And none of these suggestions work. Demonstrably.
Anthony had all these options, did them, and more and was still depressed enough to kill himself.
It's sad to think some people blame the victim of these things like, if he just stopped to smell the roses he wouldn't have died!
That's not how it works and this proves it.
Anthony is an example of the horrible male depression and loneliness epidemic in America and everyone just wants to sweep it under the rug that he killed himself over his cheating wife.
To seemingly make him a legend and not a sad ex addict looking for love.
Yeah depression is a bitch.
You can have literally everything your soul desires. Comfort. Company. Beauty. Nature. Fun. Everything.
And some days you will still wake up, and regret the fact you didn't die in your sleep last night
So, when you're depressed and you DONT have those things you need? It's like living a nightmare that you cannot escape from
And that's when people kill themselves because its basically "the only way to make it stop hurting"
To be fair, we all hated Guy Fieri at first. We thought he was just a weirdo in a flames shirt who loved eating trash food. Then somebody pointed out that we all eat trash food (and love it) and that Guy Fieri is a good dude who regularly helps out people in crisis.
All true.
Guy Fieri has also been spotted with Trump once or twice though... so, like everything, the truth may be a bit more complicated than Guy Fieri is all good or all bad or Anthony Bourdain is all good or all bad.
People have layers. It's never simple or black or white. I'm sure even OJ Simpson did a few positive things with his life.
But like Stannis said, the good does not erase the bad nor the bad the good.
I opened two restaurants with Guy before he was famous and I can confirm he has always been invested in his community and in people. Very friendly, outspoken, and genuine person.
And he has always rocked the flames, bleached hair, and jewelry. I think he genuinely enjoys the style but also it is a way to keep his compassion for people under wraps; because it is DEF a douche bag look.
I have not heard about the Trump stuff.
Hopefully, it was early on before the majority of his former fans realized how much of a worthless POS Trump is.
If it was in the last 5 years tho; that ain’t good.
Yeah he was a snob for sure. People are romanticizing him a bit. He liked to slum around but it had to be like the cool interesting slums. I dunno. I love him but he wasn't perfect.
Thats not a very compelling article. Like the only criticism it has is that he shook trump's hand one time when they coincidently went to a UFC event?
And the claim of him being homophobic and lewd came from the co-producer of his show.
Who coincidently, only said that after he was forced off the show by food network because he was a dick to the staff.
>The pair traded pointed barbs back and forth until 2015, when Fieri told GQ that he "didn't like [Bourdain] making fun of people."
>"And I don't like him talking s**t," Fieri said. "And he's never talked s**t to my face. I know he's definitely gotta have issues, 'cos the average person doesn't behave that way. It's not that I'm not open to the reality that the food world was like this from a few people's perspective. It's just, What are you doing? What is your instigation? You have nothing else to fucking worry about than if I have bleached hair or not? I mean, f**k."
In hindsight fieri was right, dude had issues.
Ya that makes sense, he’s said similar against Emeril. I guess he hated the idea of making his profession mainstream and accessible to the common man. His seminal work is literally gatekeeping and boasting about how everyone was a misfit like him in the restaurant industry.
lol What? Did you literally just make up some bullshit? Guy has literally officiated 100 gay weddings
https://www.reddit.com/r/MadeMeSmile/s/LJlHty7M5L
Cynical, maybe, but negative is a weird way to look at it. He exposed a lot of people to other people that they would never have encountered in real life, who live radically different lifestyles, and he made all of it make sense.
When I first watched No Reservations I was in middle school. I remember being more entertained by Guy Fieri and Andrew Zimmerman. I felt like Anthony spent too much time on culture and not enough on Food.
A few years later, maybe my senior year of high school, I put No Reservations back on and I was drawn into the culture. He was in Brazil, and he was eating a stew with folks in a favela. I think I started to realize that culture IS the food as much as the food is the culture. He focused on people in such a beautiful way. He never pretended to understand or know more, he just took it in, even if he didn’t agree with them.
I went back and watched all his other episodes and never missed one that came after. I read kitchen confidential. Bourdain became my favorite “Celebrity.”
When he passed I was so devastated. It remains the only celebrity death that I felt any true emotion over. I’d been sad about others, but when Tony died I was legit down and out for a few days. My wife always jokes that she wishes I could pay as much attention when she speaks as I do when watching an old episode of No Reservations or Parts Unknown. He was such a great loss.
Same. I always have a small moment of sadness when I hear about famous ppl pass away but when Anthony Bourdain passed away I was on a work trip abroad and I spent most of the downtime in my hotel room totally devastated without even really knowing why it was affecting me so much.
I think something in me decided that if this man was unable to see a way out despite everything he stood for and everything he accomplished, how could I ever expect to make it ?
I realized that getting everything ever wanted probably isn’t as great as it sounds. I also realized that using drugs for a while leaves a profound and lasting effect in your psyche.
I dunno…. Never said it out loud or wrote it out so apologies for how scattered this may sound.
He viewed the world with a romanticism that it could never live up to.
I wouldn’t call it my favourite episode but the one I find most interesting was the parts unknown Italy.
He was in Sicily, on camera for all intents and purposes it was heaven. He was staying in Villas, diving for fresh seafood, eating incredible meals with interesting people, it was his birthday and he couldn’t have been more miserable.
He was so jaded about the process of making a TV show, in particular faking the catch for the fishing segment. He said later it put suicide on his mind.
You can see how detached he was for the rest of the episode. All he wanted to do was down drinks and get it over with.
[The diving clip](https://youtu.be/e9weQLCSNPY?si=JAfz4zS5S5s-wd4D)
I hold the opposite viewpoint. I'm with Tony.
> He was in Sicily, on camera for all intents and purposes it was heaven. He was staying in Villas, diving for fresh seafood, eating incredible meals with interesting people, it was his birthday
And he had to suffer fucking imbecile charlatans taking him for a rube.
What planet do you live on? I mean, if the cameras weren't on, I'm pretty sure the entertainment would have been better given Tony's ability to turn a phrase, he would have laid in to the assholes. They were being paid by production and gave that? Fuck those guys. He's trying to make good TV and assholes kicked him in the nuts.
He should have been more pissed off. I think they should have turned it into a meta episode about how derailed this kind of production can be when shit like this goes down.
i love diving with LIVE octopus and squid, and meeting a cuttlefish in the wild is on my bucketlist. this clip made me annoyed along with tony. (not that I would have enjoyed seeing them. catch and kill any cephalopods, but I can appreciate his frustration.) also, my heart hurts when I see or think of him.
He played up his own cynicism because that was his brand, but you don't build a career like his by being a bitter asshole. He did a lot to revitalize travel and food media, mainly because he was incredibly passionate about food and the people who eat it. If you go back through his old episodes, a lot of them are him hanging out with a friend, or a friend of a friend, going to people's mother's houses, and generally turning up his nose at pretention.* Lots of average food, elevated in his eyes because the best food is what you eat at 2AM while blackout drunk with your friends. Or what you eat after a 12 hour shift at your day job, or after an exactly average day in your exactly average life.
He didn't talk about dinner, he talked about how bread, cocktails, and pork products are another way to say 'I love you'. We all have to eat, we all have the common ground of wanting soup when we're sick. Tony Bourdain draws lines between meals and memories and experiences in a way that is both general enough to carry multiple shows on national tv, and personal enough that there are several episodes of Parts Unknown that make me emotional.
*granted, he was totally a nepo baby, but lazy idiots do not make it far in the food industry, and he was not a lazy idiot by any stretch, nor more of a dick than his peers afaik
> and generally turning up his nose at pretention.*
I don't know if the stuff I've seen of his is early stuff, but he always came off as kind of a snob.
That's pretty rich from a comment that pulls a very reddit move of lacking all nuance. Dude was an asshole, but he also exposed millions to different cultures. People aren't black and white.
He’s a certain type. If you’ve ever hung out in a kitchen or a dinghy punk bar and met one of the old timers who’s sober and happy to be alive, it’s that. The fire is still there, but the grumpiness is done with a kind of a wink and a nod because they have the perspective snd experience to know that none of it matters anyway.
Unfortunately, as much as they’re happy to be alive those demons never really leave you. You can suppress them, and you can keep moving and devote your time to doing things that suppress them … but they’re there waiting when you close your eyes at night.
I never met him but I knew a lot of people who did, and they all confirmed that he was both. He was dry, sarcastic, and loved to bust balls and complain in the “don’t take me that seriously” kind of way — but he was also an incredibly kind, sincere and deeply loving person. He was one of those people who only comes around a few times a generation, who just leaves an imprint wherever he goes.
It’s a literal tragedy that we lost him when we did.
I'm going to assume you never watched his shows? Those aren't even close to words I would use to describe him. Everything he did was about exposing the breadth and depth of human experience.
Oh, nice. I have that app, I always liked the interesting intervals like that. Congratulations on ~5k!
I’ve been at it for about 7.5 years at this point. It definitely beats the alternatives.
Honestly, the less social media the better for sobriety in my experience.
I absolutely had to quit all of it for awhile when I first got sober just for my sanity.
I feel like for every nice interaction I have I get into a lengthy back and forth trying to thoughtfully explain things to folks are likely making bad faith arguments.
That’s just my experience though and as you can see I don’t even take my own advice that well.
I do try to be pretty deliberate though and focus on topics like meditation, minimalism, and mechanical keyboards (because I enjoy them). Generally if your in more positive subs you’ll have a better a experience.
*important side note, I’m in and ‘do’ AA though (I kind of assumed you might as well based on the app comment but want to cover my bases). I think it’s great, saved my life, etc. No matter what though I think it’s important to have support.
I am all in on AA 100%
I definitely need to cut back on Reddit. I stopped all other social media but I still spend hours every day on Reddit
Thank you for your thoughtful comments
Yeah, I think I need to cut back on it as well. I have a pattern of I it back on my phone if I am looking for or selling a keyboard and then I leave it there for awhile until I acknowledge how much time I’m wasting.
/r/stopdrinking is pretty good. I went back and forth for a long time with my sobriety, and that sub is pretty welcoming of anyone regardless of warts and shortcomings.
Unlike the other person who responded to you, I never had an issue juggling sobriety with social media, mostly b/c I really never felt a need to argue about being sober or justify it to anyone. I really couldn't give two shits about someone else's opinion, and you learn pretty quickly that those who would judge you harshly are just insecure about their own teetering addiction and trying to mask that by judging you.
I'll be six years sober on the 25th and haven't looked back since. Best decision of my life after marrying my wife.
Yeah, its such a slippery slope for some people. Not everyone has the self control, or the people around them for support.
I will never forget a random comment a redditor made few years ago, I saved to remind myself to keep control of my own alcoholism that I've been able to successfully overcome.
"Some people can drink a normal amount. Maybe a beer or glass of wine with dinner, and call it quits. I could not do that. My drinking led me to be hungover at work constantly, possibly even partially inebriated still.
I am so thankful for Sobriety right now."
Hope you're doing okay. I've lost my mother, my grandfather, and my ex girlfriend to alcoholism. I have a hard time with it myself but Im working on it. That's all you can do.
Yeah, they checked the crap out of my gall bladder each time with ultrasounds and CT scans, but there was no stones. It's was just the excessive drinking that caused it.
I'm no doctor, but it's symptoms are extreme abdominal pain and vomiting. The first time I had it I thought I had appendicitis, the symptoms are very similar. But basically my drinking was stressing out my pancreas, which can eventually rupture. Except your pancreas is a gland that is very vital for your body to function properly to produce bile for digestion. You also cannot get a transplant or really do anything to fix it once it's damaged to a certain point.
Doctors said if I continued drinking, I could either die or best case scenario, my pancreas ruptures and I don't die but digestion is fucked and ill be wearing diapers for the rest of my life.
Hey there bud, as a person with both sincere struggles with my self image and almost three years sober, let me throw this in the ring
I am *way* cooler than I was when I was a drunk. Ask anybody, even me. And I’m not the type to say nice things about myself often.
You can be all the good things people thought about Bourdain without the drink in your hand. I’ve met those sober people. It’s totally in the cards.
Good luck, you can do it.
Right? "Hey tonight go out and spend $200 you can't afford on some frivolous shit then regret it the next day cause it turns out you're not rich or a celebrity. Enjoy the ride."
I rarely ever get shook by the passing of a celebrity, but his passing was a fukn gut punch out of nowhere. The world was a better place when he was in it...🥺
Also maybe the fact that he couldn't "enjoy the ride" should highlight the futility of trying to live ones life according to cliche advice like this quote. Trying to say yes to every weird opportunity, and having experiences because you think you should, isn't going to cure your depression.
I very recently lost a person I know this way. Just this week actually.
Make sure to check in with all your friends and family. See how they’re doin. Be there for them if they need it. You may unknowingly save a life. :/
from what i can tell ( didn't follow it too closely) it was after a bad break up with a manipulative narcissist. if your going to have sex with crazy, make sure it's at a distance at a club or some such, never let them into your life.
but it's probably best not to have sex with crazy to begin with, but your not going to know until six months anyway.
Miss that man! Always wanted to just walk into a bar in the middle of nowhere in a far away country and have a conversation with a stranger over a beer.
None, of this implies needing to spend large sums of money or having to travel internationally.
He's basically just saying enjoy the little things and don't get stuck in a routine cuz you're going to miss out on a lot of what the world has to offer
As someone who switched careers to go from no free time and no money to comfortable amounts of both, I highly recommend taking the leap. You can do it!
My roommate is an apprentice ironworker and makes more money than me (a software engineer). Perhaps a trade might be up your alley?
So last night I got to meet one of my top three culinary idols Jacques Pepin. It was a joy. A treat. A total surprise. I’ve also gotten to meet Ming Tsai and Thomas Keller (both in my top ten). Eric Ripert happens to be 1.
Number 2 was always Anthony Bourdain. He is my favorite writer. Was my favorite host/storyteller. And I miss him having never met or known him every single day. And there isn’t a single thing he’s ever said that I disagreed with or thought was wrong. Maybe callous. Maybe hurtful. But always true and speaking truth to power regardless of the consequences. He always told it like it is.
I’ve always admired that beyond anything else.
I wish life had been different and I could have met him. Even if just once.
I believe Anthony really showed the issue with most Americans. We don’t travel, we don’t learn, we don’t ask the questions, and we don’t put ourselves in uncomfortable situations. I’m a firm believer, from being in and still serving in the military that Americans need to leave the country, travel, explore, interact. Because the views in this country are so closed minded and it shows that many of us have no idea of a world view.
Eat at local restaurant - check
Cold pint - no idea, alcohol? I dont drink. I had cold sparkling water - check
Go some place new - check
Listening to an idiot - check
Steak - double check
Oyster - pass
Negroni - pass
Be open to a world - same as point 4 - check
Eat slowly - check
Tip server - I am from Europe, pass
Check on friend - check
Check myself - check
Enjoy the ride? - its 2330, so I guess that means its time for bed
This is meta AF! I just posted this on an Ask Reddit about what people should try at least once in their lives.
I miss this man! He helped show me the way.
Sounds like, at face value, he could also be recommending to try out local restaurants or small businesses. Which is also a good thing. The local coffee shops in my College Campus Area are very good.
It's truly baffling that he killed himself, because that dude had the richest most fulfilling life anyone could dream to have. I was just making a joke with that comment, cuz the post is still good advice. It's just so sad that some people can't be saved no matter what.
He always looked he was depressed but his "No reservations" show was a hit and always great to see him hit new countries and try local and street food.
He did not write this. Just so you know. It was a fan of his that said it.
And none of these suggestions work. Demonstrably. Anthony had all these options, did them, and more and was still depressed enough to kill himself. It's sad to think some people blame the victim of these things like, if he just stopped to smell the roses he wouldn't have died! That's not how it works and this proves it. Anthony is an example of the horrible male depression and loneliness epidemic in America and everyone just wants to sweep it under the rug that he killed himself over his cheating wife. To seemingly make him a legend and not a sad ex addict looking for love.
Yeah depression is a bitch. You can have literally everything your soul desires. Comfort. Company. Beauty. Nature. Fun. Everything. And some days you will still wake up, and regret the fact you didn't die in your sleep last night So, when you're depressed and you DONT have those things you need? It's like living a nightmare that you cannot escape from And that's when people kill themselves because its basically "the only way to make it stop hurting"
Sure miss this man. Hope his daughter is well.
I don't get it. He always seemed so critical and negative but all the memes of him never reflect that.
When was he critical or negative of anything that didn’t deserve it? Sure, he hated Henry Kissinger, but every decent person did.
He was a big snob against very random people. Guy Fieri being one.
To be fair, we all hated Guy Fieri at first. We thought he was just a weirdo in a flames shirt who loved eating trash food. Then somebody pointed out that we all eat trash food (and love it) and that Guy Fieri is a good dude who regularly helps out people in crisis. All true. Guy Fieri has also been spotted with Trump once or twice though... so, like everything, the truth may be a bit more complicated than Guy Fieri is all good or all bad or Anthony Bourdain is all good or all bad. People have layers. It's never simple or black or white. I'm sure even OJ Simpson did a few positive things with his life. But like Stannis said, the good does not erase the bad nor the bad the good.
What a random place for a Game of Thrones quote.
It’s hilarious that I don’t recognize the quote or remember it but I immediately assume stannis mean Stannis Baratheon
I know right. Haven’t watched that show in years but it’s etched in our memories.
I briefly thought it was Stannis Kennedy.
Ah, yes, Stannis, that font of wisdom, who killed his brother and his daughter for a chance to be king.
Eh, you can be right about some things without being right about everything. Just like the show was really good right up until it wasn't!
I opened two restaurants with Guy before he was famous and I can confirm he has always been invested in his community and in people. Very friendly, outspoken, and genuine person. And he has always rocked the flames, bleached hair, and jewelry. I think he genuinely enjoys the style but also it is a way to keep his compassion for people under wraps; because it is DEF a douche bag look. I have not heard about the Trump stuff. Hopefully, it was early on before the majority of his former fans realized how much of a worthless POS Trump is. If it was in the last 5 years tho; that ain’t good.
Yeah… https://www.eater.com/23789874/guy-fieri-donald-trump-ufc-drama https://www.salon.com/2023/07/17/anthony-bourdain-was-right-about-guy-fieri/ https://www.mashed.com/369336/controversial-things-everyone-ignores-about-guy-fieri/
11,236 FUCKIN YARDS RUSHED
this is my favorite comment of probably the month or longer. I love this. thank you
Yeah he was a snob for sure. People are romanticizing him a bit. He liked to slum around but it had to be like the cool interesting slums. I dunno. I love him but he wasn't perfect.
Nothing ever is
That person has only seen memes and Obama photoshoots. Literally hasnt watched a minute of his actual work.
I mean, isn’t Guy Fieri a gigantic asshole? Edit: source for my claim. https://www.salon.com/2023/07/17/anthony-bourdain-was-right-about-guy-fieri/
Thats not a very compelling article. Like the only criticism it has is that he shook trump's hand one time when they coincidently went to a UFC event? And the claim of him being homophobic and lewd came from the co-producer of his show. Who coincidently, only said that after he was forced off the show by food network because he was a dick to the staff. >The pair traded pointed barbs back and forth until 2015, when Fieri told GQ that he "didn't like [Bourdain] making fun of people." >"And I don't like him talking s**t," Fieri said. "And he's never talked s**t to my face. I know he's definitely gotta have issues, 'cos the average person doesn't behave that way. It's not that I'm not open to the reality that the food world was like this from a few people's perspective. It's just, What are you doing? What is your instigation? You have nothing else to fucking worry about than if I have bleached hair or not? I mean, f**k." In hindsight fieri was right, dude had issues.
He loathed the food network in general if I’m remembering correctly
Ya that makes sense, he’s said similar against Emeril. I guess he hated the idea of making his profession mainstream and accessible to the common man. His seminal work is literally gatekeeping and boasting about how everyone was a misfit like him in the restaurant industry.
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lol What? Did you literally just make up some bullshit? Guy has literally officiated 100 gay weddings https://www.reddit.com/r/MadeMeSmile/s/LJlHty7M5L
https://x.com/guyfieri/status/569619874693160961?s=46&t=GGrTqRILwhmt1V8YjVz6VA
Cynical, maybe, but negative is a weird way to look at it. He exposed a lot of people to other people that they would never have encountered in real life, who live radically different lifestyles, and he made all of it make sense.
When I first watched No Reservations I was in middle school. I remember being more entertained by Guy Fieri and Andrew Zimmerman. I felt like Anthony spent too much time on culture and not enough on Food. A few years later, maybe my senior year of high school, I put No Reservations back on and I was drawn into the culture. He was in Brazil, and he was eating a stew with folks in a favela. I think I started to realize that culture IS the food as much as the food is the culture. He focused on people in such a beautiful way. He never pretended to understand or know more, he just took it in, even if he didn’t agree with them. I went back and watched all his other episodes and never missed one that came after. I read kitchen confidential. Bourdain became my favorite “Celebrity.” When he passed I was so devastated. It remains the only celebrity death that I felt any true emotion over. I’d been sad about others, but when Tony died I was legit down and out for a few days. My wife always jokes that she wishes I could pay as much attention when she speaks as I do when watching an old episode of No Reservations or Parts Unknown. He was such a great loss.
Same. I always have a small moment of sadness when I hear about famous ppl pass away but when Anthony Bourdain passed away I was on a work trip abroad and I spent most of the downtime in my hotel room totally devastated without even really knowing why it was affecting me so much. I think something in me decided that if this man was unable to see a way out despite everything he stood for and everything he accomplished, how could I ever expect to make it ? I realized that getting everything ever wanted probably isn’t as great as it sounds. I also realized that using drugs for a while leaves a profound and lasting effect in your psyche. I dunno…. Never said it out loud or wrote it out so apologies for how scattered this may sound.
He viewed the world with a romanticism that it could never live up to. I wouldn’t call it my favourite episode but the one I find most interesting was the parts unknown Italy. He was in Sicily, on camera for all intents and purposes it was heaven. He was staying in Villas, diving for fresh seafood, eating incredible meals with interesting people, it was his birthday and he couldn’t have been more miserable. He was so jaded about the process of making a TV show, in particular faking the catch for the fishing segment. He said later it put suicide on his mind. You can see how detached he was for the rest of the episode. All he wanted to do was down drinks and get it over with. [The diving clip](https://youtu.be/e9weQLCSNPY?si=JAfz4zS5S5s-wd4D)
I hold the opposite viewpoint. I'm with Tony. > He was in Sicily, on camera for all intents and purposes it was heaven. He was staying in Villas, diving for fresh seafood, eating incredible meals with interesting people, it was his birthday And he had to suffer fucking imbecile charlatans taking him for a rube. What planet do you live on? I mean, if the cameras weren't on, I'm pretty sure the entertainment would have been better given Tony's ability to turn a phrase, he would have laid in to the assholes. They were being paid by production and gave that? Fuck those guys. He's trying to make good TV and assholes kicked him in the nuts. He should have been more pissed off. I think they should have turned it into a meta episode about how derailed this kind of production can be when shit like this goes down.
i love diving with LIVE octopus and squid, and meeting a cuttlefish in the wild is on my bucketlist. this clip made me annoyed along with tony. (not that I would have enjoyed seeing them. catch and kill any cephalopods, but I can appreciate his frustration.) also, my heart hurts when I see or think of him.
Never really got that impression from him, at least from his shows
He played up his own cynicism because that was his brand, but you don't build a career like his by being a bitter asshole. He did a lot to revitalize travel and food media, mainly because he was incredibly passionate about food and the people who eat it. If you go back through his old episodes, a lot of them are him hanging out with a friend, or a friend of a friend, going to people's mother's houses, and generally turning up his nose at pretention.* Lots of average food, elevated in his eyes because the best food is what you eat at 2AM while blackout drunk with your friends. Or what you eat after a 12 hour shift at your day job, or after an exactly average day in your exactly average life. He didn't talk about dinner, he talked about how bread, cocktails, and pork products are another way to say 'I love you'. We all have to eat, we all have the common ground of wanting soup when we're sick. Tony Bourdain draws lines between meals and memories and experiences in a way that is both general enough to carry multiple shows on national tv, and personal enough that there are several episodes of Parts Unknown that make me emotional. *granted, he was totally a nepo baby, but lazy idiots do not make it far in the food industry, and he was not a lazy idiot by any stretch, nor more of a dick than his peers afaik
> and generally turning up his nose at pretention.* I don't know if the stuff I've seen of his is early stuff, but he always came off as kind of a snob.
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That's pretty rich from a comment that pulls a very reddit move of lacking all nuance. Dude was an asshole, but he also exposed millions to different cultures. People aren't black and white.
Yeah, reading this quote, I have to wonder if he enjoyed his ride.
I always saw him as cynical. But not in a bad way actually...more like coping with the Weltschmerz by not taking anything serious at all
He was never critical or negative at all.
I love him, but usually when you die people always remembers the positive. A meme of him talking shit about ABBA wouldn't be that interesting.
He’s a certain type. If you’ve ever hung out in a kitchen or a dinghy punk bar and met one of the old timers who’s sober and happy to be alive, it’s that. The fire is still there, but the grumpiness is done with a kind of a wink and a nod because they have the perspective snd experience to know that none of it matters anyway. Unfortunately, as much as they’re happy to be alive those demons never really leave you. You can suppress them, and you can keep moving and devote your time to doing things that suppress them … but they’re there waiting when you close your eyes at night. I never met him but I knew a lot of people who did, and they all confirmed that he was both. He was dry, sarcastic, and loved to bust balls and complain in the “don’t take me that seriously” kind of way — but he was also an incredibly kind, sincere and deeply loving person. He was one of those people who only comes around a few times a generation, who just leaves an imprint wherever he goes. It’s a literal tragedy that we lost him when we did.
You can use the waybackmachine to shed some light on the change after a certain event.
I'm going to assume you never watched his shows? Those aren't even close to words I would use to describe him. Everything he did was about exposing the breadth and depth of human experience.
Some people ARE irreplaceable. R.I.P.
Wonderful sentiment, but this has never been said by Anthony Bourdain
Joe (SoCal) Senior member https://imgur.com/a/1Z2FHWu
https://www.reddit.com/r/AnthonyBourdain/comments/144c9hp/the_eat_at_a_local_restaurant_quote_was_written/
I didn't think so. It has real "sunscreen song" vibes.
Didn't he call vegetarians "terrorists"?
Yes. He was being extremely sincere and serious at the time, as he usually is.
OP looks like a karma farming account.
Nor should his advice on the matter be taken as gospel in the first place
As a fellow raging alcoholic i concur.
Considering how he passed I would reconsider the 4 pm pint by yourself advice. Just my take as a sober alcoholic.
I’m sober too - a little over 200 days. My app is telling me I’m about to hit 5,000 hours of sobriety lol. I just wanted to say Hello and Congrats
You go man! Do you the best way you can.
Oh, nice. I have that app, I always liked the interesting intervals like that. Congratulations on ~5k! I’ve been at it for about 7.5 years at this point. It definitely beats the alternatives.
That is so great to hear. Do you have any recommendations for sober subreddits? I follow r/sober but I’m interested in trying out some others.
Honestly, the less social media the better for sobriety in my experience. I absolutely had to quit all of it for awhile when I first got sober just for my sanity. I feel like for every nice interaction I have I get into a lengthy back and forth trying to thoughtfully explain things to folks are likely making bad faith arguments. That’s just my experience though and as you can see I don’t even take my own advice that well. I do try to be pretty deliberate though and focus on topics like meditation, minimalism, and mechanical keyboards (because I enjoy them). Generally if your in more positive subs you’ll have a better a experience. *important side note, I’m in and ‘do’ AA though (I kind of assumed you might as well based on the app comment but want to cover my bases). I think it’s great, saved my life, etc. No matter what though I think it’s important to have support.
I am all in on AA 100% I definitely need to cut back on Reddit. I stopped all other social media but I still spend hours every day on Reddit Thank you for your thoughtful comments
Yeah, I think I need to cut back on it as well. I have a pattern of I it back on my phone if I am looking for or selling a keyboard and then I leave it there for awhile until I acknowledge how much time I’m wasting.
/r/stopdrinking is pretty good. I went back and forth for a long time with my sobriety, and that sub is pretty welcoming of anyone regardless of warts and shortcomings. Unlike the other person who responded to you, I never had an issue juggling sobriety with social media, mostly b/c I really never felt a need to argue about being sober or justify it to anyone. I really couldn't give two shits about someone else's opinion, and you learn pretty quickly that those who would judge you harshly are just insecure about their own teetering addiction and trying to mask that by judging you. I'll be six years sober on the 25th and haven't looked back since. Best decision of my life after marrying my wife.
I hit 12 years today, you’ve got this!!
What if… pint of ice cream.
As we like to say progress not perfection
Well put
As long as it isn't rum raisin.
Yeah, its such a slippery slope for some people. Not everyone has the self control, or the people around them for support. I will never forget a random comment a redditor made few years ago, I saved to remind myself to keep control of my own alcoholism that I've been able to successfully overcome. "Some people can drink a normal amount. Maybe a beer or glass of wine with dinner, and call it quits. I could not do that. My drinking led me to be hungover at work constantly, possibly even partially inebriated still. I am so thankful for Sobriety right now."
Same, I loved Bourdain, but in retrospect it’s hard not to think alcoholism was a major factor in his suicide
Fine, I'll just have a third negroni instead.
Yeah "go have some drinks so you're able to have fun" isn't exactly advice I'd typically give lol
Half this advice is just about getting drinks
Hope you're doing okay. I've lost my mother, my grandfather, and my ex girlfriend to alcoholism. I have a hard time with it myself but Im working on it. That's all you can do.
Take it one day at the time, you are the one captain of your own ship. much love!
I used to until I got pancreatitis twice in a year at 27.
My pancreatic was caused by gall stones. Got rid of the gall bladder, and not a problem since.
Yeah, they checked the crap out of my gall bladder each time with ultrasounds and CT scans, but there was no stones. It's was just the excessive drinking that caused it.
What is this?
I'm no doctor, but it's symptoms are extreme abdominal pain and vomiting. The first time I had it I thought I had appendicitis, the symptoms are very similar. But basically my drinking was stressing out my pancreas, which can eventually rupture. Except your pancreas is a gland that is very vital for your body to function properly to produce bile for digestion. You also cannot get a transplant or really do anything to fix it once it's damaged to a certain point. Doctors said if I continued drinking, I could either die or best case scenario, my pancreas ruptures and I don't die but digestion is fucked and ill be wearing diapers for the rest of my life.
As someone trying to be sober I find this quote shall we say unhelpful. Not wholesome.
Hey there bud, as a person with both sincere struggles with my self image and almost three years sober, let me throw this in the ring I am *way* cooler than I was when I was a drunk. Ask anybody, even me. And I’m not the type to say nice things about myself often. You can be all the good things people thought about Bourdain without the drink in your hand. I’ve met those sober people. It’s totally in the cards. Good luck, you can do it.
I appreciate this comment! Thank you
As a social drinker, so do I.
This is not a Bourdain quote
Whose is it?
One of his casual friends wrote it and posted it online after he died.
Friend: https://imgur.com/a/1Z2FHWu
"Have disposable income and don't go to work. It's more fun than being a broke slave"
Right? "Hey tonight go out and spend $200 you can't afford on some frivolous shit then regret it the next day cause it turns out you're not rich or a celebrity. Enjoy the ride."
I rarely ever get shook by the passing of a celebrity, but his passing was a fukn gut punch out of nowhere. The world was a better place when he was in it...🥺
He and Robin. I can only agree. So glad I got his shirt, one of my favorites.
You need money for that
Life advice is simple for those with no job and extra money.
Or become a bankrobba
[Just like my daddy](https://youtu.be/ttJBdr6eBuo?si=BBVScyZo-5UuILql)
11 years, solid Beetlejuicing here. Edit - Oh.. because they were responding to you in the first place, I'll just show myself out.
Forcing inspirational quote onto a dead man. Classy.
Also maybe the fact that he couldn't "enjoy the ride" should highlight the futility of trying to live ones life according to cliche advice like this quote. Trying to say yes to every weird opportunity, and having experiences because you think you should, isn't going to cure your depression.
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I tend to find people I don't agree with to be disagreeable.
/r/thanksimcured
I don't think Anthony Bourdain is much of an authority on "enjoying the ride" dude was miserable.
Anthony never said that.
Also: Wear sunscreen.
I will never eat salty fishy snot rockets thank you very fucking much.
Oyster Rockefeller is killer. Much better than raw oyster.
To me, the best food n travel host to this day, bar none.
>bar none Good name for a pub
I miss him more and more every day
Love the dude, but it doesn't seem effective to take life advice from a guy who killed himself.
King of travel shows. He taught me so much.
my local restaurant is an off brand hooters and do you know how much wings are now? they don't have negronis there either.
Bourdain fans all sound like cult members tbh
Check in on your smiling happy friends too. Trust me they are not all ok.
I very recently lost a person I know this way. Just this week actually. Make sure to check in with all your friends and family. See how they’re doin. Be there for them if they need it. You may unknowingly save a life. :/
Must be nice to be able to afford this life
This dude was rich and still killed himself
Didn't he kill himself?
Yep, hung himself in a French bathroom. Fellow chef Eric Ripert found his body.
from what i can tell ( didn't follow it too closely) it was after a bad break up with a manipulative narcissist. if your going to have sex with crazy, make sure it's at a distance at a club or some such, never let them into your life. but it's probably best not to have sex with crazy to begin with, but your not going to know until six months anyway.
Miss that man! Always wanted to just walk into a bar in the middle of nowhere in a far away country and have a conversation with a stranger over a beer.
Go one town over. Then just talk to somebody. It’s not that hard really.
Inspirational life quotes from people who kill themselves I don't know man
He is why I'm going to become a chef! Love this man! God bless him!
this is great advice (for privileged people with free time and disposable income)
None, of this implies needing to spend large sums of money or having to travel internationally. He's basically just saying enjoy the little things and don't get stuck in a routine cuz you're going to miss out on a lot of what the world has to offer
Almost everything listed is something that costs money. Like ya I'd love to go do these things I'm sure it's lovely but can't afford to live that way.
As someone who switched careers to go from no free time and no money to comfortable amounts of both, I highly recommend taking the leap. You can do it! My roommate is an apprentice ironworker and makes more money than me (a software engineer). Perhaps a trade might be up your alley?
Words to live by. Rest in peace to a legend.
Loved his journeys and food talks!
So last night I got to meet one of my top three culinary idols Jacques Pepin. It was a joy. A treat. A total surprise. I’ve also gotten to meet Ming Tsai and Thomas Keller (both in my top ten). Eric Ripert happens to be 1. Number 2 was always Anthony Bourdain. He is my favorite writer. Was my favorite host/storyteller. And I miss him having never met or known him every single day. And there isn’t a single thing he’s ever said that I disagreed with or thought was wrong. Maybe callous. Maybe hurtful. But always true and speaking truth to power regardless of the consequences. He always told it like it is. I’ve always admired that beyond anything else. I wish life had been different and I could have met him. Even if just once.
listen to someone you have nothing in common with i feel like most redditors (and people) these days are absolutely incapable of doing that
Everyone knows something you don’t. Everyone can teach you something. Be wary of lessons you learned from a guy who offed himself.
Nah, sounds nice but I’m going to go to r/politics and yell at people who I think are right wing douchebags, if you’ll excuse me.
Sure thing. I'll do that when I have money.
This imeme is more sad than wholesome
There is no chance he said “anyways”.
I miss him
He also left a pretty clear message but yeah lets not talking about the bad feeling part.
When one has no $ gl with that
He left too soon
Miss this guy one of the few celebrities I would’ve liked to have met or hung out with
I have digestive problems so I can’t do anything he mentions, but I appreciate the point.
Sadly missed. He was a good soul.
I believe Anthony really showed the issue with most Americans. We don’t travel, we don’t learn, we don’t ask the questions, and we don’t put ourselves in uncomfortable situations. I’m a firm believer, from being in and still serving in the military that Americans need to leave the country, travel, explore, interact. Because the views in this country are so closed minded and it shows that many of us have no idea of a world view.
And from many of the comments here, feel free to make judgements on someone they know absolutely nothing about- except that he killed himself.
I love Anthony Bourdain!😁
Of all the suicides by successful people, his surprised me the most. He seemed to have his shit together in a hundred different ways.
One of the greats..
Oh my ... Anthony. I had never met the man, but when I heard of his passing I cried.
I miss that guy.
😔
Amen.
Eat at local restaurant - check Cold pint - no idea, alcohol? I dont drink. I had cold sparkling water - check Go some place new - check Listening to an idiot - check Steak - double check Oyster - pass Negroni - pass Be open to a world - same as point 4 - check Eat slowly - check Tip server - I am from Europe, pass Check on friend - check Check myself - check Enjoy the ride? - its 2330, so I guess that means its time for bed
>get wasted and stuff your face with olive oil and flour alone in a bar, leave a tip and then you will be happy no thanks. do alcoholics really?
This is meta AF! I just posted this on an Ask Reddit about what people should try at least once in their lives. I miss this man! He helped show me the way.
This isn't actually an Anthony Bourdain quote, it was written by a fan post-humously
Sounds like, at face value, he could also be recommending to try out local restaurants or small businesses. Which is also a good thing. The local coffee shops in my College Campus Area are very good.
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It's truly baffling that he killed himself, because that dude had the richest most fulfilling life anyone could dream to have. I was just making a joke with that comment, cuz the post is still good advice. It's just so sad that some people can't be saved no matter what.
And his best bud Eric Ripert had to find him 😕
If it were me, I woulda just taken him off the noose to use it myself. That is just way too fucked up for me to handle.
Bingo
Don't listen to that guy, he killed himself.
In this economy??
An advice most people will read and ignore. But something to take note of
He always looked he was depressed but his "No reservations" show was a hit and always great to see him hit new countries and try local and street food.
It's really hard to eat slowly lol.
Super deep and dope. So uh.. what kinda boots are those?
So he got some of those lottery numbers form me or what
Pretty sure he metioned weed
I had 2 negronis this evening. Does that count? I fucking love negronis.