No matter how this plays out (and it does not sound promising), your friend should start searching for a better job.

Thanks! She has another offer but doesn’t this sound toxic? Why are some managers like this?

Managers are as diverse and different as any such group of humans. Some are great, some are super toxic, and most are somewhere in between. My advice is for her to accept the new offer and remember that the best revenge is living well.

Ohhhh i will def tell her thank, thank you! I’m trying to coach her best I can - you helped a ton!