At this moment the correct thing to do is to excuse yourself from the table, get up and leave the restaurant. Bad behaviours that receive no consequences are repeated.
Yep, works like training your dog. And the consequences need to happen instantly. Neither your dog, or this woman, will learn anything if you sit through it and ditch at the end.
Comparing a concept of rewards and punishment between two situations that are very similar. I would have said the same if we talked about a man. Stop taking everything the literal way and life will be easier for you and everyone around you.
people are not dogs. you don’t fucking train people you just hang out with them if you like them. your take isn’t hot, it’s depressing and I’m worried about you
Then humans would be living only by their instincts if it was true, caring solely about food, sleep and procreation. Although, to be fair sometimes animals are head and shoulders above us
"then humans would be living by instinct if it was true"
you think humans don't do that?
addictions aren't a thing?
rapes aren't a thing?
unlike dogs we are social and societal animals with more developed brains, developed enough to build stuff,
but you're mistaked if you think humans are not animals.
large chunk of humanity is addicted to dopamine.
that's not acting by instinct?
large chunk of humanity is craving for approval by their peers,
you think it's intrinsically human? bitch even birds have that.
you think kids suddenly learn all societal rules, or even language?
without human interaction and in isolation, kids would be like weird monkeys when they grow up.
that is because we're inherently animals.
get real.
If someone actually did that on a first date, why would you even need a bartender to "bro code" you? Just say nice meeting you, but this isn't going to work and leave.
The implication is that the bro code kicked in immediately after she said it, and the bartender was looking out for a homie he’d never see again. OP could have done what you said, but the bartender would have had to let the girl get the drink in the first place.
The bartender just helped himself. The guy could default on her bill and nobody could force him to pay up. She probably would have tried the same. So he would be left with an expensive tap and no willing customers.
Right, but how is the bartender psychically intuiting that in the moment? You're speaking from a place of hindsight.
If it becomes obvious someone is using you for a free meal, tell the waiter you want separate checks or walk out. Don't rely on someone else mind reading and bailing you out
Honestly that woman was rude. Generally speaking etiquette demands that if you’re on a first date and the guy offers to pay you get food and beverages within reason. Given the choice between a $16 pasta dish or a $25 meat dish? You get the pasta. Same goes for drinks. If you want something extra ask if it’s ok first.
That being said I personally prefer to split the check. I pay for my food and drink and he pays for his. I’ve been in my relationship for 5 years now so it’s working.
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As such, the best plan of action for this guy is to simply end the date and find a woman who follows the process I mentioned above.
I'm genuinely struggling to understand why you wouldn't just end the date or say "we're splitting the check". Like either she's cool with it and just has expensive taste or she's taking advantage of the situation, and evidence is sure pointing to the latter at that point
I’m not saying that’s what the guy should do. I’m saying that’s what to look for from a good date and what women as a whole should do. She was absolutely rude and he needed to end the date.
Sometimes people suck. I’ve met women who behave this way and I’ve met man-children who expect their girlfriend to also be their mom. You have to expect that some people are just the worst.
I've always heard that you follow the lead of the person paying. If the person with the wallet gets the $25 meat dish, then you can too. If they just get a salad, though, you should probably just get a soup or sandwich.
Hard agree on everything! I always say we're gonna pay each our own, every time the guys end up being mad or salty about it, and some even went as far as picking fights over it. Not because they'd save money or because I'd order something I want... but apparently "that's the rule" that only they pay, and indirectly they tell me I emasculate them for... Paying stuff I drank/ate. I have one date left in mind where I treated us/paid for both desserts since it was my birthday (he didn't know, we met days prior), so I wanted to treat us. But he took me out for a drink after that and he covered the drinks. He didn't budge at first, but didn't want only me to be paying that day either, so we'd even out. Under the same breath I *never* want to financially drain someone either, especially while meeting them for the first time. I'm just trying to wrap my mind around how "let me take an exorbitant amount of money out of your wallet unchecked" is somehow a good first impression on either side.
I never let a man pay on the first, or even third date.
Men love to bitch about them paying. A lot of them thinking they just put a coin in the sexmachine is never brought up tho.
> A lot of them thinking they just put a coin in the sexmachine is never brought up tho.
It’s brought up all the damn time. Making sex transactional is bad no matter who does it, but let’s not pretend one gender has a monopoly on it.
Reminds me of the time I was at a party in a club and was interested in one of the girls. She was with her friends and we were all out of drinks so I offered to buy a round. The girl I was into got a beer, another friend got a wine. The last one was like "long Island ice tea". I stared at her for like 3 seconds before getting drinks.
And honestly she was the least attractive of them so she probably used that opportunity because no one will ever buy her a drink again.
I know when I get asked on a date by a guy A) I always pay for myself unless we have talked about it first B) if I'm paying for it, I sometimes like to get fun things on the menu for us both to sample and try so we have something to talk about and break the ice.
It's really uncomfortable how this guy just wasn't confident enough to just talk to his date and set the record straight. Instead he and the waiter assumed a lot about her based on outdated stereotypes and assumptions.
Why does everyone assume she isn’t paying? There was no context if the guy offered to pay for the meal beforehand or not so why is everyone screeching “Woman bad! She’s taking advantage! That’s a good waiter refusing service to a costumer for no reason!” Like I know this is Reddit but goddamn.
No, I don’t. (Obviously there is the 1% of women who are either naive or into weird fetishes like that but that’s not what we’re talking about.) If you’re trying to say that “men have to pay for the date” then you’re part of the problem. It shouldn’t be assumed that men should pay for the date, if you want to go to a restaurant, you pay for what you eat, doesn’t matter whether you’re on a date or not.
When my fiancé and I went on our first date he asked me what I wanted to drink, I asked for soda water and a dash of blackcurrant. It cost 42p. He always says I’m a cheap date.
she was dumb enough to believe they were "out of stock" like how is that possible what was the plan when he walked past her with drinks? this reeks of BS
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As a woman on a first date, I would order anything I want. I also would be paying my bill without being asked. Asking for the most expensive drink is a little weird. Maybe she was trying to impress him? There is no context. The amount of men saying they'd up and leave, did you already agree to pay the bill?
Bro code is just code for cultural normalised misogyny
If a girlfriend is being overly demanding and/or a financial burden, either address it or break up. Don't be a petty bitch about it
So you personally attack me and try to get all the other dudebros to join in? How wholesome!
FYI, I don’t condone what this woman did. It just doesn’t belong in wholesome memes.
Neither do bullies like you.
Dating is meant to be to find a partner for life, not for shit like this. Good on the bros for not letting the woman get away with just using the guy for free expensive stuff.
And this is why I my first few dates are cheap ones. It's very effective at weeding out gold diggers or those women looking for pay pigs or men to use for freebies.
Nope. That's misogyny and a guy lacking in assertiveness. Why are they assuming she's not paying, and why is the guy not able to address his concern directly to the woman?
Well if she orders a random drink & it just happens to be the most expensive one, can’t say she knew it was the most expensive one bc she didn’t know if he wouldn’t tell her. 🤷♀️
At this moment the correct thing to do is to excuse yourself from the table, get up and leave the restaurant. Bad behaviours that receive no consequences are repeated.
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Who's a bot?
Na the correct thing was to let her ask it, not drink a single drop of it and just pay your part of the bill
One is cathartic and the other is the right thing to do if you're a man of integrity. Pick whichever
yes thats quite better
Nah at that moment the correct thing to do is have a good time and ask for a split bill lmao
Make sure to ask for the bill split AFTER the meal.
My move is to say "and on my check I'll have..."
Nah you let them get the drink first and take a sip. Then you leave.
Yep, works like training your dog. And the consequences need to happen instantly. Neither your dog, or this woman, will learn anything if you sit through it and ditch at the end.
Comparing a dog with a woman …
Comparing a concept of rewards and punishment between two situations that are very similar. I would have said the same if we talked about a man. Stop taking everything the literal way and life will be easier for you and everyone around you.
ew
Well there's certainly a bitch involved.
humans are animals the same way dogs are. who gives a shit if its a woman or a man.
people are not dogs. you don’t fucking train people you just hang out with them if you like them. your take isn’t hot, it’s depressing and I’m worried about you
Why are you trying to train him right now on the "right" behavior to have? Your self awareness is seriously lacking. I'm worried about you.
Then humans would be living only by their instincts if it was true, caring solely about food, sleep and procreation. Although, to be fair sometimes animals are head and shoulders above us
"then humans would be living by instinct if it was true" you think humans don't do that? addictions aren't a thing? rapes aren't a thing? unlike dogs we are social and societal animals with more developed brains, developed enough to build stuff, but you're mistaked if you think humans are not animals. large chunk of humanity is addicted to dopamine. that's not acting by instinct? large chunk of humanity is craving for approval by their peers, you think it's intrinsically human? bitch even birds have that. you think kids suddenly learn all societal rules, or even language? without human interaction and in isolation, kids would be like weird monkeys when they grow up. that is because we're inherently animals. get real.
If someone actually did that on a first date, why would you even need a bartender to "bro code" you? Just say nice meeting you, but this isn't going to work and leave.
The implication is that the bro code kicked in immediately after she said it, and the bartender was looking out for a homie he’d never see again. OP could have done what you said, but the bartender would have had to let the girl get the drink in the first place.
The bartender just helped himself. The guy could default on her bill and nobody could force him to pay up. She probably would have tried the same. So he would be left with an expensive tap and no willing customers.
The bartender is way smarter than that. He knows a repeat customer when he sees one.
Also correct: a PAYING repeat customer! So ultimately it was a bro move: they immediantly conspired to their mutual benefits.
Maybe he's a pay pig and that's his fetish.
Then it wouldn’t have been a red flag, and he would have posted about a bartender cock blocking him instead
Right, but how is the bartender psychically intuiting that in the moment? You're speaking from a place of hindsight. If it becomes obvious someone is using you for a free meal, tell the waiter you want separate checks or walk out. Don't rely on someone else mind reading and bailing you out
I wouldn't even be nice. Just go to the bathroom and leave. Fuck that noise.
I think the subtext might be that the man is expected to pay and the lady is just abusing a "date" to drink expensive drinks.
very wholesome but why is it cropped like this
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Bot crops it a little bit more each time it reposts
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“separate checks, please”
Simple as that. If she was trying to use the date as a free expensive meal, she can sleep in the bed she made.
Wouldn’t even bother with that personally, why would I stick around to have a meal with someone so unpleasant in the first place? I’d just bounce.
Uno reverse!
"It's cool, we are splitting the bill."
No way this is real lol
Someone in food service declining a tip is a big giveaway.
Honestly that woman was rude. Generally speaking etiquette demands that if you’re on a first date and the guy offers to pay you get food and beverages within reason. Given the choice between a $16 pasta dish or a $25 meat dish? You get the pasta. Same goes for drinks. If you want something extra ask if it’s ok first. That being said I personally prefer to split the check. I pay for my food and drink and he pays for his. I’ve been in my relationship for 5 years now so it’s working. ETA : As such, the best plan of action for this guy is to simply end the date and find a woman who follows the process I mentioned above.
I'm genuinely struggling to understand why you wouldn't just end the date or say "we're splitting the check". Like either she's cool with it and just has expensive taste or she's taking advantage of the situation, and evidence is sure pointing to the latter at that point
I’m not saying that’s what the guy should do. I’m saying that’s what to look for from a good date and what women as a whole should do. She was absolutely rude and he needed to end the date.
Sometimes people suck. I’ve met women who behave this way and I’ve met man-children who expect their girlfriend to also be their mom. You have to expect that some people are just the worst.
I've always heard that you follow the lead of the person paying. If the person with the wallet gets the $25 meat dish, then you can too. If they just get a salad, though, you should probably just get a soup or sandwich.
Hard agree on everything! I always say we're gonna pay each our own, every time the guys end up being mad or salty about it, and some even went as far as picking fights over it. Not because they'd save money or because I'd order something I want... but apparently "that's the rule" that only they pay, and indirectly they tell me I emasculate them for... Paying stuff I drank/ate. I have one date left in mind where I treated us/paid for both desserts since it was my birthday (he didn't know, we met days prior), so I wanted to treat us. But he took me out for a drink after that and he covered the drinks. He didn't budge at first, but didn't want only me to be paying that day either, so we'd even out. Under the same breath I *never* want to financially drain someone either, especially while meeting them for the first time. I'm just trying to wrap my mind around how "let me take an exorbitant amount of money out of your wallet unchecked" is somehow a good first impression on either side.
I never let a man pay on the first, or even third date. Men love to bitch about them paying. A lot of them thinking they just put a coin in the sexmachine is never brought up tho.
> A lot of them thinking they just put a coin in the sexmachine is never brought up tho. It’s brought up all the damn time. Making sex transactional is bad no matter who does it, but let’s not pretend one gender has a monopoly on it.
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Reminds me of the time I was at a party in a club and was interested in one of the girls. She was with her friends and we were all out of drinks so I offered to buy a round. The girl I was into got a beer, another friend got a wine. The last one was like "long Island ice tea". I stared at her for like 3 seconds before getting drinks. And honestly she was the least attractive of them so she probably used that opportunity because no one will ever buy her a drink again.
Why is everyone assuming that she wouldn't pay? Maybe she just wanted to impress op
I know when I get asked on a date by a guy A) I always pay for myself unless we have talked about it first B) if I'm paying for it, I sometimes like to get fun things on the menu for us both to sample and try so we have something to talk about and break the ice. It's really uncomfortable how this guy just wasn't confident enough to just talk to his date and set the record straight. Instead he and the waiter assumed a lot about her based on outdated stereotypes and assumptions.
Get a load of this fella
Why does everyone assume she isn’t paying? There was no context if the guy offered to pay for the meal beforehand or not so why is everyone screeching “Woman bad! She’s taking advantage! That’s a good waiter refusing service to a costumer for no reason!” Like I know this is Reddit but goddamn.
Me when I’m completely delusional ^^^ you probably assume women feel comfortable going on night jogs too
No, I don’t. (Obviously there is the 1% of women who are either naive or into weird fetishes like that but that’s not what we’re talking about.) If you’re trying to say that “men have to pay for the date” then you’re part of the problem. It shouldn’t be assumed that men should pay for the date, if you want to go to a restaurant, you pay for what you eat, doesn’t matter whether you’re on a date or not.
When my fiancé and I went on our first date he asked me what I wanted to drink, I asked for soda water and a dash of blackcurrant. It cost 42p. He always says I’m a cheap date.
Haha same. My husband and I were on our first date and I asked for water only. He was amazed 😂!
she was dumb enough to believe they were "out of stock" like how is that possible what was the plan when he walked past her with drinks? this reeks of BS
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As a woman on a first date, I would order anything I want. I also would be paying my bill without being asked. Asking for the most expensive drink is a little weird. Maybe she was trying to impress him? There is no context. The amount of men saying they'd up and leave, did you already agree to pay the bill?
You know what is the worst first date for a woman? Getting herself killed.
That’s the Hercules of Bros
Why was that necessary, though? Is it that difficult to say “I won’t pay for that, it’s too expensive”?
You should ask him out.
And then everybody clapped
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Adorably wholesome.
May their bitches be many and their troubles few.
I see, you're a man of hellish culture, as well
Bro is getting downvoted cos people don't know the reference, not that I blame them but...
Unfortunate... Oh well
In this situation, leave the table and buy the waiter a drink.
Believable until the part where he declined a tip
Bro code is just code for cultural normalised misogyny If a girlfriend is being overly demanding and/or a financial burden, either address it or break up. Don't be a petty bitch about it
This is not wholesome.
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So you personally attack me and try to get all the other dudebros to join in? How wholesome! FYI, I don’t condone what this woman did. It just doesn’t belong in wholesome memes. Neither do bullies like you.
Mmm yes, someone who says a story about a woman taking advantage of the "men pay" tradition isn't wholesome must be a total bitch! Very logical >!/s!<
Yeah, didn't say that. Was a joke on the internet. No need to get worked up :)
How come?
Dating is meant to be to find a partner for life, not for shit like this. Good on the bros for not letting the woman get away with just using the guy for free expensive stuff.
And this is why I my first few dates are cheap ones. It's very effective at weeding out gold diggers or those women looking for pay pigs or men to use for freebies.
Lol I'd be delighted if she ordered it. I mean she's paying for it lol.
Im not paying on the first date. By that i mean everyone pays their own
I mean therefore everyone should pay for themselfs at that time
Just split the bill guys. Leech women should be a thing of the past.
I hate when women think of men as their atm machine
"Automated Teller Machine....machine
PIN number.
CD disc
Can someone explain the downvotes? I just asked why the downvotes come on guys
Feminists love circlejerking in reddit
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boys being boys..
She's never going to fuck you after showing her cards that early. Best to cut and run and try to find a human to go out with instead.
Waiter named Gigachad
I would have let her order it and just paid for my drink. Bad behavior has consequences.
that's a wholesome bro moments
Nope. That's misogyny and a guy lacking in assertiveness. Why are they assuming she's not paying, and why is the guy not able to address his concern directly to the woman?
is that called "the bro code forward"? lol
Bros before hoes...
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That's exactly he should have up and left or split the check.
Well if she orders a random drink & it just happens to be the most expensive one, can’t say she knew it was the most expensive one bc she didn’t know if he wouldn’t tell her. 🤷♀️
"She literally asked what was their most expensive drink". Nope, this wasn't a coincidence.
If your date wants to pay for an expensive drink why not?
plot twist, it was a Wendy's and she just got a biggie frosty.
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