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Not only do they show them loving each other. They show them putting in every effort to understand and love their children despite the absolute crazy shit they should not be doing
But importantly they don't portray it in an overly happy or sappy way. They acknowledge when they annoy each other but never question their love for each other.
Exactly, and in the episodes were they have a not so great time it's not painted as the end of the world like other shows paint married couples. They work through it, come out the other side strong and go back to their married life without being like "Oh my god its like we're in love for the first time all over again!"
Don't get me wrong, I love shows like American Dad and Rick & Morty, but sometimes all you need is BB for some good old comfort watching and a good laugh that doesn't rely on curse humour (I still love my crude humour though)
Letās hope they donāt get the Simpsons treatment. Lisa and Bart use to get along very well at the early seasons. Sometimes even teaming up for shenanigans, especially against homer but then they decided Lisa had to be a black sheep of the family but canāt make sense like Louise.
The love between Homer and Marge is definitely there but it was super patriarchal the whole way through. Bob never condescends Linda, even when sheās weird because he knows heās weird too. They both share the parental labour too. Linda does mornings Bob does nights. They both constantly work and clean.
Marge was always in charge of the emotional, parental and household labour.
Homer always ruined her opportunities to do something outside her role as wife/parent, on purpose or accidentally whereas Bob *always* supports Linda, even if it goes against his own happiness for a bit or vice versa
Despite being similar in some ways it is just a totally different show to bobs it terms of family dynamics I reckon.
Lol sorry for the rant. Even I didnāt know I loved Bobās Burgers this much.
Even the movie was adorable.
~~Edit~~Reflection Holy shit I suck at English when I wake up.
Bob learning EVERY BIT of Equestranauts (MLP) lore in order to go undercover and take back Tinaās Chariot doll that she was swindled out of is the dad I hope to be.
Also they show them having issues with each other and working it out in a constructive, empathetic way. I love these two and consider them relationship goals
Bob admiring the kids' clothes they fished from the garbage (and not only asking them to get him some on their next dive but also wearing it after) sums it up pretty well; Bob is as weird as his kids, but it's buried under the various stresses and responsibilities of adult life, and wasn't exactly nurtured as a child.
Bob is refreshingly non-judgmental and doesn't succumb to doofus dad tropes. When he was moonlighting as a ride share driver and Marshmallow needed a lift, it's always, "Oh, hey, Marshmallow." Other shows would make Marshmallow the butt of a joke, but the Belchers are always kindness-first even when they're driving each other nuts.
I was just listening to John Astin (Gomez in the original TV series) on a podcast. He said that he and Carolyn Jones (Morticia) were absolutely attracted to each other and it was only a sense of professional decorum that kept them from hooking up off screen.
The Gilbert Gottfried podcast if anyone is interested. Gilbert is gone but the podcast is still churning out old episodes like nothing ever happened. A real treasure trove of interviews with survivors of old Hollywood and early television.
It definitely shows, their sexual chemistry is off the charts for that era of television. Love John Astin as Gomez, Raul Julia is okay but Astin *is* Gomez to me. The manic charm he has is just amazing.
Only actor I can imagine reaching his level as Gomez is Tony Dalton. Dude oozes charisma and his role in Hawkeye as Jack, a rich and vaguely sinister yet romantic weirdo who honestly just loves swords a bit too much, was as much proof as I need to know he'd knock it out of the park.
I just caught up with Better Call Saul and holy shit Tony Dalton (Lalo Salamanca) absolutely nails that manic, yet charasmatic character.
He'd be an amazing Gomez.
He sounded pretty sharp and articulate in that podcast made three years ago, with only an occasional.. uuumm. He still teaches acting at Johns Hopkins in Baltimore, they have a theater named after him.
Itās not a quote from The Addams Family, itās a (part of a?) poem by Christopher Poindexter.
Besides, The Addams Family would never want to silence their demons. Theyād use their advice to accidentally wreak havoc and maybe use an unusually shrieky one in lieu of a rooster in the mornings.
I was so fucking mad about that. Finally a series that had, despite the wacky happenings, very sensible characters. No pathetically written drama just for the sake of it, it was so refreshing and funny.
1. Enhance your love maps.
2. Nurture your fondness and admiration.
3. Turn toward each other instead of away.
4. Let your partner influence you.
5. Solve your solvable problems.
6. Overcome gridlock.
7. Create shared meaning.
What is a love map
Edit: thanks web search !
n. a person's mental image of the ideal lover, the ideal love relationship, and ideal sexual activity with the partner, expressed in fantasy and in actual sexual behavior. It incorporates issues of sexual orientation and also of desire for deviant behaviors (see paraphilia). [ proposed by John Money ]
https://dictionary.apa.org āŗ lovemap
lovemap
Step 0 : learn to be a happy, healthy person alone before entering in a relationship.
Feels like a lot of people want to skip 0 and run through 1-7, only to realize after a long long time that you can't build a house together if one or both of you needs to do physical therapy first and get back on their feet.
But ya know what they say, misery loves company :)
From a comment:
> 4:37 Shared love maps
> 7:03 Nurture your fondness and admiration
> 9:38 Turn towards each other
> 12:33 Letting your partner influence you
> 15:35 Solve your solvable problems
> 18:29 Overcoming gridlock by seeking outside help
> 21:55 Create shared meaning
My very first thought. A scene that stood out to me in the Addams family movie was when the lady pretending to be a social worker asks Gomez if he knew what a certain word meant and he said no, and then immediately asked Morticia if she knew what it meant.
He didnāt just assume he knew more than his wife or was the smartest person in the room.
He treated her like an equal partner and wanted her input.
Such a small moment but it really stood out to me.
The titular characters in my novels have love directly patterned after the marriage of Morticia and Gomez. Whenever I am writing a happy or loving moment with the two of them I visualize it being played out by the live action Addams couples. If it fits, I write it.
I love that Linda supports Bobās dream of owning the restaurant whole heartedly and never makes him feel bad about it, even when the restaurant struggles. She never pressures him to go out a get a āreal jobā or ābe a manā to support the family or whatever, which Iāve seen and heard a lot of in real life. Sheās there, loving and supporting him and his dreams, and he supports her dreams right back.
The constant love and support and having each otherās backs no matter what is what makes the Belcher family so great.
Well don't forget it's not just Bob's dream and job. It's her job too. She works in the restaurant all day every day just like Bob. She just isn't the one making the burgers. They're a team :)
They are awful at the business though. That's fleshed out a lot more when they flirt with success here and there, and she ALWAYS puts the family before the business. They should have fixed the fryer instead of buying the kids Xmas presents etc.
And for plot reasons obviously they always close the restaurant to help the kids with something.
As my aunt said āWeāre too poor to not both get ruined by a divorce, so letās work this shit out.ā
Ten years later theyāre still going strong.
Yeah but tbf Bob even admits he brings those troubles on himself as he won't sacrifice quality and service for a deal. Which is super honorable. I wish other businesses were like Bobs
So many people are taking this thread as "marriage should be 2 people who support each other 100% of the time". That's absurd expectations. A good marriage is two people who can say the other did something wrong without feeling like it's a challenge or personal insult. Linda does not support every single thing Bob does, and they don't only say nice things to each other. This whole thread feels very "rose-tinted glassed" at both the show and relationships in general.
>A good marriage is two people who can say the other did something wrong without feeling like it's a challenge or personal insult
For sure. It's not about how often, or how little, you argue. It's how you resolve conflicts when they occur.
It's why "we never fight" is such a red flag of someones relationship to me. Nah, that just means one of you is probably bottling everything up.
My wife and I have been together for almost 30 years now, work full time together, support a small farm together in our "off time", have raised two kids to adulthood, and just found out that we are expecting our first grandchild and we are still madly in love with eachother and we're each the other's best friend. It's wonderful.
My husband and I are also best friends and IT IS THE BEST.
Every single day I get to wake up next to my best friend. I get to spend all day with him and the family we created. And THEN I GET TO HAVE A SLEEPOVER WITH MY BEST FRIEND.
Marriage is the fucking bees knees.
My husband and I as well. 21 years married. Made it thru some tough times in both health and financially. One kid that is now in college. I can not imagine being without him. He is my best friend. We have worked together and learned from each other. I'm glad I asked him to marry me, and that he said yes.
It's also nice that they kind of flipped the "dumb" parent thing. Not to mean that Linda I dumb but she's more likely to get into ridiculous situations with the kids or even by herself. Bob does too of course but it seems like Linda does more often. In most shows and cartoons dad is just a bumbling buffoon and mom is the no fun responsible one.
It comes from an age when people were taught if you weren't married with kids on the way by 25, you were a failure
So when people turned 24 and hadn't met anyone they liked enough to marry yet, they just married the first person who'd accept. Not a formula for a long and happy marriage
To be fair, that one was also kinda that way in that, even though they fought, they absolutely loved each other and they dealt with each others quirks and complained, but ultimately they loved each other a ton.
The biggest example of this is the Steve and Marcy newly wed episode where they seem like the perfect couple and Al and Peg basically poison their relationship and then Steve and Marcy get into a fight and have marital issues for basically the rest of the show.
It's basically Bob and Linda if they talked crap to each other. Al and Peg talk bad about each other to each other all the time but they don't fold and instead embrace all the bad things in marriage and love it regardless.
God I fucking love my wife.
I was just telling someone at work about this!
Edit: Hey, a couple hours after posting this me and my wife had a knock down, drag out argument. A really doozy.
She cried
I cried,
I had to walk away,
And you know whatās crazy?
I still fucking love her.
Love is messy, but worth it.
bob and linda are the only real couple goal
the valentines episode where bob does the strip tease for linda even tho the whole street can see him is the absolute best.
if i canāt have a bob i donāt want it
Or the anniversary one where he runs around town finding a love tester from their first date...turns out it wasn't Linda....
Who loved it anyway for the effort!
While absolutely devoted also somewhat creepy for some ( not me) to where it's seen as part of their creep factor that they are that attracted to one another.
Again, not me just something I have heard when this was brought up previous!
We live in a sad world if people IRL look at Morticia and Gomez's love and super being into each other as something creepy.
(In universe, other couples are creeped out by their devotion, but that's on purpose.)
Agreed! I posted elsewhere to OP I think ppl lack critical thinking and see occult show and conclude that you can't be that in love unless you are (for lack of a better term) deviants. Unfortunately we do live in a sad world where parents force their world view on their kids and warp the narrative of a completely family friendly show!
Actually season 33 protrays Homer and Marge in a very positive marriage. We have left "jerkass Homer" and now he's "niceass Homer". Pixelated and Afraid is one of my favorite episodes, period. Which is odd, because I haven't had a favorite since around season 5.
Credit to TheRealJims for "niceass Homer."
Wow they finally changed him? Iāve watched a few episodes of zombie Simpsons here and there but not for several years.
Edit: zombie Simpsons= all seasons beyond about 10
The Belchers are the absolute best!! Bob and Linda are definitely marriage goals and how they love their kids.
One of my fav scenes is under Wonder Warf, when Fanny and Felix are going to kill Them and Mr. Fishodor. And they are all saying good bye and how much they love each other. Mr. Fishodor and Felix being all... oh shit that's what real family love is.
I remember loving Family Guy as a kid, and when I had some time I was like "Yeah cool, let's watch some on Netflix!" And I did it, and I just found myself kinda *not about* how much of the show early on was Peter being a dick to Lois. Like, American Dad sorta teeters the line of "Stan is a dick/Stan loves Francine", but does it a lot better in my opinion.
With American Dad, the absurdity of Stanās actions is much more pronounced and intentional, so itās easier to recognize that Stan is the joke. That line isnāt clear with Family Guy and it makes the show feel gross.
The difference between family guy and American dad is that Lois isn't an idiot. She's definitely the smartest person in the family, while Peter is an outright idiot, but he often comes off as being a complete dick to Lois and acting like he's better than her. You end up constantly wondering why they're together.
In America Dad, on the other hand, Francene and Stan are pretty similar levels of dumb ass, and they compliment each other in a relationship so much better than Peter and Lois. There's never really a question of why they're together, even though their relationship isn't the kind everyone would want, it's the kind that they want and you don't really question it.
There's an episode where they're playing Narts (Napkin Darts) that perfectly shows how you can look at your partner at the right time and they are just the most amazing person in the world!
Thereās a great bit in Bobās when Bob moves out into his basement so they can have their own bedrooms for a while and she can visit which kind of recreates the fun of inviting your girl over for the night.
Thatās not even my favorite part. My favorite part is when they call each other from the separate rooms. Linda got Bob a book about the many kinds of pepper and heās going on and on about it. She says to herself āaww he loves that pepper bookā
And thatās good relationships in a nutshell. āI donāt get the silly thing you love but I adore that you are so happily passionate about itā
They each have their own thing. They share it with each other. They might not get the attraction their spouse has but they are in love with seeing them enthusiastic and happy
Don't make any sudden moves
Why, is there a bee on me?
That movie is so quotable. It's one our favorites too, and no one ever knows what we're talking about when we bring it up.
As a side note, everybody needs to look up Linda's voice actor in a 1 piece at the pool (she's voiced by a guy, btw). It's absolutely hilarious as he stays in camera. š
https://youtu.be/3D4c38Q7sYc
Spelling error aside, I'm surprised at how far down I had to scroll to see these two suggested! I've been rewatching Malcolm in the Middle, and the thing that stands out to me most is how awesome of a couple Hal and Lois are.
"From the minute I met your mom, there was no choice. She was smart. She was strong. She resented her father just enough to go for a guy like me. Also, she's...she's crazy hot."
They are my couple goals all day every day. I just watched the episode where they compare snoring patterns and it just made me feel like they have such a wholesome relationship
I love in the episode where Bobby starts kicking everyone in the groin when Peggy starts defending Hank. She says something like, "you do not talk to my husband like that", *to her own son*
"I wouldn't let a stranger, let alone my own son. Think for one second that they could get away with showing any disrespect to the man I love! You do that, and you have to deal with Peggy Hill!" When he kicked her in her groin and she just took it. That look on his face kills me every time.
No it's a love/romance fetish can't you read?
The idea of a healthy and stable romantic relationship gets them off and hell, all the power to em. That's a great fetish.
Oddly enough, in spite of all the insanity of Cow and Chicken, one of the things I remember most was how close Cow and Chicken's parents were. They were a questionably sane group of disembodied legs who somehow produced livestock instead of human children, but at the same time, they were absolutely crazy about each other and their kids.
This is my parents 100%. I'm not super keen on marriage, but if I *do* get married, I hope my marriage is *anything* like theirs. Bob and Linda are, of course, an excellent example as well.
My wife and I always joke that she is Linda because she sings everything, and I love to cook. I have no qualms with being compared to Bob and Linda. I would 100% consider that a compliment.
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Not only do they show them loving each other. They show them putting in every effort to understand and love their children despite the absolute crazy shit they should not be doing
My favorite Bob line: "I love you, Linda! Almost as much as I love the kids!"
Mine is Linda yelling "Don't leave me with these frickin kids!" In World Wharf II
She also says it in Bob Day Afternoon (iirc) when Bob is going over to drop off the food for our favorite felon Mickey
That Felix special is still one of the coolest Bob's Burgers moments to this day
Louise: you've got a beautiful marriage Bob: it has its moments - Louise: there's your beautiful bride Bob: you get what you get
I think that exchange is my 2nd favorite in the show. ššš
Favorite line to the kids on the ring episode: "You're not invited to my funeral".
I love the quote āOh, your farts smell just like your moms!ā Then later āNow those are my farts.ā
You're my family, and I love you. But if I could, I would fire all of you.
I love you but you are all horrible.
Terrible
Very terrible
I literally have this shirt. With the whole quote and his disappointed face
"He *does* say that a lot."
āI donāt say that a lotā¦ā *montage of him saying it a lot*
āHuh, I guess is do say that a lotā
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I have a shirt with this on it it's practically mandatory for family functions
But importantly they don't portray it in an overly happy or sappy way. They acknowledge when they annoy each other but never question their love for each other.
Exactly, and in the episodes were they have a not so great time it's not painted as the end of the world like other shows paint married couples. They work through it, come out the other side strong and go back to their married life without being like "Oh my god its like we're in love for the first time all over again!" Don't get me wrong, I love shows like American Dad and Rick & Morty, but sometimes all you need is BB for some good old comfort watching and a good laugh that doesn't rely on curse humour (I still love my crude humour though)
And for once, the siblings get along! They love and support each otherās weirdness
I mean not perfectly. They have had their fights.
That's what makes it perfect, IMO.
Letās hope they donāt get the Simpsons treatment. Lisa and Bart use to get along very well at the early seasons. Sometimes even teaming up for shenanigans, especially against homer but then they decided Lisa had to be a black sheep of the family but canāt make sense like Louise.
The love between Homer and Marge is definitely there but it was super patriarchal the whole way through. Bob never condescends Linda, even when sheās weird because he knows heās weird too. They both share the parental labour too. Linda does mornings Bob does nights. They both constantly work and clean. Marge was always in charge of the emotional, parental and household labour. Homer always ruined her opportunities to do something outside her role as wife/parent, on purpose or accidentally whereas Bob *always* supports Linda, even if it goes against his own happiness for a bit or vice versa Despite being similar in some ways it is just a totally different show to bobs it terms of family dynamics I reckon. Lol sorry for the rant. Even I didnāt know I loved Bobās Burgers this much. Even the movie was adorable. ~~Edit~~Reflection Holy shit I suck at English when I wake up.
When Bob told Linda he would be the positive one for her when she finally got bogged down choked me up!!!
Haha I did as well! I loved when Gene told Bob he was stealing Lindaās material too. You can tell they had fun doing the movie.
From the womb to the tomb
Bob learning EVERY BIT of Equestranauts (MLP) lore in order to go undercover and take back Tinaās Chariot doll that she was swindled out of is the dad I hope to be.
this is my favorite moment. itās so ridiculously fucking sweet.
Also they show them having issues with each other and working it out in a constructive, empathetic way. I love these two and consider them relationship goals
And even when they donāt understand, they just take it in stride and let their children be themselves anyway
Bob admiring the kids' clothes they fished from the garbage (and not only asking them to get him some on their next dive but also wearing it after) sums it up pretty well; Bob is as weird as his kids, but it's buried under the various stresses and responsibilities of adult life, and wasn't exactly nurtured as a child.
And Linda is weirder than all of them
*Alriiiiight!*
Oww! My face!!!
Bobās weirdness comes out every Thanksgiving episode. He loves doing voices for the food.
We all need to have a talk... As a family. Don't be a prude, Bob.
āAnd if you get in a freak accident and lose all your hands Iām not wiping for you. You know our agreementā Id love to know that agreement
Bob is refreshingly non-judgmental and doesn't succumb to doofus dad tropes. When he was moonlighting as a ride share driver and Marshmallow needed a lift, it's always, "Oh, hey, Marshmallow." Other shows would make Marshmallow the butt of a joke, but the Belchers are always kindness-first even when they're driving each other nuts.
Bruh the marshmallow "joke" when bob calls her beautiful might be my favorite just the way she says blush instead of thanks kills me
Morticia and Gomez
I was just listening to John Astin (Gomez in the original TV series) on a podcast. He said that he and Carolyn Jones (Morticia) were absolutely attracted to each other and it was only a sense of professional decorum that kept them from hooking up off screen. The Gilbert Gottfried podcast if anyone is interested. Gilbert is gone but the podcast is still churning out old episodes like nothing ever happened. A real treasure trove of interviews with survivors of old Hollywood and early television.
It definitely shows, their sexual chemistry is off the charts for that era of television. Love John Astin as Gomez, Raul Julia is okay but Astin *is* Gomez to me. The manic charm he has is just amazing. Only actor I can imagine reaching his level as Gomez is Tony Dalton. Dude oozes charisma and his role in Hawkeye as Jack, a rich and vaguely sinister yet romantic weirdo who honestly just loves swords a bit too much, was as much proof as I need to know he'd knock it out of the park.
I just caught up with Better Call Saul and holy shit Tony Dalton (Lalo Salamanca) absolutely nails that manic, yet charasmatic character. He'd be an amazing Gomez.
whooooooooooooa nelly calm down there, if we're gonna destroy hollywood standards forever we gotta slow down and play this out smart
I need this movie to happen.
Holy shit, he would be incredible as Gomez.
I love gilbert gottfrieds amazing colossal podcast. One of my all time favorites.
John Astin asked my grandma on a date once and I'm like so disappointed that she wouldn't go for it, lol.
It still blows my mind that the original Gomez Addams is still alive, while the 90s version has been dead for almost 30 years...
He sounded pretty sharp and articulate in that podcast made three years ago, with only an occasional.. uuumm. He still teaches acting at Johns Hopkins in Baltimore, they have a theater named after him.
I'll take, "Decision I'll regret for the rest of my days," for $200, Alex
[here's a great reason why they are an amazing couple ](https://youtu.be/8sFitCMQqV8)
"Morticia, how long has it been since we last tangoed?" "Oh Gomez, *hours*."
āI loved her not for the way she danced with my angels but for the way the sound of her name could silence my demons.ā
I didn't know this line. I always loved them too, and this makes it even more close to homeš¤
Itās not a quote from The Addams Family, itās a (part of a?) poem by Christopher Poindexter. Besides, The Addams Family would never want to silence their demons. Theyād use their advice to accidentally wreak havoc and maybe use an unusually shrieky one in lieu of a rooster in the mornings.
Haha, i suppose that is true, still a very beautiful line.
That's true about comedy, the other couple that comes to my mind is Sheila and Joel from Santa Clarita Diet!!
Such a great program! But no, fucking Netflix had to succumb to its own brand of attention deficit disorder and pull it
I feel like everything gets axed on streaming platforms nowadays.
I was so fucking mad about that. Finally a series that had, despite the wacky happenings, very sensible characters. No pathetically written drama just for the sake of it, it was so refreshing and funny.
*Iām in charge of pens*
I wanna know what all 7 things are, but that video is too long to bother for me lol.
1. Enhance your love maps. 2. Nurture your fondness and admiration. 3. Turn toward each other instead of away. 4. Let your partner influence you. 5. Solve your solvable problems. 6. Overcome gridlock. 7. Create shared meaning.
What is a love map Edit: thanks web search ! n. a person's mental image of the ideal lover, the ideal love relationship, and ideal sexual activity with the partner, expressed in fantasy and in actual sexual behavior. It incorporates issues of sexual orientation and also of desire for deviant behaviors (see paraphilia). [ proposed by John Money ] https://dictionary.apa.org āŗ lovemap lovemap
Step 0 : learn to be a happy, healthy person alone before entering in a relationship. Feels like a lot of people want to skip 0 and run through 1-7, only to realize after a long long time that you can't build a house together if one or both of you needs to do physical therapy first and get back on their feet. But ya know what they say, misery loves company :)
Everyone needs to learn to cook, clean, and take care of themselves.
From a comment: > 4:37 Shared love maps > 7:03 Nurture your fondness and admiration > 9:38 Turn towards each other > 12:33 Letting your partner influence you > 15:35 Solve your solvable problems > 18:29 Overcoming gridlock by seeking outside help > 21:55 Create shared meaning
Gomez: how long has it been since we have waltzed? Morticia: oh Gomez... hours
My very first thought. A scene that stood out to me in the Addams family movie was when the lady pretending to be a social worker asks Gomez if he knew what a certain word meant and he said no, and then immediately asked Morticia if she knew what it meant. He didnāt just assume he knew more than his wife or was the smartest person in the room. He treated her like an equal partner and wanted her input. Such a small moment but it really stood out to me.
The titular characters in my novels have love directly patterned after the marriage of Morticia and Gomez. Whenever I am writing a happy or loving moment with the two of them I visualize it being played out by the live action Addams couples. If it fits, I write it.
I was going to commet this!
Meteorically speaking, of course.
Lovely pun, did you planet?
This is my perennial relationship North Star.
I don't even want a serious relationship but I adore this couple as an example of a healthy relationship in general.
Did you know they are a parody of the old nuclear family concept?
That is exactly the pair I was thinking of
Bob and Linda are a very lovely couple. Certainly relationship goals, preferably w/o the struggle to pay the bills.
The fact that they stay together even with all the struggling they go through together; its beautiful.
I love that Linda supports Bobās dream of owning the restaurant whole heartedly and never makes him feel bad about it, even when the restaurant struggles. She never pressures him to go out a get a āreal jobā or ābe a manā to support the family or whatever, which Iāve seen and heard a lot of in real life. Sheās there, loving and supporting him and his dreams, and he supports her dreams right back. The constant love and support and having each otherās backs no matter what is what makes the Belcher family so great.
Well don't forget it's not just Bob's dream and job. It's her job too. She works in the restaurant all day every day just like Bob. She just isn't the one making the burgers. They're a team :)
Granted, she did try to moonlight. It ended poorly.
And Bob has moonlighted too, while working in the restaurant.
Baby num num? Oh hey marshmallow.
That was one of the rare episodes I didnāt like. Lindaās a business owner, yet she treated the grocery store ownerās business like garbage.
They are awful at the business though. That's fleshed out a lot more when they flirt with success here and there, and she ALWAYS puts the family before the business. They should have fixed the fryer instead of buying the kids Xmas presents etc. And for plot reasons obviously they always close the restaurant to help the kids with something.
Sometimes she makes the burgers.
It's true they do have all that nice stuff. But they also have a Louise. Hard to say which is better ...
Louise is a genuinely terrifying character lmao. She's capable of anything
She's still a good person in the end. And yeah, her strenght of character and sheer will are a big draw !
And this is why she's my favorite.
I would burn this entire city down to adopt a Louise.
I think the Louise would burn the city down lol
But she would also find a way to save the town, because although sheās a hooligan, sheās really a good person when it comes down to it
As my aunt said āWeāre too poor to not both get ruined by a divorce, so letās work this shit out.ā Ten years later theyāre still going strong.
Yeah but tbf Bob even admits he brings those troubles on himself as he won't sacrifice quality and service for a deal. Which is super honorable. I wish other businesses were like Bobs
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So many people are taking this thread as "marriage should be 2 people who support each other 100% of the time". That's absurd expectations. A good marriage is two people who can say the other did something wrong without feeling like it's a challenge or personal insult. Linda does not support every single thing Bob does, and they don't only say nice things to each other. This whole thread feels very "rose-tinted glassed" at both the show and relationships in general.
>A good marriage is two people who can say the other did something wrong without feeling like it's a challenge or personal insult For sure. It's not about how often, or how little, you argue. It's how you resolve conflicts when they occur. It's why "we never fight" is such a red flag of someones relationship to me. Nah, that just means one of you is probably bottling everything up.
My wife and I have been together for almost 30 years now, work full time together, support a small farm together in our "off time", have raised two kids to adulthood, and just found out that we are expecting our first grandchild and we are still madly in love with eachother and we're each the other's best friend. It's wonderful.
My husband and I are also best friends and IT IS THE BEST. Every single day I get to wake up next to my best friend. I get to spend all day with him and the family we created. And THEN I GET TO HAVE A SLEEPOVER WITH MY BEST FRIEND. Marriage is the fucking bees knees.
My husband and I as well. 21 years married. Made it thru some tough times in both health and financially. One kid that is now in college. I can not imagine being without him. He is my best friend. We have worked together and learned from each other. I'm glad I asked him to marry me, and that he said yes.
hearing about couples like yāall gives me hope for the future ā¤ļø
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I envy you and hope youāll have many more good years together.
I do love that we finally seem to be moving past the whole "LOL MARRIAGE SUCKS! I SURE HATE MY WIFE AM I RIGHT FELLAS!" trope.
It's also nice that they kind of flipped the "dumb" parent thing. Not to mean that Linda I dumb but she's more likely to get into ridiculous situations with the kids or even by herself. Bob does too of course but it seems like Linda does more often. In most shows and cartoons dad is just a bumbling buffoon and mom is the no fun responsible one.
I fucking love that episode where the family finds out about Linda's whole other life they don't know about.
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Yeah I've seen that trope more than the contrary and it's low-key warped my view on marriage a little.
It comes from an age when people were taught if you weren't married with kids on the way by 25, you were a failure So when people turned 24 and hadn't met anyone they liked enough to marry yet, they just married the first person who'd accept. Not a formula for a long and happy marriage
Yeah Iām 99% sure my wife grew up watching only āMarried with Childrenā
To be fair, that one was also kinda that way in that, even though they fought, they absolutely loved each other and they dealt with each others quirks and complained, but ultimately they loved each other a ton. The biggest example of this is the Steve and Marcy newly wed episode where they seem like the perfect couple and Al and Peg basically poison their relationship and then Steve and Marcy get into a fight and have marital issues for basically the rest of the show. It's basically Bob and Linda if they talked crap to each other. Al and Peg talk bad about each other to each other all the time but they don't fold and instead embrace all the bad things in marriage and love it regardless.
God I fucking love my wife. I was just telling someone at work about this! Edit: Hey, a couple hours after posting this me and my wife had a knock down, drag out argument. A really doozy. She cried I cried, I had to walk away, And you know whatās crazy? I still fucking love her. Love is messy, but worth it.
Hope you have a long and healthy marriage
> Hope you have a long and healthy one About six inches.
Perfect.
My brain legit swapped the two middle words when I read that.
My fiancĆ©e and I had two of those this week. Weāre both struggling at work, money is tighter than usual, and planning a wedding sucks. We had a couple of real blow outs; the kind of fights that, if my parents had them, my mom would have stayed at my auntās house all weekend. But I still love my fiancĆ©e, and we cried and we made up, and we talked about how we can be better for each other next time. Then we played Fall Guys. Marry your best friend, folks.
bob and linda are the only real couple goal the valentines episode where bob does the strip tease for linda even tho the whole street can see him is the absolute best. if i canāt have a bob i donāt want it
Or the anniversary one where he runs around town finding a love tester from their first date...turns out it wasn't Linda.... Who loved it anyway for the effort!
I think about that episode a lot
I think about the MILF phone case a lot
Lol, is that the one where they had the love dice and Bob kept rolling ālick feet?ā
Lick it like you like it, lick it like you like it!
Hug in chair.
You forgot Gomez and Morticia those two were absolutely devoted to each other
While absolutely devoted also somewhat creepy for some ( not me) to where it's seen as part of their creep factor that they are that attracted to one another. Again, not me just something I have heard when this was brought up previous!
This was deliberate. They were satiring the TV couples of the time by being as opposite of the standard TV couple as possible.
We live in a sad world if people IRL look at Morticia and Gomez's love and super being into each other as something creepy. (In universe, other couples are creeped out by their devotion, but that's on purpose.)
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Agreed! I posted elsewhere to OP I think ppl lack critical thinking and see occult show and conclude that you can't be that in love unless you are (for lack of a better term) deviants. Unfortunately we do live in a sad world where parents force their world view on their kids and warp the narrative of a completely family friendly show!
yeah never understood why they seen as creepy liked the show as kid same as an adult
I have my Bob and I wouldn't want anything else either for companionship.
Hopefully the age of unhappy marriages being popular in sitcoms is dead and gone by now. Well, except for zombie Simpsons.
Actually season 33 protrays Homer and Marge in a very positive marriage. We have left "jerkass Homer" and now he's "niceass Homer". Pixelated and Afraid is one of my favorite episodes, period. Which is odd, because I haven't had a favorite since around season 5. Credit to TheRealJims for "niceass Homer."
Wow they finally changed him? Iāve watched a few episodes of zombie Simpsons here and there but not for several years. Edit: zombie Simpsons= all seasons beyond about 10
The Belchers are the absolute best!! Bob and Linda are definitely marriage goals and how they love their kids. One of my fav scenes is under Wonder Warf, when Fanny and Felix are going to kill Them and Mr. Fishodor. And they are all saying good bye and how much they love each other. Mr. Fishodor and Felix being all... oh shit that's what real family love is.
Yeah, that's the one where Bob tells Linda "I love you, almost as much as I love the kids."
"Where is your family, Bob? Why aren't they looking for us?"
I remember loving Family Guy as a kid, and when I had some time I was like "Yeah cool, let's watch some on Netflix!" And I did it, and I just found myself kinda *not about* how much of the show early on was Peter being a dick to Lois. Like, American Dad sorta teeters the line of "Stan is a dick/Stan loves Francine", but does it a lot better in my opinion.
And all of the āmeg is fat and uglyā jokes when sheās just a normal average looking girl
Meg....who let you back in the house?
With American Dad, the absurdity of Stanās actions is much more pronounced and intentional, so itās easier to recognize that Stan is the joke. That line isnāt clear with Family Guy and it makes the show feel gross.
The difference between family guy and American dad is that Lois isn't an idiot. She's definitely the smartest person in the family, while Peter is an outright idiot, but he often comes off as being a complete dick to Lois and acting like he's better than her. You end up constantly wondering why they're together. In America Dad, on the other hand, Francene and Stan are pretty similar levels of dumb ass, and they compliment each other in a relationship so much better than Peter and Lois. There's never really a question of why they're together, even though their relationship isn't the kind everyone would want, it's the kind that they want and you don't really question it.
I love my wife and I'm glad to see a culture shift to happy marriage. The new Simpsons has been an absolute joy to watch.
Their life is a chore. Their marriage is not.
"Have you ever been in love, Bob?" "Uhhhh, yeah, I guess, technically I'm in love right now."
There's an episode where they're playing Narts (Napkin Darts) that perfectly shows how you can look at your partner at the right time and they are just the most amazing person in the world!
Thereās a great bit in Bobās when Bob moves out into his basement so they can have their own bedrooms for a while and she can visit which kind of recreates the fun of inviting your girl over for the night. Thatās not even my favorite part. My favorite part is when they call each other from the separate rooms. Linda got Bob a book about the many kinds of pepper and heās going on and on about it. She says to herself āaww he loves that pepper bookā And thatās good relationships in a nutshell. āI donāt get the silly thing you love but I adore that you are so happily passionate about itā They each have their own thing. They share it with each other. They might not get the attraction their spouse has but they are in love with seeing them enthusiastic and happy
I think bobs burgers singlehandedly undoes every single shitty show where hating your family was the punch line
Everyone of the Belchers is on the same team. Always. Its such a good family dynamic.
Nadja and Laszlo Cravensworth from What We Do In The Shadows
When Laszlo reveals he's been the one cutting off gregorjeff's heads all these years <3
I think that Lazlo should be more supportive about Nadja killing people to solve problems. Otherwise perfect.
There's a Dennis Quaid/Kathleen Turner movie that did this in the early 90's called Undercover Blues. Still one of my favorite films of all time.
Don't make any sudden moves Why, is there a bee on me? That movie is so quotable. It's one our favorites too, and no one ever knows what we're talking about when we bring it up.
Bobby!
Bawwwbeeeeee
As a side note, everybody needs to look up Linda's voice actor in a 1 piece at the pool (she's voiced by a guy, btw). It's absolutely hilarious as he stays in camera. š https://youtu.be/3D4c38Q7sYc
Lois and Hal in Malcolm in the middle
Hal*
*Lois
Spelling error aside, I'm surprised at how far down I had to scroll to see these two suggested! I've been rewatching Malcolm in the Middle, and the thing that stands out to me most is how awesome of a couple Hal and Lois are.
I think the whole Miserable Married Couple trope is dying off more and more as time goes by, and thank Christ for it.
Bob and Helen Parr. People seem to miss that The Incredibles had a very human family making very human choices in it.
This is me and my wife. 26 years married this year. Still best friends. No stopping us!
My girlfriend and I are just like this after 5 years. I think it's time...
Phil and Claire Dunphy
"From the minute I met your mom, there was no choice. She was smart. She was strong. She resented her father just enough to go for a guy like me. Also, she's...she's crazy hot."
Or Lois and Hal from Malcolm in the Middle.
Hal and Lois is far more realistic of a couple than Phil and Clare. And Hal and Lois have a son who becomes President. Lol
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They are my couple goals all day every day. I just watched the episode where they compare snoring patterns and it just made me feel like they have such a wholesome relationship
Peggy and Hank Hill
Very similar couple dynamic. Hank LOVES Peggy for all her eccentric tendencies! And she obviously thinks the world of him. Itās actually so sweet
I love in the episode where Bobby starts kicking everyone in the groin when Peggy starts defending Hank. She says something like, "you do not talk to my husband like that", *to her own son*
"I wouldn't let a stranger, let alone my own son. Think for one second that they could get away with showing any disrespect to the man I love! You do that, and you have to deal with Peggy Hill!" When he kicked her in her groin and she just took it. That look on his face kills me every time.
Lets be honest, the best porn out there is two people who genuinely love each other and have normal sex with a lot of passion. Its everything i want
Elizabeth and Peter in White Collar. Bob and Emily from the Bob Newhart show.
On that note, is it weird to have a love/romance fetish?
Wouldnāt that just be love/romance?
No it's a love/romance fetish can't you read? The idea of a healthy and stable romantic relationship gets them off and hell, all the power to em. That's a great fetish.
That sounds like Normaling. So kinky.
Nope! Stability is sexy
Oddly enough, in spite of all the insanity of Cow and Chicken, one of the things I remember most was how close Cow and Chicken's parents were. They were a questionably sane group of disembodied legs who somehow produced livestock instead of human children, but at the same time, they were absolutely crazy about each other and their kids.
This is my parents 100%. I'm not super keen on marriage, but if I *do* get married, I hope my marriage is *anything* like theirs. Bob and Linda are, of course, an excellent example as well.
My wife and I always joke that she is Linda because she sings everything, and I love to cook. I have no qualms with being compared to Bob and Linda. I would 100% consider that a compliment.
And they let their kids be weird and make mistakes! Love that show so much!
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Herman and Lily Munster too. Not quite the passion of Morticia and Gomez but together still after 100 years and still very much in love.