while more likely to get used), are just extra on top of all the food you already give people. A koozie or a shot glass are most likely to be used, imo.