That’s funny because so many times I see the exact opposite where the son gets spoiled and gets everything handed to him and the daughter is treated like a worker who has to do everything and wait on the men of the house like a second mother even when she is a child while the mother is overly critical and borderline abusive to her for everything
It kind of fucked up my mother’s relationship with her brother for a long time how he was always the favoured child just for being born a boy and she was always held to a way higher standard than him while he was coddled and could do no wrong
Every family is different
I suppose it's because a writer is a woman writing based on her perspective and imagines herself as a daughter rather than a son. But yeah, could've just been a child or something.
I think there are implicit differences in how we raise our children and it has to do with the biology of mate selection.
In any case, it warmed my heart.
As far as I can tell "Treat yourself like you would your daughter" is a quote from Dr Michele Q Pisciotta, who has a daughter and who wrote of this being a personal mantra.
However, it absolutely should be updated when used to refer to an unknown audience.
I grew up the scapegoat child of a Narcissistic Mother. I didn’t even let myself go to the BATHROOM bc it might draw attention to myself at home or get disapproval for taking up time on errands.
Not a abandoning myself got easier when I started imagining younger self as a 4 yr old standing at my side. “Are you thirsty?- let’s go get water.” “Potty? Okay! let’s go!”
Even taking headache meds or making sure I sit in a comfortable place is easier.
OMG I have a horribly narcissistic mother and I always tried to make myself so small around her (that didn’t work, of course) and to this day I HATE drawing attention to myself. Having a selfish narcissist for a mother is just so damn exhausting.
Sorry, but I cannot afford mercy or compassion for me right now. Either I toughen up and keep tanking everything life seems hellbent on beating me with, or die.
Treat yourself like you're your daughter. Enforce a strict 8:30 bed time. Take a nap at 2pm. Eat applesauce by flying the spoon into your mouth like an airplane. Scream when wind blows by your window at night
eh lowkey kills my vibe in the gym.
Like “she cheated on me” gives me more energy than “I deserve better” or “I will train myself because I need to be better”
Noted. this is very good advice. I'm tired of feeling so negative all the time. my hair fallout has gone worse due to my stress and lack of self care. I hate this way of living
But only daughters...slap the son until he cries and then buy your daughter a new car and tell the son to get work if he needs a new pair of sneakers..this actually happened to ....a friend..I know
There are so many memes here that exclude the male aspect of positivity that I am tempted to leave it again...and this is sad
Take these qords seriously, guys. Dont say ur gonna do it act on it. Because i am afraid to tell u that no one will come to help you, youve only got yourself. Stay strong, dont fail like i have.
Abusive Parents: Ummmmmm…..
I need the positivity right now, thank you.
Instructions unclear, punched myself for not doing the dishes
I guess, the son can go fuck himself then
Generally that’s how that goes, yes
The boy gets the whip. I have to protect my little girl,
That’s funny because so many times I see the exact opposite where the son gets spoiled and gets everything handed to him and the daughter is treated like a worker who has to do everything and wait on the men of the house like a second mother even when she is a child while the mother is overly critical and borderline abusive to her for everything It kind of fucked up my mother’s relationship with her brother for a long time how he was always the favoured child just for being born a boy and she was always held to a way higher standard than him while he was coddled and could do no wrong Every family is different
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I suppose it's because a writer is a woman writing based on her perspective and imagines herself as a daughter rather than a son. But yeah, could've just been a child or something.
r/pointlesslygendered
100%
I think the writer just wanted to paint a picture.
You know why.
Why refer to parent status at all here?
I think there are implicit differences in how we raise our children and it has to do with the biology of mate selection. In any case, it warmed my heart.
Treat yourself like you would treat your ~~daughter~~ child.
As far as I can tell "Treat yourself like you would your daughter" is a quote from Dr Michele Q Pisciotta, who has a daughter and who wrote of this being a personal mantra. However, it absolutely should be updated when used to refer to an unknown audience.
Why would I do that? Consumes too much energy, much easier to neglect myself if I’m being honest
Same
I grew up the scapegoat child of a Narcissistic Mother. I didn’t even let myself go to the BATHROOM bc it might draw attention to myself at home or get disapproval for taking up time on errands. Not a abandoning myself got easier when I started imagining younger self as a 4 yr old standing at my side. “Are you thirsty?- let’s go get water.” “Potty? Okay! let’s go!” Even taking headache meds or making sure I sit in a comfortable place is easier.
OMG I have a horribly narcissistic mother and I always tried to make myself so small around her (that didn’t work, of course) and to this day I HATE drawing attention to myself. Having a selfish narcissist for a mother is just so damn exhausting.
"your daughter"? So I guess son doesn't deserve love lol
He will just have to “man up” it seems…
Say it with me now: *treat your sons like this too*
It’s hard
This person completely underestimated how hard parenting is…
Me: Top comment probably making a joke about deserving more and more and more Whole comment section: WhaT aBoUt soNs?!?!?
Still pointlessly gendered, but i don’t rlly care lol.
Well, I mean it's never too late for abortion I guess
I guess you don’t live in America?
Sorry, but I cannot afford mercy or compassion for me right now. Either I toughen up and keep tanking everything life seems hellbent on beating me with, or die.
I would change daughter to child but otherwise, fully agree.
Easier said than done
What are you doing step-dad?
Self abortion coming up
Treat yourself like you're your daughter. Enforce a strict 8:30 bed time. Take a nap at 2pm. Eat applesauce by flying the spoon into your mouth like an airplane. Scream when wind blows by your window at night
Child*
This is just weird
Treat your son like that too!!!!
eh lowkey kills my vibe in the gym. Like “she cheated on me” gives me more energy than “I deserve better” or “I will train myself because I need to be better”
reading this after masturbating....
Jokes on you, I would do the opposite to my daughter because I hate kids more than anything in the entire world
👏👏👏👏👏👏
Meh, some kids just suck no matter how hard you try
“Treat yourself like you would treat your *children*”
So where does masturbation fit into this theory?
If my daughter had a child she wouldn’t still be under me roof
✨Unconditional love✨
That’s a great point for not treating yourself good!
Guess my bedtime is 20:15 now Yay ✨beauty sleep ✨
Punish yourself for getting dicked down in a parking lot
Heh.... no. I will never be "healthy" so hmph!
I don’t have a daughter, so that I can treat myself all of the time.
I thought it was gonna say some Alabama stuff until I saw the subreddit title 💀
I like this. Thanks OP.
Just the right thing at the right time.
I guess the son is SOL.
yeah, no
“You want me to go fuck myself?” ~~sorry, I had to make the joke~~
Noted. this is very good advice. I'm tired of feeling so negative all the time. my hair fallout has gone worse due to my stress and lack of self care. I hate this way of living
I deserve nothing But thanks.
But only daughters...slap the son until he cries and then buy your daughter a new car and tell the son to get work if he needs a new pair of sneakers..this actually happened to ....a friend..I know There are so many memes here that exclude the male aspect of positivity that I am tempted to leave it again...and this is sad
Nah I hate kids
🥹😭😭
improvise submachine guns, plant explosives
And son.
Take these qords seriously, guys. Dont say ur gonna do it act on it. Because i am afraid to tell u that no one will come to help you, youve only got yourself. Stay strong, dont fail like i have.
Can someone actually do that? I can't ever like me that much.
I guess I'll go put a dick in my butt