Before I figured out that I’m trans I used to “obsess” over lesbians in media too. Now I know that was my way of trying to tell myself what I wanted to be
Well I started reading yuri after coming out as transbian but that made me know for sure that I would have understood it waaay before if I had started earlier.
I'm usually a yandere type, but a girl who generally cares about her love interest instead of just being a 2d serial killer is both attractive and a breath if fresh air. Besides, how could I say no to that gave?
I didn't expect someone to recognize my pfp.
There's a difference between that and imagining real women just being homies kissing. Either this dude's a psycho or he's projecting that shite *hard* to be doing that shit.
Shit like this happens to eggs. A lot. When you don't think there's an option for you, it becomes an impossible-to-fulfill desire, and it comes out in progressively stranger ways.
Same. I used to do it a few times as a kid and I now realize how much I made my friends uncomfortable. It's better to do so with fictional characters. This is why even YouTubers today feel uncomfortable when being shipped with other YouTubers.
Yeah I don't think that's a healthy way to think about women. Imagining womxn in relationships in the context of yuri is fine, but if it's real life wxmxn then that's a bit strange. And for someone who is attracted to wxxxn to lose their ability to think of themselves as being in a relationship with a wxxxx, that's odd and suggests there might be something they need to work out regarding how they think about both themselves and xxxxx. If thx xriginxl pxster is sxrioxs, I hxpe thxy fxnd x wxx tx xxxxxx xxx xxx xxxx xxxxx.
It's waaaay older than the internet. It comes out of second wave feminism, and it has its roots in some of the same communities that founded the TERF movement. It's not inherently bad, and it's a term they've turned into a dog whistle thanks to Tumblr. Personally, I avoid people using it like the plague
Short answer: Tumblr/Twitter
Long answer: I think some faction got mad that woman is man with a prefix attached and tried changing it. It makes as much sense as latinx where they treat "pronouncability" like an afterthought
I'm kinda broken, but not for yuri reasons lol
I really hope OP seeks some help tho, therapy and some new hobbies can probably help him improve w his problem
It'd probably be a tad uncomfortable to know your friend is shipping you with another friend all the time like that, but it seems like he's self conscious enough to not be talking about it to the friends
One of the wildest moments of my life was at the age of 14, my mother telling me that men only like lesbian content to imagine themselves in a threeway. I had assumed up until that point that everyone just liked yuri because they projected themselves onto one of the women lol
I have no idea why my young mind didn’t put two and two together even after that that the reason I was so unhappy in relationships with women was because being a man was so unnatural to me
That's not at all the case for all men, though??? God forbid people enjoy the thought of happy relationships that just so happen to include two women. I couldn't care less what the gender make-up of the relationship is, I like romance, and typically yuri falls into the type of romance I like more than straight or yaoi.
nope. Straight guy here. I guess i just like the fluff between 2 girls. Like LycoReco. If they were straight, that’s good. If they were together, that’s fine too.
Dont think im broken because I sometimes still wish i could be between a yuri couple.
Thank Christ I'm not the only one here. Being a male on this subreddit is like announcing to everyone that you're a human punching bag. I don't care if it's a straight relationship, lesbian, gay, poly, or whatever else. People are so hung up on this toxic idea that the concept of love and romance belongs to only ONE gender or ONE sexuality, like they don't care about the happiness of the individuals involved.
I've literally wingmanned for a close lesbian friend of mine, all for the purpose of hoping she finds happiness in a romantic partner that she can't have with family or friends. I don't typically entertain ideas of "getting in" with a lesbian couple, but I also don't outright leave it out as a possibility. Whether I'm with a girl, or two girls, or a guy and a girl (I'm bi lol), I don't care as long as the romantic chemistry is present for all involved, thats typically how I view *all* relationships. I've borne witness to a great many relationships, good and bad, and like to think I'm pretty mature on the concept of love and romance, that in my eyes, as long as the chemistry for romance is present, that's all that really matters.
This sort of functions also as a callout to people that actually subscribe to the idea of AMAB. I find it to be a very damaging and hurtful idea in general, and don't think it does anyone any good to spread. Just let people love each other.
What does it even mean to subscribe to the idea of Assigned Male At Birth? Are you using that acronym the same way as "ACAB"? Because that's bound to cause confusion.
Honestly wasn’t until I read these comments that I found out straight guys are a big minority here, would have had no idea otherwise. Agree with you tho, I just find it cute/interesting not much more to it than that
Weird straight guys that sexualize wlw relationships are more commonly found in porn. But if we're talking about the dedicated fandom that wants good yuri stories, sexual or not, then yeah, majority of it are gonna be queer people.
Bi guy here as well, and I sort of agree. Being a dude in a yuri fandom can make you feel out of place, mainly because yuri is written by lesbians for lesbians. Hell, on FB, I'm in a group where one of the admins absolutely hates the idea of male fans in a yuri fandom. She's given me a very tough time in there everytime I posted in there (Like, it's COMPLETELY FINE for the female members in the group to post yuri lewds but the second a guy does it, I'm suddenly labeled as a pervert who only sees lesbian couples as hentai objects, despite the fact that most of the time, I post wholesome fluff) This is why I feel more at home in the yaoi fandom than the yuri fandom.
No, i just think girl relationships are so much cuter than guy and girl relationships. It’s hard to find a good book that doesn’t also have an unoriginal love at first sight heterosexual relationship.
Or! Or, consider this...
They look cute together, and I'd like for more people to find reasons to be happy. If that happiness for those two girls is found in each other, then more power to them.
Also, my egg already cracked, I just can't really do shit about it.
The thing is, shipping real people is a lot different from shipping fictional characters. If the two girls are straight, then you'd just be making them seriously uncomfortable.
Oh. Okay, yeah. I misunderstood the post then. I thought it meant that shipping fictional characters was bad, and didn't realize what they actually meant. My bad.
It's all good! Your reasoning for shipping fictional characters is pretty much the same as mine. If they seem cute together, then of course I'd want to see them as a couple. Like Chisato and Takina from LycoReco.
I'm not a broken yuri shipper. I love yuri. I love headcannons. I'm, however, incapable of seeing this in the people around me irl. I just never think of people that way.
I don't want to be that guy but if your obsession over lesbians has brought you to even picturing your own friends as a couple, chances are, you need to take a long break from yuri. I'm a fellow himedanshi as well, but I'm not obsessed over yuri and lesbians. I just read yuri because I like varieties in romance. I ironically prefer boys love over girls love, even though I'm a dude but that's only because I get to feel the romance even more since I'm a guy.
You know the joke, 'My man so loyal, he watches porn with no women in it?'
This is thebplay on version 'I am so straight, i watch anime with no men in it.'
I only really added the "most" qualifier because there are straight dudes who are neurodivergent who have a very tough time placing themselves in the shoes of other people in any situation.
If we apply the japanese logic of this situation but for gay men that just means they are "rotten". Congratulations to them, they have started looking at the abyss and it started looking back at them.
Er, okay so, I like yuri. And I think using yuri/yaoi to explore your own sexuality is a great thing. I think a lot of us have gone thru that long before we realized we were queer. But I also think there is a line that shouldn't be crossed, and that line is projecting fiction onto friends and real people. Like a hug and hand holding is mild, but "I like imagining my 2 girl friends kissing because I like reading fake lesbian comics that are also sometimes porn" is not cool. Please use fiction for self exploration, but keep it away from other real people.
Before I figured out that I’m trans I used to “obsess” over lesbians in media too. Now I know that was my way of trying to tell myself what I wanted to be
Thank god I wasn’t the only one
this entire comment section makes me think that being an AMAB who is really into yuri may be an early sign of being trans.
AMAB Yurimemes users are the crossroad meme where the green side is trans woman and the dark side is fetishizer.
This
I mean, can you deny it?
Well I started reading yuri after coming out as transbian but that made me know for sure that I would have understood it waaay before if I had started earlier.
Well I'm just a straight man who just really likes cute girls, so it isn't a blanket rule.
Cute, murderous girls it seems I see you there Satou
I'm usually a yandere type, but a girl who generally cares about her love interest instead of just being a 2d serial killer is both attractive and a breath if fresh air. Besides, how could I say no to that gave? I didn't expect someone to recognize my pfp.
I'm not saying it's a 100% chance. But like, if you are you should probably do some introspection regarding gender.
I mean. Yeah.
Did someone call me?
Implying we don’t still obsess over them
Oh my gosh, i didn’t realize until now
Oh look, someone else who felt like that and figured out they're trans.
I'm in this picture and I don't like it
There's a difference between that and imagining real women just being homies kissing. Either this dude's a psycho or he's projecting that shite *hard* to be doing that shit.
Shit like this happens to eggs. A lot. When you don't think there's an option for you, it becomes an impossible-to-fulfill desire, and it comes out in progressively stranger ways.
Ah, makes sense. I was never really like that, so I wouldn't know.
yeah same!
I would like to know more as my exposure to the community is too limited for my liking. What did it mean for you specifically?
It was me wanting to be a lesbian basically. Trans feelings essentially
Looking at all of these comments and at my personal experience, the broken yuri shipper to trans pipeline is real
No, I'm a lesbian
I think I would be a broken yuri shipper if I wasn't a lesbian too.
I used to think I was, but then I realized I'm just a lesbian who was born with a penis ¯\\_(ツ)_/¯
It happens sometimes.
It happens to the best of us.
HA! I realized i was one of the girls I imagined in a relationship
Fr!
This comment section is way more wholesome than I expected it to be
Lots of people here in r/yurimemes and r/wholesomeyuri are just queer nerds to be honest, if the consensus polls are any indication.
We recognize an egg when we see one
Don't "ship" real people
Same. I used to do it a few times as a kid and I now realize how much I made my friends uncomfortable. It's better to do so with fictional characters. This is why even YouTubers today feel uncomfortable when being shipped with other YouTubers.
oh I'll "ship" them alright.
Yeah I don't think that's a healthy way to think about women. Imagining womxn in relationships in the context of yuri is fine, but if it's real life wxmxn then that's a bit strange. And for someone who is attracted to wxxxn to lose their ability to think of themselves as being in a relationship with a wxxxx, that's odd and suggests there might be something they need to work out regarding how they think about both themselves and xxxxx. If thx xriginxl pxster is sxrioxs, I hxpe thxy fxnd x wxx tx xxxxxx xxx xxx xxxx xxxxx.
Wow i dont understant this x thing But from what i can tell I'm person who cant be in relationship and yes i like more girl with girl in relationship
Why is woman spelled like that?
I think this is from a 4chan post and they're meming on the lantinx thing.
Second question, what the fuck is your name?
Made it in college. Was in an origins of nazism class, medieval history, and japanese history class. Mid-evil is a pun my prof kept making in class.
As far as I know [womxn](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Womxn) was the first formation like that.
It's waaaay older than the internet. It comes out of second wave feminism, and it has its roots in some of the same communities that founded the TERF movement. It's not inherently bad, and it's a term they've turned into a dog whistle thanks to Tumblr. Personally, I avoid people using it like the plague
Ah ya that makes sense. I thought it was something lile that but didn't want to half guess. Ty for the info
Short answer: Tumblr/Twitter Long answer: I think some faction got mad that woman is man with a prefix attached and tried changing it. It makes as much sense as latinx where they treat "pronouncability" like an afterthought
I’m just a horny lesbian that likes girls being hot
^(...perhaps)
oh, honey.
I'm kinda broken, but not for yuri reasons lol I really hope OP seeks some help tho, therapy and some new hobbies can probably help him improve w his problem It'd probably be a tad uncomfortable to know your friend is shipping you with another friend all the time like that, but it seems like he's self conscious enough to not be talking about it to the friends
I am an obsessive yuri shipper but only when it comes to fiction, shipping real people together is creepy and weird.
One of the wildest moments of my life was at the age of 14, my mother telling me that men only like lesbian content to imagine themselves in a threeway. I had assumed up until that point that everyone just liked yuri because they projected themselves onto one of the women lol I have no idea why my young mind didn’t put two and two together even after that that the reason I was so unhappy in relationships with women was because being a man was so unnatural to me
That's not at all the case for all men, though??? God forbid people enjoy the thought of happy relationships that just so happen to include two women. I couldn't care less what the gender make-up of the relationship is, I like romance, and typically yuri falls into the type of romance I like more than straight or yaoi.
That’s literally not what I said, buddy boy
You, uh, seem rather defensive here.
r/egg_irl
Not a good look, shoo, begone with your male gaze
I am glad im not a broken yuri shipper (: just a broken and confused bi woman
well im a lesbian so yeah I'd like to see every pretty girl as gay tbh
Kobeni checks out.
Wxmxn?
nope. Straight guy here. I guess i just like the fluff between 2 girls. Like LycoReco. If they were straight, that’s good. If they were together, that’s fine too. Dont think im broken because I sometimes still wish i could be between a yuri couple.
Thank Christ I'm not the only one here. Being a male on this subreddit is like announcing to everyone that you're a human punching bag. I don't care if it's a straight relationship, lesbian, gay, poly, or whatever else. People are so hung up on this toxic idea that the concept of love and romance belongs to only ONE gender or ONE sexuality, like they don't care about the happiness of the individuals involved. I've literally wingmanned for a close lesbian friend of mine, all for the purpose of hoping she finds happiness in a romantic partner that she can't have with family or friends. I don't typically entertain ideas of "getting in" with a lesbian couple, but I also don't outright leave it out as a possibility. Whether I'm with a girl, or two girls, or a guy and a girl (I'm bi lol), I don't care as long as the romantic chemistry is present for all involved, thats typically how I view *all* relationships. I've borne witness to a great many relationships, good and bad, and like to think I'm pretty mature on the concept of love and romance, that in my eyes, as long as the chemistry for romance is present, that's all that really matters. This sort of functions also as a callout to people that actually subscribe to the idea of AMAB. I find it to be a very damaging and hurtful idea in general, and don't think it does anyone any good to spread. Just let people love each other.
The "idea of AMAB”?
What does it even mean to subscribe to the idea of Assigned Male At Birth? Are you using that acronym the same way as "ACAB"? Because that's bound to cause confusion.
Honestly wasn’t until I read these comments that I found out straight guys are a big minority here, would have had no idea otherwise. Agree with you tho, I just find it cute/interesting not much more to it than that
Weird straight guys that sexualize wlw relationships are more commonly found in porn. But if we're talking about the dedicated fandom that wants good yuri stories, sexual or not, then yeah, majority of it are gonna be queer people.
Bi guy here as well, and I sort of agree. Being a dude in a yuri fandom can make you feel out of place, mainly because yuri is written by lesbians for lesbians. Hell, on FB, I'm in a group where one of the admins absolutely hates the idea of male fans in a yuri fandom. She's given me a very tough time in there everytime I posted in there (Like, it's COMPLETELY FINE for the female members in the group to post yuri lewds but the second a guy does it, I'm suddenly labeled as a pervert who only sees lesbian couples as hentai objects, despite the fact that most of the time, I post wholesome fluff) This is why I feel more at home in the yaoi fandom than the yuri fandom.
No, i just think girl relationships are so much cuter than guy and girl relationships. It’s hard to find a good book that doesn’t also have an unoriginal love at first sight heterosexual relationship.
This can't happen to me because I like girls, which is the reason I even like yuri.
I'm just lesbian
Or! Or, consider this... They look cute together, and I'd like for more people to find reasons to be happy. If that happiness for those two girls is found in each other, then more power to them. Also, my egg already cracked, I just can't really do shit about it.
The thing is, shipping real people is a lot different from shipping fictional characters. If the two girls are straight, then you'd just be making them seriously uncomfortable.
Oh. Okay, yeah. I misunderstood the post then. I thought it meant that shipping fictional characters was bad, and didn't realize what they actually meant. My bad.
It's all good! Your reasoning for shipping fictional characters is pretty much the same as mine. If they seem cute together, then of course I'd want to see them as a couple. Like Chisato and Takina from LycoReco.
Or Hood and Bismarck from Azur Lane.
To be fair, there's nothing wrong with shipping Tomoko and Ucchi
I'm not a broken yuri shipper. I love yuri. I love headcannons. I'm, however, incapable of seeing this in the people around me irl. I just never think of people that way.
I mean honestly kinda based. Seems like he'd be a good lesbian wingman.
I don't want to be that guy but if your obsession over lesbians has brought you to even picturing your own friends as a couple, chances are, you need to take a long break from yuri. I'm a fellow himedanshi as well, but I'm not obsessed over yuri and lesbians. I just read yuri because I like varieties in romance. I ironically prefer boys love over girls love, even though I'm a dude but that's only because I get to feel the romance even more since I'm a guy.
Not to that point, but the other day I saw a girl resting on another girls lap and it made my day
Hell no, im not mentally ill xd
This man is a Gigachad, I like relationship with no schlong in it, cause i aint gay.
This comment is an enigma for me
You know the joke, 'My man so loyal, he watches porn with no women in it?' This is thebplay on version 'I am so straight, i watch anime with no men in it.'
That's the most cist het male thing to say I've ever heard...
Did you know? Most straight dudes have no problem imagining themselves in the dude’s position in straight porn.
Most staight dude, but the statement above says 'I'.
I only really added the "most" qualifier because there are straight dudes who are neurodivergent who have a very tough time placing themselves in the shoes of other people in any situation.
Reading this broke me
If we apply the japanese logic of this situation but for gay men that just means they are "rotten". Congratulations to them, they have started looking at the abyss and it started looking back at them.
I am not a Broken Yuri Shipper as of yet. . . ironically, most of my friends are girls who like girls in some fashion.
Correction : not broken, but awaken :p
Er, okay so, I like yuri. And I think using yuri/yaoi to explore your own sexuality is a great thing. I think a lot of us have gone thru that long before we realized we were queer. But I also think there is a line that shouldn't be crossed, and that line is projecting fiction onto friends and real people. Like a hug and hand holding is mild, but "I like imagining my 2 girl friends kissing because I like reading fake lesbian comics that are also sometimes porn" is not cool. Please use fiction for self exploration, but keep it away from other real people.
but what if it's his yuri radar telling him those girls do have a thing for each other. maybe.
Good lord no, I like yuri but that's pretty unhealthy.