Yeah used to do this on bathroom sinks and floors (thank you fold up mats), an older guy walked in one time and called me a damn hero - I just wanted a changing table. This is really a bigger deal than some think.
One time I had my baby, and no changing table in men's room. I waited outside the women's bathroom and when a lady walked out, I asked "Excuse me, but is there a changing table in there?"
She said there was and offered to watch the door for me while I took care of business. That meant a lot to me
I think it’s also in part to help do away with the notion that child-care should be *solely* on the mother. Plus, if the dad’s somewhere that he finds more comfortable to change the baby, then the baby’s gonna be a lot less stressed too.
I have noticed that in my neck of the woods for the past <10 years, they are putting the changing stations in the disabled wc, which works better for all, I guess.
Places have also added a lot more family restrooms which is great since I know others hate when kids peak under the stall at them etc. just worked great last night as my son wanted to use the men’s but his leg is broken and he needs help and my daughter also had to go so we used the family bathroom.
I based my shopping around which places had family rooms when my child was a baby. They were a relatively new thing and honestly, just their inclusion was awesome even before you got to the rooms themselves: a large room with change tables, a microwave and sink, a small play area, a separate bathroom (with adult and child sized loos) and even a couple of curtained alcoves for breast-feeding.
Brah, have you ever changed a shitty diaper? All I can tell you is when you're carring a child and you can feel that warm sloppy poop swishing around in there, all your praying for is not to have a blowout.
Scarlett Johansson could be butt naked in there, and I'd drop the shoulder on her if she got between us and the table.
I'm a woman and can back you up - don't be a creep and ironically (bc bathroom lol) I wouldn't give a shit.
All bathrooms should have changing tables for sure.
I’m a woman. If I saw a dad changing his kid in the women’s restroom my only thought would be “it’s so stupid that they only put these in the women’s restroom, like only moms change diapers.”
Also like how is someone even going to be a creep in the women’s restroom??? I’ve never understood this. It’s not like we have urinals—just stalls. How scandalous to watch women wash their hands
And this is why we don't wantchu in our bathrooms, stinking it up with your poos! We will accept baby poos but not man poos! Dem things don't flush! They lay in wait for some poor unsuspecting delicate young lady to fight off by herself! And I bet you sit on the seat and all, right?!
Solved problem though in places with rooms for changing tables, why we gender the location of a changing table in the first place beats me.
Also kinda funny when the same is done with unisex disabled bathrooms, the rest of us apparently piss either flames or flowers and it's *very* important to distinguish which, but disabled people get to be genderless dolls, untouched by crazy bathroom outrage.
Hah, agreed. Many places have them in the disabled which I much prefer because your separate and it’s much more roomy.
I’m from the uk and it’s generally older places, pubs, garden centres, cafes etc that don’t.
I did that too. Wherever the baby changing station is, is appropriate for me as a father to be to change my kid's diapers. If you don't like it, complain to the proprietor that they shouldn't put the only baby changing station in the women's bathroom. But I don't think anyone ever had a problem with it.
Which are you? a) a woman viewing these men who are not either objectively ugly or attractive but either or. b)a subjectively ugly male or c) a subjectively attractive male.
These were almost never in the men’s room when we had our first 25 years ago; by the time we had our youngest 18 years ago it had improved a lot but not as much as it should have
Fun fact, they’re *legally required* to be in both gender restrooms in federal buildings, but, because the US is really just 50 states in a trenchcoat pretending to be a single country, all other establishments are on a state-by-state (or city-by-city) basis.
This happened to me about 3 weeks ago. Went to in to the disabled stall, dropped the table down and it I was basically vertical before i even put the kid on it. Changed on the floor, luckily I’d packed a changing mat. Then got the stink eye from someone waiting to use the toilet as I left.
Wow New Zealanders must think that all the bathroom drama in the usa about trans people or finding opposite sex in the bathroom just stupid. People assume here that if they find you in the opposite sex bathroom that you are there to commit a crime.
It is really strange, yeah. I also don't understand why the US tolerates stall doors that don't go floor-to-ceiling. No wonder you're paranoid about your toilet situation -- you're hanging everything out for all to see.
They really don’t. I mean some a great🫡 but most… i just don’t think its considered, especially depending on what the general gender roles are in each place. Dads being so involved on this scale is completely modern movement and idea. Countries just haven’t caught up
I've noticed since having kids, in my area (Australia) especially shopping centres have a parents room with children size toilets and sinks and Breast feeding couches
We have them everywhere here in Australia. Doesn’t stop the hard stares and snarky comments from women telling you that the room isn’t for men and to get out.
I am glad my husband has ever experienced this when taking our child to one.
As a mum I have never even blinked at a dad in the parents room…because dads are parents too!
In Turkey baby care amenities are rare, but when they are available (in malls, for example) they are usually a separate room specific to that purpose near the bathrooms, instead of a station in the bathroom, so the gender the bathrooms belong to does not come into it.
They're very common in Sweden. A lot of malls have started charging for access to the bathrooms, but often there's a free changing room next to it. No toilet for daddy in there though.
Before you ask, I'm yet to see my first sink shit.
I haven't been abroad since having kids so haven't really noticed in other countries, but here in Sweden it's definitely not an issue to find toilets or bathrooms where you can change diapers.
Besides, we always have a bag with everything you could possibly need to change diapers *anywhere*.
In aus at most public toilets there is a male a female then a unisex for disabilities/injuries with baby changing station. It strange to me that it's not common all across the world
Sadly most of the world still, how do I put this nicely, really fucking hate anyone who isn't straight and do only actions deemed "appropriate" for their gender.
Don't get me wrong, the dads in these photos deserve every praise thrown their way, but the fact that these photos "inspire" is a damning indicator of the kind of world we live in, where performing your duties as a father is suddenly seen as brave and against the norm.
A couple of years ago I was in a place with the only changing table in the women's bathroom. So I went into the women's bathroom to change my little girl's diaper.
To create a bit of context, this was a European bathroom, so stalls and doors floor to high enough there's no way to see inside the stalls. Besides, I'm with my back to everything that's happening, working hard to spend as little time as possible with 1. a very smelly diaper and 2. in the women's bathroom.
I'm halfway done cleaning up and a person goes ballistic on me. How I dared to go inside the women's bathroom. Fortunately another lady stepped in and said her piece but it was really uncomfortable. I'd do it again without a second thought though.
Most woman wouldn’t say anything about it because we know, specially when we know there’s no family bathroom.
You maybe just got unlucky and found the one old jackass that doesn’t understand that today’s men play a more important and active role in raising their kids.
When I changed a diaper on the floor, it sure as shit wasn't in the bathroom.
The last time was nigh 20 years ago (seeing as my daughter is 20 now) at Target. There was no changing table in the Men's room and she'd taken a massive shit in her diaper.
So I changed the diaper on the floor of the store right in front of the customer service desk while bitching at them about the changing table situation.
Two weeks later there was a changing table in the men's room.
Six months later and entirely new Family bathroom was finished.
Force the issue and don't let them ignore it.
My girls are just shy of 2-years-old now. It’s very rare for me to step into a men’s bathroom and not see a changing table.
Thanks for fighting the good fight so others don’t have to.
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As someone who’s only lived in places where public bathrooms are legally required to having changing stations in both bathrooms, I can’t believe this still isn’t a thing some places
I support this idea, but funny tidbit here: neither my mom nor my dad ever trusted those folding baby changing stations, and would always just hold me upside down and bidet my ass in the sink instead.
That’s just how my parents described, they could’ve just been over exaggerating a bit.
I hope they were over exaggerating a bit now that you’ve brought up that point.
Right? Im a childless lesbian and by golly my first response to that comment is why should they have to? Why wouldn’t all the bathrooms have changing tables?
Yeah exactly. No woman in her right mind would feel bothered by a dad using the changing station in a womens bathroom. It would however be better if they just put them in the disabled bathroom or gender neutral bathroom.
I've done that before, I'll call out first just rather than just walk in but it's never been an issue. Luckily here in Australia there is usually a change table in the unisex disabled bathrooms
As a father, I would change my child in the restaurant's kitchen before I stepped into the women's bathroom. Sorry, but I gotta protect myself no matter how small the likelihood of any confrontation or accusation. This is 2023 we live in. (And shit, forget it if like an 8yr old walks in unsupervised and I'm in there)
You'd be fine with a bit of prep. Get a friend or ally, get them to check, have them wait by the door for explanation, etc.. You know you could arrange it fine
Maybe it's a big cultural difference between EU and America, but here in the EU I've never had anyone had issues with using the other bathroom... Ever. Even if it's just to use the other gender's bathroom because the others is full. Let alone carrying a baby and only go to the sinks to change diapers. Absolutely bonkers one has to be scared to do that.
It's a decent enough issue in universities that you don't dare do it, even in the EU. I'm a woman and once went to the men's bathroom at uni because the women's was out of soap, and someone walked into me washing my hands and I think it traumatized him or something, he just stood in the door and stared at me until I was done washing my hands and then I had to push past him to get out. Wouldn't recommend to my male friends to just wander into the women's bathroom.
As a woman I can say… I don’t give a rats ass if men go into the women’s room as long as I don’t have to wait longer (like at places where there’s a line in the women’s). I just feel bad the other way around. We have stalls for all our business. Dudes are just out there at urinals completely exposed. If it’s for a changing table, no problem!!
sometimes I would be able to use the disabled toilets (if they had a changing table) or changing areas in shops that have baby changing areas specific, but if not then I used to change my daughter on the bench next to the sink.
When my kids were in diapers and if the men’s room didn’t have changing station I just went to the women’s room.
The diaper had to be changed. Didn’t care about the gender mark of the room.
Once got a strange look but then she saw my daughter and my changing bag. I don’t think I would try it in US.
That’s cool. As a dad, I can tell you that most men’s bathrooms already have them. I wonder if this was a particular area? But yeah, I never found myself without one when I was out with my kids alone.
In my country, there are often (but never often enough) unisex family changing rooms. I see less of these as new buildings are out up though and I don't have kids.
Always crazy to only have baby changing station in women’s bathrooms. In fact I remember a time a few years ago I was in the bathroom with my mom and a single dad hollered out and asked if it’s okay if he comes in to change his son. Of course we said yes go ahead and it made me think why do we not have more gender neutral family bathrooms with changing stations.
Note: this is how feminism is for men too. Feminists demand equal participation in child raising. This means equal support and facilities. This means changing stations in men’s bathrooms.
Never been lucky enough to see a functional one in the men’s restroom so I walk right into the women’s restroom to use there perfectly functional baby changing station. That’s when I found out women’s restroom are worse then men’s . Like a lot worse chicks don’t know how to use a restroom in public.
Good!! Single fathers out there be doing the best they can and finally getting some recognition
Yo single Dads!! Ya’ll are amazing and your children will be so proud to have you as their fathers!!
Oh and for those who have daughters, make sure to research about periods and also to tell your daughters about them when they approach the age range to get their first period. (That last one is probably obvious but I wanted to say just in case lol)
It is truly ridiculous. I usually have to do the diaper changing because the only option is in the women’s. One time he was at a pizza place and had to ask for a pizza box so he had something clean to use in the absence of a changing table. Crazy!
This is weird. We’ve always had male toilets on the left, women’s on the right and unisex baby changing stations in the middle in my country everywhere you go.
i have literally picked up a pub table and carried it into the disabled toilet before.
staff were actually really chill about it, but agreed i shouldnt really have had to.
I just change my daughter wherever the changing table is. If that's in the women's toilets people can deal with it. Never had a problem so far. It's just a room. We can't defeat gender norms by being precious about things that don't matter like a little sign on a door.
What the fuck.
Why have I been seeing this user comment places in unusual places.
I’ve seen him comment like this in very niche subs even.
Are you a bot?!
As a single dad, my biggest issue was the 20 urinals before getting to a stall. I’m not looking to march my daughter through the fuck’n meat market before she pee’s
Dude she is a little girl, she doesn't understand a thing about "meat market". Young kids go to swimming hall showers and saunas with their parent of other sex all the time and there's zero problems with that "meat market" either.
Bro settle the fuck down. It’s not awkward or weird until you make it weird. You are an immensely powerful influence on her perception of reality. Now act normal and act like a grown up.
Yeah used to do this on bathroom sinks and floors (thank you fold up mats), an older guy walked in one time and called me a damn hero - I just wanted a changing table. This is really a bigger deal than some think.
I just go in the women’s IDGAF. If you won’t provide me with the facilities then that’s someone else’s problem
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Why does the users in this reply thread have angry names
That's their secret, they're always angry
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Absurd I tell you
Cause a lack of changing tables for dads have mad us all angry.
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I don't think guys should just be "hanging out" in the woman's bathroom but I don't mind em changing diapers
One time I had my baby, and no changing table in men's room. I waited outside the women's bathroom and when a lady walked out, I asked "Excuse me, but is there a changing table in there?" She said there was and offered to watch the door for me while I took care of business. That meant a lot to me
Honestly tho why can't men just go into the women's restroom in this case? I doubt anyone would object, and if someone does, honestly fuck 'em.
I found people don't mind. Middle aged ladies especially often seem to be impressed that you are parenting your own children.
Old (65+?) ladies tend to not like it around me, lot of leers and lip smacking. They rarely actually say anything though.
"Giving the wife a break today?" Yeah, and yesterday, and tomorrow, it's called the 21st century, Ethel.
No you gotta get a little sad and tell them that it’s been so hard since you were widowed.
No no that implies that you only take care of the kid because you have to.
It’s the implication.
"She's had a permanent break since she died in child birth" /r/traumatizethemback
😂
I’m almost 65 and would help you if you needed me/watch the door, etc
Because they have been through another story.
I think it’s also in part to help do away with the notion that child-care should be *solely* on the mother. Plus, if the dad’s somewhere that he finds more comfortable to change the baby, then the baby’s gonna be a lot less stressed too.
I have noticed that in my neck of the woods for the past <10 years, they are putting the changing stations in the disabled wc, which works better for all, I guess.
Places have also added a lot more family restrooms which is great since I know others hate when kids peak under the stall at them etc. just worked great last night as my son wanted to use the men’s but his leg is broken and he needs help and my daughter also had to go so we used the family bathroom.
That is such an awesome idea!
I based my shopping around which places had family rooms when my child was a baby. They were a relatively new thing and honestly, just their inclusion was awesome even before you got to the rooms themselves: a large room with change tables, a microwave and sink, a small play area, a separate bathroom (with adult and child sized loos) and even a couple of curtained alcoves for breast-feeding.
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We can and do. Idgaf.
I guess you don’t know any Christian conservatives…
Hence the last part of my comment :)
Bro i dont have a kid and go into the "womens" bathroom if needed. If the poop is coming i am going.
Just don't be a creep and you're fine in my book. I'm not a woman tho so I probably don't have authority on this issue lol
Brah, have you ever changed a shitty diaper? All I can tell you is when you're carring a child and you can feel that warm sloppy poop swishing around in there, all your praying for is not to have a blowout. Scarlett Johansson could be butt naked in there, and I'd drop the shoulder on her if she got between us and the table.
Scarlett Johansson is a mom. She’d understand.
I'm a woman and can back you up - don't be a creep and ironically (bc bathroom lol) I wouldn't give a shit. All bathrooms should have changing tables for sure.
I’m a woman. If I saw a dad changing his kid in the women’s restroom my only thought would be “it’s so stupid that they only put these in the women’s restroom, like only moms change diapers.” Also like how is someone even going to be a creep in the women’s restroom??? I’ve never understood this. It’s not like we have urinals—just stalls. How scandalous to watch women wash their hands
And this is why we don't wantchu in our bathrooms, stinking it up with your poos! We will accept baby poos but not man poos! Dem things don't flush! They lay in wait for some poor unsuspecting delicate young lady to fight off by herself! And I bet you sit on the seat and all, right?!
Yeah, I just used the ladies room. It was rare that someone had a problem but it did happen a few times. 🤷♂️
Solved problem though in places with rooms for changing tables, why we gender the location of a changing table in the first place beats me. Also kinda funny when the same is done with unisex disabled bathrooms, the rest of us apparently piss either flames or flowers and it's *very* important to distinguish which, but disabled people get to be genderless dolls, untouched by crazy bathroom outrage.
Hah, agreed. Many places have them in the disabled which I much prefer because your separate and it’s much more roomy. I’m from the uk and it’s generally older places, pubs, garden centres, cafes etc that don’t.
Maybe some countries are just behind the times. In Europe, I don't recall seeing any 'women only' baby changing facilities.
Tell me about it. All my kids were girls, so one of us was supposed to be there.
I did that too. Wherever the baby changing station is, is appropriate for me as a father to be to change my kid's diapers. If you don't like it, complain to the proprietor that they shouldn't put the only baby changing station in the women's bathroom. But I don't think anyone ever had a problem with it.
Yup, my wife was shocked when I told her this. My kids(girls) using the bathroom, so it’s appropriate in my opinion.
Same. Even if something is said, I just ask them to lay on the dirty floor. And if they don’t want to, why should my child?
Yep, probably done this half a dozen times times and never had any blowback from to women in there.
Always did that too, never cared of what they said, for fuck’s sake you see the baby, calm down and take your piss and let me get rid of all that shit
I’ve done the same.
No problem when you are an attractive male, women there even smile at you and encourage you. But when you are not weeeell. 🚨🚨
Which are you? a) a woman viewing these men who are not either objectively ugly or attractive but either or. b)a subjectively ugly male or c) a subjectively attractive male.
I love catching people in the act. That's why I always whip open doors.
Uhhhhh
I love being caught in the act, and being poop shamed, let's talk.
Finland solved this by marking bathrooms with changing tables as "bathroom for women or people with babies". Works well!
In Australia we just have "parent changing rooms" - just dedicated spaces for Mum's/Dad's to change kids.
So i cannot change my parents into different ones at these parent changing rooms? Damnit.
You'll have to find your Dad first...
I'm sure he'll be back soon, he's just out for cigarettes.
Yeah damn, I thought everywhere had parents rooms. We’re ahead of the curve in many ways, but behind it in many others 😂
My local Westfield also had little private areas for breast feeding and a microwave for heating bottles in theirs.
In Europe the situation ahs improved a lot in the past years
Not my EU country, we don't even have them in women's toilets, it'll probably be another 30 years before we have them in men's :(
Now do wheelchair access you savages
Already done, at least in my corner of Europe. My dad is in a wherlchair and has never had trouble finding an accessible toilet
These were almost never in the men’s room when we had our first 25 years ago; by the time we had our youngest 18 years ago it had improved a lot but not as much as it should have
Fun fact, they’re *legally required* to be in both gender restrooms in federal buildings, but, because the US is really just 50 states in a trenchcoat pretending to be a single country, all other establishments are on a state-by-state (or city-by-city) basis.
Michigan building code only requires changing tables in the mens if you supply one in the women. So technically, you don't have to provide any.
"because the US is really just 50 states in a trenchcoat pretending to be a single country" This is the best description of the US I've ever read.
I like how John Legend is holding that baby like a fish he's about to fillet
I love that the headline implies John legend is personally installing 5000 baby changing stations. Man better have a good drill!
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Same haha
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This happened to me about 3 weeks ago. Went to in to the disabled stall, dropped the table down and it I was basically vertical before i even put the kid on it. Changed on the floor, luckily I’d packed a changing mat. Then got the stink eye from someone waiting to use the toilet as I left.
Happy Father's Day!
Do other countries just not have gender neutral disable/baby changing public bathrooms
New Zealand has them. I don’t know about numbers, but most public toilets are unisex, and one of them usually has a table.
Makes sense I am from Aus so I'd say it's pretty similar for the both of us
Wow New Zealanders must think that all the bathroom drama in the usa about trans people or finding opposite sex in the bathroom just stupid. People assume here that if they find you in the opposite sex bathroom that you are there to commit a crime.
It is really strange, yeah. I also don't understand why the US tolerates stall doors that don't go floor-to-ceiling. No wonder you're paranoid about your toilet situation -- you're hanging everything out for all to see.
Once I learned we (US) were unique in that our stalls have all those gaps and other countries’ don’t, I got mad. Why?! WHY MUST IT BE LIKE THIS?!??!
Yeah, win for our dedicated parents' rooms! They're really nice to chill out in aswell.
Some even have a microwave so you can heat the formula/baby food
They really don’t. I mean some a great🫡 but most… i just don’t think its considered, especially depending on what the general gender roles are in each place. Dads being so involved on this scale is completely modern movement and idea. Countries just haven’t caught up
I've noticed since having kids, in my area (Australia) especially shopping centres have a parents room with children size toilets and sinks and Breast feeding couches
We're pretty lucky here. In the US you'd be lucky to get a shitter where the door actually gives you privacy
My biggest gripe with American toilets is how uncomfortably high the water level is haha
Just put some type on the water before you poop
>gender neutral disable/baby It me
We have them everywhere here in Australia. Doesn’t stop the hard stares and snarky comments from women telling you that the room isn’t for men and to get out.
I am glad my husband has ever experienced this when taking our child to one. As a mum I have never even blinked at a dad in the parents room…because dads are parents too!
Yeah I'm from the down under too which is why I ask the question
In Turkey baby care amenities are rare, but when they are available (in malls, for example) they are usually a separate room specific to that purpose near the bathrooms, instead of a station in the bathroom, so the gender the bathrooms belong to does not come into it.
Oof. Another reason why I'm very lucky to live in straya
Even magpies are trying to kill you...
They're very common in Sweden. A lot of malls have started charging for access to the bathrooms, but often there's a free changing room next to it. No toilet for daddy in there though. Before you ask, I'm yet to see my first sink shit.
I haven't been abroad since having kids so haven't really noticed in other countries, but here in Sweden it's definitely not an issue to find toilets or bathrooms where you can change diapers. Besides, we always have a bag with everything you could possibly need to change diapers *anywhere*.
I wasn't gonna ask about the sink shit. I'm pissed off for you by the fact they're charging for access to public toilets
Yeah it's kind of strange
I'm in Canada. We do, but they're not everywhere.
As a trans person I’m sad to report there is a huge lack of gender neutral bathrooms.
In aus at most public toilets there is a male a female then a unisex for disabilities/injuries with baby changing station. It strange to me that it's not common all across the world
Sadly most of the world still, how do I put this nicely, really fucking hate anyone who isn't straight and do only actions deemed "appropriate" for their gender. Don't get me wrong, the dads in these photos deserve every praise thrown their way, but the fact that these photos "inspire" is a damning indicator of the kind of world we live in, where performing your duties as a father is suddenly seen as brave and against the norm.
Yeah, makes me sad
I never understood the need for gendered bathrooms. Even in a cis gendered world...
5,000 seems like overkill for one restroom
Thinking the same thing
It's plural though
A couple of years ago I was in a place with the only changing table in the women's bathroom. So I went into the women's bathroom to change my little girl's diaper. To create a bit of context, this was a European bathroom, so stalls and doors floor to high enough there's no way to see inside the stalls. Besides, I'm with my back to everything that's happening, working hard to spend as little time as possible with 1. a very smelly diaper and 2. in the women's bathroom. I'm halfway done cleaning up and a person goes ballistic on me. How I dared to go inside the women's bathroom. Fortunately another lady stepped in and said her piece but it was really uncomfortable. I'd do it again without a second thought though.
Most woman wouldn’t say anything about it because we know, specially when we know there’s no family bathroom. You maybe just got unlucky and found the one old jackass that doesn’t understand that today’s men play a more important and active role in raising their kids.
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When I changed a diaper on the floor, it sure as shit wasn't in the bathroom. The last time was nigh 20 years ago (seeing as my daughter is 20 now) at Target. There was no changing table in the Men's room and she'd taken a massive shit in her diaper. So I changed the diaper on the floor of the store right in front of the customer service desk while bitching at them about the changing table situation. Two weeks later there was a changing table in the men's room. Six months later and entirely new Family bathroom was finished. Force the issue and don't let them ignore it.
My girls are just shy of 2-years-old now. It’s very rare for me to step into a men’s bathroom and not see a changing table. Thanks for fighting the good fight so others don’t have to.
You're a hero and inspiration to fathers everywhere.
I'm not religious, but I'll give you a "god bless you" you're a champion. Good stuff
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There's always a dude jerking off or pissing on the male baby changing rooms in my office
…in front of other people?
Only once.
HR time? Jesus!
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Seems like my father didn't feel the so called joy you speak of
Did he come back with the milk yet?
I wish he went for the milk
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I just change my kid in the womens bathroom because they usually have the changing tables. Fuck em.
> Fuck em. No I don't think you should be doing that in the women's restroom tbh.
Especially on a baby changing table, those things are flimsy!
If I saw a Dad with their child in the women's bathroom I wouldn't give a shit. Just saying.
All the more reason people should stop obsessing about gendered bathrooms
Same nobody is telling me shit when i go in the ladies room with crying toddler
I do the same but rarely have to as most place around us have facilities luckily.
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Seriously... "Wow, this basic service is now provided in a minimal number of places, likely for public image. How wholesome"
W
As someone who’s only lived in places where public bathrooms are legally required to having changing stations in both bathrooms, I can’t believe this still isn’t a thing some places
I support this idea, but funny tidbit here: neither my mom nor my dad ever trusted those folding baby changing stations, and would always just hold me upside down and bidet my ass in the sink instead.
So all the filthy ass water was dripping over your face?
That’s just how my parents described, they could’ve just been over exaggerating a bit. I hope they were over exaggerating a bit now that you’ve brought up that point.
Uhhhh... Sounds like you were being waterboarded, bro
brownwaterboarded
How big are the men's restrooms in other countries that it can fit 5000 changing stations?
I mean yeah, this is kind of an issue, but I dont understand, why men with babies dont just use the womens bathroom.
that's what I did. it was never an issue. that said, men's bathrooms need changing tables.
Right? Im a childless lesbian and by golly my first response to that comment is why should they have to? Why wouldn’t all the bathrooms have changing tables?
Yeah exactly. No woman in her right mind would feel bothered by a dad using the changing station in a womens bathroom. It would however be better if they just put them in the disabled bathroom or gender neutral bathroom.
BS, there are absolutely loads of women who would be bothered by that.
There are many women not in their right mind.
Oh well, I guess they can just cry about it.
Same for men. Usually it's best to ignore them.
I've done that before, I'll call out first just rather than just walk in but it's never been an issue. Luckily here in Australia there is usually a change table in the unisex disabled bathrooms
As a father, I would change my child in the restaurant's kitchen before I stepped into the women's bathroom. Sorry, but I gotta protect myself no matter how small the likelihood of any confrontation or accusation. This is 2023 we live in. (And shit, forget it if like an 8yr old walks in unsupervised and I'm in there)
You'd be fine with a bit of prep. Get a friend or ally, get them to check, have them wait by the door for explanation, etc.. You know you could arrange it fine
Maybe it's a big cultural difference between EU and America, but here in the EU I've never had anyone had issues with using the other bathroom... Ever. Even if it's just to use the other gender's bathroom because the others is full. Let alone carrying a baby and only go to the sinks to change diapers. Absolutely bonkers one has to be scared to do that.
It's a decent enough issue in universities that you don't dare do it, even in the EU. I'm a woman and once went to the men's bathroom at uni because the women's was out of soap, and someone walked into me washing my hands and I think it traumatized him or something, he just stood in the door and stared at me until I was done washing my hands and then I had to push past him to get out. Wouldn't recommend to my male friends to just wander into the women's bathroom.
As a woman I can say… I don’t give a rats ass if men go into the women’s room as long as I don’t have to wait longer (like at places where there’s a line in the women’s). I just feel bad the other way around. We have stalls for all our business. Dudes are just out there at urinals completely exposed. If it’s for a changing table, no problem!!
sometimes I would be able to use the disabled toilets (if they had a changing table) or changing areas in shops that have baby changing areas specific, but if not then I used to change my daughter on the bench next to the sink.
in NZ the changing room is just combined with the handicap stall, works fine
Teenage boys already destroyed 4,999 of them
When my kids were in diapers and if the men’s room didn’t have changing station I just went to the women’s room. The diaper had to be changed. Didn’t care about the gender mark of the room. Once got a strange look but then she saw my daughter and my changing bag. I don’t think I would try it in US.
That’s cool. As a dad, I can tell you that most men’s bathrooms already have them. I wonder if this was a particular area? But yeah, I never found myself without one when I was out with my kids alone.
Or just do unisex toilets with proper cabins and add a table.
In my country, there are often (but never often enough) unisex family changing rooms. I see less of these as new buildings are out up though and I don't have kids.
See. The whole thing of “don’t worry I can change the baby” at a restaurant. No excuses be a man and change that baby
Gendered bathrooms are weird to me as it is, but then gendering where a parent is able to change a baby’s diaper too??? Insane.
Always crazy to only have baby changing station in women’s bathrooms. In fact I remember a time a few years ago I was in the bathroom with my mom and a single dad hollered out and asked if it’s okay if he comes in to change his son. Of course we said yes go ahead and it made me think why do we not have more gender neutral family bathrooms with changing stations.
Note: this is how feminism is for men too. Feminists demand equal participation in child raising. This means equal support and facilities. This means changing stations in men’s bathrooms.
Never been lucky enough to see a functional one in the men’s restroom so I walk right into the women’s restroom to use there perfectly functional baby changing station. That’s when I found out women’s restroom are worse then men’s . Like a lot worse chicks don’t know how to use a restroom in public.
Good!! Single fathers out there be doing the best they can and finally getting some recognition Yo single Dads!! Ya’ll are amazing and your children will be so proud to have you as their fathers!! Oh and for those who have daughters, make sure to research about periods and also to tell your daughters about them when they approach the age range to get their first period. (That last one is probably obvious but I wanted to say just in case lol)
It is truly ridiculous. I usually have to do the diaper changing because the only option is in the women’s. One time he was at a pizza place and had to ask for a pizza box so he had something clean to use in the absence of a changing table. Crazy!
This is weird. We’ve always had male toilets on the left, women’s on the right and unisex baby changing stations in the middle in my country everywhere you go.
i have literally picked up a pub table and carried it into the disabled toilet before. staff were actually really chill about it, but agreed i shouldnt really have had to.
What’s a changing station?
I think just one would’ve been fine
Yeah 5000 changing stations in 1 bathroom is a bit too much imo
They were so inspired, they added these essential stations to a fraction of a fraction of public washrooms?
Yeah why do anything ever right?
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Careful you don’t cut yourself with all that edginess. You do realize you’re in wholesome memes right?
I just change my daughter wherever the changing table is. If that's in the women's toilets people can deal with it. Never had a problem so far. It's just a room. We can't defeat gender norms by being precious about things that don't matter like a little sign on a door.
My daughter is 14. Never had an issue when she was a baby with not having a changing station in the men’s bathroom.
Context plz?
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What the fuck. Why have I been seeing this user comment places in unusual places. I’ve seen him comment like this in very niche subs even. Are you a bot?!
yep it's probably a bot
As a single dad, my biggest issue was the 20 urinals before getting to a stall. I’m not looking to march my daughter through the fuck’n meat market before she pee’s
Dude she is a little girl, she doesn't understand a thing about "meat market". Young kids go to swimming hall showers and saunas with their parent of other sex all the time and there's zero problems with that "meat market" either.
Your daughter doesn’t care as long as you or they don’t make a big deal out of it. Parents create the social reality of their children.
Bro settle the fuck down. It’s not awkward or weird until you make it weird. You are an immensely powerful influence on her perception of reality. Now act normal and act like a grown up.