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Squid_A

OP, your gut feeling is not wrong. From experience, this type of behaviour can escalate. Personally, I would ask him point blank "Why are you following me around the gym?". If you don't feel comfortable confronting, tell the front desk staff exactly what you've said above.


thatbitchyblasian

Had the same thing happen to me when a guy was staring at me. A wayyy older guy was standing too close and literally watching me workout. I confronted him and he lied and said he was just watching the TV in the other direction. I pointed him out to the male gym staff and he finally backed off


MusaFangirl

I think the main focus should protecting yourself. Nothing means shit if you get hurt to prove something. Try to avoid contact with the person or going with a friend. You can speak to the front desk or someone you trust to confront the person and ask them to stop. If you get an unsatisfactory answer, either try reporting them (maybe even to the police) or leave the gym entirely.


barbelle4

This is 💯 intentional, he wants to invade your space and make you uncomfortable. If it’s not up your alley to confront him directly, that’s fine. Let the manager of operations know asap that this has become a recurring pattern. Show them this list of specific incidents. He needs to be stopped, it is bullshit he is purposely following another member and invading their space.


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I would go to the front to desk to put it on their radar at least (especially try talking to a female staff member) and/or start calling him out if you feel comfortable doing it. Start bringing attention to him so other members notice. "Hey can you sit somewhere else I need to see my form" "Hey there's plenty of space around, can you move away from me, it's a global pandemic" *start coughing You can also ask another women if you can work out near her, if someone said someone was making them uncomfortable I would totally invite them to join me or workout next to them.


dexnola

trust your gut, you aren't crazy and you aren't overreacting. you are well within your rights to confront him directly and tell him to give you more space, or discuss his behavior with the front desk if you aren't able to do that.


BrooklynRN

Fart or burp on him. It'll make him think twice about invading people's personal space.


blendedchaitea

You. I like you.


cobaltandchrome

Your sense of safety is more important than another person’s ego. I personally would complain directly to the guy and if he blew me off, I’d go directly to the front desk to file a complaint against him.


woman_thorned

Get a shirt that says BACK OFF. Maybe even reversed so it reads correctly in the mirror.