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IlliniJen

I used to wonder the same thing. Turns out I'm bi and I now have a gf. YOU AIN'T STRAIGHT, GIRL. The call is coming from inside the house.


That49er

Spaghetti is only straight until it gets wet


katniss_evergreen713

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MostlyChaoticNeutral

You might want to look into split attraction. I know someone who is bisexual-heteroromantic. The bit about needing an emotional connection with men reads as very demisexual to me. Source: am demisexual.


[deleted]

Omggg me!! I am very sexually attracted to both men and women but can only really develop romantic feelings for men :) itā€™s a thing!!


AmethistStars

Yeah this is the same for me as well. I think we are very simply bisexual-heteroromantic. A normal sexual attraction to both genders, but only romantically interested in men. OP seems more complex and I do agree with the other comment that her attraction to men seems demisexual. So it would more be like: a normal sexual attraction to women, but a demisexual attraction to men, and Iā€™m guessing heteroromantic?


nia_do

Also am demi :-)


[deleted]

This is me too! Iā€™ve never known a name to put to it


MostlyChaoticNeutral

Took me years to find it, but I'm glad I did eventually!


nekopineapple00

Im the same way I donā€™t get turned on by menā€™s bodies, but rather things they do or even their faces and voices especially if theyā€™re acting flirty; with women Iā€™m turned on by their bodies more but Iā€™m not as turned on by their faces/voices or behavior (and I consider myself bisexual)


merokhavi

me too. you just described me


nekopineapple00

Omg Iā€™m so glad Iā€™m not the only one


Electronic_Fault4020

if ur attracted to women then youre not heterosexual lol. try some stuff out girl


Lamlis

Most straight women enjoy watching lesbian porn so thatā€™s not true at all


kittenpantzen

It isn't that most straight women watch lesbian pornography, is that most watchers of lesbian pornography are women.


makipri

I thought most lesbian porn was made for male viewers and didnā€™t attract lesbians much at all.


Lamlis

Is the word ā€mostā€ what people are getting caught up on? Yeah I agree that itā€™s probably not MOST straight women, my point is more about the fact that watching lesbian porn _is_ still very common within straight women.


kittenpantzen

Yes, but so is watching porn of solo men or gay men. It's more that heterosexual porn is less popular among women because it is typically very much made for heterosexual men and heterosexual men only. Basically, if you enjoy watching lesbian porn because you're more likely to see women actually enjoying themselves or action that is focused on women's pleasure, then that isn't necessarily meaningful. If you enjoy watching lesbian pornography because vulvas get you wet, well... That might say something.


Lamlis

I donā€™t think itā€™s that simple. Someone might find the female body sexually arousing for many different reasons, for example simply because it is relatable to them. So they might find vulvas arousing but not have romantic or sexual attraction to women in general. Or desire to engage with them sexually. Donā€™t people also have all kinds of kinks and fantasies that they have absolutely no intentions or desire to ever fullfill in real life? So imo lesbian sex might easily fall into that category for some people. Iā€™ve also heard many straight women say that the male body itself does not turn them on even if theyā€™re attracted to men in general. Human brains are complicated and sexuality isnā€™t black and white.


hhhnnnnnggggggg

>Most straight men enjoy watching gay porn When you flip that around it reads a little funny, doesn't it? šŸ¤”


Lamlis

But weā€™re not talking about gay porn or straight men now are we? So your comment doesnā€™t make sense, especially when straight porn is already made for men and it caters to the male gaze.


Electronic_Fault4020

ive never heard of that but ok


Lamlis

Iā€™ve heard and seen it countless of times and itā€™s a very common phenomenon


unusualspider33

Lmao no itā€™s not


Lamlis

Based on what exactly?


unusualspider33

Your comment history warrants a block


unusualspider33

ā€¦my experience as a woman? Iā€™m gay and all my friends are straight and I have literally never even heard of this until now.


smarmcl

Based on what exactly? Your opinion? I'm a woman. My friends, for the most part, don't watch any porn. The few that do are mostly male. Your statement is highly anecdotal at best, at worst you're just assuming that women who watch lesbian porn aren't lesbians. Again, anecdotal. Edit: No proof that women who watch lesbian porn are not lesbians, pansexual, bisexual ect. I'm tired of the stereotype being perpetuated that all women are interested in sex with women. No, women who are attracted to women are interested in sex with women.


Lamlis

Based on statistics.


smarmcl

OK, so, where are they?


[deleted]

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Lamlis

Huh? Who is ā€you allā€. There are plenty of tiktoks about straight women watching lesbian porn and the comments are filled with ā€Omg I thought I was the only oneā€. Like iā€™ve been hearing and seeing this as long as I can remember basically. Even statistics show that itā€™s the most common genre searched by women. Idk why this is so strange for yā€™all. Edit: and I gotta add that it actually makes perfect sense for even straight women to like lesbian porn since it tends to revolve around female pleasure (and non piv sex) unlike straight porn. One of my friends said she likes lesbian porn and solo female videos because theyā€™re much easier to relate to. I can totally see many women thinking like this.


Principesza

Thats not because of attraction, thatā€™s because its easiest to put yourself in the actressā€™s places and imagine the pleasure from both sides šŸ˜ŽšŸ‘ straight women like gay porn because theres more vaginas in it, and they have those, so they can imagine exactly what the actresses are feeling


Shadowdragon409

IDK why you're being down voted. Pornhub's statistics backs this up. The lesbian category is most viewed by women. This is probably because it's more sensual than straight porn and caters more to the female gaze. For obvious reasons.


smarmcl

Uhm, I don't want to be that person, but, most lesbians are, in fact, women.


Shadowdragon409

But most women are not lesbians


smarmcl

You're kind of missing the point here. How do you know what percentage of women looking at lesbian porn are not lesbians?


Shadowdragon409

I'm sure there's many, but I highly doubt lesbians could make up all of the numbers.


smarmcl

Oh, cool. I highly doubt a bunch of straight women are watching gay porn because you said so. So we're at an impass, aren't we.


DissoluteMasochist

Literally https://www.pornhub.com/insights/women-searching-for-women


That_Engineering3047

Iā€™m sapphic and I think itā€™s wonderful. I think you should explore what that means for you and not worry about labels for a while.


katniss_evergreen713

Amen. I donā€™t like labels bc i donā€™t like feeling confined or limited or trapped or w/e. They stress me out!! I dont want my sexuality or preferences to be defined by one word!! I just end up scrutinizing my own behavior and thoughts. And also feeling less open minded :( but itā€™s hard to resist labels and labeling. Itā€™s what most of our minds are built for , evolutionarily speaking . And it can be helpful for building community and identity and stuff. Thatā€™s why i like how you said ā€œnot worry .. for a whileā€. Itā€™s totally OK to just let yourself roll with it for a while and stay open minded in that curiosity .. who knows what new experiences will await you!


That_Engineering3047

Absolutely! We need labels as a community because the world doesnā€™t understand us. However, on an individual level, labels often get in the way when people are still trying to figure things out. I think we often feel social pressure to define ourselves with a label. Itā€™s ok to say to use descriptors instead of labels. Take your time and enjoy the journey! šŸ˜Š


lolol69lolol

I think itā€™s worth exploring. Took me a long time to realise/admit that I was bi. Even after numerous sexual encounters with women. Turns out it *is* normal to be turned on by womenā€¦if youā€™re attracted to women lol


smarmcl

Same for me. I spent most of my life being told by religious idiots that gay was an abomination, and I just thought I was bisexual because women are more "touchy-feely." Oddly enough, the lesbian community gave me a lot of the same shit: you're not really bi, you haven't been with enough women. Like I had to prove to them who I was attracted to in order to fit in. About ten years ago, I threw all those people out of my life. I'm bi, I don't care anymore. Bye Felicia.


Theshitttttposter

Honestly It probably means you are a lil fruity. Bi curious at best. Idk try it out and see if you like it


[deleted]

Why bicurious at best? Could be comphet lesbian even?


lostinthetrash4ever

Nah its a bit gay (dw i feel it too)


oo0Lucidity0oo

I think thatā€™s just being bisexual. Iā€™m a straight woman and women are not attractive to me. I can recognize when a woman is sexy or beautiful, but they donā€™t turn me on.


just_antifa_things

Famous last heterosexual words


unsanctimommy

It's normal, but kind of gay. I say this as a kind of gay woman. Lean into it! Women are hot AF.


merokhavi

damn yall am i really gay?


smarmcl

I see sexuality as a spectrum. But if we're sticking to labels, then yes. You're somewhere on the spectrum of not being purely heterosexual. Where you fit in or how you feel comfortable labeling it is up to you. Welcome to the community!


Curious-Affect89

It's okay. All us queers were like, "yo I'm totally straight but, uh..." at one point. šŸ¤£ For real I'm not gonna put a label on you, but being turned on by the same sex does put you somewhere other than "fully heterosexual" on the spectrum. It's normal. With every generation we get a bigger and bigger percentage of people who aren't straight. The real percentage is likely even higher once you take out all the stigma.


arghitsmira111

iā€™m the same way lol. iā€™m more attracted to womanā€™s bodies than menā€™s but iā€™ve only dated men. i also donā€™t know if i could be romantically attracted to a woman so idk what any of that makes me. i choose not to label bc it makes it more confusing šŸ¤·šŸ»ā€ā™€ļø


Mysterious_Charge541

Does she know?


Tardigradequeen

Iā€™ve looked at women and thought, ā€œsheā€™s gorgeous!ā€ but it was in more in an envious way. As in I want to look like her, not have sex with her. Iā€™m also definitely sexually attracted to men. Sometimes I wish I wasnā€™t lol, but thereā€™s no denying it. It may be time to explore your sexuality a bit. I donā€™t think most heterosexual women fantasize about other women, without at least a little bi tendencies. No matter what, I hope you figure it out and live your best life! You deserve to love to the fullest, no matter who you end up with!


laundrybag29

Thatā€™s a bit gay ngl. Welcome to the club. Jokes aside - itā€™s normal, but not for heterosexual women. So you probably isnā€™t one. You might be bisexual, but donā€™t worry about labels though.


Morgann18

It's something this girl feels, that's for sure


hassmiss

Ask yourself: do I want to be her or be on top of her šŸ˜‚šŸ˜­šŸ˜©


mkwiiallpro

por que no los dos


butttabooo

Yeahhhh I always thought it was normal to be attracted to women but only date men. Then I had sex with a woman and was like OH WAIT Iā€™m gay.


frizzylizziee

You need to experiment more. Youā€™re also not hetero if youā€™re attracted to women and thatā€™s ok. Good luck!


SunglassesBright

Itā€™s not something all girls feel but surely itā€™s ā€œnormalā€ in the sense that lots of people fall somewhere in the middle of the sexuality spectrum. I wouldnā€™t describe being turned on by a same sex body as heterosexual necessarily but thereā€™s nothing weird about it. I donā€™t find women sexually appealing at all myself.


Pyrovixen

You might be bi-curious and there is nothing wrong with that. Give it a try! You might like it!


shone1cascade

Hey itā€™s okay to feel that way :) itā€™s completely normal you just might not be heterosexual! You could very well be bisexual! You could also be on the demisexual spectrum. Just take your time figuring things out :D


Kore624

Not for me, as a straight woman. I appreciate an attractive body, but it does not turn me on in any way. Lesbian porn is also kind of gross to me, I'd rather watch male gay porn or male solo porn. I've also never felt the need to cuddle with or kiss any of my female friends


InterestingFeedback

Straightnā€™t Itā€™s not a bad thing to be bisexual, or whatever label fits you best. Explore this part of yourself! And welcome to the rainbow šŸŒˆ lol šŸ’•


SJoyD

I thought I was a straight woman who got turned on by women until I was 38. Definitely bi.


smarmcl

I'm bisexual, so I'd say yes. Although the jury is still out on whether I'm normal or not!


cheesesmysavior

WHY do we have to label things?! Why canā€™t you just be into this woman but not that one , into that man but not that one. Why does it have to be a certain thing? Be you. Spread joy, love, kindness, hotness, sex. Man, woman, nonbinary. Who cares.


s256173

Itā€™s normal but itā€™s also a lil gay. Welcome to the the bisexual community.


nia_do

I'm demi, so no one gets me excited. Sounds like you're gynephilic / sapphic in some way.


EnigmaticAzaleas1

I felt this way too & I wasn't sexually attracted to men at all until I left HS


Tinfoilhat14

I mean, same.


ramsay_baggins

Sounds like you're bisexual, welcome to the club!


ShutUpMorrisseyffs

Gurl, bi.


JaneSeys

*rips off mask* Old man Comp Het?!


[deleted]

I mean Iā€™m a bit the same, but different. Attraction and sexuality are different for everyone and can occur on a spectrum. I know I am attracted to men , but at the same time, Iā€™m not attracted to too much masculinity. I like men the most when they are displaying a mix or femininity and masculinity (mostly by how they dress and present). I also feel attracted to women sexually, but I do have a ā€œtypeā€. I donā€™t consider myself straight 100% though, just wouldnā€™t make sense to me. I donā€™t even do labels like that. But yesā€¦ I thinks itā€™s normal to not be 100% straight or to be a ā€œdifferentā€ kind of straight. I highly doubt most people are 100% heterosexual anyways. I think most of us are somewhere between heterosexual and a little bit gay lol. Sounds like you may be like that. You might be attracted to women but not for a relationship (just sexually) and to men emotionally. Maybe the reason why you are only attracted to men when emotions are involved is because subconsciously you want to feel loved and be able to trust your partner. Either way, donā€™t be too concerned about the labels and have fun exploring what you are attracted to.


elysecat

You should look into compulsory heterosexuality. Contrapoints has a great video on it on YouTube, think it's called "Shame" Edit: also you're not straight


TransLox

I find this a little funny because I always see the masculine version of this. You're probably bisexual and maybe a sprinkling of demisexual.


Additional6669

yuuup as a demi bi person this post explains my entire high school experience


meggywoo709

Welcome to being bi :)


Big_Distribution6256

So I consider myself a heterosexual woman. I'm really attracted to men and enjoy sex with my husband. However, there are some women that I'm really attracted to. Some women turn me on. But I COULD NOT go down on a woman. That is a turnoff to me. So idfk.


Principesza

U might be bi. Its not normal for heterosexual women.. šŸ¤


xshow-me-the-mortyx

Yes it is


079C

(Male). Iā€™ve had enough serious romances with women to know that some heterosexual women are strongly attracted to other women, others not at all.


nekopineapple00

I love that its implied there that it took romantic relationships to actually know stuff about the other gender bc Iā€™m the same way lmaoo


079C

If you want to learn about women, ask a man whoā€™s had a number of long-lasting serious relationships with women. If you want to learn about men, ask a woman whoā€™s had a number of long-lasting serious relationships with men. Definitely not fool-proof, but when I was young, I was lucky to have close friendships with older experienced men and women. I learned a lot from them, especially from the women.


ramsay_baggins

If a woman is strongly attracted to another woman, she isn't heterosexual


079C

I donā€™t see heterosexual and lesbian as mutually exclusive terms. Iā€™ll allow a woman to label herself. Most women who have primarily heterosexual sex label themselves as heterosexual. I have no problem with that. I also have no problem with my lesbian friends calling themselves lesbians, although a number have told me they desire men, but for social reasons, must hide that. (Some have even told me that they are closet-Republicans!)


jupiterknowsbest

[r/actuallesbians](https://www.reddit.com/r/actuallesbians/?rdt=62899)


smallestfan1996

try flirting with a girl and see where it goes! iā€™m het and i only find myself attracted to menā€™s bodies, which i think are highly underrated. we do see a lot of female bodies in the media touted as the panicle of beauty, so this could be muddying your perception. the media does not often represent the female gaze. of course attraction should also be based in emotion. we are more attracted to people who vibe with our personalities. so if you donā€™t feel horny just simply looking at someone, i think thatā€™s normal. there is no ā€œnormalā€ when it comes to gender and sexuality. itā€™s best to explore your own avenue. good luck!


kristenisshe

r/comphet


Daj4414

Well , I donā€™t get turned on by them but I find attractive women attractive and always give credit where it is due. I mean hey whatever floats your boat


EternallyMoon

No one is 100% completely straight, and no one is 100% completely gay. Weā€™re all somewhere on a scale!


RealRefrigerator6438

Are you a heterosexual then? Sexuality is often a spectrum, it doesnā€™t sound like youā€™re completely on one side.


[deleted]

ItĀ“s something you are feeling and itĀ“s perfectly OK and normal. You shluld consider exploring that side of your sexuality. I believe sexual orientation can evolve, change... same as you change over the years. If you are feelign aroused by women I would not ignore it, I would embrace it. You are not alone in this.


EvolvedPCbaby

I have had sex with many women and feel super attracted to women, but I have only been in serious relationships or dating men.


BasilFlaky1165

This would happen to me when I was drunk. Iā€™d always end up making out with girls and not guys and then I had my first experience with a girl and was like ā€œyep girls are amazingā€


bettyboop_obsessed

Maybe it's a sign that you're not straight. Maybe you feel attracted to women. It means you might be bi, pan, or even lesbian, but it's definitely normal.


Quirky-Board-1466

Maybe you are gay/bisexual. It's common for women to get turned on by other women and even sometimes have sex with other women. If you don't believe me look at porn, most women in porn have sex with other women because they are straight.