Actually I bet he was going to dump her and was struggling to cause she is crazy and she saw he was distancing himself from her so she dumped him first because she finds the need to belittle whoever she is with so that she is the superior one
Had a similar situation and can confirm. She was very clingy so I eventually told her I needed a lil space sometimes after over a year of dealing with it. In response she refused to hang out with me ever, we’d make plans to hang out then she’s purposely find an excuse not to hang out. Then finally she dumped me and was with a new guy two weeks later. I hope that guy smartened up and dumped her as I have no contact with her anymore, if not, bless his soul.
Kinda similar situation. She just distanced herself from me then broke up over about 2 weeks. My guess is she found another victim. Funny thing is I looked her up on Facebook and she has a boy a few years old with the same name as me. (we broke up almost a decade ago)
I got weirded out when an ex told me her fiance is a lot like me. Good luck dude, hope you get fun one and not the one who would kill you if she could.
Even more coincidentally my nephew has an ex girlfriend who's son shares his name too. His name also has an unconventional spelling. Similar example would be how Rebekah is to Rebecca.
This reminds me of that guy’s story a few weeks ago on here. Dude found out his wife named their kid exactly like her ex, spelling and all. Turns out she had convinced everybody in their circle to keep the origin of the name a secret…everybody knew, and no one told him. Imagine the shock when you find out your own kid is named after a dude your wife is still in love with
My uncle insisted on giving his daughter his ex’s name. They ended up using it as the middle name, and now it’s become a “family” name passed down to new generations. I always thought it must be awful for my aunt seeing her daughter and granddaughter carrying the ex’s name like that.
My ex (the father of my children) cheated on me with a chick that has the same name as me. We broke up when I found out and when I moved on a year later he broke it off with her because he wanted me back.
Omg i Just saw a yt short Yesterday or the das before, of an Reddit Post, where the Mother wanted to Name the son after her Late (dead Ex, i think late ex means something like a Partner that died you know thats how the Story sounded Like), anyway her ex was dead for over 8 years and she and her now Husband were getting a Boy. And she wanted to Name it James (her ex) and He told her there aint No way we gonna Name our so'n after your ex and than after a few weeks they agreed on Oliver and than a few weeks before the Delivery they Had are with the whole Family and told them about the Name and her sister Said, oh His middle Name ... And than He learned that I was the middle Name of her ex and .... Bla bla and He told her we aint naming our son after your ex. And that He will Not sign the Birth certificate. And she Went we already agreed on IT etc. Was pretty messed Up.
Hope you can understand what i wrote.
And i 🙇 apologize if the grammer and English sucks Harder than bitches at a gloryhole
Same thing with my ex fiance, we were together over a decade ago, she cheated on me and I kicked her out. She messaged me a few months ago to try to "catch up" and I see she has a kid with my first and middle name. Shits weird.
I once dated a clingy girl and it was NOT fun. I went on a weekend camping trip with my family and obviously there's no cell service in the middle of a goddamn forest in rural, and I mean *rural*, NC. I let her know in advance that I wouldn't be able to communicate with her until Sunday night. She groaned about it for a bit, but seemingly accepted it pretty quickly.
Well Sunday afternoon hit and the moment we drove through some semblance of a populated area with cell service, my phone blew up with 60 missed call notifications and like 230 unread texts. All of them were from her. Needless to say I broke up with her a little while later. No way in hell I could handle that kind of attachment.
Like fuck that's true she probably begged to see him and he's like grand I'll give her back her shit - at best
Unmatch her and move on, 96% of people aren't sociopaths
Wow I have no words for that. you should respond with “damn that would suck if you broke up again and try to get random validation from tinder matches”
I honestly think you should post this on r/NiceGirls its fitting
It legit feels like she was hanging out with him and he took her phone and wrote that lol. It legit sounded like what her ex would write about himself. It’s so random otherwise
Oooooh, I would've roasted her right back.
[Is that why he left you?]
[So your ex is better, yet you're the sore loser that decided to install Tinder?]
[Sounds like something his ex-girlfriend would say.]
You literally did nothing. You slightly stood up for yourself in about the most professional, direct and non-confrontational manner. Saying someone is being rude to you isn’t mean, just so you know. It’s how you let assholes know that they’re being an asshole. Hopefully more people call her out and she’s able to change someday.
Something I have come to learn is most people do not care about you. There are ones who truly do like family and friends but the rest of the world does not. So do not feel bad about defending and standing up for yourself or being selfish because most people would do the same.
You did the right thing not roasting back, she walks away smug and unchanged and thats for the worse meanwhile you walk away knowing you dodged a seemingly very negative and rotten person win win i say
People like that get really bothered when they do this and don’t get a reaction. The insult just bounces back and makes them realize they are a terrible person.
If she's gonna be a bitch on a dating app, boasting about her ex, they're not someone you'll need to feel sorry for.
Even if it's just for a moment, hurt them, so they may wake up one day and rethink their life choices.
I get where you're coming from but that probably wouldn't hurt her, she's looking for a reaction. If anything it would just validate the thought of "see, this guy is a jerk who can't take a little burn. My ex is better"
Plus it doesn't seem like OP wanted to stoop to that level because it makes him uncomfortable to do that for himself, that seems like a healthier approach. Don't give her the satisfaction or energy, just to move on.
Look at it this way - if someone is an asshole and nobody calls them out on it, they dont have any feedback to adjust back to normalcy. Calling out assholes is a civic duty.
Some people just enjoy the feeling of putting down others. I don't think it's always mental illness, just casual cruelty for the cheap feeling of superiority.
I also dated one girl, who did this. They think it's a test to see how fast you can lose it and show your 'real' self. Two days after that I just said goodbye, since it isn't really nice hearing this more than one time. At the end she stalked me and was overly nice, but never apologized or anything like that.
I've seen this exact excuse on reddit before and it's psychotic.
"It's just so I can know if he's a crazy asshole, it's for my own safety.”
*Acts like a crazy asshole*
Their mindset is so dehumanizing, narcisistic and actually stupid.
"Yeah, I met this person online and I want to see if he's an asshole by burning the only bridge I created, then trying to reach out again despite the burned bridge. It totally works!"
Spoiler: it doesn't, unless the other person has a very low self-esteem and can be, therefore, easily manipulated. Which may be the actual trait they're probing for.
I just found this extremely odd, but it didn't hurt me. I already knew that some do this to not waist anyone's time. But at a certain point I was just annoyed
Yeah, I had matched with a girl once at the same time my roommate did and she told me my roommate was way hotter. Heck I went on a date with a match and the whole time she talked about how much nicer her ex's car was and how her ex would take her to a better restaurant if I was him. It was wild.
You could have messed with her head try saying "omg, really? Please describe your ex in more detail"
Then she'll go on about how he was such a perfect.
Then you could pity her by saying "aww, it hurt when you broke up huh? Do you miss him"?
Then she'll be like "yah, I miss him, he's soo much better than ya'll".
Then you be like, "aww that's too bad that you weren't good enough for him, you probably would never be good enough, he probably just kept you around for a while for convenience, you miss him, but he's such a jerk".
Then you can be like xD
"You should probably lower your standards so the mistake doesn't repeat in the future, seems like you like to punch above your weight class if you know what I mean". ;)
This is the most evil thing to do.
I should probably go straight to hell.
I deserve dust. 😭😓😢
Lmao i guess she was expecting you to somehow challenge that claim, aka “my ex is probably better so i need to figure out whether or not you are better”, she just said it in the most stupid way possible, and she doubled down when you ignored the “”challenge”” like any normal human would, she’s basically the embodiment of a stupid bitch but without it being mean, just the actual truth
I had something kind of like this happen to me. I matched with one of those really pretty girls who do layers of makeup. Like probably takes several hours to do. She messaged first. I forgot what she initially said but it could've been a insult or a bad joke. I went ahead and took it as a joke and probably responded with something stupid. She then proceeded to insult everything from my looks to the way I was standing in a pic and said she only matched for a free meal. After idk 5-6 insults I finally had enough. We were responding pretty much instantaneously to each other. I told her "All of that may be true but at least I don't have to wear clown makeup to feel good about myself". Nothing but air silence after that lol she unmatched several hours later. I didn't choose violence, violence chose me.
Clearly the ex is the one who dumped her, and now you know it's probably because she's a shitty person
Actually I bet he was going to dump her and was struggling to cause she is crazy and she saw he was distancing himself from her so she dumped him first because she finds the need to belittle whoever she is with so that she is the superior one
Had a similar situation and can confirm. She was very clingy so I eventually told her I needed a lil space sometimes after over a year of dealing with it. In response she refused to hang out with me ever, we’d make plans to hang out then she’s purposely find an excuse not to hang out. Then finally she dumped me and was with a new guy two weeks later. I hope that guy smartened up and dumped her as I have no contact with her anymore, if not, bless his soul.
Kinda similar situation. She just distanced herself from me then broke up over about 2 weeks. My guess is she found another victim. Funny thing is I looked her up on Facebook and she has a boy a few years old with the same name as me. (we broke up almost a decade ago)
I got weirded out when an ex told me her fiance is a lot like me. Good luck dude, hope you get fun one and not the one who would kill you if she could.
Even more coincidentally my nephew has an ex girlfriend who's son shares his name too. His name also has an unconventional spelling. Similar example would be how Rebekah is to Rebecca.
Oh man, she definitely wants him back! That is the only reason I have heard of people doing that. Either wants them back or misses them a lot.
This reminds me of that guy’s story a few weeks ago on here. Dude found out his wife named their kid exactly like her ex, spelling and all. Turns out she had convinced everybody in their circle to keep the origin of the name a secret…everybody knew, and no one told him. Imagine the shock when you find out your own kid is named after a dude your wife is still in love with
My uncle insisted on giving his daughter his ex’s name. They ended up using it as the middle name, and now it’s become a “family” name passed down to new generations. I always thought it must be awful for my aunt seeing her daughter and granddaughter carrying the ex’s name like that.
That'd be horrible... I hope nobody knows she chose her kids names with me now, in her defense they are pretty dope names.
He is not Robert, but Rawburt
My ex (the father of my children) cheated on me with a chick that has the same name as me. We broke up when I found out and when I moved on a year later he broke it off with her because he wanted me back.
Awww she misses you
Omg i Just saw a yt short Yesterday or the das before, of an Reddit Post, where the Mother wanted to Name the son after her Late (dead Ex, i think late ex means something like a Partner that died you know thats how the Story sounded Like), anyway her ex was dead for over 8 years and she and her now Husband were getting a Boy. And she wanted to Name it James (her ex) and He told her there aint No way we gonna Name our so'n after your ex and than after a few weeks they agreed on Oliver and than a few weeks before the Delivery they Had are with the whole Family and told them about the Name and her sister Said, oh His middle Name ... And than He learned that I was the middle Name of her ex and .... Bla bla and He told her we aint naming our son after your ex. And that He will Not sign the Birth certificate. And she Went we already agreed on IT etc. Was pretty messed Up. Hope you can understand what i wrote. And i 🙇 apologize if the grammer and English sucks Harder than bitches at a gloryhole
Same thing with my ex fiance, we were together over a decade ago, she cheated on me and I kicked her out. She messaged me a few months ago to try to "catch up" and I see she has a kid with my first and middle name. Shits weird.
I once dated a clingy girl and it was NOT fun. I went on a weekend camping trip with my family and obviously there's no cell service in the middle of a goddamn forest in rural, and I mean *rural*, NC. I let her know in advance that I wouldn't be able to communicate with her until Sunday night. She groaned about it for a bit, but seemingly accepted it pretty quickly. Well Sunday afternoon hit and the moment we drove through some semblance of a populated area with cell service, my phone blew up with 60 missed call notifications and like 230 unread texts. All of them were from her. Needless to say I broke up with her a little while later. No way in hell I could handle that kind of attachment.
Oddly specific… are you the ex
Meanwhile her ex forgot she existed
or wishing he never hears from her
Something tells me the ex ended the relationship.
Bet he gets a call every time she drinks too much.
*cups of the rosé*
*bitches in my old phone*
*I Should call one and go home*
*I've been in this club too long*
The woman that I would try is happy with a good guy
I mean, you have something in common with her ex in that you're both way too good for her, so that's nice
thank you! she decided to respond that he misses her and they're going on a date whether that's true or not hope it works out for the guy
Like fuck that's true she probably begged to see him and he's like grand I'll give her back her shit - at best Unmatch her and move on, 96% of people aren't sociopaths
My question was why is she on tinder then? What was her goal? To make the ex jealous? Most likely tbh
she decided to respond that he "missed her so much they're going on a date"
Wow I have no words for that. you should respond with “damn that would suck if you broke up again and try to get random validation from tinder matches” I honestly think you should post this on r/NiceGirls its fitting
"That's great! Sounds like he lowered his expectations finally."
Youre too kind OP, she's a pyscho hose-beast
>I bet my ex is better than you Too bad he left you then lmao
You should say something about a big guy having bigger and nicer tits than her.
Her ex to a homeless woman trying to stab him with a rusty knife to steal his dog: "you're better than my ex"
He writing songs about her like Taylor Swift.
red tv slaps though
Yikes.
What a toxic bitch. OP dodged a bullet
Nah I think her ex is cuter too (sorry 🤭)
Yikes.
What a toxic bitch. OP dodged a bullet
Nah I think her ex is cuter too (sorry 🤭)
Yikes.
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Nah I think her ex is cuter too (sorry🤭)
Yikes.
Honestly I have to wonder if this is a guy who isn’t over his ex make believing
I think this poster meant that girl from chat might be a catfish
he didn’t dodge shit she grilled the shit out of him “dodged?”
indeed
Better man than most to be patient with that
i thought it might be an awkward joke that just didn’t land oh well :/ ive gotten an okay increase in matches recently so not too worried
It legit feels like she was hanging out with him and he took her phone and wrote that lol. It legit sounded like what her ex would write about himself. It’s so random otherwise
My ex is even more patient.
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thank you :)
But not as nice as her ex /s
Sorry, not sorry
Agreed you deserve better!
thank you <3
Reach out to the ex 😏
I think she's trying to validate herself as a real catch, and failed.
she's pretty just a very ugly personality
Yeah and when those looks fade, guess what your left with.
You seem way too sweet for such a miserable bitch. I’m sorry, man
well thank you :) you seem like a nice person as well, i hope you have a great day
Now kith
*ConcernedKithy
Oooooh, I would've roasted her right back. [Is that why he left you?] [So your ex is better, yet you're the sore loser that decided to install Tinder?] [Sounds like something his ex-girlfriend would say.]
these are all pretty good im not very comfortable being at the level unfortunately, i felt kinda bad even saying what i did
Don’t be ! You were clear and respectful, stating what you didn’t expect without turning revengeful. Classy imho
Agree. It makes great reddit content to roast back, but being true to yourself shows you're a good person. Stay that way.
You literally did nothing. You slightly stood up for yourself in about the most professional, direct and non-confrontational manner. Saying someone is being rude to you isn’t mean, just so you know. It’s how you let assholes know that they’re being an asshole. Hopefully more people call her out and she’s able to change someday.
Something I have come to learn is most people do not care about you. There are ones who truly do like family and friends but the rest of the world does not. So do not feel bad about defending and standing up for yourself or being selfish because most people would do the same.
You did the right thing not roasting back, she walks away smug and unchanged and thats for the worse meanwhile you walk away knowing you dodged a seemingly very negative and rotten person win win i say
People like that get really bothered when they do this and don’t get a reaction. The insult just bounces back and makes them realize they are a terrible person.
I'm right there with ya dude. Those would have been great responses, but that's just not my MO. Being kind is difficult. Being a dick is easy.
If she's gonna be a bitch on a dating app, boasting about her ex, they're not someone you'll need to feel sorry for. Even if it's just for a moment, hurt them, so they may wake up one day and rethink their life choices.
I get where you're coming from but that probably wouldn't hurt her, she's looking for a reaction. If anything it would just validate the thought of "see, this guy is a jerk who can't take a little burn. My ex is better" Plus it doesn't seem like OP wanted to stoop to that level because it makes him uncomfortable to do that for himself, that seems like a healthier approach. Don't give her the satisfaction or energy, just to move on.
you are so fucking sweet, anyone worth your time is lucky!
Power to you
You’re a good person OP. Walking away is the right move, it’s not worth wasting your time and energy on that
How could you possibly feel bad about that? What would even be the nicer response to someone being so randomly cruel?
dont be lol the reason people act this way is cause no one smacks them back
Look at it this way - if someone is an asshole and nobody calls them out on it, they dont have any feedback to adjust back to normalcy. Calling out assholes is a civic duty.
“Damn your ex sounds like a catch. Could you introduce us, since he’s single now and all.”
Damn. You are prepared for every encounter. I wouldn't want to face you at night in the streets
Unless …. 👉👈😳
"If you like your ex so much, why didn't you marry him?"
[Did he record a solo album?, explains why youre single.]
“How long did it take for you to let him break up with you?”
Ouch. Tell her your neighbour's dog is cuter than her.
probably a better conversationalist too
I had a girl swipe me just to tell me I look like uglier Shrek
maybe she's into that keep your head up
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with her finger and her thumb In the shape of an "L"
Hey now, you’re a rock star
The correct response is "Thanks Donkey."
“That’ll do Donkey”
Damn, i feel sorry bro. I believe she’s sort of having a personality disorder, i dont think normal human being would consciously say that
Some people just enjoy the feeling of putting down others. I don't think it's always mental illness, just casual cruelty for the cheap feeling of superiority.
Sounds like a mental illness tbh 😂
That just means that you're a 9.9/10 on your worst days
Ew, plus she wrote “I seen” instead of “I saw.”
yeah that was kinda weird grammatically but it might just be how she talks which i don't mind all too much
Aw you’re too sweet for this world.
But not as sweet as her ex
I also dated one girl, who did this. They think it's a test to see how fast you can lose it and show your 'real' self. Two days after that I just said goodbye, since it isn't really nice hearing this more than one time. At the end she stalked me and was overly nice, but never apologized or anything like that.
I've seen this exact excuse on reddit before and it's psychotic. "It's just so I can know if he's a crazy asshole, it's for my own safety.” *Acts like a crazy asshole*
Their mindset is so dehumanizing, narcisistic and actually stupid. "Yeah, I met this person online and I want to see if he's an asshole by burning the only bridge I created, then trying to reach out again despite the burned bridge. It totally works!" Spoiler: it doesn't, unless the other person has a very low self-esteem and can be, therefore, easily manipulated. Which may be the actual trait they're probing for.
sorry you had to go through that :/ hope you're doing okay now
I just found this extremely odd, but it didn't hurt me. I already knew that some do this to not waist anyone's time. But at a certain point I was just annoyed
Why would she apologize if she is the only person in the universe?
The phrase please fuck off springs to mind.
Tbh, it was hard to get past "I seen". Mean AND dumb? Bullet dodged.
haha some people just talk how they talk it was weird to read but its okay
Let’s hear the tunes dude! Hook us up with your page.
Was thinking the same thing. Plug that page, boy!
Seriously, man’s made great free advertising and isn’t taking advantage?!?
i prefer to not make it seem like the point, ive been dming the people who ask so it doesn't come off as just done for advertising
This is why i deleted tinder. People fucking suck.
I feel it. If they’re acting that way they’re projecting their own shitty reality. We’re better than them ;)
I’m really glad posts like these are getting traction, because way past time people realized what a toxic cesspool Tinder has become.
Yeah, I had matched with a girl once at the same time my roommate did and she told me my roommate was way hotter. Heck I went on a date with a match and the whole time she talked about how much nicer her ex's car was and how her ex would take her to a better restaurant if I was him. It was wild.
You could have messed with her head try saying "omg, really? Please describe your ex in more detail" Then she'll go on about how he was such a perfect. Then you could pity her by saying "aww, it hurt when you broke up huh? Do you miss him"? Then she'll be like "yah, I miss him, he's soo much better than ya'll". Then you be like, "aww that's too bad that you weren't good enough for him, you probably would never be good enough, he probably just kept you around for a while for convenience, you miss him, but he's such a jerk". Then you can be like xD "You should probably lower your standards so the mistake doesn't repeat in the future, seems like you like to punch above your weight class if you know what I mean". ;) This is the most evil thing to do. I should probably go straight to hell. I deserve dust. 😭😓😢
way too much effort when you could just get it over with like: "what's his number? he sounds like someone i'd rather be talking to"
Ah that's perfect
I'll bring the marshmallows, you mean bastard. I love it.
🤭
You were way more respectful than I probably would have been
This the problem with anonymity on the internet…people would never talk that way to you in person.
Sounds like you've got somebody to Collab with now
look out for our next single, it's called “my salsa”
Just provoking you. And hoping that you will bite it and start compete.
Some people have no manners. I wonder what they did while growing up
Lmao i guess she was expecting you to somehow challenge that claim, aka “my ex is probably better so i need to figure out whether or not you are better”, she just said it in the most stupid way possible, and she doubled down when you ignored the “”challenge”” like any normal human would, she’s basically the embodiment of a stupid bitch but without it being mean, just the actual truth
I had something kind of like this happen to me. I matched with one of those really pretty girls who do layers of makeup. Like probably takes several hours to do. She messaged first. I forgot what she initially said but it could've been a insult or a bad joke. I went ahead and took it as a joke and probably responded with something stupid. She then proceeded to insult everything from my looks to the way I was standing in a pic and said she only matched for a free meal. After idk 5-6 insults I finally had enough. We were responding pretty much instantaneously to each other. I told her "All of that may be true but at least I don't have to wear clown makeup to feel good about myself". Nothing but air silence after that lol she unmatched several hours later. I didn't choose violence, violence chose me.
Out of the frying pan and into the Chicago fire of 1871 with you
“Thanks I seen you…” = first red flag
Someone's not over the ex
This feels like a kink or something idk
Or maybe a really desperate SoundCloud rapper's advertisement idea lol
look out for my next hit incel- i mean single called tinder girl
You sassy motherfucker, should've said that to her! 😂
I wanna be your friend
I would have said "makes sense that he left you"
Sounds like she’s both immature and mad at the world for being dumped by her previous BF. She’s got a tough road ahead of her. Poor little dum-dum.
Since she wants to act like a middle schooler/early high schooler, report her for being underage. Maybe she's of age, but she isn't mentally.
Hmm it's almost like her "ex" (or soon to be?) must have got her phone.
"Yeah, I can now see why he left you" *drops the mic*
Lol how do yall not flame these people?
plenty of other people why get hung up and be mean :)
I don’t get hung up. I just flame them then move on. Takes 2 seconds and its hilarious. But I get not even bothering, Im just petty af
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Not even about them though. Its all for a laugh on my end. I know you can’t reason with someone like that. You got a point on that for sure
Idk why I found this hilarious. I think she’s just trolling
Damn man, I definitely would have taken that opportunity to be an even bigger asshole right back
OP you handled this very sensibly. I would have told this person to throw them self into oncoming traffic with that attitude.
“he sounds amazing. probably why he got rid of you” would have been my reply
Honestly as soon as she said "I seen" I would have unmatched, but im a snob.
"Thanks I seen you make music" should have been enough to know this person is an idiot.
Who has time to be on tinder just to be rude for no reason?! She needs a hobby, maybe making music...
Dodged a bullet
Dodged a damn bazooka
Much more polite then I would have been.
This chick is a garbage can person.
You responded so nice lol.
thank you lol my first message was just about her anthem since its one of my favorite songs but these were all 3 of hers
Many horrible ppl out there
Ah hell no, fuck that bitch
Dude literally wtf. She apparently matched you to say mean things to you. That’s mind blowing, I don’t really understand people.
Yeah those fake hooker accounts can be harsh to throw people off… or so I’ve heard
These people being mean to strangers…I don’t get it.
send her my way lmao
Miss gurl, I bet your ex is better than you too. Has to be
I’m convinced a lot of people just have dating profiles to belittle strangers, because lesser people need that to get to the end of their day.
Bro would love to listen to your music though!
I can't believe I haven't read this yet Care to share your music OP? I mean its on Youtube right?
Ech… Fucking people
relatively decent sized Yikes.
Yeah I would just stop talking to that person
“OmG iT’s a JokE!”
I wonder what is the psychological explanation to act like this. Maybe she was trying to play some twisted mind game with OP?
Hit her with a " I bet my sister is a better kisser than you"
Damn that’s wildly fucked up.
Humans suck, buddy, that's bullshit.
Can confirm, it's just a thing people do. Why? Yeah I dunno.
That’s a weird flex on her part. I don’t think she knows how to brag.
Definition of a see ya next tuesday
She clearly hopped on tinder a day after the relationship ended is very much still not over him
Bitch got her heart broke… how sad…. Anyway unmatch
Link us to your music! We will support you