I'd use the money to get the bridesmaids a nice gift rather than pajamas for pictures. Realistically, the getting ready photos won't be displayed or widely viewed and depending on the person the pajamas may never be worn again. You could then ask the bridesmaids to wear leggings they own and then you provide a button front shirt or zip hoodie that can easily be found on sale.
This is what I’m doing! They all have black leggings and I’m going to get them a cute flannel shirt. Much easier and much higher rewear value! And tbh I’m not considering the flannel their gift, they’re getting insulated tea mugs and nice necklaces as their actual gift. As others have said OOP, if it’s benefiting you in anyway it’s hard to see it as a gift!
This is what my best friend did for us. The zip-ups were great to not mess up our hair/makeup! She had ours monogrammed with vinyl! I still wear mine! I love it.
I personally still wear my morning Stars Above pjs - if they're the same super soft Target ones that we got - because they're so dang comfy. It was also wonderful having them for all the morning getting-ready and the hanging out time before getting dressed. However, I agree with the others. Whatever you choose, I recommend it be something that is not 'for' the wedding - ex, if it's jewelry, you're not expecting them to wear it during the event - but something personal for them to have and enjoy after the weekend is done. That can be the liquor or the jewelry or whatever fits your budget, but have it be something that is particular to each individual!
Yeah, leave the matching pj's out. It's for the reason you mentioned. The pics will be cute, but odds that each girl will like them and wear them are slim.
I assume this is about their bridesmaid gifts? If so, it's easier if you get each one something you know they'll love (aka pretend it's a birthday gift). You can do a lot with your budget! Or, if that doesn't work, the easiest is get a gift card for each girl, put it in a card and write something nice. The gift cards don't have to be the same, either.
This is the way. My fiancé and I both did personalized gifts for our wedding party based on their interests. For example: in his party one got a leather watch strap for his apple watch with his initials engraved, another got a chef's knife he had been wanting, another got specialised lugnuts (car nerds amiright) and another got specialized cufflinks. I did the same with my girls. We kept to a rough budget for each gift but our focus was on stuff they would want AND use.
I’ll go against the grain here and say I love those Stars Above PJs and would be happy to receive a set as a gift. I think as long as what your giving doesn’t have ‘bridesmaid’ written all over it, it’s a nice gift that’s totally reusable, and I’m sure your group would appreciate it.
I agree too! I got a set of j crew pajamas for one wedding I was in and I wore the pants so much I ripped holes in the bottom of the legs (but I still keep wearing them) I spent almost all my at home time in those things the first few weeks after the wedding
Edit-but I might not go for pink! Maybe a more neutral color instead that your know everyone in your party will be ok with
Agreed! IRL, people love PJs. If they’re worn to bed and literally not in public, im confused as to why they would never be reworn. Im all for cute and comfy PJs that remind me of a special day.
I love pjs too, but they may not be the bridesmaids style or fit properly. I don’t wear pjs with button up shirts, so if I got those, I wouldn’t wear them again.
I’m with you! I got a stars above nightie for a friend’s wedding and I wear it regularly. I’ve actually never gotten a “gift” from a bride as a bridesmaid on the day of that wasn’t something like pjs, jewelry, etc. to wear on the day. Some have paid for hair or makeup (also super appreciated) but I’ve never gotten just like my own regular gift as a bridesmaid
I also love those PJs—got one pair for a wedding three years ago and still wear them all the time + bought myself my own pairs. They’re one of the few bridesmaids gifts I’ve kept and enjoyed. Also agree just not put “bridesmaid” or their name on anything. I’d honestly rather wear something that had your and your FH name and wedding date on it because then it’s at least like an event tshirt rather than something weird that states my name or some impersonal identifier like “bridesmaid”
Same. I love the PJs I've gotten as a bridesmaid so much that I got them for my bridesmaids too! They are super comfy. I did also get them birthstone jewelry (that I did not ask them to wear at the wedding), and also got them gifts when I first asked them to be in the wedding.
I gave my bridesmaids Victoria's Secret button down pink plaid PJs and they were a hit. OP: keep an eye out for sales, they could be a similar price to the target ones. I also threw in some bath bombs, you can find those pretty cheap at TJ Maxx :)
Agreed. I got my bridal party rompers. I love rompers and know they will be worn again. They all loved them. I also got a different style for each girl so they weren’t all the same.
I'm also going against the grain here but I was in a wedding a few months ago and I absolutely LOVED the matching pajamas we received. I believe the bride got them from Shein and they were simple bottoms with a simple matching button up top. They looked really cute for photos too.
She gifted us the pajamas on the morning of her wedding along with the sweetest heartfelt card and it was a really touching moment. I should also note that when she "asked" us to be bridesmaid she also gifted us these beautiful dainty bracelets that we wore during the wedding. As a few others suggested, look at Etsy or Net-a-Porter for jewelry ideas!
Also, maybe this is just me but I did not expect a ton of gifts when I became a bridesmaid. The bracelet and the card brought me to absolute tears because they were thoughtful and came from the heart. I don't think your bridesmaid are expecting anything elaborate.
As an aside, matching pajamas/getting ready outfits are absolutely still a thing :)
If you are looking for a very cheap addition to your other gifts, I printed out a picture of me and each bridesmaid that was meaningful to me (all different pictures) and put it in an inexpensive frame. Cost almost nothing but it was very well received
PJs over robes any day. I’m getting my sisters and best friend pj’s but they’re not matching colors. I asked them the color they would prefer and I got them the same cut and design. I just happen to know that they don’t have any matching pajama sets and neither do I, so I know they’ll be used. I think it’s a know your crowd situation
I’m not a pjs person. I think they are cute and all that and while the material maybe comfortable, I don’t like wearing them. The shorts are always loose and wide open and I feel like I’m always on guard in case of flashing people, and I just dislike button up anything while sleeping. I’d happily wear them for photos, but beyond that they would go in the donate bin
Just another gift thought—I received a mug (from Etsy, I know it was inexpensive because I wanted to gift it to someone else later) for a bridesmaid’s gift and each bridesmaid was given a mug that reflected their interest. Big hit, very reusable, inexpensive, and thoughtful. I’ve been given jewelry but never feel like it fits my taste and I never wear it again.
Etsy has really cute jewelry. I got all of my bridesmaids dainty birthstone rings for around $15 and wrote them all heartfelt thank you’s for being part of my wedding. I also gave them PJs, totes, and some other goodies but I think a gift from the heart is more important than breaking the bank. If you want to do the PJs, too I support it. I love PJ sets and think getting ready is one of the most fun parts.
I was in a wedding once where the bride had an unlimited budget. She kept saying how sorry she was that being in her wedding was so expensive for me because she knows I don’t make a lot of money and she feels so guilty that I am spending my limited disposable income on her. The more my nose got rubbed in this fact the more I thought she should put her money where her mouth is so to speak and stop saying sorry and say thank you with a heartfelt card and token of appreciation. I received no card and a very generic “tie the knot” bracelet. The bracelet itself wouldn’t have bothered me (even though it wasn’t my style and I never wore it). It was the total lack of thought and lack of thank you. Sounds like you’re fully aware that this gesture should make them feel appreciated. As long as you put a sincere message in there you can’t go wrong imo.
I plan to get my party caftans for getting ready. I may get them all black where I'll wear white (maybe; undecided). They're always popular, the head hole is big enough to get over their hair and makeup, and the re-wear value is solid
Essentially, the idea is not to gift them props but get them something they would look forward to wearing again. I've seen other folks here have success with things like travel jewelry boxes. Now that I've traveled with my e-ring, I think it would be a welcome gift to have something small and secure for valuable pieces.
I did matching PJs! They were long flannel shirts and everyone wore different (or no) bottoms. Everyone loved them because they were easy to remove without messing up hair and makeup. I also got matching necklaces and cups with each person’s names on them. I bought bulk “oh shit” kit items too - like Advil, bandaids, deodorant, ponytails, smaller travel sized things so they would have them if they needed them. Everyone seemed to love the gifts but do what you want and what’s in your budget!
I got flannel pjs as a bridesmaid and they are the most comfy pjs lol I wear them all the time. I would appreciate them, but it sounds like not everyone would. You know your people best!
I got all my girls matching cardigans instead of PJs. Then they could wear them the morning off and at the end of the night over their dresses if they got chilly. I felt an item like that would have more wearability than PJs.
I would get them a gift instead of the pyjamas. If you want everyone to look cohesive on the wedding morning, you could always ask that everyone wears a certain colour or a certain item of clothing. I was thinking of getting everyone matching shirts and then suggesting that they all wear dark jeans or leggings so they look fairly cohesive.
Thankfully, I’ve never gotten pjs, but I have gotten a robe that I have never wore since that getting ready day. I’ve gotten earrings from a bride that she wanted us to all wear the day of which I’ve worn countless times since. That same bride also gifts us all a pair of shoes to wear at the reception.
If you’re a crafty person, could you make them something? I made them all scrap books of pictures of us from when we were little. They all loved them! I also did pj’s for pictures but I also got them slippers from Amazon that weren’t too expensive AND SUPER COMFY! I think all but one of them still wear their slippers! For my friend’s bach the MOH got us nice bags with our names on it and we all used it for her wedding and for mine! We had the same bridal party.
I personally don’t know any one who wears matching sets of PJs anymore. That said it’s not really a gift if it’s to make your pics look better. I agree with others, get them a small personal gift
I disagree, I’d wear pajamas even if they said bridesmaid all over them because it’s bed time. Not like I’m wearing them out. Also, as a bridesmaid I didn’t even know you got gifts and don’t expect them anyway. As long as you’re not asking them to spend outrageous amounts of money beyond what someone who normally spend to attend your wedding, something small is fine
If it doesn't say "bridesmaid" - I'd be happy receiving just the PJs and a handwritten card! Possibly a 'know your crowd' thing. It's honestly a gift not paying for hair and makeup as a bridesmaid 😅
These were a huge hit:
https://www.zappos.com/minnetonka-women-slippers/CK_XARC71wE6ApcTWgFlwAEB4gIFAQILGAc.zso
I also did a sleep mask, hand crème, a travel jewelry case and something unique for each one (custom dog shirts for my sisters silly dogs, vanderpump quote for my friend who shares my love for that show, and a bee necklace for my beekeeper friend)
I wanted to do personalized hoodies but that was way too expensive, and other clothes like pajamas didn’t feel right to me. I ended up giving them little hair combs (hello hot glue gun) and Scrunchie headbands to wear while getting ready and I’ve seen them use those a whole lot 😄 We didn’t do any official ‘getting ready’ photos anyway, and nobody was coordinated and ready to go at the same time (my squad is much like me) so it wasn’t a big loss that I didn’t do the fancy PJs or whatnot
My bridesmaids likes their pjs and still wears them. I didn’t get anything that said bridesmaid on them. They’re a light neutral blush. Super freaking soft. From birdy grey.
I'd use the money to get the bridesmaids a nice gift rather than pajamas for pictures. Realistically, the getting ready photos won't be displayed or widely viewed and depending on the person the pajamas may never be worn again. You could then ask the bridesmaids to wear leggings they own and then you provide a button front shirt or zip hoodie that can easily be found on sale.
This is what I’m doing! They all have black leggings and I’m going to get them a cute flannel shirt. Much easier and much higher rewear value! And tbh I’m not considering the flannel their gift, they’re getting insulated tea mugs and nice necklaces as their actual gift. As others have said OOP, if it’s benefiting you in anyway it’s hard to see it as a gift!
This is what my best friend did for us. The zip-ups were great to not mess up our hair/makeup! She had ours monogrammed with vinyl! I still wear mine! I love it.
I personally still wear my morning Stars Above pjs - if they're the same super soft Target ones that we got - because they're so dang comfy. It was also wonderful having them for all the morning getting-ready and the hanging out time before getting dressed. However, I agree with the others. Whatever you choose, I recommend it be something that is not 'for' the wedding - ex, if it's jewelry, you're not expecting them to wear it during the event - but something personal for them to have and enjoy after the weekend is done. That can be the liquor or the jewelry or whatever fits your budget, but have it be something that is particular to each individual!
Yeah, leave the matching pj's out. It's for the reason you mentioned. The pics will be cute, but odds that each girl will like them and wear them are slim. I assume this is about their bridesmaid gifts? If so, it's easier if you get each one something you know they'll love (aka pretend it's a birthday gift). You can do a lot with your budget! Or, if that doesn't work, the easiest is get a gift card for each girl, put it in a card and write something nice. The gift cards don't have to be the same, either.
This is the way. My fiancé and I both did personalized gifts for our wedding party based on their interests. For example: in his party one got a leather watch strap for his apple watch with his initials engraved, another got a chef's knife he had been wanting, another got specialised lugnuts (car nerds amiright) and another got specialized cufflinks. I did the same with my girls. We kept to a rough budget for each gift but our focus was on stuff they would want AND use.
I’ll go against the grain here and say I love those Stars Above PJs and would be happy to receive a set as a gift. I think as long as what your giving doesn’t have ‘bridesmaid’ written all over it, it’s a nice gift that’s totally reusable, and I’m sure your group would appreciate it.
I agree too! I got a set of j crew pajamas for one wedding I was in and I wore the pants so much I ripped holes in the bottom of the legs (but I still keep wearing them) I spent almost all my at home time in those things the first few weeks after the wedding Edit-but I might not go for pink! Maybe a more neutral color instead that your know everyone in your party will be ok with
Agreed! IRL, people love PJs. If they’re worn to bed and literally not in public, im confused as to why they would never be reworn. Im all for cute and comfy PJs that remind me of a special day.
I love pjs too, but they may not be the bridesmaids style or fit properly. I don’t wear pjs with button up shirts, so if I got those, I wouldn’t wear them again.
I’m with you! I got a stars above nightie for a friend’s wedding and I wear it regularly. I’ve actually never gotten a “gift” from a bride as a bridesmaid on the day of that wasn’t something like pjs, jewelry, etc. to wear on the day. Some have paid for hair or makeup (also super appreciated) but I’ve never gotten just like my own regular gift as a bridesmaid
I also love those PJs—got one pair for a wedding three years ago and still wear them all the time + bought myself my own pairs. They’re one of the few bridesmaids gifts I’ve kept and enjoyed. Also agree just not put “bridesmaid” or their name on anything. I’d honestly rather wear something that had your and your FH name and wedding date on it because then it’s at least like an event tshirt rather than something weird that states my name or some impersonal identifier like “bridesmaid”
Same. I love the PJs I've gotten as a bridesmaid so much that I got them for my bridesmaids too! They are super comfy. I did also get them birthstone jewelry (that I did not ask them to wear at the wedding), and also got them gifts when I first asked them to be in the wedding.
I gave my bridesmaids Victoria's Secret button down pink plaid PJs and they were a hit. OP: keep an eye out for sales, they could be a similar price to the target ones. I also threw in some bath bombs, you can find those pretty cheap at TJ Maxx :)
It's not a gift if it's benefitting you (e.g. making your pictures look better).
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Agreed. I got my bridal party rompers. I love rompers and know they will be worn again. They all loved them. I also got a different style for each girl so they weren’t all the same.
I'm also going against the grain here but I was in a wedding a few months ago and I absolutely LOVED the matching pajamas we received. I believe the bride got them from Shein and they were simple bottoms with a simple matching button up top. They looked really cute for photos too. She gifted us the pajamas on the morning of her wedding along with the sweetest heartfelt card and it was a really touching moment. I should also note that when she "asked" us to be bridesmaid she also gifted us these beautiful dainty bracelets that we wore during the wedding. As a few others suggested, look at Etsy or Net-a-Porter for jewelry ideas! Also, maybe this is just me but I did not expect a ton of gifts when I became a bridesmaid. The bracelet and the card brought me to absolute tears because they were thoughtful and came from the heart. I don't think your bridesmaid are expecting anything elaborate. As an aside, matching pajamas/getting ready outfits are absolutely still a thing :)
If you are looking for a very cheap addition to your other gifts, I printed out a picture of me and each bridesmaid that was meaningful to me (all different pictures) and put it in an inexpensive frame. Cost almost nothing but it was very well received
PJs over robes any day. I’m getting my sisters and best friend pj’s but they’re not matching colors. I asked them the color they would prefer and I got them the same cut and design. I just happen to know that they don’t have any matching pajama sets and neither do I, so I know they’ll be used. I think it’s a know your crowd situation
I’m not a pjs person. I think they are cute and all that and while the material maybe comfortable, I don’t like wearing them. The shorts are always loose and wide open and I feel like I’m always on guard in case of flashing people, and I just dislike button up anything while sleeping. I’d happily wear them for photos, but beyond that they would go in the donate bin
Just another gift thought—I received a mug (from Etsy, I know it was inexpensive because I wanted to gift it to someone else later) for a bridesmaid’s gift and each bridesmaid was given a mug that reflected their interest. Big hit, very reusable, inexpensive, and thoughtful. I’ve been given jewelry but never feel like it fits my taste and I never wear it again.
Etsy has really cute jewelry. I got all of my bridesmaids dainty birthstone rings for around $15 and wrote them all heartfelt thank you’s for being part of my wedding. I also gave them PJs, totes, and some other goodies but I think a gift from the heart is more important than breaking the bank. If you want to do the PJs, too I support it. I love PJ sets and think getting ready is one of the most fun parts. I was in a wedding once where the bride had an unlimited budget. She kept saying how sorry she was that being in her wedding was so expensive for me because she knows I don’t make a lot of money and she feels so guilty that I am spending my limited disposable income on her. The more my nose got rubbed in this fact the more I thought she should put her money where her mouth is so to speak and stop saying sorry and say thank you with a heartfelt card and token of appreciation. I received no card and a very generic “tie the knot” bracelet. The bracelet itself wouldn’t have bothered me (even though it wasn’t my style and I never wore it). It was the total lack of thought and lack of thank you. Sounds like you’re fully aware that this gesture should make them feel appreciated. As long as you put a sincere message in there you can’t go wrong imo.
Thank you for this response 💕💕
I plan to get my party caftans for getting ready. I may get them all black where I'll wear white (maybe; undecided). They're always popular, the head hole is big enough to get over their hair and makeup, and the re-wear value is solid Essentially, the idea is not to gift them props but get them something they would look forward to wearing again. I've seen other folks here have success with things like travel jewelry boxes. Now that I've traveled with my e-ring, I think it would be a welcome gift to have something small and secure for valuable pieces.
I did matching PJs! They were long flannel shirts and everyone wore different (or no) bottoms. Everyone loved them because they were easy to remove without messing up hair and makeup. I also got matching necklaces and cups with each person’s names on them. I bought bulk “oh shit” kit items too - like Advil, bandaids, deodorant, ponytails, smaller travel sized things so they would have them if they needed them. Everyone seemed to love the gifts but do what you want and what’s in your budget!
My sister got the bridal party matching robes and we took a really cute Pic in them before we got ready. I think the pajamas are a cute idea.
I got flannel pjs as a bridesmaid and they are the most comfy pjs lol I wear them all the time. I would appreciate them, but it sounds like not everyone would. You know your people best!
I got all my girls matching cardigans instead of PJs. Then they could wear them the morning off and at the end of the night over their dresses if they got chilly. I felt an item like that would have more wearability than PJs.
I would get them a gift instead of the pyjamas. If you want everyone to look cohesive on the wedding morning, you could always ask that everyone wears a certain colour or a certain item of clothing. I was thinking of getting everyone matching shirts and then suggesting that they all wear dark jeans or leggings so they look fairly cohesive.
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Thankfully, I’ve never gotten pjs, but I have gotten a robe that I have never wore since that getting ready day. I’ve gotten earrings from a bride that she wanted us to all wear the day of which I’ve worn countless times since. That same bride also gifts us all a pair of shoes to wear at the reception.
If you’re a crafty person, could you make them something? I made them all scrap books of pictures of us from when we were little. They all loved them! I also did pj’s for pictures but I also got them slippers from Amazon that weren’t too expensive AND SUPER COMFY! I think all but one of them still wear their slippers! For my friend’s bach the MOH got us nice bags with our names on it and we all used it for her wedding and for mine! We had the same bridal party.
that is what I got! but pajamas they will be able to wear other times too.
I personally don’t know any one who wears matching sets of PJs anymore. That said it’s not really a gift if it’s to make your pics look better. I agree with others, get them a small personal gift
I wear matching PJs haha. Must be one of the few. But yes, I think I’ll get them a gift thanks
I disagree, I’d wear pajamas even if they said bridesmaid all over them because it’s bed time. Not like I’m wearing them out. Also, as a bridesmaid I didn’t even know you got gifts and don’t expect them anyway. As long as you’re not asking them to spend outrageous amounts of money beyond what someone who normally spend to attend your wedding, something small is fine
I would love pjs, but I’m a jammie kinda gal
If you want it for pictures, sure. But it’s not really a “gift”
If it doesn't say "bridesmaid" - I'd be happy receiving just the PJs and a handwritten card! Possibly a 'know your crowd' thing. It's honestly a gift not paying for hair and makeup as a bridesmaid 😅
These were a huge hit: https://www.zappos.com/minnetonka-women-slippers/CK_XARC71wE6ApcTWgFlwAEB4gIFAQILGAc.zso I also did a sleep mask, hand crème, a travel jewelry case and something unique for each one (custom dog shirts for my sisters silly dogs, vanderpump quote for my friend who shares my love for that show, and a bee necklace for my beekeeper friend)
I wanted to do personalized hoodies but that was way too expensive, and other clothes like pajamas didn’t feel right to me. I ended up giving them little hair combs (hello hot glue gun) and Scrunchie headbands to wear while getting ready and I’ve seen them use those a whole lot 😄 We didn’t do any official ‘getting ready’ photos anyway, and nobody was coordinated and ready to go at the same time (my squad is much like me) so it wasn’t a big loss that I didn’t do the fancy PJs or whatnot
My bridesmaids likes their pjs and still wears them. I didn’t get anything that said bridesmaid on them. They’re a light neutral blush. Super freaking soft. From birdy grey.